Vulcan1347 Archive

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51	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way?	Discussion	Vulcan1347	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 02:03 PM

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3	How is hookup material much different to dating material? I can't speak to his experience, but this has been true for me in life. I get hit on a lot by women seeking casual hookups, but generally, it doesn't follow through. Even many times making it back to her place or whatever, but in the end, just cuddling or sleeping on the couch. I think the reason is that after a few hours of interacting with me, most women begin to view me as a guy that is more emotionally in depth, more interested in her as a human being, more complex than someone they're just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/20 03:50 PM
2	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? Yeah. It's more nuanced than that, but those are some of the frustrations. One thing I can say that is kind of a positive thing is that as I've gotten older, I do consistently attract younger women. And I'm not entirely sure why this is beyond the standard reasons, but it has definitely become a pattern for me. Not that I even seek it out, they seek me out. Most of these women self describe as having Daddy Issues. Which I know is not a clinical term, but it's one they consistently use. I've hypo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/20 09:04 PM
2	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? I relate to this completely. My upbringing was basically the same. And I know people don't see me as particularly affectionate. I've had better luck dating women either through on-line dating, where I can build a rapport with someone through conversation over a period of time and then meeting or with women who approach me and take initiative. Unfortunately, initiating sex is very difficult for me as well, which is why I do better with an assertive woman who can state specifically what she wants …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 09:07 PM
3	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? I'm sorry you went through all of this. One comment someone posted here was interesting to me in that he said you can reject the influences of your upbringing intellectually and even in terms of lifestyle, but some part of it is always at work in the back of your psyche. I know that's been true for me in various ways and holds me back from having the experiences and fully realized relationships I'd like to. You mentioned you've sustained a very positive relationship with a fwb for 10 years now. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 08:34 PM
1	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? That's good to hear. I'm happy for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 08:09 PM
1	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? I didn't see before your comment about your situation with your previous fiancé. That's the problem I see too with many people. If a relationship is simply based off of "feelings", attraction and attachment, without a contractual obligation, then it will end because people's attachments and emotions ebb and flow over time. I'm sorry that put a rift between you and your community. Have you been able to heal any of the ostracization with your family, or do you still feel outcast? Are you still pra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 08:02 PM
4	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? I'm not gonna lie, I can see the appeal to wanting a marriage and a partner like yourself. One of the problems with how relationships are viewed in modern Western civilization I think is the expectation or ideal that one's partner must be everything. Which is impossible to achieve and always leads to disappointment. Seeing marriage for what it is, a contractual business arrangement meant to provide stability and secure people's legacies is a reasonable way of maintaining it long-term. Best case …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 07:11 PM
3	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? So if you married someone for stability and having a husband for life, would you be accepting of them if they one day decided to take a mistress discreetly or visit a brothel if there were no romantic feelings between you and your partner?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 06:30 PM
5	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? So is the final outcome of a relationship such as marriage, lifelong commitment, stability, etc. more important than the actual experience or quality of the relationship itself to you? What happens if you marry someone who is willing to commit and 2 or 6 years later you realize you're really not suitable for one another domestically?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 06:13 PM
4	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? I mean. I suppose each person might interpret it differently, but I think there are many good examples here already from other users. In my family environment for instance, sex was never really talked about, or if it was, was mentioned with a sense of disgust. Any movies that had sex scenes were either turned off or fast forwarded. My parents slept in separate bedrooms and I never saw any kind of physical affection between them. I remember a sermon once in my parents' church where the discussion…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 06:03 PM
7	Q4ALL: PPD people who grew up in very conservative environments, do you feel it affected your relationship experiences or sexuality in any notable way? Do you attribute your low libido to the upbringing environment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/20 05:44 PM
28	Why do you like when women send you nudes? I think men are more visually stimulated than women, and that's part of it. Some on here have said that if you send nudes, guys aren't jacking off to them, but just like to have them like trophies. That's not true for me at all. If I get nudes from someone, I'm jerking off to them because I want to think about that person. And I'm saving them because I want the memory of that person. But I also like the validation that someone is thinking of me enough to send it to begin with. I think women can …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/20 03:33 PM
1	For those of you that didn't get to date in your youth, would prefer a LTR with someone your own age or younger? If I feel anger towards anyone, it's towards my parents and upbringing environment for being so restrictive I never got to have the social and dating experiences most people had when I was younger. The first girlfriend I ever had, I ended up marrying and move in with simply to get away from my family's influence. That lasted a long time, but we were never entirely compatible, just didn't know that because of lack of experience. And when that ended, I found myself in a world of adults with whom I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/20 12:56 PM
1	Who among us has "settled?" I'm in my early forties. I know. I sound like I'm about 80.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/20 12:35 PM
2	Who among us has "settled?" The real answer to this is far too convoluted and long for me to post here, though I could give you details by pm. I still look for ways where I might be able to get out. But the thing is, I actually would not be fine due to our unique circumstances. If I was in my 20's it would be different starting over. But I would not be as comfortable and secure as I am now. And I'd probably end up struggling financially or emotionally at some point down the road, at an age in life when I least could afford…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/20 03:56 PM
1	Who among us has "settled?" We're investors. Real estate and expanding to other investments.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/20 10:09 PM
5	Who among us has "settled?" I've settled in life and I die a little more inside every day. I've settled for a relationship without love, without affection, without attraction, for the sake of financial security and routine. We've lived together for long enough now and our lives are so intertwined in terms of finances and investments, that I don't feel like I'd be able to walk away even if I wanted to. And I want to. We live together, sleep in separate bedrooms, try to avoid one another most of the time. We're civil, don't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/20 05:06 PM
1	Sex Isn't a "Need" or Prostitution Would Solve It - Men Want the TINGLES I mean. This is kind of why gfe is the most highly sought and expensive service that sex workers provide.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/19 07:12 PM
1	Any other late bloomers in here? How does your past affect your relationships nowadays? I'll say this. I was an introverted and very socially awkward kid up through high school and never dated anyone. There were actually girls that liked me, but I was too inexperienced to even realize that at the time. The first person I had sex with at 21, I ended up moving in with quickly and eventually marrying. We stayed together for about ten years before getting divorced. So, in my 30's I literally had to try to learn how to date from scratch without any experience whatsoever. And it became e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/19 03:43 AM
1	Let's talk about Whores. My girlfriend is a sex worker. I love her immensely. It's honestly probably the best relationship I've ever had. There's a lot of myths surrounding sexwork, but I've been surrounded by it really almost my whole life in one way or another. But one thing I see here consistently is this notion that sexworkers have sex with people they don't desire or do it only for the money. I can say in all honesty, that is not true. Maybe for some people in the industry and certainly those that are trafficked, s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/19 03:54 AM