Velor22 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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–	Women are too willing to lie about their pasts when dating It is very wise to seek alignment on values and morals, and past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. That is why background checks exist. A relationship founded on fakery and deception is no relationship at all, and doomed to failure. Therefore, it's obviously wrong to misrepresent one's past. Especially when it comes to dating and relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 06:43 AM
2	Being upset about not having had sex is not a moral failure or entitlement. Why do you pretend it is ? It's not just you and your generation. It is vast technological and societal change in an incredibly short period of time. I think, social engineering. I'm thankfully long married, because if I had to deal with such long odds for romantic companionship like young men today, I doubt I would've achieved a fraction of what I have in life. Because without hope of family and legacy there is little motivation to work hard. In other words you all got a raw deal. Women have such high expectations now th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 09:27 PM
7	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes Well said. The proliferation of porn has been extremely damaging to men, and social media has been just as damaging to women. I believe heavy controls will eventually be placed on both, else too many people will remain stuck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 08:11 PM
0	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. BS. Build yourself up in the ways that matter most to you and you will become more desirable. Because confidence is what is most attractive of all. You don't need validation through toxic crap like hookups and FWB to know you're wanted. When you are getting there you will know and feel it. Including energy from others. No need to bang forgettable bimbos, potentially getting the gift that keeps on giving. Stay clean and pure. Save your attention, value and virility for someone deserving, rather t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 04:23 AM
3	Men Shouldn't Complain About Being Locked out of Casual Sex if They Think it's bad for Women There are men who abhor casual sex because it is terrible for all parties involved, as well as society at large. Or it may be against their values and/or religious beliefs. In other words, these men are against casual sex on principle. Then there are men who may want casual sex but cannot get it, for one reason or another. For many of those men, a committed relationship provides the only access to women. But, casual sex tends to ruin women for relationships. Both of these groups have a valid bee…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 05:32 AM
1	Those who do not believe delayed sex is a cause of concern, how would you respond to this scenario? Someone who fucks around to "relieve sexual energy" isn't someone to be taken seriously. Period. What a silly scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 05:37 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. It's unfortunate that you've had bad experiences with men, but what's the point of projecting that onto random people that you disagree with on here. You can't possibly know them well enough to make a judgement like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 01:12 AM
10	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD They don't really think men are insecure for holding their sexual past against them. I mean, how absurd is that. Rather, they use the label as a shaming tactic simply for having preferences. Like their own preferences for status, resources, etc. They know that men equate insecurity with weakness, and nobody wants to be called weak. Unfortunately for them, more men are wising up to their manipulation tactics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/26 12:38 AM
3	Men are lonely because women are changed. Whether realized or not, all men are essentially programmed (instinct) to have the following strong preferences in a romantic partner, and relationship: Committed over casual Cooperation over competition Softness over hardness Peace over conflict Submissiveness over assertiveness Love over transaction Innocence over baggage Wholesomeness over hotness ...etc. Between traditional and modern, it should be pretty obvious what type is more appealing to most men for commitment, relationships and marri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 08:47 PM
–	Too many men make normal bad experiences their whole personality, and allows it to stunt their growth. Men want committed wives, not has-beens loaded with baggage. Otherwise, what is the point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 08:06 PM
9	Too many men make normal bad experiences their whole personality, and allows it to stunt their growth. On the whole It's your fault you're an incel you dumbass, or let's just say sexless Vs Life isn't fair I got the short straw, so I'm just gonna bitch and moan I can understand both midsets. This victimization thing is self-fulfilling and pointless. No one else will save you. But the hypergamy thing has gone from theory to an applied science. Matching and connecting them digitally to the man (men) of their dreams, has enabled it like no other. Let's be real. Of course those dreamy guys turn out t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 07:12 PM
6	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. 70% of men aren't in anyone's league? What an absurd statement. It just goes to show how warped many womens' perceptions have become. Watch those perceptions change with the economy taking a dump and benefits cut, directly or indirectly (inflation).	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 11:32 PM
3	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. Exactly. My interpretation of risk in this context means likelihood of leaving, which of course goes up for men with more options.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 11:10 PM
3	Slut shamers - would you be happier under strict Sharia Law where casual sex and imodesty are illegal? Well, women these days appear to be trending towards preferring short term casual relations over relationships that are deep, lasting and intimate. The former is simply not accessible to a majority of men, until they're much older and probably jaded. This is a massive shift in dating, relationships and family dynamics. It will have huge consequences for society, and yes civilization.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/25 06:20 AM
11	Women's brains have been FRIED by social media and OLD We live in an era of rage baiting and doom scrolling. For profit and control. Much of this supposed gender war is completely artificial. AI and tech enables the complex social engineering we see today. Just look at the toxic soup that is X and social media feeds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/25 07:43 PM
–	Dating is insanely inequal and unfair for men, yet no one’s adressing it even though it affects fundamental human It's probably a key societal concept for advancement, the expectation that most men will have access to a mate. Not only does this raise production, it increases the security of a society. Fewer idle men. More men with purpose. I believe it is self correcting. As we fall into economic hard times, security will decrease. More women will seek a mate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/25 06:03 PM
–	If men's concern about women's sexual history signals male insecurity, lack of sex appeal & inexperience; why can't you just marry highly experienced, sexually gifted & secure men? Relationships don't have to be stressful. At least, not very often. With the right person and learning how to co-exist over time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 12:32 AM
4	Men have it harder in dating than women do If you see yourself as the "applicant" in a potential relationship, you've already lost. Relationships are based on mutual respect, equality, and fairness. A business partnership would be a far better analogy than employee and employer. Now, the modern selection process is something entirely different. All I can say on that is, I'm grateful my marriage predates OLD. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/25 08:19 PM
1	Not trying to be misogynistic or incelly but why do women get into relationships if at all? Easy to say that as a woman. It's a good question why women generally have more platonic relationships than men. Why do so many men seem to struggle with friendships. Google's AI Overview's take: " Why do women tend to have more platonic relationships than men? Women often report having more emotionally intimate friendships, a practice supported by their willingness to share vulnerable feelings and seek mutual support, which can be hindered in men due to societal expectations or a tendency to pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 08:24 PM
4	Women do not like sex (not as men understand sex) You should consider looking into 'Karezza sex', which is basically a slow, sensual type of lovemaking focused on relaxing into a blissful state and bonding with your partner. Rather than the goal being simply to power to orgasm. Excepting procreation, of course. I believe the main idea being reducing the frequency of orgasm. Because it has costs as well as benefits. Literally, it's called 'the little death' in French. Karezza is sort of like a minmaxer's approach to intimacy. I've started readin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/25 11:13 PM
0	No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups. Players and other predatory men have been around since the dawn of time. Of course they seem good because it's part of the strat to get what they want. E.g. manipulation. The way to deal with their deceit is simply making them wait for sex. How long? At a minimum long enough to see their full personality and properly gauge their intent. Most will have other options and no patience for waiting. Like most highly impulsive people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/25 08:13 PM
1	If marriage benefits men more than women, why are women always the ones pressuring their partner into marriage? Interesting. My wife and I married right after college. We had a modest wedding with a handful of close friends and family. We did splurge a bit on the honeymoon to Bali, though. 30 yrs later we're closer than ever, and well off financially. Maybe there's something to that inverse correlation between wedding cost and marriage duration. Hah	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 01:41 AM
16	Men's love is highly conditional Women's love is just as conditional as men's. Just watch what happens to a woman's respect and attraction towards a mate that lets himself go mentally, emotionally or physically. I don't know if there's a greater 'ick' within a relationship than loss of confidence, motivation and energy. My own wife has fluctuated over the years in several of the marital 'challenges' on the OP's list, yet I love her more than ever after 30+ yrs together. Why? Mainly because of our shared history, deep connection…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 03:58 AM
2	The ability to get sex when you want to is not inherently a virtue. Most men don’t want to have sex with gay men either. Times can change with economics and personal safety becoming important factors again. Especially as the economy is continuing to worsen, and more people fall into de facto poverty. Research shows that poverty, unemployment and income inequality are significantly linked to higher crime rates, particularly violent crime. It will be a convergence of factors bringing men and women together again, probably soon. Stability and future potential will become prime attractants in men, again. Particularly …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 07:30 PM
1	Why are the good men so opposed to marriage recently? I think one issue is, women don't seem to factor in a man's future potential like they used to. They want the attractive traits up front. The end product. I meet the 3 E's that women seek in a partner, but I've also been married 30 yrs and owe much of my development, and motivation, to being married. When my wife and I got together (early 20s), I really only had Education. I was a work in progress Economically and Emotionally. Like most young men. I suspect another issue is, many "good men" are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 03:07 PM
8	All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal men Interesting post and comments. As someone long married, I have to ask whatever happened to dating and trust between men and women. It sounds very different from only a couple of decades ago. It's like some sophisticated social engineering is going on behind the scenes to encourage animosity, pitting men vs women to weaken from within and ultimately collapse Western society. It's working masterfully. Collapse will happen on the current trajectory. Such social engineering is too easy in today's Wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 06:02 PM
7	If a woman desires “bad boy” traits from a guy in order to be attracted to him she doesn’t truly like him First of all, anyone who needs online videos to tell them how to act and how to treat women, has lots of work to do. On themselves. If a woman truly desires immature douchebags, she isn't GF material. Period. So why waste time with someone like that? Thankfully not all women desire bad boy traits, because of all the negative BS that comes with boys who haven't yet grown into men. There are lots of fish in the sea, so save yourself from headache and heartache by choosing someone not addicted to t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 11:57 PM
–	What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex? How is waiting (more than a couple dates) for sex being hung up on sex? Maybe some would like to wait a bit to see if there is alignment on values and morals. Sex is still intimacy for lots of folks, rather than just some passing recreational activity. If that loses her interest then good riddance. She probably bores easily in that case. That's sort of the point of waiting. There's lots of fish in the sea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 09:19 PM
–	What percentage of women do you think have a decent understanding and sympathy for male dating struggles? Then I realized what males are and why they have all these problems. Wow, what a bizarre thing to read, even by reddit standards. What are males supposed to be in your view, expendable? Do you think nature intends things to be any easier for women? As someone 50+ I can verify that, for men, a higher level of testosterone improves quality of life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:50 PM
0	Women dont view having access to causal sex as a benefit How is that an issue? I'm just telling you how I think a lot of men feel about it. Like they're missing out. Hint: they're not But, how can you compare being born into, or earning your way into, a tiny elite with being born into half the population. Lousy comparison. I happen to think easy access to casual sex is a curse, because a good relationship is infinitely better than meaningless objectification.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 11:19 PM
0	Women dont view having access to causal sex as a benefit The main issue for many men: casual sex is an option for nearly all women, but is only accessible by a small subset of men. One can argue that most men have access to it later on, but by then most are jaded and the available options are unappealing. I think casual sex is terrible for both sexes, and I'm hoping it falls out of favor soon. That pendulum may already be swinging.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 07:54 PM
2	Q4M: How would you feel if women acted like "fukgirls"? Because women aren't men. " Men tend to be more visually stimulated and experience more spontaneous arousal, while women's desire is often influenced by emotional connection and relationship dynamics. " That's a short summation by Google's AI. Therefore, women trying to have sex like (some) men is not natural. Emotionless sex is even strange and unnatural for lots of men, too. Many believe that women accustomed to recreational sex, that is with feelings detached, have lost capacity for intimacy.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 01:47 AM
4	Q4M: How would you feel if women acted like "fukgirls"? Those men were likely open to the possibility of a relationship. It's quite unnatural and jarring to meet a woman only interested in casual. I doubt anyone seeking a booty call would care how you felt about the possibility of anything deeper. Or how you felt about anything, really.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/25 05:38 AM
1	How should your gf be different from the average woman? I agree with all of that except the interracial part. Wholesomeness in values and morals being most important. Source: Married 30 years to an Asian. By far, the most amazing woman I have ever known. She still inspires me to chase excellence every day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/25 05:17 AM
2	How should your gf be different from the average woman? FYI - that sense of 'ownership' goes both ways. Although that isn't the best term for it, since we're not property. Rather, more like caretakers for each others' heart. The result of years of commitment, trust, and vulnerability. Don't you desire a sense of permanence in your long-term relationship? As opposed to a temporary rental? (another lousy term lol)	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/25 05:05 AM
18	Lauren Sanchez is the opposite of what Red Pillers are telling us that men want in women and shows that women just have to be hot and seductive Lots of men apparently like the fake bimbo look, and many other men prefer clean, natural beauty. Different strokes. All that plastic fakeness won't age well. It boggles the mind that they don't consider that when they get the work done.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 05:24 PM
3	The “everyone gets a wife” experiment lasted about 50 years and failed. Now it’s back to normalcy All I can say is g'luck when one gets older with that mindset. With age and maturity most people start thinking about deeper meaning and purpose in life. Career, superficial experiences and material things are all transitory compared to family and close relationships. A sense of fulfillment becomes more important.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 11:13 PM
5	The “everyone gets a wife” experiment lasted about 50 years and failed. Now it’s back to normalcy Well, society can also change back in a hurry, such as when hard times come and people prioritize necessities, stability, relationships and family again. That time may be coming soon, if the economy worsens into something more severe than a typical recession.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 10:54 PM
2	Study finds out body count truly matters in both genders I guess in that sense I'm glad I didn't accumulate a bunch of sexual encounters pre-marriage. Because comparison sucks eg the thief of joy. By the way, becoming/being exceptionally physically fit gets noticed by others, including women. In addition to keeping your libido primed, it makes you more of a prize in her eyes and ignites desire. Assuming your marriage is already healthy, of course. Just a tip I learned through the school of hard knocks over the course of a long marriage. Who says long-…	/r/BlackPillScience	27/06/25 07:11 PM
3	Study finds out body count truly matters in both genders I'm sorry, but I just don't understand this mindset. If you truly love your long-term partner, why would you ever want to hurt her by going outside the marriage for your sexual needs? I have a hard time believing that she wouldn't care. Maybe I just have a completely different experience, as neither my wife nor I were ever promiscuous in our pasts.	/r/BlackPillScience	27/06/25 06:30 PM
3	Study finds out body count truly matters in both genders Definitely not everyone. Of course those with more experience with a range of partners will lose the interest sooner, or burn out altogether. Especially relationship sex. Also, casual or recreational sex is completely different from actual intimacy, and can permanently blunt capacity for closeness and bonding (incl. intimacy).	/r/BlackPillScience	27/06/25 06:18 PM
2	Study finds out body count truly matters in both genders As someone who has been married 30+ yrs I can report the opposite. As we are now empty nesters winding down our careers, we have much more time and energy to explore our libidos together. Probably because we're both less experienced (me n==5, her n==1) this is all new ground for us, with no points of reference/comparison nor expectations. The intimacy has been fantastic, especially lately. My thought is, long-term relationships, intimacy and otherwise, can quickly become "same old, same old" for…	/r/BlackPillScience	27/06/25 06:07 PM
7	Assuming you'll never enter a romantic relationship should be the default rather than a "worst case" outcome. Compelled by who? In my experience as a GenX the vast majority of people wanted to get married and have kids. I mean, attracting a partner was a huge motivator for me to go to college and work my ass off. I just don't understand why it's considered such a negative thing now, needing compelling. I do understand there are complicating factors like online dating, and of course the shit economy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 01:37 AM
0	Assuming you'll never enter a romantic relationship should be the default rather than a "worst case" outcome. I think the commentary about marital unhappiness in those days is overstated, or possibly propaganda. I'm now in my 50s, and I had the sense when I was young that most marriages were happy, if a bit mundane. My own marriage of 30+ years is amazing and not mundane, especially lately. But, we took our lumps and worked for it. It hurts my heart that people feel so cut off from relationships and marriage. People giving up only compounds the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 01:15 AM
5	Assuming you'll never enter a romantic relationship should be the default rather than a "worst case" outcome. Sadly, that thinking is a departure from what was the norm only a few decades ago. The majority of men and women would get into relationships and marriage. That's a major shift in a short period of time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 12:42 AM
15	Why does it seem like women very rarely lust over a guy? How does a guy go about getting a woman to lust for him? Although I'm not sure there are zero men that can turn most women on purely visually, we must acknowledge that their attraction mechanism is far more complicated than for men. That's why for men, if confidence doesn't come naturally, it's highly advised to work towards becoming exceptional in some way, to become more confident. Physical fitness is fantastic because it also signals certain positive traits to women, in addition to building confidence. Like you said, it's just a matter of taking a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/25 11:09 PM
2	Why do women call sleeping around “healing” or “finding themselves”? Absolutely true, as past promiscuity (partner count) is positively correlated to increased cheating and divorce. Backed up by statistics and common sense. This is why transparency with potential romantic partners is so important when it comes to our values and morals, as well as our histories. Life goes by too quickly to waste time and resources, and potentially accumulate baggage, trusting the wrong people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 07:37 PM
1	Why do women call sleeping around “healing” or “finding themselves”? Aside from prostitution, sex is either intimacy and more meaningful, or it is recreation and by definition less meaningful. It cannot be both or alternate back and forth. For the vast majority of men, sex is inherently scarce which increases its value, hence more meaningful. Therefore, when a woman treats it as something of little value and essentially gives it away, eg promiscuity, that's a fundamental difference in values with the majority of men, which automatically makes her less appealing. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/25 06:32 PM
8	Why do women call sleeping around “healing” or “finding themselves”? My point is... you say that people can switch sex between recreation and intimacy. But many people don't believe that. We should be transparent and let them decide what's best for themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 06:40 AM
13	Why do women call sleeping around “healing” or “finding themselves”? People have the right to choose other people with a similar value system. Period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 06:02 AM
2	Women, do you think men who work from home are less masculine? Bingo. I've been 100% WFH the past 10 yrs, and my wife the past 20 yrs. Wouldn't have it any other way. We're both engineers. We end up spending a hell of a lot of time together, so it's a good thing we get along so well. We also save lots of money spending more time at home. The flexibility and freedom is unsurpassed. Well worth the occasional odd hours or overtime as needed. Both of our work is highly deadline driven as opposed to hours warming up a seat. Hence the freedom to come and go, go o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 01:15 AM
64	Why do women call sleeping around “healing” or “finding themselves”? It's quite simple really. Sex is nothing more than a fun recreational activity for that type of woman (and men who do the same). Hopefully, they're truthful about that going forward with any future romantic prospect because many people, men and women, feel very differently about intimacy. Which would indicate a mismatch in values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 01:02 AM
3	Women who cycle through "criminal losers" instead of dating a "good guy" Pretty soon even the govt won't be able to help take care of them, because it is flat broke and will have no choice but to inflate away the currency. Then we will all be completely on our own. That's when we will see a return of the family unit. Those left out will suffer the most.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 01:08 PM
28	I think men project their desires onto women, and that's why some of them are jealous of women's ability to get sex Always been a relationship guy, so never desired or pursued meaningless sex. Intimacy is as exciting as ever now as empty nesters with my partner of 30+ years. We're exploring new ways to enjoy our libidos together. Experimenting with zero expectations, nor points of reference, is amazing. No regrets.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 12:58 PM
0	Women who cycle through "criminal losers" instead of dating a "good guy" Uh, who cares if a bunch of bimbos want losers instead of guys that would actually be good to them, and good for them. Good riddance. Once the economy crashes (soon), they will suddenly remember why they need a man. But, it will be too late.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 12:34 PM
2	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Me: 4 Wife: 1 Intimacy just gets better with time for us, especially as empty nesters now in our 50s. She still has that innocent, shy smile and twinkle in her eye that I find hella attractive. Partially, because I still see her younger self in my minds eye. Being extremely fit and healthy for our age, it's exciting to explore and discover new ways to enjoy our libidos, together. No expectations or points of reference. I've always been a relationship guy, so I'm grateful that my initial GFs move…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 05:19 AM
4	Why Are Women so Defensive When Men Complain About Dating Apps Trying to explain how male attraction works to women, is like trying to explain what the sky looks like to a blind person. We're just too different in that regard. Women simply cannot separate sex and feelings like men can. It's one reason why the construct of marriage is vital for women, providing external forces for commitment. Once feelings have been divorced from sex, those women are left with little anchoring them to any partner. A major reason why promiscuity destroys pair bonding in women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/25 02:12 AM
2	Apparently, men are more likely to hit on women they think are easy and not necessarily because they think they're attractive How would you describe having sex through a hole in the wall, with people you cannot even see? It's safe to say that attraction isn't at all a prerequisite for sex, for many men (and some women). Mental imagery and fantasy can make up for a lack of attraction.Especially for sex addicts. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/25 04:38 AM
1	Apparently, men are more likely to hit on women they think are easy and not necessarily because they think they're attractive Uhhh, because not only are easy women considered poor choices for anything remotely serious, they're unappealing. For many reasons. However, apparently they're good enough for a one night stand when better choice aren't available, by men who do hookups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/25 04:23 AM
1	Women are in business while men are looking for love. Well I'm sorry you're apparently so jaded? Such sentiment was actually fairly common back in the day. At least among people I knew. I agree the term soulmate is cringe, but it's hard to find a better descriptor for the feelings you feel when you make it through all the ups and downs, and are still standing. You realize the right person has been in front of you the entire time. If that makes sense. Probably have to experience it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 02:56 AM
1	Women are in business while men are looking for love. A man's love is far more than lust, else how can you explain the deepening of love whilst lust may be decreasing, or fluctuating with typical career, family and other stressors. What's amazing is mutual lust increasing again after becoming empty nesters. There's so much to explore together, which is absolutely magical when you consider the other person your soulmate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 06:37 PM
3	One of the biggest problems in dating is men think they want easy sex. Meaningful and meaningless intimate encounters are completely different experiences, obviously. For the latter, any "connection" is completely superficial and fleeting, and it can be difficult to even remember after some time has passed. Thus, cheapening what intimacy is (perceived to be). Meaningful intimacy on the other hand, especially within a relationship, only deepens connection with time as feelings, trust, vulnerability, and pair bonding are established and grow. Intimacy with intention …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/25 05:22 PM
0	Red pillers: What would make you change your mind? Look, I know there's a lot of truth in red pill, but there's also exaggeration and simplification. Not to mention opportunism. Congrats on the 10 yrs. There are many bases yet to complete, with each decade bringing unique challenges. Good luck!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/25 11:07 PM
3	Red pillers: What would make you change your mind? I can agree with this. I'm pretty sure that all of us, or almost all, have that animalistic part of ourselves that wants to fuck like beasts with the nearest hot girl/guy. But then things like values and morals are what stops us. Or, we're committed already and think of the long term consequences, and effect on our loved one. We tend to surround ourselves with like minded folks. His set of friends and associates likely have looser morals. It does seem like morals are slipping, generally, which w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/25 07:04 PM
4	Red pillers: What would make you change your mind? I'm not discounting what you're saying, because I've got perpetually single and attractive friends who describe similar experiences. Doesn't such meaningless hedonism and objectification get old after a while? Or at least less interesting and more mundane. Getting together with those friends, our talks are always interesting, my perspective being a guy married almost 30 yrs. I have to say, the more I hear from them, the less fomo (past tense, now)...	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/25 06:54 PM
0	Is there a theoretical threshold where you would start feeling sorry for men for their position in online dating? You can't assume all of those are cheating married scumbags. That wording could include "open relationship" and poly BS. Not that that's any better haha. Condolences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 08:57 PM
3	Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today. Well, one could counter that dating and relationships wouldn't feel so hopeless and impossible for average guys if dating apps weren't in the picture. Being long married I have never used them myself, but I've heard from so many people that do use them that they're next to worthless for average guys. Obviously , that changes much later when options dry up for the average woman and the playing field levels. But then, they're not worth it anymore. For relationships at least. Kind of chicken and eg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/25 12:30 AM
8	Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today. Lol. Capacity for having sex and being fun and enjoyable to be around is nice and all, but relationships involve so much more than that. Committed relationships require a much greater and deeper skillset than mere casual relations. It seems too many people have lost sight of that, and waste valuable time accumulating emotional baggage instead of relationship/family skills. I mean, who wants to commit to and invest in someone unwilling or unable to co-exist with someone else, and always in need o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 11:04 PM
3	Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today. I'm not sure about that. Pre dating apps, the vast majority of men got into relationships and marriage. Yes, that included most introverted men as well. I don't believe that's the case anymore. At least, nowhere near the same degree in terms of % of men of all ages being in relationships, or married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 10:46 PM
1	The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to come The thing is, just a decade or two ago women could and would be attracted to many of today's undesirable men. The effect of OLD has been profound, turning dating into a shopping experience, with nearly complete anonymity and secrecy. Playing around with desirable but non-committal men on dating apps permanently skews their attraction mechanism. So we get the situation where, the guys they want do not want them, except for a good time. Values and morals corrupted by degenerate men. The guys who w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/25 06:07 AM
2	The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to come On the one hand, it kind of sounds pretty extreme for undesirable men to direct their hostility and frustration towards women generally, merely for utilizing their free agency. On the other, only a couple decades ago most of the undesirables of today would've been able to find partners, statistically speaking. I certainly understand their anger. What they should do is direct their anger towards the desirable but non-committal men who cycle through women, leaving behind broken husks unfit and und…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/25 05:34 AM
–	The reason women loathe the passportbro movement is because it threatens their position in the dating market Exploitation? It could be argued that they're taking advantage of the rich Westerner. It's a matter of perspective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 02:22 AM
7	Hypergamy/women's nature falsely seen as the problem with online dating There's also a sizable percentage of women who get stuck in the cycle of: re-install apps, give it one more chance, get used and ghosted, more heartbreak, get mad and uninstall, "heal", wait until the urges return, re-install and repeat. That is, until bitterness sets in... then cats and wine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 10:21 PM
8	A person with no options is NOT a better option. You mean, desirable men have desirable superficial traits. In this context, at least. Women (and men) that prioritize the superficial deserve what they get. Not only that, they'll have lots of competition along the way. Have fun with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/25 02:56 AM
1	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. There are no guarantees in life. But it is your choice whether to try or not. I sincerely wish you the best.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 05:56 PM
1	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. If you don't believe self improvement affects mindset in a positive way, if you don't think improved mindset increases the odds of finding and sustaining a relationship, well then I don't think we have anything else to discuss. We are who we are. We may as well make the best of it, continuously working towards becoming a better version of ourselves. I have 2 nephews who are close to what you are describing. Both in their late 20s with the odds stacked completely against them. Both having zero ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 07:22 AM
1	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. For sure if they feel it is hopeless, then it will be. I will maintain that it is because they give up, or get lazy. A self fulfilling prophecy. Feel free to disagree. Anyone can improve on themselves if they put in the work. That leads to confidence which is attractive. The sooner one stops comparing themselves to others, the better. Unplug from social media if it gets you down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 06:14 AM
1	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. I do not believe there are people who are truly hopeless in the romantic sense. For sure, there are many for whom it will be very difficult. But not impossible unless they convince themselves that it is, and fail to put in the work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 01:56 AM
1	Women Don’t Like Dating Apps for Only One Reason I agree that dating around on the apps (and hooking up) is basically sex addiction, which is extremely similar to substance abuse. With dopamine as the drug. I think very few have the discipline and willpower to manage excess choice on dating apps, and end up self sabotaging themselves (in the long run) as well as hurting others (baggage, STD risk, etc). I agree with the concept of SMV and RMV but talking about it on forums like this is counterproductive. The experience in dating simply too diff…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/25 07:13 PM
1	Women Don’t Like Dating Apps for Only One Reason This post basically summarizes why dating apps are counterproductive for most women, and also the small subset of "top men" (that is, "top" in superficial qualities conveyed through photos) Too much choice, perceived or real, has a tendency to cause inaction. In the case of dating and relationships this manifests as a lack of commitment, as well as thinking someone better is always just around the corner. This form of “choice paralysis” results in anxiety and stress from overanalysis, and made w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/25 06:15 PM
12	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. Yes, that's exactly what I've done for my 21 yo daughter. Now I cross my fingers and hope for the best. Wait, are we talking about children or potential partners? This is a big reason why age gap relations are weird and kinda pervy. Whether the man or woman is older.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 09:24 PM
15	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. That may be sexual fantasy for lots of men, but the vast majority of marriages end up being close in age. Relationships are much more than sex, and age gaps typically bring insurmountable differences in maturity, world views, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 08:38 PM
4	Women's sexuality works differently than men's sexuality... Probably not, but one would have to be an idiot to not acknowledge that fame/infamy added to the allure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 01:16 AM
1	If men are capable of having hookups that mean nothing to them, then so can women. ... few men are capable of having hookups that mean nothing to them, and acting on it ... Fixed that for you. For one group (women) it's literally the easiest thing to do. For the other (men), it is very difficult. Therein lies the difference. Hooking up is unhealthy and self sabotage behavior for both genders. Usually not realized until the damage is done. There are many men that are able to hook up like that, but choose not to. They understand that it's a colossal waste of time and energy. The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/25 12:35 PM
3	People should think about their priorities before complaining about dating. Chase? For what? You gotta specify whether we're talking about seeking a relationship, or temporary pleasure (for guys into that). 2 completely separate things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 12:30 AM
22	People should think about their priorities before complaining about dating. I don't see where he said 'any girl'. Men can have standards just as women can. The answer should be a resounding No to most of the ridiculous qualifiers you mentioned. I suggest he not compromise. Finding someone of quality without all that baggage is very worth it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 12:20 AM
–	The end of Roe v Wade has been a disaster for men, women and dating Why should he care? It sounds like women already stay away. I can't blame him for following suit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 11:49 PM
–	The end of Roe v Wade has been a disaster for men, women and dating How about taking some accountability? Should people rob stores just because they are hungry? I mean, duh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 11:41 PM
0	The way redpillers talk about girls is offensive and often just outright wrong. Age gap relations are weird and creepy, regardless of whether the man or woman is the older one. No one thinks of whores as some "trophy" to be won, whether gen z or not. Lol. More like a booby prize, or bit of fun. For guys who are desperate, or degenerates who don't mind a dirty dick. Red pillers and feminists are 2 sides of the same coin, influenced by grifters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/24 07:53 PM
–	Men are so hypocritical when it comes to sex (or not having it) It may seem hypocritical to someone who cannot distinguish sex from relationships. Of course men want sex, but traditionally that's always been within the context of a relationship, for most men. Because sex used to require some sort of commitment. Women have always been able to get sex whenever they wanted. Now with dating apps many women are acting on it, having non-committal sex with what ends up being a subset of men. No one wants leftovers (especially well used), for many reasons. So there'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/24 03:21 AM
8	A woman with a promiscuous past or present who treats you like a king is 100x better than a rigid, traditional prude who treats you like you're average Many "formerly" promiscuous people who suddenly value monogamy and commitment to one person will become dissatisfied with the same old, same old of marriage will find a reason to divorce later on. Due to affairs, boredom, irreconcilable differences or whatever reason. It's just a matter of time. People instinctively know this, which is why promiscuity is a huge red flag for so many people. Being driven by libido isn't healthy nor good for longterm stability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 10:42 PM
1	A woman with a promiscuous past or present who treats you like a king is 100x better than a rigid, traditional prude who treats you like you're average Lol I'm not religious at all, but nice try. Also, I'm fairly certain PPD skews younger and thus more liberal compared to the general population. Yes, I do believe the vast majority of men value loyalty and commitment from our women. I wouldn't expect women to understand, just as it's difficult for men to understand womens' preferences. So perhaps you can help us understand what an open marriage provides you that a traditional (aka real) marriage does not. Besides the obvious. I didn't say your h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 10:15 PM
1	A woman with a promiscuous past or present who treats you like a king is 100x better than a rigid, traditional prude who treats you like you're average I'm sorry for your husband. I can't fathom what you expected to gain by becoming promiscuous in an open marriage, but I can guarantee it hurts him deeply. If he really loves you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 08:51 PM
7	A woman with a promiscuous past or present who treats you like a king is 100x better than a rigid, traditional prude who treats you like you're average I'm very sorry you were treated like that. There are many men who treat their women far better than that. I wish there were more caring elder figures willing to offer advice on what to look for, and what to avoid in romantic interests. Like back in the day. There were times I didn't treat my wife very well, especially early on. But we mature over time. Fortunately she gave me a few second chances, and things are better than ever for us 30+ yrs later as empty nesters. It really is incredible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 05:34 AM
7	A woman with a promiscuous past or present who treats you like a king is 100x better than a rigid, traditional prude who treats you like you're average How many other men has she treated like a king? Hard pass. I would (and did) take the pure prude any day. Put in the work and become exceptional, and she will treat you well. The best unions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 03:44 AM
–	"You can change your weight, but we can't change our height" is a failed attempt to shame women's preferences In my opinion, the 20s are the best time to get in, and stay in a relationship. For both men and women. The odds of a new relationship turning into long-term appears to plummet with age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/24 09:14 PM
–	Women are indifferent to Most men I think he meant they're indifferent until approached romantically by undesired men. Then indifference turns into disgust.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 01:14 AM
3	“The bar is on the floor” for the men women consider their dating pool, which is always men above them Remember the old saying about dad grabbing the shotgun? Well those caring male figures are gone and there's no one to advise them on what to look for, and what to avoid in partners. What you described is the consequence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 12:11 AM
5	Women feel they don't need men despite needing men; Men feel they need women despite not needing women. Honestly, I don't believe men and women "need" each other except to procreate. But boy can we enhance each other's lives, with the right person and attitude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 08:10 PM
5	The Case for Celibacy: Freedom from a Rigged Game That's what the RP'ers refer to as Alpha Widow. But it doesn't have to be a single Ex from their past. Many intending to have fun, casual encounters actually end up with repeated heartbreak and a hardened heart. Beware those types, as they're usually incapable of true closeness, e.g. pair bonding	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 03:56 AM
–	AI girlfriends are going to completely change the dating game, and it's going to happen very soon. I think this is actually going to be a thing. The technology can't be far off, I'm very sure of that. When I first loaded up Skyrim VR (several years ago) I sat their amazed looking at the landscape and NPCs. Then I noticed the questing companion and how lifelike she was. With some coding changes, it was obvious that this realistic AI companion could interact in ways that could hook someone pretty hard. Especially lonely guys. Much of gaming is about immersion and suspension of disbelief. The AI…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 06:36 PM
2	Being in Hookup Culture Is The Norm for Single Women, But Not For Men I'm with you on sluts of either gender being gross and degenerate. They're sex addicts after all, which are similar to drug addicts in always seeking dopamine hits. Overriding better judgement, and stunting development in other areas. The difference is while any woman could be a slut, only a tiny minority of men have the ability to sleep around like that. They either have natural genetic gifts, or hard-earned attractive qualities developed over time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/24 11:24 PM
–	Modern Women Are Incapable of Accountability Yes, it seems that sentiment is very common among both men and women these days.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/24 03:38 AM
–	Modern Women Are Incapable of Accountability If he wanted to date, there's no shortage of low quality women who would date him. It sounds to me that he's having trouble finding women of sufficient quality. For example, someone who hasn't been overly promiscuous and/or carrying excess baggage. It's like saying to women, why are you still single? There are tons of available men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/24 02:26 AM
1	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love Jealous of age gap relationships? Hell no. I can think of few things more pathetic than grandads chasing young tail, or grannies trying to be bangmaids. Lololol There's a reason they typically avoid being seen in public. It's straight up weird and pervy when you realize they're actually a couple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 03:10 PM
1	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Why do you care? Do you feel threatened by contrary views? Actually, my wife agrees with you. She thinks those folks are set in their ways and hopeless. I'm a bit of a social sciences nerd, and find it to be interesting reading. Quite consistent with discussions and stories I've heard from my single friends. Knowing of the trials and tribulations of folks my age out there in the wild, as well as the cesspool that is online dating, motivates the hell out of me to keep working on my marriage. Even…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 02:59 PM
1	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love Yet, the apparent consensus on those datingover* subs is that most women's libido is higher after menopause. At the same time lamenting how most men their age suffer from ED. So, they must seek out younger men. Yeah, right. Are women qualified to discuss ED issues in men? Do they know what it's like to be in a man's body? We should at least have consistency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 02:43 PM
1	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love Hmmm, according to a quick Google search: " Menopause can affect sex drive in a number of ways, including: Lower libido A decline in estrogen and testosterone levels can lead to a lower sex drive. More than a third of women in perimenopause or menopause experience sexual difficulties. " Face it, getting older has consequences including the aforementioned lower libido in women, and ED issues in men. That tends to be the rule, but there are exceptions. I do my part in staving off libido issues by …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 01:38 PM
1	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Guilty as charged. I'll never ever be an advocate of carefree, swinging lifestyles. No siree. While it might be fun in the short term, it leaves people laden with baggage and often trauma. Utterly unfit for relationships, marriage and any sort of stability. Which is the bedrock of a strong society, and by extension nation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 09:55 AM
2	Why can't fkboys simply be non-negociable? Who? Why are you listening to people like that? Edit: my guess is that those types are giving advice to men seeking sex, not relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 12:41 AM
1	Why can't fkboys simply be non-negociable? Well, many of those dudes who are so good at pleasuring women have had lots of practice with many women, which is why they're so adept at reading and adjusting their sexual techniques. Are you sure that's what you really want. With that logic porn stars are the best lovers. Be warned that many of these men are effectively disease super spreaders, given how rampant STDs are nowadays. I think men and women should be seeking to connect on a deeper level beyond just objectifying each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 12:03 AM
5	Why can't fkboys simply be non-negociable? Well, it's pretty easy to filter out the dirtbags, PUA types, plate spinners and other deceivers. Simply make them wait for sex. See if they want to engage, spend time and get to know as a person in the meantime. There will be lots of tells in their behavior. That's the advice I give to young women in my life that I care about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 11:52 PM
0	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love I think pr0n use by married men is often a chicken and egg thing. Many unfortunately turn to it for relief when their wives withdraw sexually for whatever reason. Obviously not the best thing to do because it's a slippery slope into overuse and addiction. Good news is it is entirely reversible with effort. There's almost always shared responsibility in marriages or relationships that end up in a dead bedroom situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 08:26 AM
1	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love It appears that a good chunk of women get a renewed libido much later on after they have lost their marriage or relationship. Or, give up on ever finding one. So they sleep around using the apps. It's bizarre. Just check out the datingover* subs for some entertaining reading. They would have you believe that menopause doesn't blunt the female sex drive. Somehow I doubt that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 07:51 AM
-1	Tragic Story: A Texas man who wanted his wife to be a tradwife We live in an era of division and hostility towards opposing viewpoints. Sadly, this even extends to relationships and understanding between men and women. I think a lot of misogyny and misandry is reactive to distorted perceptions of the other side. Thus we get radical extremists on both sides. For example, red pill/trad vs radical feminism. What is needed right now is civility, moderation and movement towards the middle by all. Unfortunately, if politics is any indication, things are going to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/24 12:26 AM
8	Society encourages Fukbois, especially women If they want to get played by liars and manipulators for attention, validation, sex addiction or whatever, it's their choice. I don't understand it either. STDs are way up especially in the West and many of those player types are super spreaders, along with the women they infect. Having to disclose infection status to all future partners doesn't sound fun. Nor being despised or talked about for passing it on. Viral STDs are permanent and can reactivate anytime depending on the immune system. Cle…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 06:24 AM
3	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? What, so then it's ok to lie just to get in her pants? Assuming you have zero interest in a relationship. That kind of crap is exactly why casual sex has such a high correlation with other degenerate behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 10:22 AM
-2	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Yes, most definitely. Promiscuity is just one aspect of immorality. There's a high likelihood of other degenerate behaviors and addictions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 10:08 AM
1	Women Are Having Significantly More Casual Sex Than Men, They Just Share The Men. We're definitely due some updated statistics in this regard. I think the median values are shifting heavily towards women, given the accessibility of sex compared to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/24 01:48 AM
2	Women Are Having Significantly More Casual Sex Than Men, They Just Share The Men. I'm not sure it's necessarily about honesty. They might not have considered it casual sex at the time. In hindsight it's pretty clear that's what it was. Edit: that's why partner count is a better metric, taking subjective ambiguity out of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/24 12:13 AM
2	If women were truly as horny as men, it wouldn’t only be for some small subset of men. They would fuck men who were on their level or below like men do, and most men wouldn’t struggle to get laid Sounds fun I guess, I'm just a boring long married guy lol. It seems apparent that: For some sex is more about experiences, variety and performance. For others it's more about connection, bonding and intimacy. People should definitely stick with like minded folks, for the best outcome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 06:20 PM
2	If women were truly as horny as men, it wouldn’t only be for some small subset of men. They would fuck men who were on their level or below like men do, and most men wouldn’t struggle to get laid How does he know what her "playbook" contains? Why does that even matter? Even thinking about such a thing is unpleasant. It's not fear, it's a turn off. We go through life being compared constantly. Who wants to bring that to the bedroom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 06:03 PM
3	If women were truly as horny as men, it wouldn’t only be for some small subset of men. They would fuck men who were on their level or below like men do, and most men wouldn’t struggle to get laid Interesting. So that's why women have such a strong tendency to compare past and current partners. To judge sexual competency, consciously or not. Comparison sucks. Who wants that kind of pressure. It's sooo much better with someone less experienced. In terms of relaxing and focusing only on each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 05:45 PM
6	There’s nothing wrong with high standards. Well, consider it's a broad category ranging from socially awkward but harmless computer nerds to the mentally unstable/ill and outcasts. The types that immediately come to mind with the abbreviation for involuntary celibates. I agree that men absolutely should gather together more, but around common interests and hobbies. Indoors or outdoors.That way the men further along the path can mentor other men. The way it's always been up until the era of social isolation. But getting men to come togeth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 10:53 PM
7	There’s nothing wrong with high standards. I think gathering groups of men who feel unwanted and marginalized by society might not end well. If they feel like losers and rejects it'd be easier for them to engage in poor behavior, collectively. Giving the finger back to society. A case of be careful what you wish for...	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 10:29 PM
1	Men need to learn to be happy being single It is truly amazing to be fortunate enough to find someone like that. To flourish with and actually build something resembling a paradise. Together. But it's not a fairytale. You'll certainly have your ups and downs, issues and difficulties along the way, as any couple does. Once you both mature and gain enough life experience you realize that your differences can become strengths, if you learn cooperation, compromise and conflict resolution. Over the years her demonstrated loyalty and the count…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 05:48 PM
1	How to reconcile: [Lying about sexual past] X [Men who care are not worth relationships] X [Sexual past does not matter]? Very well said, irrefutable logic and succinctly stated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 04:18 AM
5	Why do men believe sex is degrading to women? Or they want it to be? Do you think prostitution is degrading to women if it's their choice? What do you think about men who use the services of prostitutes?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 05:26 PM
3	Men of reddit would you have a problem if your girlfriend was a Cuckquean? Commitment obviously implies exclusivity. Trying to argue otherwise is silly, i.e., wanting to have cake and eat it too. Most things worth having in life require sacrifice, relationships included. Many people realize this too late, sadly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 08:09 PM
3	Men of reddit would you have a problem if your girlfriend was a Cuckquean? Hey, you're welcome to have all the sex and feelings for as many people as you want. But for the vast majority of people, that ends once one enters into a relationship. Relationships and marriage are about commitment to one another. Not weakness, infidelity, and sex addiction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 03:36 AM
1	Men of reddit would you have a problem if your girlfriend was a Cuckquean? Sex involves feelings, and those feelings most definitely should be reserved between relationship partners. If sex somehow doesn't involve feelings then they're fucked up in the head and aren't fit for a relationship anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 01:07 AM
5	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men Yeah, it's kinda silly seeing women (or men) with much younger partners. Boy does the older one look OLD, in comparison. It very rarely ever works and is probably some sort of weird sexual arrangement. Lol The young one will choose someone more age appropriate, and the old one left feeling even older and discarded. You'd think this stuff to be obvious, but some folks have to learn the hard way, especially these days...	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 11:58 PM
0	For women, how does it feel when your dating a guy who's statistically is also dating/sleeping other women. Ugly men typically don't present well on dating apps. Obviously real life is far different. As far as cheating goes, it's far more difficult (not impossible) for ugly dudes to manipulate and deceive. But cheating requires some sort of commitment first. There's most definitely a small minority of men (5% is figurative) getting most of the action on the apps. I know of a few guys like that. They fancy themselves as players and view it as a game or challenge, saying whatever it takes to get what th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/24 11:15 PM
3	Outside of sex work your "league" is what you can get. It's not about what you can get, but what you can keep. So to speak.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/24 10:30 PM
21	Question for women: Have you tried making a fake dating profile as a man to see how it would go on tinder/bumble/any other dating service? Uhhh men very much believe it, they just get frustrated that (many) women still gravitate towards said shitty men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 07:35 PM
1	Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant? It does seem to be happening more although I don't know if any data is available for it. My wife is from SE Asia, and hers is a fairly large community in our home city. I met her here (in college some 30 yrs ago) but many of our friends found their spouse in their home country and then moved here. Others met while one of them was working here for an American company. It's definitely happening, but who knows for sure if it is trending upwards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 10:41 PM
2	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... Assuming you meant delaying sex to weed out the deceivers, manipulators and cheaters, well that is the number one thing that can fix dating today. Simply withholding for a period of time will reveal true intent, guaranteed. Who is interested in you as a person, and who is just interested in your body. It must be consistent from the beginning to carry much weight with men, but they will value it extremely highly if they're interested in you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 12:52 AM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Different strokes for different folks. We all have a right to our preferences. My point was to assure the OP that many men DO share her sentiment on that topic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 11:51 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Nope, never been religious. I just have certain strong opinions about sex, intimacy, and yes morals. Largely formed by cause and effect I've observed over the years. Clearly we have differing opinions. Carry on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 08:29 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Most people with maturity and world experience know that morality is a slippery slope. At the micro (individual) and macro (societal) levels.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 08:15 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? And? There are ancient works of art depicting lots of different things. No one said this was anything new. I personally think the (supposed) increasing prevalence of anal sex is a symptom, not the problem (general moral decay).	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 07:59 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Or, it could be that many of those women say they like it, but do it for more complicated reasons. It's harder for me to understand why men like it when there's a more suitable entry point nearby. Excepting gay men for obvious reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 07:50 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Yep, porn ruined a generation of men. And, social media and dating apps have ruined a generation of women. Cheap dopamine hits all around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 07:26 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Ugh. So glad my wife and I aren't part of the hedonistic sex focused alternate lifestyles that seem to be popular these days. Life is good. No need for cheap dopamine hits from bizarre sex acts. Can't even imagine doing crazy stuff with randoms of unknown hygiene. Edit: I would prefer (and married) a woman who would abhor it. A woman who didn't, or actually liked it? Big questions/concerns then about her past...	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 07:12 PM
18	Many women who complain that men only ever want one thing don't seem to offer much else Well normal men aren't responsible for the actions of the bad men out there. Should men blame all women just because some of them act poorly? Fuckboys suck, no argument there. Men would much rather boys grow the fuck up and stop manipulating women, ruining them for everyone else. But men can't stop women from choosing lying douchebags. Women have free agency and thus are responsible for their own choices. Women have to step up to the plate and start looking out for other women! Only healthy peer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 06:22 PM
2	Many TRPers in here have a high external locus of control, and are hypocritical about it. Division and tribalism is all the rage these days whether you're talking gender, politics, military conflicts, economic classes, hostility towards immigrants, and so on. It should be no surprise that the other side is more interested in pointing fingers than understanding the other point of view. Hence, spaces like this are mostly entertainment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/24 01:56 AM
-2	Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seem Virgin young adult women are incredibly desirable to men. Always have been, always will be. For so many reasons. Besides, who wants to embark on an exciting new journey (relationship) with someone who has been there, done that with a boat load of other people. Virgins who are older do raise questions, but are still generally preferable for many men over burnt out promiscuous women bitter with trauma and baggage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:07 AM
1	Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter. Then we shouldn't stop them from exchanging money for sex. As ugly as that is. Fair is fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/24 01:27 AM
1	Manipulative, charming, uncaring, lying men get laid the most That's very odd, for someone to do that after months of buildup. Did you two have any deeper discussions after the deed was done? Maybe he learned something about you or your past that he was uncomfortable with? Then he chose ghosting rather than hurting feelings. Perhaps he was just a jerk. But then most won't wait long at all without sex before moving on to the next one. Definitely not the players I know of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/24 09:07 AM
2	Manipulative, charming, uncaring, lying men get laid the most Or, one can seek non-promiscuous women to invest time and energy in and possibly commit to. They do still exist, albeit much rarer. In Western countries. It's no accident that the more men a woman has been with, the more likely she will feel hostility towards all men. Who wants to deal with that. Undamaged women with morals and values still intact are absolutely worth holding out for. But they deserve to be appreciated and treated well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/24 06:46 AM
7	Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high? That was a long read but on point. It's an extremely complicated situation that Western society has found itself in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 08:30 PM
–	Men, who would you rather marry? 1, no contest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 04:33 PM
2	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Hey, I'm not saying what should or shouldn't happen, I'm just saying what I think will happen given the current trajectory. Feel free to disagree. I'm long married and don't give a shit either way what happens, other than what world my kids will inherit. Men are half of the population. When enough of them don't like what women have become, change will happen. As it has throughout history.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 03:12 AM
11	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD It cracks me up that some women think they can use their sexuality to live like hedonists or swingers with zero ramifications. Simply because men always pursue women. Men on the other hand, unless gifted in the genetic lottery, must make something of themselves in order to gain any interest at all from women. Then, apparently women think men should just accept them once they're done having their fun, or when the attention dries up. It doesn't work that way. Sexual past absolutely matters. If eno…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 02:57 AM
3	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD It cracks me up that some women think they can use their sexuality to live like swingers with zero ramifications. Simply because men always pursue women. Men, unless gifted in the genetic lottery, must make something of themselves to gain any interest at all from women. Then, apparently women think men should just accept them once they're done having their fun, or when attention dries up. It doesn't work that way. Sexual past absolutely matters. If women can't control their urges, societal rules…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 02:14 AM
2	Why people overestimate how difficult is for women to get commitment ? That being said, when I have decided I wanted a boyfriend, it’s never taken me more than 3 months to find one. I think the definition of "boyfriend" may have changed. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/24 11:20 PM
–	"You're not competing with other men, but her peace of mind" actually you are competing with her situationships Wow, I think you need to unplug from Reddit/the internet and get out more. The apps having a "20/80" or whatever dynamic doesn't change the natural preference of most men, which is family. I'm speaking from real life experience, albeit a somewhat older perspective (early 50s). My peers are also successful family men and exactly like I described. Men want family because that's what brings fulfillment. All this mindless fucking you speak of is meaningless in the end.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 09:44 PM
–	"You're not competing with other men, but her peace of mind" actually you are competing with her situationships except men aspire to date/sleep around even more than women do so 🤷‍♀️ For women that say/imply this, the vast majority of men are effectively invisible to them. They're fixated on the habits and traits of the specific type they're attracted to. The majority of men aren't wanting to fuck around endlessly, even if they could. For most (mature) men, the goal is finding a woman that matches one's values/morals, committing to them and building family and legacy together with them. The sooner, the be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 09:23 PM
–	"You're not competing with other men, but her peace of mind" actually you are competing with her situationships Anyone in situationship(s) clearly does not know what they want, hence the ambiguity. Why in the world would you want to "compete" for let alone get involved with, someone like that. Are you desperate? Play with fire and you will probably get burned. Deservedly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 08:57 PM
0	Study shows men view their ex partners much more fondly than women do, matches up with my experience. What are your thoughts? How am I supposed to know who the right man is for sex, if he's pushing me to have sex with him before he bothers to show me anything significant about him that makes him a real person Your answer is in your question, and that's how I advise my own daughter or anyone else who asks. Men trying to pressure and manipulate women into sex are precisely the men to avoid. This used to be common knowledge, since 'players' have been around forever and fathers look out for their daughters. Men seeking a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 04:03 AM
4	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends One could say, if women can "trade up" for a better option then why can't men do the same thing. Fair is fair. I think it's far better to date with intention, whether male or female.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/24 10:38 PM
3	Are guys maturing faster than women in the US and that's a problem? Joke yes, but it suggests a rigidity of thinking that has been consistent with your replies thus far. Similar to the RP dudes who generalize all women. Good luck to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 02:49 AM
3	Are guys maturing faster than women in the US and that's a problem? This forum is great for debating gender issues. But it's pointless arguing with someone who thinks men and women are somehow at war. Especially after you put words in my mouth regarding values, that I also disagree with. So call it a cop-out if you want. To me, it's a waste of time to argue with people who've already made up their mind, and who makes generalizations about an entire gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 02:13 AM
3	Are guys maturing faster than women in the US and that's a problem? I'm not gonna get into a debate with a so-called "gender warrior" who apparently has an axe to grind with men. Those aren't my values either, so your reply is just plain silly. My wife happens to be a full time engineer like myself and laughed at your silly assertion. We aren't "dependent" on each other. Rather, we complement each other, and enhance and facilitate each others' lives. Especially financially and parenting our child. Children need a lot more than just financial support from fathers…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 01:47 AM
-2	Are guys maturing faster than women in the US and that's a problem? I think neither men nor women are maturing faster these days. Generally speaking, of course. Women just wanting to have fun or focus on career in their 20s is stunting interpersonal development. Many seem to be gaining baggage and trauma from (the wrong) men rather than valuable relationship skills. Men on the other hand seem to be languishing without purpose, which stunts their development and makes them even less attractive to women. Speaking as a man, nothing destroys purpose and steals passi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 09:30 PM
1	Are guys maturing faster than women in the US and that's a problem? Well. Back in the day, OK just a few short decades ago, a man's future potential was weighted very highly by women. As in priority #1 a lot of the time. They weren't competing with each other for established men to the degree they apparently are nowadays. I had nothing but student debt, a crap car, often couch surfing, back when I met my now wife. I also had much less confidence as a young man. She took a chance on me in my 20s, which gave me purpose and passion, and we built our lives together.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 08:52 PM
2	Why do people get so defensive about casual sex/hookups? Calling someone a "prude" for not wanting to hookup is a manipulation tactic, to get hookups. Historically, most slut shaming has come from other women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/24 12:40 AM
3	If the woman you meet is a virgin, what makes you think she’s going to stop being a virgin for you when she hasn’t done so for men she’s dated in the past? Assuming that is her normal behavior, I wouldn't want her to change it just for me. That would be a strong indication of her values, and I would be impressed by her strength and security in herself. It would be a huge green flag for me personally. After all, that used to be common in women. My partner waited a long time to see if my commitment was genuine. One reason we're still together almost 30 yrs later.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/24 06:55 PM
2	Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date? What does casual sex have to do with parties? Are you a swinger? Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/24 03:26 AM
2	Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date? Well yeah, society is kinda done when the most intimate act between two people has been reduced to meaningless recreation or a glorified handshake, for much of the population. The societal backlash against degeneracy is coming. A hard swing towards conservatism will be no fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/24 03:04 AM
1	Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date? Well, those guys don't care what you call it and they certainly do not care if you think they have commitment issues, or whatever. In fact, that makes it easier for them when women think that. They're just there for a bit of fun before they move on. Ie., a booty call.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/24 02:51 AM
1	How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly? Because so many of them have had LOTS of previous partners, they get bored quickly and are used to moving on. Or, they are not over some Ex. They often mistake infatuation for love. Sex stopped being special or meaningful to them long ago, thus it's difficult if not impossible to bond or connect emotionally with such women. This used to be common knowledge in prior generations. Needless to say guard your heart against those types. Very easy to identify with experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 11:14 PM
1	Men of the western society, I'd like to know if you're really not able to find even one decent woman out there? Yup, too many people are chasing instant gratification and cheap thrills these days. Intimacy is greater than mere physical pleasure, and actually magnifies it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 07:57 AM
5	Why do you care what men masturbate to? I also believe that excessive porn ruins a man's ability to pair bond. Just as casual sex does for men and especially women. Good news is porn isn't remotely the same as real sex, so the negative effects are fully reversible after a short period of abstaining. Unlike the effects of excessive promiscuity which are permanent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/24 11:39 PM
3	Many men think cheating is alpha and high value. Many men justify cheating with these beliefs. Most actual 'high value' men are long married, and fully committed to their women and family. A man who truly loves his woman, wouldn't want to hurt her by cheating. Period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 09:10 PM
4	Can men just not be loved for who they actually are? Ouch what a jaded viewpoint. I'm sorry you feel that way. There are so many men who aren't like that. Most of us in LTRs selected our partner precisely because of who she is in terms of personality, behavior and values. Of course we love and treasure our women and families. Everything else pales in comparison.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 08:39 PM
3	It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated. Yeah, I was thinking about that. It depends on how "bad men" are defined. Is it attitude, or actual violence (physical, mental) and crime. I think some women are seeking the former but can fall prey to the latter, which is a manifestation of it. Obviously, a terrible mistake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 08:58 PM
1	It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated. Women who are attracted to bad men, are also bad. They're either mentally ill or have dark hearts like the men they desire. Nothing good comes from dealing with them. Being a "nice guy", as in pretending in the expectation of receiving something, is weak and lame. Just be yourself, and treat others as you want to be treated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 08:34 PM
5	What is the logic behind dating knowingly bad men? I think it's an honest question as to why some women would choose men like that. Clearly it's not all women, and if he implied that he's in the wrong. But there does seem to be an appeal for a large portion of women. If it's subconscious and is tied to childhood trauma/experience, that makes sense. Humans do seek out, and tend to feel secure in the familiar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 08:15 PM
0	Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women? Lol. Well your post had a certain edginess to it that made it come across as personal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 10:20 PM
-2	Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women? Ouch, that's a lot of painful projection there. You have a terrible impression of men, which probably stems from choices.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 09:24 PM
2	Do you believe in the idea of "just be her first?" I'm no expert on manosphere talking points but I'm pretty sure "alpha widow" refers to her best sex partner, not the first. Someone she's basically hung up on and can't get over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/24 06:25 AM
2	Do you believe in the idea of "just be her first?" And that's why you want to avoid anyone with a high count for anything serious. You will be compared to all previous Exes. That shit will get old fast.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/24 06:21 AM
2	Are men accepting far less these days or has it always been like this? Life is all about choices and trade-offs. If you have people who rely on you, perhaps it's not an realistic option for you. But it's far more doable than you might think, and perhaps for many others reading this. My brother spent half a year traveling Europe with only a large backpack, staying in hostels and meeting many people. As a poor college student. It was great for honing his Spanish which he now utilizes every day as a mortgage broker. One of his friends spent 2 years in Latin America, m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 01:22 AM
10	Are men accepting far less these days or has it always been like this? Women may be able to find better options, but they can rarely keep them. Hence, everyone loses in the long run. It's one of the major societal issues of our time. At least in the West.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 12:53 AM
2	Are men accepting far less these days or has it always been like this? Where there's a will, there's a way. Nothing worth having in life comes easy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 12:33 AM
2	Are men accepting far less these days or has it always been like this? Some people do exactly that, for years at a time. It's called being an expat. Learning languages and experiencing other cultures is fantastic for personal development. Potential romance is bonus. Or just stay miserable, and bitch and moan incessantly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 12:31 AM
1	Debate Most Women aren't "trash wh**es", but it seems that way because off all the Redpill content/Podcasts where trash women get handpicked to make views. That median is either long outdated, or women have a different definition for what qualifies as bodycount++. As in creative mental gymnastics. It's hard to envision women who have participated in OLD to have a lifetime bodycount of only 4. Or those who've been single for an extended period of time. ROFL I'm advising my son to avoid women who have ever done OLD. For a variety of reasons. It's his choice, of course, but thankfully he respects my opinion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 03:21 PM
2	The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them. While it's important to focus on oneself first and foremost in order to be a better person, husband, father, etc, the instinct is strong to protect the ones we love. With our lives if need be. Every man who truly loves his wife and children feels this. I don't know if it's biology, sociology, evolution or what, but it's very powerful and ingrained. I don't expect women to feel the same way, except towards her children and that's ok. It's just the way things are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/23 08:19 AM
2	men only dislike ‘hookup culture’ when they can’t participate in it Disagree. Many guys are more the relationship type and only interested in getting with girls they actually like, and who like them. Also the health risks aren't worth it. Sharing fluids with strangers is sharing STDs. Especially hpv strains that are permanent and recurring. Doesn't anyone doing that shit care about hygiene? Gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/23 05:53 PM
5	what do men really think of female virgins? Well, if I was single I would take a chance with that kind of mental illness over the other kind(s) that seems to be prominent among promiscuous women. But I already found mine and she's been far better than I ever expected. Sans mental illness of any kind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 12:42 AM
6	what do men really think of female virgins? I don't know where you get this concept of having to "guide her through sex". If she's a virgin and is comfortable with her partner, just doing what comes natural is far more enjoyable that practicing "techniques" on each other. That sounds more like mechanical sex, rather than making love. No thanks. Exploring new things together is much more exciting than same old, same old. As a data point, I've been with my n==1 wife for more than a decade plus children. She still has that innocence and twin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 12:36 AM
6	what do men really think of female virgins? If you're talking flings and/or pure sexual attraction, I don't know nor care how those guys perceive virgin women. But all else equal, virgins are highly attractive for relationships, and investing time and energy into. It is an instinct for men to attach value to high morals and purity. There are reasons for this, as well as plain common sense. My n=1 partner has been a phenomenal wife and mother. Mentally and emotionally stable without baggage. She still has that innocence and twinkle in her …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 12:15 AM