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Do 11/12 of these girls actually have a boyfriend? No, that's the most effective shutdown phrase that exist. Learn how to intrigue these 11 girls and your success rate will go up.
/r/seduction31/01/26 03:42 AM
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I sorta agree with your take, but becoming charismatic and fun to converse with is far easier and faster than becoming a guy with lots of money. If making lots of money was easy, it would be a 1-2-3 step formula, but it’s not.
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:07 AM
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As the saying goes, when she is single, you are competing against all possible men. When she is taken, you are competing against one.
/r/seduction30/12/25 05:05 PM
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There is a world of difference between "actually trying to have a good time" and "I am really enjoying my time." I can sense it over the internet, you bet the women can sense it in person.
/r/seduction04/12/25 03:16 AM
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every approach I make seems like a fucking chore Are you even having fun out there? Are you enjoying the music? Are you the person having the best time in their life when you are out or are you "on the hunt."
/r/seduction04/12/25 03:04 AM
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I have confidence and zero fear of rejection and constantly approach women in malls and bars in different countries So, how do these interactions turn out? Are you getting their digits and setting up the next meetup? With your self description, I would say that you have the potential to be living the playboy life if you adjust a couple things here and there.
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:25 PM
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Creepy cold approach: "Umm, can you tell me where the nearest cafe is?" - if said with no real uncertainty because you already know where Starbucks is, obviously comes across as a poor attempt at cold approach. Normal cold approach: With phone open and looking perplexed, "Umm, I can't seem to find this cafe in real life, do you have a moment to help me?" The same thing could be said in both situations, but if their BS detector goes off because you come across as someone using canned lines, you w…
/r/seduction08/07/25 07:19 PM
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Those are observations of reality. Your limiting belief is that those observations mean you shouldn't even attempt to relate to women in fun and exciting ways. Yes, women generally have tons of options so don't feel a desperate need for any male attention. But they do want to have fun, engage in fantasy, and like playful interactions. And when you are that source of positive and exciting energy, they will desire you, desire to be with you, desire to know you. With casual sex, they do get to choo…
/r/seduction08/07/25 07:11 PM
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Most nice guys have no idea how to create chemistry because they are too preoccupied and too "in their own heads." In other words, they have their own head so far up their own ass that they fail to see their interactions as the game and dance that it is. For initial interactions, attraction is based on fun and exciting vibes. If your authentic self does not assert energy, tension, excitement, and a bit of mysterious wonder, you aren't going to get the time of day to express your authenticity in …
/r/seduction21/05/25 03:20 PM
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You have to think in terms of Venn Diagrams. Find the overlaps in interest, humor, beliefs, financial goals, etc. When there are enough overlaps, sure. If there are no apparent overlaps, you are probably wasting your energy.
/r/seduction20/05/25 06:45 PM
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The door analogy is a false dichotomy. One can successfully explore both seduction and intimacy.
/r/seduction06/05/25 06:51 PM
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That you refer to it as being an asshole indicates that you don't understand the principle behind their actions or why it is effective. Especially in crowded places, you have to make your presence known in order to get attention. They playfully, flirtatiously, and efficiently use their time and energy to project a fun persona. Who would be more fun to hang out with on a night out?
/r/seduction24/02/25 06:13 AM
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How are you at making friends? How are you at holding conversations? How are you at social events/situations? If you become adept at making friends, having great conversations, and have a flourishing social life, you will inevitably start attracting women that you are interested in.
/r/seduction24/02/25 02:30 AM
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You can be talking for weeks and then you drop the first compliment that shows you like her and baam she’s pulling back with no rationale? You are misinterpreting this. The start of the conversation is fun and purposeless for both people, then you express your intentions of getting deeper and she is not. She just wanted the fun and flirty, and your advances indicated to her that it is time to pull away.
/r/seduction20/10/24 04:30 PM
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How many days a month do you spend together? What do you do when you are together?
/r/seduction23/09/24 04:06 AM
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Establish commonality: analyze the vibe their profile gives off and match it. The word/name "crazy" is a good place to start, but rather than pushing away, create common ground with a "We have to meet up because I want to know if our crazy put together makes (insert crazy movie) or (insert another crazy movie)." Every message should also be driving for a meetup because 90% of text conversations that go nowhere in 10 minutes will ultimately be a waste of time.
/r/seduction22/09/24 09:15 PM
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Yeah, your humor and charm fell flat with her from the first message. Your approach has too much negativity without earning the ability to be so... "you're too crazy for me" - negative judgement "U kissing ur friend." - negative judgement "That would make my other friends jealous." - negative judgement "tell me why would i date you over other beauties? what special about u?" - negative judgement That conversation was a vibe drain to read, it was a vibe killer for her.
/r/seduction22/09/24 06:25 PM
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If you feel like a conversation is getting old and that you are just talking for talkings' sake, the conversation is boring for all those involved. Good conversations feel like playing a game with words, it intrigues you like a mystery novel, it should leave you wanting more and be cut off with some cliffhanger. Bad conversations feel like interviews, are exhausting, and are quite boring.
/r/seduction27/08/24 06:27 PM
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You gotta learn to have fun in everything that you do. Children playing with sticks and stones in a third world country have genuine joy and fun. That kind of perspective generates an attractive energy that makes you a great friend and an interesting person to get to know.
/r/seduction08/06/24 04:07 AM
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Breaking it down to seconds/minutes where a woman appreciates you and your car: 10 seconds when they see it. 10 seconds when they get in. There is no lingering appreciation of you or your car beyond those few seconds. Whereas spending $50/week dancing gets you physical interaction with women for 1-2 hours. $50/week is $200/month which is 50% of a car payment, but will impress far more women. It's just a numbers thing, you get far more value spending your money on yourself than on a depreciating …
/r/seduction23/05/24 05:19 AM
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Travel, take dancing/yoga/cycling classes, spend your $30k doing things that get you actually interacting with women. As long as your car isn't a source of stress, women could care less what you drive.
/r/seduction23/05/24 05:04 AM
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It's really hard to give a % without more details about you. Is your lifestyle average? Is your personality average? Are you asking about % of cold approaches? What venue are you meeting these women? What does "solid game" mean?
/r/seduction20/05/24 06:30 PM
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Why don't you just walk your dogs at parks and talk to people? Your dogs will love you more, you get physical exercise, and you get real life interactions.
/r/seduction25/04/24 06:34 AM
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If you want to successfully ask someone out, you have to build attraction: is your banter light, fun, intriguing, and engaging? Is their perception of you positive? Do you leave a good impression through your fashion sense, you overall fitness, your confidence… When you place yourself in the woman’s perspective, what is it that they would find attractive about you? If you can’t identify at least 5-10 things they would notice about you that they find attractive, there is really no chance that ask…
/r/seduction28/07/22 05:51 PM
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Are you just a random bloke? Does she see you as just a random bloke? Unless she sees something about you that interests her, you are wasting both people’s time. If she is incredibly beautiful and you are just a random bloke, no charm, no interesting life, not particularly wealthy, not super fit, asking her out will be similar to a homeless person asking you for €100. Would you give the random bloke your money?
/r/seduction28/07/22 05:11 PM
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This “strategy” really only applies to a college context where friendships are being made left and right. When you enter the workforce, people are busy working 8-5 and the friends you spend time with in the evenings are limited to just a few folks. Time becomes pretty limited and friendships are much rarer. Unless your experience has been different in this regard - in which case, I’d love to hear where/how you are finding friends so common and willing to commit their precious time to become frie…
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:31 PM
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You have to change your view of conversations: it isn’t to get to know someone, it is to make the person feel something. Seduction is 1% reason 99% emotion and the more you self evaluate how much emotions your interactions generate, the more successful at seduction you will be.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:49 PM
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So a few questions regarding the last paragraph: these people you walk past, have you ever seen them before? Will you ever walk past them again? Cold approach and ice cold are different. If you have no reason to be walking in the same direction, you already are headed in an opposite direction, and you already walked past because you have somewhere else to be, you are drifting into ice cold territory and unless you are insanely hot, insanely successful, have incredible gravitas, running back to s…
/r/seduction20/07/22 01:53 PM
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Escalation is the name of the game. You don’t go from “numbers and whatnot” to “her place at the end of the night” without escalation of touch and intimacy. See the person of interest Approach Invite to play/dance Dance closer/Touch playfully Deep eye contact/Intimate body contact Kiss Want to get out of here?
/r/seduction20/07/22 01:13 PM
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I believe you are putting too much pressure on yourself to be always ready to impress. It is totally fine to be doing your own thing, meet a beautiful person, and 30 seconds later recognize, “Oh shit, this girl is really pretty and it would be exciting to get to know her more.” Take your time. No one expects you to be locked and loaded, ready to charm at a moments notice. Take a breath, notice what is happening inside you, notice what is happening around you, notice what the woman is wearing/doi…
/r/seduction20/07/22 01:05 PM
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Bold/confident people have something they are bold/confident about. To act because you don’t give a shit about rejection moves you into the creepy area because you are ignoring the other person’s perspective all together because some guru told you to fake it til you make it. Suave and smooth comes from riding a wave of your own making. The presence of confidence that comes from being the funniest person in the room, the expert in the circumstance, the most interesting conversationalist the perso…
/r/seduction20/07/22 12:58 AM
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Acknowledging your starting point is the first step in the grandest journey your body will ever embark on.
/r/seduction19/07/22 11:11 PM
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Are you on their level? Are you attractive and is your value apparent to them? What do they need or want that you have to offer? This doesn’t have to be wealth and physical attractiveness. But are you funny and do you do and say and create things/posts that intrigue and interest them? Do you have interesting opinions? Do you have interesting ambitions in life? Sliding into DM’s as a nobody with nothing will always be an energy drain and come across as needy. Take homeless people for example: doe…
/r/seduction19/07/22 06:57 PM
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Your post describes nothing about you. I know your age, gender, attractiveness score of 7/10, and 100% failure rate. You ask generic questions and want to be asked questions in order to provide clarification. Now, I know this post isn’t your dating profile, but if it reflects 10% of your profile, it’s not looking good… Other than your 7/10 looks, what are aspects of you that you believe are attractive about you? What aspects of you do you believe are unattractive about you?
/r/seduction16/07/22 04:42 PM
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Just because the app loads and navigates smoothly doesn’t mean it works or that the app’s company is successful. Uber eats works smoothly, but people still get the wrong order or it’s cold or it costs too much. Same with dating apps, just because the app runs smoothly doesn’t mean that is the best way to date.
/r/seduction15/07/22 11:49 PM
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If you are 24, you have the ability to be with countless “dime pieces” that don’t have the added obstacle of being related by marriage already. If you are 24, you have countless opportunities to be with girls 20-28 who aren’t your 40yo stepsister… if she’s the only woman you are currently flirting with, your chances of this relationship going anywhere but into a world of awkwardness is incredibly slim my dude…
/r/seduction15/07/22 06:00 AM
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Being fun and witty is not at all like balancing on a thin line. It is tapping into the ocean and welcoming the waves. You don’t fuck things up with a single sentence, you fuck things up because your pool of fun and attractive energy is too small and shallow. You’ve got to get more interesting, have more interests, be more thoughtful, have more friends, do more fun things, and your pool will be an ocean and you will just ride the waves.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:46 AM
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Some people just HATE texting. It’s slow, can be annoying, and miscommunication abounds. If she texts constantly with other people, but not you, okay, she’s not interested. But if she doesn’t text other people normally, it is likely that she is telling the truth that she just doesn’t like to text.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:40 AM
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Because she is your step sister, I’d actually hang back on the intimacy… because it is “family,” she is likely to see the complications of being with her step brother more trouble than it is worth. Unless you are a total 10/10, you are likely to be relegated to “creepy stepbrother.”
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:36 AM
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Yeah, bad idea. No girl wants to make the “first move” so by making her do so, you are throwing your money away on cards that will get tossed in the trash.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:31 AM
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Your friend from 6 years ago will do one of two things depending on who she is to you: she will cockblock you or she will wingman you. I get the feeling that she won’t be your wingman, so she will cockblock you.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:29 AM
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I don’t know what the other guys are talking about when they say it’s because they are girls from a club. For you to bring them home, have sex, and get ghosted, you definitely should take inventory of what they see and don’t see in you that makes them ghost you after being intimate. Do they know anything about you after fucking? Do they not like your place? After sleeping at your place, they are judging you for a hundred things, if you are super desirable to them, they would stick around. If the…
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:24 AM
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Step sister? So you see her regularly at home?
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:17 AM
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If she isn’t asking questions back and making it a two way conversation, then you need to stop texting.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:16 AM
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You made a valid compliment/tease. She pushed back with a shit test. You apologized in a serious way rather than continue to play. She decided that you weren’t on her level. If the conversation went like this, it would have been better: “Stop making fun of me!” “You’re right, not an audiobook, it would sound nice talking dirty during pillow talk.” The ball will be back on her court as to whether she wants to continue to play. If she already decided that she was done, you would have the same resu…
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:04 AM
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You slide into their dms - so do 100 other guys. You trade photos - so do 100 other guys. You ask a few questions - so do 100 other guys You ask her a boring question that takes time and effort on her part to answer - so do 100 other guys. Why do you expect anyone to treat you differently from the 100 other guys who are doing the same thing?
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:17 PM
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I’ve found 10s generally put in much more effort in their diet, exercise, and makeup. When they put in more work, they do so expecting more as well. They’ll judge you from head to toe because they judge themselves from head to toe. But they just want to have fun as well, so if it appears that you are having tons of fun, they would put aside their judgement for long enough for you to get their attention and have fun along side you. Keep that up, show your intention for more than platonic friends,…
/r/seduction14/07/22 10:26 PM
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u/whoareyou31, you are probably a really successful dude who has maximized their charm and attractiveness, who has their finances in order, who looks at Dominik’s hustle and thinks he could have done better for himself. But few people are as successful as you and could learn a few things from cool dudes like Dominik. He didn’t say anything revolutionary, he just said stop caring about what negative rejections you might get, go for it, and have some confidence. His confidence comes from his physi…
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:00 AM
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The average 5’6” Indian dude can improve his success greatly if they just put in the effort to make their physique desirable, knew how to have fun and make the girls they talk to have fun, and had an interesting hustle and drive. Will that average dude pull models into an orgy like Dominik does? Probably not. Will they be able to minimize the rejection and optimize their chances with the girl of their choosing? Yes.
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:50 AM
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He put in the work at the gym, gained confidence to interact with beautiful women by surrounding himself with beautiful women, he is an immigrant, and not born to money. u/DOMINIKbodyvision is someone that lots on this forum could learn A LOT from. The average person looking for advice on this forum chooses to go from their job back home and browse the internet. Dominik was at the gym before his job, chose a job that put him around women, learned how to have fun and not take himself too seriousl…
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:02 AM
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Congrats on living the life you desire! Your work at the gym and with your diet create the body that women desire.
/r/seduction14/07/22 02:23 AM
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This is the right place to post. But you lack the key ingredient to make your post r/seduction worthy: what are you actively doing to seduce her? How are you making her feel? How are you touching her? How have you tried to make your touch make her feel something deep inside her that longs for you? Seduction means making yourself irresistible. Do you dress irresistibly? Is your home environment arousing her or is it drab and dull? Are your conversations stimulating to her? Does she find you inter…
/r/seduction13/07/22 07:44 PM
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Normally, I wouldn’t advise going to an escort to improve one’s confidence. But you mention how you feel you are psychologically conditioned to “mess up” and paying for an intimate experience will allow you to experience intimacy without the risk of interaction failure. It may or may not help you, as behavioral conditioning is a long and drawn out process and never a “rip the bandage off” improvement. You have to start taking small steps in many facets of your life. Start looking at retail worke…
/r/seduction13/07/22 07:39 PM
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When someone posts something on instagram or tiktok, they don’t just want their partner to watch and like it, they want as many positive reactions as they can get.
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:28 PM
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u/5_7pickup
/r/seduction13/07/22 03:48 PM
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Online dating apps killed the PUA environment. The apps make the women who use them much more reserved in person, they have an app that they can safely filter through men, why “risk” interacting with a stranger. The apps also make the men who would pay for bootcamps less interested because they feel like apps make rejection easier.
/r/seduction13/07/22 03:40 PM
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She has an idea, she is cultivating those feelings.
/r/seduction10/07/22 03:13 PM
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Confidently introduce the girl to all your friends and to those two guys as well. Make sure that you are the most confident, funny, interesting person to the girl and you won’t have to be concerned about what other people may or may not say or do.
/r/seduction09/07/22 08:21 PM
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Such is the nature of internet Q&A. I have no idea what he looks like, what his standards are for the girl he wants to be with, what city he lives in, what ethnicity he is and culture he belongs to. Answers will always be simplifications and risk complicating things that the asker already knows.
/r/seduction08/07/22 10:53 AM
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You seem pleasant enough. You do have a disadvantage, but the way to overcome your height deficit is to take advantage of your “non-threatening” aura. I’m gonna assume that women are probably more willing to meet up with you and find you cute with your young look and sound. It is very possible to escalate from a coffee to the bed if your personality, charm, and seduction are on point.
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:39 AM
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Just imagine you have 20 other people you are chatting with. Will you care to respond to a bland opener?
/r/seduction08/07/22 06:07 AM
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Because you can’t bring anyone home, you have to escalate to sex much quicker. The car, mall changing rooms, park, hiking trip, pitch an instant tent at a campsite, etc. To escalate to sex quicker, you have to be much more physically playful and touch in a way to arouses her. Women are aroused by adventure, by seeing your physical dominance at a sport, by you being funny and making her laugh a lot, by your display of confidence and value… I don’t know what your school social life is like, but cl…
/r/seduction08/07/22 06:05 AM
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If you love to dance, that’s a great start. Incorporate more playful dance moves that invite a girl to join in. Do a move and invite them to imitate. Have fun, lock eyes, dance, and dance with them.
/r/seduction08/07/22 05:54 AM
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Handsome means you pass the attractive face threshold. Hot and sexy is when you seduce them and they want to get intimate.
/r/seduction07/07/22 12:06 AM
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What kind of dates are your first dates? Some dates lend themselves to more touch and flirting: walking dates around your city, rock climbing, outdoor festivities like food fairs, etc. try to think of more physical dates where touch can be implemented regularly.
/r/seduction06/07/22 03:37 AM
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People in America have a fetish for foreign accents. You could go on any university campus, chat any girl up, and go far on your accent alone. You’d love LA.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:38 AM
1

Things are hard when you first start. Hop on a skateboard, the first time, you will have no footing. If you want it to be easier, learn the skills required to navigate social situations with more ease.
/r/seduction02/07/22 09:08 PM
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Going out alone is better than going out with losers.
/r/seduction02/07/22 08:43 PM
1

This reads like you aren’t taking any lead in the relationship. She’s definitely signaling, and you are reading it as mixed. She’s defensive to protect herself and you need to commit to more than friends to create the security that she desires, but you are stuck reading these things as mixed signals.
/r/seduction30/06/22 03:57 PM
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Being at work is your obstacle for escalating because you can’t ignore your job otherwise you’ll lose it. So you would have to invite her to spend time with you when you get off work.
/r/seduction30/06/22 03:45 PM
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There are times that you do everything right and it still doesn’t work out. This appears to be one of those times. Perhaps she googled you and didn’t like what she saw? Perhaps an old flame came round that morning? Perhaps she matched with someone she found super attractive and set up a date? Perhaps she’ll contact you later… It may never be clear why, but because of how much attraction she appeared to display, you can always send another message saying “hey, it’s mr perfect.”
/r/seduction30/06/22 08:24 AM
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I didn’t want to say that there are another 10 things I haven’t listed or this dude would ask for another ten things…
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:25 AM
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There isn’t anything to read into, some people have accents, some people use emojis, some people speak eloquently, some people use slang…
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:43 PM
1

What’s your income? For NSA sex, you have to offer a high level of adventure and excitement and normally that costs money.
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:30 PM
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Charm, fitness, communication skills, intellect, financial security, hygiene, confidence, social standing, chemistry…
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:55 PM
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If you haven’t realized this already, women can evaluate a man in no less than 10 different ways in the first 20 seconds of talking with you. Yes, whether you will make cute babies with her is one of those things she can instantly evaluate.
/r/seduction29/06/22 06:02 AM
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You primarily approach in the day? Then get their number, set an evening date, and escalate from there. Not all women want to text and chat endlessly, many of them do want to just have a good time.
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:12 PM
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See if you can escalate to sex quicker. Be bolder with your touch, escalate to kissing sooner, get them to your place to have sex a few hours after meeting.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:38 PM
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This is the way. Tinder should be for setting up dates, not for chatting.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:08 PM
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You have a disconnect between the energy spent relating to women and the sex that happens eventually. This disconnect may be because it takes too long to go from one step to the next. This disconnect makes the first steps seem like unnecessary work rather than part of the whole experience that should be fun and enjoyable.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:06 PM
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I have a feeling that your conversational skills need to be more fun, filled with laughter, exciting stories, and confidence. Attractive men have to take the lead in initiating conversations with girls they are interested in. You can’t be waiting for someone to chat you up.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:03 PM
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Just as a principle, you shouldn’t read into a girl’s “enthusiasm” over text as interest in you. It could just as easily be that she is a good communicator and it usually has nothing to do with you.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:07 PM
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There is no such thing as “dating through text” with a girl you have never met in person.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:54 PM
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You can always dm people. Posting in subreddits is reserved for people contributing more content through interesting thoughts or provoking questions.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:03 AM
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You get friendzoned if you never escalate. You get creepzoned by escalating too fast.
/r/seduction28/06/22 08:57 AM
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Scripts only work if they are funny. You should avoid scripts if you intend for anything longer than a 10 second interaction.
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:55 AM
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To each their own. You got this! Cheers! 🍻
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:40 AM
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I’ll be honest with you, I don’t think a bar is a good first date: the moment she turns her head and sees another table having more fun, laughing more, having a better time that the two of you, you’ve lost the game. If, you think you know how to navigate that bar such that the two of you are the table everyone else if envying, okay, maybe the bar is a good place. Bars are for meeting new people, taking them home quickly, and fucking until sunrise. So you’d have to have a plan on how to make an i…
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:31 AM
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What are your strengths?
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:16 AM
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So how do you intend to highlight your strengths in that environment? Is it a bar you’ve been to many times and people know your name? Is it a place where you know the secret menu and can show off to her?
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:10 AM
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What kind of bar/club are you going to? Is it a place you can dance? How do you intend to use the venue to display your value and attractiveness?
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:03 AM
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Depending on her attractiveness, she has around 30-80 people chatting her up. She decided to schedule with you. So, make sure you are fun to hang out with. Make sure that you observe and listen to her signals. Read as much interesting things in the coming days so you have interesting things to talk about. Use your observations of her interest in you and escalate the touching if appropriate.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:59 AM
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I’d expect that they would prefer for you to just leave them alone.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:50 AM
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You’ve kind of ruined the gym experience for those three girls, but it’s not that big a deal. I don’t judge you for your lack of discretion. It happens.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:37 AM
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Instead of approaching and immediately announcing your intention of going on a date, approach as a friendly gym guy. Asking for their number, asking if they would like to go out, asking to be more than just gym buddies makes the female feel awkward whenever they see you afterwards. But if you just asked about their workout routine, chatted about the gym and its equipment or classes that it offers, chatted about other gym people, chatted about crossfitters, etc, then you get to tests their intere…
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:18 AM
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You've got to conversationally stimulate her. She's at work and getting the job done. You have to use words and questions to take her out of that mindset.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:08 AM
7

The best conversations with strangers are observational. Observe what she is wearing, what she seems to have an interest in. What is going on around you?
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:06 AM
12

Just point at something outside of the bus that catches your attention and ask her if she saw it too.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:04 AM
1

Intimacy is from having repeated good sex, not from giving your "precious" virginity. There really isn't anything valuable lost by having sex earlier in the relationship.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:51 AM
1

What's wrong with reading into astrology signs on your own time and being conversant in it? If only to tease them?
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:47 AM
1

Surprisingly affordable place. $1500 for one bedroom in the city. $1200 for a one bedroom outside the city.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:45 AM
1

Whoops, missed the fwb part... That she has expressed that she loves the loving, kind, supportive things in a relationship, she has expressed that she would rather be in an exclusive relationship rather than a fwb situation. Are you getting hints that she is afraid of commitment?
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:38 AM
2

You are at risk of this heading into the friendzone. Which I am guessing you don't want. The only option would be to lead this relationship into the other dirrection.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:59 AM
3

Ask for directions even if you know where it is. This can be directions to a cafe if asked outdoors; it could be asking for where they found the apple sauce if you approach in the grocery store.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:52 AM
1

Go on adventurous dates. Get your bodies in motion. Start with high fives and playful nudges. Escalate to hugging her and lifting her off her feet. The adventure of the dates and the escalation of touches will keep things safe, but your touch will hopefully leave her wanting more.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:46 AM
3

Escalation is the name of the game. You're kissing. Escalate. Start touching her under her clothes. As long as she is up for it, your clothes are going to be off and you two will be naked wrestling in no time.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:43 AM
1

If you have the option to go anywhere in the world, take advantage of that flexibility and choosing a location where you are more likely to have success in your dating life is a legitimate reason to choose one country over another.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:35 AM
2

So your question hints at your "oneitis." There are plenty of people you would have a great time getting to know. Your original target did not send signals that she was interested in you, but she did introduce you to her friends. Since you haven't committed to a relationship with the first girl, I would turn your energies towards this second girl and see how far that can go.
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:33 AM
1

This sounds reasonable. I would add that attraction, chemistry, and appeal are things that are not set in stone. You may not be attractive to a woman when you first meet her in the classroom, but when she sees you outside of class and your social proof is more apparent at the club, her attraction towards you may grow. You may not have chemistry when talking with her the first time when at the coffee shop, but your chemistry might be better when out hiking. These are the areas in which a person's…
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:00 AM
4

There’s a search bar on Reddit.
/r/seduction28/06/22 12:51 AM
2

10 years ago, this would be like saying “water is wet.” How times have changed.
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:06 PM
1

Does anyone have time travel abilities? No? So we all have to start at the present time and take responsibility for where we are and where we are headed. 19 is young. You have so many more years ahead of you, but you are getting a little tripped up thinking about your past.
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:25 AM
-1

Probably 1000-2000 times a year. Life is good.
/r/seduction25/06/22 07:17 AM
1

It really depends on why you broke up in the first place.
/r/seduction25/06/22 07:13 AM
1

Slightly more personal, but with no follow up, you may be reading into the action more than is there.
/r/seduction25/06/22 06:54 AM
1

Him commenting on a post you make is not “him initiating” any more than when I comment on this post. I am not flirting with you, why assume he is initiating with the intention of anything more than just being slightly interested in your post.
/r/seduction25/06/22 06:52 AM
60

There’s too little information. We don’t know if you were creepy or not. We don’t know what about the interaction may have triggered this dude. Typically, the seduction technique would be to be aware of these individuals before they butt in, neutralize their “threat” through acknowledging them and being the one who directs how the interactions go.
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:56 AM
4

There is no texting seduction technique that can overcome lack of interest. If you haven’t met up in person for over a month, it is time for you to let her go and get back to finding someone else.
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:19 AM
1

Basically: 1. Make a reel 2. Dm, “I’m sad, some jerk dmed me to say I looked terrible in those shorts.” Make a reel “Did you like that? What do you like most?”
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:31 AM
1

About the content to make or the DM’s?
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:26 AM
1

What’s stopping you from getting to know her? Does she not talk with you?
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:00 AM
2

You have two main avenues to get his attention at the moment, those weekly interactions and your instagram. Both of those require work to increase his desire to escalate a relationship with you. For the weekly work interactions, flirt back: compliment his clothing, shoes, shirt. Compliment how his shirt fits and, without crossing harassment lines, do some flirting touch back. Workplaces are kind of dangerous unless you are very clear that he is interested in you. So the second avenue is your ins…
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:55 AM
40

It’s where people exercise on spin cycles. It’s a predominantly female thing to do.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:49 AM
1

Her “cool girl” attributes that you listed are lifestyle choices. She is unlikely to be attracted to you if your lifestyle doesn’t match her own.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:47 AM
4

He flirts with all the other attractive coworkers? Are you the most attractive of your coworkers? Are you more flirtatious? Do you dress more seductively? You are competing against not only his girlfriend, you are competing with all your attractive coworkers. If you want to be the one he takes a risk for, you are going to have to increase the arousal he has for you in particular. He needs to want to know you more, need to want to see you more… You’ve got your work cut out for you. Pick yourself …
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:43 AM
1

Ideally, you’d be in a relationship with neither person desires failure and both people work towards improving. If that’s not the case, keep it a FWB situationship and no more.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:30 AM
34

You are already attractive. You just have to decide what kind of man you want to attract. Everyday setting is too broad, you want rich and successful? Go to where those men are. Since your criteria is so broad, we can’t really help you.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:18 AM
195

Yoga class, cycle bar, fashion shows, etc. Just go to where the attractive girls are.
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:48 PM
0

I’m having more sex 8 years in than most people do in their honeymoon. Just keep improving and improving your sex life should be something you prioritize.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:57 PM
3

In a LTR for 8 years. Your value should be continuously growing. You may be able to “fake it til you make it” when you are in your early 20s, but when you get stagnate and let the years go by without you becoming more valuable in social skills, finances, experiences, fitness, talents, etc, every year after 25 will make your stagnant self less and less attractive.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:48 PM
3

Nah, sex is so complex that you can have it thousands of times and still discover new things with the same partner. Getting bored is an indication that there is more to learn - the origins of the word bored is from boring a hole. If you give up just because of the monotony, you may never discover what there is to learn in the land beyond.
/r/seduction23/06/22 12:30 AM
1

It can go many different ways depending on her motives. So shoot your shot and see where it goes. You were able to woo her sister, so it shouldn’t be much different. There’s no technique that someone random on the internet can tell you to “play it right” because there are too many variables.
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:58 AM
2

Yeah, you’ve got a girl who’s emotions and therefore her actions are in a pretty hectic state. That will explain the hot and cold because her relationship with her current beau is going hot and cold.
/r/seduction15/06/22 01:59 AM
1

You haven’t mentioned whether she actually broke up with her boyfriend.
/r/seduction15/06/22 01:45 AM
1

I have the feeling from your description of events that the girls are softly rejecting you so that you can show that you are heads over heels for them. They are pushing you away so that they don't get too attached and you find someone better. Aim for the stars, man. Yes, you may have a few more initial rejection, but it may be a better match for everyone.
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:25 AM
5

This thread is surprisingly frugal.
/r/seduction13/06/22 04:40 AM
2

Congrats on the pay bump, best bang for your buck would be to find a hairstylist you really like. I’m not talking a nice barber at a sportsclips, but a real hair salon. The kind of people you will rub shoulders with when you become a regular is worth the higher cost. You mentioned that you aren’t shredded: work with a personal trainer. Getting your body in top shape would do wonders for your mindset. Honestly, clothes and cars are overrated and as you are still getting your financial footing, it…
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:28 AM
5

Counting approaches only is like only knowing how to count to three. There are literally other numbers that you need to be reaching for and escalating to.
/r/seduction12/06/22 03:50 PM
2

My friend who is 5’4” has been married to his gorgeous wife who is 5’11” for 8 years. He makes very average income, but keeps this woman because he is charming and good at keeping the conversation engaging and entertaining. Your insecurity regarding your height is a limiting belief that is holding you back.
/r/seduction11/06/22 07:08 PM
1

What you consider “don’t give much of a shit” are all the invisible qualities of attraction that are at work working for them. For every one of those people with the invisible charisma, there are ten guys who also don’t give a shit and are miserable. As for the guys “who go out of their way” and still lose, you already notice that they are “out of their way.” Those guys are not aware of the invisible qualities that make a man attractive. Let me list off the top of my head 5 invisible things: 1. …
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:32 PM
1

If you are that hilarious, go into comedy and make the big bucks as a celebrity. For most normal humans, we do need to intentionally dial it up, be more bold, especially on a first date. No mating dance in all of the animal kingdom has a disinterested male hoping to get a mate, expecting that they are good enough just the way they are.
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:23 PM
2

Heh, funniness and wit are not exclusive to clowns. Humor and wit are essential conversations skills that evoke positive emotions and lead to more intimacy…
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:17 PM
1

“As the date went on…” are we talking 10 minutes? 2 hours? Ultimately, she was sending you signs that you were not captivating her attention enough. There are a multitude of reasons this can be, but every one of us needs to work on being funnier and wittier.
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:05 PM
15

So your holdback is primarily your lack of interesting conversations. Your height and physique have little to do with your success.
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:34 PM
3

Text and writing is really only a first step if you want to improve. Second step if you need it would be to memorize what you wrote. Third step, say it in a mirror. Then try it in person. But you can go straight to in person practice too.
/r/seduction11/06/22 03:22 PM
4

Yes and no. If you don’t practice humor in real life, no matter how witty you are over text, your humor will have difficulty being expressed with the timing and cadence needed in conversation.
/r/seduction11/06/22 03:19 PM
3

The purpose is to soften the blow of rejection by having a fun and playful response to all possible rejections. When you begin to just enjoy the interactions however the interaction draws to a conclusion, you will be able to go from one interaction to the next without a need for a mental recharge because you were drained emotionally from getting rejected.
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:57 PM
6

Her: I have a boyfriend. You: Well, I have a goldfish, but I am always open to a little more adventure in my life. Go forth and spread your wings.
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:24 PM
8

All the “chatting, laughing, and teasing” is over texts? It is always best to assume that every girl has 20-30 other chats open where she is chatting, laughing, and flirting. If it’s hard for you to imagine, create a fake girl profile and see how the world is from their perspective. They will get 50 matches and 30 “hey” every hour.
/r/seduction09/06/22 04:18 PM
9

I recently watched a clip where Kim Kardashian was talking about why she likes Pete. Basically, it was because he allows her to just be without the pressure of being perfect. I can see the appeal of that to hot models and actresses who feel the societal pressure to always look a certain way. For Pete, he reached the minimum threshold of celebrity status, minimum threshold of physical attractiveness, but fills a unique niche in Hollywood and fashion girls where they don’t feel like they have to p…
/r/seduction09/06/22 03:27 AM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:07 PM
1

Yeah, so you asked the logic behind why men always have to take the initiative. The quick answer is that both genders take on fairly equivalent risks in the relationship equation. Females are gatekeepers and men are the merchants. There may be instances where individuals take different roles, but in general, yeah… men do most of the initiating.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:04 PM
2

Come over to r/AskRedditAfterDark and there are a bunch of horny male and female redditors just talking about sex and everything it entails.
/r/seduction08/06/22 04:04 PM
5

There is a bit of a selection bias going on here. One, they are an outlier so you pay attention more. Two, your perspective is probably clouding your ability to pinpoint the magnetic aspects of them. Three, you are not what they are trying to attract so the things you see are not the same as what the women attracted to them see. Many aspects of attraction are invisible initially and it takes much more time to really see it.
/r/seduction08/06/22 04:02 PM
4

You have been rejected and it just hasn’t registered for you yet that the girl is now unavailable for you.
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:47 PM
9

So how did you look at the coffee shop? How did you dress, what about you was less attractive in the morning? If there wasn’t anything significant, she just wasn’t as interested in you and seeing you the next day confirmed her interest level.
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:08 AM
8

When you watch a show and the characters have sexual tension, they convey it through their eye contact, their playful touch, and their escalation of intimacy.
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:01 AM
1

Asking for directions on a campus you don’t go to is always an option. But I think you also need to rethink bars and nightclubs. There are lots of girls in those places who like hiking and reading. They are at the club not because they just love clubbing, but they want to meet someone new. That their goals align with your goals make nightclub somewhere you should give another shot.
/r/seduction06/06/22 08:44 PM
2

You really can’t text anything that will get their attention if the only connection you have is over the internet. Go ahead and try it out on reddit, look up some nsfw content creators on some subreddit. Go for the ones that are super popular. See if you can get a conversation going. You won’t. Sliding into DM’s only work if you have the social proof required to attract their attention. Do you have 50k followers on twitter/tiktok/IG? Do you have 1mil karma on Reddit? Then you are unlikely to piq…
/r/seduction02/06/22 08:20 PM
18

I just peeked at your post history. At 21, you have to start spending your extra time and energy developing your social life and friend circle. Your success with women and your overall happiness depend on your ability to have a social life that involves having meals with friends at least once a week, playing games or sports with others once a week, and having a couple of guys who you can go to the gym and the club with.
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:40 AM
2

Buy a $50 tent off amazon and invite her to go camping with you.
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:36 PM
21

You could just sell their stuff on Reddit. There is a market for used panties around.
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:33 PM
5

What stopped you from going further?
/r/seduction27/05/22 06:57 AM
220

Try dating girls in grad/medical/law school. Academically, they have been pre-selected for excelling in more than just their appearance. The girls you are interacting with seem to be the ones who have used their appearance to move up in life.
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:57 AM
3

She’s a narcissist. Self promotion is the name of the game in today’s instagram/tiktok world.
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:33 AM
28

He is self described as a good looking guy. In metropolitan areas, there are plenty of women who are dtf especially if his looks and confidence is on point. Now if he resides in a more conservative area, I suppose he numbers would suffer.
/r/seduction26/05/22 11:46 PM
1

It appears you got caught up in what you “should” be doing that you haven’t given yourself the time to think about what you want to do and why you want to do them. Life isn’t about mindless sex and mindless hustle. Life isn’t really “about” anything. But if you find yourself going about things and not really enjoying anything, that’s a good reminder that you should take a moment and re-evaluate what you want in life.
/r/seduction26/05/22 11:01 PM
61

Sure, if you have been out of the game for a while, there is no shame and no harm that can result from a few flings. Be upfront about your desire to have nsa sex and most women should be able to respect your frankness.
/r/seduction26/05/22 10:44 PM
2

Depends on a couple of factors, is she with friends who she enjoys? 1 fuck up and they will all start pushing you out. Is she really attractive? Did you make her laugh with your first interaction? Probably 2 fuck ups.
/r/seduction26/05/22 08:05 AM
3

Let me translate FavPlayer for you: you will not know how well you get along if you are “getting along” online. You have to understand, most girls on apps have 10+ conversations going on at the same time as you. If you are not meeting them in person, you are just a NPC (non-player-character) to her and nothing more than a little exciting video game. Playing a video game will keep you as a virgin until you start meeting people in real life.
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:53 AM
19

The two guys may have talked through it and the guy you like valued his friendship more than having a thing with you. It’s just that his interest in you was not high enough to fight his friend over for you.
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:46 AM
2

Basically, you still have not provided enough context to start assuming that she is sending signals of interest.
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:51 PM
2

I’ll venture to guess that you have approached far fewer girls in person than you have swiped on apps. In person approaches are a numbers game just like the apps. But your success rate is almost guaranteed to be better.
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:20 AM
1

How much do you make annually? There are a bunch of work from home jobs that require no degree that pay over $40k.
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:52 AM
5

You listed things that aren’t mutually exclusive. For sure, socialize the whole time. But if you are socializing and projecting to others a sense of dissatisfaction with your own life, you are going to have trouble making friends, let alone seducing a partner.
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:44 AM
2

So, rather than thinking “I don’t really know what to do at this point,” you have to start thinking, “there are a lot of areas in which I should be investing in myself in order to turn my life around.” Finding a new job/career is daunting? Start doing some home workouts. Making new friends seems impossible? Try to become a master of your own finances and start learning how to budget and save money. Basically, rather than dwelling on self-limiting beliefs, instead choose to take those little step…
/r/seduction24/05/22 11:59 PM
5

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/uwifqa/my_experience_as_a_20m_yo_college_student_with/ u/KidKannabis shows you his way. He's direct and straight to the point. And it's a numbers game if your profile isn't littered with red flags.
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:32 AM
24

TIL that hip dips are a thing and that women are insecure about them. I have never in my life noticed these and now that I know what they are, it barely categorizes as something that affects a woman’s attractiveness.
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:43 AM
2

Unless you are above average in looks and height, you will be invisible in public settings especially for large events. That has nothing to do with your value/worth. A big event is an opportunity for you to get out of your comfort zone. But if you don’t come out of your shell, your invisibility power will be on and no one will give you a second glance.
/r/seduction21/05/22 07:30 PM
7

Sex appeal for celebrities is different than attraction in normal relationships. Harry Style and Johnny Depp both have fame, money, AND they have a reputation of sexual deviance/adventurousness. The combination of those three factors makes men like those have broad sex appeal even if they don’t fit a woman’s normal type.
/r/seduction21/05/22 06:46 PM
1

One suggestion is to go out with a wingman/woman. Are you having fun when you are out and approaching? Or are you on a mission to meet someone?
/r/seduction21/05/22 06:18 PM
1

You have to pass a threshold of awkwardness in your interactions where a person would feel compelled to warn others about you. You say yourself that your friends know that you are a genuine individual. Interact with these strangers from that same starting point, then use seduction techniques to escalate to a more physical relationship. Your problem seems to be that you leave on a negative note. The solution is to hold the conversation for a few seconds more, say you hope to bump into them again …
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:57 PM
2

The solution is for you to adjust your style of approach. You can act like you know everyone, that everyone is your friend, and friends don’t need to use tactics.
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:36 PM
1

We all have things we can improve on to be more confident in who we are - weaknesses that cause our insecurities. What would you say your weaknesses are?
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:17 PM
49

The internet has given women much more options for sure.
/r/seduction21/05/22 02:57 PM
53

I wouldn’t say less stable, but they have more boxes that they want a man to check. For a man, if they vibe and are attractive, we might ignore red flags that pop up here and there. For a woman, there are things they are still evaluating after a date or two. So women can be more selective because, especially for attractive ones, they have so many options. It’s like guys ordering food at a hot dog stand vs girls ordering from a full sit down menu. A seduction principle based off this: escalate yo…
/r/seduction21/05/22 02:42 PM
3

This sounds like something to develop to become a more empathetic individual. Which is good… but empathy is not a starting point for seduction. The scenario you mentioned depicts a damsel in distress and those are problematic girls in seduction for two reasons: 1. The majority of women out there are not in distress. 2. Girls in distress are not usually open to seduction.
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:44 AM
6

^ All good points. I’ll add a few thoughts: Don’t have “lose my virginity before I turn 26 in 3 months” as a goal. Having sex in the next 3 months is a real possibility, but if it is a goal, your desperation will be felt. Your first step is to feel comfortable and confident in the person you are and how you dress is a big part of it. You budgeted to live in a great location, now budget to have a wardrobe that you are proud of. Go on pinterest, create a board of men’s fashion that you want to imi…
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:23 AM
1

Though I do have to ask, why just FWB? If she is your best friend, why not make it a partnership?
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:56 AM
3

Then you are just a massage away from ripping each other’s clothes off. ;)
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:47 AM
3

Play some physical games together, mini golf, football, something fun, that gets her mind off her breakup, and get some accidental touches in. Own up your attraction to her, but keep it fun so that she is free to become attracted to you.
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:41 AM
2

How does she respond to your touch and flirtation throughout the day? Are you touching her enough to arouse attraction and sexual tension? Hugs, massages, pulling her close, holding eye contact, are all important to go from friends to friends who have sex.
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:24 AM
1

Is it possible for you to get a hotel?
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:19 AM
1

19 is just the beginning. You are in a marathon, not a sprint.
/r/seduction19/05/22 10:39 PM
5

And don’t be this guy: library creep
/r/seduction18/05/22 10:31 PM
48

This guy is turning the library into his personal cold-approach stomping grounds. The library, like the gym, is not a nightclub where you can approach every available woman to get your approach goals in.
/r/seduction18/05/22 10:29 PM
0

I would suggest being more short, funny, and to the point. No letter, a scrap piece of paper works. Don’t wait ten minutes, just wait beside her until she gives you her answer.
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:24 PM
29

What car do you drive?
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:07 PM
57

Many aspects of attraction are invisible. Timing, confidence, security, assertiveness (and money) are all things you may not pick up on your first glance.
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:59 PM
2

Seems like your pyramid is still the same. I don’t see where any of your layers are switched around.
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:27 PM
4

^ your profile is okay, personable, normal Facebook friend type. The online dating world is pretty brutal and the women are generally not looking to match with someone to add to their Facebook friends list. Now, as a person, you’ve got the frame and face to start becoming way more successful if you changed up a few things. The points mentioned above are a great starting point.
/r/seduction18/05/22 01:09 AM
1

Tinder is a platform to have casual relationships, you don’t have to feel pressure that the person you matched with is perfect as long as you have fun. Keep the conversation short, fun, and flirty and move the conversation to meeting up in person.
/r/seduction17/05/22 06:09 PM
1

It's tinder, the don't have to spoil them if they already slept with them. It's a Dutch 9/10.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:14 PM
1

You think right, it is annoying for them to interrupt them. It is similar to a classroom or at work, they are there to accomplish something, not to chat you up. In a gym, there are brief interactions that you can use to gauge interest, but it should be situational interactions like sharing equipment. The “approach” should be after the workout is done, otherwise, you are just intruding on their time.
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:55 AM
19

Every mating animal in existence has a mating ritual. You don’t have to enjoy it, you have to accept the way it is. The “logic” is that normally, human females only birth singletons. It takes 9 months of gestation and 4-6 years after where the child is unable to fend for itself. That’s a fucking long time for a female to raise offspring. Males, on the other hand, can bounce to the next thing right after intercourse. Other than social pressures, there is nothing preventing males in society to jus…
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:41 AM
4

Beautiful women get told they are beautiful everyday and get barraged with comments on their look on the internet. You need to differentiate yourself, be witty, convey value. And unless your twitter profile speaks for itself as amazing, it may be the reason why you aren’t progressing in attracting her.
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:19 AM
7

In the past, people actually left voicemails, but now everyone texts. In the past, girls might approach, but with the ease of online dating, girls would rather swipe than risk rejection by approaching first. Technology changes how people interact and in this world, the man will have to approach first if they want to get any attention.
/r/seduction16/05/22 05:38 AM
5

You are risk adverse. It seems like you have all the parts to be a great mate, but you haven’t accepted that dating is a numbers game. Frankly, the chances of you being the perfect type for the woman who is your perfect type is astronomically small. You increase those chances by taking risks and meeting tons of women who fall within your standards. So accept the rejections as part of the process. Rejections are not because you are objectively unattractive, it’s just that rarely do stars align. T…
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:15 AM
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If it’s your face that you are insecure about, dial in your fashion sense. Go on pinterest, find a style of clothing you really like, replicate the look on yourself. Clothing is modern day armor, you can wear armor that makes you more secure. If you are insecure about your conversation skills, read up about topics that really interest you and become comfortable taking about it. As silly as it sounds, becoming conversant with astrology and being able to “read deeper” into other people’s personali…
/r/seduction15/05/22 08:21 PM
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Your inner voice has to have something to offer. Speak from that place where you are the prize. Looks are just one aspect of value, a good storyteller, being comedic, having confidence that can chat about anything, all are interesting things that can open a group to accept you. If however, you aren’t clear what you have to offer, your success rates are going to be abysmal.
/r/seduction15/05/22 08:04 PM
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It is much better to learn from people who aren’t sociopaths and jailed. There is very little of value to learn from Ted Bundy. There is nothing that you can learn from him that cannot be learned from other more charismatic individuals.
/r/seduction15/05/22 01:02 AM
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You’ve put yourself into a position where you regret either way. This is indicative of a fear of commitment. So just accept that that is who you are and enjoy the next few years of you life. There may come a point in your life where commitment is more attractive to you, but at this stage, you should embrace your free spirit. The “one that got away” was never yours to begin with.
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:22 PM
1

So, no, don’t wait. And don’t lead with how much you like her. From what you have said, you literally know almost nothing about her. What shows she watches, what she likes to do after school, where she sees herself in the future, etc. These are just the kinds of things people who are friends and enjoy talking with each other know about each other. So start talking to her. Doesn’t have to be about anything in particular. You can ask her about her thoughts on Ukraine and it will do more for your r…
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:46 AM
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You don’t mention if you like her back. Does this girl annoy you? If she does, yeah, ignore her and block her out.
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:32 AM
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There are countless reasons why she might have done that. You are only in control over how you present yourself. Are there things on your profile which are turn offs?
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:30 AM
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Definitely move on, but no need to unmatch. You need to convey that your plans don’t revolve around her, so if you were going to have a great weekend, have a great weekend without her. She said she had a rough week. Take that at face value. If you had a rough week, would you like to spend it with a relatively new stranger? What would you like to do if you had a rough week? I would like to have a no pressure invitation to an incredible weekend. But I may still choose to stay in and be comfortable…
/r/seduction13/05/22 08:38 PM
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Most humans learn that sex is enjoyable through self exploration and masturbation at a young age. So yes, the girls know that it feels good. But you have to engage her senses in a way that makes her want to feel good with you. This is where seduction comes in. Making her feel the chemicals of excitement and anticipation, make her feel free to desire and allow her libido to explore.
/r/seduction13/05/22 07:11 PM
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That last statement is an over-generalization. Just put yourself out there, enjoy that you have a good career and have many life opportunities, and meet people, both male and female, white, black, yellow, etc. Your posts and comments are indicative of someone who theorizes too much and doesn’t have enough interaction with real people. Real people interactions will take these psychopaths off the pedestal that you have placed them on.
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:54 PM
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Ted Bundy and Ramirez are psychopaths. The reason why they are “successful” is primarily because they don’t care what their victims think or feel. Yes, there is an aspect of not putting women on a pedestal that is a seduction principle, but psychopaths also prey on the vulnerable, they impose their will regardless, and ultimately their behavior leads them to kill.
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:42 PM
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Make friends, talk to everyone, you got this. Americans in college are generally very open to foreigners and your background should be seen as a strength because most college students have not ever traveled to India before and you can use that to share about a totally different world and experience.
/r/seduction13/05/22 03:40 PM
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Yeah, I totally get that. But your post indicates the desire to replicate this one chapter forever, which is similar to a child wanting to play at recess for the rest of their lives. It's important to look to the future as not some static state where you keep doing this one thing that you enjoy without being open to the progress that you may have later on in life.
/r/seduction13/05/22 07:50 AM
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You are in a unique chapter of your life, but life does get better. Find yourself someone you want to wake up next to every day, someone who loves to wake you up with their body, someone who makes the chase seem like such a waste of energy because you can jump right into the good stuff. Otherwise, this chapter of your life does come to an end and you might be caught with your pants down, but no one to enjoy being naked with.
/r/seduction13/05/22 07:20 AM
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If you bring high enough value to the table that you can both attract and keep an attractive woman, there really isn't anything for you to fix.
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:29 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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