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Love & relationships are worth it, but marriage is only useful if you plan to raise kids together. Put another way, marriage is an institution created primarily to protect children by keeping the man from running off. The only reasonable purpose for marriage is to start and raise a family.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 11:26 AM
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My wife and I have a 10mo old. Wife has a combo of OCD-ish orientation and anger issues, and flies into a rage at least 5 times a week over small things. She is always sick, tired, angry, or depressed, and lets me know regularly what a disappointment I am as a husband and father. Sex is at 0. I have asked for and facilitated both couples and individual therapy for her, which she has shut down. This all might sound terrible, but she’s good otherwise, and an excellent mom. And my Daughter hates dr…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 12:31 AM
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She’s out of line. Whether it’s an anger or an impulse-control issue, there’s some stuff you just don’t say to a spouse. Women seem to get way more leeway when it comes to verbal abuse. The pattern is that men must display a ‘thick skin’, while women are told that men must earn their way back after hurtful comments. The minute both kids are done breastfeeding, I would file for divorce and not look back. It will be nasty and complicated, but the payoff is that you will get 2-4 days per week to li…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:15 PM
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It’s impossible to know why & not worth asking. Your best strategy is to yellow-rock it “I appreciate the invite, but I would prefer to follow the court-mandated schedule.”
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 08:56 AM
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-If you gained weight or withdrew sexually, that could be part of it. -if you use hurtful “you are” statements regularly as a reaction to small arguments, that could be part of it. -if you’ve denied him hobbies or time with friends, OR, if you use the freedom you give him to do those things as a form of guilt/leverage, that could be part of it. These are just some of the things that come to mind.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 09:12 AM
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I would see the lawyer now, but wait for her to file. It’s important that it be plain to see that she’s the one trying to leave you while knowing she’s got a kid, not the other way around. As other people have said, a paternity test is in order. Reason being, if she’s going to attempt to make you pay for a kid without seeing said kid, it had better be yours. Try for 50% custody, but don’t be surprised if you get only weekends or visits for the first year or so. Breastfeeding is a real thing, and…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 04:06 PM
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Any history of medication for mental illness, addiction or suicidal ideation. (The reason is that what she tells you is likely the tip of the iceberg, or there are more undiagnosed issues) -facility with the legal system as a means of adjudicating disputes (restraining orders against neighbors, etc.) -adherence to feminist ideology -dysfunction or abuse amongst her parents, and residual evidence thereof (such as MIL & FIL sleeping separately) The reason is that once you get married, she will con…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:34 PM
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Drop papers. Whether she’s using you or scared of you or both, there is a <10% chance that things will ever improve to where you get some kind of a reasonable compromise on sex and meaningful interaction. At this point, you are a trophy husband for her to trot out for other women, and a servant to offer logistical support of driving her kids around.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:56 PM
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So, I would limit engagement. You already know divorce is happening, so limit conversations to physical logistics and care of the children. Let the Lawyers duke it out and figure out the terms of the divorce. The next 4-6 months of your life should be lived primarily based on your Lawyer’s advice, with the objective being to retain custody and a relationship with your kids for however many decades you’ve got left to live.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 10:42 PM
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Absolutely not. I thought sex would gradually return to be at least 1x per week after about 6 months post-partum. Coming up on 9 months, and not only are we at less than 1x monthly, but she has taken an official position against me making requests or advances for sex because it “makes her feel guilty for not giving me sex”. While equitable distribution of labor is important by itself and on its own to prevent resentment, the idea of “choreplay” is absolute bullshit, because it pre-supposes that …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:26 AM
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Half plus 7. So if you’re 40, 27. If you’re 30, 22.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:21 PM
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Nope. If she wants to hook up with you after the divorce, that’s up to her. She now has to join the sea of fish in competing for your affection. Take the divorce, and aim for a friendly co-parenting relationship. It is amazing how much better you get treated in every area of your life (work, romantic, etc.) when the other party knows you have an easy option to walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:42 PM
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Leave that church and find a new one. It’s important that your wife learn to gracefully face the questions and silent judgement why you aren’t there. It’s the kids church, so they’ll be going one way or another. What’s important is that you not put yourself through this painful experience of hearing about marriage while in the same room as your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 01:50 AM
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If the desire to lose weight is there, the weight would come off one way or another. I’m not naive enough to think everyone is going to look like a professional model or crossfit athlete, but time after time it has been proven that people can go from “obese” to “overweight” if they have the motivation. Diet, exercise, hormone therapy, medication, liposuction, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:18 PM
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Ok, medical issue. We live in the 2020’s, she can get a prescription for thyroid hormone. Oh, and there’s also semaglutide drugs on the market.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 01:46 AM
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Oh yes, thyroids and pregnancy weight. Always with an endocrine excuse. Then the weight magically slides off when they’re back on the dating market.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 12:50 AM
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Using personality disorders as labels for ex’s or people you don’t like is extremely satisfying to most people for a multitude of reasons. It’s an easy way to explain complex behavior. It’s a way to get away with name-calling without the same social disapproval that profanity would entail. It absolves the other person of both responsibility and reduces their ambivalence about divorce, because personality disorders can only be managed, not cured. It offers a very short and easy-to-digest explanat…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 12:51 AM
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So, it really depends. If you’re not short, not fat, and you have a decent career, dating apps can work for you. Tips: -triple schedule dinners 5:30-6:30-7:30; cancel last minute on the less attractive ones as necessary. This is ruthless, but if you don’t, you will waste time and blow your schedule. -your photos are everything. Get good ones that show you happy, as you are in the current day.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 10:01 AM
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Possibly due to frustrated expectations. Possibly due to realizing that she threw away a decent man expecting that another would materialize to replace you, only to find that her value on the dating market is low and falling as an older woman.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 03:47 AM
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Shut everything in your name (including shared) that she has access to. Contact and retain a lawyer immediately. File a protective order for harassment. Why? Because you need it in writing to contextualize whatever she says about you to your job. Sit back and let her make outlandish claims. She’s essentially doing your work for you by discrediting herself. Get some therapy, even just a few sessions over several weeks. If nothing else, being able to fully vent will help.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 12:29 AM
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Living well is the best revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 10:59 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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