It can’t be off, besides they twist what the meaning of an IOI is. They dance around the relationship and even engage in sex bombing strangers because they are cheap as ur mum.
self-esteem is almost the same as confidence, but I don't agree with that definition. I think it's a made-up concept. "His conclusion is that all the myriad programmes designed to cure anti-social behaviour by raising self-esteem are wasting their time. Better by far to concentrate on the particular drug or crime problem and not on an imagined self-esteem deficit: self-esteem enhancing programmes he describes as "snake-oil remedies".