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DISCUSSIONVast-Society4093/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 12:47 PM
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Hey OP, this could be far reaching and I am also not a psychologist, yet hear my take. You were probably heavily traumatized in the past from cheating that you might probably develop a kink around it. If it turns you on now and that you are ok with it that your man is sleeping with other women while you don’t get to sleep with other men. Then it’s a fetish and there’s a definition for in the pornscene. If this is how you process this therapy is a good start. I don’t think after getting cheated o…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 09:41 PM
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I think this is self explanatory how a relationship should be and you answered that yourself. It’s pointlessly gendered when a man does this but a women does that. Whoever told you that has no place to give you relationship advice and sometimes it’s good to have logical discernment on your own and question some take. Stay sharp and good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 06:00 AM
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Since you two recently met and the date was lovely then i would let things unfold and see what happens. People can change if they want to. Watch his behavior next date. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 05:52 AM
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I am going to respectfully disagree when it comes to choosing your spouse that for me it’s irresponsible to leave it to luck. You are also choosing the father of your children.I used to have that mindset about luck too when I was 18 and only met bad men. I put accountability and responsibilities on me how and which men I attract. I can’t simply wait and „manifest „ future spouse especially when even famous relationship gurus met the biggest red flag she could ever imagine. Good career opportunit…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 04:18 PM
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Oh I don’t believe in luck when it comes to connecting with people especially men though . I choose my people with intentions. I am on the calmer, books lover side and the people i connect with have similar interest. The way they talk is a total giveaway how they are usually like. Because it’s something you are mostly not self-conscious about. Casual built-in slurs would already be my red flags. I learned a lot from proper vetting skills.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 02:33 PM
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I think you need a 3rd and 4th options. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 02:09 PM
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I was in a stem college and worked part time in tech events so my environment are usually male dominated. The sexually aggressive ones will be no matter their age in my opinion. But I detect them earlier and would not interact with them. All men want sex but in my case the respectful older folks are more subtle and smoother about it. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 02:07 PM
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My husband is 15 years older and I’ve been thinking about it aging too. But in hindsight he has over 80 years old uncle who still plays tennis regularly , plays instrument on professional level , travel the world with his son. It’s a good reminder that if you keep yourself fit , healthy diet you get to live fully at old age. My father will retire soon and I don’t think I would categorize him as old or frail. He plays football every week, lots of gardening mediation etc. moving does wonders!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 12:45 PM
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From my experience when I was in my 20s. Older men have more traditional values then younger men. They might don’t have those values when they were in their 20s but as soon as they reach 30s it shifted. When I was still in college the men I met weren’t interested in marriage. While they were interested in having gfs but they don’t like the idea of being „locked down „ yet. And I wasn’t interested in hook-up culture because I want to date for marriage only. So my only options back then was men in…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 12:29 PM
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Oh I see. Have you told him he talks about himself often ?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/26 05:10 AM
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Many people reported that healthy and stable relationships tend to be low drama , low flame not overly exciting aka „boring“ You just went a few dates with him and you found him attractive . Is it boring because there is no topic to talk about or were there misaligned values ? Do you want him to actively pursue/ vet you more ? What kind of guys did you date in your past compared to him that were more exciting? Personally I would choose a „boring „ guy on paper. If your system gets excited about …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/26 07:49 AM
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Like many grifters they don’t follow their own advice. She advocates for traditional values yet it boggles me that she is not married. The same as many other influencers, recently Wizard Liz became a topic who preached a lot about high value and fell for the biggest red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 07:43 PM
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Record , call the police , pack your stuff and leave , make sure you never see this guy again , there is not one ounce of excuse for violence
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/26 08:31 AM
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My honest opinion. Good men are hard to find so I think it’s ok that it shouldn’t be easy. But you can be intentional with your deal breakers , your values , political beliefs marriage prospects kids, long term goals, spending ,habits etc. ask the essentials and important questions early . It’s tedious and not so fun I know but it’s your future. Look for nonverbal cues if you can’t trust them. I usually don’t take them seriously unless they actually showed that they act true to their words. How …
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/26 06:58 PM
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Some aspects of feminist mindset like be financially independent and decenter men is in my opinion not sustainable especially when you have kids. Both of you will be heavily dependent on each other doesn’t matter which gender is taking the breadwinner/caretaker role even. Marriage is built on trust and being able to rely on your partner so I don’t really grasp how being independent and marriage works. Being your own person sure. I definitely wasn’t independent and will never want to be when I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 04:10 PM
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This is her lacking social skill issue. Most people don’t know how EASY it is to start up a conversation than going up to a guy and the awkward typical „ do you come here often ?“ How many conversation I got just by offering gummy bears, or „ hey I am getting coffee do you want one too?“ A man got a dog ? ask to pet it. A man is eating something ? Told him you are hungry too and where he got that delicious looking food. Etc. works for both gender. Simple eye contact and smile is already a good s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/05/26 10:32 PM
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You don’t. You either attract them or not. Having to say it out loud will make them exactly think that. Simple „ not interested „ without over explaining should weed out the men you don’t want. Men who fits your financial standards or financial long term goals have certain characteristics, visit certain place , have certain kind of people they hang out with. You also attract like minded men by being financially literate.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/26 09:37 PM
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I don’t think men who actually handle „real high pressure procurement „ would lower themselves for this kind dating game show . They get paid really well to handle difficult things and are really busy , you never catch them easily. I met a lot of these species through my work and women and dating is not what what they would consider „ high pressure „ 😅
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 05:52 PM
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Any podcasters who blames all the issues to women are not redpillers they are just grifters telling lonely men women are the problem and not them. Good redpill content put accountability on both gender. Like Jordan Peterson or what I truly like is the channel „think before you sleep.“ Show him that maybe if you want to get through him but as other said he seems abusive . You know him better than us if he is worth working things out.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 05:41 PM
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Happiness isn’t a goal. It’s a journey. This is what I adapted throughout the years. You have different life stages where you will feel the happiest. You felt the happiest as a baby in your parents arms. You felt the happiest going to theme park as a kid. You felt happiest when you met your first love. You felt happiest when you child was born and eventually we felt the same when we see our grandchildren running around. As we change and age our happiness does also change with our responsibilitie…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 05:34 PM
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I can second to cleaning your own home. Husband said I should just hire a cleaner/ maid since it’s a lot of cleaning to do in our house but I always refuse because it’s like a whole workout. I am still the same dress size like I was 18. Stairs up and down, always moving burns lots of calories. Also home cooking will make you eat a lot healthier too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 05:22 PM
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They could be genuinely happy but from what I’ve witnessed mostly if the 4B movement is tied to disappointment in men it’s just cope. Truly mental stable people can thrive being alone or with a partner. If women pick bad partners because they didn’t learn vetting skills then turns to isolate themselves from men isn’t healthy in my opinion. They still have issues that will resurface anyway being alone. Being young and 4B sounds manageable at first but we all age and I truly don’t see myself being…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/26 09:09 PM
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I would like to address that both of you are insecure in someways. You said you are controlling and insecure about him liking women on social media , normal pictures or not. But you were out with one of his friends without him in revealing clothes which also made him uncomfortable and insecure too. This insecurity parallel each other. You are right it’s not about the clothes but there is something there you both will benefit by communicating. Just my thoughts ,he might be just worried about your…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/26 04:44 PM
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Ok to simplify this. You feel like you are entitled to spending more time with your child since your are the mother but if your husband wants to do the same …he isn’t allowed to by your standards? You mentioned maternity so could this be postpartum depression. These trains of thoughts are kinda unhinged.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/26 09:23 PM
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I was about to comment farmers but I am glad someone got the same ideas. Never met farmers who were liberals. Both my grandparents are farmers , and where I live now there are mostly farmers too. They are Not necessarily religious even if op is a non religious person. I think farmers are usually solid choice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/26 11:32 PM
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Oh I see . Interesting, you might be signaling leading qualities to them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/26 01:02 PM
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Same I was like huh ?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 05:31 PM
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Hi Op, without knowing you much I can only make guesses but maybe you are still open for an advice. I liked that you take the accountability of seeing you as the common denominator first. You seem to be attracted to be men who are not emotionally available . Also you don’t like Make up and you are a bit tomboyish. Dressing cute only wouldn’t solve tomboyish mannerisms. Do those men you met interpret initiating first also as „tomboyish „? Story told old as time that men prefer feminine women in l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 05:17 PM
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Can also recommend why men love bitches.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/26 03:02 PM
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Oh it does though. You are excusing op husbands behavior if he cheated by arguing with his SMV. So your moral stance is clearly showing here. So if you are in similar income and sees no problem in cheating…man you are not very smart because you have a lot to lose. Also isn’t cheating a crime in so many states ?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 08:44 PM
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No questions but I went through the comments and I found myself related to you so much in many categories. So thank you for sharing. I felt quite alone in this. I am fully provided by my husband and he also has impossible and unpredictable working schedule. I think I see him even less than you see your husband. He travels overseas a lot and I am spending my days with my closest friends and hobbies. It’s fun we both somehow never met each other yet adapt to building life with the same mindset/ in…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 05:39 PM
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I support it. My marriage was more or less arranged not by cultural but by mutual agreement. Having a third party with clear minded view about your future spouse is not bad at all if you instincts might he clouded by attraction or infatuation. Even it’s a love marriage I believe people can benefit a lot from strategic vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/26 02:29 PM
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To be honest that debate isn’t far off from what I’ve witness but that person said it in a way it could be misinterpreted. Some feminine traits can be taught some are ingrained. I believe fathers heavily shape how feminine their daughters will be even they are not really teaching them. I have female friends who are on very good terms with their fathers, who spoils them , listen to them , protect and support them are very feminine and nurturing. These people grew up to be well balanced over all. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/26 09:21 PM
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Eh…absolutely controversial advice but I think it’s fun. Ask the gay men. 😅 and they were somehow spot on. But I think there is an underlying issue about the insensitivity. Also a good partner shouldn’t let you go on this torture until your jaw is locked. Do you feel pressured to do this because he ask or and just because you want to do something nice for him?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/26 04:42 PM
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Having kids with a very supportive husband is the hack to not be a stressed out mom. No need for a Nanny or a cleaner. I was very honest that I don’t want to be the mom who will manage everything like a boss babe. If i am tired I am tired. Things gets done slower. I will accept doing one thing at a time. Saying „ no i can’t do it right now „ occasionally will do wonders for your wellbeing. Since you are young you should start on vetting skills to find a good partner. If you feel safe with him wa…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/26 06:45 PM
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I am sorry this happened to you. As I mentioned above that no one should stay in an abusive marriage. Better leave ,heal , process and find a better partner. While we are not responsible for the trauma that is inflicted on us. But we are responsible to get it treated before I leads you to choose a partner based on your trauma response and end the cycle of abuse for the next generation. I hope you are healing and is in therapy. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/26 11:23 AM
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If the 35 year old guy is serious, did he mention marriage ? This kind of setting is leaning into the sugar lifestyle if you want to go for it . Can you do that without forming resentment over lack of attraction to him ? Is it not fitting your current lifestyle to choose men your age who is still building wealth because he can’t afford luxuries yet and you want it now since you are young and attractive you want to leverage it?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/26 08:45 PM
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Some women don’t like you for and that you can’t befriend all women. I believed that all women are girl‘s girl.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/26 10:21 AM
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I made a mistake that i did now i learned my lesson. Better keep it to yourself and solve it with your partner instead of telling other people.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/26 08:00 AM
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It’s better you look for a man you are actually attracted to with good characters
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 04:10 AM
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First thing is to do is to adress is why you decided to enter a relationship with him in the first place if he wasn’t attractive to you ? Was he attractive and then he changed or was he not attractive to you in the beginning?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 12:04 AM
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If he is crazy then why are you best friend with him ?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/26 01:48 PM
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You are very selfaware and this should be processed before tying the knots. A good couple therapy can address his wounds. And also for your emotional safety , following him right now could open more wounds in future marriage later. He sounds like still operating on past trauma which you didn’t cause.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 05:48 PM
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You are right. This is a very a structured questioning to get answer what he wanted. He sees no issue in this ? He can’t come up with strategy himself ?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:31 PM
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ChatGPT suggested that ? This is very unhinged also problematic too. Another reason I am anti-ai because it lacks human nuance on how it can process relationships dynamic. A man leads but he should always has your best interest in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:23 PM
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Thanks for daring to tackle the weight issues. In another sub I’ve been called fatphobic for wanting my husband to work out together with me. It goes both ways. I also don’t want a man who to let himself go either. I kept my shape the same he met me, he gained a bit weight. Like just a little bit only, drop now and never let it go to obese. I successfully convinced him though and we worked out together since January and he dropped 6 pounds and gained some muscles and honestly he looked better, a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 12:42 PM
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I am in a STEM college and the male to female ratio is even more contrasting. It’s like 95% men and 5% percent women. I am the only women in my class even. I was already married before i enrolled, if I was single there’s a high chance I picked one of those as my partner. Being in college is actually best place to date.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 02:27 AM
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I think your environment is good if the option you have are male students who are dilligent, smart , and good character. Are you more extroverted and outgoing than those men that you noticed the incompability?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/26 09:54 PM
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Aww, congrats for your happy news 💕
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/26 11:39 PM
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Dark romance male leads. I’ve fell for the booktoks and thrown away many books, didn’t finish , hate read it because it was so bad. The men are pictured are very problematic . I know it’s dark romance and they are supposed to be that way still . Some let those fantasies bleed in real life thinking this is not pornographic and totally fine. It‘s just another brain rot at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/26 08:03 PM
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It sounds like a real relationship. Then why don’t just ask him properly the what are we questions. If he wants to be official then good for you if not then I think you have to look for other options.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/26 07:52 PM
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This is very spot on
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/26 07:15 AM
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Many women aren’t aware what they have to sacrifice even at the stage of making. A women who wants a millionaire husband has to be very secure. The most difficult part to be a millionaire is to achieve the first million. And all those men do is work like a maniac. A false assumption is they have the luxury and freedom , in reality not even their mind is free because all they see is how to generate more wealth out of anything.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 01:57 AM
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I can attest to this too. I have to work with many CEOs the younger ones like 30s are aspiring to be millionaires and they are married off real quick already. And the millionaire like over 10m annual income are over 50 and married with adult kids. Usually successful men who don’t necessarily have to be millionaire with no big character flaws and overall decent guy don’t stay single for long and they don’t have to be Brad Pitt or over 6ft. So yes decent men are hard to find and more so for hot mi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 06:55 PM
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I am with you OP. People usually marry within their tax bracket. Financial literacy and mindset plays a huge role for wealthy people.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 12:14 PM
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I dont think they are risking anything it’s still numbers game, vetting process is to weed out incompatibility for each other so . And they were honest with you that they don’t want a career focused spouse and you are not wasting your time with them too.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 07:57 AM
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I came to conclusion that marriage with younger kids involved is dependency on a certain level. There’s risk in this constellation where mostly wives stay at home and the husband works. What I noticed that they always put risk factor on the women. What if husband passed away etc. Husband is also dependent on the wife to take care of children. So what if the wife passed away. I’ve saw it in many cases , young family 2 little kids and one day their mother passed away. Now what. I don’t know what h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 07:04 AM
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Priorities perhaps ? Just my assumption that if men successfully build their wealth their focus will now lay on legacy. So what they are looking for is maternal qualities. Many career women might not be willing to give up their career to be a mother and it‘s within their right. You said men your age are immature but very successful older men aren’t interested in career women. Could be interesting to look for a common denominator why this is causing dating issues for you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 06:45 AM
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I think this more suited in a kink sub ?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/26 10:19 AM
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I am confused a bit like 6 feet minimum height requirement or 6 inch 😅
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 06:00 PM
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It’s one of the few places where the accountability is put on men and women. I might not be RP enough but for the more liberal minded people I am too conservative. But I strongly believe in the traditional nuclear families where both father and mother is present and so it reduced the chance of children growing up with trauma or any other issues of a single mother household. I don’t judge anyone who goes through this and I know it’s hard work. Still I don’t think anyone should go through this str…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/26 05:56 PM
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From me also: that he is nice. I liked that he suggest ice skating the moment you said you never did. Never pressured you and initiate dates. I would ask explicitly where he stand now before you pursue any further.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 12:11 PM
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No parents should ever lay hands on their kids , I am sorry it happened to you. And you should absolutely stand up for yourself and draw a line. And I am glad you have firm boundaries against mistreatment everywhere else in life too. I would love to have more context. You stated your friends are in stable relationships do you think your friends are less assertive , what other qualities were there you think that leads them to happy marriage? You have past relationships and there were no issues an…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/26 06:16 AM
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I am sorry this happened to you. This sounds very exhausting. I am mostly a stay at home while husband is always away overseas so naturally childcare would be my responsibility. I love my spa day too. If I need alone time i would drop the kids to the grandparents but occasionally if he is at home he would watch the kids he can handle them just fine . But looks like your husband is not willing to do any of it. You said you don’t have families so no grandparents either ? And he already drop the di…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/26 07:25 AM
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Can’t speak for every man. Some like hot some like cute. I’ve watched a sports show and the wives of the athletes were shown and I would say those definitely choose on the „cute „ side. I wonder if the psychology of it that those women appeared more approachable, homely and project less danger ?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 01:06 PM
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I second this. Love those books it was so entertaining read but so very educational too . I’ve read in my language and English and the translation overdramatized a bit but it stated if I don’t die there’s no reason to text him first and give him the same energy 😆
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 07:10 AM
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I have a feeling that you have to convert to his religion if the prospect of marriage ever comes up. How do you feel about his religion ? My friend came from that religion she received lots of backlash from her family and her relationship with her partner faced many difficulties. They are married now and I am happy for them. Her husband converted and the family accepts him bit by bit yet there is still some conflict. Could you see yourself converting to another religion?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 06:42 AM
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I think you need to have more conversations with him and find out more about his political views, but also other aspects like religious beliefs , marriage, and if any of other values and lifestyle that would align with you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/26 10:02 PM
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Surgery is expensive and permanent. I am not trying to talk you out of it it’s your choice it that makes you happy. But have you tried consulting with an orthodontist as an alternative? You could still get surgery at the end still but I had very good experience with them. They fixed my jaw, teeth and my face in the process too. My former classmates almost didn’t recognize me during meet ups. It’s a longer process but worth it
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/26 07:11 AM
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Haha love this comment 😆
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/26 06:18 PM
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Your career is advancing into more responsibilities and workload. Before you decide anything , breath , slow down and maybe take a vacation first. I think you deserve it. 🙂 I believe you don’t have to switch career for more feminine traits. You can keep your position and vetting a man who isn’t intimidated by your career. When you settle down with him and starting a family in the future you probably automatically fall into the more traditional role of homemaker and childcare and I am sure will r…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/26 04:01 AM
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Interesting read but there is a lot to unpack. You stated that you don’t meet women who has the choice of decent men. Actually there are lots of decent men and decent women. And it’s a skill to sort the bad ones out . So you don’t have to settle for a guy to keep the PUA away from you. Sadly vetting a good guy should be mandatory skill that is never taught in women. A decent women will always attract decent men so she never have shortage of eligible what wants to marry her. Same as a traditional…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/26 07:37 AM
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Interesting about the difference. I agree and I’ve also seen the opposite. My husband said after he got married people treat him with more respect and more seriously than he was single. This could be correlation and not causation. Environment could play a role in this, when you have friends who believe in marriage will be genuinely happy for you when you settle down. When a man is still single in the group of married off friends we began to wonder if he is not interested in women and we try to s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/26 08:57 AM
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Time zones and demanding careers can make people seem distance when they were just busy and life happens so you didn’t rejected him in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/26 12:12 AM
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Then I apologize if I generalized that men in general will show interest upfront. Nevertheless I have to object that the endorsed member accused me that I suggest the OP that she should be playing games which I wasn’t. And I quote from the WIKI that : { Red Pill Women seek commitment from men, and Captains or strong, competent leaders as partners.} Can you explain how my statement contradicts that if the man she is dating should lead first ? The endorsed member clearly states that OP is in her 4…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/26 12:08 AM
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But you disagreed first and had to replied to my comment and redeemed my advice as bad. So is my advice less appropriate then ? OP didn’t disclose her age and in the end it’s up to Op how she operate. But she get the benefit of alternative advice to draw a big picture from. Why do we have monopolizing one opinion only ?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/26 11:27 PM
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If he initiates more dates then be happily receptive and feminine
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/26 08:25 PM
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If he don’t initiate more dates with you then you also don’t do anything. But when he does you can be open with him. You already met him and already showed him that you are happy to him. Step back and let him lead
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/26 07:11 PM
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Same here. I believe distance keep the excitement up in the marriage. Also decenter the other partner but still respects them, put less pressure on us both. We are different individuals and I believe me and my husband can’t be more different. I enjoy my little silly things with my friends freely with no judgement while he enjoy his stuff. A spouse doesn’t have to cater to your every needs like Esther Perel said. Balance it out with other people
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/26 11:54 PM
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Thank you for your insight. I love those books and secured myself a marriage and filter out all the red flags. It’s like relationship bible. While we are not emotionally connected. We literally have parallel lives but it works. It was a struggle over little things like food and what I like him to enjoy with me. I stopped going after him and went pragmatic. Ok you don’t want to go out for shopping then I go with my friends. You don’t want sushi fine have your pizza let’s meet again at the mall 1 …
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/26 09:51 PM
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They do not treat women like this in real life because those are key board warriors. They would not dare say anything to a women IRL what they say on the internet. Also men have biological clock too
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/26 03:50 PM
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Ah don’t worry. Yes I love getting dolled up too. Thrift store shopping is my favorite. I alway found the most coolest stuff in there. And higher quality clothes too
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/26 01:02 PM
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LOL what ? Friends, Family , shopping, Walk in the park, cafe , restaurants museums, library like endless options .the world doesn’t evold around him
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/26 10:37 PM
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I believe. You should always ask why you attract the bad ones and not the ones who wants to commit. The common denominator is not the men. I always tell my single gfs this yet they fail to understand. When I suggest therapy they react rather offended. Usually they have the similar pattern of giving sex too easily before scanning if they even want to commit or not. They operate on intense attraction and throw out their common sense or something
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/26 08:43 AM
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I am going to hold your hand when I say this . No Red pill won’t change your mindset because you center men in your life. No matter what method you find will never work. May I suggest therapy so you can address the issues why you are doing so much for men yet didn’t get commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/26 05:53 AM
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I see so you don’t want to allow much more loss.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/26 02:32 AM
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I myself is not an expert on this but on the verge of war shouldn’t we like invest more in gold ? Is he taking caffeine in pills ?💊
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 10:40 PM
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Avoiding bad men and filter them out is a soft skill that isn’t taught to women at all. So it has nothing to do with being red pill. It means maturity and emotional intelligence. I believe red pill goes beyond romantic relationships and not being solely transactional . I’ve found out much later that I am red pill after I’ve already witness the dynamic and being in it. They are many good men out there who naturally lead , protect and guide , fathers, brothers, uncles , teachers . Beside my father…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 11:09 AM
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First off yes a man is always trying to hook and never believe a thing men say during dating stages. He said he wanted a wife just to lower guard down. And next time don’t video a guy for over 2 hours. It made put low effort. Chat very short and sort out a date in public place but don’t stay too long. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 12:38 AM
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When I feel disrespected I just simply remove myself from the situation and steer my plan away from him. He will notice the silence. But I am petty sometimes I dress real nice and simply said to him see you later without saying where I am.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 09:52 AM
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It’s not being bubbly or sexy. It’s about clear intentions. While it’s fun to flirt but long term partnerships is about aligned values
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 03:56 AM
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I think I found one of your issues. While it might come off a bit judgmental toward those women. Men marry „ plain Jane“ because they can be taken seriously. I am not excusing their cheating behavior but simple also means stability. Stability is good base for marriage. Femininity don’t have to be performative by signaling sexiness all the time. Also you don’t pick men who is too sexual towards you. You also pick men who is probably on the stable and educated side. You being sexy and flirty doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 02:26 AM
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Hi I am trying to give you a grounded advice. I had to stop and pause the way you mention the men with partners who are with plain Jane wives ? Can you explain? Also men says the most loveliest to women to get what they want and when you mentioned they said sexual things to you they just want to sleep with you. You probably exudes many sexual energy which men picks up very early, that can also diminish your chance to be taken seriously. So when you gives off sexual energy with flirting but men d…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 02:06 AM
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You are right. I am such a nerd lol. My grandpa is a hunter and I love his car that he has for years. It’s old rusty but it drives everywhere and still working.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 11:16 AM
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I never found any evidence of cheating since he is keen on sharing locations and transparency. He also gave me passwords to everything in case I have to manage something when he find himself with no internet connection at all which happen a few times. No secrecy on phones or bank accounts he doesn’t care if I look or not. But I could be naive and if he is cheating then …men would find their way anyway. Yes the hotel incident was truly scary. Few other incidents were like. His past fling which he…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/26 01:55 PM
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Thank you so much and I appreciate your sharp deduction. You are spot on that me and my husband are from very different culture. Yes I am from overseas, younger than him. But I met him in his homecountry and I spoke his language really well. There is a lot of double standard in this. When a man does something nice for his women with gifts he is thoughtful but it it’s me there is a hidden agenda from my side. Yes those women are either past relationships, or flings or somewhat connected or even n…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/26 01:03 PM
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Thank you for insight. I grew up in very warm buddhism community. I might not be used to western etiquette yet which often I find people are more colder or not used to casual small talk. I could be socially awkward due to cultural differences but I hope I won’t come as rude ever. Politeness and Friendliness is my main social interaction. I have solely female friendships and I befriend new women easily on many occasions. Of course I am aware that I can’t please every women but i noticed most of t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/26 07:43 AM
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Why I am paranoid or why it happened? I wish to know to why too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 10:30 PM
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Thank you for your insight. You are right. It’s not about the car there is a deeper issue. It is a paranoia probably. Then how I find out myself a bit scared or sensitive when some women is openly nice to my husband but complete the opposite towards me even I never met the person before. I faced a lot of harsh criticism regard this marriage and I just want to live my life in peace. I befriended one women who lives nearby and she admitted that she and her family said some below the waistline ster…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 06:34 PM
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He already cut off all contact to his past relationships. And it was fine until he got married. I don’t know why they did this nor could he explain because he didn’t do anything. It was unprovoked. I eventually told him to delete all my pictures from his social too. And don’t post me ever again. Because one women was angrily commenting. We are too different to mesh our world together and to avoid conflict it’s more functional this way. I also need to add that we agreed on no emotional work. He i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 03:07 PM
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I sadly received unprovoked anger and frustration from random women after I got married. I even had to call the police because they threaten to go after my kids. Or some I had my husband report to their work. I don’t feel safe that’s why .
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 02:24 PM
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you are right. Safety concerns was his reasons. But I kinda want to prioritize my anonymity. If I pull up with a something unspectacular then I can just blend in. I am used to being invisible because there is so much freedom to it. Now you mention it . It felt like I just borrow one of his cars even he registered it in my name. It’s not my style my taste too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 01:53 PM
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I kept my marriage a secret because there were some backlash that didn’t get sorted out from his past relationships which I don’t want to be a part of. It bleeds into my privacy and I was concerned. I received anger and frustration unprovoked. He finally get it sorted out but I still felt unsafe sometimes. Also yes the age gap and how different we were. I felt like I don’t belong into his world and I want to separate that from mine too. About his friends telling him yes I was casual conversation…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 01:48 PM
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It’s just me but I find it very attractive when men speaks monotone and slow. Don’t know it think it’s very masculine and shows that he felt secure and don’t have to prove anything. Means he is not stressed and can relax he had everything sorted out
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 12:26 PM
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Germany? Then I suggest your local farmers or winzer. And in rural area .
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 12:21 PM
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What a grounded and highly intelligent insight. Thank you for your post. I would love to read more of it from you.
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