VintageTool Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-1	Palimony Palimony almost entirely went away when same sex marriages became legal.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/26 09:03 PM
1	Vasectomy After Divorce It is 30 times.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/26 01:30 AM
1	Trying to reduce alimony in California First step is to get a vocational evaluation to show that she is able to work and for how much. Since she has never worked and perhaps no education, she would not be imputed for much. But every day she is not working is another day she could have been demonstrating her ability to work. Also, that alimony payment seems a little high for your income level. It should be more like $4k.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/25 07:42 PM
1	Bifurcated Status Judgment Mental health is a good one and that may be enough if she does not oppose it. Technically, if you two can just agree to it then the judge wont really care because they tend to go along if the parties agree. If you think she will oppose, then try to have supporting evidence to back up your reasons. You could also try to make some sort of case from a religious perspective if you think that applies to you. Basically with you two separate there is nothing stopping her from being with someone else an…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/03/25 01:25 AM
1	Child Custody Mediation in LA County – What to Expect? Yes, all of your justifications/arguments/requests should be made in the best interest of the child so you may still have a chance to consider how that may be the case to get the out come you are looking for.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/03/25 01:18 AM
2	Child Custody Mediation in LA County – What to Expect? It sounds like you are referring to the child custody evaluator that works for the court as opposed to an independent mediator. In this case, they will talk to both parents to get an understanding of each of their concerns, as well as the children so long as they are old enough. The evaluator is basically looking to see if there are any claims of abuse or neglect by one parent or the other, if there are any concerning habits by one parent, and that the children are bonded to each of them. Basica…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/25 06:49 PM
1	STBXW Playing Financial Games Even though you would not be able to get a portion of the gift money, it does decrease her need for support. At least in California you could count that as income for support purposes. Especially if they pay a monthly mortgage, as opposed to a one-time gift.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/25 06:24 PM
5	50/50 Custody but new job has increased travel demands-even though I always line up care for my kids, my ex invokes ROFR every time-if she keeps doing this can she come after me for more child support? Yes, she can really make any ridiculous argument she wants to try and get more time or more money from you. Whether the judge will buy it depends on a number of factors. If it was regular and predictable I feel like the judge would be more likely to buy it.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/25 12:16 AM
4	50/50 Custody but new job has increased travel demands-even though I always line up care for my kids, my ex invokes ROFR every time-if she keeps doing this can she come after me for more child support? She could always try of course. It would probably work if your travel is regularly scheduled and they always go to her.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/25 11:16 PM
1	Changing the child support laws? You would need to either sue the state or get someone to back a change of legislation. A long and difficult uphill battle either way that you would not see the benefit of.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/24 07:08 PM
1	[SoCal] Lawyer recommendation? Here are a few options that I have heard good things about: Law Offices of Emily Robinson, Clunen & Oakman, Patricia Snyder at The Law Collaborative, Joy Kraft Miles at Kraft Miles ALC	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/24 03:57 PM
1	[SoCal] Lawyer recommendation? How difficult do you think your divorce will be? Do you have kids and a lot of assets? Do you work and she doesn’t?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/24 01:40 PM
2	Update on my divorce!!! Do you mean Chihuahua?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/24 01:27 PM
2	Reasonable Settlement Offer? I'm with this guy.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/24 03:33 AM
2	Protecting Finances Have your salary/income deposited into a bank account opened just after filing so it’s clear what is separate income. Get a copy of every single financial statement for the balances on the day you file, even if you need to screenshot it. Place alerts on accounts to track and notify of spending, if you are worried they will go hog wild.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/23 06:44 PM