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Not awkward at all? She laid down on your bed. Could she be more obvious?
/r/seduction25/08/20 02:15 AM
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I raised it to show that height preference is no different. Also, these things are instinctual not rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 07:41 AM
1

I’m not the one who doesn’t get that...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 09:25 PM
2

But the desire for fertility isn’t rational unless you’re trying to make a baby. Yet the desire for those attributes persist even in a one-night stand. So does the desire for a tall man who can better serve and protect his family, even though height no longer does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 03:58 PM
1

Yes it did serve nature and evolution but not you, now, in every sexual encounter. (Aside - Big boobs don’t produce more milk however so I’m not sure about that one.) So - the same applies to male height. I just don’t get why a man, who must be hyper aware of how certain body types turn him on, would be dumbfounded by the same quality in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 01:43 AM
1

Which is what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 12:46 AM
1

Right. But you’re not looking to make a baby with every woman you have sex with, right? So it’s not rational. Same applies to male height.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 12:45 AM
6

This is funny. You want to give a rational explanation for why you like big boobs or a round butt?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 03:30 PM
8

I’ve never forced that role on anyone, or desired it for that matter. If you are around women who are like that, stop hanging out with shallow, unliberated women.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/20 07:44 AM
4

Sounds like you’re more mature than your friends. In my experience women who talk like that feel really disempowered in their relationships and date men who treat them like crap. Maybe it’s time to seek out new friends.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 01:31 AM
4

High fiving over being “Allowed to give a guy a BJ”. Too funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 03:56 AM
5

You aren’t describing men, you’re describing teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 03:52 AM
6

Awesome, empathy is truly the key:)
/r/ExRedPill27/06/20 10:16 PM
6

Did you ask her why she said it?
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 07:04 AM
11

I’ll readily agree. I can’t imagine being compatible with an autistic man. Relationships are social.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 06:50 AM
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So I read it and I don’t see what you’re saying. She had low self esteem and dated loser “bad boys” in her 20’s who were good looking. So you’re worried unattractive or average men who couldn’t pull off “bad boy” if they tried will be affected how? And how was this feminist? Why should she not be honest in the first place?
/r/ExRedPill24/06/20 04:47 AM
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What kind of horrible advice?
/r/ExRedPill24/06/20 03:28 AM
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I would just note that the women that you hang out with are most likely to be “in your league” and if you don’t find any of them attractive, maybe it’s because your expectations are too high.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/20 05:58 AM
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I’m wondering if you would share what you mean about your female friends not being your type?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/20 03:57 AM
4

No, one woman did that to you, and she’s clearly immature and/or super messed up. I’ve never done anything like that or had a friend tell me they did something like that. What she did is atypical, really dysfunctional, and you should be happy you dodged that bullet. Now you’re trying to tell women here what they do to screen men is somehow the same, and it’s not. Now - if you have had something like this happen more than a couple of times you need to consider what about these really messed up wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 01:37 AM
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Yet no one here has said they play such “dumb games,” and “inadvertently pushing men away” has its own built in punishment, yet you want to pile it on all women just because it didn’t work out with one. All that happened here is that the two of you discovered you aren’t compatible. She plays games, you’re not into it. Why can’t you just move on? Why were you so attached to someone before you even knew what kind of woman she was?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:49 PM
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The purpose of filtering is to learn more about the person you are interested in and decide if you actually are compatible, and if you are still interested after learning more about him. Attraction isn’t a static thing, you are acknowledging your own ability to lose interest because of something she says or does, but act confused that she could also lose interest. All of this stuff we do, men and women, is how we determine compatibility. There’s nothing wrong with any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:20 PM
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Men who primarily date women with low self esteem, perhaps...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 06:20 PM
4

If you’re idea of going easy is still pancakes, no wonder you’re fatigued! Pancakes are a treat, when I was a kid I ate cereal 5 days a week for breakfast.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 03:45 PM
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I would address this from the inside out. Rather than try to hide or control your reactions, consider why you react negatively to so many things. Why are you getting bothered by things that are (seemingly) small enough you know you shouldn’t show your reaction? Is there an underlying negativity or dissatisfaction in your life?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 11:32 PM
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You didn’t answer my question. Where do you live? What you are describing isn’t real.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 10:44 AM
1

It’s normal to get into an abusive relationship when you are young, now you know what to look out for and you can move on. If the next woman starts acting abusive, you end it. That’s it. You’re not special because you were heartbroken and abused, you’re normal.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/20 05:06 AM
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Where do you live that women don’t run in marathons and get into cooking? Did you not go to school with women who studied history?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 05:00 AM
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And you don’t meet women with interests and hobbies? No women in those cooking competitions or writing about history?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 02:28 AM
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Are you using recipes and following the instructions?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 01:45 AM
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Human beings in general aren’t. News flash!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 06:11 PM
4

Settling is about accepting other people’s flaws, not about being turned on by criticism. Do you have ANY experience with women at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 06:10 PM
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This is hilarious. Why would a woman want to fuck someone who is critical of her body?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 05:33 PM
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What would he do if you broke the “rules?”
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 03:14 AM
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Why do you need his permission?
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 11:15 PM
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Not in my experience. Young women just have lower self esteem. Women in their 30’s have far more confidence and experience and know how to carry themselves. They are way more comfortable making moves and know how to make them. So they go for guys they wouldn’t have in their 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:32 PM
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Maybe porn has something to do with that? But - I know a lot of fat couples who are very hot for each other. Maybe where you live people are just really shallow, where I am there are “fat” couples everywhere, and they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:33 AM
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Women in their 20’s have much lower standards for how they like to be treated, and will not find an immature 30 something man immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:25 AM
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That’s what I was saying, by American standards their bodies are way above average. And American men are fat too!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:25 PM
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You’re kind of validating the OP by saying that. If you think most porn stars are “mediocre,” you’re out of touch with what the body of the average American woman looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 07:51 PM
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Many men who “care” beat, rape, and murder their partners.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:40 PM
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The only time rough sex is appropriate is when you BOTH get pleasure from it, as in both of you prefer it in that moment to gentle vanilla sex. If you don’t desire rough sex, then he is being abusive by doing it anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:34 PM
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Was that comment for me? Not sure what you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 03:28 PM
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And that’s the point, they don’t know that that the woman used them just to get a meal. Far more likely that, as you said, their game sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 05:22 PM
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And what do “the rules” have to do with any of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 05:56 AM
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An optimist, a romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 02:23 AM
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That’s not what naive means...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:46 PM
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It’s easier to tell yourself that she used you to get a free meal than she found you boring / annoying/ sexist and didn’t want to go out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:45 PM
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The rules aren’t about getting a free meal, they’re about getting a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:41 PM
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Rare as in very, very, very few women do this. It’s possible that some guys are easy targets and fall for it more than once. Out of curiosity, how do you know a woman only went out with you for a free meal, as opposed she just didn’t feel a connection and decided not to see you again?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:41 PM
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I’ve never seen a man complain about it except on reddit in redpill type communities. And it’s a fear or perception, not something that actually happened to them. I stand by the fact that it’s rare. But I’m still open to hear more about it - why would a woman give 2 hours of her time, plus the time to “get ready” for a date just for a meal, unless she was poverty stricken?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 06:22 PM
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You want her to be naive? As in not wise and easy to take advantage of? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:24 PM
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Only really pathetic, shallow women go on a date to “score a free meal.” That’s so rare. Sitting for 2 hours with someone you’re not actually interested in isn’t worth a meal, unless you are really desperate for a meal or for attention. If you’re pursuing or attracting that type of woman, you’re doing something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:20 PM
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I don’t know any women like this. Not one. I know they’re out there but in more liberal cities where women have more equality in the workplace, it’s not much of a thing anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:14 PM
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Immaturity is a turnoff. And bad sex. And lack of real confidence. Lack of sophistication. There’s just nothing the average younger guy has to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 05:21 AM
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Why does he expect you to work and also keep the house and cook?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 09:50 PM
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So? The point is that it’s men sending the message out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 09:49 PM
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But the women in movies are generally more attractive than the men they are with in the movies. There are far more average looking men in movies than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 09:48 PM
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That “chick flick” has about a 90% chance of being written, directed, and produced by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 02:53 PM
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Because redpillers say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 02:52 PM
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Nope, the women are hotter than the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 02:47 PM
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Yay!
/r/seduction25/03/20 07:30 PM
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If she is infatuated with you, and you’ve shown yourself to b3 attentive and tuned in to her emotionally (and she’s young like you) then she will still want to have sex with you. She might even like the idea of you being a virgin. Once people get attached to someone romantically, they don’t get hung up on things like that. Look at how many people are in relationships with someone who has an STD.
/r/seduction25/03/20 02:45 PM
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Are you asking them questions and drawing them out?
/r/seduction25/03/20 06:37 AM
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No it wouldn’t, you’d be fine. You’re not going to turn down someone who you’re attracted to because she’s not a virgin.
/r/seduction25/03/20 06:35 AM
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Or only buy drinks for people who are already your friend? By buying her a drink you’re signaling that your company alone isn’t enough to motivate her to talk to you.
/r/seduction25/03/20 06:30 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 03:50 AM
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Only on Tinder. Out in the real world women are less concerned about looks than men, and it’s the guys with no personality that can’t get women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:03 PM
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Tinder is a corner of the world. Women don’t find most men attractive until they get to be around them in person. Tinder stats are just about Tinder, and men need to go out in the real world if they want to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:02 PM
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Ugly women don’t get attention from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 04:35 PM
2

So he’d probably like clothes that show a lot of skin?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 04:53 AM
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What would he like you to wear?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 04:25 AM
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Repeatedly not getting what you want is LIFE. You either learn to deal or you take it out on other people. If you’re a shallow person and all you want are women that are out of your league, or are miserable to be around, then yeah you are going to be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:52 PM
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They don’t get laid if they lash out at women before the woman has fallen for him. These guys are bitter and they don’t know how to hide it or control it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 06:29 AM
5

Dude, everyone has been sexually frustrated. What a weird question...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:13 AM
13

Maybe he finds it hard to get sex because he has anger issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:12 AM
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Wow, 5-6 times a day? That’s gotta be interfering with your performance!
/r/seduction09/03/20 10:24 PM
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I have a very high sex drive, but I am still like other women in that most men do nothing for me. However, it’s not looks that attract me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 03:29 PM
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My question was why that applies to so many women who post on this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 03:22 PM
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Why do so many women on this sub have low self esteem and date men who treat them like crap?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 06:42 AM
5

Hmmm, I wasn’t immediately attracted to any of my partners. It was when I got to know then that I began to find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 06:17 AM
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But there are guides available that show you how to dress well. An hour on the internet could show you how to dress well. You could go into a store and ask the salesperson to help you dress well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 06:11 AM
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Are redpillers opposed to vegetables?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 10:16 AM
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I literally described it. I doubt any of those men called it game though.
/r/seduction24/02/20 04:05 PM
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Unfortunately, people here are taking it as a line, and in my opinion, thinking it could make the difference between whether or not they get a kiss/action. It sounds like you know how to be seductive in general, and my guess is the gum joke has little to do with your success.
/r/seduction23/02/20 09:20 PM
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Yeah that’s why this is not a good line! A lot of women will think their breath must stink.
/r/seduction23/02/20 06:07 PM
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All of my partners have been the very seductive type that easily got dates and partners despite being average in looks. None of them used “lines” to seduce. But to be helpful - they were all quite direct and confident about what they wanted and how they felt about me. They had no problem saying “you are beautiful “ or “I want to kiss you/ touch you/etc. They made physical (non-sexual) contact right from the start of the date. They flirted. The most seductive men understand that women want to be …
/r/seduction23/02/20 06:05 PM
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Lol, I’ve had so many guys use some version of that line on me. It’s not original and it’s not seductive.
/r/seduction23/02/20 04:09 PM
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Being shy is not healthy. Plenty of introverts have healthy social lives, but truly shy people are socially crippled and unless they get help they will suffer because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 10:22 PM
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Expand your social circle to include people who like being social. It’s not just nightlife, it’s just being out in public places and doing things where you meet people. A class, salad dance night, trivia night, guided hikes, co-edteam sports, hobby meetups, etc. Most women like men who enjoy people, and frankly a lot of men who can’t get dates are misanthropes who don’t like people and prefer to be alone. So they’re alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 10:19 PM
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Lol. Then why do al, the “starving artists” I know have girlfriends and get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 11:31 PM
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Hardly. You’re confusing personality and intellectual knowledge. I only date smart men, but they are men who apply their intellect socially, are seductive and have spiritual depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:46 PM
0

What does your intellectual knowledge have to do with it? Being sexy or interesting isn’t about being knowledgeable, it’s about how you make the other person feel, and how fun/exciting you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:27 PM
2

That’s hilarious.
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:07 AM
1

Huh? First, I’m not talking about just improving looks. Men could spend more time and $$ improving a number of factors that attract women. For instance, learning to dance or cook. No idea how your cardboard box statement is helpful. If men are content living out of a box, of course they arent going to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:27 PM
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What repels some women -and men- is a person who tries to “buy” friendships and relationships by having no clear preferences of their own and just trying to please everyone else. This person doesn’t see themself as equally valuable so they try to make up for it by acting like everyone’s butler. All the while that person is building up resentment for having to put everyone else first. When the “nice guy” finds out all of his “niceness” won’t be rewarded with sex, he gets nasty or pouty. Like othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:55 AM
1

I’m not buying your premise, but have you considered that what women are wanting from relationships is simply equality of effort and delivery? For centuries, women, as you say, were forced into relationships that didn’t completely benefit them. Maybe men just have some catching up to do. Few men spend as much time and money as women making themselves attractive to the opposite sex. Why would you expect to attract a woman if you aren’t putting in the same effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:34 PM
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I don’t see any evidence of what you are describing. I look around, and I see fat / unattractive guys with wives or girlfriends everywhere. I don’t know any “low tier” women who refuse to date “low tier” guys. Regular people aren’t obsessed with appearances. Social media and online dating aren’t the real world. Go for a walk in your city and look at who is hooked up with who.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:25 PM
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What is your experience or expertise here? Are you a woman with lots of woman friends, whose been around for a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:32 AM
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No, she’s like most women that I know. You all don’t have relationships with lots of women, you don’t know us at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 05:26 PM
3

You just said if women feel strong sexual attract, that’s an alpha. Women rarely marry a man they don’t feel strong sexual attraction to. Do you not have married friends? They were pretty much all super hot for each other at the beginning. I’m in my late 40’s and super hot for my partner, who is not an “alpha” by your definition. Where do you get this idea that alphas rarely marry? It’s like you learned about humans from a red pill textbook and have never really known any...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 05:21 PM
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Yes I think that is the disconnect. Men can look at a woman on the street and know instantly if she’s “fuckable” to them. Women can’t, unless he’s just super duper hot. None of my partners have been guys I found attractive upon first meeting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 05:16 PM
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So most men are alpha. Most men are in a relationship, and there is strong sexual attraction or was at the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 04:01 PM
1

Have you ever even had a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 03:59 PM
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We don’t find 80% of men attractive before we get to know them. I can’t tell from a guy’s picture if I’m going to connect with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 03:57 PM
4

Lol what? All of my partners have been betas, I was super attracted to all of them, and I generally want sex everyday (although I don’t always get it.).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 03:56 PM
1

Can you give me a couple of examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 05:19 AM
1

Universal? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 05:14 AM
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That’s sad:(. I’ve dated many men and not one of them talked to me the way your partner does. And I’m average as far as attractiveness goes. Here’s the thing: you are going to have to start taking responsibility for your own situation for things to change. Every day you choose him, you are choosing to be mistreated. Even though he is 100% responsible for being a jerk, that is who he is and you are choosing to date a jerk. Did you come to reddit for advice or sympathy? If you came for advice, the…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 07:47 PM
6

What is there to be torn about - do you want to be treated like crap? You could easily find another boyfriend who doesn’t act like this, most don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 06:22 PM
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You already had a whole bunch of people tell you on another post that this guy is a jerk. Are you going to use the advice you get here or just keep dating this cheating, insulting jerk?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 09:36 AM
1

Straw man. You’re definition of emotional labor does not match what most ppl who use the term are referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:59 AM
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Post screenshots - ppl will need to see what you’re doing to advise.
/r/seduction14/12/19 04:42 PM
3

I’m pretty sure all of my boyfriends wanted to please every woman they ever had sex with, including ONS women. Most guys take pride in their abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:16 PM
1

Most women have had to “sacrifice” personal goals and because of the patriarchy/sexism. Feminism seeks to correct that and afford women the same opportunities and freedom that men enjoy. Why you would expect the people who are already disadvantaged to “sacrifice” even more makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 05:22 AM
2

You sound either really old or really out of touch. “Druggie culture?”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 04:36 PM
1

Why do women have casual sex? In my experience, they hope one of those casual encounters is going to turn into something more. Or they are drunk and their judgement is clouded. If you really like sex, you seek out really good sex, and most men don’t perform very well in bed unless they care about the person they are with. Some do, but I don’t want to roll the dice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:09 AM
1

I have a higher sex drive than most men. I still have no desire for casual sex. Random guys wanting to use my hole for sexual release doesn’t make me feel validated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:05 AM
1

Then say “being sexually attractive” instead of “the ability to have casual sex.” I know lots of ppl who are NOT sexually attractive to the general populous, but are to their partners., and have healthy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:02 AM
1

Why would having access to shitty, unsatisfying, sex be a good thing? I think about sex a lot even because I love sex, not because I’m not having it. I had sex twice yesterday and I am still thinking about sex all day today.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 09:33 PM
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I think you’re missing that bad sex for women means no orgasms or sensuality, it’s just being used and doesn’t feel good at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 09:20 PM
8

That isn’t true at all. I think about sex all the time, and never have casual sex because casual sexual is rarely good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 09:18 PM
4

Why do you think casual sex is a good thing for women? Casual sex is usually shitty sex for women, and sometimes painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 09:16 PM
7

Is your dream man really someone who works night and day and rarely has time for you? Why?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 04:20 AM
7

He doesn’t seem to understand or care about your pleasure. You should be completely clear - both of you must be satisfied each time. No quickies.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 01:08 AM
1

Then don’t talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:53 PM
1

What is the sexual/romantic life that you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:53 PM
4

Most women, at the time they married, truly desire their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:48 PM
5

Well there ya go - you don’t attract people by talking about yourself or your interests. You have to show interest in them. Don’t expect women to want to be around you when you don’t respect them and aren’t genuinely curious about or interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:08 PM
1

This is hilarious. You should get out more, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:14 PM
2

You have a lot to learn...
/r/seduction10/10/19 03:45 PM
13

A few years older is what I meant. Maturity will be equal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 03:37 PM
79

Date older guys.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 05:51 AM
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Choose the man who already treats you the way you want to be treated. Don’t try to change a man into someone he isn’t. Commitment should come after he’s proven himself. Of course, you need to be willing to give equally, but it sounds like you are. All of my committed relationships have been with romantic men who liked doing “cheesy” stuff. There’s plenty of them out there. This guy just may not be your type.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 11:31 PM
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LOL satire?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:06 AM
2

Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:06 AM
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It doesn’t have to be the state. In our country corporations and the very wealthy have an inordinate amount of power over the state. Politicians are subject to the rich donors.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:04 AM
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An oligarchy is simply rule by a small number of rich people. It’s not “the state.” Educate yourself. And I have no idea why you are directing your comments at me, I’m not in favor of a Reddit being regulated and haven’t said a word about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:09 AM
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The government isn’t the oligarchy referred to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:50 AM
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I’m pretty sure most adults have “several years of work experience with women.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 03:56 PM
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I said “let him know that you want to see other people.” Obvious that would be an open relationship. My comment wasn’t deleted. In my view, ignoring calls and texts and physically disappearing for a few days without explanation is absolutely a break of commitment. He even told her he has done it as a form of punishment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 03:42 PM
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You are now, but you could change that. Do you really think disappearing and ignoring you is commitment?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 12:24 AM
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You said in another response that punishing him would be unethical. So why have you chosen this guy who doesn’t act ethically towards you?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 12:23 AM
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Read my post again. I said I didn’t think he was mature enough for commitment and she should tell him she doesn’t want to be exclusive. That’s not cheating. Dating and open relationships aren’t “slutting around,” that’s ridiculous. If a man cuts you off for days at a time, he’s not committed and going back to the dating/courting phase will help him make up his mind about what he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 12:12 AM
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Well, I guess Jordan Peterson and I agree on something! I used to be down on small talk, and now I realize it is a beautiful attempt at human connection, and yes, simply the beginning of deeper conversation if you are open and paying attention. Seeking an experience you have in common - such as the weather- isn’t shallow at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 02:47 AM
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Dude. Just as many obese men, I think even more. The stats are out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:54 AM
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Is it just me or did guys totally not get the OP’s question?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:00 PM
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It’s not a theory, it’s an observation. Like attracts like maturity wise. And not all young women are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 01:13 AM
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Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 12:59 AM
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Yes but she could have been a lesbian, or had a partner already. Or be super anxious and shy. Or maybe you had a creepy expression on your face. Who knows?! But either way that’s one women, it’s not proof of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 09:13 PM
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80% of men on OK Cupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:54 PM
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Wow. This makes me wonder if all of this is rooted in a rapidly rising number of men being “on the spectrum.” Which is scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:51 PM
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Utterly irrational. That’s an anecdote. You have no idea why she “rejected” you, or if she even did.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:44 PM
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Don’t porn and TV/ movies encourage that view? But also - average looking men who are charming, seductive, and great in bed CAN get better than average looking women. You gotta be way more than just nice though. Nice is the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:40 PM
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I didn’t say that older guys can’t get younger women. But a bunch of other people here are saying that, that all men prefer younger women but few can get them. I def prefer men a few years (3-5) older for their maturity and experience. No interest in younger guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 03:46 AM
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I wasn’t talking about myself. Anyone, male or female. Huge maturity gap. There are people who are just shitty, but generally an older partner has learned a lot about relationships as is better able to be supportive. Redpillers haven’t had good experiences with the opposite sex, so of course they disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 02:23 PM
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Yes, I was. My point being that if a 35 y/o guy is going after much younger women, he is generally not able to be successful with women his own age. Those guys are almost always immature and don’t have their shit together. Younger women have lower expectations. Those guys often have drug or alcohol problems, or have no career, or are serial cheaters, etc. They are guys who don’t “deliver” and so they date younger women who are OK with chill and Netflix with a pizza rather than an actual date. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:01 PM
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I’m not sure what you mean, of course it doesn’t magically turn on, maturity grows over time. People are just most compatible with other people in their age range, I’m not proposing that anyone date someone 20 years older! That’s the opposite of what I’m saying. On a side note - are you saying you think that ppl become LESS emotionally mature with age? That of course is completely illogical. No idea what a MERP is...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 02:21 PM
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A planet where 35 is “old,” LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:34 AM
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Women aren’t looking for the “best” guy, they’re looking for someone right for them. Most 30 something guys are already in a LTR - with someone their own age. We must live in very different environments. I live in a very liberal “cosmopolitan “ city, and the 35 year old women here are hot and have it together. They aren’t competing with 25 year old women for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:33 AM
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No idea what you are talking about. Remain with what guys? wish it could be better? People get better at sex as they age, and women require more skill from men than vice versa to fully enjoy sex. So older women have much higher standards for sexual abilities. So many women in their 20’s don’t orgasm every time they have sex, whereas women in their 30’s and 40’s expect orgasms every time, usually multiples.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:25 AM
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I don’t think younger men are seeking life long partnerships in general. Nor do I think older men who date much younger women are seeking life long partnerships, they are generally immature and have failed at relationships with women in their age group. Same goes for older women who date younger men. You seem to be contradicting yourself - your OP did not give the impression that you were talking about lifelong partnerships. But if that is what you are talking about, the data is clear, the vast …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:20 AM
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Then why do a majority of 35 year old men date in their age range? You can’t just make shit up. A vast majority of 35 yo men are in LTR, they’re not out playing the field. They’re certainly not pursuing immature, inexperienced 20 year olds. Only a small minority do and they are mostly immature “losers” who happen to be good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:06 AM
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Two celebrity anecdotes? Meaningless. Even the majority of celebrity men are married to. Women in their age range. Statistically, a vast majority of ppl date in their age range and married people aren’t competing, they’re married. The facts don’t support what you are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 05:59 AM
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Younger women (and men) are still learning how to give and receive love. As we mature we are able to be more emotionally supportive. I know I was far more self involved at 25 and wasn’t a very good emotional support for my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 03:29 PM
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Women 35+ are not looking for a hot guy, they are looking for a guy with certain behaviors and lifestyle who meets their baseline for looks. Women at that age are far more likely to be attracted to a guy 3-5 years older. They want maturity and sexual expertise, not a hot body that is less mature. Edit: AND a 35 year old woman can easily get a 30 year old guy. They still have looks plus have a set of pickup and sexual skills that the 25 year old doesn’t. I was def in my sexual prime at. 35 and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 03:22 PM
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A 35 year old’s competition is other women in her age group. A vast majority of people date in their age group. The guys who date much younger women are never the guys that are attracting a lot of women their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 03:14 PM
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Not at all. First of all, I was at my MOST attractive overall at 35. I had no signs of aging, was in better shape because I was disciplined, and had sexual confidence above and beyond any 22 year old. I got hit on younger guys all the time. However - few 35 year old women have any interest in younger guys, (immature and lack of sexual skill) and younger women don’t generally go for older guys. The guys my age who went for younger girls did so because they were too immature to get women their own…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 03:11 PM
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I wouldn’t. Continue to talk to her and see if she becomes more interested in talking longer. If she always is the one to end the convo and also isn’t showing signs of attraction (laughing easily, touching herself or you, longer eye contact) she is prob just friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 02:57 PM
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I guess there are exceptions to the rule! Once you were dating a guy, did that change? Were you confident and comfortable with him once the relationship started?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 02:54 PM
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It’s pretty obvious when a woman is attracted to you. She’ll make eye contact, laugh at your jokes, touch herself, and might also seem flustered or nervous. If you were creeping her out she would be avoiding eye contact, moving away from you, and trying to get away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:39 AM
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Who can date other ugly people you meet socially. I see “ugly” couples everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 02:26 AM
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Obviously some women can identify the assholes and have the self esteem to avoid them, and some can’t identify the assholes and/ or don’t have the self esteem. We’re not all the same despite what some ppl say...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 04:28 PM
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I wouldn’t even go there. Show him what a wonderful person you are. Don’t talk about the future. Dates should be about enjoying the moment, and letting intimacy build organically. Do not have sex until at least the fourth date, or, if you want, until they show a desire for commitment. Do not be available whenever he wants. Do not put him first in your life until you are sure he is worthy and you are sure he has put you first. Continue to date other ppl and make plans with female friends.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 06:58 PM
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My sample size isn’t just my one friend. I just mentioned her. The post I responded to was even less scientific, zero examples were given. Now drinking is related to “hoeing?” Pretty much everyone drinks, unless they drank too much and quit. Are you proposing avoiding women who drink because they may be promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:36 PM
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Well I suppose that is possible. But anyone with the experience to know would be pointing out the well correlated signs of a women who sleeps with a lot of guys - “throwing” herself at multiple men in the room, and fake insecure sexuality. Honestly, the guys of reddit are so different than the guys I know. My male friends seem to easily identify those types of women. And where I live, most women drink beer, have tattoos, etc. I guess maybe in Alabama those things are “slutty,” but not where I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 11:00 PM
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There is no correlation. None. They are “estimations” from an inexperienced guy who either doesn’t socialize much or lives in a very conservative area. It’s pretty easy to identify women who sleep with a lot of guys by their behavior in social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 03:28 PM
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If you use that stuff as red flags you are just going to take a bunch of prospects out of your pool. I don’t even know why you need to identify red flags. If she offers sex the first time she meets you, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 03:21 PM
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You don’t get out much either, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 03:19 PM
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This will prob be the easiest time in your life to meet girls, they’re all around you. Do your homework in a public space on campus. There are women at every meal. They are in all of your classes.
/r/seduction30/08/19 04:57 AM
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These answers are ridiculous. Smoking? My best friend smokes and she’’s fucked 2 guys in 15 years. Tattoos? 80% of my friends have them and most are in LTR. Uses profanity? WTF? Drinks beer? I can think of two female beer drinkers who aren’t remotely promiscuous. I was a waitress for 14 years and in that 14 years I slept with 6 guys. Do you people ever leave the house? If she has sex with you on the first date, then she’s done that with other guys and prob isn’t very picky. Pretty simple...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 02:42 AM
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Yup, when I would ask my mother why she let out father abuse us she would say “because the Bible says he’s the head of the house.” Like you said, most men forget about their part of that sick equation. The whole reason feminism exists is because of men abusing their power.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 03:51 AM
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Yeah, my mother did that and my father just walked all over her and became abusive to his whole family.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 03:12 PM
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If that happens again, don’t give up on getting HER number. Get a pen and write it on your arm if you have to. By putting the ball in her court you might have signaled that you weren’t really that interested, and you also aren’t a problem solver. Women like men who get things DONE and aren’t stopped by minor obstacles.
/r/seduction25/08/19 07:20 PM
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Charles Manson was also popular with some women, and he was ugly. Sure, some women are shallow and go for just looks, but a lot of women aren’t. Where I live you see average looking men with beautiful women all the time, and below average men with average women. You’ve bought into a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 04:36 PM
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It’s not advice...?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 11:39 PM
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I’m not sure why that is a reply to my comment in a discussion about the confusion around the phrase nice guy. You just following me around? I’ve consistently chosen men for personality. Sure, there is a baseline of attractiveness but for me it’s pretty low. You gotta be clean, have some kind of style and be well groomed, though. I’ve dated some really good looking men and I didn’t fall for or commit to any of them. Good looking guys aren’t usually as good in bed, in my experience. For me, it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 11:37 PM
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Lol, clearly I hit a nerve.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 09:53 PM
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Not sure what horse and cart you’re referring to. I was responding to your comment about women often getting into their partners hobbies, that applies to men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 08:06 PM
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People often get into their partners’ hobbies. It’s not a gender thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:00 PM
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Agree. I wonder if we replaced “being nice” with “being warm” people would get the difference? That’s how I describe the confident niceness. It’s warmth. Which can turn into hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 05:58 PM
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It’s advice for people with out the social comfort that you have. It’s advice for people who don’t “get out.” These guys need to learn to be social, and they are too insecure and anxious to do so without some structure. They also need to meet girls with shared interests because they don’t instinctively know how to connect on the more broad human level.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 05:53 PM
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You’re overthinking this. The more time you spend around women, for whatever reason, the more likely you are to connect with one. The guys who have a hard time getting girls often don’t have much social contact with them. And yeah, pick a “hobby” that attracts both genders, there’s plenty of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 05:42 PM
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There’s people right now making all kinds of art, not just modern art. And art includes music, film, photography, writing, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 04:59 PM
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Disagree. So many opportunities for touching and flirting when doing something physical. And your on the floor. Sounds hot TBH...
/r/seduction23/08/19 07:02 AM
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Actually it’s his expression that’s ugly paired with a ultra conservative haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:39 AM
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Women don’t choose men for their jobs, LOL. They choose them for how they make us FEEL.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:33 AM
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I dated mostly starving artist types in my 20’s and 30’s and anytime I tried to date a guy with a normal good paying job I was bored out of my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:31 AM
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He won’t always be like that. Artist types are generally resourceful and charismatic. He’ll figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:27 AM
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Being an artist takes time and energy. It’s work. Even if you have a day job you’re still going to be “starving” because you can’t take a job that drains all of your energy. When I was doing photography, it was 20 -30 hrs a week. So I waited tables. Now I have a “real” job, make good money, but I work 60 hours a week and barely have time or energy for my art. I don’t know any accounts who do stuff like that. They’re always working.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:19 AM
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If we didn’t have starving artists we wouldn’t have art.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 06:13 AM
1

Lol hardly. It’s 2019 and men love female power. I don’t know any alpha men who date “compliant” women. Not where I live at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 07:57 AM
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Self fulfilling “strategies.” Guys who think AWALT attract WLT and are a huge turnoff to the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 06:38 AM
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That’s true of all people, both women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 06:31 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 04:20 AM
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Why? Why would he need to guard you if he trusts you?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 03:04 AM
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Are you happy with a man who doesn’t say “I love you” unless you do? That wouldn’t work for me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 03:01 AM
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Yeah I think my last sentence indicated that I figured some men are interpreting “good personality” to mean something different. Language is an organic, living thing and I can’t unilaterally change the terms people use. I myself do not use the phrase “good personality,” I say outright that a person is charismatic, magnetic, etc. Anyway, these men who may be on the spectrum aren’t going to automatically get it either way. And they are a really small percentage of men. I suspect that a lot of redp…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 09:03 PM
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Yes, absolutely. I’ve had lots of male friends and coworkers over the years who had trouble getting dates, and until now I’ve never heard of anyone thinking “good personality” meant the same as “good guy.” In my experience, men who don’t have those personality traits that attract other people (charismatic, charming, relaxed, playful) tend to resent them in others and often deny that they make up a “good personality”. Those same guys are often, on the surface, quite moral, and may therefore think…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:52 PM
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My point is that being a jerk is unrelated to having a big penis. The word “but” is still used in those cases, meaning he has a big penis but (I don’t want to date him because) he is a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:41 PM
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I’ve never, before encountering it from red pills and incels, heard anyone express that there was any such confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:26 PM
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He has a big penis, but he is a jerk. He is really good looking, but he is a jerk. He is a really good listener, but he sucks in bed. All are independent of each other, yet are how we would normally word things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 06:16 PM
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Believe me, if women were guaranteed to have multiple orgasms whenever they had random sex, they would be way more into it. But from what I hear, women often don’t get even one orgasm from one night stands. I don’t do ONS and THE reason is that I’m not spreading my legs without a guarantee of satisfaction. Also, bad sex for a woman often means physical pain. I’m not risking that. I’m worth more. It’s worked out for me well, I haven’t had mediocre sex, let alone bad sex, in 15 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 05:57 PM
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Lol really? How do you know? Do tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 01:35 AM
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I’m not any of those things, except perhaps emotionally healthy. Is your mom shallow and materialistic? How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 01:25 AM
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I don’t know any young women like that. I know they exist, but they’re hardly the majority. I’ve really only seen that stuff on social media and I think that’s where you’re getting your ideas about women. Like I said, you should get put more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 01:22 AM
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How much sex have you actually had? Yeah, it’s chemical. Chemicals can bring on some really euphoric experiences. Get back to me after you’ve had a two-hour orgasm with a two day afterglow and then tell me I’m a hippie...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 01:19 AM
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Lol, you have this anti-fantasy world of women. Or you’re talking about very young women’s fake social media personas. You should get put more...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 12:51 AM
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It sounds like all of this is coming from a framework of hitting on strangers, where you can only judge a person by their looks. That’s not how I met any of my partners (despite meeting plenty of men in bars.) that’s not how most people I know met their partners. Sure, I’ll concede that if you’re just trying to pick up women you don’t know, looks are a big factor. But that’s not the smart, mature way to meet people or get laid anyway. It’s fun, but that’s not how you find good sex or a partner. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:04 PM
1

Well, like I said I’m not going to deny white privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 07:52 PM
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I’m a woman, and I’m talking about what women want not what girls want. We don’t like warm confident men because they are “good” or virtuous. I’m not sure why you are focusing on “good” when I didn’t use that word.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 04:33 PM
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I genuinely want to help both men and women get what they want. The more time you spend around women - - of all ages - the more you will come to be attracted to women for their inner as well as outer qualities. And you’ll start to find a lot more women “hot.” I hung out with mostly guys growing up and I’m way more comfortable around men than I am around women. I understand them, I know what they want. If you can achieve the same thing with women (it will take time,) you will definitely start get…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:41 AM
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If you’re not hot, why do you think you need to “land a hot chick?” Frankly you talk of “pulling” big fat ugly whales and “landing” hot chicks. You sound sexually and emotionally unsophisticated, immature. That’s a big turnoff. And you’re not going to have mind blowing sex when you have that attitude. Do you have female friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:34 AM
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Sure it matters. I did not find my last three boyfriends remotely physically attractive until I got to know them. If you have a great personality, and make sure to hang out around lots of women, women will notice you. It’s MEN for whom looks are everything. You’re projecting. Also, none of this is a problem unless you are trying to date out of your league as far as looks go. We all know a ton of unattractive couples. Clearly you don’t have to be good looking to find a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:25 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that. But that’s one person. Plenty of white women who prefer Latinos where I live. I mean, dating would be easier for most people if they were better looking or taller or thinner or whatever. No point in feeling sorry for ourselves!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:20 AM
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It’s ALL about personality for me. The guy I’m into now is balding and short. But he’s incredibly magnetic, confident, intelligent, and playful. He’s incredibly sexy, in control but also very sensitive and compassionate. All of the men I’ve committed to have been technically “less” good looking than me. Most women date men primarily for personality. Ask your female friends if you need any help updating your style. But beyond that, I’d advise you to put everything into spending as much time aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:12 AM
1

You sound seriously isolated. Or you time traveled from a time before there were prominent, visible women of intellect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:03 AM
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I’m not shaming men, I’m shaming you. So you’re a misanthrope. Gotcha. Do you have enough hatred to harm people?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 06:00 AM
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No, I have no idea how they feel about me afterwards. But to hate someone simply for politely declining a second date would certainly be a sign of a fucked up person. I’m not sure what your point is, unless it’s that these guys are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. In my twenties, I twice continued to date one of these “nice” guys with low self esteem. Genuinely tried to boost their egos. With both I had the same problem - they were only comfortable being a submissive “butler” type. When I tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 05:57 AM
3

So you’ve never had female friends? Never known women more intellectual than you? Do you live under a rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:22 AM
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I adore men, always have. I love men that are aware of their sexual power. I’m certainly aware of mine. You sound like you are in deep denial - if women have no power you would be getting all the pussy you wanted. You are just a hard core misogynist and have clearly never experienced the love of a woman or even good sex. “Just for a wet hole,” Sex is arguably the the most euphoric, pleasurable, spiritual thing humans get to experience, and you are missing out of that because you think it’s just …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:20 AM
2

Can you give a real life example of this? Assuming it’s happened to you, what did the woman say that implied they had you figured out in the first 2 minutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:09 AM
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Totally. These men ooze disdain and resentment. I’ve been on a handful of first and only dates with guys who seemed to decide the moment they saw me in person that I would inevitably reject them, and they instantly resented me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:07 AM
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For real - every Hispanic guy I know has a wife, or girlfriend, or gets dates. I 100% believe you deal with racism but Hispanic women are not racist towards other Latinos. And a ton of white women prefer Latino guys. It’s not your race.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 01:57 AM
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Lol is that your ideal process? The father passes the possession of woman to the husband and she has no say? Sounds like you have no confidence in your ability to seduce a woman, don’t actually like women, and wish for a time when one would just be assigned to you, and required to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 01:20 AM
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You sound incredibly resentful of women’s power, and unaware of men ‘s power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 01:16 AM
5

Magazines and pop music? So don’t pursue shallow women who are into magazines and pop music. Pursue women who share your interests. Pursue women you find interesting. That’s how most of us operate. Do you think all women are shallow and boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 01:08 AM
15

Hogwash. If you must generalize, we are drawn to CONFIDENT, warm, relaxed, seductive men who make us feel attractive and special. Men who are good lovers and playful. Note the number one trait women cite is a man who makes her laugh. Now, since those traits make men successful with women, there are going to be men who abuse that power and cheat or get abusive and “get away with it,” because they are so charming and seductive. But it’s not the cheating or abusing that attracts women. Some women j…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 12:59 AM
1

I think I’m confused as to why you’d want to stay with a man who is bad in bed. No orgasms? That’s a huge deal-breaker.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 08:55 PM
1

Then smile. In my experience creepy guys are always way too serious. You can also smile just with your eyes.
/r/seduction03/08/19 05:27 AM
1

I’ve never been jealous, and have had three open relationships. Sounds like you hang out with losers so you think everyone is a loser.
/r/seduction29/07/19 04:42 AM
3

Lol you think men don’t do all of that? And yes, some women are like that. Not all, or even most of us.
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:54 PM
3

You are thinking the kiss will create attraction, it won’t. You need to make sure she is attracted to you before you kiss her. Not just finds you physically attractive, but likes your personality and wants to kiss you.
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:43 PM
1

It’s not just about looks. It’s pretty simple, if women aren’t responding to you, they don’t find you attractive. You are likely not aware of some annoying behaviors or think you’re better looking than you are.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:54 AM
0

You’re prob just hitting on women out of your league.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:47 AM
1

god this is horrible, you’re kidding right?
/r/seduction08/07/19 06:04 AM
1

That’s because we’re just doing what we feel like doing, which is touching a man we’re attractive to. It’s not usually a “technique...”.
/r/seduction08/07/19 05:55 AM
1

Why are you assuming the reason you “finish last” is that you are acting like a “nice guy?” Maybe it’s something else.
/r/seduction05/07/19 06:08 PM
1

A lot of research shows height matters to a lot of women. So, why not just hit on short women?
/r/seduction01/07/19 09:49 PM
1

If you open up to her, she will open up to you. If you just ask her if something is wrong, yes she might say “nothing.” But if she is upset for the reasons you suspect, she probably wants you to show you care. But you will have to show some vulnerability first so that she feels safe doing the same. Best scenario is you get her in a situation where she can’t “run away,” then start the convo.
/r/seduction24/06/19 02:41 PM
1

Sorry, my reply to this is above...
/r/seduction23/06/19 05:58 PM
2

Ok. So important question: why are you asking us instead of asking her how she feels or if something is wrong? I’m sure it’s not intentional, but you are kind of treating her like an object by thinking we know better than her what she thinks and feels. Since you two are housemates, I’ll assume you are looking for more than a hookup with her. If you want any kind of intimacy with her, you need to be able to ask her how/ what she is feeling. If you can’t talk about this stuff, how will you talk ab…
/r/seduction23/06/19 05:57 PM
1

What indication do you have that she’s attracted to you? Having conversations with your roommate is not a sign of attraction.
/r/seduction23/06/19 05:15 PM
4

I’m very confused as to why you would keep texting her if she didn’t reply.
/r/seduction23/06/19 05:06 PM
5

She clearly wanted to have sex, and is now on her period. Did you think periods only last 2 days?
/r/seduction23/06/19 01:59 AM
2

B is equally true for men and women, so it’s invalid. A is simply incorrect, unless we are talking about rape. Women want to be seduced.
/r/seduction22/06/19 02:44 AM
1

No it’s completely illogical for the reasons given below.
/r/seduction22/06/19 02:40 AM
1

Why don’t you just ask her if she saw your FB invite? If you don’t have the courage to ask her about her own behavior you will never succeed with her.
/r/seduction21/06/19 03:57 PM
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Idiotic comparison
/r/seduction21/06/19 02:41 PM
1

Sure. I think your goal is to just learn to talk to the girls the same way you do the guys. Then once your more comfortable with that, you can start practicing flirting. But if doing it at work is a little intimidating, I’d recommend getting involved in two outside of work “groups” of some sort. Ideally around something you’re interested into that you can talk about that. Any ideas?
/r/seduction21/06/19 04:52 AM
1

It’s not bad, but “hey I think you’re cute, what’s your name?” is more direct. Think of it this way - you’re trying to sound relaxed, confident, and casual, and confident people don’t feel the need to explain themselves. The fact that you are introducing yourself is obvious, so you don’t need to say it. Then, be ready with some good questions and something to say about yourself. Like, “what do you like to do for fun?” “What are you studying,” “where do you work.” Then always share something abou…
/r/seduction21/06/19 04:39 AM
1

Do you have convos with guy friends or coworkers? It’s really the same thing. It’s also a matter of being genuinely curious and interested - and caring- about other people’s lives. Are you interested in your coworkers and just shy about asking them questions, or do you not really care to know them better?
/r/seduction21/06/19 01:22 AM
1

It sounds like you aren’t a naturally outgoing person, which is fine, many people aren’t. So why are you trying to talk to girls who are strangers, rather than girls you already know socially? That’s hard even for naturally outgoing guys!
/r/seduction20/06/19 06:12 PM
5

Do you know how to have conversations with other people?
/r/seduction20/06/19 05:24 AM
1

If eye contact is hard for you, hot girls are out of your league. Plenty of seductive guys who are eye contact pros are already giving it to them. Hit on girls who are shy like you.
/r/seduction20/06/19 12:24 AM
1

Men’s voices drive me crazy. The best are men who speak in an intimate, softer voice even though we are just talking professional stuff.
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:54 PM
1

If she was the one, you two would have gotten together years ago. She’s not attracted to you. Move on.
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:18 PM
1

If you have to ask, she’s out of your league.
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:00 PM
1

You sound more confident if you leave off the “I wanted to say hi” part.
/r/seduction19/06/19 10:24 PM
1

You learned a lesson. Good for you for doing the research. But you need to hang out with women more. You would already have known not to make the comment if you had more female friends, IMO.
/r/seduction19/06/19 09:00 PM
1

When I’ve done that it was because he said something that REALLY turned me off. Or like another poster said she is naturally charming and outgoing so she just does that with everyone.
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:47 PM
-2

Because you’re going after girls who are out of your league.
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:43 PM
1

Don’t overthink it, don’t worry about whether or not you or she wants a relationship. She is definitely interested, but not necessarily in a monogamous relationship. Just have fun and if she asks you what you are looking for be honest.
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:36 PM
2

Maybe the date was good but the kiss was mediocre. Maybe she has a boyfriend. Maybe she just wanted to make out for fun even though you were boring on the date.
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:31 PM
2

Sounds to me like she likes you. I wouldn’t say “that sounds wonderful” to a guy friend, I’d say it to a guy I was attracted to.
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:25 PM
0

Women apologize for all kinds of reasons, I wouldn’t worry about it. Google “why do women apologize so much” if you want to learn about that. I have apologized before in that situation because I know it’s frustrating. It’s frustrating for me too but I don’t have sex with guys until I’m confident we are sexually compatible, it will be mind blowing, and the guy cares about me. Don’t worry about what you want, or she wants, out of the relationship. It’s too early. If you want to have sex with her m…
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:14 PM
1

That’s.....laughable. Women first need to feel comfortable and safe. If we like to be dominated, we first need to be comfortable and safe. Laughing makes women feel comfortable and can build intimacy incredible quickly. It can open the field up for small touches. The most seductive men I’ve been with all made me giggle and it absolutely led to a wet pussy.
/r/seduction19/06/19 07:37 PM
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