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VictorERink/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 10:29 PM
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It’s so complex I’m not sure I could do it justice. He’s an academic and he makes arguments like one, you know with a bunch of complicated word salad. The biggest insight I got from it was that The opposite of racism is not neutrality. It is anti-racism. His assertion is that neutrality in a world where racism is pervasive and institutionalized only perpetuates racism. That’s why neutrality is racist. He also notes that an individual can be racist in one moment or context, and anti-racist in the…
/r/MensRights28/08/20 11:09 AM
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For what it’s worth I just read this book and he makes a pretty worthwhile argument. The simplification of the quotation you reference here doesn’t really capture it. If you’re interested it’s a pretty good read.
/r/MensRights28/08/20 02:06 AM
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Most of the people who comment on these sections think it’s cool to treat you like they’re your drill sergeant. It was nice seeing somebody come into this sub without all of the assholery.
/r/askMRP26/06/20 01:15 PM
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Without my marriage I would not be the happy man I am today.
/r/MensRights24/04/19 05:37 PM
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This is what is great about this forum. Thanks for sharing. I have had a similar journey, including the Rambo flailing early on. She is happier too, and that makes for better and more frequent connection and fun together. It's helped me enjoy my work, my children and my parents.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 07:01 PM
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Great comments, sir. Thanks for sharing. I'm 2 years in and things are going great, mostly because of the dynamics you describe here. I love making my wife feel good and want to be held by me, and MRP was the praxeology that got me there. I have a lot more work to do, and I have a whole lifetime to do it. This marriage is off the rocks and heading out to sea.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 01:27 PM
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Thanks, good post for me to read today. These other commenters are assholes.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 06:42 PM
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Please cut out the homophobic language. I'm no PC police, but use of the term "gay" as a pejorative is neither creative nor specific. Otherwise great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 06:15 PM
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My comment is an excellent example of being sanctimonious, I'm realizing. I guess I do belong here.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 06:34 PM
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I was indulging myself with that request. I come here once in a while to better understand my role in a successful and happy marriage. I don't live in the manosphere more than any other sphere, and I find the jargon boring and lazy. So I asked the poster to clarify. I forgot I was on MRP, where most commenters are sanctimonious blowhards.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 02:52 PM
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Define OYS
/r/askMRP06/05/16 01:27 PM
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Great post. Thanks for sharing. I'm about a year in, and it has done similar things for me. Happier me, happier wife, happier everybody.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 09:13 PM
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This stuff works, but it works differently with each married couple. When I first started I went full nuclear way too fast and blew it up. The trick for me was to make the changes inside and be cool as a cucumber on the outside. i.e., don't be an asshole, just take care of your shit. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 01:23 PM
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I am 41.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 11:58 AM
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This makes a lot of sense to me. I have switched into silent cordial mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 01:57 AM
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She doesn't make real money. Certainly not enough to pay for a two bedroom apartment to accommodate our children. I am thinking about approaching it from a big picture perspective, and not letting her know I saw her craigslist search. My aunt just died and she is coming to the funeral. I'm thinking of thanking her for her support and talking about how I know we've had a rough couple of months lately. These are true things and I feel I need to demonstrate that I have respect for her. She takes yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 11:12 PM
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I went through this with my wife just a few months ago. She was sure I was cheating, she was anxious because I started to match her SMV. I just kept it cool most of the time and kept working. It's so much better now, all of it. She clearly likes my body better, and the sex is better, and a little more frequent. One thing is for sure, our sex life is on an even playing field now. I seek to gain the advantage, but for now just having equal power in the dynamic is fun and playful. I told her that I…
/r/askMRP08/09/15 07:31 PM
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Great clarification, Professor. I've been missing this consistently. When I get a denial I disengage and go do my business/fun stuff. She hamsters herself into an upset and rebuffs any comfort. And the next day she's still holding onto that upset so any initiations fall on infertile soil, so to speak. I keep it light and OI, but she still staggers. I hope someday soon she'll come to me for comfort when she's upset by this business so I can parlay that into sex.
/r/askMRP08/09/15 07:23 PM
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Kudos on #5. When you're being an asshole to a 4YO, you're still being an asshole. Apologizing will be the first step in teaching them to own their shit.
/r/askMRP01/09/15 05:47 PM
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Right now I'm in that "worse" phase. I'm 2-3 months in. My wife has been hot and cold on the new me, but mostly cold. We have had some great sex, totally connected and fun and new. Then we had mediocre sex last Tuesday and she's been cold ever since. She denied sex three times since and the third time was early evening so I went to the gym. She was shuddering with anxiety when I initiated, she was so worked up over it. She knew it meant that I would leave and she still denied. I was totally in c…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:38 PM
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Hey 6c. I'm a few months into this and I can share what helped me. I learned from somebody on here that my wife's actions are a direct reaction to my beta actions. Therefore I have control over the dynamic, if I choose to do the work. When I feel angry I try to channel that into lifting and running. And I try to remember that I have control of just one thing in my marriage: My actions and words. It's hard to be angry with someone who is just being what she was born to be. I hope this helps you. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 07:29 PM
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I needed this too, Red_Invictus. I have been cold toward my wife, and it has betrayed my hurt feelings. The light-heartedness is hard to reconcile with withdrawn affection, but I see now they are distinctive phenomena applied simultaneously. Tactical praxeology. Awesome stuff. Now to apply it tonight!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 08:11 PM
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I am in the same boat, brother. I am three weeks in and this weekend starting to see amazing results. We fucked last night like we hadn't fucked in years. And she is asking me permission for things.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 04:51 PM
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I'm learning reading this stuff too. The mods here are awesome and they know lurkers are 90% of their audience, even if responding directly to your post. Good luck. I'm 2 weeks in and I'm never going back. But i have screwed up by being too confrontational, too angry. I'm working on my frame. Doing 5x5 workout. Running 3x per week. 41YO and feeling great.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:27 PM
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Thanks. The running thing is new to me (4 months of work) so I don't really have a sense of how to improve. I will look at that app.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 05:21 PM
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If you have a minute I would appreciate some feedback on my current plan. I run a 5K 3x per week in about 38 minutes. On alternate days I am doing 5x5 (on my second week so the weight is light). I am 41 YO, 5' 8.5", 220 (down 15 pounds). I'm eating vegetarian <1930 calories per day. My question: What's missing? The workouts feel great, but is 5x5 comprehensive for 12 weeks? I saw your goal of a sub-30 5K and I'm working toward that. Where would you go from here if you were me?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 01:45 PM
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Anniversary question: Unplugging now (on day 9 or so) and my anniversary is in 12 days. I'm thinking lingere, but not sure how it will land. But it's what I want to give her. Thoughts? She has not come around on the new deal, and we haven't touched but once in 9 days. I am following the 2/3 rule so no affection from her means no affection from me. It's getting weird.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 01:13 PM
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The thing is I know one reason she chose me is because I made her feel unchallenged. She wants to sleepwalk through our marriage. I gave here the tingles too, at first. But she may not be up for an alpha male. We'll see. I'm done sleepwalking and waiting for others to make my life better.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 01:07 PM
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Last night she exploded and this morning I walk in and it says though the fight never happened. i've grabbed her twice and pulled her into me one time really kissing her and she kissed me back with a smile. What the fuck? Who is this woman? It's a woman I want to play with and fuck. Just like the day I met her. I am so happy I found this sub Reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 01:33 PM
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I'm not sure when it's going to happen but good Lord this woman needs to submit to someone. I can't believe I didn't see it before, but she is fucking miserable.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 11:38 AM
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She actually let up a little bit last night and asked me to come with her to her dads house, where she is taking the kids today. I'm going to go and just shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 11:37 AM
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So is there a protocol if I went too hard too soon? Do I lay off?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 12:05 AM
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I am into my first week of red pill engagement and my wife is freaking out. I am worried we might break up after 10 years after only a week. Actually, now that I say that out loud I realize how little I must mean to her if after a week of me doing what I want to do she wants to leave. Never mind. I think I've got this figured out. She's playing the big divorce card after one week. Anybody else have a reaction like this and push through it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/15 10:52 PM
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Man, this is the fucking truth. I am just getting in here, and I need to act way more and STFU. I am inspired yet again by reading deep into a post on this sub. I just unplugged a week ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/15 02:20 PM
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I just reread this again. I see it now, how I can change my response and keep it exciting. Right now it sucks for both of us.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 07:14 PM
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Man, you are all over this subreddit with positivity. Keep it up. Your response to my post earlier was very encouraging.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:59 PM
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It's been remarkably simple in that way, now that you mention it. I've been anxious. I had a rough night sleep (alone) as she decided to go to the guest bedroom. I thought a lot about us, and I questioned myself a bit. But the longer I thought about it the more I realized she was expecting me to deal with her bullshit emotions, rather than dealing with them herself. I'm a little unclear on one thing here: How am I a resource for my wife around her emotional upset? She's not a vulnerable person, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:53 PM
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I have never been more motivated to self improve than I am right now. I am almost a week into red pill and I can't believe I never saw myself more clearly before. I've been wasting so much time on dealing with other people's needs. That's over.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:48 PM
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Because of your post I deleted my FB account.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 01:49 PM
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I am four days in and it's been so liberating I can't believe it. I do what I want all the time. No sex, she's freaking out. But I'm holding frame and I have no outcome dependence. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:19 PM
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When you made a plan where did you find your components? I'm already on the fitness path, running and doing body weight resistance work. I need actions to implement into my interpersonal dynamics with my wife. I know her, but I don't know how to work with her but to just ignore her a lot and make pleasant talk at the dinner table.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 06:36 PM
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This is my first day on the sub and I think this might be an important day. Thanks for posting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 06:18 PM
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