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Getting StartedVex_Appeal/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 08:22 PM
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Dealing with the Ex / STBXVex_Appeal/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 04:38 PM
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I can see the divorce petition online myself, she filed a no fault pro se divorce, she just didn’t tell me. You have to either list your attorney or claim that you’re going to do it pro se. She put pro se. The only mistake or cause for concern in the paperwork was that she listed the car as personal property, but it was bought after we got married and was paid for with joint funds entirely. She hasn’t done much of her own research so she thought because the car was in her name that I didn’t have…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 06:15 PM
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So she filed online. And then just didn’t say anything or do anything to get me to sign the petition or waiver. So technically, I am not even legally aware that I’m being divorced. Is there anything I should do now before I get served?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 06:13 PM
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See that’s what I’m trying to avoid. Her lawyering up using her parents money because she convinced them somehow that I’m coming after her. It’s a breath of fresh air to speak to someone that actually knows what they’re talking about. There ain’t shit I can do right now, when you exposed yours she got a lawyer and made your life harder. I really don’t want that to happen. So for now it’s just gonna stay in my back pocket. I’m just using the Notes app and I’m using different pages for the differe…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 06:09 PM
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Neither of us wants to, nor has the money to hire a lawyer. So we’re gonna do this pro se. So far I’m getting everything I want. The house and all the furniture and appliances in it, my two favorite cats, and she’s gonna take all of her debt with her. Why would I pay a lawyer when all that would do is eat into what I’m already winning? She claims she’s the bad guy in the villain so I’m going to use that to my advantage and get what I want first. Then I’ll expose her if I still care then.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 05:20 PM
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We have three cats and she’s getting one of them. I’m fine with this arrangement and happy that I get to see her when my STBXW is out of town Because the court doesn’t care if it happens after the separation. So in essence, it doesn’t matter. But I am continuing to document it all in case this pro se thing doesn’t work out. I could threaten to file my answer as an at fault infidelity divorce and get a lawyer. I also could tell people that she’s not actually on a self-discovery journey and it’s j…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 05:18 PM
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That’s a personal question only you can answer. I might be biased, but I’m always gonna be on the side of trying to make it work. Going to counseling separately and together. People rarely regret putting too much effort into the relationship, they more regret, not giving it enough fight that it deserved. 10 years? That deserves a good faith attempt at reconciliation. Feelings change, but sometimes you find if you stick around you fall back in love with your wife or you learn how to love her in d…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 04:40 PM
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Fuck bud, feel pretty similar and same age but she just asked for one last month. Married 4 and together 10. She just stopped feeling the same and decided it was a good idea to not say anything until asking for a divorce. I’m not sure how I’m ever gonna love anyone ever again or trust anyone but I’m telling myself it’s possible. I think what you first have to do is work on yourself and find out who you are and what you like. If you have a good idea of what that is, you might be ready to start da…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 03:15 AM
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Time to open a bunch of credit cards up and max them out. And start building an emergency rainy day fund.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 12:15 AM
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Wife asked for a divorce a few weeks ago and is already talking about serving me/me signing a waiver so I don’t have to deal with a cop. Seems fast for a 10+ years relationship that she blindsided me out of after saying she loved me every day. I want to drag my feet, the slower the better because we are upside down on the house and both cars. No end in sight because nothing is signed.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 11:40 PM
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She left. Me and the cats 🤣. Took our only car though but it’s upside down, she can have it. And she has to move in with her parents that I could never get her to call. She doesn’t even like them and was abused in that house. Not by them but still. All because 2 years ago, her feelings changed and she decided not to say a damn word about it until asking for a divorce. Just lying to me the whole time and telling me I was doing things right and that she loved me. So yeah, I better get the fucking …
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 03:38 AM
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It sucks pretty bad. I’d go to therapy or counseling to figure out why you want to torch a situation most would be jealous to have. If she’s truly a good woman and hot, there might be something wrong with you. At the very least you should give this decision a lot of fucking care because there’s no takesy backsies. Your kid will statistically be at a disadvantage as soon as you sign the paperwork. He’s going to find a way to blame himself when he understands what happened. Hopefully he likes you …
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 12:45 AM
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Why do you say not to move out of the house? That’s currently what I’m doing. Trying not to
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 03:36 AM
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It doesn’t make it any less scary. I truly don’t know what’s going to happen next. Just gonna try and control what I can control.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 04:10 PM
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“ my family doesn’t have difficult conversations” This is a woman that for two years, that kept it to herself that her feelings started to change. Then after telling me for years that she loved me and I was doing everything right, she just asked for a divorce out of nowhere. And the way she’s acting is like I was abusive or neglectful and I definitely was not. In fact she was, but I’m still being treated like a monster.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 01:27 PM
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Hahahaha. I doubt I’ll get this but she’s a fucking mess right now. I need to get out of her way. I’m going to the gym and catching up with old friends and flames 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 01:38 AM
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This wasn’t correct. Judges in Texas absolutely favor the party that proved the other one was cheating. It doesn’t mean you get everything. It just means you get more than 50-50. That being said, I’m just gonna let her go unless something obvious pops up out of nowhere like someone texts me about it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:09 PM
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It does but I am getting enough of what I want to not care if she’s cheating. Not my circus anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:08 PM
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I’m gonna let sleeping dogs lie. All it’s gonna do is hurt to find out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:06 PM
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I’m doing it. I’ve had breakdowns but minimized talking to her during. We’re getting along and I seem to be getting what I want.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:06 PM
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Lmao. I listened to you btw. I’m not so stupid that I can’t tell when I’m winning or losing. Keeping the peace is making everyone much happier than negotiation tables. Things are possible that wouldn’t be if we weren’t getting along. I feel bad for the guy that she’s cheating with though because we fucked the week before she asked. It seems like everybody had a good time, but who knows. Basically it doesn’t matter if she is or isn’t. Not to me. If she made a lot more money than me than maybe and…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:01 PM
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Things are looking good. I am getting the house, it was new when we got it 2 years ago and I maintain it damn well, she’s getting an upside down car with most of the payments left. All I need now is a roommate to pay even as low as $500 a month. And figure out a way to remove her name or reduce her liability if the house foreclosed. I can afford it on my own, comfortably with a roommate. Wish me luck, we’re still getting along right now.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 06:59 PM
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Howdy. Just joined the club. She asked for a divorce last Wednesday 3 days after our 10 year relationship anniversary. Met at 27. So I’m pretty scared of life alone, she blames herself and well I sure do too. I was fighting and I don’t feel she ever really did. She had changes in feelings, didn’t say anything for years even though I begged her to tell me, and now wants to end things with zero chance of reconciliation. I wasn’t perfect, but I was trying and she wasn’t. So sometimes it doesn’t mat…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 07:29 PM
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Gosh, there’s so many different hypotheticals. You have kids? Bring stuff relevant about them. Costs and specific child needs. House and cars? It’d be good to know how much they’re worth and how much you have paid into them together. Also, you need to find out what state specific laws apply here. What’s in both of y’all’s names? And does that even matter in your state? For some it all becomes community property after the marriage date. Do you even need a lawyer? Cheapest and best option is to ne…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 07:01 PM
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It WILL change the outcome though lol. In Texas you can file at fault divorce and present your case for infidelity. Judges here favor the person that proves the other spouse was cheating. Aka I’d get more than I’d get if we just try to do a fair split. She’s got a lot of money in 401(k) that she’s thinking I forgot about. I’m saying 50-60K where I only have 17K. I I could get around 30K if we split those accounts. More if she was cheating. I said somewhere else that if I keep getting what I want…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 09:51 AM
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Yeah, and a lot of divorce lawyers have one on staff or speed dial.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:15 AM
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Negotiating is working so far. Almost too well. It’s really confusing me. So I’ll keep playing nice as long as I keep getting what I want. She wasted 10 years of my life and used the fuck out of me. So yeah, I wanna be paid, if she’s difficult, I’ll remind her about her fat 401(k) accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:14 AM
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She got on my phone plan a few months ago. So as careful as she might be, I’m sure there’s something in there. I can see all the numbers that she called and texted and all the ones that called and texted her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:12 AM
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Thank you! I felt like I was crazy arguing with these people telling me that it didn’t matter at all. And that cheating isn’t illegal. That’s not what I was claiming. What I was claiming is that if you can prove adultery in Texas it helps your case. Right now she’s giving me what I want so I won’t go down that road. If she starts becoming difficult, I absolutely will hire a PI. She also forgot to stop sharing her location with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:12 AM
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She’s got a lot of money in 401(k) accounts that she’s thinking I forgot about. If I catch her cheating, I’m definitely gonna remember those. She’s got a lot more to lose in this divorce. And I think she’s trying to rush me through it before I figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:09 AM
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OK, well I guess it varies by state because in Texas you can file an at-fault divorce. And the judge absolutely favors the person that proves the other person was cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:09 AM
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I kinda enjoy her being the bad guy right now. And if she keeps bending over backwards, I don’t have much to complain about. I was always the settler and she was always the reacher so I’m gonna be fine. Could I get her to agree to let me see people outside of the marriage now or is that a can of worms I don’t wanna fuck with?
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:01 AM
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We’re still married. If she’s seeing some guy, how is that not infidelity? She barely told me Wednesday. Nothing is filed. How does anybody catch their wife? Do they just get fucking lucky or what?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:15 PM
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How do I catch her? Maybe she gets sloppy and thinks she’s has me fooled because of the insane cooperation. I don’t know if she knows that I can see her call and text records. Is that really the only way that guy’s catch their wives or do they get lucky?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:13 PM
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Texas. And we would’ve had to have been married for 10 years for anyone to get it. We’re only at four years. Lived together for 10. She just paid three months of rent upfront, her half. I have had suspicions of infidelity for at least nine months. I even know who I think it is. She wouldn’t constantly talk about the guy and spend all her time with her friends and choose them over me over and over again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:11 PM
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I thought if I found infidelity that I could just go to a lawyer and clean her out, and get more than I would get if I negotiated from stance of trying to be strictly fair? I used to make more than her, but now she makes more than me and has for a while. She’s got a lot of money in 401(k) that I think she’s forgotten. I know about. I helped her pay for her Ozempic and gave her shots every week. She’s leaving me as soon as she got happy with how much weight she lost. I helped her get her job too,…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 08:34 PM
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