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You just said you compared women having kids out of wedlock to having kids with a husband??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:35 AM
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Yes, YOU compared having kids out of wedlock to a two parent household.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:04 AM
1

You said that women need to stop having kids out of wedlock… as opposed to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:52 AM
1

Than a two parent household?? Where are you getting your data??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:48 AM
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What? Our conversation is whether single dads regret having kids with women who aren’t in their kids lives, instead of someone they could partner with? You say the kids are better off?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:44 AM
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Better than kids in a two parent household?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:39 AM
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Why the fuck does it matter if they're RAISING BETTER PEOPLE? You just said kids are worse off in single parent households.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:33 AM
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Single dads don’t regret having kids with women who aren’t in their kids lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:45 AM
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Most single mothers always get knocked up by the so-called pookies and "deadbeats" so there you have it. Seemed pretty meaningful when you were talking about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:19 AM
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Who did the single dads impregnate?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:09 AM
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Yep, a lot of absent dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:15 AM
2

But it’s always the dad who is absent, by your description: When the mother leaves the father for whatever reason, there is just the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:04 AM
2

Exactly, you think fathers may as well be absent after a divorce. They make no difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:39 AM
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Red pill advice seems geared towards quantity. Most women’s advice is geared towards quality. The former is about appealing to as many women as possible. Self-improvement is obviously the way to do that. The latter is about finding a good match. This is largely accomplished by limiting the time you spend on inferior matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:33 AM
2

You believe kids of divorce only have their mothers. Even if their dads were still in their lives, it would make no difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:19 AM
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Yes, message received, you think fathers are useless to their kids in difficult situations. Their presence in a kids life makes no difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:11 AM
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It sounds like you don’t think dads are capable of having any custody after a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:56 PM
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What does that have to do with them parenting their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:41 PM
7

Where are the fathers?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:32 PM
5

What is your point here? The majority means above 50%, not a 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:01 PM
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You: Yes, I believe more than 50% of men worldwide are traditional, sexist and misogynistic. So the good men are less than that, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 09:45 PM
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But the exchange you describe is about a generalization. "Why don't women support men?" Men =/= minority of men I think are “good”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:34 PM
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Sorry, your premise is that most men are terrible, and your complaint is that most women don’t have the right argument for not supporting the mostly terrible men…?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:44 PM
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But men are significantly less likely to go to a regular doctor too…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:11 PM
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The dynamic that I’ve seen in a lot of relationships is that the woman is more likely to put work into solving emotional problems. If both the boyfriend and the girlfriend are depressed, she’s more likely to go to her primary care physician, get a referral for specialists, schedule her therapy appointments, take any medication prescribed, implement lifestyle recommended changes… So of course she may have less sympathy for someone who refuses to do any of those things, as many men do, yet insists…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:37 PM
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Sure, you’re totally free to make your decisions about people based on immediately apparent surface characteristics, instead of considering behavior and character over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:52 PM
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That’s literally how the vast majority of human relationships are formed. Meeting a total stranger and committing to do anything with them is practically unheard of in human history. Think about friendship. After the age of 4, no one walks up to a stranger and says, “do you want to be my friend.” You observe and interact in repeated low-pressure settings. School, work, events. Some references in here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/platonic-love/202209/7-secrets-to-making-friends-as-a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:06 PM
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I got a lot of this kind of attention in my 20s, and the only thing that could have made me more open to these situations is NOT experiencing the bad versions. There were too many times I politely said no that I was immediately screamed at or threatened. It meant that any time I was approached by a stranger, I was uncomfortable and wanted the interaction to end immediately. I was just enduring, wondering if I would be insulted or yelled at. None of my attention was on whether the guy was attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:41 PM
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Meaning what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:46 PM
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Look for it? For what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:42 PM
8

There is no definition of partnership that requires people to do the exact same thing. Most people form partnerships because they have different strengths. That doesn’t mean people are unequal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:15 PM
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If a man fatshame a woman, he will be hunted by every women in that radius What? women follow idealogies for protect their social lives. For example in this age, women tend to go more liberal, left We’re trying to protect out actual lives Men are not expected to put effort to child care as women do. What?? Both women and men now have to put same amount of time and effort to: Nope. Equal is not identical.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:04 PM
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Yes, “shown commitment before” does not mean much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:42 AM
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I hope not, since that doesn’t make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:02 AM
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The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than for first marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:51 AM
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The second sentence does not support the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:49 AM
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Eh, I don’t know many women who are stay at home parents, but most that I know did not want to do it. They would have preferred to keep working, but it was the best choice for the family as a whole (to support the husband’s career, to deal with the household, to support the kids, etc) They (and their husbands) think of it as a sacrifice, because it was one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:45 AM
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The average age of women having their first kid is 27…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:22 AM
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Have YOU tried being in the porn/sex work/sugar baby industry for male clients? There is a market for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:09 AM
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Complete strangers not wanting to take care of your children is worse than discrimination 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:03 AM
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I tell these women you’re looking at this wrong and should consider dads, they’ve shown commitment before they love their kids. Any guy over 35 that’s never settled down prob isn’t going to now. Is that why the divorce rate for second marriages is so low? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:01 AM
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I’m not following how this relates to my question. We both agree that some women “in the casual dating market” find serious relationships that lead to marriage and children from that casual dating. Yes? We both know people in our lives that prove this to be the case. Yes? You have also stated that “women in the casual dating market” get cast aside. Only one of those can be true…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:57 PM
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But, if you know women who got married from casual dating, how can you make a blanket statement that the women who casually date are “cast aside?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:47 PM
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Would you say that you don’t know any married couples who started casually dating? That’s how the vast majority of established couples I know started.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:35 PM
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If I’ve been so careless as to negatively compare my boyfriend to my ex in a way he could hear, I’d understand him leaving because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:38 AM
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You’re seeing what you want to see, not what’s written. The post does not talk about men avoiding being hurt at all. The only consequences he discusses are for the women. RP is ensuring that women face the consequences of their choices He doesn’t say “RP is about protecting men.” He doesn’t even suggest that these men will be better off by not dating these women. You may believe that, but it is not in this post. He doesn’t say: “stay single instead of dating these women, it will be better for yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:58 AM
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Do you disagree that this post frames the red pill as a punishment of certain women ? OP is emphasizing how the RP philosophy protects these men Specifically which part of the post does that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:21 AM
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Says someone who thinks an anecdote about one guy proves something about 4 billion people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:04 AM
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If women who had casual sex are irresponsible bad partners… you don’t need to reject them for the purpose of punishing them. thats what RP is basically all about. Making sure that the girl in question doesn't get to have her cake and eat it too. It’s about turning nice guys into the ones who say, "You made your bed, now lie in it."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:00 AM
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So, women aren’t told to follow the straight and narrow, and yet… They are less likely to be involved in dangerous activities. They are more likely to finish school and go to college. They are just as likely to buy homes when single/never married. So what exactly is the impact of men being told? If they are still more likely to be “bad” than women, who aren’t told anything?? The young men are also being fed a lie because young women want to cover their ass socially from their often poor choices …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:28 PM
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The post is literally about how that’s who women pick. That’s who rational competent people pick as life partners. I picked my boyfriend because he values stability, his career, his 401k, etc. He picked me for the same reasons. My masters degree, the home equity I’m building, the pension I’m growing. A man who wants a life partner at 22 should be focused on those things too, the same way a man who wants a life partner at 40 should be. But you’re only going to attract people who are ready for lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:04 PM
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Well, let’s say you meet 5 dysfunctional guys. They each have impregnated 5 women. “Holy shit,” you think, “that’s 25 women going after 5 dysfunctional guys!” But what if those dysfunctional women each has 5 kids, each by a different dad. Like, the same 5 women and the same 5 dysfunctional guys. That’s just 5 dysfunctional men and 5 dysfunctional women, a ratio of 1:1. Focusing on one dysfunctional person doesn’t tell you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:41 PM
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So a ratio of 4:1? None of those women had any other kids? They weren’t involved with any other dysfunctional men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:09 PM
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Hot guys are not less interested in commitment. Just like hot women, more people have been disappointed by not getting commitment from hot guys. So it seems like hot people are less commitment-oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:43 PM
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A foundational assumption of this premise reflects the people who believe it: Men do not change, they are just stagnant. My boyfriend is a 401k-having homeowner who makes me homemade meals and is the definition of safety. That’s who he is at 40 years old. Who was he in his twenties? A free-spirited world-traveler in an open relationship with a burlesque dancer. We BOTH had the opportunities to be wild in our twenties, before the clock started ticking on professional advancement and retirement pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:31 PM
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Do you see “so many” women trying to date junkies and murderers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:09 PM
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And the question was: world leaders who never married?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:10 PM
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He married Eva Braun.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:59 AM
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And his actions say nothing about “girls.” If I’m lactose intolerant in a poor part of town, saying, “In my experience, it’s the low-income people who eat cheese” is a meaningless statement pretending to be a statement about poor people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:48 AM
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Bro are you OK? Wrong title, wrong name. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Lyon_Mackenzie_King
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:15 AM
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No you are not. “It’s the girl who” is a comparison. “The girl” as supposed to someone else. Like, it’s the Republicans who voted against FEMA funding. Someone else voted for FEMA funding. But you don’t know about anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:06 AM
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Your ignorance is impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:03 AM
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Then what does this have to do with gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:31 AM
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President James Buchanan Prime Minister Edward Heath Prime Minister Atal Bihari Vajpayee Prime Minister Kiichirō Hiranuma Prime Minister William Lyon Mackenzie King
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:23 AM
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The dudes you fuck want to use condoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:49 AM
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Absolutely number 1. I’m assuming that the vast majority of men would choose the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:48 AM
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How would this work? My friends have no idea who I swiped left on on Tinder, much less why.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:48 PM
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What’s the alternative to everyone being entitled to say “no” to what they don’t choose?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:28 PM
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And you can get taller by paying to have your legs broken and extended. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:52 AM
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More content that includes zero indication that being short is the “HARDEST.” The premise we’re debating is not whether “height matters,” but whether height matters THE MOST, more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:48 AM
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But you are just basing this on your feelings, right? You are not referencing any data that reinforces this premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:34 AM
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There’s nothing in your post that supports your premise being short is the “hardest.” Nothing in your post indicates that it’s harder than being bald, harder than being obese, harder than having a high-pitched voice, or any other characteristic that isn’t a “disability.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:12 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:02 AM
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My question is that couldn't this problem be solved with same gender support networks? Which problem? Struggling to find a partner for marriage =/= lonely. Struggling to find a partner for marriage isn’t even necessarily = unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:32 AM
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Me neither. I was super selective in swiping, so I never got more messages than I could handle, even though I got some messages from Premium members I hadn’t swiped right on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:39 PM
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So is that your experience? You are overwhelmed by messages from men you never swiped right on?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:32 PM
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And this post isn’t about them. Question for women regarding online dating and too many MATCHES
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:57 PM
-4

So, not relevant to the post or the question being asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:51 PM
0

But were you using a matching app? The question is why someone would swipe right on enough people to result in having so many people that CAN message you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:46 PM
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How would I know? Some guys might say sex is part of having peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:53 PM
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We’re talking about a bad relationship. How is leverage relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:18 PM
2

So, the divorce rates prove your theory because it’s your theory. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:09 PM
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The ones who adjust the most are less likely to be separated. But how did you come to this conclusion? Why do you think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:01 PM
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men adjust way more in relationships. Take the divorce stats of gays vs lesbians vs heterosexuals. How does that follow?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:47 PM
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Men like access to sex, even from women they don’t like very much. Men don’t have as many close social connections, so the end of a relationship causes more loneliness. Men have a harder time finding new sources of sex and new relationships, so they are more likely to drag things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:45 PM
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Lol, if my boss came to me and offered me 6 more weeks of vacation time each year, I wouldn’t say “who cares, that’s basically equal to what I get now.” Maybe you would! Maybe if he offered 6 more weeks of vacation time only to all the women, you’d say “cool, that’s still roughly equal.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:06 PM
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I don’t see anything gendered. What am I missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 08:37 PM
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The word "double" has a standard meaning, not even feminists can deny that. No, this is a straw man argument. YOU chose the sources to dispute. Now you’re claiming to win an argument against a claim that was not in those sources. This is embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:42 PM
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So, your intent here is to reference a “hoax,” then provide data proving the hoax, then decide the reference was never the hoax at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:18 PM
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Again, you read and quoted the Wikipedia article. As you know, it repeatedly defines double burden as a “significant” difference. Is your argument that it isn’t 100% more (a standard that you made up) or is your argument that 10% is not significant? If the latter, how did you come to that conclusion? I think 230+ hours a year is massively significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:15 PM
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You referenced multiple sources about the second shift. Which one defines it as 100% more (I assume that’s what you mean instead of “200% more”)?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:08 PM
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family courts automatically side with the mothers. Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:59 PM
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Your friend never sees his child? He’s not in their life?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:41 PM
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You’ve acknowledged that women spend 10% more time working… that proves the “hoax” that you quoted…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:24 PM
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the presence of a father figure is crucial in a child's development, thus highlighting that women filing for divorce do it at the cost of their children's well-being? Weird, my parents divorced, and my father didn’t disappear in a puff of smoke…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:37 PM
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The “hoax:” in couples where both partners have paid jobs, women often spend significantly more time than men on household chores and caring work This is true, right? the more time spent on chores, the less a woman has to spend on other activities like sleep, work, and leisure. Common sense, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:47 PM
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The “hoax:” in couples where both partners have paid jobs, women often spend significantly more time than men on household chores and caring work This is true, right? the more time spent on chores, the less a woman has to spend on other activities like sleep, work, and leisure. Common sense, yes? I don’t see this addressed at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:46 PM
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Your data literally says that women do more total work and more unpaid work??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:21 PM
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He doesn’t need anyone’s permission to prioritize his dream. I don’t date or marry people who stand in the way of my dreams. He shouldn’t have married someone whose priorities conflicted with his, and he can still leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 01:27 PM
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Not doing sex acts you know you don’t like (because you tried them) isn’t a power play. Relationships where the sex makes you feel gross typically don’t last.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 01:23 PM
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is a hoax - and data disprove it Did you forget to write this part of the post? Because all I see is data that proves the very thing you claim to disprove.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 12:33 PM
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how to flirt and express attraction without being creepy? Your post implies that men only learn this by practicing on women, which is false. I think men have an obligation to do some homework before using random women for target practice. I’m more than happy to talk to male relatives, male friends, and even men on online forums about what behavior I find creepy or appropriate. There are many many online resources where women talk about what behavior they find creepy or appropriate. But if a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:28 PM
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Because of what I already said: The debate is whether it’s OK for a woman to dump the guy who doesn’t trust her. Many men don’t trust their partners and want paternity tests, but want to keep dating these women if the kid is theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:52 PM
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I don’t understand what you’re asking. Most people think couples should break up if the woman cheated and lied about the paternity of a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:04 PM
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The debate about paternity tests is not whether they should exist, or whether men should get them. The debate is whether it’s OK for a woman to dump the guy who doesn’t trust her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:28 PM
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“Care about guys getting paternity tests” usually means, thinks that relationships without trust should end. Presumably you broke up with the woman you had an instinct was cheating cheating on you. That’s what most people are suggesting!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:59 PM
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I don’t think you guys understand what weapons are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:42 PM
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And that would make it a weapon because??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:40 PM
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Is that you’re go to defense when you’ve misused words? Something can’t be a “weapon,” even as a metaphor, if the damages are “ironic” unintended consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:46 PM
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I’ve also read the definition of “weapon.” Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:39 PM
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Your assertion that equality “has become weapon” is not addressed, much less substantiated, in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:34 PM
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But what are the “outside factors??”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:47 AM
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You are describing unplanned pregnancy after unprotected sex as outside factors forcing you to be ‘lucky’??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:27 AM
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So really it’s still pointless to rely on that On what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:23 AM
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So which is it? Not “using your brain” is a “wasted opportunity and “not thinking hard” is “literally the dumbest thing you can do?” OR You can succeed just as easily by luck and not even knowing about the formula?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:18 AM
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Following the truth will lead to higher rates% of success Want to have offspring? You can’t be “kinda” pregnant. If you’re trying to have offspring, you’re either 0% successful or 100% successful. using formulas and following truth and planning/thinking is the way to achieve success in sex/relationships/dating/sexual dynamics Almost half of pregnancies are unplanned. Just as many people “succeed” in having offspring without using formulas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:00 AM
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Check all you want. But that doesn’t erase the massive difference between not trusting your partner now, and acknowledging that they may become untrustworthy within the next 50 years. And if you think your partner may be mentally ill or suffering from a head injury, I would suggest not fucking her till you figure it out (as opposed to having unprotected sex with her).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:29 AM
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Of course. But no one is getting a paternity test because they’re worried about future infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 12:16 AM
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“don’t start a relationship with him if you don’t trust him.” No one knows how a person may change over 50+ years. I’ve never met the person I will be in a relationship with in the future… even if it’s the same man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:27 PM
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Totally different. One is forward-looking: “I do not know that I can trust you, in the future. You may have a mental illness or head injury that drastically changes your personality, making you unsafe to be around.” The other is backwards-looking: “I do not trust you NOW, and think you may have betrayed me within the last year. I am actively encouraging you to trust me (by having a baby with me), but do not return your trust.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:19 PM
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Why just don't spin a plate and get a free food, free gift and free sex from several guys? I’m not paying for sex when I’m in a committed relationship, so “free sex” isn’t exactly a selling point of casual dating… all the sex I have is free. As far as free gifts and food… I make enough to buy myself the gifts and food that I want. But ultimately, I have a limited social battery. If I’m going out to dinner, I’d rather spend the time and energy with someone who I’m investing in, whether it’s a rom…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:13 PM
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Why is “sympathy from complete strangers after you are raped or murdered” the way you measure value?? I couldn’t care less who reads a newspaper article about my death and says, “oh that’s terrible.” Who gives a shit? A ton of fat non-chaste women are loved by their friends and partners. They’re appreciated at work and in their community. A lot of drop-out blue collar men are loved by their friends and partners. They’re appreciated at work and in their community. That matters a lot more than som…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:37 AM
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Of course it doesn’t help? It makes no sense at all. If taking care of kids is intrinsically rewarding, why wouldn’t it be the best part of his day? If it’s not difficult, why does it matter that he’s tired? You literally described it as leisure!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:43 PM
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how difficult it is, how demanding it is, how it's a "24/7 job and working husbands are lucky they can clock out at 5". If it isn’t difficult, isn’t demanding, and isn’t work, then there’s no reason the dad can’t take over from 5pm till he goes to work the next morning. Why isn’t that happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:31 PM
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That's not emotional blackmail, it’s pointing out the same fact that YOU already agree with: If he doesn’t trust her, the marriage is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah sure, thinking it’s normal to be in a single relationship once a decade reeks of desperation /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 08:36 AM
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Of course it does not! There’s nothing wrong with joining a monastery. There’s nothing wrong with taking a vow of celibacy. There’s nothing wrong with moving to a cabin in the woods because you don’t want to interact with people. There’s nothing wrong with 10,000 choices that would be red flags for people who might be considering dating you. It’s like there’s nothing wrong with being an accountant. But a decade of being an accountant is going to be a red flag when you apply for a job as a dental…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 07:18 AM
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Why would it be wrong for anyone to choose to be single? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 07:06 AM
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Of course? Anyone can be single instead of settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 07:04 AM
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Because it’s impossible for a man to say he wants to commit, even believe he wants to commit, but be emotionally unable to follow through? I certainly don’t think so. He doesn’t even know what a committed relationship is like!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:56 AM
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You may know women who have spent a decade dating a lot of men but never getting into a relationship with a single one because of their standards. I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:52 AM
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Yes, it sounds like they’ve chosen to have “standards” that no one can meet so they can avoid ever being in a real relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:43 AM
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What does A DECADE without being interested in a relationship have to do with standards or desperation?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:36 AM
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If testing his children is a requirement the man has, he should be sharing it early in the relationship, well before any planned pregnancy. This is like any other relationship requirement. If he did not know he’d want to test his children until some unique situation happened, he should still be discussing his intention to take the child’s DNA and share it with a third party with the coparent of that child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:31 AM
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then I don't see why a lack of relationship experience is often seen as such a red flag or a dealbreaker. To be clear, your position is entirely speculative? You are not saying, “I have dated people with and without relationship experience, and I couldn’t tell any difference.” guys in their late 20s who have never had a long term relationship they just haven't met anyone who they wanted to commit to dating and not through lack of options. Why isn’t it reasonable to interpret this as avoidant and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:16 AM
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The majority of your post is about people who are NOT in relationships. You’re referring to two extremely different dynamics, where the participants have extremely different concerns.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:40 AM
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actually looking for a companion, someone to grow together and accomplish and go places with, with which you grow a strong bond and have all those memories and experiences as opposed to having someone who's already accomplished and done it all by themselves. What are you suggesting? That “good” men aren’t bettering themselves on their own because they want to do it with a partner? It’s the “bad” men who are intrinsically motivated to accomplish things and experience life, even if they don’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:16 PM
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