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My ex suddenly became reasonable 2 days before trial. Before that, it was 19 months of pure ridiculous bullshit. Get a trial date and hunker down.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 03:28 PM
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My STBXW, was over due on discovery on multiple occasions. My lawyer had to file two separate motions to compel, of which the judge finally ordered the production of documents. This is in Ohio. It's been. A glorious waste of time and money. My STBXW isn't very bright either and her lawyer seems to match that energy. Don't know if it's ignorance or some sort of strategy to drag the divorce out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 03:05 AM
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Stay strong my friend. In Lake County Ohio here. Get a guardian ad litem. Have your lawyer petition for one to evaluate based on the children's best interests. I "won" 50/50 after ex capitulated literally the day of our trial.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 10:49 PM
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After a 17 month custody battle, where I was seeking 50/50 and shared legal custody, we finally signed an agreement that gives me equal time and rights as a father. Everyone says I should be celebrating - however I felt anything but happy. Angry at the process, at the ex, sad for my kids, etc. Feel all you feel, let yourself process, and give yourself some grace. Now there's just finances to finalize - sitting at court waiting for my settlement conference. Hoping to finalize today.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 03:58 PM
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Unless she makes more money, there are zero benefits to getting married and numerous certain penalties for doing so.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 01:50 AM
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Why not do one week on, one week off. I'd think with your youngest at 8 years old this shouldn't be a problem. You can maintain contact with video calls / FaceTime during the time that they are at the other parent's house.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 01:47 AM
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This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 01:43 AM
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I tried this about 6 months in. Get this, she filed a motion for harassment! Claiming I was getting between her and her lawyer, manipulating, and harassing. Lol - I tried, but gave up being logical. Marching to trial at the end of October. If she decides to be reasonable at the last second and settle, that's fine. But I am demanding 50/50 custody, late ting time, and marital assets split. Guardian ad litem has already recommended an equal custody split. Ex is just waiting until the bitter end to…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 04:35 PM
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If your ex isn't playing ball and treating you like an equal parent, then you have nothing to lose. I was pleasantly surprised, my woman GAL has recommended shared legal custody and equal 50/50 parenting time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 10:11 PM
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Don't give up. I've been fighting for 16 months. Get your lawyers take on it, but also get them to request a guardian ad litem to evaluate what's in the best interests of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 03:22 AM
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You lucky dog. I'm envious of you at this point lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 12:23 PM
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Get a lawyer and immediately file a parenting plan for 50/50. Request a guardian ad litem to decide what's best on behalf of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/22 09:04 PM
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Why tf are you watching her two other kids that aren't yours? Do you charge her? Stop being a doormat and expecting to be treated any differently.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:50 PM
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Interview lawyers, pick one that seems reasonable, pay the retainer, and file for divorce ASAP. You do not want your wife to fire first with a false domestic violence protection order. My ex did this, and it's been an uphill battle ever since with regard to settling custody. You have been warned.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 01:02 AM
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Mine did too!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 02:10 AM
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Emotionally decouple from your ex. This is the way. I'm 80% of the way there...
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 08:27 PM
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Me too
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 07:55 PM
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So my ex cheated, blew up our family, filed a restraining order saying she was "scared" of how I'd react to her filing divorce. I was pissed at her cheating. Did I handle it well, no. But I know of few people who would. Now I'm in a protracted custody battle. Was I responsible for issues in our relationship, sure. But did I go fuck around and betray my wife? Hell no. I was loyal to the bitter end, to a fault. I wanted to repair our marriage even after discovering multiple affairs. So yeah, you'l…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/22 10:59 AM
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Yeah I have proof of infidelity too. I will concur that it means nothing. At best, in some states, it allows for a "reason" to expedite the divorce without the required separation period (varies per state). However, when you add in lawyer shenanigans and custody battle, you're looking at a protracted separation period anyway. Hopefully things will go smoother for you, but be prepared. Also, it's not too important who files first. Sure all the garbage in the filing stings to read, but it really d…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 01:30 AM
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If your parenting plan doesn't state that you have to pay tuition or childcare costs, then I'd tell her to fuck off. That's what child support helps with.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 07:51 PM
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In Ohio here. Child support here, and in most states, is a worksheet that auto calculates the amount of child support to be paid. If there is an income disparity between the two parties, even if 50/50 physical custody, child support will be paid. The recipient of child support can spend it on whatever they damn well please. It's complete bullshit. In other countries (UK), I'm told that if there is 50/50 physical custody, no support is awarded. This country sometimes really really sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 09:58 PM
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She's probably cheating. My best advice is to start separating finances and establishing a rainy day fund (in cash). You are probably going to need it
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 01:58 AM
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I completely, 100% agree. However, my current issue, while divorce is pending and in the middle of a custody battle, is finding a legit escort. I fear getting busted, and tanking my custody case. So I'm celibate for now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:23 AM
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Happiness is from within. If you continue seeking outside sources to fill a void within you, then you are doomed to make the same mistakes. Quit seeking happiness and validation thru women. Do some individual therapy, get a nanny so that you have free time to reconnect with hobbies and friends. Focus on you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 01:06 PM
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This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 12:16 AM
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My ex basically said the same thing. Was upset that I told people about her "indiscretions". It's comical now, but at the time I was just angry as fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 10:24 PM
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You need a lawyer, like yesterday. Stop asking strangers for advice and seek legal counsel. You need to protect yourself and your children's future.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 04:15 AM
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My ex is doing the same thing! Willing to "give" me 6 days every 2 weeks, but is digging her heels in over 1 day for equal 50/50. I requested a GAL whose investigation is to wrap up next month. I have already told my lawyer I am not interested in mediation , and am requesting a court date. I'm tired of all the delay tactics...
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 02:30 AM
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I absolutely love being alone. It was actually one of the main points of contention while we were married, I needed occasional alone time that was rarely granted. Now when the kids are with mommy (almost 50/50 but one day shy, still a work in progress there), I can do what I damn well please!
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 01:35 PM
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I found out it was over, and too late, the second the sheriff showed up to serve me an ex-parte protector order based on bullshit made up abuse accusations. Basically ex wanted me out of the house, gain a leg up in divorce proceedings, and create her own narrative to deflect away from her multiple extramarital affairs. Don't do what I did. If your wife is cheating, file for divorce immediately and get a lawyer. You can always reconcile (but shouldn't) later. Don't wait around for her to fire the…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 03:45 AM
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This sounds awful, however there is a silver lining. She's out of your life and not around to complicate custody arrangements! I'm currently in a custody battle with my adulterous ex wife. So, like others, I suggest you get a lawyer and make the current "arrangement" legal. That way, she can't just come knocking on your door one day when she wakes up and suddenly wants primary custody.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/21 03:13 AM
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Same here brother. Oh how history is rewritten..
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 08:33 PM
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