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I have had women as friends my whole life. They have never helped me get dates. They have never told me a piece of advice that was actually helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:05 AM
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My parents threatened to beat me for crying. Where is the coddling? I’m an adult and my parents still shit on my life choices despite doing better than I’ve been doing in my entire life. The overwhelming majority of men I’ve interacted with know that what their mothers and women friends say is a lot of sweet nothings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:49 PM
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Men and women have different problems. One aspect could be slightly easier, while another could be dramatically harder. One thing I commonly hear from women is the ability to be left alone. As a man, being invisible and unnoticed is the default for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:53 PM
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One of my friends cheated on every boyfriend she had. She married a super Christian virgin. They moved to another state immediately after. They are still married. Everyone else either sabotaged their chance at marriage or are already divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:45 AM
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I have sisters and older coworkers that will outright admit they date or used to date bad boys because it’s more fun and exciting than a responsible and reliable guy. For very few women I’ve met, it’s an attractive guy that mistreats her or they are boring. I’m not speaking about all woman. Just something funny I’ve personally seen play out multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:01 PM
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Every time I opened up in my life, the people around me either ridiculed me or avoided me. Only two people in my entire life I have felt comfortable opening up emotionally a little. Get some close friends, brothers, or your father. Don’t open up to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:17 PM
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You brought up good sex. How is an orgasm the baseline when a lot of women cannot even orgasm on their own? A lot of women complain they don’t orgasm often with random hookups. You are moving the goalpost.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:18 PM
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Women don’t want inexperienced men unless he’s attractive. Attractive guys get more experience because women are more willing to interact with, have sex with, or date a random guy she found attractive. It takes a decade to be good at sex as a man? Thats a not true. Just listen to your partner and do foreplay. If she’s attracted to me and I make her orgasm, it’s good sex. Do women need experience to be good at sex or do you assume all women are good at doing the deed?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:07 PM
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Romance novels don’t teach you anything. You learn about someone from spending time with them. There is no magic key or steps to getting a woman interested in you. Are we being serious, I should read romance novels for pickup lines? That’s faulty logic. I can just google pickup lines. Learning how women like to have sex? Just have sex and do foreplay. Or ask her what she likes and doesn’t like. That’s like me saying I learned to have sex by watching porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:57 PM
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How will reading 50 shades of gray make a guy more attractive to women? Romance novels don’t teach you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:49 PM
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Men suffer in silence because nobody cares about a man’s problems. You are criticized, judged, and avoided if you are a man and you always bitch and complain about your problems but you don’t actually fix them or have a plan to fix your own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:39 PM
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I thought women had their own money and don’t need a man’s money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:53 PM
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I think 80% of guys are decent and moral people. How many of them have their life together financially, probably significantly less. Is your definition of a good guy is if the guy is Prince Charming or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 11:18 AM
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Let’s be honest. Nobody wants to date an overweight or obese person, even if they themselves are also overweight or obese. Getting in a healthy shape makes everyone more attractive. You look better and your clothes look more flattering on you. People are nicer to you if they find you physically attractive. I told everyone I’m looking for a relationship. My type preferably not obese. You don’t have to look like a super model or be super thin, just look like you put some effort into your appearanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:53 PM
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The statements I put I quotes are from women I am friends with, work with, and other relatives. These statements in quotes are the exact opposite advice my guy friends gave me. The advice my guy friends gave me worked. They bullied me and called me a fat ass until I went to the gym. The women I know said there was nothing wrong with being obese. Women will like me anyway. Which was a lie. I had women explicitly tell me how much money and what job I have doesn’t matter to women. That’s also a lie…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:39 PM
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When I listened to women’s advice, I was single and miserable. “Just be yourself”. “Love will come when you stop looking for it”. “ women don’t care how tall you are or how good you look”. Women give terrible dating advice. My guy friends are willing to give me constructive criticism , which was actually good advice. Get in shape, make money, be able to hold a conversation. And realize it’s a numbers game and most women aren’t interested in me. If a woman doesn’t treat you like she always wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:06 PM
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There is a phrase I heard from a podcast. Some guys aim high and always miss. Some guys aim low and hit often. High and low referring to how attractive you find the person you are persuing. It’s true and a little disheartening at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:36 PM
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If you are not already physically attractive to women. The whole don’t try to attract or approach women thing results in men being alone forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 06:02 PM
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Dating apps always have more men than women. Women normally attract men just living their lives. Bumble and tinders user base is like 1/3 women. Women have infinite choices on dating apps and become picky. The most attractive guys on the app drown in matches while most men get nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:26 PM
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If women get into bad relationships with abusive and manipulative men, is it also that women’s fault, or is it still somehow men’s fault? Did she stick around for years because of good dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:57 PM
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Imagine being 5 inches short, 40 pounds lighter, and 2.5x weaker than the average random stranger you decided to go on a date with. Enough women have horror stories of some random guy getting creepy, angry, touchy, or violent. If she has safety concerns , I’m not going to diminish that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:23 AM
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When I see comments from bisexual men and women, they explicitly state women make dating harder for no particular reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:10 PM
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The irony is when I go on male centered subreddits, guys are explicitly told to change and improve. Get a better job, get in better shape, wear better clothing. Hell, looksmaxzing is a thing for a reason. When I go on women centered subs, it’s you are perfect as you are. The man should accept you no matter what. This feels like a giant psyop. Women overwhelmingly don’t want to change for a man. I just discovered the subreddit trueuglywomen. The female equivalent of incels. Most men are not nearl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 10:14 PM
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It’s crazy how I’ve seen multiple articles about women dating down by dating guys with less money. If men had this same train of thought, most women would never get a date. I guess some people don’t actually want equality. It’s obvious looks are the greatest determining factor in anyone getting a date. If looks weren’t the determining factor, why do I know a lot of fat or ugly people that struggle to date who they want? My attractive friends just have people basically throwing themselves at them…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:05 PM
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Being ugly and confident with persistence eventually leads to you getting a girl. I have never met a woman that’s admitted to dating an ugly guy because he’s confident. I have never seen or met this ultra charismatic player ugly guy that I keep hearing about on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:56 AM
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Most women come off as uninterested by default. A shy guy will open up if you show him a little attention. If I try to talk to a woman that is uninterested, the conversation will feel extremely one sided on the man’s part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:52 AM
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This is not remotely true. Being shy is just a personality trait. Being shy has nothing to do with bullying. Most women I meet come off as shy when I first meet them. Are the majority of women also victims of bullying in childhood? The traits that determine how hard or easy dating is for a man are his looks and height, how often he’s willing to talk to women and fail, and can he be funny, interesting, or charismatic in a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:47 AM
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When I hear the phrase, hit the wall, I look at it purely as a reproduction thing. Significantly more women have issues getting pregnant and giving birth at age 42 compared to 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:47 PM
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I believe the great majority of normal men hate the chase. It’s an exercise in futility the majority of the time. I have a friend and brother that are considered attractive by women. These two guys told me they like the chase because they hate when women make it easy for them. Safe to say, I hated these two for a couple minutes after that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:01 AM
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That’s the sentiment a lot of people on reddit have. It’s a weird train of thought. Every single post I see where a man asks for relationship advice, there’s always people in the comments ready to insult him with little to no knowledge of what the man is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:05 PM
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Women in this sub will blame a man’s lack of sex on how nice he is. Women on this sub will automatically assume a man is a bad person, violent, and unwashed if he asks for relationship advice. And in the same breath say looks don’t matter. And in the next breath, call men stupid and say of course looks matter. Men are more likely to have casual sex just being attractive. Being nice, charismatic helps long term, but I’ve seen too many examples of women going for the most attractive guy. No other …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 11:50 AM
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For me, yes. That’s a deal breaker. Us going to the club together, no issue. If she’s constantly going to the club without me, I stop trusting her. I have seen three relationship of my friends fall apart the moment their girlfriend starts clubbing alone more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 05:37 PM
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Yes that’s true. If that guy was ugly, she never would have had sex with that guy. The “give a chance” guy I mentioned earlier normally needs a committed relationship to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:59 PM
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Normally they don’t. But I’ve met plenty of women in real life that told me they gave a guy a chance because he was nice or funny. There are plenty of posts on Reddit about women giving a guy she’s not really attracted to a chance and what happened. There’s also just meeting people in person and trying to strike a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:23 PM
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Not even arguing that knowing how to hold a conversation with people is important. But if the woman doesn’t find you attractive, she will not be interested in the conversation. Having a conversation with someone actually willing to get to know you feels like a night and day difference. Anecdotal evidence I know, but go to a bar of concert with an attractive friend. That guy can literally strand there and mind his own business and attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 03:35 PM
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Being in a dead bedroom relationship either results in resenting the person or cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:57 AM
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Women don’t date feminist men. It’s ironic. Feminists men are the “nice guys” that women constantly complain about because it’s all performative. But somehow, a normal guy that’s nice is secretly evil somehow if a woman doesn’t find him attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:13 AM
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You have a point. I have never met a happy and fulfilled person in my entire life that has to convince me and constantly tell me they are happy. Misery loves company.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:56 AM
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This sounds like a dead bedrooms post. I’m honestly shocked every post doesn’t end with one party cheating to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:28 AM
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I ask again, why are women on this sub so nihilistic and antinatalists?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:23 AM
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Why are so many women here nihilistic and antinatalists? I’ve been seeing this trend play out since I left high school. Im seeing men go in the opposite direction, wanting marriage and kids more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:25 PM
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You are describing women. Their last boyfriend did something bad, now she walks around with a chip on her shoulder. Now every guy she never met is as bad as her ex boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:35 AM
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Do you really think men need some red pill podcast bro to tell them what’s real, or do men that have been hurt multiple times in their past relationships by a woman they liked tend to congregate around red pill podcast bros?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:31 AM
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I’m not going to treat a pretty woman better because there is no point. If she doesn’t like me, I still get nothing at the end. I treat all strange women I don’t know the same. I’ll treat my girlfriend or a woman I’m seriously dating a lot nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:14 AM
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My last girlfriend told me she liked me because I was willing to be disagreeable instead of pretending to be a certain type of guy. Being a push over and an ass kisser makes women actively avoid men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 03:08 AM
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There are too many single mothers out here for women to collectively always pick the good guys that wanted a serious relationship and kids. Women will get pregnant from a bum if she finds him physically attractive. I’ve seen it play out many times. Women don’t have sex with guys they consider ugly unless she wants something out of that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:38 PM
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Why do women think all men are bad and all women are good? Every thing you said about the average man applies to the average woman. Most guys dating issues start with women that are uninterested or woman that will willingly manipulate a man that has romantic feelings for her. Most women I meet on dating apps can’t even hold a conversation. Most women I meet will flake or ghost you when a simple, I’m not interested text will save me a lot of time, money, and heart ache. 99% of the time I hear a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:24 PM
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Being in a relationship as a man can honestly just mean you got lucky. Nothing wrong with that. Whenever I hear guys bring up “game”, I realize it’s about to be a silly conversation. Yes being able to hold a conversation is very important. But if you never were given an opportunity to show your personality because the other people doesn’t think you are attractive enough to talk to, you will not get a chance more often than not. Will “game” convince a woman that is NOT attracted to me physically,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:10 AM
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Is the sexual revolution only about porn stars and sex workers? The very premise of your statement seems flawed. Women in western countries can go out and have sex with whoever they want. Western women are not forced to get married and have autonomy over their own lives. The sexual revolution benefits all women, and the small demographic of men that can get casual sex easily. Sophie Rain doesn’t need a manager. She can do her own finances. She’s not getting screwed over because she’s a woman, sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:31 PM
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That’s such a ridiculous argument. Just slap an internet label on human behavior and assume you know what every man is thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:51 AM
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Where are theses men that insult easy women? Are these the same guys that can’t get any? Why insult someone that did exactly what you wanted? Are you only taking about the guy you picked?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:39 AM
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I automatically assume he’s batting for the other team, or is a player. No in between. Seeing you are struggling despite being surrounded by women, I’m assuming you are giving the vibe that you are one of the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:49 AM
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When women take a single look at you and never give you a chance to “banter” because she didn’t think you were attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 10:21 AM
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It’s not that these things don’t matter to women. It’s that being physically attractive trumps all. That woman wants the best looking guy to also be nice and respectful. Because he’s attractive, she will ignore the negative personality traits. End of day same result and it feels like personality does not matter to many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:06 PM
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Best I can do is a Starbucks date and a walk on the boardwalk.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:46 PM
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Life isn’t fair. Nothing is ever going to be 100% fair. As a guy if you struggle at dating the general advice normally helps. Talk to as many women as possible. Stay in shape and make money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 05:05 PM
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You don’t have a logical argument and you resort to attacking me when you don’t have a rebuttal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:07 PM
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I don’t see any man defending other men that lie and manipulate women. It’s not that it never happens, I don’t see it. I especially don’t see it in this sub Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:56 PM
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Again. That’s a strange argument. Why do I have to be held accountable because another man did something bad? I hold myself accountable for my own mistakes and wrongdoings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:49 PM
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This is a strange argument you are making OP. Men lie. Women lie. Children lie. Everyone lies at some point. Men are not inherently better liars or manipulators.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:40 PM
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This entire post is ridiculous. The moment I saw “observation is a very unreliable teacher” I knew everything posted would just be lies and conjecture. I see my physically fit friends get a lot of dates and my morbidly obese friend gets zero dates. According to OP, don’t trust your eyes. It has nothing to do with one guy being seen as attractive to significantly more women. I have a 5 foot tall friend and a 6 foot tall friend. The 5 foot tall friend gets zero dates while the 6 foot tall friend g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:22 PM
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Why do you people pretend women only go for guys with good personalities? It’s always good looks first for both men and women, good personality is a distant second or third requirement. If you are bald, fat, broke, old, short, your chances of finding a woman that likes you go down dramatically, but it’s not impossible. If women only cared about personality, why are there so many single mothers and divorced women? Why are the majority of young men 30 and below single while most women in the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:10 PM
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That would destroy the human race. In two generations, there would be no more people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:02 PM
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Most women will stop talking to a guy because he does not pay on the first date. It’s an annoying expectation that only benefits women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:18 PM
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Stop lying. A lot of women on this sub explicitly state they will stop talking to a guy if he doesn’t pay on the first date. Rare exceptions don’t disprove this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:04 PM
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As a man, generally you are treated as a ghost to be ignored, a potential threat, or a tool to be used and thrown away. Friends and family are supposed to be the exception, hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:43 PM
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A lot of dating advice found in Reddit or online in general is pretty bad. The most obvious advice that has results is work out often, dress nice, talk to women often, and try to improve your financial situation. After that it’s just a numbers game and luck for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:24 AM
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You are a very disingenuous and dishonest person. You are making wild statements and attributing to me. Not all men lie and manipulate. If you think all men need to lie and manipulate to get sex, you should seek therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:04 PM
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It’s Reddit, I’m allowed to comment on posts. You didn’t even read my comment. You lied and don’t even have a response. A lot of people lie and manipulate. It’s not unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:58 PM
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Don’t put words in my mouth. I didn’t say anything about lying or manipulation. You’re grasping at straws.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:52 PM
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Why can’t I want a relationship and regular sex? They don’t have to be separate. Women enjoy sex too. It’s not like every woman on the planet hates having sex with their boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 06:30 PM
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A guy that looks good can have sex or a relationship whenever he wants because women proposition him often. Guys with good personalities struggle to show their personality because most women don’t care about your personality until she’s physically attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 07:16 AM
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I just prefer people getting to the point. I get so annoyed when people dress an unpleasant message in flowery language.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:34 PM
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When facts like this are brought up, it makes me realize a lot of progressive outage is performative and manufactured. It’s only bad when someone else does it, not my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 03:13 AM
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The men I know that get the most causal sex and dates are the most sexist and misogynistic men I know. It’s a just world fallacy. You think only bad people suffer. No. This is real life. Women choose bad men all the time just because they are physically attractive or “exciting”. The average man is basically a ghost to 99% of women until she needs something from him or he tries to shoot his shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:54 AM
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I would feel like shit. That’s not a compliment to be told that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:23 AM
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If you are attractive, you can approach women. If you are not attractive, women don’t want you to approach them. I’ve noticed a long time ago, on Reddit almost anything a man does is turned into a negative action, unless that woman finds you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:02 PM
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This is just a post bashing man. All men are bad and will cheat, I might as well chase Chad. Not all men are bad or will cheat. Some obviously are. If every women in town wants one specific man, of course that single man has more opportunities than most other men in regards to dating or casual sex. Most people don’t do things just because they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:39 PM
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Reddit is an echo chamber. In my experience, whenever I make an unpopular opinion and it starts to get downvoted, the moderators eventually delete the comment. I normally don’t see comments with many downvotes because they get deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:00 PM
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Just be attractive and shoot your shot. Even if you’re not attractive, shoot your shot. The alternative is a lifetime of loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:13 PM
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I look at this as a losing game. If I have to lie to this woman to sleep with me, she’s doesn’t like me. What lies would I tell a woman I’m actually attracted to, no idea other than being fabulously wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:50 PM
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When I see women approach and do first contact, it’s ALWAYS the same guy another woman wants to shoot her shot with. If more women approached first, nothing would change for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:21 PM
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I don’t know the exact number but I believe they are much higher than 10-15%. I know too many guys in their 30s that are virgins that never had a girlfriend. The common denominator is they don’t ask enough or any women out at all. They might not interact with any women outside of coworkers and relatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:52 PM
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I don’t think you guys talk to real people off the internet. Even in South Korea, the 4B movement isn’t poplar off some internet groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:38 AM
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Bro if I’m in a relationship with someone, I trust them. The moment I start questioning her honesty or her past, the relationship is over. For example, if my girlfriend admits she was sexually adventurous in the past, but a prude with me. Strong chance she doesn’t like me that much. Relationship is over. If she tells me I’m the first guy to wine and dine her at age 30 and she’s not a virgin, she never wanted a serious relationship before now. Chances are it won’t last.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:26 PM
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It’s weird you focused on that instead of arguing against anything I stated in the previous comment. You’re the one that brought up most people don’t get married young.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:03 PM
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I believe what you wrote describes the red pill dudes demanding an 18 year old virgin bride. But other guys just see patterns of behavior in their past relationships and came to this conclusion. You can be a secure mature man and still see patterns of behavior you don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:47 PM
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I mostly agree with what you are saying. I just believe some people cheat just because they have the opportunity. Not all people, some. Good relationship, bad relationship, doesn’t matter. Some people are not loyal and will leave you for the next best thing. But I do believe this is not a large percentage of the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:41 PM
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To you, is alpha fucks beta bucks a permanent state of being or is it just a phenomenon that can be witnessed? I just believe it’s a common phenomenon. I believe anything that shows the nastier sides of human behavior, people just deny it because it doesn’t agree with their world view. The just world fallacy. In this sub, I see people admitting to marrying people just to not be lonely or keep appearances, or because it’s their only chance of having children, and a somewhat stable relationship. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:32 PM
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This is a rhetorical question, not a got you question. Have you ever been cheated on in a past relationship? A lot of people have. Do you think that past guy was unhappy in his relationship and just never said anything? Or do you think they are just unloyal and wanted to have sex with other people? Unhappy people are likely to cheat, but that’s not a good justification, that’s excuse when they could have just broken up. I just believe many people believe the grass is greener on the other side, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:27 PM
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Half of marriages end in divorce. I don’t think the trend of more people getting married and having kids older is a good thing. Anecdotally when I ask women would they marry their dream guy, most say yes. They just tell me “there are no good men”. When I ask what is a good man, they describe basic personality traits that describe most well adjusted men. When I look at their dating history, the truth is everyone looks for the most attractive person first, worries about personality second. When pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:05 PM
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I’m not against casual sex. I’m also not speaking in absolutes, just what I’ve seen and experience in my life. I know not every women cheats. I’m stating I’ve known many women that cheat for little to no reason because they found an attractive guy they want to have sex with. I’ve known people to cheat in “happy marriages” just because the opportunity presented itself. I’m describing alpha fucks beta bucks from the man’s perspective. If you are willing to fuck a hot guy you just met, because he’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:58 PM
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Is that your opinion, or are you saying that’s the opinion of the OP? Regardless, we have different opinions and life experiences. I believe it’s real because I see it play out in real life very often. I see women cheat on their boyfriends or husbands because they talked to an attractive guy at a bar or club. I see women in this subreddit arguing there’s nothing wrong with having sex with hot guys they know don’t care about them, while expecting the good guys to wine and dine them but not expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:49 PM
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You didn’t say anything to refute alpha fucks beta bucks. Are you arguing it doesn’t happen or are you trying to justify the behavior? There are men and women that get married young. Just because some don’t, doesn’t prove anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:33 PM
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When you say men are mad at women, do you mean a certain group of men or all men? I don’t even understand the point you are trying to convey in your post. Also what do you believe is causing all this hate? I blame social media for the most part. In my opinion, the most destructive ideas to society seem to spread quickly online. What about the women that openly and vocally hate men? It’s strange that this groups is rarely criticized. I’m not advocating for spreading hate. I just find it strange t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:15 PM
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What the hell are you talking about? I have never in my entire life met a man that got a good job to attract women unless he’s a rock star. This all sounds like unfocused ramblings. People take jobs they hate to pay their bills. You didn’t say anything about the economy being bad. Inflation and tariffs destroying the middle class. The cultural changes that happened very quickly due to new technology and social media. How access to birth control and abortions and a lack of close knit communities …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:03 PM
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It’s sad but nobody cares about your happiness if you are a man. The people with the power to help you, don’t care to do so. Will having a loving relationship with plenty of sex and affection make a man happier, definitely. But for some reason people will criticize you if you are unable to get this or if you even ask for help to get it. I’m not saying anyone is entitled to anything. Just an observation of how men wanting sex is almost always demonized.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:53 PM
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This is literally the flirting versus harassment meme but it happens in real life. Good looking guy says looking good Susan, that’s light flirting. If an ugly guy said the same exact thing in the same way, that’s a Human Resources complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:48 PM
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You can’t see a good personality. You can’t see if someone has the same goals, passions, and hobbies as you. You can see if you find someone attractive or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:55 PM
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I have a girlfriend. Nothing you said refuted my stated point. I never said personality doesn’t matter, I said someone has to find you attractive enough first then they will get to know you and your personality. I know plenty of awesome guys with great personalities. But for some reason no woman wants to give them the time of day to actually show their personality. It’s almost like people, not just women, first filter out people who they think are attractive then decide to get to know this perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:17 AM
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I’ve been saying this for years. People on Reddit are weird and believe in the just world fallacy. Horrible people win all the time. Karma doesn’t exist. The trope is hot jerks get the girl. That’s because women don’t care about a man’s personality if she doesn’t find him attractive enough to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:53 PM
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You can always get in better shape. You can always get a better paying job. You can become a more interesting person through your own life experiences. Nothing is set in stone. Some people definitely have it harder or easier than others from birth, but that’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:22 PM
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What does sexual prime even mean? Do you mean most horny, then this is a dumb and flawed arguments. If when you say sexual prime you mean this guy will be selected by women just because his looks, most guys never go through that and you are comparing apples to oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:06 PM
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Most women start having reproductive issues after 30. If a man wants kids with you, it’s a higher risk picking a woman 30+. Not impossible to have kids after 30, just more difficult on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:04 PM
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Don’t put words in my mouth. I didn’t say any of that. I explicitly mentioned setting on superficial standards if the two people like and respect each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:10 PM
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Ever since social media and dating apps came out, women have been more open about. I don’t want a scrub. He has to be six feet tall. He has to have blue eyes and work in finance. A lot of women openly shit on men for things outside of their control. Men do it too but I noticed the guys get banned significantly more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:55 PM
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80/20 rule in action. Does OP think men don’t think the same exact thing about women? Settling isn’t a bad thing as long as you actually like and respect the person. I want a girl that looks like Sydney Sweeney or Zoe Saldana but I probably won’t get one. Should I be bitter in miserable or just work with the tools I have?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:48 PM
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Have you ever met someone that tells you all their exs are crazy gold diggers, or misogynistic narcissistss? At what point should self reflection ever come up? After one bad relationship, after five, or ten? Or is it always everyone else’s problem but the common denominator?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:39 PM
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I don’t like blaming victims, but if you’re an adult, after a certain point you are willingly walking into a bad situation. That goes for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:09 PM
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Prince Charming or no one. But in reality a lot of women get married and have children. The most vocal against it are found online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:48 AM
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Not arguing, I just never heard male loneliness used in the context of making friends. I only hear it used regarding getting a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:35 AM
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“If you're cute you're probably not creepy.” This one line speaks volumes. Chad gets to flirt with her at the gym, everyone else is a creep for trying. It also sounds like a losing game for most men. Especially with women constantly recording themselves at the gym for content.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:29 AM
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The 40 year old virgin used to be a comedy movie. Now it’s reality. Only super attractive and rich guys could afford to be passive when trying to date. Normal guys will be ignored for their entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:46 PM
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I have never in my entire life met a man that says he hates sluts. I have met plenty of men that state they love sluts because they’re easy or they just avoid them. The only context I can image a man saying he hates sluts is in regards to a cheating girlfriend or wife, or how onlyfans is easy money for a small demographic of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:58 PM
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The real question is why am I treating these two women dramatically differently if I allegedly like them both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:22 PM
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I took my last girlfriend on a trips to Europe and bought her expensive gifts all the time. For you, my new girlfriend, a trip to Arby’s and sex in the parking lot is good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:57 PM
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A guy making things sexual just means he’s horny. A guy that romantically likes a woman still wants to have sex with her. Whether he genuinely likes the woman or only wants sex is up to the woman to figure out before having sex with him or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:18 PM
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Turns out no woman wants a push over. Took me too long to realize being myself is great. Even if I rub people the wrong way or individuals don’t like me. It filters out people I couldn’t have open and honest conversations with or women who wouldn’t date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:17 AM
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I hate how true that is. When I was nice and wanted love, nobody cared and I was always rejected. Now I’m more of an asshole not afraid to lose her, more women are attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:13 PM
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The problem is women put in zero effort and are still bombarded with matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:22 PM
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If you have a boyfriend or are married, how would he feel about you cuddling one of your guy friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:07 PM
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Can you elaborate? How is this male solipsism ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:44 PM
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I’d date a space alien before I date a robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:32 PM
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How is he a deadbeat dad? He wanted an abortion and he was open about not wanting to care for this child. No lies were told. Why should men not be able to pay off child support in full? This only benefits the state that gets a cut of the child support while bleeding the man dry. If the mother can’t budget one million plus dollars for the next 18 years, this woman should not be responsible for a child. This woman intentionally got pregnant with a pro athlete for an easy pay check.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:16 PM
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The most attractive and most wealthy guys are not monogamous. Their sex drive and ability to get women’s attention allow them to act this way. Look at the Facebook groups, are we dating the same man? Very few men get enough female attention to ever pull this off. Top tier guys basically get the power of an average woman in that regard. It’s just that most women don’t want the social stigma, have as high as a libido as most men, and fear an unplanned pregnancy or STDs so they don’t sleep around a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:59 PM
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I believe it is an abundance of choice. Because an average woman will get pursued by men in her regular life, work, at a bar, club, or dating app. Why go for the first thing that looks satisfactory if the next thing might be better. People with a very limited amount of choices will make one quickly, now you have many choices, you become indecisive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:37 PM
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I just believe it’s sexual selection and we’re all animals, just smarter animals. Now we have social media and dating apps, your options are no longer limited to the same people in the room as you. You can start “dating” people on the other side of the country. Men have to pursue women, men’s sex drive will make it happen. Women risk pregnancy and try to only get pregnant from guys they are attracted to. Because women have the ability to wait around for a better looking guy to come around now, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:33 PM
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Men do benefit women’s lives, even if that woman is single. I only see male construction workers, male garbage men, male electricians and plumbers. How do you know most men are bad in bed unless you had sex with most men? Or is it that you choose men that are selfish in bed or you don’t try to voice your concerns to him, you just complain about it online. Most men get good jobs and big house just to support a family. Many guys can live a basic life in a one bedroom apartment but choose not to on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:35 PM
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Don’t use me as a strawman argument. Of course a regular man could get a woman, otherwise the human race goes extinct. What the people you are arguing against say is a super attractive guy gets attention, dates, and casual sex from women quickly with little effort. Which is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 10:12 AM
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I’m here to see people argue. Sometimes I’m here to argue. Sometimes I see people with ridiculous beliefs and remember why so many people have relationship issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:21 PM
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I completely agree. What bothers me is it’s an obvious attempt at gaslighting. Women will say looks and height don’t matter be kind, be yourself, than in the same breathe state of course looks and height matter. Just today I saw a comment from a Jewish woman that stated she had sex with a neo nazi guy. But she was perfectly fine with the experience because the guy was attractive. In another post on Reddit, someone was poking fun at blue pill ideology by stating the hunchback of notredame Quasimo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 07:53 AM
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Ignore your biological imperative. Ignore your religious text that tells you to be fruitful and multiply. Ignore your desires for love and affection. Why? Because it’s hard to get love for many. Just because it’s hard to get doesn’t mean just give up bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:18 AM
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If those guys are super ugly, no woman would give them the time of day. I don’t know a single ugly player unless he’s rich or a drug dealer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 02:02 PM
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If these men were disgusting, not a single woman would give them the time of day. That post just shows a bunch of regular men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:58 PM
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Says they don’t care about undesirable men that do it. Tried everything in their power to get it shut down. Either they really care or they want to see these guys unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:34 PM
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Doesn’t care but writes an entire post talking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:32 PM
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Societal collapse and people permanently withdrawing from society and the idea of finding a loving partner are all bad things. These are signs of damaged society. Why is this being framed as a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:23 PM
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Or men could choose women that actually like and respect them. Not the easiest thing to find but not impossible. I truly believe treating interactions with machines like they are actual people is a sign of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:21 PM
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If you went your entire life unnoticed or ignored by the opposite sex, you will continue being unnoticed or ignored. You have to make a change in your life to get the results you want. The date on the calendar won’t change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 08:00 PM
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Why waste time. If the woman is interested, I’ll get my answer immediately. Being friends first to get dates is a losing strategy. That’s an easy way to get friend zoned. If I’ve been friends with you for 15 years, I don’t want to date you. Most people I know personally got a girlfriend through dating apps or cold approach. Most women I interact with on a day to day basis are already married or have kids, so I can’t really rely on getting dates at work. After leaving school, finding my peers bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:38 PM
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What I’ve noticed is the guys too shy too approach never will. Those guys now have an excuse why they don’t approach or talk to women. I hate to say this but I believe it’s the socially maladjusted guys that believe this narrative so strongly they don’t speak to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:56 PM
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I’m not as old as you. I was in grade school in 2008. After 2019, everything around me has gotten significantly more expensive. Your personal experiences are yours, not everyone else’s. I know several people that lost their homes in 2008. I’m not price charming or a woman, but I can get a date. Nothing you said refuted my statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:13 PM
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Finances are bad. Just staying above water is difficult without partying and drinking every other night. The expectation is for men to constantly ask women out and get rejected until a woman wants to go on a date. Then plan and pay for everything. Social media and dating apps made things worse. The gender wars weren’t prominent before social media. Now I’m constantly being compared to people that are either celebrities or lie about being fabulously wealthy and interesting on instagram or Snapcha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:53 PM
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What are you even talking about? I never said that. I have a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:31 PM
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It’s only surprising if you are blind or younger than 14. Every single man has seen it play out their entire life. Some guys have an extremely easy time getting dates or casual sex and other guys struggle. Women only protect and provide for their children. Men protect and provide for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:07 PM
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Not a single woman would choose an inexperienced guy over an experienced guy, everything else being equal. The guy that has lots of casual sex seems to get it more easily, even by many women who say his past actions are questionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:37 PM
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What are you talking about? I’m more annoyed societal collapse and having a growing group of disenfranchised and lonely people is being framed as a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:42 PM
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Funny how all these problems started happening when social media and dating apps came out. How do you explain the guys that are chased by women despite not having any positive attributes other than looking good or having money? Again, how do you explain the guys that have a girlfriend or already married that don’t have these positive traits? How are there more single men than women? Those numbers don’t make sense. Stop being disingenuous. You are only here to shame unsuccessful men and pander to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:31 PM
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The finish line usually meaning a high paying job and your life is stable and on an upward trajectory. It also sounds like you’re looking for Prince Charming. Those guys exist. But the guys with all the traits you’re describing are few and far between. You can find an interesting and passionate guy. If he’s broke or ugly, you won’t want him. It sounds like the guy you’re describing has to be wealthy, good looking, and have an interesting life, and be passionate, and have enough time to spend wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:51 AM
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So you’re saying women wait at the finish line and pick “winners”. If you’re broke or living a boring life you definitely can get a girlfriend. Obviously being in shape and having a good job makes dating easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:35 AM
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Evolution. Sexual selection. Every animal on the planet has the males pursue and the females get pursued.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:39 PM
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No. There’s no point in me dating someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 04:45 PM
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Men who lower their standards too low will never be happy in that relationship. Lowering your standards a little bit is being realistic. Nobody wants to scrape the bottom of the barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:30 PM
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My point being when I’m on reddit or twitter, the rhetoric of people is very doom and gloom. Not everything is bad all the time. The opinions of people on the internet are not always reflective of the reality of the world around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:49 PM
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I’m talking about today. Everything I mentioned is the normal everyday life of people not always on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:05 PM
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OP you are terminally online. Go outside and touch grass. 99% of people are straight. 50% of woman are in committed relationships and or have kids by 26. Most people couple up and have kids eventually. Thats the norm. Most normal people want to be in a committed relationship with someone they like. Men overwhelmingly do the hard jobs that keep society running. If AI takes mens jobs, women will also lose their jobs. OP your nihilistic attitude doesn’t help anyone. If there are more single men tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:51 PM
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No. I don’t want a stalker. I just want someone that enjoys my company and wants me around.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:02 PM
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Never
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 12:35 PM
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The people that go through life without struggling are shocked that other people have to struggle. It doesn’t help that most men can get relationships. It might not come easily but most men do get into relationships eventually. I’ve also noticed that on topics like this where a man complains about his relationship issue or lack of being able to get a date, a majority of people will use that as an excuse to attack the poster and make wild assumptions of them. At the same time, anecdotally the guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 11:26 AM
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If you’re sad lonely, just stay sad and lonely. If you’re poor, just stay poor. If you are unhappy with your current situation, just stay unhappy and accept it. This isn’t even advice or anything. u/Cjaylype is telling people to be miserable somewhere else where happy people can’t see or hear from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:15 PM
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It’s my personal experience. It happened several times. A woman friend says she has a single friend. Always sets up her friend with the womanizer of the friend group. All the single guys look on in disbelief.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:01 PM
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I got a girlfriend by being a funny asshole. I’m short and I’m not in great shape right now. Sometimes you just get lucky and find someone you get along with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:15 PM
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Me befriending women did nothing for my love life. If you’re attractive, your women friends will set you up with her other friends. If you’re not attractive enough, you’ll be treated as just another friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:31 PM
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Major red flag. Might as well end all contact right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:46 PM
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Men and women cheat in about equal numbers. I’ve never heard a man in my life use “situationship”. Every single time I hear a woman use this word, she knows she’s with a taken man or she’s with a man she knows won’t commit. You’re also stating that women seem to all want the same small group of men, curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:38 PM
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It’s okay if you disagree with me. What do you consider to be a lie? Please be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:20 PM
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Being the “nice guy” is a losing strategy overall. Be polite but not be afraid to offend people. Don’t be mean spirited or rude, tell jokes, use innuendos, and tip toe around the line. Being passive as a guy will result in you being single forever unless you are really physically attractive and or wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:48 PM
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The greatest irony is the guys I know that want long term relationships can’t get one. While the guys I know that are considered fuckbois have women throwing themselves at the guy that doesn’t care about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:58 PM
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I’m pretty sure if you asked 100 couples why they don’t want kids right now, they will say finances is holding them back. An exception doesn’t negate what I stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:46 PM
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That’s false. Birthrates are declining because rent and housing prices keep increasing but the average and median income aren’t. Especially bad considering how inflation has recently increased the prices of everything around us. There’s also the fact that too many women are waiting until their 30s and up to have children. That’s considered a geriatric pregnancy. Daycare can cost up to $2,000 a month for a single child. Parents have for choose between their job and their child. That’s not a probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:54 PM
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Why do people on Reddit pretend people are not shallow in real life? In real life you will be instantly rejected if someone doesn’t find you physically attractive. You will not get a chance to show your personality because they don’t find you attractive enough to interact with. The difference in dating apps is you won’t even get a chance to speak. If you struggle on apps, you will definitely have an easier time in real life, the caveat is just as many people in real life will waste your time for…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:21 PM
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My own personal experience. On three separate occasions I can remember, a woman I’ve known for over a decade said something along the lines of this. If my boyfriend cries in front of me for any reason, he’s a bitch and I will dump him. I’m disgusted by that mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:37 PM
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They are not trying to help you or give you advice. They are saying platitudes that don’t mean much to feel better about themselves and their worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:54 PM
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I noticed no one cares about age gap relations once the woman is above age 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:19 PM
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The most toxic and miserable people are the most vocal on the internet. There are people that think this way in real life, but you’re less likely to hear opinions like this in person. There’s also not much point thinking about it, just avoid people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:33 PM
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People treat attractive people better. Thats just a fact. Men do it too. The difference is men find a wider range of women attractive enough to talk to, date, have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:20 PM
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Personal anecdote. When I ask women for dating advice, they all tell me be myself. That’s terrible advice in and of itself. If being myself worked, I wouldn’t be asking for help. Guys normally tell you constructive things like get in shape, dress better, make money, smile while approaching woman as much as possible. The handsome man thing is somewhat true. I’ve seen my attractive friends walk into a building and women throw themselves at him, without him doing or saying anything. The same guy te…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:36 PM
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The way I always interpreted this discussion was would you rather be the guy an attractive girl has sex with minutes after meeting up, or the guy that has to wine and dine the woman for months before getting any affection? No guy wants to be the latter. If the guy actually likes this woman, he wants both sex and affection from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:58 PM
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They are not. The truth of the matter is an attractive man has options on who to date or have sex with, and will act upon it. An average guy or below average guy has virtually zero options for dates or sex. Any guy could pump and dump a woman. The attractive guy can actually do it regularly if he felt like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:42 PM
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My experience with dating apps was awful. I received between one match a week to one match a month. Once I did receive a match, she’s either uninterested, a catfish, scamming me, wants to use me for free food and money, or a prostitute. Every man except for two that I’ve talked to has told me they had the same experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:21 PM
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This is such terrible advice. You are sad because you want a girlfriend? Get used to loneliness. What the hell does “less women in dating” mean. The population spilt is pretty close to 50 50 in most countries, yet somehow there are more single men, than single women. Obviously few guys are dating multiple women, and there’s a group of guys with nothing. If every guy was as desperate as you say, there wouldn’t be any single obese women, or single women that are less attractive. They exist too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:45 PM
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Regardless of gender, how ethical and polite you are is the absolute last thing people will look for in a relationship. Do I find you somewhat attractive, do I find you entertaining to be around are the two most important questions. Money, lifestyle, and status also come into play before anyone cares how nice you are. People make their own decisions even if they don’t like the end result.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:08 PM
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The single time in my life when a female friend wanted to play matchmaker, she decided the womanizer with zero issues getting women was her friends type over her other 8 single guy friends. Truth of the matter is if you are physically attractive you can almost do no wrong and things just always workout. I’ve seen one guy hook up with every woman in a friend group and another guy ostracized for trying. If you are not that attractive, you will likely struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:57 PM
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Everyone cheats. What does politics have to do with this? In my experience, the people trying to appear holier than thou, are hiding skeletons in their closet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 07:09 PM
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I know some guys with really high paying jobs. That never helped them get women because they are not the most physically attractive and or are socially awkward. I’ve seen women bend over backwards to get with a guy because they find him attractive. Having a lot of money obviously helps, compared to being broke and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:43 PM
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I agree to a certain extent, but there’s an issue. Most guys if they said I just want sex and nothing else, they would get absolutely nothing. Most guys can’t even get a woman to agree to a date unless he asks a multitude of women. Even the women that want to hook up want a guy to have a little tact when asking, being blunt will get you rejected. So guys that want hookups play the “dating” game not because they want to, but because that’s the only option. I’m not justifying, just explaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:35 PM
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I disagree with you. You can be charismatic, funny, cheerful, insightful, intelligent and still fail sometimes when it comes to dating. Your personality may not mesh well with a specific woman, but you’ll have great interactions with another. There is no universal answer to make every woman want you. What one women considers an attractive personality could be off putting to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 07:35 PM
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I don’t understand what you are even arguing at this point. I explicitly said nobody cares you are a good person until they find you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 07:27 PM
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I didn’t say any of that. You are just trying to attack my character without knowing anything about me. Nobody is going to date you or fuck you because you’re a nice person. The point I’m making is you have to be physically attractive to a woman first before she care how great of a person you are. Men do the same thing. Some guys will fuck or date any woman, most guys need her to be pretty enough and like her personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 07:24 PM
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The way I interpreted your post, you are making it seem like women do not care what a man looks like. There are plenty of women that want a guy with a good personality I can agree on that. But It’s disingenuous to say no women pursues guys just because their looks. Even the women that want a guy to treat them right, will ignore most guys that pursue them purely based upon how he looks. Personally in my own life, I’ve seen multiple women have sex with a guy she met less than an hour ago purely ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:52 PM
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This is how the OP thinks. Not all women behave like this. Seeing women chase after a guy just because she thinks he’s attractive is eye opening. Seeing it happen multiples times while simultaneously getting ignored by the same women changes your views on life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:13 PM
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4B is a niche internet trend even in Korea where it originated. Absolutely nothing will come of this in America, which has a radically different culture and reason to even start the trend. The guys that can’t get a date or casual sex will continue not getting anything. Desirable men will be not be affected because they are desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:57 PM
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I explicitly said you don’t need all these traits to date. I said not having them makes finding a date harder. In my personal experience, the guys that struggle the most don’t try to interact with women enough and or walk around with a chip on their shoulder. Eventually most guys do date. It might not be with a woman that’s a super model and it might not be every women they like, but it will happen with persistence or finding someone with common hobbies and or outlook on life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 08:50 PM
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It’s really simple. Is the guy good looking, tall, has a good career, and his own place, social and able to interact casually with strangers. Not having these things does not make dating impossible, but it makes things harder. You don’t even need everything I listed, but not having them means you have to try harder than the guy that has all these positive traits. You can be short, fat, and rude and have a good dating life, but there are significantly less women willing to give you a chance if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 08:41 PM
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There’s another issue. One woman’s flirting is another woman’s just be nice and friendly. Many women would never directly approach a man, they will wait for the guy to come along and make a move. My current girlfriend loves to play coy in public. When it’s just us alone, she’s a lot more affectionate. There is no 100% certainties in anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:39 PM
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I said the exact opposite. I even called out other guys that do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:07 PM
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That’s a little harsh. How am I being a piece of shit? By being upfront with my intentions?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:45 PM
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I get that most guys want casual sex. I want casual sex. Having to lie to women to get it is pathetic. I’d rather be upfront. Not because I’m moral or ethical, but because having to keep up a lie annoys me. You’re also someone causing more problems in the world by doing this. If I tell the truth about just wanting sex, the majority of women won’t be about it. But when I find the woman that’s about it, I wasted zero time and I got what I wanted. Or you can find a girlfriend that has a high sex dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:01 PM
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Women in my life like my mom, my sister, friends I’ve known longer than a decade do the same exact thing. The women are wonderful effect and in group bias is insane. They will usually take the side of a strange woman they don’t know over me. Reddit is the worst offender. No matter what horrible things a woman does, Reddit will justify it by saying it’s somehow a man’s fault. I’m not going to pretend I’m an angel or a man is never at fault for something going wrong, but it feels like I’m in crazy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 06:01 PM
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My mom was 25 when I was born. I do believe that’s the best age to have kids. I’m almost 30 but my finances are terrible. I legitimately can’t afford to take care of a child and a wife right now. Most women don’t want to struggle together, especially after giving birth. Most women I know don’t want kids, until they reach almost 30 then most change their opinions. In the 80s and 90s, my relatives told me rent was only $500 a month. Those same apartments have rent for $2200 a month. Housing prices…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:19 PM
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Some have no friends. Just acquaintances and coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:57 PM
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I’m assuming most people are young. I started losing friend the moment I left high school. Then I graduated college and a lot of my friends started moving across the country, getting married, and having kids. It’s hard to maintain a relationship with everyone and some friendships you just slowly grow apart. Most older people I talk to tell me they have significantly less friends now than they had in high school or college.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:35 PM
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Some people have a falling out for one reason or another and lose a whole circle of friends overnight. Some people move across the country for a job, a failed relationship, or just the desire to live somewhere else. I’ve met plenty of people with little to no friends because of this. I don’t automatically judge someone for having no friends but I am curious why.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:20 PM
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When I approach women in real life, I get instantly rejected 4/5 times. That’s still significantly better than my chances on any dating app. And if she likes my personality, my chances of something happening are great because she already knows how I look and act in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:53 PM
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Peoples opinions on the internet are mostly useless. A lot of people have nothing better to do than have pointless arguments and be judgmental. Go for what you want and be able to take rejection without getting upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:42 PM
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The only men that value a virgin are celibate men. There are very few celibate men. I never understood why dudes on the internet lie and say they want a virgin. They obviously don’t. How do you want to have sex often and you want a virgin. If you are out of high school, those things are pretty incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 10:06 AM
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Some guys would fuck anything moving. For some guys, that’s not even a problem. Most guys have standards. The real point of contention is that a lot of guys don’t have to like you or find you particularly attractive to have sex with a woman. Every single guys standard for a relationship will be significantly higher than his standards for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:52 PM
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Most guys will eventually find a relationship with a normal woman. But I know significantly more men than women that struggle to get a single date. Not every guy is a dirty unwashed unemployed piece of shit. Guys that are short, ethnic, socially awkward, or just plain ugly will struggle to find love more than women. Many will rebuttal it’s worse for ugly women. Purely anecdotal but I know a lot more ugly women that are married with kids than men. Everyone has some form of shallowness in them. Mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:31 PM
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Some guys are too desperate. They could look for women that want casual sex, but if the guys aren’t the most attractive, they will have a hard time finding them or have to lower their standards for how the woman looks. That’s how a lot of guys justify lying to women. They could just get a prostitute if all they wanted was sex, but everyone will criticize the guys actions even though it’s exactly what a lot of women tell horny guys to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:06 PM
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If you are celibate, there’s nothing wrong with that. You can find a guy with the same beliefs. The guys that lie to get sex are sad. Guys have a strong sex drive and want it often, that’s just the reality of the world. I don’t understand the passport bro thing. Are they actually looking for wives or cheap and easy sex? I hear what people say then observe their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 01:56 PM
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Nobody likes being treated unequally. If you tell me you had sex with the last ten guys you dated in the first date but I have to wait 3 months, it feels like you don’t actually like me and you’re playing games. If you made every single guy you had sex with wait three months before getting intimate, most guys wouldn’t be upset if they actually wanted to date you. If I told you I bought my last girlfriend expensive gifts, took her on trips, and went shopping with her often, but you only get McDon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 01:43 PM
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The only standard is a double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:40 PM
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I’d rather keep suffering at that point. Your desires push you to do new things. I think Buddhism is cool on paper. I don’t think in practice it’s how people should be living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:54 AM
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I agree that people should be happy outside of a relationship but I disagree with everything else. Wanting companionship is normal. Wanting a girlfriend, a wife, a family, or just sex is normal. I don’t think outright ignoring those feelings is healthy. Telling men to be passive usually means a lot of men will not date for years or even decades because they didn’t put the effort in. Most women have the luxury of being passive and waiting for a boyfriend to walk into their life. The majority of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:50 AM
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Every single time I go out with my friends it’s exactly the same story. My friends and I could find numerous women pretty enough to talk to. Women only ever approach one or two of my friends. Everyone else just gets ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:25 PM
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I have interpreted nice guy as a push over or doormat since high school. Being a boisterous asshole will always get a man more attention than being a passive pushover that can’t open their mouth or express how they really feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:39 AM
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Most men I know struggle to find a single woman to date. What the hell are you smoking?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:11 AM
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I get what you are saying, but it sounds like shooting yourself in the foot. Can you give me an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 03:41 PM
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All you have to do is be attractive. A lot of things women on Reddit say stops mattering if they meet an attractive guy. Go to bars, clubs, and concerts with an attractive guy as a friend and you will see. I also learned that most dating advice on Reddit is bad. Unless everyone knows the full story, people will give you the most generic and or unhelpful advice. I don’t recommend being friend first, that’s terrible advice. Make your intentions known immediately so you don’t waste time. If you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:48 PM
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I only hear people complaining about age gap relationships when the woman is under 30. After 30 years old, people magically stops caring if a woman is dating someone 20 years older than her. I’m of the mindset that as long as nothing illegal happened, nobody gets hurt, nobody was groomed, go for it. I might think it’s weird, but it’s not illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:05 PM
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You are judging men as a group and are making sweeping generalizations right now. The majority of men do think women are people. You would never truly understand a straight man’s struggle in trying to date women because you never lived this life. The same way I can sympathize but I cannot empathize or truly understand women specific issues because I never lived that life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:14 PM
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I remember seeing a study that mostly married men use onlyfans and prostitutes. I know a lot of successful and rich doctors and accountants that are upfront about their use. I personally don’t care what other people do in the bedroom. This isn’t an attack on OP, but a certain group of women say sex work is real work, but the men that engage are disgusting pigs apparently. And despite sex work being real work, they would not like it if their daughter, sister, mother, or best female friend engaged…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:14 PM
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Dishonest people and their double standards. Everyone has wants and needs. Unless you are asking for something ridiculous, in your relationship how both of you feel should be important. For some reason toxic posts and comments get liked into the front page of every website. Toxic people will say my wants and needs are always more valid than yours. A lot of people don’t want to go full mask off and say they don’t like a certain demographic of people and are just openly biased in all their comment…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:37 PM
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Whenever I see a YouTube video about what you are describing, the woman using Tinder as a straight man gets very depressed and discouraged immediately due to the lack of matches and being ghosted or ignored by the majority of their matches. Women either don’t know or don’t care about a man’s experiences dating or attempting to get a date. It’s easier to change yourself than try to change the whole world.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:08 PM
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A burka or a face veil. Unflattering drab baggy clothes that don’t show your shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:42 PM
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Look homeless or look like a drug addict. Results aren’t 100%. If you are really attractive, it won’t make much of a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:40 PM
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You can be successful at something and still complain about it. I honestly believe Reddit is full of a lot of negative a bitter people waiting to throw unfounded personal attacks at you as soon as you disagree with them or their worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:16 PM
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The problem is the overwhelming majority of men cannot wait. If you are not the most physically attractive man, waiting will result in the man being alone forever. Women have the ability to wait for a potential date or partner to walk into their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:56 PM
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I get you now. What you said makes sense. As a guy all you can do is make money, workout, and live your best life regardless if you have women or not. What you said was true. Become your best self because the alternative is failure and loneliness. In the post I was referencing, I said something along the lines of a guy could be an amazing and funny person. His chances at dating or casual sex aren’t zero, but he’ll likely struggle if he’s not attractive. Some women basically called me stupid and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:51 PM
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I don’t follow. I actually believe in monogamy and marriage. I’m fine with a friend with benefits relationship but I’d rather have a committed relationship. Not everyone can be rich or hot. You can self improve but even that has limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:33 PM
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Some women that responded to me in a separate post told me they rather be a side chick to a hot guy, over dealing with a less physically attractive guy. I did not say ugly guy, just a guy that’s less physically attractive than the hot guy. They also stated that getting a regular guy to date them is easy. Some guys have to lie to get sex, while a growing minority of men seem to struggle to get the attention of a single woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:46 PM
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I find it weird how instead of just asking me to elaborate or asking follow up questions , you come off aggressive and condescending for no reason. Most people aren’t hot. The majority of people are pretty average. If I say all I want in a woman is good company and loyalty, you would think a lot of women qualify. If she’s average in looks and has these qualities, you would think I would give her a shot, right? In this subreddit, primarily women like to gaslight men and say looks don’t matter. Go…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 04:02 PM
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Most people are average. If you are below average in looks as a man, most women won’t give you a chance to show your social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:20 PM
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If you are a women, its implied. Guys get upset at situations like this because it was not explicitly stated. They did not pick up on the implication.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:14 PM
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The explanation I agree with is that women don’t tell you the prerequisite is being a hot guy. She genuinely wants a guy that’s nice to her, charming, takes her on dates. The caveat with some women is if you are a hot guy, you don’t have to do much. You could have all the positive traits she wants, but because you are not physically attractive enough, she will not give you a chance. Some women are just virtue signaling because if they told you their true thoughts and opinions, she might be criti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:01 PM
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Everybody lies. Men lie, women lie, children lie. Some guys lie off their dick. Some guys lie so they won’t be criticized for their lack of success with women. Some guys have low standards and will have sex with literally anyone that says yes. Some guys date often but can’t find a women he actually likes, wants to have sex with, or is willing to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:21 PM
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None of my female friends that I’m attracted to are single. Every time one of my friends has a single friend or they decide to play match maker, for some reason they always set up my one friend that has zero issue getting women. My social circle stopped helping me get dates when I left college. Cold approach and dating apps suck, but that seems to work significantly more for me than relying on my social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:02 PM
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Genuinely a nice person. Actually likes my company. Honest. Laughs at my jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:26 PM
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As a man, either you find someone because your social circle, or you cold approach, or use dating apps. Social circle is the best but not 100%. The overwhelming majority of people don’t have the mental fortitude to get rejected 100 times in a single day. You will succeed eventually, but that’s painful. Dating apps are the quickest method and worst method for most people. If you’re a guy and you are not super attractive, good luck. Take a lot of interesting pictures with good lighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:34 PM
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I noticed that black people get negative stereotypes associated with them more often than other races. People can’t be bothered to treat you objectively and make assumptions of you and your way of life because your skin color. What blows my mind is when you don’t follow a stereotype, it legitimately confuses people. Whenever dating or sex comes into conversation, suddenly everyone has something negative to say about black women as a whole despite most people making the negative comments never ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:14 AM
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It sucks, but that’s just the reality of our world. You just have to keep trying and hope for the best but not get too upset if you get rejected. The only thing keeping me going is the fact if you get rejected 99 times, but 1 woman like you at the end, you still win. The numbers are ridiculous and the task is hard but you have to keep going because the alternative is worse for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:17 PM
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In my personal experience, when a guy list preferences, the guy is more than likely willing to go out with a women that does not match his preference if she’s attractive enough and he likes her personality. The women I personally know are not as lenient with preferences. The women I know, their preferences are seen as a minimum requirements unless you have known her for longer than a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:50 PM
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It’s an apples to oranges comparison. They are different problems but both are still relevant. Women mostly complain they don’t know if a guy actually likes her or is using her. Guys mostly complain about not getting enough opportunity or attention from women. This isn’t a debate, this feels like a rant by OP. At the end of the day, nobody wins when you play the misery Olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:18 PM
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Money makes you beautiful to a lot of people. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:31 PM
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In my personal experience most women old and young prioritize finding an attractive guy or a guy with money, preferably both. I feel that the women that go for personality are few and far between, and you have to meet a certain look threshold. Obviously nobody wants to date someone they are repulsed by, but when people say looks don’t matter, they are being disingenuous. And it will always be easier to find someone to date by being attractive over having an interesting personality. You can’t see…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:17 PM
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The only advice my mother gave me about dating was ask women out often, get a good job and make money, avoid gold diggers and single mothers. My dad just told me not to get anyone pregnant before having a good job.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:33 PM
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Wanting sex is literally in our biology. That’s not an excuse to cheat in a monogamous relationship. The guys that say that are telling on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:36 PM
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You sound like a very miserable person and these are all strawman arguments. Not every guy will cheat on you. Most guys don’t want to, or will ever see a prostitute. A person that’s always being tempted because they are given the opportunity to do something like cheat, are more likely to cheat. When most people say lower your standards, they mean stop looking for Prince Charming and mister perfect. Just give a chance to a guy that actually nice to you and attractive enough. No one is saying go o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:25 PM
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In my experience, most guys will stick with the first woman that’s nice to him that he finds attractive. Of course there are more standards, but these are the main two criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 07:35 PM
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I only see the argument that men will be arrested for approaching women online. This is not something that happens in real life. I’m not Casanova and I have just as much fear of rejection as everyone else. Worse case scenario she says no or she says something mean that hurts your feelings. You have to do something illegal to get arrested for showing interest in a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:36 PM
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People do not always act reasonably and with logic 100% of the time. The great majority of people I meet believe a nuclear family would make raising a child easier and more successful in life. At the same time, There is a lot of man hating rhetoric online and in the mainstream media. There are bad people in the world, but just assuming someone is a bad person because they are a certain demographic makes you a bigot. Anecdotally, some women I know think child support and food stamps are a better …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 02:01 PM
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Or you just don’t like the person you are dating that much and you cut your losses. Being desperate and being in a relationship with someone you legitimately can’t stand will get old quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:07 PM
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Blade Runner and Her were prophetic. These are unsettling trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:38 PM
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There has been poverty since the dawn of civilization. If you wanted to have kids and find a way to support a family, you could. The idea that every woman was a stay at home mother was primarily for high class people after WW2. If two people were willing to struggle together and actually make it work, they could. But now everyone thinks that it’s possible to live a life with zero struggle. Even if you make more money, people will find a new way to struggle and increase their expenses. Another fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:45 AM
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Most men I know don’t like talking about their trauma and keep to themselves. Either they fix their problems or suffer through it. Most men are ridiculed at some point in their life for opening up emotionally so we are forced to just deal with it. The overwhelming majority of women I meet have some type of trauma and are more than willing to tell if I talked to them for longer than 3 minutes. The women I know are also more likely than men to have someone be supportive and caring about their issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:16 PM
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Either invisible or an npc. But then again I’m not middle aged. I got another 20 years before that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:44 PM
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I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with the age gap argument, all I can say is everyone is a willing participant. Rarely is anyone a victim. I’m not talking about gr00ming or obviously illegal activities. I mean two consenting adults doing whatever they want. Do I find it weird when a 58 year old man dates an 18 year old women? Yeah, but everyone knows what’s going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:58 PM
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Sounds like the literal end of humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:56 PM
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