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Question For MenVenus_On_Fire90/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 07:44 PM
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There's a lot wrong with lying
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 09:10 AM
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Sweet, so ignore my entire existence? Lol Thanks for the reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:21 AM
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If I could upvote this a million times I would lol spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:45 PM
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That is NOT the only way he is submissive. He could be actively participating and still submissive. Him having a penis and using it doesn't make him dominant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:53 PM
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It's basically that. Roles reversed as much as possible. I pay my own bills, I own my own house/car etc so they wouldn't be paying for much and sexually they would submit to me ( I don't feel comfortable going into the details of my relationships/dynamics here lol )
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:51 PM
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Not really, its just the submissive thing. I can get guys no problem, but when I mention I'm not trad and will not be doing the norm, most guys bail. Even if I let them know they're basically set for life if this goes the distance. Some have tried to play the role, but eventually it comes up that they just can't do it, they need a submissive woman who gives them the "dream"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:43 PM
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And that's wrong. I explained why.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:38 PM
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I struggle greatly. Unfortunately, reddit is not indicative of irl and all these guys jumping at the opportunity here are either no where near me or loud online and mute irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:37 PM
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I always ask men out I pay most times And yes, sexually will be required.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:34 PM
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Again, penetration will never inherently equal dominance and I don't know how else or who else can explain it to you, but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:33 PM
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You have a poor understanding of dominance/submission and sex in general, and I'm not really sure how else to explain it so you can understand lol penetration does not and will never equal dominance. A man could penetate a woman and still be submissive, because as soon as she says be still, he stops, she says go, he moves. She decides she's bored and penetration over, he listens. The mere act of insertion does not mean they're the dominant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:24 PM
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I'm looking in my local kink communities (east coast based, PA.) And through networking through friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:17 PM
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Because dominance can exist without penetration. Dominance is the control of the what and who, penetration is the act of entering someone and has nothing to do with dominance or submission. Unless you inherently see sex as conquering someone, its neither submissive or dominant sex, it's just sex. Everything else is separate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:05 PM
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Minorities mostly, yes. White guys seem either terrified of me or its a fetish thing that I'm not into.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:55 PM
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I'm into those guys lol that's why I asked. He can be whatever he wants while away, but with me, submissive. Sexually and personality wise. I know its rare, I haven't had any real luck with a guy like that since my ex and unfortunately he passed about 7 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:53 PM
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I have, he says its an exercise in standing out or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:50 PM
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Lol I was being snooty. I hate that shit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:43 PM
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Riding in a sense, but he's in the "submissive" position. Its like missionary or legs up, but I control everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:42 PM
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Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:40 PM
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Same, just sucks. Since my ex died, I've been struggling to find something similar. Guess I'll just have to take the fact that he took that along with him, and start focusing on other things. Thanks for being kind and understanding ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:38 PM
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It does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:33 PM
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Thanks ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:30 PM
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You got it, except I'm a lifestyle domme so it's not 24/7, but most of the time haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:28 PM
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Look up the Amazon sex position. Still PIV, but different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:26 PM
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Many ways Plenty Plenty All kinds No Its not all about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:23 PM
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Because penetration doesn't equal dominance?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:21 PM
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That's a thing that can happen, yes. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:20 PM
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I feel you, I'm sorry you're struggling as well. Its rough out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:11 PM
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That sucks, I'm sorry to hear that. And yes I agree, the tropes are annoying as shit and people make things entirely too complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:10 PM
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As per the guys I've heard it from: Too independent, not a follower (won't let him lead), I'm too tall (I'm 6' even), too opinionated and I'm alternative, so a lot of guys think that I'm "offensive to feminity"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:08 PM
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I'm asking men because when I bring it up, even to guys who are into bdsm, most seem offended I even asked lol and I have been looking for years, even as a ex dominatrix myself, I found most people I worked with were married men. The other guys are either way too young or dominant themselves. I had one guy I dated for a few years, but unfortunately he passed. I haven't had much luck since.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:01 PM
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Standardization being handled through the government like you suggested, is very much skirting mandatory, and still extremely unneeded, because again, the test already exists and if you need one, you can buy as many as you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:04 AM
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Standardized paternity tests? No. But the tests are readily available and not too costly. If ever you need one, its there for you to buy. But having the government involved and making it mandatory is unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:46 AM
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Rewards for staying and punishment for leaving the relationship sounds kinda trappy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:20 AM
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Let men tell it, the answer will probably be an unshaken no. But reality is, yes many do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:10 AM
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We are better at masking, its part of the reason it's so hard to be diagnosed to women, because they still heavily rely on the male diagnostic criteria. And while your premise is true for most autistic women, its not true for all and certainly not me. My autism like others, came along with out of the norm hobbies and lifestyle choices, and that makes it extremely hard for me to date even though I'm attractive. Not disagreeing with you or your overall sentiments, just saying its off a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 12:14 PM
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Emotionally constipated men are a major red flag to me, so guys who think being vulnerable is a negative are an instant no. I've dealt with the types who think like that and they're some of the worst partners to have because while trying to pretend they don't get upset or nothing is a big deal, they're acting the most Emotionally unstable, anger, outbursts, lack of empathy and understanding etc. Its just not a fun time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:04 PM
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For the brief stint I tried them out, I was honest? Lol what's the point in lying? I was 30 then and my range was from 27-37.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:32 PM
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Bro what? You just told me I should want carrot juice I don't want and be thankful for it. So be thankful that men you don't want, would also want you too. It doesn't matter if you're not attracted to them, they exist so you're privileged. Also, I'm pansexual, so I do have sex with women and men, and have access to both fairly easily, but I didn't see them as a privilege, I seen them as people lovely enough to invite me into their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:29 PM
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I have no opinion on them, so long as they're decent guys. I wouldn't date one though simply because he's too old for my liking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:18 PM
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It does matter. You could easily have that over abundance of men too if you put yourself out there as available to men, but you don't want that right? Would you see men wanting you as a privilege?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:15 PM
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Not really, the carrot juice he speaks of is just that, carrot juice. Problem is, he is saying women should be thankful for that carrot juice even if they don't want it, it's still a privilege. So even if YOU don't want the carrot juice because you're not attracted to carrot juice, then too fucking bad according to OP. You're still privileged, so get out there and start munching carrots lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:07 PM
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It isn't a privilege and you seeing it as one for me doesn't change that. Having an over abundance of men who mean absolutely nothing to me and I will never be with, does in no way make my life any easier, if anything it makes it 10x harder just trying to get through life being seen as anything other than romantic potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:44 PM
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Probably because of hypocrisy. If men have will and still continue to do the same, leaving a bunch of women made for them wondering where all the guys they were promised for being the "perfect woman" all their lives are, why wouldn't women do the same? The discussion happens for men, but it changes nothing, at least not that I've seen. Married men who have trad wives at home still seek sexworkers, strippers, sugar babies and prostitutes, they still decline modest women's advances in favor of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 08:53 PM
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I mean, I feel like it's just human nature at this point because men do the same thing. They claim they want a virgin trad woman that dresses modestly, but when you watch their actions, they only pursue beautiful party girls way above their league and when you remind them that this isn't what they claimed they wanted, they neg the trad woman calling her boring, one note and uninterested in most things they are. I have no idea why either side does it, but its also not really my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 08:04 PM
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They also make it clear with women, so I'm not sure what your point is? Other women aren't hyping up and praising these women, we're letting her know to her face she's dumb and being used, what they do with that information is their business. We also have guys like you openly negging her and letting her know she's a "fat, disgusting loser woman" so, far from afraid to do so, the problem is no matter what people or society does, so long as its not men collectively having better sexual discipline …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:40 PM
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Can't wait for the mods to delete this post lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:34 PM
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You're still here??? stfu lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:27 PM
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Yes she would, I would know because I'm that woman lol men do NOT like hearing they will be the bottom 8/10 in a relationship, so I get very few hits on OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:21 PM
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The same reason ugly guys with a hot girlfriend don't particularly like hearing its because of his money? People want to be wanted for them, not what they offer so when its mentioned that it's only for the money/sex, they get defensive. That just makes logical sense from a human standpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:16 PM
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I feel like society has excepted that and tell men to raise their standards and stop banging everything that moves. The only reason women have it easier is because men will fuck basically anything while women are pickier.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:12 PM
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If you don't want to change and are fine with what you have, then there should be no complaints. But if you don't want to change, complain still and neg everyone doing things you aren't, then you're going to get criticized.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:02 PM
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You just told me fuck off, I'm not helping you learn shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:57 AM
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This is a debate sub about dating and relationships, not for sex questions, no need to be rude. I was considering helping you in DMs but you can kick rocks for sure now with that "fuck off" 🖕🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:56 AM
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I agree with the premise because there are stats to back this up as well as experience from being a dominatrix, you learn very quickly most of the guys involved are married and hiding their adventures from their wives. Same with sex work, older married guys seeking flings with younger women, being a sugar daddy etc all while living a double life. I disagree with it being all men. There are plenty of them that do, maybe even enough to form a pattern, but it will never be all of them, most guys ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:54 AM
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Dude wtf??? I'm in the bdsm community and even I opened this like what in the porn fiction is going on here...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:42 AM
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Again, they can decenter women, I've encouraged it myself, the problem is with the OP and this not being used as a healthy way of coping with current dynamics, but presented in a way as punishment and incentive for women to pick different men, that will never work because those decentering women already weren't in the game so it makes no difference. I don't understand why you think I want to make men feel bad about being single for simply pointing that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:32 AM
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I mean, it's been almost 20 years of this decline guys speak of and the pandemic only made it worse, I would think it would at least be a little more established with set goals by now, but it just seems to be millions of men all over the world sitting online and complaining daily about a smorgasbord of things that most don't even agree on. Also, like I and a few other guys mentioned further down, most guys aren't even going to just drop out of dating simply because some aren't getting picked, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:51 AM
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No, I'd get the degree and get a job. Complaining online is how you remain stagnant 9/10 because Complaining becomes all most people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:42 AM
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Oh well, its still none of the dozens of random guys miffed about it business and it never will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:39 AM
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Wait, now you're switching it around. Before it was wanting to be taken by him, now it's them wanting to take him ???
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:30 PM
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If it goes bad, that's on them. And the complaining is them venting which every person is entitled to. Women live everyday hearing bs about women collectively and for the most part they rant about it and move on because other people and their opinions are a part of life and either you learn to not take it personally or you create a space about it and spend all your time there complaining about other people's complaints lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:09 PM
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But why does that matter to men so much? Women will go after who she can get in whatever capacity she feels comfortable with engaging, and that is her business. If she can only engage with men deemed above her in a sexual manner, that's fine. If she then complains about her position, that's also fine. People are allowed to vent. If a woman can only get situationships with guys deemed above her, that's something she chose. If she then decides dating isn't worth it and drops out the game, that's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:45 PM
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You aren't very special with your line of thinking, so yeah, basically. lol most women "know" you very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:30 PM
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This. I picked 2 unpicked men and they were the worst relationships I've ever had. This weird dichotomy a lot of guys have when it comes to this is wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:27 PM
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They can pick who they want and they can complain about it lol people are allowed to vent and rant all they want, you can ignore it fairly easily. I barely see any relationship discourse unless I go looking for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:25 PM
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I hear what you're saying, however, my question is why does any woman have to give any man a chance? I really need to know what this hold on not giving all men an equal shot, has got on some guys who think along these lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:20 PM
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What does this have to do with anything, like what's your point? Just get to why me stating my personal experience has prompted this line on questioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:00 PM
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Ask OP lol I agree with you that again, its cute in theory, but its not going to happen in a way that matters. So long as there are other men willing to put up with awful, horrible meanie women, his little fantasy will remain just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:37 AM
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That's why I said in any meaningful way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:31 AM
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Them wanting to be taken by a celebrity who doesn't even know they exist is vastly different than random men seeing random women and girls in the street and eye fucking them while imagining gross things they wouldn't consent to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 06:19 AM
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We understand, unfortunately it doesn't change the fact that men can chase all they want , if women aren't interested, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:20 AM
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Sounds lovely in theory, but it's never going to happen. This has been suggested by both men and women, and it has yet to take hold in any meaningful way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:16 AM
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I mean, yes, but I also feel like there are many things disadvantageous for women in dating that is often ignored simply because there is this notion held by many, that whatever struggles a woman has in dating is just a fever dream, because there's always a dick waiting around the corner, regardless of if you want it or not, and if you don't want it then that's more proof you have no problems lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:44 PM
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Because they fought to be there. Which is what I'm pretty sure the point is, if men also fought, they could also see different types portrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:46 PM
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Anyone playing these types of games do not get taken seriously. We're adults, not high-school children. So I disagree with her and her opposition because they're different sides of the same grift coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:38 PM
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You literally said you didn't believe any of the women who answered, but its bad faith on their parts? Lmfaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:08 PM
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Yes its a joke. My rapist who pulled me into his home and violated me at 14 did not ever go to jail for that, it was only a decade later when he murdered his daughters best friend trying to cover up her rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:54 PM
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This is true, unfortunately you're about to met with varying ways on how while this may be a collective image problem, it is not problem enough to change or care about it. Everything is fine and if it isn't, its not men so it's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:07 PM
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This one always gets me when I try and reach out to incels lol like you're upset that women won't choose you, claim its your face, height or whatever, I point out it may be their personality and thought process, they are appalled by this notion, blame women and go on the most horrid rant against women you've seen in a while threatening all sorts of awful things for not getting their way and then sit there with the slap face when I point out that's exactly why women DO NOT CHOOSE THEM and even wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:59 PM
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It doesn't take social media to feel these thing though. I feel like we give social media too much power in a lot of these instances like we forgot all these problems existed before the tech boom, people protested in the streets over politics etc before the web, kinky before the web and jaded before the web. All the internet did was make us all seemingly interconnected all over the world and give us space to emote anonymously while moving the things we did irl online. I truly believe if we solve…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:48 PM
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I do not wish to be approached more and I do not believe those things are the issue here, what I do think it is: Failing governments, poor economy, unemployment, housing crisis, mental health crisis, women progressing and men not coming along but instead trying to roll back to a time before, which is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:35 PM
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I agree with this. All of the worst things I've heard about men have been from other men. Grandpa's, uncles, dad's are the first people to keep it real with you about guys, your first male friends will give you visuals of how they operate during high school on up and ask most guys for advice on how to deal with a relationship and just sit and listen how they describe the male perspective, it sounds like a horrifying movie plot about wild animals trying to pass as humans and failing miserably.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:31 PM
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Well that's a lot of harm that needs to be done, because its parroted constantly across multiple sites by men that if they do not have access to sex and women who behave in the way they feel they should, then women's rights should be taken because to stunt male sexuality is the greatest sin on the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:12 PM
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No she isn't, most women operate the same lol look at sex toy sales for women, we masturbate constantly and read smut etc. We just absolutely do NOT want to bang random men while horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:02 PM
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I'm not saying they shouldn't, just that they shouldn't be surprised when women are upset by it and they get rejected. I'm also saying when in that situation, like the poster above, I cut them off myself, it just sucks having to do so with just about every male friend you make at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:50 PM
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I'm not the one saying it, men are. I'm just listening and taking their advice, I'm allowed to feel crappy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:30 PM
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I'm not looking for a crush, I want friends. Guys who are supposed to be my friend being revealed to be just like every other guy we have to deal with is not fun, and hearing that most guys go into friendships with women in hopes of something more essentially cuts women off from half the species when it comes to platonic relationships. Men countless times have told us that the prize is access to sex, so unfortunately "I like this girl" does equate to "boy, I can't wait to see her naked" and that…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:15 PM
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Honestly, thank you for this. I need to cut a lot a male "friends" off apparently. They clearly don't see me as worth knowing as a real person, just another thing to conquer and waiting around for more. Its just frustrating knowing that half the population is just off limits to you because of that 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 10:37 PM
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Stuff like this is why I stayed in the house for an entire summer. Knowing random men dream of "taking me" is extremely repulsive 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 10:20 PM
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Neat bro, nobody asked lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 12:02 PM
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Yes. And how you personally feel about it changes absolutely nothing lol you're sitting online going imagine, and there are guys who don't have to because they actually meet my standards 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:54 AM
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I've never had sex with anyone on the first date in my life. Also, its not learning a language, I just go into relationships with multilingual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:44 AM
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Its definitely the very last sentence lol these tactics only work on certain women, any sane one avoids guys with these ideals like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:28 PM
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🍪 good boy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:24 PM
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Not the downvote lol Guess this simple curiosity pissed someone off 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:20 PM
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Why don't men dress like thots more often? Mens fashion bores me to death lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:09 PM
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I understand all of that. It unfortunately does not make the optics and being on the other side of that any less off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:38 PM
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Dating desperate is highly unattractive and off putting to me, so I wouldn't even think to go there. If dating ever became an issue to the point I'm actually considering taking anything I can get, I'd just stop dating. The major part of why I stopped using dating apps was hearing how men used them, just swiping on anything, and that immediately made them useless to me. If women filter for specifics and men filter none, it comes off as pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:31 AM
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Hasn't caused me any issues, so you can feel how you want about it idc lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:33 PM
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Of for the love of God, please go flail wildly elsewhere lol OP said women in general are aware, that's what the post is about. I'm a woman agreeing and said why I agree. I don't get why you're so adamant to make it more. We do not need men telling us what to do with our dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:29 AM
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And women in general don't need men telling them what to do with their dating lives. I'm well aware I could change my standards, as are most women, that doesn't mean it's a good idea. It isn't for me personally like I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:15 AM
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Why are you assuming I'm not already dating quality men? I don't need the analogy and I don't need the advice for my standards, as I am the only one who determines what a successful relationship is for me and what I want out of it. I have standards and boundaries that I do not budge on and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:04 AM
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People aren't broccoli, they're investments in some way, so tying myself and my worth to someone not up to par is not smart and you're not going to downvote and analogize me into thinking it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:56 AM
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Its is not useful advice for me. I have no problem finding and getting the men I want. Lowering my standards wouldn't be anything but harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:50 AM
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Wonderful. I still ignore it lol it's just not useful advice for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:45 AM
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I just ignore them. That advice is never really to benefit us, it's to benefit whatever guy is saying it at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:36 AM
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Neat, happy to hear you're off the table. ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:50 AM
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Most wouldn't care. We're the ones asking to stop being approached lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 06:06 PM
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Currently single and not dating by choice. They all ended for various reasons, moving across country, moving abroad, one died and the other just fizzled out naturally and ended on good terms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 12:14 AM
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4 of them, yes. And I don't find it impressive really, but thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 12:07 AM
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People I am in LTR with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 12:01 AM
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I literally gave standards for LTR and casual. Im not traveling with casual dates..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:51 PM
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You seem very upset with my standards and making a lot of assumptions. I do not understand why when I have zero problems with it nor do the people I date lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:44 PM
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Clearly if I said I don't want to be the one paying all the time, that eludes to me also having play money lol I make a significant amount of money myself, so they need to at least match it and the language thing is because I like to travel internationally and would like to be able to go places and know the language. When I date someone and we travel, we go to all the places I know languages of and whichever they know. It just makes it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:25 PM
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Well that's what I said in response to OP, that my standards aren't stopping me from having LTRs or dating casually so I don't see how they're considered delusional for being high. And you'd be surprised how much those things don't always overlap. Trust fund guys are usually living off their parents and don't have much but privilege and an air about them that screams "ill sue!" Lol and its not tall necessarily, just shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:02 PM
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Must be submissive, because I'm not and don't jive with "alpha" or dominant men 5'10 and below because I'm 6' and like being taller than my partners Good job, match my income or better Own place to stay because I have my own Own car like I have The ability to have "play money" meaning after bills, not flat broke. Because I like to go out and do things and would like to not have to pay for everything Knows at least 2 languages, as I know 4 and learning more Not fat, because I'm not and won't be i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:21 PM
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Having high standards has never been a problem for me so I don't see how its "delusional". when I date I decide when and if I'm looking for a LTR, if I am, my standards haven't really stopped that from happening, if I'm not, I have a whole different set of standards lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 08:06 PM
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That sounds awful lol I don't kink shame to a sane extent, but even just personality wise, those absolutely sound like people I would avoid in the scene. Just not my twist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:41 PM
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You're correct, I was not there, so I have no clue. But I do know where I used to hang out, we discussed and did things openly and properly. I'm a part of a irl bdsm community and we also congregate online, and in my 16 years of being in it, I luckily haven't come across what you speak. Im sorry you've had poor experiences. The sooner we allow people who aren't harming anyone be themselves, the better, especially submissive men and dominant women. The stigma is nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:02 PM
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Which again is just preferences. Dominant women are seldomly put off by that and some even incorporate it into their dynamics for play or improvement on the subject. Other women who are submissive will find that unappealing, but not disgusting because to see a male submissive as disgusting is hypocritical as a few women have said here, men are also allowed to be vulnerable. Switch women from what I've seen here just say it's a burden because its not always easy to flip from sub to dom. I believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:51 PM
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No, I personally know several maledoms that change and many who even do Findom with women as well. Its rare comparatively, but not unheard of, many actually operate here on reddit in the bdsm subs and make $$$
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:15 PM
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Terrible troll post lol and blatantly wrong, women think about sex all the time, just not with the guys who cry bloody murder that women are what's wrong with the world for simply not fucking every man she sees.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:38 PM
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Mens mental health and fostering stronger male bonds. I also feel like paternal abandonment needs to be addressed, as a lot of young men or men in general suffering the most have no real father figure in their lives and thats important.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:35 PM
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Ok dude, have fun arguing with women's phantom disgust lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:57 PM
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What part of women don't find it disgusting, they just have preferred dynamics don't you get? You can keep trying to make your tangent a fact, but reality disagrees with you. Women being submissive and wanting a dominant man is different than finding it disgusting, even the women here are saying they either like it or don't, not because its disgusting, but because they're submissive themselves. Wtf are two subs going to do together? Nothing lol I used to be booked constantly by submissive couple…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:41 PM
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I'm living proof of #3 and while some dynamics do operate like that, they're rare dynamic choices and are often only portrayed for content purposes. Personally, my dynamics/relationships were equal. We played in the bedroom and outside of it we, incorporated some dynamic based things we agreed on like calling me my pet name or playfully asking permission for random things. It is possible to have this type of relationship/dynamic and truly want to be with someone lol I only date submissive men as…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:35 PM
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My whole point was dominatrix' charge not because its disgusting, but because it is a job and will only ever be free for someone we're either dating or someone also in the bdsm community that has been a friend for some time. Otherwise, compensation will be expected. People have preferences and most women are submissive and submissive only, they also do not find it disgusting, it just doesn't fit their preferred dynamics so they do not partake. Idk why you want it to be "disgusting" when it simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:18 PM
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Thats just patently false lol there are plenty of products on the market with an over abundance of supply and the demand is still there and always will be. But I don't really see what that has to do with what we're talking about currently. Femdom isn't free because it is a job regardless of it it is a hobby or not because time, props, spaces and gear all cost money. It will never be free unless again, its your partner or close friends. If you want free femdom find a dominant girlfriend because p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:52 PM
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Exactly. But this post wasn't about vegans really, it was a thinly veiled dig at feminism and it flopped because while this sub can be silly, most aren't total idiots. He tried and he looks like a clown, but he's kinda known for that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:41 PM
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I hate this argument. Its free for our partners, but for others it will be expected that compensation will be given. Like any job, you're paid for your time and skill. And some of us do it both as a hobby and a job, I used to. But again, free for partners and close friends, strangers have to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:34 PM
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Except they aren't isolated, they have friends and partners, families with kids etc. Lol Nobody has the time to be this concerned about someone else's eating habits. Most people's encounters with a vegan is them explaining their veganism and why, they might try to convert you but it ends cordially and they're forgotten about. You're not going to convince me every vegan is a shrieking woman, because it just isnt. And personally for me, some of the worst vegans I've met have been men, either singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 12:21 PM
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I've never experienced any of this, so I don't know what to say about it. I've actually have always been the one with the higher sex drive and have encountered men from early 20s and up suffering from some form of ED and am pretty hands off in relationships, meaning very rarely do I turn to a partner for anything and I like my alone time so I encourage them to go do something, ANYTHING with their friends lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:48 AM
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And this is part of the reason why I and many women just don't use the apps. Its pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 09:30 PM
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Like someone else said, this "advice" isn't to the benefit of the group it's towards, it's about the benefit the advice giver would recieve if said group listened to it. Women would suffer and you would feel like you had more of a chance and thats wholly bs and fucked up to try and do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:46 PM
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It isn't lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:33 PM
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You need to explain further, otherwise this just seems like unhinged behavior from bitter people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:31 PM
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Oh woe is me, blocked for stating something many people have seen. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:16 PM
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Great question lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:53 AM
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I have been told I am and consider myself a top tier woman attractiveness wise, and I really don't see why I should have to lower my standards to appease men and their feelings simply because they aren't getting picked, that's silly. So, not confused, just not interested. Tried going for and even dated a few guys below "my caliber" and they were the worst relationships I've had, they were insecure and constantly making up scenarios in their heads that I was only with them for other reasons than …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:51 AM
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Not according to a lot of the guys here. They absolutely want a top tier woman even though they often sound like they aren't in the same league or even describe themselves as subpar. To even ask them to go for their looks match or lower their standards is an affront to their person lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:34 AM
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But its on my terms, so I'm fine with that. Society can burn if anyone thinks I'm just going to lie down so men can feel better about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:05 PM
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If that truly happens, America is beyond fucked. You cannot force women to be with men, this will just cause mass casualties if anything. Women killing men, themselves and anyone needed to avoid this dystopian type of society if it comes to fruition. Unless jail or again, death was the initiative to making this work, it won't work. Its crazy to me some men even see this as some sort of good smh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:04 PM
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Then fuck society if it means I need to be "controlled" as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 10:58 PM
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No, what's retarded is you not being able to comprehend that we're allowed to speak on our experiences while engaging in the topic. I've already stated he's speaking generally, but that doesn't suddenly mean only one view point is allowed. It's a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:50 PM
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Nobody is pretending its common except you looking silly trying to form a gotcha. I and the woman above said stop speaking for US. OP is speaking generally about women and women are chiming in with their opinions and experiences. don't be dense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:39 PM
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I have more faith in men than that. I absolutely believe we can recalibrate the message to be the best you can be FOR YOU and not for the idea of a woman. Again, I know its nature, but that doesn't suddenly mean every woman wants every man and vice versa, so we really need to change the rhetoric around dating and relationships starting at a young age. Are relationships, dating and marriage a wonderful thing that can happen in life? Absolutely, but pushing it as everyone will and as a goal was pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:17 PM
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I'm not either of those things, you're just mad at who knows what and I honestly don't give a shit if you won't speak with me. You obviously don't have the emotional capacity for said conversation and its best avoided anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:05 PM
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Women want relationships on their terms. This isn't the past when we NEEDED a man for survival and I don't even get why that's a time looked back on so fondly when most women back then probably also wouldn't want to be in those relationships if it didn't hold her literal survival captive. I really feel like men need to recalibrate and find something new as motivation outside of other autonomous human beings. I find it wild that men have been conditioned into the carrot and stick model but with w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:34 PM
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Why is it a problem though? Like he said, when out in public, we're not looking for dates and finding someone attractive or not has very little pull on that. Most of us simply do not have the idea that we're existing to be approached 50 times a day because a stranger wants to date us floating in our brains constantly. We just want to exist. If I find a man date worthy I approach him myself anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:50 PM
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I'm right there with you! I get so tired of being told what I like is some carbon copy Chad they have made up when it just isn't lol I'm 6' myself and even taller in my boots, I do NOT like men taller than me, "alpha" men etc. All I want is a short, submissive man I can pick up but when I say that, I get jumped by men saying I'm lying..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:02 PM
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Well if we're going to talk, you're going to have to calm down or I won't engage. I find it odd you're mockingly going "men are so mean!", while simultaneously yelling at me for simply stating my experience and opinion on the topic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:41 AM
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You seem miffed, wanna talk about it? Like I get you have your feelings and experience, but it never negates mine. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:14 AM
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It is having to endure if its unwanted. I don't want to hear a billion times a day I'm desirable, I just want to exist. As an autistic woman, being approached while out is exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:59 AM
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Didn't you know we're not allowed in public without accepting we are only there to be hit on? Our whole lives is just waiting for a man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:37 AM
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