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| 3 | I hired a dating coach after years of failing - Here’s the best flirting advice I gotYeah, touche, but this writing reads like someone who is extroverted; it's a grand speech in front of a large audience with confidence and swagger. He claims to have been an introverted engineer, which conjures the image of "quiet nerd": those words were chosen specifically so it would hit the target audience. The stereotype of those in this sub is predominately introverted, shy nerds who can't get women. He chose those words to hit the right people who will stop and say, "Hey! That's me! If he … | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 01:20 PM |
| 6 | I hired a dating coach after years of failing - Here’s the best flirting advice I gotNice, thanks | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 06:08 AM |
| 528 | I hired a dating coach after years of failing - Here’s the best flirting advice I gotSo, you "were" a classic, introverted engineer, yet you've written a fantastic fluff piece review, acceptable of the New Yorker with excellent prose and structure? This piece hits all of the online marketing points: tell a story, show how this changed your life and how you're better for it, end with the name of the company it product but not in a way that sounds like you're shilling ... This screams hard to believe. Your posts and comments are hidden and have only been active on Reddit for 21 da… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 05:19 AM |
| 3 | What Does It Mean if a Woman Says That She Doesn’t Feel A Connection?Honestly bro, this question cannot be completely answered without a 200% dissection of you and your behavior/actions on the dates. Keep in mind, if a woman truly likes you, she will find EVERYTHING you do interesting. But there is way more to it | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 10:36 PM |
| 15 | Nightclub. Girl flips the bird for absolutely no reason.You're weird dude, and your whole post is weird. You do not learn lessons very well | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 05:02 AM |
| 1 | No inner game?You won't get the actual help you need through a reddit post from thousands of strangers. There is so much more toinner game than one post: the amount of time to break down what's going on involves deep questions and understanding from veterans. PM if you want to go in depth | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 08:55 PM |
| 43 | Have yall ever recovered from an LJesus Christ dude. You move on. You don't always get what you want. Next time you won't act however you acted. You don't get her back, end of discussion. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:12 AM |
| 3 | What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?I understand you bro. You're going to get eaten alive here, don't reply cause you'll get down voted to hell. | /r/seduction | 20/06/25 02:06 AM |
| 8 | What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?So I won't touch on your situation here because there's so much involved, you guys dated in the past. But I will give you general rules that applies to everyone: The phone should be for setting dates. Keep it short, don't text all day, or have long conversations; even if she takes forever to respond. Keep it to, "when are you free next for sushi?" "When are you free next?" "Having a BBQ fourth of July, you're invited" Never feel like you're giving too much if you stick to your schedule and stick… | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 10:06 PM |
| 34 | What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?Ghosting to build attraction is childish and immature. You will only get a false sense of security which will eventually give you a real sense of insecurity. You think you're better than someone else that you have to ignore them for them to like you? You've already failed if your absence is the best thing you can give someone. If things aren't working out between you and a woman, let it be, pressure other options, reply to her if she reaches out, set the date and the date must be entirely on you… | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 09:26 PM |
| 8 | I just cold approached at a bar and the rejection stung more than the appsWhat if she made me laugh in the mornings. What if she does quirky things while getting ready for work. What if she gets that promotion and I'm the first person she runs to? What if she succeeds and I get to support her? What if she's the one? | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 10:39 AM |
| 16 | I just cold approached at a bar and the rejection stung more than the appsFirst off, I've been cold approaching since 1998. There are so many old heads on here that have been as well. The apps have made men soft, lazy. I used to get rejected by 6 women a night until I finally pulled one, used to pull 4-5 numbers a night then go home and none of them worked. Cold approaching is the best thing a man can ever do while honing their dating skills. You are going to fail. You are going to fail more times than you succeed. This is why men don't do it and would rather do the l… | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 10:35 AM |
| 2 | What do married looking women want?Yeah, good luck man. You've got this | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 12:26 PM |
| 6 | What do married looking women want?Look, married women are open game, but you have to accept the consequences. I was once caught by a married woman's husband while I waited for her in her barn. He came home early and went straight to where I was, because they had their canning hobby together in the barn. I was behind him and he walked right past me to the canning area and I knew once he turned around he'd see me. I decided to run for it. Made it halfway to my car (I parked down the street) and he jumped on a bike and caught up to… | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Men of Reddit who have successfully gotten plenty of lays through cold approaching? What have you learned and what is your most effective methods for doing so?You are on to something here. Maybe those can be labeled as 'Techniques'; not necessarily be alls that must be used or checked off. Just like we have different tools to take down a bear vs catching a stray dog, we can have different tools to use during our interaction with others, sometimes not needing to use as many as the last. I know exactly what you're speaking of and I believe these techniques should become who we are, so that they are no longer techniques, but just who we are. This could b… | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 03:32 PM |
| 9 | Men of Reddit who have successfully gotten plenty of lays through cold approaching? What have you learned and what is your most effective methods for doing so?How you speak is how you think. If you don't think that way then why would you say it? If it was the wrong words and not what you meant, then I understand, but you are in charge of what you communicate, choose your words to be more succinct in the future. If you are miscommunicating what you're saying in writing, how much miscommunication are you doing in person? On your feet where faster reaction times are needed? I'm not here to hurt you, I'm only shining light on your actions. You've asked fo… | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 01:27 PM |
| 29 | Men of Reddit who have successfully gotten plenty of lays through cold approaching? What have you learned and what is your most effective methods for doing so?"A detailed, but not too complicated way" This is your first misconstrued belief. You believe that to talk to another human being it must be methodical. Wrong. There are no magic words you can say to a woman to get her to sleep with you. She chooses to sleep with you by her own choice. Unless you abuse her, con her, or sexually harass her, people choose to sleep with people by their own choices; get this in your head: women are people too. People are autonomous creatures with free will. They may… | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 12:43 PM |
| 2 | After 4 years I finally brought a girl home, but it was awkward as hell.You should be proud of yourself for her choosing you in the first place. A million things could change a woman's mind, maybe another man, maybe she was drink, maybe it was her first time You did the right thing by stopping when she said stop. You can't win them all, and as a seducer, each encounter is a memory: cherish them and look back on them. Rule of thumb: if she won't drop her panties in your bathroom, she won't drop her panties in your bedroom. Always clean your house, especially your bat… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Ghosted from nowhereYeah, we often times carry around weight we don't even know is weight. A therapist will help you unpack it in a safe environment. It will only help you towards success, you are the one who ends up making the choices of your actions. We proudly shout, "I did that!" when something goes our way, but when something bad happens to us we are quick to not take responsibility. We must say, "My actions brought me here and these are the consequences of my choices". Consequences are everywhere, good and ba… | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Ghosted from nowhereMaybe, I'm not a doctor. I do offer private coaching if you're interested. Pm me and we can talk there. Personally I think pressure comes from lack of stability. I've noticed men jump into a 'performance' role where they believe they have to display all their good characteristics, traits, and what they bring to the table in order to convince people to like them. It could be from our society where social media has created this fake lifestyle and always positive attitude we have to display, or it … | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Ghosted from nowhereTrue Good attitude to have you're in the right place You're welcome My unsolicited advice Id say if you don't have the energy, then don't push yourself. But dating should be fun, not a chore haha I always encourage men to focus on themselves, get their life set up first and bitches second. If you don't want to or are tired of the dating scene then my unsolicited advice would be to focus on building/creating something like art, a business, learning a skill/trade, getting a certification, and savi… | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 07:03 PM |
| 10 | Ghosted from nowhereBro, get over it Ghosting happens, does it suck? Yeah. But for real, get the fuck over it. You're searching for finality in a world of inconclusive data. Some things you don't need to know the answer to and you'll never know. So allow it to happen. Just like gravity, falling off the monkey bars, where do we go when we die.... We will never have the answers. Allow it. Best thing to do is to plan for when this shit happens: Have a rotation of girls you're talking to so you go on to the next one Tr… | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 04:57 PM |
| 6 | No Job and Broke—Should I still date?Fuck no. Get a job and focus on yourself. Women are only going to distract you from your goals | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 01:25 PM |
| 2 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?Stop chasing her, you're actually being needy now. Get over her, move on. You fucked up, don't keep fucking up. It's hard to understand but you don't have to understand it, just do it. This is valuable lesson you've learned: learn not to be needy/desperate. It's an instant turn off | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 12:35 PM |
| 1 | I don't know what a shit test isShit tests are generic shit women say too see how easy it is to get under your skin and/or challenge your frame/authenticity. | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | how to master sh***t tests which you can hardly win?I would have just smiled, looked deep into her eyes and said "mhm.... What do you like to do for fun?" | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 01:00 AM |
| 1 | What do you even do if girls dont even ask you question?He who asks the questions is in control | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Change of perspectiveOkay, I love that you asked this question. Be proud of yourself for reaching out and opening up. Internal dialogue is the number one road block of many people's life's, whether it's game, applying for a job, starting a business.... How you think is how you act, how you act is what you become, what you become is your destiny. I personally believe in developing who you are first: your hobbies, how you want to be perceived, your body language, the words you choose to say, the way you dress, your pr… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever been called out during day gameYeah. Allot of guys go after women that don't like them our choose another man. Their is no magic pill or words that can make a woman fall in love with them, the woman CHOOSES who she wants to be with. Men just have to decide what man they want to be, and the women will decide if they want that man or not. After the women choose first, the man can now decide if he wants that woman in his life or not. Many men settle for the first woman who chooses them and end up in unhappy relationships or wors… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever been called out during day gameThere is no balance. You do not act one way one minute, then another way another minute. You must have congruity or you will be seen as fake, try hard, manipulative, sensitive, or bi-polar. This is not something I can explain in detail for you, as you are different than the next guy. In addition, how you choose to handle something is different than the next guy. You start by taking stake of who you are and who you want to be. Are you a passive person? Are you witty? Do you want to be someone nob… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 09:24 PM |
| 9 | Have you ever been called out during day gameBank in the day, we didn't have white knights. We had AMOGs (Alpha Male Of the Group) and they could be females too. I did have many encounters with guys, (some who were even my wingmen) try to put me down in front of the targets in order to make themselves look like the better prize. Women always saw their behavior and I only met a few women who liked that. Many times the woman would not talk to either of us after, or encourage the banter sarcastically toying with my wing. I would proceed to ej… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 02:18 PM |
| 18 | Have you ever been called out during day gameHe means your attitude towards that behavior. You're going to encounter these types of people, AMOGs and white nights, both male and female. Have the attitude of acceptance to when that happens. Go with the flow, be like water. It builds character because character is who you are, reputation is what people say about you. Developing self control over your emotions is probably the number one skill to have mastered when it comes to women. You are the sailor in the boat where the emotions are the st… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 02:04 PM |
| 5 | How to keep her interested and responding once I have her number (whatsapp messaging) (39 M)You need to get a life and stop worrying about when she's going to text you back: this is hoe behavior. She either texts/calls you or not. You reach out when you want, only to set a date. Set the date, go on the date. Women take their time. All you have to do is set up the encounters and go at the woman's pace. Since there's so many attractive women in your area, talk to more than one girl. Go on two dates a night, one at 7, and one at 8 or 9 Pm for personal coaching | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 01:05 PM |
| 4 | [question] Advance Game - Has anyone got with two girls who were friends - together or one after the other? What is the protocol? Share your story!I've had a threesome with two girls that worked together, they weren't friends. It was my birthday and a girl I slept with multiple times brought over her coworker to my place. We went back to my room and laughed and talked and My friend asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I said A massage. So she started giving me one and I took off my shirt. Then I said it wasn't fair her friend wasn't getting one and I started to give her a massage. Rest is history | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Girl says I HAVE TO bring her a gift on our first dateNo. Don't bring anything. In fact, cancel the date. It's weird. She's demanding something and you don't even know her? She's setting the tone in the relationship to where you will be jumping through hoops to please her.I promise you the relationship will be hell. You will be constantly viewing for her validation. Walk away and find another one | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 12:40 PM |
| 2 | Why I think getting a girl's Instagram is better than getting her number.Wrong Getting her ONLY FANS is better than either (and easier) /S | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:16 AM |
| -14 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?You seem like a good dude. I understand that many people are saying "Illegal immigrants" should watch out, but there have been many reports of collateral damage happening to legal migrants, and even US citizens. Just today it was announced that Native Americans were wrongly raided. Accidents can happen, yes. But given the tense climate right now, I don't think it would be a good idea to travel here. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:11 AM |
| -16 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?Mass deportations Legal migrants having meetings with immigration cancelled Oh you know, the whole immigration thing that's been in the news for 2 weeks If I were from another country on Visa, the last thing I'd want to do is travel to the US. Just the potential of something going wrong would be enough to deter me. Just like I don't plan to take a trip anywhere near the Ukraine region. Or ever go to China. I'm not getting arrested for accidentally doing a misdemeanor crime and becoming a punchin… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:03 AM |
| -4 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?Latin America BTW if you're not from the US, right now is NOT a good time to travel here | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 05:53 AM |
| 1 | How to neg, push pull without hurting her feelings or making her mad?Negging has continually been mis interpreted in the dating field. Style created it for the use of 'off-handedly' show you weren't putting the woman on the pedestal. "Hey my friends have this debate...." Talk, talk talk, build rapport, pass her a napkin, " you've got a little something in your teeth" go back to what you were talking about Guys think negging was about 'actively' disqualifying a woman straight to her face which were basically insults. Disqualifying is also another tactic misinterpr… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 04:33 AM |
| 24 | I learned a lot from this youtuberI tell this to people all the time. It's not about what you say. Glad you're e escaping the matrix | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 12:47 PM |
| 2 | IS THIS 10 PLAYING WITH ME???My methodology is having people focus on themselves, devising custom plans for a person's goals and dreams. I believe having a strong stability in ones self is needed by which the person can filter other people against in order to decide if that person will be beneficial for what they're after and for their life. It's not easy, as many people tend to want to jump straight into, "How do I get this person to want me?!" There are allot of factors involved in dating, and attraction is not a choice, … | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 10:40 PM |
| 5 | IS THIS 10 PLAYING WITH ME???Relationships should be easy, fun. Is this easy and fun for you? Women don't "play" guys like you think. She's not leading you on to get some sort of psychopathic pleasure. That train of thought comes from highschool movies but it doesn't happen in real life. You are going to learn an extremely valuable lesson here and you will think about this event the rest of your life. There's some form of insecurity in you, where it drives from who knows, but we can't unpack that thoroughly from one story. … | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubI am not a believer in 'forcing' or 'making' a woman submit to me. She will do so on her own choice There are ways to talk sensuously with a woman, given the right moment, but we must be aware that there are more tools in our arsenal. Honey on our tongue should not be our only flavor | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 12:50 AM |
| 4 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubIt's never about openers, get out of this mindset. I've fucked a girl without even talking to her. It's a combination of things, your body language, social proof, looks It's not just words, in fact a person will sleep with you regardless of the words you say or don't say. Get out of this mindset, break free from the matrix | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Tried following the advice on this sub - now she’s furious and saying I was harassing her?"I'm on the fence, if he is then he's really good at it. But at what point does being so good at mimicking a newb that you come full circle to where people think you are a newb differentiate from being an actual newb? What's the point, what do you win? It's not even funny, it's pitiful. "I act as stupid as possible so people will think I'm stupid, but I'm actually extremely smart! Wait, everyone thinks I'm really stupid, now I can't get people to see me as smart! Maybe I am stupid?" If OP is trol… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 07:19 PM |
| -6 | Tried following the advice on this sub - now she’s furious and saying I was harassing her?"Woh bro, chill the fuck out. People are here to learn and this language is beyond unacceptable. | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Tried following the advice on this sub - now she’s furious and saying I was harassing her?"Buddy, allot of the advice on here is given by people who don't know what they're talking about. I've once commented on someone's post where they stated they were making out with the girl in public and he was grabbing her ass. They finished making out and they went to their cars and he went in for the kiss and she pulled away. He didn't get a second date. I posted that he sexually assaulted her in public, and should never NEVER play grab ass in public on the first date, he escalated and didn't s… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 07:10 PM |
| -1 | Dating coaching - too pricey?I offer private coaching for $100/hr. First hour is free, getting to know each other and what your wants/plans/desires are. If you decide to move forward then we can discuss how you would like to move forward, maybe once a week, once a month, developing an action plan abd/or more | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 03:22 PM |
| 2 | What is Game? [Defined]Yes! 100% You are a man who has been in the field and seen the matrix This is 100% exactly what it is and very well articulated | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 03:03 PM |
| 2 | What is Game? [Defined]Yes! 100% You are a man who has spent some time in the field and has seen the matrix! You get it, 100%. Very well put as well | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Cute Girl in ClassYeah, direct game has it's uses, and I think you're in the right mindset of not using it here. The small talk idea is great. So, even though you put Outer Game, if you were my student I'd say this was an inner game issue, though NOT a major issue. You're correct to be concerned with friends and your reputation. It's highschool, everyone talks. It's how it is, and it's wise to care about what people would say about you, as your reputation is more precious than jewels. You've mentioned twice that … | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Bumble to make out with Christian girlDamn bro I thought you were in HS 😆 Well you got this, all I said and more 🤘🏽💪🏾🤙🏽 | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 06:12 AM |
| 5 | Bumble to make out with Christian girlLook homie, it sounds like you're in love and you wrote a teen romance novel. I've been in your shoes and I will tell you and my younger self that everything was worth it. I know what you're feeling, infatuation, and it's fine, normal and actually what we live for. I wish you the best and hopes this goes somewhere for you. My unsolicited advice, you can take it or leave it, every instance is different and she definitely likes you. Fucking enjoy it. When a woman is highly invested in you, it's EA… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 06:03 AM |
| 2 | How to make intentions clear for hostel game?You can't make a person do anything, but, if they're already giving good open signals that they want to hang then you're doing it right! It's also not wise to communicate that that's all you're looking for, in the courtship phase it's always a game of cat and mouse, mystery, "Does she like me?" "Does he like me?" So, he patient, reserved, cool, calm and collected and let her get to know you. At the end of the date, always go for the kiss, make sure it's a good kiss and if she's feeling you then … | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date?Good stuff | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date?I'm the troll??? Homie half your comments are one sentence. What are you contributing? | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date?Exactly, and this is why her vibe was off. You come on here asking for advice from more experienced people and you get it and you don't like it? And now you're saying, " I didn't start grabbing her ass" like it makes a difference; you're over here trying to justify your actions like you're the professional master seducer. You're asking why she pulled away after you were already making out, and I told you, think. If she was really into you and wanted to fuck, why would she pull away? Seriously br… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 11:25 AM |
| -7 | Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date?Homie, it sounds like you sexually assaulted her. Don't go grabbing and escalating if you aren't going to fuck. You should have kept your hands to yourself and then at the end kissed her, not grab her ass or pull her hair, just fucking kissed and invited her back to your place or a hotel. This whole groping thing and escalating then her calming down made her feel uncomfortable, she was probably like, I don't know this fucking dude and I should probably leave. Never do this again unless you've fu… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:39 AM |
| 1 | On a losing streak. How to keep motivation?Part 2 Women flake for many reasons: they may not feel comfortable with you yet (especially on the app), they may have met another guy, their boyfriend came back in the picture, they died in a car crash, who the fuck knows. When using the app, you need to move the conversation away from the apps. After the first few texts, take it off the app and move to Instagram, Snapchat, or cell whatever you got. Then fucking keep it there, don't go back to talking to her on the apps. Next is you need to set… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 03:14 AM |
| 1 | On a losing streak. How to keep motivation?Part 1 Homie, you can want a long term relationship, but you have to have short interactions with people first. Don't put the cart before the horse, stop expecting to have deep conversations with someone you first meet, it takes time to build trust, rapport and for them to actually like you. You CAN have the desire to have a relationship in the back of your mind, but you can't force it, the best way to get the relationship is with baby steps. On top of that, are you even ready for a relationship… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 03:14 AM |
| 1 | On a losing streak. How to keep motivation?Holy crap dude, get off the apps. Go outside. Meet people. Talk to them. You'll feel really good talking to an actual person face to face and having a short, genuine interaction with another human | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 04:42 AM |
| 1 | The actionStop asking to ask a question. Forever. For the rest of your life. | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Resources on using words, language, hypnosis etc. to turn women on?Homie, so what you gotta do is, Make up a crazy story about how you did an amazing task, then keep anchoring the good vibes to you, by touching her, then pointing at you. Then you stop at the best part, just completely stop. She'll be like, why did you stop? And you'll be like, "you're not ready for it. I can tell you're not ready for this" then do the anchor you did for yourself and shell laugh abd be on the edge of her seat with anticipation. Then you change topics and go into another awesome … | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Me 27F never texting him 30M first. Advice?Babe, if you fucking want to text him, text him. If you don't, then don't. The thing is you are worrying about the power dynamic, and the more you worry, the more you'll lose. Text should be kept to a minimum, and use it for setting up more dates to see him. Be busy. Live your life, go to work, do your hobbies, text him if you want asking what he's up to, and after he replies, comment on that, and say, "When are you free? Why don't you tell me some more over a bottle of wine/risotto/coffee/chees… | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 03:21 AM |
| 1 | How to get friends with benefits / casual hooks ups in big city as an average at best guyExactly, just like scooters: fun to ride, but don't let your friends catch you on one | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 03:04 AM |
| 1 | How to get friends with benefits / casual hooks ups in big city as an average at best guyHomie, first things first. All girls want to Fuck. That's it. Get it in your head. Second, girls don't fall in love like the fucking movies, shit, they need time to feel you out. Women aren't some magical creature that you need to do Rubik's cube verbal judo on them with in order to mind control them to suck your dick. They suck your dick cause they want to, they choose to. Nothing you fucking did. You've got to understand that sex is an urge, it's in our DNA to reproduce. It's the most powerful… | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | "Just be yourself"Both of you two are right. It's all contextual. Yes, self affirmations work and 'the act as if' principle is a solid foundation of inner game. Yes, it won't work for everyone as there are people out there malformed brains that need therapy/medication. To validate that both of you are right, this is the EXACT reason there are multiple forms of therapy, and MANY schools of thought fight/argue/debate over which is right and 'top tier'. Remember Freud and Jung? Humanists vs biologists, the list goes… | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 02:47 AM |
| 0 | "Just be yourself"Correct. Fix yourself, then be that person. Fix your insecurities, your looks, YOU'RE FUCKING HYGIENE and money The just be yourself had the intentions of not trying to be anybody else, though goofball nerds flip it to the extreme and start being an asshole when their cringe is rejected. | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 02:39 AM |
| 4 | Does a very attractive and outstanding Asian guy make a differnece?Bro, what is up with these questions lately | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceYeah, don't worry about it. There's a million reasons why she could have ghosted you, not your horse not your race. On to the next one, she's missing out and you dodged a bullet. "Ain't nothing gonna break my stride! Ain't nothing gonna hold me down, no oh! I've got to keep on moving!" | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceRelax. Women react off of emotions. She wanted to have sex but couldn't. That's it. She wanted you to be more physical, because she was horny and wanted to be more physical. Just chill, have some balls and don't fall into the mindset where everytime a woman says something, she's critiquing you. Stand your ground. You chose not to be physical with her, accept it. She either gets with the program or not. Let it roll off your back. Women say and do shit that you need to learn has no effect on your … | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:30 PM |
| 1 | How can I handle this internally?What you want and what women want are 2 totally different things. You will be surprised how many successful women date losers/how many hot women date ugly men. It's emotional, not rational, all on how they feel. They will also feel one way today and feel another way tomorrow. Again you need to stop looking at porn: porn is fantasy created by men. That shits fake. What happens in reality is that women choose off of what they feel, not because the guy needs help with math homework. You see the wor… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 02:44 PM |
| 2 | How can I handle this internally?So, I've been in your shoes. I was bullied by girls in elementary school through high school. It wasn't until college I had a glow up. I'm 34m now. I'm married to a beautiful sweet Colombian woman who is the best thing to ever happen to me. It took allot of time to develop my inner game and it came from Tony Robbins Awaken the Giant Within and Paul McKenna Hypnotherapy recordings. I have anchors on my fingers for my positive confident states. I focus daily on my success of my life, and even in m… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Is swimming classes a good place to meet women (in your early-mid 20s)?Good question. No, I do not. I would imagine that not many people do that swimming as an extra curricular activity. I may and probably am wrong, and you may have hit a gold mine. Just like when I found out a gay bar is an excellent place to meet straight women, you may have hit a place that's perfect and only few know about it | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Is swimming classes a good place to meet women (in your early-mid 20s)?It's not a GOOD place to meet women, but it's a place to meet women. I encourage you to open your mind and be creative (though this is very creative) and see the whole world as a place to meet women. Your odds will thoroughly increase | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:14 AM |
| 2 | How to show interest in a guy?I'm 34M and I always know when a woman is into me. It's the intense eye contact, the full body language, the relaxed atmosphere. I just know. The aura is there that she's into me and I walk up to the plate. Depending on your scenario, (office, friend of a friend, party, school, they work at the firm across the street from you) decides how often you see them until they ask you out. Many dudes, MANY (as u know from this sub reddit) will not ask a girl out until after a few times of talking to the … | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 01:29 AM |
| 22 | How to show interest in a guy?Are you a male or female asking? | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 08:03 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of being a dumb fBeing the "nice guy" does not mean you cannot still be nice. In fact, being kind hearted and respectful is a very attractive trait. Being kind and polite does not mean you're a pushover. Come to any small town in Georgia and see where respect and kindness is expected and rudeness or disrespect will quickly get an ass beating from the kind and respectful locals. The key is to know when to switch from being a polite person to standing up for yourself. It does not mean you can fly off the handle, r… | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 06:10 PM |
| 2 | I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressedIt takes time. Do not beat yourself up, but only to reach success. You can wallow in the dark hole of self pity, but you will become lost there, hearing things that aren't true and seeing/interpreting things that aren't true. Someone loves you and does care that you are alive. You may not FEEL that way, but it is true. If financial security, women, good friends and family is what you desire then go out there and get it. I want to encourage you to do something about it, and the first step is thin… | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 04:18 AM |
| 3 | I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressedGood question, and hopefully I can ease your pang of sadness with this answer: I know it can feel depressing, but as with anything in life, we eat until we are full. We Fuck until we are satisfied. We are hardwired to produce, it is the strongest urge/desire in humans. Survival of our species is the number 1 goal of everything we do: why we eat, why we breathe, why we go to work, why we build skyscrapers. Everything can be traced back to survival of our species. So, there are two answers: Yes, y… | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 04:02 AM |
| 871 | I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressedSo look, if you feel bad, then don't do it. Simple as that. There's no magic trick, words, or technique to change your mind. It's really up to you. If you feel icky, then pick yourself up and go for an older woman. You can feel guilty, and that's really you who needs to do some deep diving into your psyche about why you feel guilty and depressed. Maybe there's more underneath that makes you feel guilty: you mentioned other people being married, maybe you saw your reflection in her and realized t… | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 09:34 PM |
| 1 | How important what you say when you approach a girl?It's a combination of both with many more factors involved. Maybe she's having a bad day, maybe you aren't her type.... No matter what you say or don't say it how you say it will ever get a woman who is not willing to give you a chance to change her mind. She must change her mind on her own, you only be yourself. There is no magic words to get a woman to go in a date with you, sleep with you, or anything else for that matter; women make the choice themselves. Now what you say and do does impact … | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 01:39 PM |
| -2 | How do I know if a girl wants to fuck?They will say, #Me Too | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | She gave you her number and then ghosted you? Here's whyJesus bro, lot to unpack here. I don't know if this is satire, but I'm going to treat as real It's good to be self aware, but I encourage you to take a day to write down these sentences you've said and write under or next to them alternative sentences you can replace them with. For example: Im ugly Not everyone will find me attractive, but there's people who will I know you didn't ask for advice, but my heart broke reading this. I don't know you, and again this could be a joke, but I feel for yo… | /r/seduction | 09/07/24 05:45 AM |
| 2 | She gave you her number and then ghosted you? Here's whyJesus bro, lot to unpack here. I don't know if this is satire, but I'm going to treat as real It's good to be self aware, but I encourage you to take a day to write down these sentences you've said and write under or next to them alternative sentences you can replace them with. For example: Im ugly Not everyone will find me attractive, but there's people who will I know you didn't ask for advice, but my heart broke reading this. I don't know you, and again this could be a joke, but I feel for yo… | /r/seduction | 09/07/24 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Help with dating adviceI'm going to offer a third point of view, the other two were very good. Based on your post I infer that you are nervous, young, and inexperienced in more than just escalation. What do you do after you escalate? What do you do after kissing? What do you do after sex? Do you have protection? Do you have a place to take her back to? What if she falls in love with you, are you ready for a relationship? What if you didn't want a relationship and just want to sleep around? What if you don't want a rel… | /r/seduction | 09/07/24 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Why do women like vampires, werewolves, and vulnerability?I think you should look into Jung and Joseph Campbell's works on symbolism and mythology. Based on your question, I highly feel that you would love their stuff. There are symbols that represent more than what we see them as. The symbol of a cross, the symbol of a sword, the symbol of a vampire/werewolf. I believe the physical nakedness of a woman is a symbol to men, them being vulnerable. Men have evolved to conquer and 'pierce' women sexually with their penises. A woman has to allow the man to … | /r/seduction | 09/07/24 04:23 AM |
| 0 | Do you guys lick the pussy of every girl you get laid, or you choose some of them?To lick or not to lick, that is the question What you do behind closed doors is your business. And this question isn't really that important to the overall benefit of learning/mastering seduction. This question is the equivalent of asking, "Do you guys stretch before sex?" It's not really relevant. If you're running some type of survey, it's not really going to help you as it's all personal preference. Will it get you more girls? Who knows, and honestly that's not the only thing that will keep a… | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 08:27 PM |
| -3 | Has anyone ever read a romance novel as research?PDF of what? I'm not sending you anything that a Google search won't give you | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 09:36 PM |
| 11 | When someone don't have enough experience to seduce their fav womanI don't have enough information on you to give you a 100% answer, but my snap judgement is this: You sound like you act like a clown. "Able to initiate the conversation and have great story telling skills". This isn't all seduction is. It comes across as you're trying to be a dancing monkey. Maybe direct the conversation to them, remain mysterious, show kindness and empathy, live in the moment, body language, social proof, looks, hygiene, intelligence, competence, etc. I will tell you, there is … | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 06:03 PM |
| 13 | Has anyone ever read a romance novel as research?Yes. Most are the same, strong dominant male type figure. Interview with a vampire. Fifty shades of Grey. For research I recommend My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday. It's true stories and will open your mind that women are sexual beings, if not more than men. Sexy, tasteful, and informative, this book is required reading to my students | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Guy listen. I'm moving through my fear and approaching again. I just need to share (feedback welcome)I commend you, congratulations. Also, congratulations on overcoming everything you have. Getting into the swing of things takes time if you've been out for a while, you get rusty, approach anxiety never really goes away until after the first three approaches. I encourage you to speak to everyone you meet, grocery store clerks, the person in the aisle, the one in the drive through. Just say hey how's it going? Then piggy back off whatever they say, eventually moving into more impromptu openers. L… | /r/seduction | 03/07/24 04:40 AM |
| 57 | would you rather approach a girl with nice big giants boobs or a girl with a nice assYou've got to stop watching porn | /r/seduction | 03/07/24 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Seeking advice:)First off, you don't want to be energetic. Relax. Be confident and in control of yourself. Imagine you are right where other people want to be and act as if. The next step is to act appropriately for the situation, if you're on a roller coaster, yeah have fun. If you're in the office in your boss is giving a presentation, shut the fuck up and do not make jokes. As far as being on a date, act appropriately as well. You can be engaged in the conversation or the task at hand, such as making pottery… | /r/seduction | 03/07/24 04:20 AM |
| 3 | I have a date with an older women coming up.Congrats! Good for you! Learn what you can from her, and treat her good. Don't play games or tricks. Be careful of your wallet, do not share a bank account with her and if she is constantly asking for money, run | /r/seduction | 01/07/24 04:27 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop liking someone?Not enough info to your question. Are the archtypes of people your fall in love with all the same? How long have you been in the game? How's your relationship with family, friends? How's your social life? Do you watch porn extensively? Masturbate extensively? What's your self esteem level? There can be an infinite amout if reasons, but more info is needed. I have fallen in love a handful of times at first glance and it's powerful; reason I came into seduction. Those only come few and far between… | /r/seduction | 01/07/24 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Constantly getting ghosted after sex.Women don't fall in love after sleeping with a guy one time. Don't communicate long term relationship. Go with the flow, have fun. Text the next day " last night was fire" and leave it alone. If they reach out, set a second date. Leave the talking to in person, keep texting minimum. Give them space if they want it. Do not chase. They're feeling you out. Don't get mad, creepy, clingy, or upset. Chill. There's more to it but this is it in a nutshell | /r/seduction | 01/07/24 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Where do your guys hang out to find answers?I understand what you're saying and think your on the right path and headspace. For those who wish to be a master at seduction, the art requires a higher level of care and effort. In no way am I insulting you or your path, you may not wish to go further down the path and may be fine where you are or this is not the time for you. Hopefully you understand, as I understand where you are at this moment on your journey | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 04:06 PM |
| 2 | I let her walk away form me in the subway platformBeen there done that, had plenty of encounters with women like this in my life, and I've learned, that when you have that moment, it is 100% entirely what you think it is. She was into you. You will always feel this deep in your gut and in your mind. There is no such thing as "the one" but she sure gave you that feeling and you to her. It is real, it exists. She isn't "the one" because you will have this feeling more than once in life, and her as well. The reason I know she felt the same is beca… | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 03:47 PM |
| 0 | How much roast is Ok?I heard a saying a long time ago that went, "Treat women like a bratty sister". Three thing is, I've never had a bratty sister and if I did, I wouldn't feed into her negativity but rather be tired of her and distance myself from her. David DeAngelo wrote Cocky Comedy and his style of comedy has been twisted in this community (and added with a misunderstanding and use of Negging) and is used with a sharp, bitter, often condescending attack where people claim plausible deniability under the fallba… | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Where do your guys hang out to find answers?I'm not really sure I understand your question entirely, can you elaborate more please? Is your question " Where do you hang out?" In reference to where do other seducers hang out for fun? Or where do we hang out with our dates? And is the part "What other places do you look for dating advice Offline/Online" in relation to your first question? Or is this a second question? | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Where do your guys hang out to find answers?There some truth to this, and some sense of false security To care or not to care, that is the question... You must care if you are to learn everything you can about your target, you must care about your looks and how you're perceived. You must care about why you were rejected so as to improve your flaws... On the other hand, you must not care that you were rejected as there are plenty of fish in the sea, you must not care during shit tests, and you must not care if you've done everything in you… | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 04:07 AM |
| 0 | hiring a coach or learn by myself?Coaching is great in the sense that you find the right coach, one who isn't cringey, rapey, or even worse, Fake. Lots of sham gurus out there, even this sub reddit is full of people giving bad advice, even people who've had little to no success with women giving advice. I'll tell you what, I used to follow the PUA culture big in 2008 -2016 and I learned some real actual good advice and then I learned some real terrible habits that took me years to break. Learning on your own can work and you wil… | /r/seduction | 17/06/24 07:45 PM |
| 0 | Can an attractive guy be a "boring nice guy"?Homie, you're thinking too much into this and are trying to find something out of nothing. It's a meme. It's not reality. Develop people skills, have hobbies, and calibrate to the social world and that's it. Women like what they like and some are weird and some aren't, some may like your weirdness (if you're weird) some may not. Either be yourself and it will attract what fits, or change into being a sociopath adapting to every women you meet putting on a facade of who you think they want you to… | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 04:16 PM |
| 5 | Attempting my first ever hookupHomie, try not to get murdered. Make sure you don't carry a bunch of money on you, no expensive jewelry. Make sure you have a friend know where you are. I'm not going to tell you to do a few dates first because people can lie and pretend until they get what they want, so just be prepared to be robbed or killed. I don't know where you are but don't bring your passport, or hide it. Bring a knife or a gun if you have one just to be safe. Make sure you watch him make a drink if he gives you one, but… | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Why is cold approach so addictive?This anxiety never goes away. Even once you get all that you ask for, it still appears with every approach. Inner game techniques help "alleviate" it, but it never goes away fully. I just recently heard that Anxiety and Excitement or the same chemical releases in our body. And dopamine hits more with the anticipation of doing a task rather than after doing it. So the pre approach jitters I concur is just excitement, dopamine, and norepinephrine. So in theory, the more you approach, the more succ… | /r/seduction | 02/06/24 03:13 PM |
| 8 | Why is cold approach so addictive?Yes, it's very addicting. It got so bad for me that I was cold approaching every day, no matter the scenario. At funerals, at work, at a wedding. I had this incessant urge to approach every beautiful woman I saw, even if I was talking to one, I would mentally map where they went so I could talk to them after I finished with the current one. There were timss when I couldn't approach in 3 seconds and would become obsessed, such as on a date with another woman. I started to feel inadequate, like I … | /r/seduction | 02/06/24 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Attraction Body LanguageDude, women don't look at you cause they don't want to look at you. You can't and you WON'T get every woman in the world. Some women like short guys some like ugly guys, some like guys with balled heads, some are in committed relationships or marriages.... Dude the reasons are endless. Just because a woman doesn't 'look' at you can be for an infinite reasons. Women are people too. They have their lives going on and could have something on their mind they're thinking about. Have you thought that … | /r/seduction | 18/05/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | I finally did a thingLife is always going to play out with you or without you, and I hope you keep that in mind and ask yourself when You're faced with doing something like this again.... Do you want life to move on without you or with you? You are the captain of your own ship, set your sails. Women always talk about everything, it is nothing to worry about. They will eventually forget when they're in a different mood/state and some will even justify a guys bad behavior as acceptable due to their state. Also, you do… | /r/seduction | 29/03/24 10:19 PM |
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