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#HeAin'tTheOne2021Valentcat/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:20 AM
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The Betty Broderick story truly scarred me for life. Not that what she did was right, but he (and his mistress) really pushed her to the very edge. The idea of this happening also terrifies me. Just try to make good family lawyer friends prior to marriage. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:00 PM
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Right, that was the only part I agreed with. You shouldn’t enter a relationship with someone who overtly has these bad habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:40 PM
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And the fact that it is the ONLY special thing she uses. He hates that she has any routine at all. Sorry we don’t roll out of bed looking perfect like some men think they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:35 PM
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Yes - absolutely this. It’s one of the ways I worry that we are regressing. Before he passed, my 87-year-old conservative grandfather’s favorite authors were Willa Cather and Harper Lee. He read the Millennium series (Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) much faster than I did, enjoyed it, and made no mention whatsoever of the lesbian sex scenes. It’s a depressing cultural norm, but a mark of willful ignorance when a man has not engaged with and enjoyed the works of female creators/works with female lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:11 AM
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Also, the thought that his lil peen is “desecrating” someone’s memory? So dark, so edgy. Like yeah, his mind is sick as fuck, but he thinks he’s really doing something here. Only thing he’s dEsEcRaTiNg is his hand, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:07 AM
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Hairless cats. I’m dying. But right, I don’t even think I notice teen boys. I’m literally only 27 and I look at Timothée Chalamet like he’s a kid. He’s cute, of course, but almost too boyish for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:36 PM
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This is so gross. I never grew up with a father, but my grandfather was a wonderful father figure. I cannot even imagine him saying things like this to me. Of course he told me I looked pretty if I dressed up, but saying “you look beautiful” is very different than “you have a beautiful body.” ICK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:32 PM
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Exaaaactly. I’m not super relieved, because this happens all the time. There was a video recently of a man who straight up punched a woman on the subway for telling him he needed to take a chill pill. But for people to give misogynists ammo to deny the factual lived experiences of women makes me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:12 PM
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I actually think this is staged for insurance or views, because she previously had another video with the same guy in it, sitting in her car, and she deleted it when someone pointed it out. That does not change the fact that this happens often, and most (if not all) women have a firsthand experience similar to this. If it is staged, this pisses me off so much. If not, hope this guy has been arrested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:17 PM
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I haven’t watched it, but I’m intrigued! Would people here recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:33 PM
122

He truly, truly is not worth it. Please do not allow him to slip back into your life! Anyone who would say such a thing, even to someone they hate (much less love), is absolutely pathetic. He’s trying to destroy the self-esteem you have. I’m so sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 02:31 AM
15

Lol yeah, when he doesn’t even ask if you came for 2 years straight. And I mean, if you have to ask...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:11 PM
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Bc his mom probably still dresses him lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:58 PM
229

Yes, absolutely. A 5’6, 120lb woman would be like a size 00. I’m 5’3, 110-15lbs and usually wear a 0 regardless. He has no concept of sizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:00 PM
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YES I saw this all the time on dating apps. If your “about me” section is only what you want or don’t want in someone else, I’m swiping left. It’s such a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:58 PM
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It’s pointless, but damn is it hard to break. I have such problems with comparison now. Literally anything is game. Her niche interests are so much more interesting than mine. I bet she’s smarter than I am. Her boobs are bigger. She seems so much cooler than I do. She’s more of a free spirit. It doesn’t matter that most men will go for anything that moves (which is generous).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:51 PM
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Yes, I agree. I wouldn’t have anything to do with any “mutual friends.” A friend to all is a friend to none. And anyone who would turn a blind eye to this gross display is not a person I’d want as a friend. Yes, she was naive to be 35, but this breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:47 PM
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Obviously, because if it got this far, she would have been in extreme pain. Unless drugged. So disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:48 PM
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Also women with low self-esteem who need the ego boost of being “picked” by multiple men (who would, frankly, pick anything that walks).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:45 PM
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Honestly, so many polyamorists/anti-monogamists do this. They act like the state of nature is to be non-monogamous. I’m so tired of not holding people (particularly men) to any standards. Men are capable of saying no and of loving one woman/person at a time. It’s just that many don’t want to and get an ego boost from outside attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:43 PM
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To me it seemed less like laughing at her, more like smiling out of awkwardness because they knew what was going on. The one guy is scratching his arm like he doesn’t know what to do. Girl in black shirt handed his phone back to him through the little opening he created by bending forward. This is SO sketch, and that girl wouldn’t have been so subtle if she didn’t know. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:28 PM
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Also, he put HER on the billboard. That’d be so humiliating to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:58 PM
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I never understood the appeal of Harry Styles, but honestly, I do now. I like his humor, and he handled this kindly, even though I think he knew exactly what was up (just like we do).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:21 PM
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I agree with this sentiment, but I’m wondering how to counter arguments that compensation for sex work is no different from compensation for other work (including hard labor), where one uses their body in other ways for money? Is the primary difference the sexual consent aspect? Do we feel that the exchange of all labor for capital is exploitation? I totally understand people will have different opinions on this, but I’m interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:27 PM
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Nope, sorry, I was informed by my male psychology teacher in high school that PMS is psychosomatic and not really a thing. (This is true but I’m being sarcastic, obviously.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:45 AM
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Yes, this! There is no way to make him stay if he wants to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:21 AM
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Right, this is the saddest thing. I love showing my love to others. I enjoy cooking and picking out thoughtful gifts for people. But it sucks to be the only one in a relationship who does those things. Just to be completely taken for granted. I’ve only had one relationship in which the guy was very demonstrative in these ways, and it didn’t work out for other reasons. And you don’t want to tell people you need care and consideration, because it should be a given. You shouldn’t have to tell someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:12 AM
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That’s how I took it as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:53 AM
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I feel so sorry for her. She was young and had (HAS) low self-esteem. She now has a toddler with him. It would be very difficult to throw the relationship away after that! She loves him (for unknown reasons).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:13 AM
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Looking through this account breaks my heart!! He didn’t get her a 5th anniversary present, she has his child and he refuses to pay for a simple luxury for her (one video, she asks him to cover a single mani/pedi and he refuses), apparently he flirts with waitresses, etc. This stuff repeated? Not a joke! When you love someone, you want to do nice things for them. And so tired of hearing about “love languages.” He didn’t get me an anniversary present because it’s not his “love language.” No, baby…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:10 AM
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Yup. I’ve never dated a guy over 5’10”, but almost all the guys I’ve dated have brought height up at some point to whine about it. Just shut the fuck up. Your ego is big enough without an extra 3 or 4 inches. I can’t even fathom the narcissism if they were 6’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:14 AM
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And people are still cheering this proposal. The bar is now in the tenth circle of hell, newly created to accommodate the ever-expanding audacity of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:41 PM
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Yes, fuck women who fuck over other women. If you know he’s taken and he seems interested, you should drop him. At the very least ensure he has dumped the person first. My ex cheated on me with a woman who was totally willing to just hide it from me. We were long distance at the time. Once he told me and we broke up, they got together. She updated her Facebook profile to a picture of them as a couple. I’m sure she knew I would see it. What do people like this get out of it?? An ego boost to dest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:14 PM
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And moreover, tossing the few “benefits” women (rarely) have. For example - women are supposed to go 50/50 on all dates, then be equal breadwinners (or have full time jobs), and still bear the brunt of the childcare and domestic work. So many male feminists seem to be psyched to doff the few responsibilities they had traditionally in a family unit (they loveee to be “nOnMoNoGaMoUs” and scream inequality at paying for a $15 meal), but few, if any, are willing to examine the misogynistic foundatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:57 AM
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I wish other women would realize that in going for men who are openly cheating on their wives and girlfriends, they are rewarding this behavior and setting themselves up for the SAME rude awakening. They think they’re winning something by getting the guy who’s already taken, but he’s just demonstrating his lack of respect for women in general. He’ll do the exact same to them and to as many women who will allow it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:02 PM
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I am dying. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:55 PM
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Oh my god, “how can she get him to understand?” Don’t. It’s that simple. Dump him. I paid half of everything for two years with my ex and he made easily 3x more than I did. The fucking entitlement this guy must have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:54 PM
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Haha I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:07 PM
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Most of my exes never even noticed. I had one who paid attention to my lingerie and complimented me for it. But what a waste otherwise to wear something expensive and uncomfortable if no one even appreciates it? And definitely not for someone who would neg my daily (clean and un-ripped) undies in his Fruit of the Loom with holes in it?? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:05 AM
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Right - while watching a tv show where a female character was lounging around in sexy lace by herself, I laughed and commented that it was unrealistic. A guy in the group I was with said something like, “women want to feel sexy by themselves sometimes.” Maybe I’m crazy, and I’m sure some women do? But I don’t think I’ve ever really wanted to feel sexy by myself. I lounge to feel comfy. Maybe matching pjs to feel cute? But never skimpy, uncomfortable lingerie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:59 AM
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Good to know. So infuriating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:43 PM
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Meanwhile the other day, I saw a TikTok a girl posted joking about her flat chest (but not asking to change it). Top comment was from a plastic surgeon saying, “Allow me to introduce myself.” So gross and unprofessional. Not sure if I’m allowed to drop the TikTok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:11 PM
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Only my grandfather - his two favorite authors were women. He also loved several female musicians. Miss him every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:31 AM
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notallbears /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:14 AM
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Well, I’m 5’3”, so the height thing hasn’t been an issue. I’ve never dated anyone over 5’10”. Strength? Also have never arm wrestled a partner so idk. Earning potential? I worked damn hard to be where I am financially. I have an advanced degree and a stable job. I’ve seen too much to not expect equal maturity and planning from a partner, and more if he’s older than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:20 PM
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I’m not the one with the primeval preferences tho so
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:03 AM
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Good luck :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:01 AM
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I love that you’re shaming women for having sex with more than one person, but the men on this thread can talk about casual monthly sex with infinite partners, and that doesn’t trigger the same response. This is why women won’t sleep with you. Douche-radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:51 AM
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Ughh, that’s wild. Nice to see you too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:45 PM
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Thank you, I’m glad too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:57 PM
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I think she didn’t truly know he was an alcoholic, and he owned horses. She really loves horses. The woman has her own problems, esp with logical reasoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:32 PM
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Yeahhh he was also violent when he’d drink. He never hit us (but I know he knocked his ex wife’s teeth out - my mom found out subsequent to divorce), but if my mom locked her bedroom door, he’d almost beat it down trying to get in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:29 PM
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I think in particular it’s important that you take care to learn another’s love language. If I’m getting you nice and thoughtful gifts every holiday and you’re earning 3x more than I am, you could at least make an effort to match that. Or give back in a different and equal way - like paying for a fun trip. He put no effort in in any way. As for friends who can’t afford it, I don’t expect gifts in return - more just continued friendship and thoughtfulness. In a partner situation, things are usual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:06 PM
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My mom married this alcoholic, skoal-dipping, football watching Neanderthal when I was approx. 8 years old. She’d get home from working all day at 9pm, and from the couch he’d ask “what’s for dinner?” The marriage lasted a few months. Wtf was she thinking??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:49 PM
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Lol, meanwhile this clueless guy I dated who was 7 years older than me and earning over 3x more than me split everything the entire two years we were together. I cannot believe I stayed with him for 2 years. And every holiday/birthday, I got him nice gifts and he got me cheap junk I couldn’t use. Like... I get that people have different love languages/values/etc. but come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:45 PM
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My (conservative) grandfather’s two favorite authors were women - Willa Cather and Harper Lee. He enjoyed female comedians (like Carol Burnett) and was open-minded when I’d ask him to read about/discuss feminist issues. He definitely had sexist and problematic opinions, but he was rather progressive for his generation (born 1929).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:49 PM
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I wouldn’t get involved with a guy if he even hinted at being this into video games. It ISN’T REAL. I get that it can be a hobby, but unless you earn money from it (yikes), it is not that serious. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:55 PM
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I just can’t imagine putting up with a guy I wasn’t interested in to save money on a single dinner. Where are you taking these women that dinner is breaking your bank?? If a guy seemed this mistrustful of me (or women generally) right off the bat, it’d be a huge red flag. But it always depends on the caliber of person you’re dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:48 PM
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It’s because he’s full of it. If what he’s saying is true, he’d be secure enough in himself not to be whining about how women are “weird.” “I’m 6 feet tall, attractive, earn over 6 figures, have a yacht, and have dated models but can’t get a date.” You either have the personality of a serial killer, or you’re a compulsive liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:42 PM
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Yes, absolutely! She’s like one of those bug-zapping lamps. We can chill poolside without being constantly bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:48 AM
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Right, this is a great way to look at it. I know, at the time it hurt that she said those things. Later, it hurt more realizing that she was projecting her own relationship with a man-child onto men in general. She’s a beautiful and accomplished woman. Her husband is attractive, but not to the extent she is. And he has the personality of a 15-year-old boy, despite his aristocratic tastes (he totally lives off of my half-sister and doesn’t lift a finger to help her). Aaand he cheats on her - she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:39 AM
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Right, when my ex cheated on me and absolutely broke my heart, my European half-sister told me “that’s just how men are.” “You don’t want your favorite food every day - sushi - maybe sometimes you want a burger.” I was like “I AM NOT A FOOD.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:14 PM
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Yes, thought of that post the second I saw this one. But they’d never recognize the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:59 PM
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The AUDACITY. I’d be the fuck out of there. When I was 15 years old, I went into a walk-in clinic for a UTI. I peed in the cup, then waited for a doctor. The doctor (an older man) walks in, and tells me my urinalysis showed that I had a UTI. He then asks, “do you have a boyfriend?” Not knowing where he’s going, I say, “yes, he’s picking me up from the appointment.” He then looks at me and says, “tell him to go easy next time.” I was stunned. Not all UTIs are caused by sexual activity, and he nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:02 AM
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Fuck yes, this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 06:52 PM
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Wait. In what way are you suggesting men are different? That some men don’t date/sleep with jerks simply because they are hot? That’s plainly false.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 06:52 PM
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Right, it isn’t difficult. Kindness in and of itself is not sexually appealing. However, rudeness (depending on the person), can be a sexual turnoff. Agreed on your “asshole” caveat. If it’s called for, it can be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 06:48 PM
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Yes! Could watch this over and over. “You’re not willing to give me the bare minimum? Get the fuck outtt!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:19 PM
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Wow, a thousand times, thank you for this. The only way that we will be able to change these cultural norms is if women hold men to the same standard to which men hold us. We cannot count on men to change and become more compassionate towards us... Reading this, I was thinking that cheating is always wrong, but that people do make bad decisions sometimes. However, I know my cheating ex would never offer me the same “out” as I tried to give him. It’s selfish and has everything to do with ego and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:23 AM
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irrationally mad FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:13 PM
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Haha obviously a joke, but when you consider being beaten to death, maybe it’s better to have an audience. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:25 PM
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Actually maybe the public proposal isn’t so bad. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:19 PM
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Idk, maybe it’s the thought of a LIFETIME commitment to someone you don’t actually want to be with? My anxiety is spiking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:10 PM
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Nah, he’ll probably just shoot up a sorority or something like the other incel psychos. Can’t just off yourself, gotta take those selfish bitches with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:33 PM
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If it’s not the rock bottom, bare minimum - it’s “too much.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:31 PM
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I think Adam Sandler is probably a decent person in real life, but this is part of why I cannot stand his movies (aside from just not finding his brand of humor funny).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:31 PM
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Literally, my favorite is when this type of man is sooo worried that a woman is going to take financial advantage of him. He rants about women being gold diggers and how he’d never trust a woman enough to marry her because she’d get everything he’s worked for. And then you look... and he’s fat and balding with no education or financial prospects to speak of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:51 PM
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It’s because when we’re opinionated, we’re seen as shrews. Women who aren’t easily manipulated are bitches. A tale truly as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:41 PM
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The answer is abso-fucking-lutely not. That’s the point. Yiiiikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:07 AM
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And as a 13-year-old girl, when some 20-30-something year-old creep put his hand in the small of my back, I felt disgusted. The majority of young girls are not flattered by this attention. Some creep on r/dating suggested that men peak in attractiveness at age 50 while women peak by 20. I told him to keep telling himself that. If you are 50 trying to date an 18 year old, you are a predator, full stop. I don’t care if she’s “legal.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:59 PM
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You should be so proud of your strength!! I’m glad you made it through such a difficult time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:33 PM
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I’m not sure with her. Her husband cheats on her, so she has “lovers” (and suggested I should as well). But I can tell from the way she talks about it that his behavior hurts her, so I doubt it’s her choice arrangement. Still, the idea that men need variety but women don’t is so unbelievably sexist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:23 PM
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Agree with all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:18 PM
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Ughh this is another thing. Women who will cheat with a man who is in a relationship need to realize that the man will cheat on them too! Even if you don’t know the woman you are helping to screw over, you can’t honestly think you’re getting the good end of the deal either. If a guy in a relationship tried to hit on me, and I knew he had a girlfriend, I’d let her know. Because it isn’t fun when it happens to you. Men have bro code - why can’t we have sis code?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:29 PM
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Truly. Also emotional intelligence is underrated and has been lacking in every single man I’ve dated. I shouldn’t have to phonetically spell everything out for another adult. I can see when my friends are upset and usually understand what the problem is from context clues. Why is this such an impossibility for some men? I think because most are raised to view emotional labor as “not my problem,” whereas women become involuntary therapists/caregivers as children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:25 PM
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Absolutely. After my long-term boyfriend cheated on me, my European half-sister (who believes she is a feminist) told me that all men cheat. She said “even if sushi is your favorite meal, you don’t want it every day forever, sometimes you want a steak, or something else.” I AM NOT A FOOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:20 PM
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Amen! Was joking about WAP with some friends, and this random lady brought up how Offset cheated on Cardi B so “it must not have been that good.” And I checked her immediately with “JAY-Z cheated on Beyoncé.” It has less than nothing to do with the woman. If anything, men downgrade when they cheat. It makes me so angry when people (especially women) think this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:16 PM
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This is exactly how I feel. I hate that the “answer” to all of our problems is “well, be more like men.” You aren’t happy with the housework distribution? Do less. So it won’t get done. You aren’t happy with getting passed up for promotions/not being heard in meetings? Lean in - be more assertive. So you’ll be seen as an annoying bitch. You aren’t satisfied during sex? Speak up for what you want, you’re not being vocal enough. So the guy gets away with exactly no emotional awareness. Maybe at so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:53 PM
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I mean, I don’t lie. I’ve never faked it. And he tries. It’s just difficult for me with another person. But you’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:08 AM
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Omg this is too real. I blame my struggle to orgasm during sex on my Lexapro, but I can do it by myself every time sooo....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:40 PM
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I am so sorry you had to experience this. I can empathize with the cheating and gaslighting. Just remember that the “anxious, paranoid, insecure, and crazy” person isn’t who you are. It’s how ANYONE would react in the situations he put you through. Take time and heal yourself. You will attract someone who will have all of his positive qualities (including sexually) but who will not want to cause you pain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:01 PM
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Ughh I have had this issue!!!! Guy I was with for YEARS through high school, college, and grad school is still the only person who has ever made me finish during sex period. He was a complete dick to me and ultimately cheated on me. Next ex I was with for 2 years and never came once. Now I’m seeing someone new fairly casually (new and weird territory for me) and honestly, I feel like with time he might be able to. Unless my brain doesn’t allow it because it’s casual....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:57 PM
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Wow, lovely. It could very well have been men posing as women, but I also think sometimes women are socialized not to empathize with each other. If a woman has a relatively easy period, she might assume that others are faking the pain. My mom had terrible pain growing up, so I knew everything wasn’t roses for some women (I’ve had rough ones, but none to the point of what I had yesterday). Also, women’s health in general is minimized, so it could also be a way for women to “one-up” each other a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:58 AM
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Holy shit, tell me this YESTERDAY when I literally vomited from pain. Never had cramps that bad in my life, but now I empathize more with women who do on the regular. Some men have nothing if not the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:11 AM
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Yaaa saw my ex for the first time in 3 years because he wanted to meet up and apologize for his past behavior. I humored him, for some reason. Literally the next day he thought we were going to have sex. Uh, no? I’m not stripping naked after you cheated on me and failed to contact me for 3 years. Fuck you, except find someone else to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:54 AM
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Idk if needy or desperate, talking about exes is fine, I think, as you move into a relationship. But I guess I feel like it’s one of those taboo topics on the first date. It’d make me think that maybe you weren’t over her. Definitely no to shit talking, because that makes you seem bitter and also not over things.
/r/seduction15/07/20 05:42 PM
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I think that’s a big nope, honestly. Maybe it has worked for you, but if a guy brought up his ex on the first date, especially in a sexual way, I’d be concerned.
/r/seduction14/07/20 07:58 PM
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Oh my god - love this. Love Donald Glover!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:20 PM
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Amen. The show is so f*cking good, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:19 PM
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I mean, he did ask, so that’s nice. But I have furniture there. So it would be too much, I think. But I think that’s totally fair of you. I told mine that he wasn’t in love with me - he said he didn’t know what that meant. It’s enough that one person is unhappy to leave a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:47 PM
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God, I love Seinfeld, but it’s TOO true to life. I’m dying! Thick, lustrous hair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:44 PM
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I’m sorry you had to go through that! It’s tough to break a comfortable cycle. But it’s not fair to either party, as much as it sucks. I’m going to have to wait until quarantine is over in my city to get my stuff - I’m working from home in my hometown, which is like 10 hours away. So that’s the worst part. He unfriended me on all forms of social media. But yes, love independent women like Whoopi! It’s totally okay - I think my perspective at this point is if I’m not going to be happier with some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:37 PM
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I’d report him automatically. I’m so tired of the use of “Karen” to describe any woman who has a legitimate complaint. Karen used to be the woman who was entitled and rude to service workers - but if someone insults you to your face?? Not a fucking Karen for reporting them!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:23 PM
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This is abusive. I am so terribly sorry you have had to deal with such a person, especially at a time when self esteem is already so vulnerable. I don’t know what I would do - just try to get away as soon as I reached adulthood and go no contact. Do you have another adult you can trust and who treats you as you should be treated? Mom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:15 PM
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I’m sorry things are rocky between you two. Things cannot outweigh the feeling of being loved and praised. I hope things get better and I encourage you to tell him how you feel - I think today must have been a good start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:12 PM
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Just watch George on Seinfeld and you will see just how many things a woman can be critiqued for. A big head, hands, nose, forehead, etc. Meanwhile they can look like troll dolls sans hair... yike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:04 PM
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Well, I did it. Finally managed to get him on chat - we hadn’t Skyped in 2 weeks. It was really tough, but I know I did the right thing. It broke my heart, though. I want him to be happy and didn’t want to hurt him, but I can’t just half-assedly date someone I’m not in love with forever. Feel like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:47 AM
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“That’s what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.” 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:17 PM
4

Please remind me! I vaguely remember the premise - bride murdered by her evil husband tries to get with living protagonist? It’s terribly frustrating that more recent movies are even more sexually reductive than movies that are decades old!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:14 PM
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Yes! I watched this movie a couple years ago (after loving it as a kid) and was struck by how anti-woman the premise is! The 1960s cartoon version wasn’t even a fraction as offensive! How sad is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:08 PM
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These are beautiful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:56 PM
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Lol I’d rather just die than marry him but waiting 11.5 years for it would really be the icing on the cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:34 AM
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My ex was abroad volunteering and told me he had cheated. We tried (read, I tried) to work it out. During our subsequent conversations he started talking about his discussions with other female volunteers regarding sex, how some men were terrible at going down & graphic explanations. When I asked him why he was having these conversations with other girls, his response was, “SOME girls are comfortable talking about this stuff.” He tried gaslighting me by making me think I was a prude, not “cool.”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:28 AM
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Literally THIS, unless wallets are for holding condoms and 3-in-1 shampoo/conditioner/body wash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:54 PM
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At 15 years old, at 5’3 and 110 lbs back then, I worked at a fast food restaurant. I was often tasked with “lobby” duty (stocking and restocking condiments, wiping tables, sweeping) because I was more of an introvert, and did the job well. I remember feeling frustrated lugging the full, 50lb metal tea dispensers and NONE of my male coworkers helped. I’d have to ask, and then they’d only help occasionally. Seconding the “understanding hitting a woman is worse” argument, and the ridiculously annoy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:56 PM
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Oh, and when friends bring up new things about them to you? They are doing you a disservice. Brush it off as nonchalantly as possible. “Can you believe Ex1 and girlfriend are still together?” “Oh, really? I didn’t know that. I don’t keep up with him, but that’s cool.” Do not bring them up in conversation, no matter how much you want to. When you do, it makes you seem not over that person. The last thing you want is word getting back to these assholes that you’re still asking about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:42 PM
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Yes. It’s absolutely fucking miserable. My most significant ex sounds like your exes. I was crazy in love with him (on and off like 10 years). He was a compulsive liar and would always put me down. Anyway, he left for a 2-year stint to work abroad. We Skyped daily. He introduced me to a girl he was hanging out with - she complimented me (how pretty & sweet I was, etc.). I was stupidly just glad he had a friend, as he seemed really down and depressed. TL;DR he ended up cheating on me and getting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:33 PM
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I’m so proud of you for saying no and loving yourself! Loneliness is hard - I’m working through SO many issues myself. I love being alone but cannot handle loneliness, so I put up with absolute trash for far too long. You were vulnerable and went for it, it doesn’t make you weak! It means you unfortunately had to learn the hard way, like me. It’s also especially hard to let go of the ones that are never fully yours. There’s something about an unavailable partner that both men and women find attr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:17 PM
2

I’ve been dating a guy for 2 years. I realized about 1 year in that he was a rebound from a really agonizing prior relationship (on and off for nearly 10 years, cheating, gaslighting, compulsive lying - the whole 9 yards). This guy is a kind person but has a lot of issues. He’s bipolar but treats it (which isn’t really a huge issue for me). He earns 3x more than me but we always split the bill, and I always buy him nicer presents for Christmas/birthdays/etc. He doesn’t think to be considerate in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:09 PM
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I look in the mirror and feel the same way a lot of the time. And then I see other girls who aren’t perfectly symmetrical, and they shine. Sometimes, asymmetry is what makes you unique! You don’t have to be perfectly symmetrical to be stunningly beautiful. Lots of women who have non-traditional features are sought after for modeling and film. But what really makes you beautiful is your personality - I know that sounds trite, but it’s true. A girl with perfect features and a perfect body (whateve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:55 PM
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