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A good start would be understanding that there is no "patriarchy" there is a "plutocracy". Most people who die at work are men Most people who get injured at work are men. Most mentally ill people are men. Most people in jail are men. Most people doing work that gives them progressive disease are men Most homeless people are men. It is as if the average man in these categories is invisible. The world is harsh for almost everyone, man or woman.
/r/MensRights31/08/21 08:11 PM
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To me the biggest disgust in decades will be "you let mentally ill people cut off their genitalia."
/r/MensRights21/08/21 02:42 PM
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Go listen to The Blues. Most red-pilled music you will ever hear, even in the 20s and 30s.
/r/MGTOW19/07/21 12:48 PM
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Every Blues song is red-pilled, it's the entire basis for it.
/r/MGTOW02/07/21 05:54 PM
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Same. I bought an Egard watch for the same reason.
/r/MGTOW17/04/21 02:47 PM
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Crab bucket
/r/MGTOW26/12/20 03:37 PM
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OYS 39 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 154. Lifts 185 x 4 bench goal: 190 by January. 285 x 5 deadlift - goal 2x body weight by January 105 x6 OHP 215 x 5 squat. Goal: 225 by January Diet 1900-2000 TDEE, Cutting at 1600 per day. BF: Current 14% caliper, 15.6 lifts, 18.8% Navy. Goal: hit calorie targets 6/7 and within 5% on macros. T and other stuff you don't care about 200 mg injections same protocol, for about a month now. Social, friends, reading, dress/style etc all …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 01:44 PM
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I would say zero.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 12:45 PM
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I agree. That's why my plan is to keep lifting etc. I don't have the leverage yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:26 PM
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I don't want to be "going Rambo" basically.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 04:08 PM
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I was hoping for some good feedback so thanks. Admittedly I was/am not sure how to best proceed. All I know is I am not willing to do this much longer. Yes she has said "I feel bad for still being fat." But gives the excuse of how hard it is because of her Hashimotos Disease Your point on passive validation is a great one. In my mind I am "done but if you turn it around I will consider jumping back in." But in reality I need to commit to this, instead of "if you turn this around I am back in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 03:33 PM
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curious to know about the "baiting" and "weaponizing".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 01:01 PM
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It's all over but the crying for you, sorry to say. You got The Speech, have no kids? Easiest decision ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 12:57 PM
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OYS 38 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 154. Lifts 180 x 6 bench goal: 190 by January. 290 x 4 deadlift - goal 2x body weight by January 105 x6 OHP 210 x 5 squat. Goal: 225 by January Diet 1900-2000 TDEE, per 3.0, which seems low but that's what I get. Cutting at 1600 per day. BF: Current 14% caliper, 15.8 lifts, 19% Navy. Goal: hit calorie targets 6/7 and within 5% on macros. Reading Goal: five hours of reading and watching MRP stuff-met. Finished TWOTSM and re-reading …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 12:55 PM
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Lot to digest here. Will think about it. I appreciate the input and the serious consideration you have put into your response, so thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 08:45 PM
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FWIW I just had a similar discussion about lifting etc on the discord. That context was about me not having certainty that I can get BF below 15% navy since I have never done it before as an adult. But that does not mean I am not trying my hardest nor does it mean I will not do the hard work needed. I think "believe x with all your being and it will help it happen" is horseshit. It would be asinine to think "if I invest my belief in my wife doing something she hasn't done in 15 years, she will b…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 03:05 PM
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I am in no way afraid or scared of her succeeding. I want it more than anything and you are way off on the first part. Way off. As to the second part? You are definitely correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 01:28 PM
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This post should immediately get MRP APPROVED flair. This is right up there with J10 writings. Hell, maybe it should be stickied. Lifts STFU and Game? Wow I have never seen it laid out like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 12:49 PM
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OYS 37 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 154. Lifts 175 x 6 bench goal: 190 by January. 285 x 5 deadlift - goal 2x body weight by January 105 x6 OHP :goal 120 by 12/20. This is going to be a hard goal to meet. 205 x 4 squat. Goal was 200 by 12/20. Doing BLS but am adding one extra set to most of the big exercises while bulking. Diet 1900-2000 TDEE eating 1800 per day. Since I started T injections I have been gaining weight despite a cutting diet. So I am trying to eat sli…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 12:41 PM
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Calling bullshit on the women noticing you. Maybe out of pity.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:45 AM
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Holy shit what a clusterfuck. If nothing else, some OYS serve as cautionary examples. How about starting at step one: lift and STFU?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:42 AM
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Given your lifts you are fat. I know because I am about the same size, well past you on lifts, despite being 22 years older, and I still have a spare tire. Don't lie to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:38 AM
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Yeah I want to hear about this. As I am reading it I am thinking "wtf."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:36 AM
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I think you may be working on too many things at once. You need to focus on two things: STFU and Lift. Nothing else you do will move the needle right now. Give yourself six good months of good diet, lifting and STFU. And then you may find you have developed some self respect. After that, you can worry about the rest. Also nobody has "great success" after two OYS worth of STFU. Just don't bullshit yourself on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:29 AM
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I am, for that very reason. Second time around, about two thirds through.. Didn't really click the first time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 12:09 AM
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Good read. Even if I think it is cunt-i-ness I usually laugh it off and AA. But inside I do GAF. That is my issue, for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:29 PM
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Ah, that explains it. Was wondering why you would only be doing pushups
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:41 PM
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It's funny because legitimate criticism doesn't bother me at all. It's the shit test stuff. It seems more personal just because I know it is done to test me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:30 PM
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If you aren't lifting then pushups are a waste.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 06:08 PM
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Wtf is up with push-ups?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 02:46 PM
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I am at the same place as you on shit tests. Fake it until you make it to DNGAF; you know what the right thing is and you want to truly DNGAF, but you cannot help but take the shit tests as serious criticism and you cannot help but internalize it and be affected by it. And it feels confrontational. What helps me is thinking of the whole thing as a joke. AA works well for this as compared to AM, for me. The whole idea of taking a small shit test and amplifying it to insane proportions makes me la…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 02:45 PM
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Option 3.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 02:36 PM
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Good call. So many times men come here seeking to revive a long dead body, hoping that a miracle will happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 08:23 PM
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No porn, yes fap
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 04:56 PM
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I am right there with you on "do I want to do behavior A, or do I really just want to avoid feeling B." In fact so much of what you wrote applies to me (especially self-respect, and not doing enough). On bad days It is enough to make you want to give up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 01:54 PM
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OYS 36 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 154. Lifts 175 x 6 bench (up 5-proficient) goal: 200 by January. 285 x 5 deadlift (up 5- proficient)- goal 2x body weight by January 100 x6 OHP (up 5 intermediate) :goal 120 by 12/20. This is going to be a hard goal to meet as I am cutting diet right now. 195 x 4 squat (up 10). Goal 200 by 12/20. Out 15 pounds on since I made that goal. Doing BLS but am adding one extra set to most of the big exercises while bulking. Diet Coming of…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 01:45 PM
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I don't think you did anything "wrong" up until the point where it became obvious this is a lost cause. At that point everytime you don't pull the plug you are doing something "wrong " it appears to be literally true you get no value whatsoever, and in fact lose value from this relationship. The sooner you eject the better. There isn't a thing you can do to rescue it, and even if you could, why would you? It's a rough lesson and one that you couldn't have avoided, so don't beat yourself up.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 05:34 PM
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I am sometimes amazed at how well some guys can do at lifting but at the same time do so badly at the mental aspect of MRP.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 04:20 PM
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this is the answer to almost everything that gets posted here.
/r/askMRP22/10/20 06:53 PM
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We all start somewhere. But there is a big difference between a theoretical 1RM and actually doing that one rep.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 01:48 PM
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You may feel that it is embarrassing given your weight but list your actual lifts, not 1 rep maxes.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 11:55 AM
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*OYS 34 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 154 up 3 pounds since bulk started. Lifts 175 x 6 bench (up 5-proficient) goal: 200 by January 280 x 5 deadlift (up 5- proficient)- goal 2x body weight by January 100 x6 OHP (up 5 intermediate) :goal 120 by 12/20 185 x 6 squat (up 15). Goal 200 by 12/20. I know this seems like an easy one but with two bad hips I can't push too hard without risking injury. Doing BLS but am adding one extra set to most of the big exercises while bul…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 11:47 AM
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So is this the "say retard as much as possible" thread? Am I retarded for asking?
/r/askMRP20/10/20 02:17 AM
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She gives good advice that everyone should follow in the workplace
/r/MGTOW16/10/20 02:57 PM
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Get that T checked dude. Job 1. Defy Medical is my go to. Edit: after reading the comments from OP I am annoyed that I wasted my time reading this
/r/askMRP14/10/20 02:58 AM
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To think many of us think we have it rough because our wives are bitchy, or fat, or whatever. Situations like yours are a reminder of what real adversity is. I am so sorry for you, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 12:26 PM
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It can be tough but if there is one takeaway from this sub it is "nuke those divorce tests." When I got mine I simply said, "better yet how about I move out?" Total pressure flip. Not once since
/r/askMRP12/10/20 07:06 PM
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Don't knock it until you have tried it
/r/askMRP12/10/20 07:01 PM
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If you accept, I hope you are ok with anal
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:23 PM
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Damn man. I cannot imagine coming through such tough things as well as you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:22 PM
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This is good stuff. I am sort of in the same boat
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:16 PM
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Don't get caught up in checking off all of the books on the reading list. Better to read one or two twice or three times and practice what you read. Spend some time thinking about, for example, how you will respond to the usual shit tests you get; and try the responses. Then evaluate how they worked. So this enough so that you don't think about it, you just respond subconsciously. That will get you further than reading all day long.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:15 PM
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Style: go to Stitch Fix and for your "style choices" only click on items you would not normally buy
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:08 PM
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Yeah, I hate seeing this. Have to give some examples. Usually when people say this stuff without specifics it is bullshit
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:05 PM
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I nuked a high paying job also, about 15 years ago. Took a big haircut. Worth every penny. No one is in their deathbed saying "I wish I worked more." Don't do anything rash yet. Your story is par for the course. That's why we have the "one month for each year of marriage" guideline before making any big decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:02 PM
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I just bought grip trainers; good idea
/r/askMRP05/10/20 05:56 PM
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I tried it yesterday in my workout and will work it in.
/r/askMRP04/10/20 09:22 PM
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I started doing those with 45 pound plates today, 20 seconds a pop.
/r/askMRP03/10/20 11:09 PM
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I do not. But I will start incorporating it into my grip work
/r/askMRP03/10/20 11:02 PM
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16%BF? No way. I am 150 pounds, deadlift 275 and am exactly at 16%. AskMRP isn't therapy. If you want a simple "what do I do?" You are in the wrong place. If you want to improve, stop lying to yourself. Or just divorce and move on.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 05:55 PM
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Everyone who doesn't know how to lead: "my wife has undiagnosed BPD."
/r/askMRP30/09/20 05:52 PM
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Very much so. I have mentioned it often in past OYS. Praise, diet, working out together. Getting her to lift weights in the last two months (during which time she lost those pounds). I feel your pain though.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 03:23 AM
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Yeah the comment. I felt like an AH after. But clearly you are correct, since she didn't really care.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 08:12 PM
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*OYS 33 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 150 (up 1.5 since last week). Lifts 170 x 6 bench (proficient) 270 x 5deadlift (up 5- proficient) 100 x6 OHP (up 5 intermediate) 170 x 6 squat -(back down to novice, still) Doing BLS but am adding one extra set to most of the big exercises as I am starting a bulk. The squat is always an issue because of my bilateral hip issues; not much I can do. Now that I am no longer cutting I hope to make gains. Goal: 4 workouts. I haven't fai…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 11:30 AM
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Got it guys, thanks. As usual I will think about what you have pointed out and keep working. Appreciate the course correction, rewarding good behavior/punishing bad did not mean what I thought. And I probably should have figured that out
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 08:55 PM
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Is there a link for it?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 12:02 PM
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This hurts. 40 pounds from now my wife will be 148.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 11:55 AM
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Maybe you did better at OYS 14 but I didn't. For a guy only a few months in, this was a home run.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:26 AM
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Hmmm. Will think about this. So if my goal is to "condition" her what do I do? Or am I thinking about this the wrong way? I am trying to reward good/disincentive bad behavior. If not attention, then what?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:24 AM
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Tell her "if you get fat I will still be attracted to you. By gravity."
/r/askMRP22/09/20 06:36 PM
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Thanks. It is an experiment and I keep tabs on everything, every day so will abort or adjust as I go on.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 06:35 PM
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I still am so small that I need to cut below acceptable levels. I can't lift and eat 1200 calories a day. And I need to reset the hormones. And I want to bulk; I haven't done a real bulk yet so it's time to give it a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:14 PM
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That's a lot of reading done for OYS 4. My opinion is that most guys go too broadly at the start, rather than absorbing and focusing on the right stuff. Better to read and think about NMMNG at your stage than to read TWOTSM for example. Spend time thinking and putting stuff into practice instead of moving on to the next book in the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:11 PM
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Came here to say this. STFU and Lift (and eat). Work on that, DeadBruce. And STFU. AA/AM just doesn't work with no frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:07 PM
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This is exactly what new guys should take away from STFU. It doesn't mean literally, and the reason it works is that it makes her hamster run. "At the gym" no more. And then not getting defensive and understanding what her snooping meant? Man, you hit a home run on this, IMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:04 PM
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I think that, in my case, there is always a hint of validation in sharing wins. So I think like OP does. So, when you share a win, what are you thinking about why you share it? Isn't there always a little bit of "look how awesome I am?"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:01 PM
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I like this idea of "all spine no heart." I realize that this is my problem; I am hyper focused on spine. I need to read TWOTSM again
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 04:46 PM
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Man I don't get this. After 60 OYS this shouldnt be an issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 04:43 PM
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Yes. But it is still guesswork in that you really don't know if your workouts warrant the 1.15 multiplier or another one.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 04:41 PM
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Good stuff. I am going to absorb this and think on it
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 02:28 PM
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OYS 32 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 148. Lifts 170 bench (proficient) 265 deadlift (up 10- proficient) 100 OHP (up 5 intermediate) 170 squat -(back down to novice, still) Doing BLS but am adding one extra set to most of the big exercises as I am starting a bulk. I am deathly afraid of it going badly and gaining back mostly fat. So I figure working out harder will help. Diet Nine weeks of cutting at 1300-1500 calories. Loss of 3.5 pounds. Last two weeks almost zero lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 11:42 AM
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You will be man when you do this on purpose and then AM off your wife's criticism. Me, I am not yet a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:30 PM
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Amazing how quickly wen can go from bitch to sweet wife? Feelz....and their inability to break your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:27 PM
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Lawyer up dude. That is the same for all intents and purposes. Maybe you will be the first to get past it. If my wife said "I shouldn't have married you but someone else" this would be an easy decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 04:27 PM
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What do people have here against trying to help other guys find their way? People still need Morpheus to help them out once in a while. I recently joined a shooting team. As a beginner i suck. There are experts all the way to beginners. If I ask for help and advice, one of the non-experts helps me. Is that wrong because he could better use his time improving his own performance? Maybe. But does he get something from helping me, even if it is as small as "proving that I have enough knowledge to h…
/r/askMRP10/09/20 02:11 AM
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I am getting value out of it. It's one thing to know about myself, but another to a) try to think about what I would do if I were someone else and b) see if other vets take me to task. I see it as a chance to apply what I have learned to other situations that I haven't yet faced. So I think of it as a way to war -game and be prepared should I fall into the same boat. In my previous OYS I mentioned that I was considering mentoring. So it is part of my mission to see if I can help some other guys.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 01:57 AM
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At first STFU is literal. But then you let the reins out a bit. Your phrasing about not rehashing is right, I think. You didn't STFU bit said your piece. Fine. Once it is out there you absolutely cannot backtrack on what you call a "key issue." If anything that could in any way be interpreted as a backtrack, then literally STFU. Home run on doing that with the BJ. You may still need work but after 6 OYSs to get to that point is more progress than most guys will make in 20.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 02:20 AM
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Honestly, this seems like great progress to me, nice work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 02:13 AM
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I am a minority of one on this, but I have no issue not having sex or not initiating, as a "strategy." But it only works if you don't have genuine desire and she knows why. If your wife is good looking then get out of your head and just do it. If she is a whale like mine was (now maybe a smaller whale) it is easy: I started lifting, stopped initiating and she came around. The thing is, I told her I was embarrassed by her weight, directly. If you are just going to ignore her and not give her a ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 02:10 AM
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Next time you get that "aww does my poor baby feel sad" you may want to come over the top on that. I am sure other vets have better advice, but just get up, say "I am off to the brothel on Main street" and leave to go to the gym, while turning your phone off. Or something better, but be prepared for it, and walkthrough it in your mind before you intitiate. Anything is better than what you have done here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 02:02 AM
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Isn't the sweet spot 300 calories above TDEE?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:55 PM
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On the calorie count: why didn't you make him eat a whole pizza?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:52 PM
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I like the fact that your goals are measurable and concrete, aside from 7. Now do those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:52 PM
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He doesn't have the frame for that discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:49 PM
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Game theory plan?? If this is a serious comment, then the answer is you have a Dominant Strategy: improve yourself and stay the course for now. You aren't the first guy in that position.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:48 PM
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Options: STFU and get shit together. You may eventually divorce (I would bet the ranch on this if you have any balls) Big gap Confront and kick out Another big gap Give a second chance. What a clusterfuck...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:46 PM
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It's OYS 1. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:41 PM
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Fair enough. It is labelled but my point is technical: clicking separate links for each level instead of "the sidebar". Once you start reading (or at least when I do) I keep going to "next part" until I reach the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 02:55 PM
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OYS 31 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 148. Lifts 165 bench (proficient) 265 deadlift (up 10- proficient) 95 OHP (down 10-intermediate) 170 squat -(down 5 and back down to novice) Diet No change from last OYS. Cut diet, 1300 calories. (TTEE 2200). I am cutting until I lose that 10 pounds, so probably until my weight is around 140. Maybe a bit steep on the cutting? Reading and commentary on sidebar I read the sidebar again this week. Every word (aside from the divorce st…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 11:39 AM
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Lol I was going to post something similar.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/09/20 02:05 PM
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Not just that but focus on that like a laser. Don't worry about all the other sidebar stuff. Read it for sure. But if you have too many irons in the fire you will not make progress. If you have it in you we will see you at OYS 30.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 02:34 AM
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Man, I was in your shoes once. Skinny fat, whale of a wife the whole thing. You do not need anything more than STFU AND LIFT for six months. Work on that shit. Don't worry about talking to strangers etc. And don't say a fucking word to your wife about anything you are doing: no validation, no nothing. And after that you will be ready to start your journey. Too many newbies here complicate matters and try to understand everything. Breadth instead of depth. I was there too. That thirst for knowled…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 12:29 AM
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I guess your flair is no longer valid. But at one point you were grinding so fingers crossed you can get it back. At least you admit "no excuses" which is more than a lot of guys can do
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 12:21 AM
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I had trouble once really understanding "abundance mentality." Until I read your "Background" above and now it is clear... Lift. Hard. STFU Hard. Keep your nose to the grindstone. Then in a year start making some decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 11:50 PM
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Now the question is whether you have the frame to say no to another kid, or whether you will bullshit us and yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 11:49 PM
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Yeah I don't get the 1-5 levels. Level one should be what is now level 6. 1-5 should all happen at the same time and basically isn't "dread" it is "owning your shit."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 06:33 PM
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Will add: too many guys think they can "make it happen." You do the work. Her reaction cannot be predicted. It may happen, it may not happen. But you can't make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 06:32 PM
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You need forethought. Almost like war games; try to envision before the fact what can go wrong, so you will be ready. STFU is fine but when big stuff goes down you need a different approach. Instead of reacting, plan ahead. "I am not going to listen to this as I have told you before, so when you are ready to talk rationally I will." Calm and matter of fact. Then STFU and leave for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 06:29 PM
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If I were you I would make zero big decisions until you are under 200 pounds. Let's assume for a second that what happened with your wife isn't from actual attraction but from something else: What do you think that something else is? Hit the sidebar and answer this question, and I think you will have a realistic view of what is going on and the way forward (which is what my first sentence means). You have made progress for sure but I don't think that your sexcapade means what you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 05:07 PM
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I love you man, but that "universe" stuff is horseshit. If that gets you through the day, fine, but it is still BS. Believing that allows you to escape reality, and that is anathema to what MRP is about IMO. The "universe" doesn't do anything. There is only what you bring upon yourself and what random chance has in store for you, and it may very well beore than you can handle. Here is a better adage: the universe is just random chance, taken personally.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 05:00 PM
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I use Defy Medical. No concerns at all. Just STFU and contact them. You lost 100 pounds? Congrats on that. Keep working hard. I seem to say this a lot but too many newer guys here chose breadth of reading rather than depth. And you read a lot but absorb nothing. IMO you should it be worrying about NMMNG and WISNIFG. Read those at least twice more. Absorb and practice the lessons. Every day I think of one common scenario and how I will respond. It has worked wonders for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:20 PM
3

Wow what a clusterfuck. Glad to see you have decided to file.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:18 PM
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You obviously need to consult a lawyer; once you get the speech this is inevitable
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 03:50 PM
3

You are doing what I hope to do, I am 50 now, started lifting and OYS a year ago.
/r/askMRP27/08/20 10:48 PM
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To others this may seem like a small thing but 2wo2wo hit the nail on the head. One thing that has made a difference for me is watching this language (I touched on it in my OYS). If you want you wife to do x, don't ask "honey can you do x" or even "will you do x." You want something just say it , but use feminine praise: "you look good in x so how about you wear that?" You aren't asking her nor are you giving her a command
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 04:18 PM
1

Coincidentally (this is my first comment on the sub) I had these literal exact same thoughts while lifting today and used it as motivation to lift harder. No one cares about you but you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/08/20 03:50 PM
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It is a goal, but I am within 5% every day. I use protein water for my drink at dinner, a scoop of collagen powder with coffee. That's an additional 30g. Lot of seafood: smoked salmon for breakfast and broiled fish or shrimp for dinner.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 02:05 PM
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An hour? Damn....STFU for that long is nuts. I can't say I would have done any better but I hope other vets chime in
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 05:38 PM
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Nice use of STFU from the beach. But when the wife is haranguing you that is the time for fogging. If you just sat there and listened that makes you look like a weak child who can't bear to talk back to mommy. If you recover from ILYBINILWY you will be the first, keep that in the back of your head. Don't let that deter you from your mission but let it color your view of whether your mission is real. Good luck look forward to seeing more from you
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 05:03 PM
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I would like to hear more details about the blowup. That is tough to deal with when you don't have alot of experience; other guys here probably could have pulled off the "laugh it off" but not you (or me for that matter). Keep owning your shit, STFU and Lift, and make no bid decisions about your wife until you have spent a year on self improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 04:34 PM
1

OYS 30 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 148. Lifts Curiously, since my weight has dropped below 150 I am now proficient at Bench Press and Deadlift and intermediate on Squat 165 bench (proficient) 265 deadlift (up 10- proficient) 95 OHP (down 10-intermediate) 175 squat -(unchanged intermediate) Hip issues popped up so I deloaded Squat to 145 When I started posting here I wrote that I was 165 pounds and around 23%BF in OYS#1. Now I am about 15%BF (13.5 caliper, 15.3 based…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 12:53 PM
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Why do I think this is the fucking stupidest argument I have ever heard? Not going to a lake house because you allegedly don't like her BP friends? Are you worried that you will revert to your old ways? If not, this makes no sense to me at all. If being around blue pill men is so distasteful that you won't even go on a trip with your alleged girl then I think you need to ask why you are so afraid of being around BP men. Seriously I have no idea what the problem is here other than stupidity.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 02:23 PM
2

Go to Defy Medical
/r/askMRP21/08/20 02:14 PM
2

That doesn't deserve a Rule 9. He has the right idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 03:20 AM
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The most important thing you wrote: "(for me)". Keep that in the front of your mind when you need motivation. Don't agree to the open marriage thing of course. It may be too late for you. She may already be cheating and looking for permission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 03:18 AM
3

You need to memorize the STFU stuff in the sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 03:15 AM
2

By work I mean "his wife will say why the fuck are you looking at me like that" if he has no frame or hasn't done that shiat before. I am sure mine would laugh if I tried a cocked eyebrow. i think "STFU and leave" would be better for most guys, but to be honest I do that as a default, for good or bad. The key takeaway is "don't engage in that discussion".
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:43 AM
2

If you are DEERing this much to random MRP guys taking you to task I can only imagine what it is like with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:29 AM
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I hope you didn't actually discuss that "whole life crisis." In my mind I have changed from "let everyone else think what they want" to "I hope these fat fuck husbands' wives will be jealous." The "you are having a midlife crisis" is pure crab bucket nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:21 AM
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Good job on your first OYS. Read to sidebar ad nauseum. You are definitely a dancing monkey like many of us were. Goddamn that story about silent treatment etc was so close to home for me, once upon a time. Best advice you will ever get: learn to STFU. If you have been lurking here it is one thing, but putting not into practice now is another.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:16 AM
3

What is a good response for OP? I doubt the eyebrow cock will work for someone who doesn't have a history of that type of reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:08 AM
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OP should absorb the "rape victim" article. I read it every month because it is one of the best "food for thought" items I have seen since I found MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:05 AM
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If ever there was a throwaway shit test it is "your pecs are too hard, they hurt my boobs." Lol that was a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 12:03 AM
2

We don't need to know about your sex life
/r/askMRP17/08/20 05:44 PM
2

I did that not long ago, did an 8 week bulk ending mid July.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/20 01:45 PM
1

All dialed in.
/r/askMRP15/08/20 01:43 PM
2

Yep. That actually is what I was really asking: is my progress is on target, not poor.
/r/askMRP14/08/20 07:45 PM
1

I am. Have been OYS for the last year
/r/askMRP14/08/20 07:41 PM
1

Were
/r/askMRP14/08/20 05:17 PM
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Shit, forgot to put it in. 15% BF. One year ago when I started, I was so skinny fat that I had a 35-36 inch waist in pants, with no muscle tone at 165 pounds. So, Gru, basically but smaller. After initial cut down to 145 pounds I did a bulk that did nothing since I was an idiot. So I cut again. Then did a good 8 week bulk. Overall down to 150 with BF down from 29%. Goal is to see six abs, so down below 12. I know others have told me it will be tough to get there without more muscle, so my plan i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:42 PM
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I am glad both you and Steel responded because this OP needs some veteran help. I would never have thought about that projection
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 09:02 PM
2

Aha
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:49 PM
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Not saying you should be "starting dread." In fact I hate that idea. You get better, dread kicks in or it doesn't. You are already lifting etc. Maybe a vet can explain what I am missing. I don't see it as something you do or don't do. I see it as something that happens or doesn't happen and if it does or does not is not yours to decide. STFU works well with it because it gets the hamster running, and conveys they "DNGAF" attitude without having to say "IDNGAF." And you stay away from fucking thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:48 PM
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Me too. Maybe I will just stick with what works for me. It is easy to overthink. But I want to get to a point where I can be amused at these tiffs.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:48 PM
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Hmmm, what would you say if she came to him for a comfort test instead of going to the couch? I have a long way to go apparently. When I read this I thought the crying was a comfort test. The issue him "breaking the ice" so to speak and going to her, correct? Back right before I found MRP I had a similar situation with crying that I ignored. She came to me and said "didn't you see me crying?" DEER and off to the races. I still am not sure what I would do/say if this happened tomorrow. Then I tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:45 PM
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As I was reading OPs post I was wondering what the vets would say about it, as I have no idea how I would handle it. And of course you came to the rescue. I recall some guys saying something akin to "if I do cheat you will be the first to know" but given what OP wife is doing, I cannot see any response not blowing up in his face. So how would you respond if you were him?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:37 PM
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No photos for BF. That's nonsense. Don't worry so much about the mental yet at OYS 2. Thinking too much isn't bad as long as you keep it to yourself. Beta you was told to share your feelings etc, and that's BS. Learn to STFU, keep lifting and start dressing better. When and if dread kicks in, keep STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:33 PM
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Your mistake with the shit test was sticking around.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:29 PM
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Leaned out at 232? Are you 7 feet tall?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:27 PM
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Seems like you have at least taken some serious introspection. That is a good first step.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:26 PM
1

One thing to think about: why does STFU work when you have started dread?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:24 PM
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You need to think about fogging a lot of this stuff. I am lucky that my wife never escalates to the degree yours (and many others) do, so my two cents may not be as valuable. Look up Rian's series on YouTube on fogging and negative inquiry, I thought it was far more helpful than the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:00 PM
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Because he doesn't have frame yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 02:17 PM
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Lol "help me sort out her cell phone " If I were in your position there is no chance I would go to a LTR or get remarried.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:54 PM
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I would like to hear more about the shit tests. You are OYS 3 so still a noob, and the more details you give, the better. Nuke those divorce /separation tests. "I will help you pack." In my case I said "how about I move out instead." That was a bad response but she hasn't brought it up since (a year ago).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:50 PM
2

Hot Tamales?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:46 PM
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OYS 28 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 152. Lifts Intermediate: 165 bench (no change) 255 deadlift (up 5) 100 OHP (down 5) Novice: 175 squat (down 5) Diet Switched to cut diet, 1500 calories on non-lift days, 1700 on deadlift day as I am always in need of a protein shake after lifting. (TTEE 2200). 55/25/20 protein/carb/fat. Lifting sucks when you're cutting. I am sucking wind lately. My plan has been to alternate 8 week cuts and bulks since I am so small that I don't w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 12:44 PM
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J10 had a great post on this: when she starts in with this you show empathy, but do not reveal any of your own shit. For example, you might say "of course you are scared of having your needs go unfulfilled, we have a new baby etc ...but we will get through it. " You have given her empathy but also not fallen into the u/barracudaRP trap of making her feel disgust; you pass a comfort test to boot.
/r/askMRP07/08/20 03:10 PM
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Lol I will have to do this myself one day
/r/askMRP07/08/20 03:04 PM
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Your username is MRPHercules, but you actually had to post this? Clearly you have not absorbed anything from MRP.
/r/askMRP07/08/20 03:03 PM
2

I actually did not mean it as an insult.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 08:52 PM
2

My DL is intermediate, barely. My Squat is still novice. Ugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:26 PM
2

This is a great response and sobering in it's truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:17 PM
2

My wife dated a guy before we met who she said she had a purely physical relationship with. But he was an asshole. Gee what a fucking surprise. That shit made me angry AF and depressed. I went through a phase where I felt like you. And she let herself get as fat as a whale. I couldn't help but think "you would never have let yourself get that fat for the asshole, would you." If you can't channel that you need to discard it. And STFU. I wanted to say shit to hurt her too. Because I was a weak POS…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:11 PM
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That may be true, but in my case the anger was a great drive to keep working when I was starting out. Took me a long time to get past it, and still it rises up once in a while. I see it as a good thing as long as I don't let it consume me or move me from my path.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:05 PM
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"BP bad." That's funny. Good OYS though. Progress is invigorating isn't it? STFU and Lift!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:03 PM
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This isn't the place for journaling. Do your victim puke at AskMRP I guess. Your action is what OYS is for
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 06:01 PM
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Jesus, my wife is 8 inches shorter and the same weight...that's a sobering thought. FWIW I think you fucked up. But my sex life is shit (see the above) and others here may have a different opinion. I also suspect that you got more resistance than you have told us about but only you know that for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 05:58 PM
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I am amazed at guys who are jacked and yet are pussies when it comes to their wives. No critique of you as we are all here for the same reason. But when I see jacked guys at the pool or wherever, I think he probably has it all together. Or at least I used to. Now I see them as most likely subservient betas to their wives even though they look like Men (cap intended). The dichotomy of this always amazes me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 05:54 PM
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What is your BF? I am 10 pounds lighter than you but bench the same weight, and am at least 50 below your squat and DL. I have two bad hips so that explains most of my issues with the lower body lifts, but I also wonder if I am just too weak in the lower body as well for my size.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 05:49 PM
1

Everytime someone mentions kettlebell workouts all I think of is "this guy is gay."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 05:47 PM
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First step is posting here; damn you have a lot of work to do... Don't fuck around with workouts. Stronglifts is the best starting point, just get into the habit of doing it for a few months. BLS is great also but it is more difficult and requires more equipment. You need to just get into the habit of lifting regularly and whatever makes that easiest, do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 04:56 PM
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Is <STFU intensifies> the right response there? I thought that would be an AM situation. Wouldn't you look butthurt if you STFU as "because I turned you down for sex"?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 04:26 PM
2

Too much breadth not enough depth of reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 06:19 PM
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It isn't that men excel in higher paying fields. Men take horrible jobs that pay well, and that have high risk.
/r/MGTOW29/07/20 02:34 PM
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Go read the STFU stuff on the sidebar
/r/askMRP28/07/20 07:58 PM
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I don't know how this escaped me but damn you are skinny. Do you even lift bro? :)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:25 PM
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You should switch to Mathews' Bigger Leaner Stronger workout and do a cut. Your reading is a bit advanced for OYS 6. I think your time is better spent on the sidebar and thinking about what is there than TWOTSM or even NMMNG. I did what you did and those books didn't click until I had a lot more experience in STFU. It is too easy to lose ground when you have too many irons in the fire. Focus with laser like precision on STFU while reading and thinking and keep doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:22 PM
2

I have two girls but both have caught fish on their first fishing trips, and it was and is a great memory. They are so proud holding that fish.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:17 PM
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Escaping what you created seems like a reasonable solution to me if you cannot go back or recover what it was before you created it. If there is no hope of turning it around them so be it, it is a giant sunk cost.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:13 PM
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She is going to accuse you of the same or worse
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 02:53 PM
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Man, there should be some type of ban for "bragging about sex for no reason."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 02:04 PM
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Trying to sabotage you? It is far worse than that my friend. Sabotage is a shit test. What you have is her planting a seed in her family to combat what she knows is coming down the pike. This is big trouble, and if I were you I would not waste anymore time fucking around with divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 02:01 PM
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Just curious about the polarity: what triggered it? FWIW I always think the idea of initiating a deep conversation is a bad one. As you see, unless you have solid frame, it can go off the rails easily. I don't know why you initiated the "first authentic conversation". But you sound a lot like me, giving far too many fucks over what time seems like a simple shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 01:51 PM
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OYS 28 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 152. Lifts Intermediate: 160 bench 250 deadlift (edited -hit 250 today!) 105 OHP Novice: 175 squat Back up to where I was before deload. Not expecting much in the way of gains in the next month or two as I am cutting. Diet Switched to cut diet, 1500 calories on non-lift days, 1700 on deadlift day as I am always in need of a protein shake after lifting. (TTEE 2200). 50/30/20 protein/carb/fat. Relationship and shit I redoubled my rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 01:42 PM
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I had a discussion today about what will happen if Trump wins. We disagreed and she accused me of being "lawyerly" in my questions to her. So what did I do. I said "probably not worth discussing anymore." Then STFU and withdraw attention. Five minutes later it was like nothing happened. In my BP days it would have escalated or some shit that I couldn't foresee. So just get out of Dodge and STFU, works almost every time. Because I made it clear I DNGAF about the discussion and arguing with her wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 04:22 AM
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I like the way you are able to separate out the various components of DEER and see how they affect you. I have become a pro at avoiding the D and first E but still fall into the second E very easily. Have to work in that myself
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:50 PM
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You should be doing Dread 1-4 all at once IMO. These aren't linear stages to me, but categories of to work on. If you are trying to pass shit tests and failing, then don't try to pass them. Ignore them until you get better. Ignoring them works great - you will start to see that her hamster starts working and she will come to you a little while later. Doubling down is a disaster unless you have frame, and clearly you don't, yet. I was in the same boat as you at one point until someone called me o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:48 PM
2

Feeling this on the weight. My BF is now below 15 but I can still see a nice pouch on my belly. After a year of work I am probably only 2/3 of the way to where I want to be and that last 1/3 is going to be harder. I grossly underestimated what I needed to do. OP - the key is to not get discouraged and just "STFU and keep going".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:41 PM
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Lots of areas you are working on at once. Be careful you don't lose ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:38 PM
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Lift and STFU. Lift and STFU. Get it tattooed on your arm since you apparently need to. You did fine until the kids were in bed, especially when she threatened to move out. Best sex of the year? She has to reward her little pet to keep him in line, and here you are bragging about great sex like this was a victory. You cannot control what she does. If she wants to leave or does leave that is independent of you. Your goal is to be ready for it and to get to a point where you DNGAF if she does. Tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:09 PM
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This is a good OYS IMO. You seem cognizant of what you are facing, are taking concrete steps to achieve your aims and take ownership. Sounds to me like you are in good shape
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 06:01 PM
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Horns said your answer was a good one. Take note; my first thought was you should have fogged. Also you kicked in Dread without even realizing it (apparently), which is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 05:57 PM
1

If you have to ask us, then "no."
/r/askMRP21/07/20 05:47 PM
2

Hell yes x2
/r/MGTOW21/07/20 05:03 PM
1

Well done. Some people here just want to resist what the advice they are given and are too egotistical.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 12:10 AM
1

Right. What I meant was the "one month for every year" thing. My idea was/is I make no big decisions about my FO until I have one month for every year.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/20 12:00 AM
2

Sadly yes and she was even more ...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 03:53 AM
1

Exactly the same story as me. I STFU like a Pro and kept lifting, dieting and STFUing. OP: you do this and that's how real dread MIGHT kick in. You cannot force it to happen. You can't will it into existence. And it may not happen at all, in which case "stay plan is the same as the go plan." But whether it does kick in or not, you will be ready. But it all starts with STFU and not saying a thing, and letting her hamster do the work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 08:53 PM
1

Ok EVERY car trip we take that is more than 15 minutes or so I make her Navigator. So easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 08:47 PM
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OYS 27 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 153. Lifts Intermediate: 160 bench 240 deadlift 105 OHP Novice: 175 squat Was on vacation this week, resort gym was closed so no lifting. I planned ahead for this and scheduled it so that my vacation week would be a deload. Got back to lifting first day back. Between deload and cutting I lost 5-10 pounds on my bench and incline bench. Probably will face the same when I get to squat and deadlift, but I also expect to get it back qui…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 12:46 PM
1

At least 1.5 per pound.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/20 06:01 PM
2

STFU, lift and then STFU some more. That's the recommendation
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:33 AM
1

You need more protein than 200g in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:30 AM
1

Acting alpha and frame are secondary things to worry about. Your goal: STFU and Lift. And then STFU again. Sounds like you know this so good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:27 AM
1

And if you arent at 20 by the end of the month what do you do? STFU and keep working.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:18 AM
1

I used to think like you, and still do on occasion. More often than I would like. You understand that the whole great hosting was her giving you a bone because you were a good little doggy who didn't s*** on the carpet, right? It is not a victory in any sense of the word. but on the other hand you got s*** done like a man. Accept THAT as the victory, even if she had done nothing to recognize your efforts.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:15 AM
1

Horns said his advice is "try not being fat for awhile." If I were you I would spend a full year STFU and Lift before doing anything else. The rest of your OYS looks good to me. Get to work; the rest of your life just started. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:10 AM
1

How do you walk the line? If you don't know then STFU. I say this from experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:05 AM
1

A social media post criticizing you publicly is a huge deal in my mind. As bad as my marriage and life may have been, including me cheating, my wife would never have done this as it is the marital version of crossing the Rubicon. I now do shit around the house as soon as I can and have learned to enjoy it as part of Being A Man. Just STFU next time and do it
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 03:03 AM
1

My father-in-law is a very successful businessman and CEO; he always said you never make an offer to keep someone around since they are going to leave anyway at some point.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 02:59 AM
1

Getting back to appreciating the fun and pleasure of it is a big issue for me that is next up in my "tackle" list. My wife has been a whale for so long I became asexual and a fat fuck myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 02:54 AM
1

This may sound crazy to noobs, as I was there once but it might be the single best piece of advice any male can get once they are married. I wish someone explained to me that Dad Bods are bullshit, that working out makes you confident everywhere else, and can have synergistic effects in ways you don't anticipate. Simply trying to not be fat for a while is not the be all and end all. But most guys don't get how your life can change so quickly by just STFU and Lift
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/20 02:44 AM
2

Just STFU and eat!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 06:18 PM
1

Did you read the sidebar on STFU? If so, read it again. Twice.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 06:17 PM
1

Horns gave you great advice. Just STFU. literally everyone who comes here has to start with STFU. Always. Without fail and 100% compliance to start. It sounds bad but read the sidebar on it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 06:15 PM
2

Good for you in the weight loss. One thing I learned from others is to nuke "divorce" talks asap. Sounds like you did that also. Pretty good for OYS#2
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 06:12 PM
1

The update gave me a pit in my stomach
/r/MGTOW30/06/20 04:55 PM
2

You got cornered into counseling? Give me a break man. My wife (and plenty of others here) suggested it a few times over the years. My response was basically "I would rather just end it all". You at least recognize you have zero frame right now. Your "red, yellow, green" stuff is confusing and reads like buzzwords. If you were reading this from the perspective of someone at OYS 50, and saw someone at OYS #2 say "(red) i killed the dancing monkey- met" you would think (as I am right now) "wtf doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 01:44 PM
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"the more she lashes out at me the less I find her attractive" That is a hard one to get past and I am still working on it myself. It is BP thinking. I try to internalize it as "if my 5yo daughter was mad at me how would I react?" It helps to do this for the exact moment that the "lashing" happens. But for a loooonnngg time (when I didn't know about shit tests) I was in your boat. And on top of it my wife is a whale. And those two things together were like death until I found MRP in desperation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 01:36 PM
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This is painful to read for me, as cautionary example. I doubt there is any salvation here that doesn't end with you leaving, and at your age my bet is the thing that really stops you is dying alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 01:03 PM
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OYS 26 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 153. This is a garbage OYS of no value as nothing has changed and it was a week without any problems. That, in itself, maybe is notable progress. Lifts Intermediate: 165 bench 240 deadlift 105 OHP Novice: 175 squat Seven weeks ago I started eating on workout days and switched to the Bigger Leaner Stronger workout. In those seven weeks I gained 65 pounds on my deadlift and 50 on my squat. Still a novice on squat but hell, I am 100% …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 12:57 PM
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Alleged purge of "hate" subs. TRP and MGTOW among others rumored. Haven't seen specific rumor about MRP, but have to be prepared. There was a post a while back about a list of "female hate subs" and all are allegedly going to be part of the "purge." Just rumors. But you never know with how things are right now.
/r/askMRP28/06/20 02:55 PM
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Here is what I would do. You need to start the "go plan" in your mind, on the down low. Get your T in order, lifting etc. And STFU about it. If she comes around, great, if not go. As you improve yourself see what happens; maybe she ignores you for the obvious reasons (shitty captain) and will start respecting your boundaries. You are going to improve yourself for you, not for her, and be ready to leave when the time comes. And if it never comes because she comes around to follow your lead instea…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 12:59 AM
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"not really, it has been too long since I spanked you"
/r/askMRP23/06/20 07:36 PM
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Holy shit that is fucking horrible. Even at my worst I would know this was bullshit. I may not have known what to do, but I knew what not to do.
/r/askMRP23/06/20 07:33 PM
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I was never in dead bedrooms, but otherwise this was me a year ago.
/r/askMRP23/06/20 07:31 PM
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Great comment and explanation.
/r/askMRP23/06/20 07:30 PM
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Why is this a bad thing? I agree it was on purpose but why is this any different than "flirting with waitresses" or the other alleged dread-inducing strategies? FWIW I don't think any active strategy to induce dread is a good thing, you cannot make it happen, you just get better and it happens or it doesn't. So is that the answer?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 07:27 PM
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The main thing for me, as a skinny fuck, is learning how to do it right. I have it down now but needed to build that confidence and knowledge. My first try went badly and was a two or three month setback trying to cut to rectify the damage. Now I look at it as a long term plan and not "do it as fast as possible." But better guys than me (and OP) probably can eat big from the getgo; but in my case as a relative noob to both lifting and eating the gradual process seemed more logical. I started eat…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 07:22 PM
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You need to eat big my friend. Start Mathews' Bigger Leaner Stronger and eat at least 500 calories over maintenance to start, making 100% sure you hit protein goals (40-50%). Then increase calories every week. Given it three months of this and evaluate. And don't take the wife with you. You need to lift hard and follow Mathews double progression to a fucking T.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:57 PM
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Your response on the salesman was less "A&A" and more "shut your mouth, the men are talking." Not sure that I could have handled it better, but just pointing it out. I tend to fuck up A&A that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:52 PM
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Look up the definition of "penultimate"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:49 PM
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Overall things are ok? I don't think so. Don't even bother with A&A what you need to learn is fogging. Also you may want to slow down the number of initiations, that is a lot of rejection and worse a lot of power she has- and your initiation probably seems to her like a puppy coming back to eat it's own shit. You aren't good enough to fuck, in her mind. Work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:48 PM
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This is the truth. I was worried when I started eating and you know what: I worked harder at lifting and haven't gained a pound. Calories up to 3000 on lift days, no problem. Fat still going down (slower than a cut obviously). OP: eat big on lift days, do a cut diet on non-lift days until you get used to it and see the benefits.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:44 PM
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196 Testosterone? Wow man get on that and do not take no for an answer. If you made a boundary with the FB guy and it is being crossed, you need to act, man. If not, STFU but keep eyes peeled
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:38 PM
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I am curious from the guys who have successfully navigated OPs situation: what are the responses to the "highlights" of OP's discussion? I tried to think how I would respond and all I can up with was STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:29 PM
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You are new to this, you are trained to be a dancing monkey and don't know how to get out of it. Start reading the sidebar and come up with some specific goals
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 04:15 AM
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I will go cry myself to sleep now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 07:32 PM
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Everything is about sex. Except sex , that is about power. I disagree with the initiation advice here, but ONLY, and it's a big caveat, if it is because you have given the power to her by initiating AND you have not had sex in a few weeks. Then it's a decision about power, not validation, making it "fun" or the other stuff. But I am a minority here in agreeing with your last two sentences.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 06:06 PM
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Honestly you are probably bullshitting yourself. I see very few specifics here; mostly buzzwords as if you read the sidebar and are trying to get validation. It is one thing to say "I have a string willed wife who yields to my leadership" but another to be able to say specifically why
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 06:01 PM
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Lots of word puke here but little in the way of specific items and actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:50 PM
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Another week, another guy who shoots himself in the foot by refusing to STFU. Like clockwork.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:46 PM
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Your Sex section: women are fucking weird aren't they? Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:45 PM
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Cut out that cardio, start eating a lot more, start lifting five days a week and STFU. Then evaluate after three months. You have this as your goal so good job on that. I disagree with the crowd here in initiation once you have gone more than a week or two without; take that power from her and be a monk for a while, once you get better then get back to it. But make her understand that you are not initiating and her hamster will conclude "but maybe he will go somewhere else to get it." Just my tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:37 PM
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Have you thought about stopping initiation? I know that is anathema to most here, but it seems to me she still sees that "power of no" that you can take away. I think it is all over but the crying and you should either admit it or accept it and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 05:29 PM
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OYS 25 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 153. Lifts Intermediate: 165 bench (up 5) 222 dead (up 7) 105 OHP Novice: 165 squat (up 5) Diet 2800 on workout days (up 500) 1500 non-workout. 40/40/20 on workout days, 50/30/20 macros on non-workout days. 4 days workout per week. So three cut days and four "eat" days. All in on this body recomp strategy I am seeing why so much of the advice I got was to "eat more". As I have been increasing calories i still have maintained sub-15…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:05 PM
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Go to Defy Medical. I use them and a lot of other guys do as well. 100% satisfaction
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 06:10 PM
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Maybe I should write it for you, and do some thinking for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 02:27 PM
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I go back and forth between "i wish I found this 25 years ago" and "I am at least glad I found this now as opposed to ten years from now"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 02:26 PM
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I am still in "fake it until you make it" mode; that sounds like you are too. just STFU and keep going
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 02:25 PM
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My understanding is you supposed to use it on muscle. you can have negative consequences using it the way You are
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 02:24 PM
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Dude, every time I see your OYS I think "bless him for being 64 and still working his ass off." I am 50 and hope to be still at this if I reach 64. It's never too late, I guess, to start sprinting to that finish line
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:58 PM
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I started on cream two weeks ago after using gel. How long ago did you start? My T was below 400 when I started on gel, and only 490 after months of gel so upgraded to cream. Almost certainly will go the injection route unless the cream works wonders. 4x a day BTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:56 PM
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You have had 21 OYS and so I presume you have been working out longer than that? Why are your lifts so bad? And wtf does "pictures" mean for BF? If it's "visual" test thats nonsense. At least try http://www.strongur.io/body_fat_calculator/
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:51 PM
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Nothing of value here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:49 PM
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OYS #4 and this reads like you went to the sidebar, determined what "success" is, and wrote a story about it. I hope it's legit. Few men catch on that quickly. Also keep up the DNGAF on rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:47 PM
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5'7' 188 and only 12% on Navy Method? You must be built like a fucking tank
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:43 PM
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Your goals? Sounds like pipe dreams to me. What you need actionable things to do. How about coming up with some action items on each of those and put them down on paper? "Be in a financial place of freedom" isn't a goal. "Next week I will put 2% of my salary in the stock market" is a goal. Maybe you are doing these things maybe not, but damned if we know.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:40 PM
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You need six months of not even thinking about women. Get your house in order. And hit the gym so you don't look like a 14yo girl. You will get zero out of OYS until you read the sidebar twice
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:37 PM
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Use the "light" for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 08:33 PM
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This was satire.
/r/MGTOW02/06/20 07:57 PM
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Its easy at first but soon enough that lack of discipline will erase all your progress if you aren't careful
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:54 PM
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Are you saying you only met your calorie goal once? How do you miss a calorie goal by 1000? If I have this right, jesus Christ man have some discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:29 PM
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Goddamnit I wish I was this adept at coming up with responses. I am a bit concerned, OP, that it isn't just a shit test. So as you say, keep those eyes open.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:28 PM
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Is your wife attractive or is she like mine? I forgot what you have said before.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:26 PM
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Are you sure this isn't a sarcastic "yes sir?"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:22 PM
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OYS#24 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 150. Lifts Intermediate: 155 bench (up 10) 215 dead (up 5) 105 OHP (up 15) Novice: 160 squat- need over 170 for intermediate Diet 2300 on workout days (up100) 1400 non-workout (down 100). 40/40/20 on workout days, 50/30/20 macros on non-workout days. The idea is to keep weight constant or so, while gaining in lifts, on the assumption that doing so means lower BF and higher muscle mass. Correct? Stuck at 15% BF 35-inch waist. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 12:51 PM
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One piece of advice from someone who was in your shoes early on: it is never too late to STFU. You get the feeling something isnt right? STFU. no sex? STFU. Admit to yourself that sex ain't happening until you are better, and then you can decide whether to stay or leave and to fuck or not. And if you go six months without so be it, I went nine. But you cannot let her have the upper hand and gate keep. A lot of guys here say "initate and if you get shot down, reset tomorrow." To be fair my wife w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 08:23 PM
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You need to look inward a lot. This is a useless OYS for #2. No goals, no mission, no self-criticism.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 08:15 PM
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What is the point of this OYS? There is nothing of value here
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 09:23 PM
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Yes, and there will be a bachelor tax in the next decade or so
/r/MGTOW21/05/20 09:15 PM
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You don't say what program you are doing, but get a copy of Bigger Leaner Stronger and follow it to the letter. Good luck, hope to see you 25 OYS from now
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 02:01 PM
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I used to think "kids are my kryptonite" was just a few relationships. And then I found the red pill and saw that it is virtually every unhappily married man, me included. STFU with her and keep working.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 01:57 PM
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OYS#24 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 149. Lifts Intermediate: 145 bench 210 dead 90 OHP Novice: 150 squat- need over 170 for intermediate Diet 2200 on workout days 1500 non-workout. 40/40/20 on workout days, 50/30/20 macros on non-workout days. TDEE is 2200 at moderate activity and 1920 at light activity (1-3 hours). So assuming the BLS program counts as Moderate the above plan has me at 15,400 Cal for moderate and 13,400 for Light total TDEE. On three-day workout wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:33 PM
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The more I see this type of thing the more I think "why don't men respond by saying 'If I met your criteria why would a lower my standards to date you."
/r/MGTOW18/05/20 10:23 PM
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I actually just bought that barbell five minutes ago! Thanks man.
/r/askMRP17/05/20 08:58 PM
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I live in an upscale area and the cheapest membership is to LA Fitness at 45 a month. I am thinking about whether to just bite that bullet and join
/r/askMRP17/05/20 08:07 PM
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That is a great point. I have nowhere near bench pressing enough yet but I am planning on upgrading to a power rack and bench at some point. The bench set up I have right now is rated for 660 lb But if this is BS or sketchy let me know: https://www.iancheer.com/products/ancheer-adjustable-olympic-weight-bench
/r/askMRP17/05/20 08:03 PM
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I am using a one inch plate on the bar first then a two inch after that so it is wedged between two one inchers and won't slide or anything. But it isn't optimal
/r/askMRP17/05/20 07:05 PM
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In that case I am 8%
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:40 PM
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Double down on the fedora. I always get a ton of compliments on my hats. But go to a real hat shop and get multiple opinions- it is easy to look like an idiot. And don't trust yourself with the first one- I know too many guys that look like shit. You are a small guy, so small crown and medium to small brim
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:25 PM
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A year....that is encouraging and also discouraging. I am 50 and don't have time to waste. You know my story, and she is working but not as hard as I am, and there is always the fall back excuse of her Hashimotos making it hard to lose weight. It is so hard to tell how long I can let it go before it's too late. Will have to remember to discuss this next OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:20 PM
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Me too on the fear. It can be crippling. In my head I know what I should do and what I want to do. The problem with fear is it prevents you from actually doing it. In my case, as I have written about before, my wife is generally not a problem and is good in all respects but one: she is a whale. And even there she works. But when I get to be better looking (still skinny fat see my OYS) what will I do?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:11 PM
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Don't know if I agree. What matters is what you do with it: is it an admission of something that spurs you to improve? Or is it a pass? You can only know ex post facto I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:08 PM
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What is "photo method" for BF?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:05 PM
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Nice job handling that tiff. It's OK to piss the wife off; a lesson many need to learn including me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:04 PM
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See, THAT is the type of thing I am still bad at, both in recognizing and responding. Appreciate the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 03:48 PM
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No, I am saying that what I think in my angry mind. In reality she is losing but slow, and as long as she is working out I am willing to play along.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:28 PM
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OYS#23 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 149. Workout changes Newly started on Bigger Leaner Stronger plan and LOVE it compared to what I was doing before. I workout every other day, so week one is the 4 day workout and then next week the three day workout. Relevant lifts: 145 bench 195 dead 140 squat 90 OHP Edit made Intermediate today (!) at 210 deadlift x6. Honestly I am a bit surprised how much one week of BLS double progression matters. Just pushing myself every set …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 01:28 PM
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50% chance it's all BS? Man if my wife were that much of a liar I would rather get cheated on and make life easy. I doubt that the chance is that high; OP shouldn't be misled that she might not be attracted to, or already fucked, someone else
/r/askMRP08/05/20 06:52 PM
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FWIW MRP isn't Dear Abby or an advice column. That said, you now know what is going down.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 06:49 PM
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Another day, another "I don't know how to STFU" post....
/r/askMRP06/05/20 03:03 PM
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This is the best place I have seen for it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:05 PM
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My agree and amplify move on any shit test is to flex and ask if my wife wants to go to the gun show. That would probably work here. It works so well even my kids laugh and start imitating me so that it has become a running gag that always gets laughs
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:43 PM
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I assumed the wife post was a joke by OP. It wasn't? LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:41 PM
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Excellent advice here!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:38 PM
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FWIW this is the hardest thing to do as a parent but easily has a HUGE ROI. Only need to lay down the law and stick to it once. But that once, as you know, can be fucking difficult. I almost think that this moment with children is akin to the main event, whereas if you stick to it and get through it things are changed forever and for the better
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:35 PM
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This is my issue in a nutshell....and the answer is I have no idea. I know what I want to do, I know what I should do. But as to what I will do, that is what MRP is for. So, OP, STFU, keep working and thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:29 PM
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Your upper body lifts are really weak. So get to the gym. Q: why are you on MRP if you are single and 20? And can we trade places?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:19 PM
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You seem to have the physical part all wrapped up, but man that video chat story is a fucking horror show. I cannot even fathom what you were thinking...how about just turning it off?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:18 PM
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No joke I have both. At least for now
/r/MGTOW05/05/20 06:15 PM
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What was your Betamax reply? When in doubt kiss on the forehead and say it's all good, then go do something outside or away from her
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 05:29 PM
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He was so close. But seems like progress, just have to bottle that and release it when needed, OP. I try to be prepared ahead of time with canned responses
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 05:27 PM
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Most guys here recommend, and I agree, that when the wife threatens divorce you nuke it right there. "Ok I will help you pack" is what some have said with good results
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 05:25 PM
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For the umpteenth time, guys need to learn to STFU. Go read that about a dozen times. It is far better to keep your mouth shut and just ignore her than to start such nonsense arguments. Do what i did when it comes to kids: I literally just kept doing what I wanted and took control. Tell the kids this is what i expect and don't even ask for her input. Then stick with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 03:03 PM
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My experience is different than most. My wife has been there to support me during the bad times I endured.
/r/askMRP04/05/20 06:29 PM
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This is great advice. Thanks bro! Edit: squats today so i gave this a try: 125 lbs reps 10,8,8,7.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 02:26 PM
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Eat heavier and lift heavier. Sounds like a plan to try. But to answer your question, if I am being honest I would rather be a skinny fuck who can't lift, at least if the timeline is "the next few months."
/r/askMRP29/04/20 07:21 PM
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I assumed that's what the LOL was for
/r/askMRP29/04/20 07:14 PM
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That is definitely something I haven't thought of. I will look into that workout program.
/r/askMRP29/04/20 07:05 PM
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Sad, right? Big spare tire, or muffin top. Arms and chest not horrible but once you get down to the belly....
/r/askMRP29/04/20 07:01 PM
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MY TDEE is 1845. Bigger Leaner Stronger recommends a 20% cut. That is 1476. So that is why I was at 1500-1600 before. And stuck for three months without losing an ounce or an inch
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:59 PM
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Yeah my end goal is "lose spare tire (which I guesstimate is 15 pounds)" and see where I am then. Yes logging food, weight logged and waist size every day as well. Weight in morning and night.
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:54 PM
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I was lucky and gained 10-13 pounds of muscle since August so now I just want to get rid of my spare tire and then bulk. Maybe I just need to accept weight lifting will get lower and just be happy I got where I am for now and get rid of the spare tire. I just don't want to be stuck with the spare tire anymore as I can almost see all of my top two abs.
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:52 PM
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I did 5x5 for a few months and switched to 4x10 for a (failed) bulk where all I did was get fat after a month. So cut again to 1600 and 4x10 in January, didn't drop an ounce from January to end of March. So cut more starting in April
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:49 PM
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I haven't thought about a trainer but maybe I should. The rub is I was eating 1500-1600, lifts we're going up slowly but zero progress on weight and waist size for a few months. Was really stuck. So i ate maintenance for three weeks, went back to work at 1400, dropped a few pounds but also failed in lifts. Caveat: that 1400 includes two drinks of vodka but still making protein goal every day
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:39 PM
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Easy for you to say, on the sex thing, you don't have to watch a huge belly flapping on you. But you make a good point I will think about for next time
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:20 AM
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OYS#22 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 149. Workout changes Struggle this week as my weight is going down. These weights were fine during my last OYS but that was at the end of a hormone reset where I ate at maintenance for three weeks. Now, at 1400 calories, these weights are tough. I am considering whether to go to a six day per week schedule doing a little each day, rather than 3x week. My calories are low enough that the full 4 exercises in a workout basically ruins…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 02:27 PM
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If you think this is a) valid or b) matters, why are you here?
/r/askMRP25/04/20 02:49 PM
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This. I don't understand how parents let their kids run things. Mine know that if I say x will happen if you don't do y, I will follow through 100% of the time. As you say, you only have to follow through once.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 02:48 PM
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This is true of society as well. Most people can't handle freedom and would rather be taken care of
/r/MGTOW21/04/20 08:11 PM
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Jeez there seem to be a fucking lot of posts this week from guys who cannot STFU. Just do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:21 AM
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I feel like we get the same story from you every week. After 23 OYS I feel like you should be getting it by now. Here is a suggestion: STFU already.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:20 AM
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Withdrawing because of alleged but heart is fine as long as you STFU and don't tell her that. Just be quiet and leave. In her mind is not because youre butt hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:18 AM
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"your life your problems". Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:16 AM
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Big time "over the top" bluff on the sex thing. Call her out. When she days no just go on about your day and STFU...I can't keep up with you isn't agree and amplify...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:15 AM
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If I were to make one and only one suggestion that everyone should take away from MRP it is this: do not be afraid of confrontation or pissing your wife, LTR, woman off.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:13 AM
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You are right on in terms of what I am doing. I am still skinny fat with lowish but improving SMV, and I can't expect her to lose 70 pounds in six months. I will give a lot of thought to what you said; i admit I am so far from being my best that I still have at least a year if the guideline is one month for every year or blue pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 05:56 PM
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If it helps I give myself leeway of another 100-200 calories on lift days, and I do a maintenance eat every two or three months.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 05:54 PM
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OYS#21 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 150. L Workout changes 4x 10 each plus two warmup sets at 50% and 80% of the below weights. Every other day workouts alternating upper and lower body. Soon will be back to my 4x8 weights. Bench 120 (up 5) CGBP 105 (up 10) Seated overhead press 70 Barbell row 100 (up 5) Deadlift 165 (up 5) Squat 125 (up 5) Barbell calf raises 145 barbell bicep curls- 50 (up 5) Goal: Intermediate class by the fall. But almost zero chance I will get t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 12:51 PM
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Me with alcohol. Every once in awhile I find myself crossing that line. The problem for most people is not that they don't want to do things, they just lack discipline to do things
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 04:26 AM
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Divorced and no kids? And you want sympathy? How about envy...
/r/askMRP11/04/20 08:24 PM
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Reading this makes me feel much better about myself. Some people serve the world best as a cautionary example.
/r/askMRP11/04/20 08:23 PM
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Neither. Make a reasonable consequence for not obeying and follow through 100% of the time.
/r/askMRP11/04/20 08:15 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 04:26 PM
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That was a good read. I already did the "side piece" and sadly got caught. And I was a big beta at the time and so apologized, explained how it was my drinking that caused it, bullshitting it away instead of owning it. And lost all my own SMV after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 02:02 AM
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6 is the hardest for me....aside from sex (and yes I know it is "hell would be fine if it weren't hot") my marriage is a B. She cooks, takes care of the house, shows affection and most importantly respects my boundaries now (a benefit of MRP). Good Mom to the kids. She is smart and can talk about ideas with me. She is just fat, unattractive and I have no desire. And even there she is working, taking my lead and working out daily without me ever saying a word. So it is a dice roll for me, at leas…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:29 AM
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Damn you need Dread fast. Your "friend" is an asshole BTW so why the fuck is he still a friend?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:10 AM
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You need more specific "goals" and with time frames. "Lift four times this week and add five pounds next week" is way better than what you have. Also how about making a concrete diet plan? "No more than X calories daily for the next week" is far better than "be around 8% BF"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:07 AM
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Most definitely not a victory but could have been a helluva lot worse. STFU is great generally, but here was a time to not STFU because she was calling you out in front of others. Would have been a good time to treat her like a toddler and make some dismissive comment. That said though, for someone early on in MRP I view "not losing or making it worse" as a fine outcome. It wasn't (and isn't) easy for me though for others it is second nature. That was a tough situation for an OYS 7.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:03 AM
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I don't feel it's absence anymore. To be fair though I am a unique situation for this board as it is my choice. I have no attraction to my fat wife. And before I found MRP it was me who was initiating duty sex. And I didn't enjoy it (you try going down on your wife and seeing flab hanging there). I feel like more of a man in that I control that situation while I improve my SMV. And wife has lost 20 pounds (another 50 to go).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 11:52 PM
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Everyone who comes here: "Be The Oak." Also everyone who comes here :I have no idea what "be the oak" means.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 11:48 PM
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Style: try Stitch Fix, and only approve stuff you normally don't wear. Worked great for me so far
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 11:40 PM
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I have a hip impingement. I used to have to sleep with the leg elevated and it would sometimes ache so badly I couldn't sleep. Since I started lifting the pain has gone mostly away and I haven't had a sleepless night from the ache in months.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 09:03 PM
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I was in the same place as you, drinking wise, including hiding it. What worked for me was Harm Reduction. Talk to a psych about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:25 PM
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Amen and seconded. I deleted Facebook months ago. OP - just do it!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:22 PM
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Seriously? Come on... Definitely later. I still don't have a good one because I don't have the vision yet and am not a Man, capital M.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:20 PM
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If I have learned one thing from MRP it is that when your wife threatens divorce or to leave, you nuke that shit. When mine said something about moving out a few months ago I said "how about I move out instead." I wish I said "fine, I will help you pack."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:18 PM
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I thought that was a fine response; your response will not work without frame and dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:16 PM
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You don't "work on dread". You work on yourself. Dread either happens or it doesn't
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:13 PM
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Just curious- why are you waiting until after divorce is final to let on about the indiscretions?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:09 PM
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OYS#20 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 151. WORKOUT CHANGES Because of diet (below) have increased reps to 4x10 from 4x8, lowering weight a bit, but volume is higher. Also two warmup sets at 50% and 75% of the below weights. Every other day workouts alternating upper and lower body Squat is becoming a problem, but not much I can do about it as I have chronic issues in both hips. I took a week off from lifting right after last OYS. Bench 115 CGBP 95 Seated overhead press…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 01:44 PM
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Here is the thing: you cannot make her get it, any more than I can make my wife lose weight. I never really understood at first what "stay plan is the same as the go plan." Until I did. And then it all started to come together in my mind. At which point the realized the first sentence above was true. What did I do when faced with (thankfully not too often) shitty behavior? I read everything I could on one thing: STFU. And worked at it. And worked more, even if it meant I had to just leave. The r…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 01:42 AM
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I wish my wife were only 165!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 05:06 PM
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Get a home gym. I have one.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 05:05 PM
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Time to let go of 5x5. I moved to 4x8 and now this week to 4x10, all while cutting (mostly). Maybe give that a try? Need to increase your volume How about trying to STFU? That is a lot better than what you said. Just walk away. Let her stew. My wife was giving me a shit test the other day and I walked out. Two seconds later she was nice, trying to feel out if I was mad. I have made this my go to move while learning.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:54 PM
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IMO literally everyone overestimates their workplace worth.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:52 PM
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This week I broke the 15% barrier, curiously while stopping my cut and eating at maintenance as a "reset " noticed two abs but also lost a lot of fat on the sides. Edit: just measured. Two inch difference between waist measured at top two abs versus the navel. From the side it looks like a ski slope, sadly.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:51 PM
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Your mission is weak IMO. I am tired of reading stuff like "be the oak" or "be a man I can respect." What does that mean in day to day life? Answer that question and make that your "mission."
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:48 PM
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Wife gave two shits. But it was for you. I have done this repeatedly since I started and eventually she will give a shit. Also one thing I have done is request she assist me in various chores. This way she also doesn't take what I am doing for granted. Don't "ask " just say "can you grab a broom" or something like that. Another thing I will do is, e.g., fold laundry in front of her, silently. She always gets up to help without me saying a word. These are little things that show, to me, I am taki…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:47 PM
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Having fought an alcohol problem myself for the past 20 years the only solution that has work for me is harm reduction.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:39 PM
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I got tired of Voss' war stories in that book. To be fair to him though I have been a lawyer for 25 years so negotiation is nothing new. His advice may be better for people without much experience. The Accusation Audit was the only really helpful advice
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 04:38 PM
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Every classic Blues song is redpilled.
/r/MGTOW17/03/20 05:41 PM
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Far be it from me to disagree but I don't see how lifting can give OP confidence here. This is uncharted waters and I don't see how blind confidence without careful consideration can be developed. I think OP has a good handle on things and the "lack of confidence" is also introspection that is needed to know you are on the right path.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 04:33 PM
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Be careful that giving comfort doesn't turn into validation and reinforcement. If it hasn't already.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 04:31 PM
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Dude, it's over for you, no amount of Red Pill is salvaging this marriage. Just be done with it. But stick with the self improvement. My guess is 100% of guys here will agree you should just be done .
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:25 PM
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When you put it that way....
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:19 PM
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OYS#19 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 152. Workout All 4x8: Bench 135 (up 5) CGBP 115 Seated overhead press 85 Barbell row 100 Deadlift 185 (up 5) Squat 135 (up 5) Barbell calf raises 160 barbell bicep curls-55 (up 5) Grip strength is becoming an issue, especially on Barbell Rows using a standard grip. Advice welcome. Goal: Intermediate class by the fall. Prior goal was years end but progress is on the way. I highly doubt I could bench 170 BTW but this is what Symmetri…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 12:46 PM
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Many say "this is the answer I needed" or some other response that makes us think "I am going to turn it around." And then they go away, and post the same shit a few months later.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 08:54 PM
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Need to get that T looked at ASAP my friend. Contact Defy Medical and your own endocrinologist and don't take no for an answer. List the common symptoms and tell them you have all or most of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:28 PM
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In my OYS last week I mentioned that my wife did something that showed dread kicked in. I did nothing to create it, just happened. And got another instance yesterday, again unsolicited. Lift, STFU and wait. And do not initiate. It may take a while; it may never happen. But you cannot make it happen
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:26 PM
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"she sits me down"??!! That's 99% of the issue
/r/askMRP10/03/20 04:19 PM
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I think you know what needs to be done you just don't have the balls to do it, or need validation from us. What you should be worried about is not "what" to do but "how" to do it. Don't be an asshole, don't be combative and don't angry. No need for AA or AM. Initial response Just say "I am not talking to you when you are like this" and vacate. Repeat. If that doesn't stop it then worry about AA or AM or another response.
/r/askMRP10/03/20 04:18 PM
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Dude I love the fact that you are here at your age. Never too old to be the best you can. I thought I was too old to change and I was only 50.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 02:00 PM
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I did some looking around and think you are right. I am looking long term, not "what will I look like in a month." I am tired of cutting so it is easy to convince myself otherwise.
/r/askMRP05/03/20 02:34 AM
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My plan is to get to 15 and then bulk (see OYS)
/r/askMRP04/03/20 06:50 PM
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Already did the cheating things few years back. Tried to learn to like fatties also. Didn't work
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 04:12 AM
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Everyday I look in the mirror and say "you are still a fat fuck". Seriously. My wife heard me once and asked who I was talking to (for obvious reasons)
/r/askMRP03/03/20 08:19 PM
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Check out today's OYS
/r/askMRP03/03/20 08:18 PM
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Welcome to Red Pill Rage. This was me about 8 OYS ago. DO NOT GO RAMBO JUST STFU, LIFT AND READ!!! Emphasis for a reason
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 06:00 PM
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Which part
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:56 PM
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Divorce rape, hate from kids etc. If my relationship was a D it would be easy. But in reality the only complaint I have is how fat my wife is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:53 PM
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Good point. Will think of something to reward her.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:37 PM
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"Am I really willing to risk it all in an attempt to go from a B to an A+? What if I end up with a C or a D, a broke, lonely bachelor who never sees his kids or gets laid" This is my problem as well to a T.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 02:38 PM
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I am amazed at what some wives do. This isn't a slight on you, nor is it a credit to me, but just is: my wife would never call me a asshole or prick. I honestly would just walk out the door and turn my phone off if she did. Sounds like you handled it pretty well.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:34 PM
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If I had a nickel for every time I had fact on my side.... As soon as you think this, the battle is lost. STFU next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:30 PM
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Lift hard. Read. Think. But most importantly STFU. I have been guilty of fuckarounditis, doing too many things or focusing on the wrong things. Good mantra as you restart
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:07 PM
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OYS#18 Age: 50 Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'6" 152. Workout All 4x8: Bench 130 CGBP 115 Seated overhead press 85 Barbell row 100 Deadlift 180 Squat 130- deloaded Barbell calf raises 160 Barbell bicep curls-50 lbs. Goal: Intermediate class by year's end. Upper body coming along nicely but going to be hard to meet this goal for lower body with hips as bad as they are. BF approx 16.75% Jackson Pollock 3, 21% Navy. Waist down to 34.5 I actually fit into size 31 waist pants. By mist…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:04 PM
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My wife in a nutshell. Don't do it, guys...
/r/MGTOW01/03/20 07:43 PM
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I wonder if I got gel because it is covered by insurance that way, for me. I had a testicular torsion as a kid (undiagnosed) and one ball doesn't work. They did not recommended HCG.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 02:15 PM
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"Don't care about the denial of sex, but it still stirs some anger in me that this person I choose to be with would rather go without sex more days than with (currently we have sex 2 sometimes 3 days per week" I haven't had sex for six months, ever since I started here. My wife is fat and unattractive and I have zero interest in starfish sex with the fat girl. Because I owned it as my decision, because I am a fat fuck also and no one wants to fuck a fat guy, not even a fat girl. I believe in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 09:35 PM
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Exactly what I took away from it
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 09:27 PM
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Appreciate the honesty. I have yet to meet someone who doesn't think they are good enough at their job to get promoted. Are you as honest here as with your other problems? On the shit testing: come over the top and give it right back to them. Then laugh after you roasted them and leave the room laughing to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 09:26 PM
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I would like to see how more experienced guys here would AA to "if you really loved your kids you would make more money." For her faults, one thing that mine appreciates is that I don't make more. I would have to give up a lot of time parenting and give up working from home 4 days per week. So from where I sit, if you put any credence at all into that shit test I would start thinking of responses ahead of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 09:13 PM
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Push push push for TRT. Mine was 370 when I went. I looked up typical symptoms and I told my Endo I had them all. Also pay the consultant fee for Defy Medical. They gave me a lot of great info. My Endo even got it covered by insurance (androgel 1.62). Some guys don't like gel but Defy and my Endo both recommended it and after a month or so it was up to 534.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 09:06 PM
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I think it's all over bit the crying, and I think you know it. Just own it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 01:29 PM
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Interesting. I was thinking today about how I have gotten more compliments from random women than from my wife. I am not asking, seeking or desirous of her validation, but i was curious about why. And now I know. Perfect timing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 12:50 AM
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What is "gear?" Been meaning to ask this for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:36 PM
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View your diet and workouts not as "plan" but as a new lifestyle, if that makes sense. It will be easier to stick with it. And as a noob at age 50 (like I was) it ain't easy. Good luck, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:23 PM
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How do you guys eat so much without getting fat? Or do you just start so low on BF that you absorb it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:17 PM
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Good for you to be open and honest. Some guys here might call you a faggot as a result but don't sweat it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 06:03 PM
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You did the right thing IMO. That is far better a way to handle a comfort test than moving heaven and Earth to provide that comfort when you have better things to do.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 05:40 PM
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OYS#17 Age: 50 ( big 5 0 recently) Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'7" 153. Workout changes All 4x8: Bench 130 CGBP 115 (up ten) Seated overhead press 85 Barbell row 100 Deadlift 180 (up10). But strained my back last time so going to deload and work on form. I think I am using the back as a "hinge" too much. Squat 130- deloaded significantly- have a L hip impingement and chronic R bursitis. During my lifts I noticed a significant decrease in strength on the L side so my squat is un…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 02:47 PM
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No way this is real. Right?
/r/MGTOW16/02/20 06:06 PM
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You guys who are going your own way seem to be awfully interested in going FDS way
/r/MGTOW15/02/20 10:00 PM
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I am a lurker and sometime commenter. So take this for what it's worth: Anyone who posts here about FDS should be banned. Jesus...STFU about them.
/r/MGTOW14/02/20 05:15 PM
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I would 100% go MGTOW if I had to do it again
/r/askMRP14/02/20 12:52 AM
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Old me: what should we do? New me: I made plans: here is where we are going for dinner. Also, instead of candy how about getting me a nice bottle of Lagavulin? She came through and even asked me where to go to get the scotch.
/r/askMRP14/02/20 12:52 AM
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Have you seen Lizzo? Sexy AF!!
/r/MGTOW14/02/20 12:41 AM
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As a fellow short guy - look up Peter Manning for clothes. Specialists in clothes for shorter guys. Everything matters, especially clothes, when you are improving SMV. Look better, feel better, be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:44 PM
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Reading this makes me physically ill and angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:39 PM
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"hen you'll know you're just angry, and stop being angry, and DNGAF anymore. Then you'll have to decide if you even like your wife anymore. Everything will tell you that you don't." Me right now for sure. Minus the starfish sex that I do not want or pursue. This progression should be part of the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:23 PM
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A lot of your OYS was me. In fact I could have written what you did. STFU is your best friend for now. I read NMMNG when I first started and didn't see myself there. Because I was bullshitting myself. Now I see that I am every bit the Nice Guy. But it took a lot of just sitting around and thinking to see what I really was and am. So you already got past that step.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:17 PM
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100% yes. Do you really need to ask?
/r/askMRP04/02/20 10:51 PM
2

I used Crest 3d whitening toothpaste and it worked very well
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:25 PM
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This. Almost everyone should buy tracking ETFs and leave them alone .
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:23 PM
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I hope to get to that point one day. Well done
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:19 PM
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Welcome aboard. Recognizing the issue is step one. Now the work begins. You need at least a year before you can make any major decisions so get to work, STFU and commit. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:17 PM
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Blue pill: be open and honest while discussing your feelings Red pill: STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:14 PM
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Authentic. Feel free to look up what a 5' tall woman who weighs 200 pounds looks like, which is what she was when I started. If that's a convenient excuse, oh well call me guilty then
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:46 PM
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OYS#16 Age: 50 ( big 5 0 last week) Wife 50. Married 19 years. 2 kids 16 and 10. 5'7" 155. Workout changes All 4x8: Bench 130 CGBP 105 Seated overhead press 85 Barbell row 100 Deadlift 170 Squat 140 Barbell calf raises 151 Pretty much back at my 5x5 weights so volume has increased. Goal: Intermediate class by year's end. Diet Cutting again, 1400 calories on non-lift days, 1600 on lift days. TDEE 1900. Extra 200 on lift days as I want to avoid feeling faint, which happened one day. So added in mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 01:58 PM
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If you aren't at least willing to do this then what do you want from this sub?
/r/askMRP02/02/20 08:30 PM
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Truth
/r/MGTOW02/02/20 06:29 PM
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As I have gotten older I watch less and less sports. At least pro sports. But for some reason I still follow College Basketball and Football regularly. It would be easy to make up some explanation about corruption or politics but the fact is I don't care about those things in sports. So I don't have a reason, but it's only college sports for me. Will definitely watch the Super Bowl though
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 12:45 PM
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Do you really need MRP input on this? You know what to do you just don't want to admit it. I am not saying divorce yet, but say no, hold a boundary and tell her flat out you will not stand for it. And consult a lawyer for the inevitable. It is possible she hasn't done anything but I see it as 99% she will. And 90% she has. Do the math and it's 1 in 1000 that you can rescue this situation, if you haven't already decided to kill the puppy. I presume you are seeking our approval to do what needs to…
/r/askMRP30/01/20 06:14 PM
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How about reading the sidebar and becoming a man? You sound like me six months ago. Lift, work AND STFU for a few months then get back here. And post an OYS.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 07:40 PM
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Mostly agree- men new to MRP should start with STFU and then fogging, while learning to AA and then eventually AM. That is how I see the progression and what I am doing. Fogging works great IMO in most situations but have to avoid DEERing after a fog
/r/askMRP24/01/20 04:51 PM
1

I have been eating a ton of protein. Should I go above TDEE on workout days while cutting?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 04:43 AM
1

Huge cock syndrome
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 02:30 PM
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https://harmreduction.org/about-us/principles-of-harm-reduction/
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 02:27 PM
2

Most Blues songs work also
/r/MGTOW21/01/20 10:53 PM
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Sorry I want to be 500 at 4x8. I am cutting so gains are tougher to come by. I shouldn't call it 500 club I guess. Symmetric Strength has me at 570 for one rep maxes. On drinking you are right, but I was drinking a bottle every day and a half at one point. So while it is a "habit" I am under no delusions. Will look up that book
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 06:27 PM
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Good job my man. I know quite a few guys who shacked up with another woman literally right after announcing divorce before papers were even done. Don't be that guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 05:04 PM
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Bigger Leaner Stronger recommends 20% less than TDEE so that's what I am doing. I don't disagree that it seems low; some guys eat that for breakfast. But I am still skinny fat and started at 30%BF so still a long way to go. It's actually not been very difficult. I started out at 163 so I have overall dropped 10%BF but only 10 pounds so that is a plus. If I lost more I would up the calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 04:51 PM
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If I have to see another "she was so awesome and perfect before shit went down" intro.....
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:20 PM
1

Short report this week, mostly for "drinking" comments OYS#15 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years this week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 155. Putting some changes to my usual format, including goals for each category for your comments/amusement. If it's something that doesn't have a concrete specific target include my "mission." Call it whatever, doesn't matter. Workout changes All 4x8: Bench 125 CGBP 105 Seated overhead press 85 (up 5) Barbell row 100 Deadlift 170 (up 5) Squat 140 Barbell calf raises 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 01:59 PM
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My two cents, and what I am doing: grind with lifts and the recommended plan and STFU/bite the bullet until you are a man. And then state your needs (not negotiation and not asking her to come along) if she hasn't made improvement or shown she gets it.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 06:05 PM
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You seem clear enough and reasonable to me. Path is clear. Sorry man, but you will be fine when the dust settles
/r/askMRP17/01/20 05:58 PM
1

I am bad at the pressure flip but I think it is the best response to most tests for relative noobs moving on from STFU. I am going to try to use it a lot more often.
/r/askMRP15/01/20 06:51 PM
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I am bad at the pressure flip but I think it is the best response to most tests for relative boobs moving on from STFU. I am going to try to use it a lot more often.
/r/askMRP15/01/20 06:50 PM
1

Appreciate the input. I always reserve the right to change course if I get too skinny.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:33 PM
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He gave me some worksheets to use, which I am working on. Hope i have your pronouns right.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 01:33 PM
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FWIW if there is one thing I have learned it's that when your wife mentions divorce, nuke that shit immediately (as you did). What brought me here was that threat from my wife and my utter ignorance.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 01:23 PM
1

Agree 100% on level three- to me this seems like it should be easy to see.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 01:15 PM
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OYS#15 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years this week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 155. Putting some changes to my usual format, including goals for each category for your comments/amusement. If it's something that doesn't have a concrete specific target include my "mission." Call it whatever, doesn't matter. Workout changes Changed 5x5 to 4x8 to increase volume. Some comments to me on my askMRP thread were to keep the same program for at least 12 weeks; at that time I was doing 5x5 for 20 weeks so I mad…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 12:31 PM
1

Oops. I thought I properly deleted it. Thanks for the heads up
/r/askMRP30/12/19 09:48 PM
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You may be right, so I decided to post pics to r/bulkorcut and will accept their judgment.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 06:46 PM
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I have come down to the same boat as you. I can always cut later on. I think many don't realize just how small you can be when skinny fat. Even when I had a much bigger Muffin Top people would always be asking me if I lost weight; that is how little muscle tone I had. I do not want to go back to those days ever, even if it means I get fatter for now. So I am sticking with eating above TDEE and chalking up the recent fat to too many of my wife's Xmas cookies. In a month I will revisit. I increaed…
/r/askMRP30/12/19 05:18 PM
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the problem is that I am relatively new to this but do keep track of macros etc. Everyone has different advice and plans from eating a lot to eating very little et cetera and it's tough to figure out what is best.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 03:34 AM
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I have a lot of extra fat around the navel but it literally stops there and one inch lower at the hips it is 32-33. I wear 33 waist pants and wore 32 before the "bulk" effort.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 02:57 AM
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I got the exact opposite advice- that it was not worth the effort at my size to get down to 10% range as I would look like a cancer patient, and I didn't have the muscle to even get that low without a superhuman effort. I guess my idea was just bulk up now and then do a long cut after I had some more muscle.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 02:54 AM
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My waist is only about 32-33. But the beer belly is 36 now. Was about 40 when I started MRP in August. I was down to about 17%BF a month ago.
/r/askMRP29/12/19 03:10 PM
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Thanks. I am going to drop some calories.
/r/askMRP29/12/19 03:05 PM
1

Yeah I knew that was a mistake. But no point in leaving it out of the story; it happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 04:46 PM
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OYS#14 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years this week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 157. Gained about 5 pounds since bulking started, belly measurement across navel is up one inch, so keeping an eye on it. Was almost 40 inches before I started cut in August and started MRP. Now 36. Bench 135 lb5x5, CGBP 130 LB (up 10 since last week) military press 85. Barbell row 110lbs. Deadlift 185 (up 25 pounds since bulk) Squat 150 deloaded for form Barbell calf raises 145 Up on almost all exercises since last OYS. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 02:08 PM
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You told me that already! She probably has a bigger cock too.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 12:10 AM
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"In my former life, I would tell Mrs Barracuda about my bad days at work. I would have defended it as "healthy communication" so that we could “solve problems together”. It was actually "me seeking sympathy and agreement" about my "whining, stressed frame." I would tell her about my good days, too - seeking a little acknowledgement from mommy for doing a good job." man does this hit home.i am taping this to my wall, so to speak.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 07:29 PM
1

You are right; when you don't have experience or info on X (whatever it is) you don't know the right questions to even ask. So thanks!
/r/askMRP20/12/19 06:19 PM
1

Is that the PHUL? I looked at that and like it as my next step
/r/askMRP20/12/19 06:18 PM
2

That makes perfect sense. Appreciate the simple explanation
/r/askMRP20/12/19 06:17 PM
1

I should have mentioned my account is private and I turned off all the public options. But I changed my display name just in case
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 01:54 PM
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Reading your OYS annoys me...we are the same size and my lifts are so much weaker. Damn I have work to do!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:18 PM
1

Yes we both eat healthy. That is what is so frustrating for both of us. She eats well and exercises and we don't keep a lot of junk food. If she were just a slob I would have cut bait a long time ago
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 12:48 PM
1

Will see. I think I am getting cream next; gel was just to see if I had side effects. Both Defy and my Endo said it was the right thing to do to start, since my T itself is borderline, just the free is horribly low
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 03:19 AM
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OYS#13 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years this week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 156. Gained about 3 pounds since bulking started, belly measurement across navel is unchanged, so I presume muscle makes up the weight gain. Bench 135 lb5x5, CGBP 120 LB. military press 85. Barbell row 110lbs. Deadlift 180 (up 20 pounds since bulk) Squat 160 Adding in calf raises this week 115 pounds to start- working on balance. Up on almost all exercises since last OYS when the bulk began, and personal bests at 5x5 every…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 01:11 PM
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Thanks man. I was forcing my hips too far back. Just maintained balance today and problem resolved.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/19 03:59 PM
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I just started bulking for the first time, two weeks in. And I feel like eating is a chore. If I could eat just as many calories as I wanted that would be one thing; but there is only so much grilled chicken and protein drinks you can do before you get tired of it. And I fukcing love Frosted Mini Wheats.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 11:50 PM
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Squat question: I have noticed that after the descent I am having trouble getting back on my heels. I bought lifting shoes and they help a little but I still end up with the weight moving ever so slightly forward right as I begin the ascent. Is that a form issue or is the weight (160) probably too much? Or is it nothing to worry about?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 12:55 AM
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More like 99.9%. maybe five people will really truly care when you are gone.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 08:58 PM
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If I could post the gif of Citizen Kane clapping here I would
/r/askMRP07/12/19 03:13 PM
2

That's fucking awesome. Sadly I can only lift a mature alpaca
/r/askMRP07/12/19 12:06 AM
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Since I started eating I have gained 10 lbs in a week on my deadlift. So I guess I had a lot of room for improvement!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 03:40 PM
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"It’s so hard not to kick myself for going down the wrong path or never being on the “right” one in the first place" I fight this almost every day. I am turning 50 and just swallowed the pill a few months ago. I think "how the fuck did I waste 70-99% of my life? "
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:40 PM
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PS I am right there with you on the sex part. I am starting to wonder if I am turning asexual because of the lack of attraction to my wife and the cumulative effect of what is now five months without (by choice-i have not initiated)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:25 PM
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"even lawyers?" I am one and the profession is garbage, just stealing money and hurting the world.
/r/MGTOW03/12/19 11:43 PM
1

I have the same issue. I grew up with a extremely narcissistic personality disorder mom and was constantly trying to appease. That ruined me for this type of torture. I came to grips with it simply by refusing to give in. It's still rears its head and makes it difficult but it is a work in progress. It is a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:44 PM
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Rage for me I channeled into motivation for lifting. May work for you
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:18 PM
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OYS#12 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years next week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 152. Bench 135 lb5x5, CGBP 110 LB. military press 85. Barbell row 105lbs. Deadlift 160 Squat 160 Adding in calf raises this week Up on almost all exercises since last week when the bulk began and personal bests at 5x5 every workout this week. Chalk it up to extra energy from calories? Lifting: 4 days per week. Day 1 5x5 Bench Press (alternate incline and flat) Squat Close Grip Bench Adding in calf raises - report forthcomi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:42 PM
1

I am running strong lifts program, but one thing it leaves out is warmups. I do 7-8 sets but 2-3 are warmups where I gradually add weight until I get to my workout weight. Also I am sorry everyday (almost) but own that shit as necessary for improvement
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:20 PM
1

No I don't want to recomp. I want to bulk. But I am just asking since I saw it. I still need to lose some BF
/r/askMRP26/11/19 10:16 PM
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Thanks. So perhaps I misunderstood then the advice from the You are What You Eat thread: For Bulking: 40-60% Carbs 25-35% Protein 15-25% Fat Forgetting the TDEE calculations etc. you are saying eat 1.5g protein and then finish up using something like the above macros to arrive at a final calorie number? Or better yet work out whatever I want on the Carb/fat as long as I get the protein? If so, I got it now and appreciate the advice. However there is so much conflicting advice and information out…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:34 PM
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Thanks man. Will get to work!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:57 PM
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I ran the numbers and it gave me the opposite of what I expected. I was happy with Deadlift and felt behind on bench and overhead press. Turns out my Deadlift stinks and presses are above average. I have gotten so much conflicting advice on cutting vs bulking. Mathews says you should eat "slightly" more than TDEE but others have a recommendation of 20-22 calories per pound. My plan here was to start at 2400 (basically 16 per pound which is what Mathews has as the lower range) and then work up as…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:16 PM
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OYS#11 Three weeks since my last confession Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 152. Bench 130 lb5x5, CGBP 105LB. military press 80. Barbell row 105lbs. Deadlift (160- goal of body weight 5x5 met) Squat (155- goal of body weight 5x5 met) Did a BF calculation (Jackson Pollock) and down to 18%. Lost 3 inches of fat off my stomach (still 36 1/4). Weight is down to 152. So in the large scale, progress is being made even if the short term calculations are fraught with uncertainty…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 12:35 PM
1

Man, you are describing my situation almost exactly. I went RP in July, went monk mode on sex as my wife was 5' 200lbs (down to 185 now, oh joy...). We had a similar discussion and I just admitted I wasn't attracted to her and was embarrassed by her weight. And now she is working out every day and dieting, and I am doing the same. I still pat her ass etc but won't initiate sex until I am attracted to her again and if that never happens , well that is why I am MRPing.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:02 PM
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FWIW Seneca was a "do as I say, not as I do" guy. He is no real stoic like Epictetus or Aurelius
/r/MGTOW15/11/19 05:33 PM
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I tried coming up with some, I hope these get some responses here for "types" of responses sex: "I'm not angry just in need of a blow job" funny: "I am changing my name to Bruce Banner" amplify: "that's not angry, angry is when I smash my big toe start screaming." Hell I have no idea if any of these are on the right track, so I usually just STFU and walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 12:54 AM
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"Finally recognised the often used “you seem angry” shit test. I’ve gotten this many times in the past and would get agitated over why she thought I was angry, fulfilling the prophecy. This time I AM’d and AA’d through it, effectively passing this shit test for the first time ever it would seem" Just curious: what did you say?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 09:23 PM
2

This is a hill that I am trying to climb but goddamn it is hard
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 09:06 PM
2

Easily the best book ever written IMO and i try to read it every two months. Take notes and underline key passages so you can treat them as motivational flash cards
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 09:04 PM
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Just put the money in S&P 500 ETF.
/r/MGTOW12/11/19 08:26 PM
0

One thing that worries me when I get to bulking is being able to get 3000 kcal. I look at proposed menus and it is fucking daunting
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:09 PM
1

It is. And when I think I am over it, it comes out of nowhere. But I try to use it productively
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:07 PM
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OYS#10 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 155. Bench 125 lb5x5, Bicep curls 32 lb, CGBP 105LB. military press 80. Barbell row 105lbs. 150lb deadlift. 150 lb squat. MRP in action since July. Had to take a week off from most lifts as I strained my middle back/shoulder pushing too hard on bench. I bought one of those harnesses to help keep the scapula retracted while benching. So I deloaded 10-20 pounds when I was ready to lift again but got back to where I was before the stra…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 01:40 PM
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I saw a quote a few days ago : "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." To me this seems like the best way to look at fear. We feel fear because it is a response to a stimulus, and we cannot control that. But that opportunity to choose how to react and more importantly exercising that choice is what we should be striving for. Is that a fair distillation?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/19 08:17 PM
1

Me neither. Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/19 08:00 PM
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This should be added to the sidebar. Even if every single word isn't right (as some have nitpicked this post) 99% is great stuff and a good guide to those new to RP like me. I am making this part of my daily reading, including comments
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/19 07:53 PM
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Between this one and the guy whose LTR wanted donuts, I can't imagine myself doing anything but MGTOW if my marriage doesn't last. Jeez these relationships can't possibly be worth this much trouble. Makes me wonder if married men need drama as well as women
/r/askMRP03/11/19 02:22 PM
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Some how mistakenly deleted this: I am not going to tell you what to do (sidebar etc). My situation was very similar. I just flat out told her she needs to lose weight because I am not attracted anymore. But your wife's 10 pounds is nothing. Mine went from 105 to 200. What I wouldn't give to have a wife only 10 pounds over
/r/askMRP01/11/19 02:23 PM
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Pre-MRP we had a talk about it and my lack of attraction. Of course nothing happened; it turned into a big comfort test. Now she admitted she thinks I am embarrassed by her (after my recent lifting gains and diet). When she said this I didn't deny it but said I am glad we are both working out. More on this in next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 01:35 AM
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"I’d rather have no sex right now than sex with her and be disgusted with myself." I am right there with you on this. I have been monk mode since June. She is 5'0 190 and I just can't feel attraction to that. But I actually like her otherwise which is why I am here at MRP instead of r/divorce
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:05 PM
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"attraction is the life-blood of marriage" I read that yesterday too and cannot stop thinking about it. My wife and I have no mutual attraction right now. I am working hard and it helped me realize what "stay plan is the same as go plan" really means.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:03 PM
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You seem to have the right attitude. I hope I can say the same when I get there. Good luck bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:00 PM
2

FWIW I thought that was a funny response too
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 07:32 PM
1

I will do that. I am close to macros but my average is usually 25% on fat. When I miss the macro it's almost always trading carbs for protein on days I lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:34 PM
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OYS#10 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 155. Bench 135 lb5x5, Bicep curls 32 lb, CGBP 105LB. military press 80. Barbell row 105lbs. 150lb deadlift. 150 lb squat. I don't have any faith in BF calculations so may just stop calculating it every week. MRP in action since July. Lifting: 5 days per week. Day one, all 5x5: Bench Press (alternate incline and flat) Squat Close Grip Bench Day 2: Seated overhead press Barbell row Deadlift Bicep curls. By next week I will have met tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:31 AM
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Thanks for the advice bros. After reading all of your input, I am going to get down to 145ish lbs sticking with 5x5 and then transition to bulking and 5/3/1.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 03:02 PM
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Four days per week. Rest days basically just rest. One day includes a lot of walking
/r/askMRP20/10/19 02:48 PM
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Body fat is too high- despite losing inches I still have a spare tire. Down to 152lbs now but still have a beer belly also.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 02:48 PM
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In my case my wife doubled in size to 5'0 200 pounds. If that is your wife I sympathize. But if not, the whole point of this group is to make yourself a better man so that you have options. It that isn't what you are doing then what are you waiting for? And it it is, then your path should be clear. Good luck.
/r/askMRP19/10/19 08:35 PM
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You are going to get a lot of shit for this one from this reddit. But the fact is that you stood up for yourself and didn't act like a total pussy. We all have to start somewhere and move forward. And you did better than most (BP) men would have.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 07:15 PM
1

Yeah I see how that sounds... My issue was hiding what I was drinking. So after treatment and doctor recommendation I have exactly one drink as a nightcap before bed and in the open. That's it.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 01:23 PM
1

Thanks I was wondering about that as I was writing. Getting down to 140 would be really small. I just want to get rid of my big spare tire and my goal was to get rid of that spare 15 by years end and then bulk.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 09:20 PM
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I had an alcohol problem that I am still fighting and have it under control now. My wife used to make a crack in two about it and I basically out my foot down. If she mentioned it ad a shit test I just left the room. She hasn't mentioned it in a long time and I openly have a drink in front of her now without incident
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:19 AM
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I have mentioned this problem I am having with calipers in my last few OYS. So thanks for this! Will look into your proposed options. Edit: we have a DEXA location near me and they have a $5 per month plan that includes one scan per month. So if you guys just want to get the results without the coaching and diet plans that seems like a great deal. I imagine most DexaFit locations have a similar deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 06:31 PM
1

I went through the same phase as did most of the guys here. But I was mostly angry at myself for being such a loser. 20 years of my life fucking wasted being a BP appeaser, getting fat, unattractive and lazy. I still go to MGTOW for laughs but it was actually helpful at first as I used that anger as motivation. Take it out on the iron, so to speak.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 10:06 PM
1

You are right. I have carried over these goals for a while. I don't know about 60 pounds but basically I have been increasing by 5lb every two weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 12:36 AM
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OYS#9 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 155. Bench 135 lb5x5, Bicep curls 32 lb, CGBP 105LB. military press 80. Barbell row 105lbs. 145lb deadlift (only 10 pounds away from goal of body weight by years end), 135 lb squat. 23.22% BF per Perillo Method. I don't have any faith in BF calculations so may just stop calculating it every week. MRP in action since July. Lifting: 5 days per week. Day one, all 5x5: Bench Press (alternate incline and flat) Squat Close Grip Bench Day 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 01:48 PM
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This is a parody account, and a funny one at that
/r/MGTOW30/09/19 07:17 PM
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After my dad died my mother never once cared about me or my brother and what we were going through; all she cared about was draining us as emotional support. And I am still screwed up because of it. She was the most narcissistic person I have ever known.
/r/MGTOW28/09/19 11:33 PM
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To be fair I praise her on diet and exercise as mentioned. But fuck it, I will initiate this week and report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 08:21 PM
1

Coincidentally she actually showed some interest today for the first time in months. So that streak may be broken soon. Yeah I get what your point is, but she isn't attractive at 5'0 and 200 pounds. So I am torn. Part of me thinks you are right in that if i start initiating it may build desire ok my part. But she is exercising and dieting and initiating may make her think that I am happy now with how she is.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:47 PM
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OYS#8 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 157. Bench 135 lb5x5, Bicep curls 30 lb, CGBP 105LB. military press 80 (progress stalled so deload to focus on form). Barbell row 105lbs. 140lb deadlift, 135 lb squat. 23.22% BF per Perillo Method. But there is so much variability that I wonder if these calculations have any value. Just squeeze the caliper harder and you can lower body fat. Will accept tips or better options than calipers. Lifting: 5 days per week. Day one, all 5x5: …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:00 PM
5

Jocko is the best. Few podcasts can literally change your life like his can.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 12:56 AM
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I had a similar experience. Been STFU for about two months now and shit testing is now virtually non-existent. So I think the answer is that it works, until they adapt. That adaptation hasn't come for me yet but it will
/r/askMRP21/09/19 12:54 AM
1

I do Crossfit x 3 times per week = I am gay. Lol
/r/askMRP17/09/19 06:27 PM
3

Well done bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 06:01 PM
2

It's funny that you mention a gun range because I am buying my first gun this week
/r/askMRP16/09/19 08:40 PM
2

Thanks for the advice
/r/askMRP16/09/19 06:10 PM
2

Thanks for the advice guys. I am going to insist on some intervention I think. I do have symptoms and it's worse when you have one ball working.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 06:09 PM
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I love these write-ups. I am only a few months into lifting and these have such great detail that it is worth paying for. Hell, I doubt a trainer would be better. Thanks, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/19 04:10 PM
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I am married. I don't ask for permission for anything. I smoke cigars every night while playing video games. My wife does stuff around the house and takes care of kids etc. Have a nice house, cars. So I have it almost as good as it can be. And I would still never get married again. Let this tell you everything you need to know
/r/MGTOW11/09/19 11:21 PM
1

Thanks for the advice! Will stick with current program for now
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 08:04 PM
1

I = comfort. You = Shit. The few times I have got this right have shocked me I learned this just this week and it helps so much in handling tests
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 07:20 PM
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OYS#7 things turning around Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 160. Bench 135 lb5x5, Bicep curls 30 lb, CGBP 91LB. military press 89. Barbell row 95 lbs (deloaded to focus on better form). 125lb deadlift, 125 lb squat. Up again on most lifts. I could use some advice on lifting. Sticking with the above program of 5x5 on the above lifts, 5 days a week. I am only two months in. It is clear to me that I'm going to stick with the program, and so I'm thinking of branching out to …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 03:53 PM
1

My response to this generally is : if forced diversity means weakening equal protection then it's per se bad. Prove me wrong.
/r/MGTOW07/09/19 07:23 PM
2

As a noob, I don't understand what this looks like: "your hips to open like a door hinge (from a side-view)"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 08:54 PM
2

This is the best book ever written IMO, and I reread it every few months.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/19 01:28 AM
1

I have been RP for two months, and lifting. I had an epiphany about this topic today. It builds confidence, and that in turn helps build frame an OI. and for the first time I felt t after lifting today. Wish I started years ago. The saying "the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now" applies here for sure
/r/TheRedPill30/08/19 01:21 AM
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OYS#6 Not a lot going on, overall things are going well, trending upwards on all fronts. Wife is definitely treating me better since I started MRP about 8 weeks ago. Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 162 21.24 %BF (down about 2% since last month). Bench 125 lb5x5, Bicep curls 25 lb, CGBP 85LB. military press 75. Barbell row 95 lbs (deloaded to focus on better form). 115lb deadlift, 115 lb squat. Diet Doing well so far. Weight staying at 160ish while losing belly fat. Took …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 12:43 PM
2

Brutal story. Sorry to hear it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 02:32 PM
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You should want men to have complete control over it. No more false paternity.
/r/MGTOW16/08/19 12:52 AM
1

Thanks for the advice . One reason I posted it was hoping for a response like yours. I don't really enjoy the bicep/tricep stuff anyway. I tried CHBP and may add it in
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 04:59 PM
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OYS#5 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 162 21.24 %BF (down about 2% since last month). Bench 125 lb5x5, Bicep curls 25 lb,tricep curls 22 lb. military press 75. Barbell row 100 lbs (big jump from last week out of the blue). 115lb deadlift, 100 lb squat. Up a bit on all of the compound lifts in the last week, progress is slow on the small muscle exercises. And taking it very slow on squats with two bad hips. Current lifting: day one: bicep curls, tricep curls, bench and se…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:13 AM
2

"It's simply the operational parameter. Is she reacting to you or are you reacting to her." I have been trying to understand frame in a simple manner and now I do. Thanks for this.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 09:19 PM
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Red pill
/r/MGTOW08/08/19 04:31 PM
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OYS#4 Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7" 162 23%BF. Bench 115 lb5x5, Bicep curls 25 lb, military press 65. Have bilateral hip impingement but added in modified squats at 65 pounds just to start. Pretty easy but we will see how hips deal with it before I add weight. Barbell row 85 lbs. Have not lifted in 25 years and scheduled a T test. --reading No new readings as I was away in Italy for 10 days. Kept up with sidebar and this board though. Started WISNIFG as soon as I got h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 08:47 PM
1

I was just at a beach and even the "hot" women are kind of gross. Stretches, cellutlite, marks all over their bodies. Tattoos. It is as if a bikini is a magnifying glass that shows all flaws.
/r/MGTOW03/08/19 02:22 PM
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Me. My marriage is good by any yardstick but not great. It is as good as one can reasonably expect.house, kids, good job, wife cooks and takes care of the house etc. But the lack of freedom is like a grain of sand that starts eating at you and grows into a rock instead of a pearl.
/r/MGTOW02/08/19 09:21 PM
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I am a skinny armed fat bellied 160 lbs. My lifts suck because I do. But I should be able to make gains quickly given such a low starting point. I hope.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 09:03 PM
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I am. Have a test scheduled for when I get back from this trip.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:29 PM
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She didn't want to to fuck. We are in one room with both kids sleeping feet away. Your last sentence is what I am hoping for. Will need to develop OI in the meantime since if it doesn't happen I am already working on the out, and have gotten legal wheels in motion.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:28 PM
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16 and 9.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:25 PM
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You nailed it, but to be honest I know all of this already about why she was bitching. I am working in Dread (I actually got a comment from her about getting smiles from some younger girls here).
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:25 PM
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Well said.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:22 PM
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I am working on frame, and relatively new at this. But yeah it sucks. I told myself all the beta shit: it's for the kids, she isn't a bad wife just fat, if only I support her more, she has money and helped me a ton with loans etc when we first got married.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:20 PM
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Partagas Black Label. All I could get in Italy.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:15 PM
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I am lifting. Only been at this six weeks but I am lifting religiously, eating better, counting calories etc. Of course the comment was right. Why else would I be here?
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:14 PM
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Sticking them up my ass makes it hard to smoke. And when I do they don't taste very good
/r/askMRP31/07/19 10:14 PM
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End game is to be enough of a man that she will stick with a diet plan and lose weight instead of not caring enough to do so.
/r/askMRP31/07/19 10:12 PM
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Definitely me. Was lurking for a while and then had an event where I did not STFU. decided to take MRP very seriously. Literal STFU is my strategy short term until I get the hang of it. After she apologized I just said "no problem." And went back to work
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 12:03 AM
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Best book ever written IMO. I read it once a month. It is great to read when things aren't going as well as I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 08:57 PM
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Exact same as me. Tired of being bitched at and blamed. I successfully pulled off passing a shit test this morning for the first time, by ignoring. Being bitched at, I ignored and went down to my office to work. STFU. 30 minutes later she came and apologized. Small steps.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 08:36 PM
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I feel for you bro. Seeing someone game your wife has to hurt. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 05:20 PM
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This is great advice for life as well. You are at work and decide between x and y. You pick x and it works out. Most likely you were lucky. But over the long haul process will matter and make a difference. But we think "it worked out therefore I will pay myself on the back."
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 02:37 AM
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OYS #3 49YO Wife 49 together 23 years married 19 kids 15 and 9. Bench 125, bicep curls 25, barbell row 85. 5'7" 162. (These weights for 5x5 ) 23% BF (first measurement ever). RP six weeks Readings Sidebar of course every day Just bought WISNIFG TWOTSM Diet 1800 calories per day. Going well, lost an inch or so since I started. Sex and relationship Going nowhere right now. Wife is 5' 200 and not attractive. I am buying into the idea that if she doesn't want me or desire it i should leave it alone …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:15 PM
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Will vouch for this if you want to make life better and not just cut the cord.
/r/MGTOW22/07/19 02:58 AM
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Just bought BF calipers, waiting for arrival. Thanks for the advice. Will give that a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 10:31 PM
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OYS #2 Vacation last week so no real lifting, no change in BP MP or Barbell Row. 5'7" 162 lbs. Reading Manipulated Man WISNIFG Doesn't count as reading but watching Patrice O'Neal Goals -Tell her what she needs to do to make me want to spend time with her instead of complaining that I dont -Have the frame to back it up -get more comfortable with conflict and STFU when it happens - instead of "fuck me or fuck you" say "lose 75 pounds or fuck you." Diet Very confusing. Should I be trying to gain? …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 03:18 AM
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Yeah I haven't communicated this well. I have a crappy weider weight set for $100 from Sears. The dumbbells and barbell are garbage. Maybe the dumbbell bar weights 2 pounds. And it has weights that I put on it. So I am using 25 lbs of weight on this dumbbell for each arm. I have a decent quality barbell. Not a pro one but weighs 15 pounds. I put 35lbs in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 08:39 PM
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Yeah I haven't communicated this well. I have a crappy weider weight set for $100 from Sears. The dumbbells and barbell are garbage. Maybe the dumbbell bar weights 2 pounds. And it has weights that I put on it. So I am using 25 lbs of weight on this dumbbell for each arm. I have a decent quality barbell. Not a pro one but weighs 15 pounds. I put 35lbs in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 08:38 PM
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That 50 for curls is barbell. So 25 lbs per arm. Been trying to stand with back against a pole to keep from using the back Edit: Yeah I haven't communicated this well. I have a crappy weider weight set for $100 from Sears. The dumbbells and barbell are garbage. Maybe the dumbbell bar weights 2 pounds. And it has weights that I put on it. So I am using 25 lbs of weight on this dumbbell for each arm. I have a decent quality barbell. Not a pro one but weighs 15 pounds. I put 35lbs in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 12:42 AM
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OYS #1 been at MRP for a month or so. Married 19 years 2 kids (15 and 9). Health 5'7" 160 33 waist. Just bought body fat calipers to get data. 50 yo. Reading Finished Rational Male, NMMNG and almost done with Way of the Superior Man. Reading sidebar everyday. Have a notebook of idea gained and writing down practical applications. Halfway through 48 Laws of Power (which I have read a few times throughout the years) . Wardrobe As part of my work in progress I am ditching my old wardrobe bit by bit…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 05:47 PM
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I am stealing all of these
/r/askMRP12/07/19 01:04 AM
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Sorry, my SMV isn't lower. I meant high enough, not "higher". I am 5'7" 160 but skinny arms and dad bod belly. But salary is high and net worth over 7 figures. She is taking synthroid. You have given me some things to think about- she has tried a lot but bounces from one thing to another and I haven't really thought about self sabotage
/r/askMRP11/07/19 01:54 PM
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I have often wondered about this. Cannot discount it
/r/askMRP10/07/19 11:43 PM
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No. But that's beside the point. I beta'd my way here- she is a good wife mostly, it's just the lack of attraction and impetus. I I have scrawny arms and legs and dad bod belly. If I were her I would get fat too and not be attracted to me.
/r/askMRP10/07/19 09:20 PM
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Will get her a trapeze for her birthday
/r/askMRP10/07/19 09:15 PM
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MGTOW sub has some great memes and I like alot of the stuff posted there, but don't agree with the woman hating.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 09:14 PM
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She is Paleo now, keto before that and been dieting and exercising for two years with virtually no progress (10-15 lbs)
/r/askMRP10/07/19 09:07 PM
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What do you guys with fat wives do if they just cannot lose the weight? My wife is 5' 200 lbs. She sincerely does try to lose but she has Hashimotos Disease and it makes it virtually impossible. Not impossible but very hard. I am working on myself, taking MRP seriously. Lifting and eating better. Early stages but have dropped 2 inches of gut while remaining the same weight (presumably adding muscle). Reading the entire sidebar and recommended reading (finished Rational Male, NMMNG and currently …
/r/askMRP10/07/19 04:39 PM
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Man what a great post. Lurking here for a while, reading the sidebar etc. Am reading The Way of the Superior Man right now and you seem to have nailed his lessons. Getting to work myself...I will make my woman better or figuratively die trying
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 04:23 PM
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Your first paragraph sums it up for me. My life to a tee. Even when it is "good" it isn't so great- just not so bad it's worth it to leave but also you don't want to stay. And you get so worried about divorce rape and kids you just feel powerless in your cowardice. I wish this sub existed 20 years ago.
/r/MGTOW10/07/19 12:17 PM
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Prolapsed taint, LOL
/r/MGTOW10/07/19 12:03 PM
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R/marriedredpill
/r/MGTOW08/07/19 01:08 AM
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Not all heroes wear capes.
/r/MGTOW03/07/19 11:15 PM
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No movie I have ever seen made me angrier
/r/MGTOW01/07/19 09:38 PM
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I have a successful marriage by most yardsticks. Wife isn't crazy, she has money , well behaved kids etc. And it is still boring and not worth it. So even when you "win" you lose.
/r/MGTOW30/06/19 01:40 AM
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Bachelor tax...
/r/MGTOW30/06/19 01:34 AM
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Friends is one example of where the redpill makes you understand how blue pilled it is
/r/MGTOW17/06/19 01:37 AM
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Comments are interesting. Women are answering it only in the context of "if I were a woman treated like a man" as opposed to "what it is actually like to be a man "
/r/MGTOW15/06/19 03:08 PM
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for me it's about keeping what I want to do sacrosanct at all costs. as long as you keep boundaries and dont compromise your desires so that she has to go along then you are good. but it helps a lot if your SMV is higher, not often difficult for guys married for 20 years
/r/MGTOW12/06/19 03:10 AM
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I wonder how much MGTOW ideas will cause collapse. let's assume 10m men opt out. what will women who want babies do? have a lot of artificial insemination on government dime? and then child support on the dole, hastening collapse?
/r/MGTOW03/06/19 03:54 PM
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my favorite book, re -read it every few months. works well for married guys
/r/MGTOW01/06/19 02:29 PM
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maybe he was married first and changed. now he is stuck, but sees the light and calculated that the benefits outweigh the cost? that is how I view it. his bit on motherhood being the hardest job is gold!
/r/MGTOW30/05/19 04:12 PM
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my life... wife dated some doctor before she met me. purely physical she says, and he had a terrible personality. next up, me. 20 years later, she is obese, sexless marriage, 2 kids. so, the trap worked.
/r/MGTOW29/05/19 12:25 AM
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yes. to her credit she is aware of it and we have discussed it. she just cannot get over that hump. no marriage is perfect, but mine is as good as one can reasonably expect- flaws, good parts, bad parts etc. and being as good as one might rationally expect still isnt so hot.
/r/MGTOW23/05/19 12:52 PM
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this is so true. I am married 20 years two kids nice life on the surface. I just am unfulfilled with it all. My wife is obese and has been for years. cant get divorced without going broke and to be honest I dont want to; mostly we have a good marriage but in some instances it isnt. She is mostly kind, takes good care of the family, chips in and respects my needs. basically, I have the best that a man can hope for our of marriage. and it still isnt so great. And it is a trap even when it's not so…
/r/MGTOW22/05/19 08:40 PM
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