Vandal865 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
59	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind.		Vandal865	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/23 08:23 PM
3	Shorter guys who are successful?		Vandal865	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/23 05:45 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	I realized I’m not attractive enough for “casual sex”, or at least not as attractive as some of my friends. and it’s messing with my head. I don't think it's fair to assume someone who's insecure is automatically a hateful person who participates in this behavior. Could it be problematic? yeah, but this is one reason so many men don't seek help. It just results in insults and assumptions.	/r/ExRedPill	19/10/24 03:24 PM
7	Just unsubbed from purplepilldebate… Certified dude here. Most of the men I've heard say they'd be fine with anyones looks. They almost always mean they'd stick their dick in almost everything, but they'd never be caught dead actually dating what they consider an unattractive woman. Once I broke out of TRP and Blackpill, I really started noticing all the "ugly" couples around me. Walking through the mall with my gf and noticing all the bald, or short, or overweight guys holding hands with their wives or gfs. I saw a couple with a b…	/r/ExRedPill	09/06/24 12:49 PM
4	İ dont know how to deal with this mindset which makes me feel insecure.. I'll tell you first hand that this isn't the case, my friend. Women (just like men) are very diverse when it comes to what their preferences for a partner are. Yeah, some women probably prefer to date the stereotypical asshole jock type of guy. My girlfriend told me she moment she really fell in love with me was when she saw me helping out a homeless guy, that, and I didn't try to send a dick pic after the first date. My best friend is one of the coolest/friendly guys you'll ever meet, and he's …	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/24 03:33 PM
33	How do I not get frustrated when I see guys who exhibit the qualities I constantly see women here say women don't like doing well with women? People are diverse. Some women find the stereotypical biker bad boy super attractive. Some don't. Some are willing to have one night stands or FWBs with men they think are assholes. Some aren't. It's no different from men going crazy over women that are quite literally psychopaths but they happen to be cute at the same time. I've met women on completely different spectrums when it comes to attractive. Half my friends don't even come close to the "attractive bad boy" stereotype, yet they've been …	/r/ExRedPill	14/05/24 01:49 AM
15	Why is it that the most outwardly sexist guys I know that do the best with women? I think a harsh truth some people need to realize is that some people can get away with a whole lot more than someone who isn't as attractive, both men and women fall for it (halo effect). I say some because the effect isn't universal. For everyone who ignores red flags or seeks out partners based on looks alone, there's someone who does the opposite. My girlfriend chose me in a college town full of rich fraternity kids, and I'm not rich nor a 10/10 supermodel. You said it yourself that you don'…	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/24 02:02 PM
14	How has the redpill ideology negatively affected your life? Brought me to the edge of suicide, kept me in an extremely misogynistic mindset with some pretty fucked up opinions when I was at my worst. I'm still scrubbing my brain clean after 2 years of de-tox, part of why I personally get so angry when people try to preach Red and Blackpill talking points to me is because it warped me into a horrible human being. Pretty bad influence ngl.	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/24 03:30 AM
-1	Why is it misogynistic to not want to be with a woman that's had casual sex? I don't think placing different values on sex is inherently misogynistic. As long as somehow isn't a dick or doesn't think that a woman is "inferior," I fail to see how it could be misogynistic. Would a religious woman who preferred someone who hasn't slept around be misogynistic?	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/24 03:15 PM
3	Why is it misogynistic to not want to be with a woman that's had casual sex? I will say he has the right to have a preference as long as he's not an asshole about it.	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/24 02:21 PM
12	What's the worst redpill logic you used to buy into? I think as humans, we tend to follow a "Believe in what you see and experience mindset" first and foremost. Women who constantly call all men dogs or Incels who talk shit about "Foids" and Stacies that only go for "Chads" usually believe in those things because it's all they've seen or heard about. Yeah, here's a demographic of women who only shoot for the top 20 and "settle" for less afterwards (plenty of men do the same). One of my biggest Incel culture shocks came when I started paying more a…	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/24 04:16 PM
27	What's the worst redpill logic you used to buy into? Being more physically attractive is obviously gonna make someone more potentially successful in dating, but the idea that a woman will never be truly attracted to someone not in the top 20% is stupid. Plenty of men tend to give the hottest girl in the club the most attention. Incels can't really call out women for doing the same when they do it so often. Even then, Demisexual people exist. People who focus solely on looks tend not to make the best partners and can be avoided if you stay away fro…	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/24 03:00 PM
59	What's the worst redpill logic you used to buy into? The classic 80/20 rule. God that rabbit hole fucked me up for a good long while. It's the idea that 80% of women are only attracted to the top 20% of men, implying that they would cheat on their partners or not even bother with having non "Chad" partners in favor of the top 20%, usually based purely on physical traits. The debunked ok-cupid study is the root cause of this belief imo. When I still believed in it, it wreaked havoc on my self-esteem to the point of suicidal ideation. Personal exper…	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/24 02:53 PM
2	Looking for the female equivalent Female Dating Strategy, they even have their own lingo like red pill.	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/24 03:46 AM
10	Any men on here? (I'm not a psychologist, don't take what I say as gospel.) So, I'd hesitate to call anything a "Universal Truth" because of just how unpredictable people are, but yes, being a confident, secure person with a good sense of humor and good hygiene is only going to increase your chances of someone finding you desirable. On the topic of "minimums," that's something that I feel like a lot of guys also fail to really grasp, and granted, it's a little weird. Everyone has different "minimums" that they n…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 03:58 PM
11	Any men on here? So I think you can break desire down into two types of attraction: Looks and Attractiveness. Looks is purely physical traits, the ones that make the monkey brain go wild. These are kind of subjective depending on the person, but there's some common ones. Attractiveness is the sum of all a persons parts, how emotionally healthy they are, humor, their intelligence and their looks, etc. Alot of women I've become friends with, especially the most conventionally attractive ones, complain to me pretty…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 02:57 PM
9	Any men on here? Its definition is pretty subjective, but it tends to be a more extreme/nihilistic version of Redpill. In my experience Redpill tells you it's possible to be with a woman even if you lack looks or status by either lacking standards completely or undergoing extreme personality changes and using manipulative/abusive tactics and lifestyle changes. Blackpill usually promotes the idea that you have zero chances of being with someone who actually loves you because you lack the aforementioned looks/stat…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 07:13 AM
41	Any men on here? Honestly, it was just getting to know women better in real life. Once I was forced to leave home and actually experience real life, I honestly got hit by a bit of culture shock. Whenever my female friends would come to me and vent about how insecure they were about their looks or how well they flirt was kind of humbling and also shocking. Realizing that these were the exact same problems I had and felt insecure about really made me start questioning whether my problems were that unique. Learning…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 06:21 AM
1	Shorter guys who are successful? How'd they do it?	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/23 07:01 PM
-1	Shorter guys who are successful? Might just be negativity bias or the nature of society, but those kinds of people seem pretty rare imo.	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/23 06:54 PM
0	Shorter guys who are successful? I don't mean like the "Hollywood" type of attractive where beauty standards are pretty unrealistic, I just mean that strong physical pull you feel when you're personally attracted to a specific person. I've never seen a non-famous short guy gushed over the same way some people do about conventionally hot people.	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/23 06:53 PM
4	How can one break away from this view of the world when it's been their exact reality? Do you know anybody personally irl that breaks the redpill stereotype? My best friend is even shorter than I already am (around 5"3, I think), and is probably 100 pounds soaking wet. He's currently 6 months into his second relationship at 21. Oh, dude works at Walmart, he's not rich by any means. He's managing to get into a second LTR with his personality alone, no real status, barely any money, dude is just magnetic. it's one of the biggest reasons I stepped away from Redpill. One of my former …	/r/ExRedPill	16/12/23 11:39 PM
1	“Chads” and “Tyrones” are trash whose behavior should not be an example There's a decently high barrier of physical attraction though isn't there? not alot of people possess that.	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/23 07:03 PM
2	“Chads” and “Tyrones” are trash whose behavior should not be an example Most of the attraction towards those "types" are physical though, something average people don't possess.	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/23 06:16 PM
1	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. The belief is less so that a woman would leave for a more successful man, rather a more attractive one. The rule basically states that 20% of men (the most attractive ones) have hookups and flings with 80% of women. It's a very common belief that a woman will be in a relationship with a financially well off but not as attractive man while cheating with a "Chad", one of the 20%, because they find him more attractive She'll stay with the other guy for money, but have flings with the 6 foot buff gu…	/r/ExRedPill	02/12/23 07:55 AM
2	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. Yes	/r/ExRedPill	02/12/23 06:07 AM
2	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. That's definitely been a good exercise for me, but my insecure and still redpilled part of my brain asks me how many just settled, and would cheat if given the opportunity with a better looking partner.	/r/ExRedPill	02/12/23 06:07 AM
2	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. Aren't there plenty of common traits that most people find attractive? I think there's been studies that somewhat prove this but I'm not sure how valid they are.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 02:51 PM
1	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. Haven't there been studies that show that while some are subjective, there are several common traits that most people find attractive across the board? I don't know how valid these were but I remember them.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 02:43 PM
1	I'm a shy, introverted autistic dude. I'm also really successful at dating. If you recently left the ideology of the red pill because it's awful and doesn't work, maybe you can crib some things from me. Hey I know this post is a little old, but do you have any advice on getting over physical insecurities? I'm a shorter guy and that always makes me second-guess any attempts to start trying to date or approach people.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 01:24 PM
5	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. I've personally always been into the more introverted and shy type (which kind of sucks because I'm equally as introverted). The stereotypical "hot girl" look has never really appealed to me personally. They've always seemed way to high maintenance, and our lifestyles probably wouldn't mesh very well. A shy chubby girl with glasses who's into writing or art would be my dream person, I'd like to try and interact with that crowd more, but I'm not sure where to start and there's just not many place…	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 01:05 PM
-2	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. The usual belief is that women will be in a committed relationship with a financially well off "Beta" like myself, but will glad have one night stands and flings with "Chads" because they find them more physically attractive. Get the security of a relationship but the excitement of flings.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 08:46 AM
1	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. That still makes me feel a little uneasy, like, I'd want my partner to be attracted to me physically if I could.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 06:06 AM
2	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. I'm short and maybe average looking on a good day. I'm surrounded by taller people, all in relationships, it gets hard to not be a little insecure.	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 06:04 AM
15	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. When you lay it out like that, yeah it does sound really dumb. I think the insecure parts of my psyche are inflating these ideas dramatically, from what everyone is saying I think this might be the root of my issues. Thanks.	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/23 08:54 PM
26	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. I don't think I would, and that's the part I'm most ashamed of. I have trouble applying the same mindset to women, even though I know they're human just like me.	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/23 08:41 PM
21	I cant get the 80/20 Rule and "Hypergamy" theories out of my mind. Thanks for this. I'm aware that I'm definitely an insecure person. I'm 5"6 and grew up in a pretty unstable home that never really taught me how to process emotions in a healthy way. I think at the end of the day, the irrational half of my mind is just scared. Redpill was a sort of haven for so long, it felt like an understanding community of like-minded people, something a depressed and scared 16 year old needed. I'll be sure to check out the kit, I've been trying to improve myself in my own ey…	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/23 08:40 PM