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Weird. My beautiful friend Erica married a wonderful man very recently. She has two kids under 6. He loves them as if they were his own, and doesn’t want his own biological kids. The girl’s bio father is a deadbeat who’s addicted to pills. Her new husband is just wonderful in every way, and she and him really deserve each other, so glad they met.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:53 PM
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I’m glad she’s doing well and I’m sorry if my comment rehashed any of the pain she went through.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:40 PM
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I’m SO sorry this happened to you and that you had to come back here to rehash it all over again. I had no idea this happened and my flippant comment was genuinely just that - a series of rage posts in response to some anger felt over stuff I read here. I would never intend to disparage you or make you go through the drama you went through here again. Again I apologize and I hope you are doing well! Edit: fwiw the biggest fight I got on on this sub was actually a with a woman too, I was surprise…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:38 PM
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Well that’s really too bad and I’m sorry to hear it. Glad you agree that bullying on here is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:38 PM
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Why was she bullied? Was she a women red piller?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:33 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:32 PM
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I know and I’m glad for them, granted they aren’t pilled or treat her poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:31 PM
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Or themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:30 PM
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Weird. Not the neutral place it claims to be then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:29 PM
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The chads that steal all the good ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:46 PM
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Do you hold views like Michael does?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:45 PM
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Yes they do. And for the 100th time a woman reacting angrily to a man’s targeted misogynistic views is not overreacting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:44 PM
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Case in point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:43 PM
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Is my comment really that surprising? If people were respectful toward her I’m shocked. All it takes is one hateful comment, and that’s kind of the usual here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:42 PM
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Take care of yourself first and foremost!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:40 PM
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What are you doing in here then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:39 PM
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Wouldn’t change much, just a big ass. I don’t need a reason to buy obscure jean sizes. Also I don’t need any more reason for lecherous stares.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:37 PM
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Probably left because you guys and the depressing disparaging shit you constantly post wrecked her spirit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:28 PM
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If your high earning stem guy friends chased and fell in love with women in a lower income bracket that’s on them. If they are happy who cares? My friend, a woman, makes over 200k a year as a salesperson and her husband brings in like 50k as a cop. They love each other and appreciate what each brings to the marriage. Not every relationship is a simple “transaction”. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:26 PM
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Also, a persons “honesty” is just them speaking their “truth” and opinion, which is entirely subjective. Doesn’t mean it’s some universal truth. People love the love on the spectrum cast for their complete inability to be anyone but themselves, inability to lie, etc. Michael was disliked by many for his sexist comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:22 PM
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YouTube comments are the best source of truth and reality!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:20 PM
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Beside misogynist/sexist hostile hatred and treatment from these men (which is enough, emotionally damaging af), if they jump up to the next level they start decrying feminism as a whole, vote against women’s rights (roe v wade), oh and some on the fringe go next level crazy and become the next mass shooter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:17 PM
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PPD men get fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:13 PM
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Also his “honesty” is not a representation of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:13 PM
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He is still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:45 PM
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Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:44 PM
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Same. Just makes me angry about the one IRL person I knew who subs here, and introduced me to the fact that there are thousands of men like him, that they exist, and that they are a danger to women. I absolutely do not look at all men with that lens, not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:10 PM
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Yes I do. I don’t know anyone IRL who says that about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:05 PM
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Do you even get to the fuck part though?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:04 PM
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Well I hope you got the answers you were looking for. As innocent as you claim to be, the question is still inherently insulting, with a hint of bias against women. I think we both agree there are better ways to ask a question such as this next time. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:03 PM
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10/10 troll skills, phenomenal. Enjoy your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:59 PM
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Well that’s a shame. Must be a very damaged person to resort to trolling particularly in a sub like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:58 PM
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https://youtu.be/5iGy1xaCZAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:54 PM
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I love my husband, I love my father, I love my brother, I love my nephews, I love my friends. All men! ☺️. I enjoy the daily interactions with men when I’m out walking dogs, at a cashier, getting the mail, etc! I don’t enjoy interactions with men who seem to loath my gender in its entirety. Thankfully there was only one IRL like that in my life who is long gone. Everyone else seems to congregate here online. I have no reason to dislike anyone unless they give me reason to!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:53 PM
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This is who I think you are if you are a man on this thread who obsesses about n-counts or some “grand truths” about women: https://youtu.be/5iGy1xaCZAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:50 PM
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I don’t think anyone on here is a troll. I think they believe what they write and it’s terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:48 PM
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Thanks for your honest lols I don’t like you either then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:44 PM
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Like Michael on Love On The Spectrum. “Women only want to date men for intercourse, to be their body guard, or their sugar daddy!”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:44 PM
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Also this sub is called a “neutral space” but holy shit it’s anything but that. It’s men who hate women, and women defending themselves, and then called hysterical for defending themselves. It’s not neutral, it’s heavily skewed, so maybe the sub description should change.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:42 PM
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I mean, every other post is “cmv: what are women even good for? What do they even bring to a relationship? Women are sluts if they sleep with other men before meeting you”. I’m not sure what the end game is for guys posting and agreeing with this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:41 PM
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People like op who ask such robotic bizarre questions…. Are they actual robots? Ever had a relationship with anyone, platonic or romantic? Autistic? I’m absolutely befuddled.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:38 PM
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A vagina. Isn’t that all you ppd guys here want anyway? Just a hole. 🙄. This question is inherently insulting bro. That’s why you are getting so many angry replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:34 PM
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How many men in this sub actually even like women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:32 PM
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Who gave you access to my beach bikini photos?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:32 PM
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First I don’t stare, that’s creepy. Second I glance if the person is attractive. Third I don’t do it often at all or do it obvious because of my partners feelings. A beautiful person man or woman catches my eye just like a beautiful garden or sunset does. Just nice to look at for a moment, without any further intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:21 PM
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My husband cried a lot while his father was sick and when he died last March. I held him and was there for him in every way possible. When he cries during a movie I hold him tight. When he's so upset he tears up I hold him tight and tell him everything's going to be okay. He does the same for me. I would never do anything to hurt him, ever. 12 years going strong. Best of luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:58 AM
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This thread is a QFW not for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:59 PM
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Medication Visit with a Therapist CBT ACT Breathing/relaxation techniques Countering negative thoughts Desensitization (in the same vein as 'fake it till you make it') Eventually with the work done above, you aren't just playing a character, you actually ARE a more confident version of yourself. (This is granted the anxiety is bad enough to be clinically diagnosed)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:44 AM
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It sounds like you are talking about a chad/fuckboi. The one that I know just has this crazy charm about him, the 'popular kid in high school' confidence, air of superiority without being a total douche, this 'it' factor, always smiling, always chatting with someone, great social skills, good enough looking (but def not a 10 or washboard abs!! He in fact had a beer belly!). He'd come into work (marketing) and brag about almost making a.. I don't know what it's called.. a week where you slept wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:30 AM
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How many ppl get banned here each day lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:29 AM
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😂 can u dm me the username so I can be on the lookout
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:29 AM
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It’s just the timing.. I have never gotten 3 angry throw away account messages in a row… ok back to tv this sub is scaring me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:27 AM
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Is this for real ? I’m scared 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:22 AM
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Thanks you’re totally right
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:21 AM
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I've received two so far lol both accounts now suspended. She's so ANGY!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:40 AM
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Yoo anyone else receiving strange messages from throw away accounts created by a certain user who was banned for an extra 30 days yesterday bc they broke the rules like a dummy? Edit: removed the R word I really shouldn’t be using it so casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:31 AM
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Is Gerry Fleck an example of "beta bux"? lmao https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Imyqnop6grY
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:26 AM
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Yeah, Cookie Googleman. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YB452Mk0Bs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:22 AM
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I mean read the rest of the single thread for her details - you honestly have any advice other than what you just said?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:30 AM
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I was thinking of someone else. No one gets banned on here for just telling someone to touch grass.. Also did you just message me on a throwaway account LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:27 AM
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Wait are you the guy that said an incredible nasty slurr about a female user on here???
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:23 AM
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What did you do though? Really you should probably just like sit it out for a while and think about your mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:23 AM
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Oh my god this was my exact experience in my early 20s. Honey - it's over. He won't change. You deserve better. I hope it was at least fun for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:20 AM
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Wow and I thought red pilled men were the worst. That's horrible.. sounds like 1950s gender role regressive shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:19 AM
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Take it to twoxchromosomes. Don't go to the female red pill or whatever that guy suggested. At any rate talk to him first, maybe he's depressed and needs help? Was he always this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:18 AM
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Also hol'up, what did you do to end up banned? Why do I feel like this should be reported..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:11 AM
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First part of your question is just so wild I can't even comprehend it. The second part you can predict by the attractiveness of the parents. I don't know how many unattractive couples are aborting because they know their child will be unattractive..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:10 AM
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🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:42 PM
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Is this how you treat your male friends..? https://funnyjunk.com/channel/4chan/Charlie+sheen+greentext/yLyBLlY/3#3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:33 PM
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Always close the lid after. Unless you want your dog/cat/child splashing around in there. It just is neater that way anyway. No one wants to see the nasty puby pee stained rim.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:56 PM
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I guess there was a selfie thread today? shrug!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:33 AM
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I missed this debacle. What happened? Ppl really shared their faces on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:26 AM
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Thanks I appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:25 AM
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Have you witnessed an all natural childbirth (IRL or a video) or had a close female friend/family member tell you, with sincere honest detail, about their birthing experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:16 AM
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Are you a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:38 AM
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No more like having standards way out of your league makes you a choosing beggar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:28 AM
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I wasn't fine with it at a company I worked for for 2 years. Brogrammers making jokes about the size of their dicks and the women they slept with that week, or the women from the company they wanted to bang - right next to me. Just bc I wanted to be a coder I had to sit and endure it.. how audacious of me! Guess thats what I deserved for forcing my way into the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:49 PM
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Am I supposed to apologize for being the only woman on my team for 15 years working in tech, for messing up the boys club dynamic? I can tell you the loneliness of my position, despite loving what I did, was probably much worse than any feeling the men had for me 'ruining the male bonding experience/infiltrating the group'. I tend to love stereotypical male hobbies. Coding, building, word working, video games, etc. Freshman year in high school tiny little timid me signed up for wood shop. I thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:40 PM
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Relying on men for 'handy man' help. You can be your own handy woman - it's fun and creative and challenging! Hanging shelves, installing a cat door, building a garden fence, finding a stud/joist.. You ladies can do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:19 AM
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Mine have saved my life, literally last year. She is absolutely brilliant and so kind hearted. To each their own. Someone with a degree in psychology isn’t qualified to be a psychologist. You need your mastered and special licensing/training. My friend who only has her undergrad in psych is absolutely not qualified to be a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:28 AM
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LET IT RAIN!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:16 AM
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Only drink water. That will eliminate liquid calories right off the bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:09 AM
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Therapists are licensed professionals who offer unbiased feedback. Family are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:07 AM
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Some people don’t even know where to begin. They can benefit from having a person coaching them on all the things you listed, step by step. For some people it’s helpful to have someone on your side, supporting you, and holding you accountable for your progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:05 AM
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My role model growing up was my Dad. He's always been a constant model of pure kindness, selflessness, intelligence, morals, gentleness, and confident introversion. I wanted to be good, kind, resourceful, and smart, like him. He was an electrical engineer, I always wanted to build stuff like he could, to be a 'maker'. I am my father's daughter so it makes sense. My mother was a mean bullying BPD alcoholic. She bullied me, called me thinks like "computer geek", just endless verbal abuse and scary…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:24 PM
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I’m just tired of this conversation from days ago, and judging by your flair and your account history (which is very much scary and extreme) I don’t think there’s a way we can communicate here or truly hear each other out. I know I was catty in my earlier comments, that was knee jerk and sometimes I need to take a break from this sub. I guess I’ll lastly acknowledge that just because men have been the head of every institution in history, down to the household, doesn’t mean their lives were easy…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:08 PM
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Ok guy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:20 PM
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I’m very sensitive, fragile, and have forever mental issues from being verbally abused in a loud scary “moms always screaming and bullying one of us” alcoholic house hold. Yelling and shouting and general meanness is a 10000% deal breaker for me. I’m grateful my husband is so calm and gentle with me. I’m the same way with him. We don’t have fights, we have discussions. He’s very sensitive too. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:37 PM
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Yup what I was going to say exactly. Ask anywhere but this sub! Please, for your own mental safety, delete and ask on relationships or twoxchromosomes 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:33 PM
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We decided to not have kids altogether after my harrowing experience. Adoption was never on the table. I tried to get pregnant that first time , it didn’t work out, we moved on. Sometimes we are still moving on, it’s been years and it’s a hard thing to heal from. You should not ask questions like that to anyone struggling through fertility or pregnancy issues. You should just listen and say “I’m sorry”. Because the whole experience is heartbreaking. And to hear “why don’t you JUST..” is like a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:24 PM
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Aligned with nuances, yes, I absolutely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:14 PM
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Look at my responses In this threat. I care deeply. And I’m very hurt by your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:13 PM
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Thank you 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:55 AM
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I understand. I too live with that default mindset. It was learned after a couple decades of bad experiences 😞. Now days it’s like better be safe than sorry kind of situation. Some of the posts in here emphasize it. One guy yesterday was saying how when he hugs someone he thinks about the direction his penis is, facing toward her. I was like thanks you just ruined innocent hugs for me 😞 Edit : I wonder is this like an adult form of stranger danger ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:37 AM
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I’m emotionally triggered and I’ll deal with it. Clearly not as healed as I thought I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:32 AM
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And may the odds be ever in your favor!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:25 AM
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Tight clothing is comfortable and snug, especially athletic wear. Yoga pants or leggings are the best, just for agility and all the active shit u do in ur day, esp if your work is highly physical. I try to not be obnoxious, I don’t want to be gazed at, I just want to be comfortable! A sports bra covered by a loose tank top, and some leggings and sneakers, and I’m ready to walk dogs all day! Is this example of tight clothing bothersome ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:21 AM
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Why do you feel this way? I’m sorry if something terrible has happened to you. Can trust be earned?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:18 AM
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I’m really sorry to hear it. And I really didn’t mean to invalidate you, I’m sorry if I made you feel that way. Teachers are totally not respected in the US at least, it’s awful. I’m sorry you had to give up on your dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:00 AM
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Well a lot of younger folk can be over zealous about all sorts of issues. Also remember that fringes don’t represent the whole!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:54 AM
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I really didn’t feel like the mods wanted me to say anything. I don’t agree with the ladies that are just responding with “men”. I’m dedicating my energy to you dudes and trying to understand you. It’s fascinating to me. And a lot of you seem to appreciate it. I mean I’m having a good time, except for the odd cruel comment. I’ve had real touching convos and it’s opened my eyes in many ways. I know what it’s like to be a woman, just wanted to give them a platform too. I’m sitting here responding …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:52 AM
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I’m no pill. Well maybe lexapro pill 😂 I only asked bc I’m trying to understand the base rp mindset I guess. Someone on here was trying to get me to understand and was sharing a lot of links, kind of overwhelming. But I feel like I’m getting certain gists from some of all urs stories. Some of it feels conflicting though (like the example I stated a comment ago)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:47 AM
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Fuck off. Stop trying to invalidate every word I’m saying and turn this into oppressed Olympics. I came in here with an open mind and listened to a lot of stories from men who really opened my eyes. You are not one of them. You are one of the bad ones who make all of you look repugnant. Also, get help with your out of control scary sex drive. That is something I certainly am NOT saying I want at ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:40 AM
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I appreciate ur insight! Some men are here are lamenting over being expected to be the breadwinner and want women to carry equal weight. To each their own I guess! Are u pilled, do u mind me asking ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:36 AM
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Explains what?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:34 AM
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36
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:05 AM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:04 AM
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Wait what!! 😬😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:04 AM
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Lack of religion sure. I mean religion is out there though if people want it. Mormons seem pretty happy and have no shortage of support. But I’d never want to be part of that club lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:04 AM
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I suppose everyone working and grinding full time doesn’t leave much time for community building. I am so fucking grateful for feminism, that it’s given me the very option to work full time if we want to. But perhaps the next step is to figure out how to foster community while both husband and wife are dedicating their lives to their companies. Thoughts ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:03 AM
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Also you are talking about how you could give birth and do pregnancy a hundred times. That it’s better than any drug. I mean, is that really the message you want to give women and young girls? 99% of my girlfriends have horror stories of their pregnancy and refuse to get pregnant a second time. Some came out of it with diseases onset by the very pregnancy. Like let’s just be realistic. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:01 AM
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I’m glad , again , the time of your pregnancy was wonderful. I mean that is what I expected for me because that’s all that I have seen since childhood: wonderful, beautiful, ethereal representations of motherhood and pregnancy. I can’t tell you how heartbroken I was to experience what I did, and also to hear about my friends miscarriages or similar experiences with HG. Again I’m glad your pregnancy was great. And I’m sorry if you don’t feel represented. Your situation has been represented for de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:53 PM
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No I’ve validated most men here and have genuinely good discussions. Comments that are too far on the women blaming end of the scale I’ve felt compelled to speak up. OR comments that I feel are more extreme generalizations than what the actual person experiences in their day to day life, I’ve decided to ask more questions and offer my opinions. I haven’t spoken to the women because I share 99% of their problems and the moderator told me not to circle jerk. So I left it to y’all to carry on the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:48 PM
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My point is it is true for ladies in this day and age. Tell me, what kind of woman do you find more valuable? The girl working at Walmart or the journalist? Which would you rather date ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:46 PM
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I’m so sorry 😞 I for one think there should be more nice kind men out there like you! Would be a better, gentler place. Don’t change !
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:44 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:43 PM
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Well I for one hate societal norms and am working on breaking out of some myself. Shits hard, I do understand! We’ve been indoctrinated since childhood to live up to certain standards that are hard to mentally break away from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:42 PM
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I suppose it would be best if while in that group setting the majority can be respectful around the minority ? Hearing the ball busting sexual jokes around me as a web dev for years was really not appreciated. And if I were a woman at your job I would not want to say anything to make you feel equally uncomfortable or bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:40 PM
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I really appreciate your thoughtful insights here and I agree with you. PPD men really aren’t helping the cause 😞. Are there better healthier subs out there for men to be heard and supported by each other as well as by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:35 PM
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I see. What about if social and emotional learning was incorporated in k-12?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:34 PM
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Also I have seen it in here myself, when men talk about those issues in your last paragraph In a “women are at fault” way, in an oppression Olympics way, or even in a genuinely misogynistic way, then that’s all us women are going to see! The valid points will be over shadowed by the mocking and blaming of us. I’ve had nice conversations in here with you guys only once there’s been a general disarmament between us!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:32 PM
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A lot of women, I’d say most, DO care! They just come here and see some of the general nasty things posted about women in general and can’t help but react angrily. If we can disarm each other and cool it down in here I think we can find a whole lot of understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:30 PM
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From what country ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:27 PM
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Just like in queens gambit ! Ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:24 PM
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I can be meek and silent and nod if you’d like? I can sympathize and also use my brain too, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:15 PM
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Thanks, we are cured! Jokes aside, this is a loaded question and please be sensitive when asking it to anybody especially in real life. In fact don’t ask people in real life unless you want to make someone cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:12 PM
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Just because your pregnancy was wonderful doesn’t mean everyone’s is. Mine wasn’t and I had to terminate. You are basically telling a depressed person to “just be happy”. This is the first time I’ve been triggered by a woman on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:10 PM
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I totally agree. It’s fascinating bc a lot of responses are similar to yours, but then there are a handful of RP men saying that men need to be stoic and NOT be emotional, which I think is so damaging! Men need to be taught to feel and be allowed to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:05 PM
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Has this happened to you or someone you know? If so I’m so sorry. Does it happen often statistically ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:51 PM
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Well I am inspired by your skills and you’re strength ! Edit: and not in a patronizing way! 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:40 PM
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I feel this so hard. I’m here for the same reasons. I lost a good friend because he fell into the extremist trap, I couldn’t take it anymore, the awful things he’d say and videos he’d send to me. Heartbreaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:39 PM
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Trampolines are risky lol! Or something really funny happening, that’s like cross legs and fall to the floor laughing and trying so hard not to pee! Hopefully I don’t need depends when I’m older lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:34 PM
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Men don’t care about their guy friends? How heartbreaking. My husband and his friends are tight and they can talk about anything, and I’m so glad for him, because he’s a kind sensitive and emotional guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:32 PM
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Very valid. Do you think women working full time (which a lot do) and bringing in an equal salary helps take the load off? I have a few lady friends who out earn their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:30 PM
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Do u mind further elaborating ? In my opinion, I think the far right ideology and the “rugged individualism” of the US perpetuates what you are saying. Lack of general community and purpose.. But curious about the liberal feminism piece you mentioned ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:28 PM
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At any rate I’m done with sales people, horrible experiences with them all. I’m just buying the kitchen stuff directly now and doing my own research.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:26 PM
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I’m so very sorry. You deserved better. I hope you have resources today that help you navigate the pain of your youth!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:25 PM
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This guy made it into oppression Olympics , which I specifically asked not to. I wanted to know about HIS specific personal day to day grievances for being a dude. He did not do that. And instead made it a “here is why mens lives suck compared to women”. After responding to 100 plus replies in the bath, reading this was exhausting and disappointing. I’m not surprised by the circle jerk awards. It’s all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:23 PM
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Yes! It’s deeply fascinating. And I hope people are reading both threads. A lot of empathy and understanding to be experienced, we all need it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:19 PM
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It sounds similar. Can you help me understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:18 PM
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Gosh yeah it sounds so patronizing. Are you a woman? I want to have those kinds of skills so badly! I do projects here and there and I really hope I get to manually help out the contractor with aspects of the kitchen for my own edification!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:17 PM
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I’m very sorry you experience that , I would loath that kind of environment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:08 PM
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Well I disagree based on my own personal experience, and how people irl have reacted negatively to my giving up my high paying career and earning minimum wage now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:04 PM
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I agree! They should be the ones to swing the sword, like Ned Stark. Or send their children to war instead of poor families children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:01 PM
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Get on ssris then trust me you barely will feel anything anymore lol. 😞. Makes me feel less of a woman esp when being intimate with my husband. Stars have to align for me to be sexually alive and it doesn’t happen as often as I’d like. The “why don’t you just adopt” is a real easy question to ask until you are in that position. I wouldn’t recommend you asking it to anyone you know irl who are struggling. Anyway we aren’t having kids and we are okay with it, we weren’t die hard to be parents anyw…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:00 PM
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You're right, and I'm sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:24 AM
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No it's not bc we didn't choose our partners for their 'beta bucks'. They were in entry level jobs post college, just like us.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:23 AM
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I wish the best for you, and hope you don't give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:19 AM
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How do we validate other men without leading them on, having to reject them, and then being called a tease or a bitch? Also you just 100% honestly ruined hugs with men for me. I don't hug people to be aroused - male or female. I love hugging my female friends, it's such a lovely bond, a warm embrace, with someone you trust and cares for you and has no ulterior motives. It's absolutely not a sexual thing. This is the thing, the attention you want from women seems to be sexual. And I'm not going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:17 AM
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Right but as a woman I don't want to receive this kind of attention or touch from a man, esp a stranger. It makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable. And me giving this attention to a stranger makes me feel uncomfortable because of the repercussions of what may happen next, what he things is gonna happen next, and how uncomfortable and potentially scary it will be when I turn him down. Like call me a tease or a bitch or something. Men have higher sex drives than woman, aren't they always going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:10 AM
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I guess it depends on the vibe and the approach? Like, I'm not going to be worried about a man who isn't following me (esp during nighttime) or who is blatantly leering at me. And I've seen guys be so great with children and totally not give off Humbert Humbert vibes whatsoever. I think this has to be on a spectrum, depending on the vibe of the man, no? Edit: Sorry I am not trying to dismiss you. I mean look at the other thread for women I made, a lot of women DO fear being assaulted by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:05 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Int3QLIXCc4
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:51 AM
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I don't doubt at all it's hard for shy and anxious men. My husband went through a dry spell for years before me, and I'm angry that women did not give him a chance during that time, he did lament about how women generally didn't seem to dig his vibe (at least women he sought after in bars and such). So yes I do see the point you are making. Extraverts rule the world, it sucks hard. It's hard to find the other quiet people because they too are struggling in the world and in dating and are hiding …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:50 AM
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That sounds awful lol! This might be TMI.. but if I sneeze real big a little pee comes out too :( NOT A GOOD FEELING! Does this happen to guys?? genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:45 AM
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You're not worthless. Therapists are professionals, they aren't your friends. But they absolutely care for you and want to help. They are not pretending to care. If you need more time you can see them twice a week. They can't do more than that because they are busy too, and health providers limit the amount of visits per year anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:44 AM
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Wouldn't a short and ugly girl share that empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:42 AM
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My ex 'bad boys' were CHADS. They were NOT AVERAGE. My husband is AVERAGE as far as you PPDers call them. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. He is absolutely exceptional. I chose HIM and he chose ME. My ambition was to find a loving partner who fit me perfectly and I did. And he wasn't the 6ft 6 pack 6 figure chiseled chad you all imagine we all run away happily with. Don't know how much clearer I can get. Please stop messaging me. Please stop mansplaning me and dictating your weird narrative of my p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:39 AM
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Most men don't seem to care. Should men require their partners to work full time then? In my circles both partners work full time, except for a few stay at home moms who have 2+ children and decided it was more economical to raise the kids at home than do the whole work and daycare thing (it's still a full time 24/7 job though in it's own right and I don't envy them). I'm not dismissing it because I don't see it in my circles - so please can you tell me what this kind of woman is like, where you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:35 AM
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Yes I do realize this. My comment came from seeing lots of posts on here about how women are lucky to have better access to supportive groups of their own gender that are in touch with emotional needs of all. So I'm wondering if men can do a better job at this with their friend groups. Tell me how can women contribute to caring about men too? I'm here to listen. I absolutely support my male friends and family members when I'm needed and always give them a shoulder to lean on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:23 AM
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Why are the women you seek like that? Are there ever any red flags in the beginning to avoid such type of woman? Or are there ways to create healthier boundaries with loved ones, to avoid things like codependency? Sorry you've been burdened over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:19 AM
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I'm very sorry for your struggles. Isolation, and all the other things you listed, is a dark personal hell. I'm so sorry. You mention dealing with it alone. Have you ever talked to a therapist? Are their women out there who feel similarly, who may share a common bond with you in those ways you listed, that are also in the dating market?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:17 AM
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My husband is everything you describe yourself to be, and I love him so much for it. I wouldn't call him feminine. I would call him artistic, compassionate, sensitive. I think there are may examples of these kinds of men thriving, esp in careers in the arts. So many women love the brooding emo type, or at least in my youth they sure did! I think you should be you, and learn to accept yourself as you are, and question what it means to be 'successful'.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:14 AM
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Do you mind being more specific about what kind of morals and situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:27 AM
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Thank you. This sub is certainly rough. However, through the weeds, to have such a nice chat here with you and a handful of others, that fills me with all kinds of hopeful and fuzzy feelings!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:25 AM
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He was physically attractive and typical 'bad boy', smoked pot and sold it, played lots of video games, hung around with the cool punk kids. It was hot at first. Two years later it was not so cute anymore. We weren't meant to be for so many reasons. He wasn't trying to be better, he was just who he was, and I was who I was - a bad fit. The better option was the 'nice guy', the wonderful man I married. Are you done trying to belittle and insult me?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:22 AM
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Sure but we then risk the awkwardness and vitriol of someone who's approach was turned down. They might call me a tease and ask why I bothered to compliment him in the first place if I was taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:08 AM
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This is getting difficult. You don't seem to want to believe a word I'm saying and would rather make accusations and put words in my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:02 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=81Nl7VYFEaI
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:51 AM
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I disagree. What we all have is SO much better than before, MILES and miles better. They are no longer good enough for us. I was in LTR with these guys, I was not happy, they wanted to marry ME, not the other way around.......
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:49 AM
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Just terrible. I'm so sorry. This is sadly not a unique experience. :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:46 AM
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I can't even begin lol! It will make both of us upset. BUT I'm SO glad he's helped you, I truly am, especially concerning the last thing you said!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:44 AM
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🥹 You are so welcome. SlimyOddity on Instagram is a great account, makes the heart feel full and tears swell! https://www.instagram.com/slimyoddity/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:38 AM
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I absolutely don't believe men are generally like the PPD guys. The men in my real life, family friends and inner circle, are truly wonderful! I don't come here to generalize guys at all! I come here to defend women. Peterson makes me want to vomit! If he encourages men to find their inner strength then that's great, everything else he says is garbage and dangerous. I wish there were better role models for men, maybe some in that list are, I hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:37 AM
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No I don't but I can imagine and I would absolutely sympathize with you. Explain more - what field are you in?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:32 AM
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https://imgur.com/a/bdOnTaY
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:30 AM
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Gosh, this is a good one. I feel for Prince William. I'm not saying he's not handsome, but he must miss his full head of blonde hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:27 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. That wasn't the case at all though. We no longer wanted the bad boys. If we still did we'd still be chasing, dating, and sleeping with them easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:26 AM
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Understood.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:25 AM
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I am absolutely a liberal feminist. That doesn't mean I don't care about men. Yes, there is a lot of women hate in here. It's extremely distressing :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:24 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:23 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:21 AM
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The sex drives/dynamics between men and women are SOO different. I can understand how this causes deep frustrations. I read a great book that goes into this in detail called "Come as you are". It helped open my eyes a bit as to what I need as a women to get hot and bothered and ready for love making, vs what he needs! We definitely require a lot more romance, foreplay, patience, and time!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:18 AM
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I'll comment on my own post :)For me personally, day to day basis: - Not being that strong physically. I do a lot of my own home & lawn maintenance and gardening, and I get really disappointed when I have to ask my husband for help. I want to be able to lift all the stuff he's able to instead of the fraction of it before being wiped out! (I'm very fit btw!) - Periods. The first day of each period each month is so brutal I sometimes have to call out sick at work, and depending on where you work t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:12 AM
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Ok sure - I can get on board with that. Also proper methods to release the emotions. Men need to be be allowed to feel. Social emotional learning is something big missing from public schools.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:04 AM
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OK. That line just obviously jumped out at me. I absolutely think male issues exist and should be dealt with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:03 AM
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Well, I'd argue that repression is only going to lead to a powder keg waiting to explode!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:02 AM
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I'm so glad to hear it ❤️ Take care!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:00 AM
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Ah ok sorry, I totally read this wrong and thought the deeper stuff was more important. I understand now. I guess I'll just say that a random woman probably wont say anything unless she's interested, because she doesn't want to invite whatever might follow? I think if I complimented a random guy on his shirt he'd light up and ask for my number or something, I mean just a smile does this. What can I do to give a proper compliment without it leading to anything more?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:59 AM
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It takes time to earn trust. I mean that goes for everyone but especially for new men in my life.. I feel this way with every new boss, co worker, and friend I have that is a man. I really have to cue in on their vibe and intentions. Most recently, someone in my life has been talking to me like "I wish I could date a you that was 20 years older!" and I'm like, shit, am I leading him on, is he making a move, what is he going to do next time I see him (he's working on the house), I'm uncomfortable…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:54 AM
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https://youtu.be/z0zL4rlS6RU?t=25
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:48 AM
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I understand. If it's just lust probably better to find other ways to release those feelings. You're feelings are valid, I'm not trying to dismiss them in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:43 AM
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I understand, but please, it's a lot easier than it sounds. If you have health insurance, find their website and create an account. Log in. Then ideally they have a search for providers. Look for local psychologists in your network with the proper accreditations. Then you can look up their profile on pyschologytoday.com and read about their specialities and see if they might be a good match for you. Give them a phone call and introduce yourself, talk to them for a bit, and if you like them sched…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:41 AM
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If she doesn't have a smile on her face she will likely be called bossy, a bitch, or hysterical, though. Her experience is valid. I too experienced this in a male dominated industry (web dev).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:36 AM
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I see your point. However, a stranger doesn't really know you do they? So what else can they compliment on besides something superficial?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:35 AM
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I totally agree regarding gender roles. I hope you are able to meet someone kind. I mean, we aren't all like how you described. But I'm sorry for how you have been treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:33 AM
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Thanks for your post! That's a lotta work 3 kids, wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:32 AM
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I'm very sorry! What do you think is the cause of it? Capitalism, society..?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:31 AM
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Sorry - why was the other one accepted as an internal question for men? Was it because it was asked by a woman? Genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:30 AM
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😔 I'm sorry. What could we do better as a society here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:29 AM
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Dude, very wise pose, insightful and appreciated ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:48 AM
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I think I’m losing you, the clarity is a little all over the point, but if you are experiencing any ounce of racism in your life I am SO sorry 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:47 AM
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Well people in general should be held accountable for serious wrongs. But not for “failing” at something, like something trivial at work!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:46 AM
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Well I’m truly sorry you experienced that. That is all kinds of offensive and rude and violating. Please know, on behalf of all women, we are not all like that. Karens need to cool it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:44 AM
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Oh my god, I’m SO beyond sorry you are experiencing this. That is horrible for people to be treating you this way in a time of dire need. I had mega suicidal ideation last year for 5 months, feel free to check my history here. A lot of people simply didn’t know how to even talk to me, but no one showed disgust, I mean that is vile. Do you have a therapist ? Please tell me you do!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:42 AM
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I’m sorry, I do know this is a legit thing and as a sufferer of social anxiety I feel for you deeply ! Online dating sucks first and foremost but add in social anxiety .. ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:40 AM
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Ah so you want compliments from women? From strangers ? What kind of compliments ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:39 AM
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Sure. The sexes are not the same. But like, I will totally celebrate whenever the first women president is elected! That will mean more to me than you know! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:39 AM
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Ah so you are speaking on behalf of something else? Well my question was about YOU ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:38 AM
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Well I am asking YOU what do you experience on the daily that is hard bc ur a man? I’m sorry for their experience I truly am. I mean what’s going on over there is absolutely horrific.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:37 AM
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First ☺️. Second while I do think many women seek this on their immature years, they later learn that dating on such superficial grounds does not lead to a long term happy partnership. That’s at least what happened to me and my circle of 9 lady friends from highschool. We sought the bad boys in our teens and early 20s, and by mid 20s we found the guys who have been in front of our noses all along. They are not the best anything, besides the best match for us and love us. I hope the best for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:36 AM
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☺️🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:33 AM
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I’m SO sorry you experienced that! That is absolutely horrible and racist and terrible and I’m so so sorry 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:33 AM
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What would you like the discourse to be instead ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:32 AM
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No value to anyone besides your employers you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:31 AM
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Hey good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:31 AM
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Example?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:30 AM
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Also, pussification.. that’s fascinating bc I’ve received many posts here of males lementing about the fact that they are not allowed to be emotional, or as some may call it (certainly not me), “pussies”.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:30 AM
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I read the one you pointed out. I’m sorry but do you want men to be allowed to grab women by the pussy again? 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:29 AM
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I feel the same way re the exhaustion, and as a young girl my childhood sucked. I was raised by a narcissistic, BDP, verbally and sometimes physically abusive, alcoholic mother. And my father was too busy dealing with my mother to pay any attention to me or my siblings. If u want to make it a competition tho, my brother was allowed to walk home at night and I wasn’t , and that made me mad and resentful. Also was allowed to buy a car in highschool and I was fuckin reproached for it. At the same t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:25 AM
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I hear you, and I’m so sorry. Men need to be better supported by each other. How can we work on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:23 AM
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I absolutely agree !! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:22 AM
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I don’t have the energy to reply to this one. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:22 AM
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Ahh I’m honored u commented in my post. Ur my ppd heroine. Not being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:21 AM
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Well women are just called sluts , whores, gold diggers, ratchet, and tramps! We are defined by income too. And for all it’s absolutely NOT right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:19 AM
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Are you a top tier man? I mean, I can relate. Like, the guy 25 years older than me eye fucking me doesn’t stand a chance, and is actually making me scared. Sorry but is this really your biggest problem you experience for being born a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:18 AM
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I’m so sorry 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:16 AM
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Ah, so the rat race? How can one break out of it? It’s terrible, I agree!! And it’s this society/culture that has created and perpetuates it. How can we free our selves ? I’m working on this very thing and have been for the past year. It’s had and involves a lot of work/introspection/therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:16 AM
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I’m sooo sorry, this is a huge one, I’m sorry you’ve experience pain. Men need to be allowed to be emotional! Everyone needs to be! Any man or woman giving a man nothing but shame for showing emotion should be ashamed. I think school needs to incorporate a heck lot more of social emotional learning in the curriculum, and needs more guidance counselors. For what it’s worth I love that my husband is emotional, that he cries during movies, that he is not afraid to be himself. His wonderful father w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:14 AM
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What kind of high standards , specifically ? Can I ask what are your standards ? I’m sorry for the pain you have experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:11 AM
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I agree with this, and I’m sorry this is a wide spread experienced thing. Do dude friends ever compliment each other or is that like a no homo thing? I mostly get compliments from my women friends , or my parents, aside from my husband of course. Women compliment each other a lot, I love when a random women tells me she loves my outfit. Can men start complimenting each other somehow …?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:09 AM
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Sorry do you mind explaining what kind of gender role behavior you are looking for in a woman ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:07 AM
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Were you canceled? Why? 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:06 AM
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Ah apologies !
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:06 AM
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I’m sorry you are experiencing these things. For what it’s worth, I see average average looks matching couples everywhere ! I don’t say this to dismiss your experience, just to provide hope? Also to point number one, if you genuinely feel chemistry and sense requited attraction cues then I don’t see anything wrong with you taking a shot. You just have to be careful and really be in tune with the situation. I met my husband at work and I’m glad he asked me out, I gave him plenty of signals !
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:06 AM
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Did this happen to you? I’m so sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:03 AM
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Is this what really happened to you? Do you mind sharing the story? I’m so sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:02 AM
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Did you have to go to fight?? Are you Ukrainian? I’m so sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:00 AM
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Were you fired as a result of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:59 PM
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As a shy introverted woman I can absolutely relate. Dude, no one shows up or sends me flowers when I’m having a breakdown (4 so far in my half life). I get flowers when I break my leg though. It’s really been up to me and me alone to find help and do the work. The system needs to be better. The system needs to reach out to the vulnerable and welcome it without making us, when we are agonizingly ill, jump through hoops to get the help we so desperately need.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:58 PM
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Also thank you for your thoughtful response after an initial reluctance
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:55 PM
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I hear you and I’m sorry for these experiences. I’m not here to invalidate you or anyone ( unless they are genuinely blaming their woes outright on women). Do you think at some point the game will be so beyond leveled out, and we won’t need reparations or special awards for being the first woman this or that? Women have only had key rights for 100 years. I’d hope that the pain that men feel right now for women being celebrated at this point in history is short lived and or rectified by having th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:55 PM
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I guess u gotta just take care of yourself on the regular if you know what I mean. Even if you had a gf she might have an average to low libido and not want to do it as much as you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:34 PM
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I’m sorry! This is personally unique, to yourself, because you’re a man? I’m sorry you’re lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:32 PM
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It’s a very low risk side effect, usually occurring ironically for people who need it most, who’s brains are going haywire. Me and many of my inner circle have been on meds for years. Talk to someone IRL who has been on meds, esp a small dose. Again, how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:31 PM
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I acknowledge your pain of being judged by accomplishments. I feel that too, as a woman in 2022. Saying women don’t endure that is wrong, esp saying there is nothing they can do that makes them less of a woman. How about inability to conceive and carry a baby to term? Inability to orgasm? Extreme social anxiety that alienates them from women social groups they want to be part of?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:28 PM
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Ur life perfect then? Don’t make me check ur account history and find ur gripes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:25 PM
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Explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:54 PM
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Can I ask how old you are? If you are older than early 20s, have you ever thought of going on an ssri to full the libido, given the agonizing/insatiable extent of yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:53 PM
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I’m glad this isn’t happening to you - I gasped for a second! 😔 cancer is just absolutely horrific
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:41 PM
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They worked ?? Do tell more pls! What are they called?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:40 PM
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I definitely would take it too. But not forcefully. It sucks when my libido is in the tanks. I’m so jealous of men who can get hard in seconds and generally always orgasm!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:03 PM
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Is this situational , something what’s happening to you right now? That’s the absolute worst thing about being a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:44 PM
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I’m still confused - who are you accusing of being a narcissist? You said something about women choosing hot guys breeds narcissism? I agree the word is thrown around a lot when in reality someone may just be self centered and not actually a narcissist. My mom grew up in a terribly abusive home and lacked so much love as a child. She has BPD and narcissism is a huge symptom of it. And I judge her when she’s an asshole or deliberately cruel, and I love her when she manages to keep her symptoms in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:45 PM
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I appreciate your insight and especially your civility. I do agree to an extent. However, my sister and my first cousin were Bad Bitches with a pleasant enough to be around them demeanor. Men of all shapes and sizes asked them out. They only dated the top tier hottest guys, because they were able to, and they were the stereotypical bad boys. Lots of nice guys asked them out too though, I know this because they told me and I witnessed it. Your bit about narcissism kinda throws me off. Edit; they …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:09 PM
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Bad bitches. Aggro. Parties hard. High maintenance. Hot. Regina George basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:14 PM
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Like in highschool when people want to date the hot people first and foremost, who a lot of the time are jerks and “bad” boys/girls. Blinded by lust. Is that clear?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:09 PM
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A women gets upset usually following misogynistic posts and comments of obstinate men. And all the responses to my comment seethe with hatred for me being a woman lols ppd men are misogynists ☺️👎 You guys are incorrigible. Best of luck to ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:04 PM
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The fuck? I don't think you read a word I said. Men ruled every single institution, large and small, for all of human history since up to about 50 years ago. I don't know how anyone with a functioning brain can disagree with that. But sure go to capitol hill and advocate your cause... benefits for simply being born with a penis 😂... Best of luck to you, boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:52 AM
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They are starting fan clubs and buying body pillows of Jinx tho lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:42 AM
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Probably the same appeal that fictional characters like Cersei Lannister, Jinx, Harley Quinn, all the ladies of Kill Bill, and Fire Nation Princess Azula had/have on young boys.... They're hot and badass. Men don’t near unanimously cling to evil female characters like this. Yes, they do. And IRL, boys absolutely go through a 'bad girl' phase as much as girls go through a 'bad boy phase'. Young immature people like hot/cool people (regardless if they can actually attain them). Mature adults usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:38 AM
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Men ruled the slaves, the platoons, and ruled down to their damn households. For like 99.99% of HUMAN HISTORY. WTF is wrong with you? Why do you hate women with such vigor????
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:23 AM
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It is an odd take and reeks of (she's gonna say it) MISOGYNY! :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:10 AM
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Why are you trying to make this, at its root, a men vs women argument?? It's really revealing your character, in a bad way. SO - the draft is wildly unpopular and hasn't been in effect since Vietnam. I for one am not in favor of it at ALL. Veterans that were drafted AND enlisted have received benefits that others do not get. My father in law, who was veteran, had received incredible health care his whole life, including during his cancer which took his life, because of his veteran benefits. My m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:06 AM
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To speak up against misogyny and try to talk sense into men who blame all their woes on women - absolutely yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:31 PM
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What kind of a sick fucking revenge fantasy question is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:12 AM
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Imagine you worked your ass off your whole life, got married and decided to not have kids, and Uncle Sam takes your money to help pay for your friend's & family's & strangers kids educations k-12. I mean THE NERVE. I don't know about you, but I do NOT want to live in an educated society. It sounds so elitist!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:00 AM
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WE'LL SEE WHO CANCELS WHO! Peak manliness right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:48 AM
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poppy u always wreck them 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:18 AM
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You use the pull out method - you are an irresponsible HYPOCRITE. You probably have a child out there and don’t even know it. Please don’t respond to this - I’m done with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:09 AM
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Pull out ???? Wow very responsible of you. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:07 AM
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Also - do you wear a condom every time, even if the woman is on birth control? Do you ever “soak” or just the tip for a second? How risky is your own behavior? When you make it the women’s sole responsibility doesn’t it give men the more leverage to be risky (which in my experience they ALWAYS are)? It’s not fair man, can’t be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 06:54 PM
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Think of how many unwanted pregnancies would be averted if men could control their higher-than-womens-sex-drives and didn’t knock people up. You really can’t continue to put the sole responsibility on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 06:53 PM
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Yes, women AND men should be responsible, of course. But your original comment deemed the women fully responsible (not the man at all), which is abhorrently incorrect. If you have ever had sex then you would understand the nuance of it all and what can happen in the heat of the moment, when mistakes are made, when accidents happen, when forcefulness happens, when emotion takes over, when contraceptives fail, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:57 PM
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This dude is talking about being unable to find a single date. Attractive above average people are dating lots of people and fucking. And if they are single it’s because they haven’t found the one they wanna settle down with yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:53 PM
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This is so cringe. Why did you send her a heart? Shaking MY head..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:58 AM
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Exactly. "WULL SHE is the one who can get pregnant, so the onus is 100% on her for not choosing right!!!!" I think women are doing an excellent job with vetting seeing as all these repugnant men here on this sub are sexless and alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:23 AM
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SO what % of responsibility does the guy have who stuck his dick in her, didn't use a condom, and got her pregnant? Can't get pregnant without a guy cumming in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:20 AM
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They aren't doing as well as they think, and their friends won't tell them so. The person must have an absolute shit personality, mental health issues, or is just straight up creepy with women. If women are actively avoiding you, or if you are actively repelling them, then you need to do some inner work and figure out what the problem is bc the common denominator is you. I see completely average, overweight couples walking down the street ALL the time. If you think you are above average yet you …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:14 AM
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I come here to defend women. This sub is really not good for my mental health at all. Esp since it’s like 5% women, and most of the posts are massive negative generalizations about women. Is there a way to block an entire sub? I just keep getting sucked back in.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:47 AM
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Ok so that's the double standard still in place. Got it. Date in your lane. Goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:23 PM
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Ok good I’m glad to hear it. I hope to see you defend chads next time a guy on here complains about them hoarding all the good women. And I’m glad we are in agreement about preferences, so I hope you defend women next time men in here complain about them not dating short/autistic/“nice guys”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:26 PM
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Oh I’ve definitely gathered that from this thread. It’s fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:14 PM
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Not at all, just calling out the hypocrisies. You guys consistently HATE on chads in here, but here you are worshiping king chad? And if you want younger women go for it. I was in a relationship with a 20 year age difference. I told my friends “he’s cool bc he has the mentality of a 20 year old!” Turned out that was very uncool in the end, for a man to be so emotionally immature. Every situation is different, but this man in particular (my ex) has issues for still seeking such younger women. And…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:11 PM
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I’m not doing that at all. You can have whatever preference you want and so can women. So go enjoy the virgins then? The other women will be out enjoying themselves just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:06 AM
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Being a girlfriendless virgin seems to be just the surface of the inherent issues with the man… unless he is like a college student max. If he is a grown man there’s something serious going on, granted his singledom and virginity is not by choice.. he’d probably have to fix the inherent issues instead of blaming women for it or whatever he’s doing .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:11 PM
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Don’t date women that have sexual experience, don’t come at me bro! I wasn’t demanding anything just calling out a hypocrisy. Another funny one is how much you all hate the chads but in this case you LOVE him!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:20 PM
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I know plenty of hoe women who get what they want. But you will call them sluts and not Leo? I don’t care about the persons ability to get laid - and I’m not going to slut shame man or woman. If you want to shame women then good luck with that gender in general, platonically and romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:21 PM
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Don’t feel bad for the slut shaming double standard? Fine. I won’t feel bad that you guys have to pay for the first dates, or the other stuff you guys whine about here (that are petty af and not the same as sexual freedom/equality at all)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:12 PM
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I guess same can be said for Leo and the rest of the chads too then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:09 PM
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Wtf? Leo chases hot Stacie’s and y’all are like “he’s a hero!!” Women chase Chads and you all are like “shallow slut faces why don’t u give me nice guy a chance!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:21 PM
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I don’t hate Leo. And glad you don’t hate women who do the same as him. A main topic in this sub is about how high n count women are worthless. So glad you are one of the few on here who do not feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:19 PM
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But… you guys hate the women who chase chads?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:57 PM
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I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Have you talked to a sex therapist? There's a book I read, "Come As You Are", that was really eye opening! It helped explain female libido.. and stuff like sexual arousal, acceleration, and breaks.. and what influences each's individually. It made me feel less 'broken' and more informed/accepting of my sexuality. Also can I ask how old you are? So I suffer with this occasionally because of my long term use of SSRIs which I unfortunately cannot come off of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:07 AM
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Well I wish I could give you a time machine to go back to the 50s where you might be happier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:31 PM
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Men sleeping around and being a champ vs women doing the same and being a hoe? That will always be the most hypocritical double standard and I honestly thought our culture was past that. Men and women are obviously different, but sexual freedom matters, for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:44 PM
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Ha whatever. Leo, the mega chad slut hoe will hoard all the Stacy hoes anyway. The hypocrisy u guys share is astounding tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:18 PM
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I wonder if the guys in this sub that share you sentiment have girlfriends ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:29 PM
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Stopped reading at “thots”. Proved my point right there thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:41 PM
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Good luck with that lol us thigh gap ladies are taken
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:31 AM
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Edgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:19 AM
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Yes they do. They call them horrible things. U for real?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:19 AM
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I think you guys would have some choice names for her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:06 PM
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And?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:06 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:05 PM
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If a woman were doing what Leo’s doing she’d be a low quality slut with a high n count. But because he’s a man high fives it’s all good you’re the man Leo (according to men in this sub).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:15 PM
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Yep. The nice guys in this sub are NOT actually nice at all. Look at their post history and how they interact with others or how they generally talk about women..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:04 PM
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Rekt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:42 AM
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I think it’s less of an obsession and more of a reaction to a very recent precedent breaking scotus ruling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:37 AM
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Ah, arrested development.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 10:39 PM
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Why are you assuming that's all they see in him?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 10:33 PM
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It makes me feel odd and disappointed, and encourages me to better foster my female relationships at this point in my life. I always grew up being the girl with lots of guy friends and hella low self esteem. I’ve learned a lot since then and am a lot better at keeping guards and boundaries up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:22 PM
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I love this post, and I love the positive things you listed about yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:21 PM
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Why what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 07:14 PM
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Lol we are not on the same page here at all. We are talking house cleaning and care. Deep clean every two weeks, weekly stuff like laundry and surface cleaning and light sweeping, daily stuff like dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 03:48 PM
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What would you consider it then?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 03:33 PM
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I’m not talking about ocd levels of cleanliness I’m just talking base level stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 03:23 PM
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Women are not trying to change everything - we are just trying to maintain and make sure the things that need to get done indeed get done.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:20 PM
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“Women these days”…. How old are you? Also, “Tittyzilla”? I’m embarrassed for you. I know how to stop a running toilet and more, and I’m a woman. Do you clean your pubes and shit off the toilet rim every week? And the pee off the bathroom floor?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 08:17 PM
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These things you listed aren’t done on the daily or even weekly. Many people live in apartments and don’t even need to take care of the house or landscaping. I’m a woman and I take care of the inside of the house AND the outside AND the repairs. My husband cooks dinner every night. A lot of women are conditioned to be the “project manager” of the house, been this way for centuries, even with feminism. Most of us work, but also have to be the house manager, and TELL our husband when something has…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 08:09 PM
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thought you were op - he said he has a high n count or something, seemed hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:36 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 09:59 PM
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Well are they hypocritical thinkers as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 09:59 PM
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Because misogyny and double standards
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:20 PM
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But your sexual history and high n count don’t damage you though or risk stds, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:18 PM
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A lot of you all “responsible nice guys” are actually not those things at all and are more toxic than chads. Get off your high horse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:16 PM
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High n count? Does that mean you make for horrible long term relationship material?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:13 PM
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Is this chad envy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:12 PM
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That’s funny because just the other day there was a popular thread talking about how women are teases for not having sex on the first night. One guy was like “if she’s doesn’t viscerally want me the first night then she’s not worth it, or she’s a bitch for withholding sex when she’d give it to a chad immediately”. And I tried to explain how many men and women WILL wait because they really like the other person! So strange, this sub has a lot of black and white thinking. Not a lot of gray area or…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:08 PM
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Read Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" for a priority check. Also "Tribe" by Sebastian Younger. If you live in the US we do a shit job as a society of fostering a sense of purpose & community. We are very individualistic, and with all our freedoms we are left on our own to find that purpose/meaning in our lives that humans so deeply need. We aren't forced to enlist in the military like some nations, or forced do so some kind of civic duty beyond jury duty. Many people find purpose throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:41 AM
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I’m sorry you can’t comprehend my view either then I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:35 PM
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Yikes , eager beavers over here , not sure where the entitlement comes from. She is waiting because she actually LIKES you and is going for a long term thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:50 PM
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I will concede it’s easier for a lady to be a slut than a man
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:47 PM
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Ah so that’s why all the nuns at the catholic schools say the little guys shouldn’t “give them selves away” or they will be akin to a used bicycle. Really tricky/dangerous language you are using.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:47 PM
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What? If someone really likes you and instead of boning the first night waits after a week or two, that makes you a chump?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:34 PM
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You are taking the side of the man who didn’t get the multiple wives…. Instead of the woman who had to be one of the wives ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:37 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:13 PM
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But you are saying it’s okay for men to “monkey branch” and fuck 30 girls? Also, the people who wait generally don’t wait 2 months… not longer than 2 weeks unless they are hella religious ! Not sure where that 2 month piece came from .
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:02 PM
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This makes zero sense to me. You can try again if you’d like. But this double standard is dangerous and backwards imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:00 PM
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We are laughing at this together, thanks for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:58 PM
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So she shouldn’t sleep with anyone else ever in her life before she meets him? And “for less”? What? I was hella flattered when my second boyfriend waited to have sex. I wasn’t mad at him. And him behind 20 years older than me musta had a hella high count !
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:51 PM
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I will, and I will continue to be loved by my husband of ten years 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:40 PM
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I wasn’t promiscuous. My husband had three times more partners than me. Am I a simp? LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:39 PM
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If this is in fact true then shouldn’t you be flattered that she really likes you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:38 PM
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Oh, poor them, they don’t get to be your wife … that sucks for them..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:35 PM
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So should I not have married my main who had three times as many partners than me before we met? Is he just washed up and used?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:34 PM
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It’s straight up envy. Guys he’s in here have all these revenge fantasies against women who have a fun healthy sex life, whether in a relationship or not. So in this case they believe no one should settle down with the college slut, she deserves to be an old washed up used bicycle spinster. Little do they know all my promiscuous female friends now are very happily married (5-10 years so far) many with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:28 PM
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Um what lol? Where is the evidence for this? Me and none of my girl friends acted this way, nor my sister or cousin (who are hyper promiscuous). Edit: I think I misinterpreted this. Sure it can go either way. A man or woman may wait a handful of dates to get intimate when they really like someone, or they might smash the first night. Either way it’s not some weird mind game anyone is playing, where purposefully withholding themself to the “‘nice guy”. When they finally do get intimate and really…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:09 PM
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If the woman doesn’t want to sleep with you I would say you are the problem here. She doesn’t feel safe with you or sexually attracted to you. Where does this weird ppd idea come from, that women are sexual are free until she meets “you” and wants to settle down? When a woman meets the “one” she’s not going to hold back sexually from him..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:04 PM
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I love my meds! One part of the toolbox!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:38 PM
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Agreed. The people who I've met in my life who dismiss or outright refuse therapy are the ones who honestly need it the most. Edit : downvote me to oblivion but it’s true. Some are even immune to therapy because their personality disorders don’t allow them to be able to hold themselves accountable, they believe everyone else is the problem not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:06 AM
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I’m a shy socially awkward person. I married a shy socially awkward person (a bit less so than me but we get each other). When I tried to date extroverted outgoing guys it never worked out, just never understood each other. My point is to date people similar enough to you (or in your lane) so that you feel accepted and understood and everyone gets along. Not trying to be ableist at all. An extravert most likely is not going to get along great with someone who is socially awkward or anxious. So b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:44 AM
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Right?? It's another bizarre angle men have on here to hate on women for. It's completely delusional and fantasy. Another bizarre reason for them to seek vengeance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:45 PM
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Why do I see average & below-average men ALL THE TIME with average & below-average women, holding hands, on dates, married to them with kids? I mean there are some serious creatures out there and they figure it out, I see it every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:43 PM
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Exactly. Each man I've been with (not many) had a much more colorful sexual past than me. When that one guy told me he once had a foursome should I have been disgusted and ditched him right there? Erm, no. He enjoyed that, but then he enjoyed me, wanted to be with me, wanted to marry me (but I did not want to marry him). Why you all are so obsessed with a person's sexual history is beyond me and reeks of major insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:39 PM
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People like who they click with, who they have things in common with, who's personalities complement them, who they can relate to. Your headline should really read "Neurotypical women aren't romantically interested in neurodivergent men". Seek neurodivergent women. Stay in your lane. Also, autism obviously comes with inherent social struggles. Go to therapy and learn empathy & social skills and you'll relate better to people in general. Most importantly, stop blaming your love life issues on wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:20 PM
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Whoa, that’s me! 🥹❤️. That make a me smile. And yes, I noticed that too! I was hoping to see some people post cons (everyone has them) and how they are working on them. I’ll post some of mine: I have chronic anxiety and depression and have to manage it for life via therapy and meds. I also have a lot of trauma and baggage from a turbulent childhood. I also am shy, have low self esteem, and am hyper sensitive and need to be handled with kid gloves (love my husband to death, he’s SO kind and gentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:19 AM
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Yeah I don’t know how they do it. We aren’t having kids, and I had kind of a breakdown a year ago which led me to leave my career.. I walk dogs now, a fraction of my old salary but I’m so much happier now. I feel bad that my husband carry’s the breadwinner role now, I do put in a lot more effort with chores to try and make up for the lack of salary contribution. I’ll figure out something else someday, but I do recognize the stress of the financial load and I hope to find a new career to better h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:03 PM
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Thanks for your thoughtful response! I have a pusheen, too! I wish you all the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:00 PM
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I don’t know much about trad marriages so I can’t answer your question. If I am not financially independent I don’t feel free 😖. Every marriage is different, I get that some people enjoy trad life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:56 PM
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I wish you’d stop making assumptions about me and ask questions instead. Would a single man, desirable or not, want a second date with someone who had complete discomfort with intimacy, even holding hands being terrifying? Someone who was so socially awkward and uncomfortable she was nearly mute? Someone so stiff and rigid and uncomfortable she couldn’t even relax on the couch and watch tv with him without shaking? Someone who at her very worst was to anxious socially to even speak to her own pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:50 PM
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Stay humble, you are right, it’s a fine/wise trait!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:28 PM
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I’m not judging anyone. The millionaires are the same as the average salary guys. The 6 foot club is same as the 5 foot club. I’m happy to see all the things the guys are proud about themselves. I’m only judging the guys with sarcastic thorny responses, or the guys that say they have a temper as a flaw, as that’s scary to me and I hope they work to improve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:26 PM
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I understand. In this case it’s important to seek kind hearted people, or like minded people in a similar situation, just to build that initial social support system. I will concede that kind hearted people are truly hard to come by. But they do exist. In general people just don’t understand how to deal with/help someone with a severe mental illness, so relying on family, a therapist, people in group therapy, or coworkers, anyone kind you can find and befriend can be a start. And of course thera…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:23 PM
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Men can attract women with their looks. If they have issues with their personality or mental health problems like I did, then they won’t get the second dates, like I didn’t. I’m only speaking from my experience. I could attract guys, but my debilitating mental issues scared them away. I’m not going to argue which gender has it worse in that situation, it’s a bad situation to be in. Therapy and meds changed my life, took many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:16 PM
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A lot of men are proudly listing their positive traits and I’m happy to see it. ESP the traits in which they are working on improving.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:07 PM
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They do, but the worst ones get better very quickly. I had insane tiredness the first few weeks.. that went away thankfully. What didn't go away was the lower libido, that one can be a struggle for a lot of people, including me, just makes things take longer, but it's a tradeoff that works because the alternative is a life that is not happy for me. But yeah I hope you enjoy the workbook!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:45 AM
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Do you have social anxiety? I had it real bad, therapists said I was not autistic, but the social awkwardness/anxiety made me feel like I was. CBT is great, you're right it does help, even a little bit helps. Medication really opened my world up. I was like.. is this what 'normal' people feel like? It just took so much edge off everything, so i wasn't so anxious about everything. Daily societal functions became manageable. IDK I know there are no meds for autism spectrum, but there ARE meds for …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:11 AM
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Have you ever considered talking to someone for a possibly diagnoses? Maybe there are tools out there that could help, if you are in fact wishing for help? I don't have autism but I do have anxiety disorders, and some of the symptoms line right up with autism. The tools I've learned have been sooo helpful socially!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:10 AM
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What! That can't be right - there's only 150 pokemon!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:08 AM
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They see me mowin' My front lawn I know they're all thinking I'm so white 'n' nerdy Sorry 'nerdy' got this song in my head now 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:04 AM
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Doh!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:54 AM
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I’m sure there are better men than me but It's not a competition, or at least that was not the intention here. Be proud of what you wrote :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:48 AM
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All the money def going into a female version of viagra! OR, better yet, all the money going to a company that will discover and create an antidepressant that actually doesn't negatively affect the libido as a side effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:36 AM
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Winner of the thread!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:31 AM
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I understand truly that it is a legitimate concern and I can relate to that, regarding formative years. Men were forgiving of my rookie mistakes only once I learned to manage the most severe aspects of my anxiety through anxiety and various tools. Without those tools no one was ever going to get in, and it wasn’t the guys’ fault, it was mine, and my responsibility to fix it. Of course I was grateful of the men who eventually did get through and were so kind and patient with me and my issues. Aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:04 AM
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It’s ok, you don’t have to identify and I appreciate your response. If women have your support for key issues like abortion then that’s good enough for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:57 AM
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Introversion is not a flaw! I love the “stay at home club”!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:52 AM
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You sound great to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:50 AM
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My husband is not 6 feet, speaks a one language, not a millionaire, no six pack. Most of the amazing men in my life are also in the same league. It’s not a competition, it’s just about you ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:48 AM
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I don’t know, is it? I was attracting men with my looks and literally scaring them away with my uneasiness and severe awkwardness. One saw me on the college elevator after a date and darted away right as the door opened. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:37 AM
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Well fwiw it’s really just an equal rights movement, with the request to be treated with respect, in the workforce or wherever 😊 any hostile elements are usually fringe and not representative of feminism. Without feminism I think I would probably be a housewife with no financial independence. Women have come so far though and in a really short amount of time, so we just maintain the movement to maintain our gains! Bc just like Roe, people are always looking to take away recently gained rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:57 PM
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It really absolutely is a factor! A huge factor! Looks and material stuff might get you on the first date, but without personality wont get to a second. And you sound like a good person!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:31 PM
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I'm not looking to validate others. My effort was to get you to validate yourself, which it seems you already do, so good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:29 PM
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You sound like a great person. I'm so sorry for what you've been through as a child. I can relate there, and the perfectionism too.. it's made a lot of things in life quite challengeing. Best of luck to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:24 PM
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LoL dope
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:20 PM
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There has to be something??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:19 PM
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Well, I've never approached a man, I'm terribly shy. But whenever I found someone attractive I'd always hope they'd talk to me. Somehow I'd send the right signals and he'd eventually make a move. Culturally it seems to have been decided that men make the first move, unless the woman is very bold. So, I would disagree with your assumption that no one finds you attractive. I bet a lot of women do, and are just waiting for you to talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:18 PM
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In addition, I was also quietly hoping that more men would list the things they are working on to better themselves. Because I see a lot of guys on here talk about their lousy situations, and I'm curious what people may be doing to better them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:12 PM
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Sure, I agree with your first paragraph. In which case those people should NOT be here communicating with other jaded folk, it just destroys their mindset and outlook on people/life. And for your second paragraph I'm not really trying to highlight being a 'catch', rather just allow men to list what they are proud about themselves for, and what might make them attractive in another person's eyes. I just see a lot of talk in here about men just 'wanting a chance', so i thought, why not give an opp…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:11 PM
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Can you tell me what aspects of feminism turn you off to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:07 PM
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I'm so shocked I'm seeing comments that are mostly like this! I was expecting to hear more about people's personalities, or how they would care for a woman they wish to be in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:05 PM
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It's true. It's an incredibly off-putting, selfish, mean trait. "I was just expressing myself" is never a justifiable excuse for being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:04 PM
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Yeah I mean it was a literal comment here about "wanting to be given a chance" that inspired this post. I was just using the same language.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:01 PM
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Yeah seems a little aggro =\
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:00 PM
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That wasn't the intention at all. I wanted to give the guys here an opportunity to share who they are and what they are proud about themselves. Because I see a lot of the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:59 PM
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Shyness and social anxiety are absolutely crippling - trust me, I know. To me that is the major take away from that image. Anyway, I had to do serious long term therapy and get on meds and better myself enough before people started to give me a chance/before I stopped scaring guys away with my severe social awkwardness. Change is possible!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:56 PM
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What's your personality like? I'm fascinated that most answers here are on physical/material things!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:51 PM
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It's healthy if he's truly not repressing his emotions. He can be upset without losing his shit or taking it out on someone. Maybe he's really in touch with his emotions and knows how to manage feelings of anger. A lesson a lot of us could use.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:48 PM
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Some people truly are unflappable. And I say good for them. Anger/temper/meanness is the biggest red flag, horrible to put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:47 PM
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Your accountability and humility is a big attractiveness boost! A lot of people are so insecure and defensive and cannot admit their flaws, it's a major red flag. So, good on you and I wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:44 PM
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Wise man you are! :-) Rooting for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:40 PM
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Not my intention, see comment below the other who replied to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:46 PM
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That’s all I meant, just tell us about yourself. ESP the good qualities that you are proud of. A lot of men here seem to have sentiments that they are not good enough, or that women don’t give them a chance. So I just wanted to give an opportunity to just talk about how awesome you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:46 PM
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I can be on the troll side too because comments on here make me so upset and angry. But I’ll try to remember in the future there are very nice people here too who truly want to engage and listen. I don’t want to let the hate and anger win.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:26 AM
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Dude, this is the most civil piece of discourse I’ve ever had on this sub. Thank you for hearing me, thank you for your civil response!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:07 AM
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Do you also think they should be more agreeable, less bossy, and smile more? And ya, that time at the gym where one of you guys took my “smile back” as a sign that it was ok to take my hand, gaze into my eyes, and introduce yourself - that was CREEPY and scary, and makes me not want to be remotely polite to any man in my vicinity if this is what it apparently invites. Or the other one of you at work in high school at the supermarket who took my friendliness as a sign I was into him and told me I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:51 AM
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Why is everyone so fucking stupid? Why can’t they be interigent, like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:01 PM
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Can this sub be removed and replaced with this simple paragraph?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:56 PM
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Right? The 5 is so pissed a 10 won’t date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:54 PM
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Yeah this sub is so cringe. Don’t know why I keep coming back. The train wreck you can’t look away from. Like, are these guys all 12?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:50 PM
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I had a therapist when I met my husband tho lol. Anyway I have a wonderful marriage so don't worry, you don't need to tell anyone not to date me, I'm taken. Good luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:24 PM
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I have chronic mental illness - severe anxiety and depressive episodes. I don't lash out at anyone ever, I internalize my problems, which makes it harder for me, but easier for my loved ones. My husband loves me the way I am and helps me SO much. I consider myself broken often, but he does not. He helps me feel as close to whole as I can. Please don't stigmatize mental illness, in general. I will concede, though, that certain disorders like BPD would be an absolute challenge/nightmare to deal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:05 PM
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This is accurate. Most single guys I know used to be thin and attractive in their 20s and are used to being able to get attractive women. Now they are fat and sloppy (with bad personalities too), and complaining that no women are interested in them, when in fact they are chasing the women they USED to be able to get, and not the ones that exist in their new matching lower attractiveness bracket. And the best part - instead of bettering themselves, they blame MeToo and feminism for their situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:32 PM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:23 AM
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What is the argument for banning iuds??? Tf
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:52 AM
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According to this subreddit: we are frigid prudes for not having casual sex, also we are whore sluts for having casual sex. Also my abortion wasn’t from fucking a random stranger. It was planned, with my husband. I had to terminate because I quickly developed a life threatening severe untreatable case of a pregnancy illness called hyperemesis gravadarum. You generalization of women who seek abortions is very, very telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:49 PM
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I think a little of column A and a little of column B. Also peoples opinions can change, so maybe some of these women truly were blindsided.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:05 PM
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I'm so sorry I offended you with my eye roll!! Poor dear. I guess your point will never be made then * shrug *
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:31 AM
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I'm prone to severe hyperemesis gravadarum, forced to terminate my first and only pregnancy, and I'm likely to have it 85% chance with each pregnancy. Soooo no I am not planning it, ever. ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:30 AM
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Massive eye roll aside ----- WHO is pushing their partners to be sterilized when they may want children??? It's usually a decided decision between both partners..??? Where in this thread is this even talked about? Also I'm SO glad he isn't in any pain. That was my biggest fear. I know men who had a really hard time with it post op. I was absolutely amazed at how easy it was for him. And he told me he'd do it 100 times if he had to so he wouldn't have to watch me relive the pain I've been through…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:01 AM
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Who is doing this to their parters, "pushing" them? Please share. My husband just sterilized himself and we've been together for 12 years. He's been fine since the procedure. Meanwhile once a month I'm in agony during my period, was in agony trying to get an IUD in (which was unsuccessful), was in agony for my therapeutic abortion, am in agony basically every gyno visit. The procedure for women is 100x worse than it is for men. Glad I found a MAN who can take one for the team after seeing my yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:20 AM
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No they are actually straight up breaking up with men who have revealed themselves to be "pro life". Check out /r/twoxchromosomes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:15 AM
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Tell the boyfriends and husbands out there to abstain from sex. They provide the sperm. If we had things our way we wouldn’t let you lot roll on top of us for a quickie every morning. Y’all are the ones hounding us for sex all the time. This is all beside the point though. Enforced celibacy doesn’t work and won’t stop abortions from happening (unless you’re an incel I guess!)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:44 PM
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I’m guessing you’re a man who’s never been pregnant and needed an abortion. Having to fly to another state for medical care? “Relax”? Are you serious? Do you know just how many can barely afford the abortion itself, let alone buy a plane ticket, a hotel room, a rental car etc just to have a simple procedure?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:47 PM
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Very low self esteem caused by verbal abuse fostered at a young age affects you for life. I’m still shocked when some guy comes up and starts chatting with me, and am unable to tell if it was flirting or what. Being married and having that ring on my finger has helped to stop the casual approaches, but the random guy still thinks there’s a chance - and that baffles me. Anyway though, I know I’m friendly and attractive, my inferiority complex just fucks with me and attracts orbiters and I know I …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:17 PM
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Oh my gosh.. if you’re going to complain about women being too “stupid” for you that’s on you for seeking women outside of your own criteria. Sounds like your looking for high looks instead of high brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:40 AM
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People on the internet are just terrible to each other. If you are a generally approachable, friendly person, then there’s no reason any person wouldn’t be nice or kind or helpful towards you (unless they are just jerks themselves). My first job as a teen was at a grocery store, and I barely interacted with my peers prior, I was so unbearably shy. This job forced me to work with and interact with kids that were all different looks, sizes, economic backgrounds, from different cliques, etc. And gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 03:14 AM
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Yeah he’s short too. He still found someone (in his league)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:51 PM
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Lol he’s not wealthy by any means. So tell me why are you single and jaded?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:09 AM
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My friend who’s in sales and makes over 200k, her husband is a cop. My friend who is a social worker and made more by default than her drug addict then husband. My sister in law who works for Amazon and makes six figs, her spouse is a house husband. My husbands house husband community theatre friend who married a millionaire woman who sold her business. I can name more if you’d like?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:41 PM
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I see situations where the woman out earns by a shit ton and STILL does the vast majority of the chores and child care, because most men expect that of women anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:13 PM
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Why do you want everyone to fail? Why can’t you believe that some people in this sub truly are happy? Also how many relationships have you been in yourself, mister expert?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:12 PM
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Then why do all my girl friends have non chad husbands, including me? Someone last night mentioned this kid from highschool and it took me a second to remember him, then I saw a photo and I remember, 1/10 so unattractive and a lousy personality. He’s married with 3 kids. So what’s your deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:08 PM
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Are u fucking joking? I was making six figures in my early 20s and was supporting my boyfriend who lived with me 100%. Paid for rent, groceries, cleaned, did everything. He made minimum wage but he still worked 40 hours. I’ve been the bread winner most my life in all my relationships, even in marriage for majority of it. It DOES happen the other way around, get out of here with your sad lonely misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:02 PM
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My friend is in sales and SHE makes over 200k a year. Her husband is a cop and idk probably makes like 50k. They both work 40 hours per week. They both come home tired from their jobs. So you are saying that my friend should sit her ass on her couch and watch tv while the husband, bc he makes less money, takes care of the baby, walks the dog, does the laundry, dishes, makes dinner, cleans up, etc? 😬 What kind of weird slave fantasy is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 08:59 PM
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lollll bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 11:24 PM
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Yep. And I wonder why all abortion discussion has been locked into a lone mega thread? Men here don't give a shit about roe v. wade because a) they resent us as you said, b) can walk right away if they actually do have sex and get the woman pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 11:21 PM
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Also sorry I was an asshole. It’s a deeply personal topic for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:04 PM
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Thank you. I hope there is a pro choice woman in your life who you can sit with and really listen to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:41 PM
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You sound like a fuckin idiot who have never touched a woman before
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:24 AM
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Do you think this change will encourage men to keep their dicks in their pants?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:00 PM
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lol. Why let him make ME suffer if he accidentally gets me pregnant (birth control fails) and I have severe hyperemeis gravadarum again, nearly die, and require an abortion (which was the most physically painful thing I've ever endured in my life)? He's agreed on a vasectomy for years, but has been lazy and dragging his feet on it. So now, while I abstain from sex, there will a fire under his ass to make sure he finally gets it done :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:51 PM
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Now it's "EQUAL"? WOW at that choice of word.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:48 PM
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Birth control pills, condoms, etc CAN fail, jackass.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:39 PM
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I’m just joking but that’s good to know. Husband already called the dr today.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:13 PM
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As I stated, it will make things worse for them because they will be even more careful and restrictive about sex than they already are, and men will be upset by that, give them a hard time, try to pressure them, call them cockteases and come on this sub and complain about them. Have you ever asked “where are you in your cycle” to a woman to ensure you aren’t having sex with her anywhere in the fertility window?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:54 PM
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Yup. Just them and their hand!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:29 AM
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Women who are already weary of casual sex are called prudes and teases. They are shamed if they don’t put out after stepping into his house. You guys call her a cocktease for waiting weeks to sleep with you, if you even get that far. This will make things worse for them. As if this god damned situation isn’t already punishment enough. Men are always more reckless with casual sex, nothing will change there. This should be a question for women as it zero affects men. I’m married and I’m calling fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:56 AM
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Idk young women don’t know enough about life yet to avoid fuckbois
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:56 AM
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I don find him attractive in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:35 AM
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Yeah it’s like a woe is me, revenge fantasy circle jerk. A sad coping mechanism. It’s a lousy character trait to whine and complain about something than to try and improve one’s self. ESP a negative attitude and mental health issues.. it takes a lot of work and i wish the dudes here would embark in the journey instead of pretend women are the problem for their situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:51 PM
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No it won’t. But it will teach you to love yourself as the shy introvert that you are. And teach you techniques that will immensely lessen the social anxiety you may have. So you will still be your introverted shy wonderful self, but socially you will very likely find it easier to talk to people and make connections with others. And you will learn to respect yourself and your unique needs as you are! It’s a much better way to live than to mask and try so hard to be something other than you.. tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:46 PM
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ACT or “acceptance therapy”. Instead of trying to be an extravert you focus on accepting yourself as the wonderful introvert that you are! And when you love yourself as u are others will too. I know so many wonderful cute introverted men who have found love. But yeah, therapy man, it works!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:32 PM
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That's not true. I have never been rich in my life! As long as you are on health insurance your copay should be no more than $20. Just find a therapist in your area that takes insurance (most do). I'm sorry your experience didn't work out. Sometimes you have to try again to find a therapist who is a better fit for you and your personality. Why did you pay 3k? That would be like, 150 sessions! Changing your diet, meditating, all these daily techniques are part of the whole package - those are goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:14 PM
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There are! :-). Antidepressants and anti anxiety meds work great for social anxiety, along with therapy. Therapy is so good for learning to accept and love yourself the way you are (CBT and ACT). Also 'fix' implies you are broken, which you are not! Also, books on Social Anxiety are SO great, I learned so many techniques that really saved me. It took months and months of practice, it paid off truly. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:06 PM
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Cbt and act and meds - life changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:30 PM
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It’s not. Social anxiety disorder IS a disability tho. Best thing to do if you’re an introvert is accept yourself for who you are than try to act like something you’re not. This modern world is not made for introverts so it’s hard but you have to learn to adapt and live in accordance with your unique needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:29 PM
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When my social anxiety disorder was tragically bad I would still get approached and asked on dates, but scare them away very quickly. It was almost worse than not getting any attention at all. Therapy has been life changing though and I urge anyone suffering from debilitating social anxiety to seek it! Meds too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:26 PM
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Lmao just the other day there was a post about how childless women are “broken”. Now we are broken for HAVING children. This sub kills me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:17 PM
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At the Roxbury, duh. “Hey, what’s up, you from outta town?”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:12 PM
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No one is shaming male sexuality. What OP and you are doing is not respecting women’s sexuality under the guise of “honesty”. If you really want to get a positive response to OPs fornication question then go on Grindr. Men are wayy more sexually charged than women and two of them together is a damn fireworks show.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:25 PM
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Because of social acumen and standards!! How is this so hard to understand? We would also be equally repulsed if you, out of honesty, said to us “Hi there miss, I thought you should know that I have to take a big shit”. You have to get to know somebody and earn trust before you can be certain levels of honesty. Otherwise you’re a 100% creep weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:19 PM
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You're completely being an asshole and bullying women in this thread - why? Why is this topic so important to you? You, like much of society, are the reason why some women actually DO feel broken for not having children, whether it's their choice or not. Go clean your room and grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:49 PM
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They are. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:42 PM
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That’s exactly what he has. He’s cruel and bullying women on here for no reason. Imagine how broken he must feel to have to project so fiercely onto women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:37 PM
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They just need reasons to see women as inherently broken as a coping mechanism for how none want to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:29 PM
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This headline makes me sad AF, as I can’t carry to term. I guess my peers really do see me as broken as I feel. Edit: Ya I saw your deleted comment. This sub is “rough” as you say, esp when people double down on needlessly cruel posts. I just looked at your post history and it’s absolutely RICH that you’re sitting here calling other people “broken”. Good luck to you, buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:39 AM
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That's awesome! Do you scent them with fragrance or essential oils? I love lavender or rose geranium. Bergamot is nice and refreshing, tooo!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:11 AM
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Hence why I put cowardly in quotes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:28 PM
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As weird as this sounds, the women on this sub have actually made me more a feminist. I'm glad to hear it! And some posts on here absolutely open my eyes to the struggles of being a man (esp in the modern dating world) that I otherwise had no idea about. There's a lot to be learned if people here can just follow the sidebar rules, and also not believe things like AWALT or AMALT (if thats a term lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:16 AM
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Shy, timid, “cowardly” people are just as lovable as anyone else. I hope this is the response you’re hoping for because it’s true. It’s all about finding someone who’s traits help to balance yours out, and brings out the best in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:59 AM
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That's an admirable wish, however, the more women speak up here the more they are pushed out, laughed at, and called horrible names. I mostly just lurk because the attempt at having discussions is so damn exasperating and insufferable. I think the men here prefer the echo chamber anyway tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:36 PM
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A RP ex-friend introduced me to gender discussions. When I'm bored and craving a bit of drama I like to see what shocking and absolutely bizarre thought processes are posted here. Kind of like picking up a trashy celeb gossip magazine while waiting at the airport. I also feel some need to stick up for women bc I cannot stand the AWALT argument thats plastered here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:27 PM
1

Buying a gun will end the fear?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:55 PM
1

Can you link some sources for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:51 PM
1

No thanks re gun. But, if I still lived in the city I’d get pepper spray or something. In college they gave all the girls rape whistles and taught some basic self defense if I remember correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:48 PM
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That’s great, I wish I could get it! The doctor tried for like 10 minutes, it was agony, it felt like I was being stabbed over and over again and I nearly fainted. She couldn’t get it in, narrow cervix or something? 😔 it was one of the top most physically painful things I’ve ever endured.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:44 PM
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To be fair I don’t see “beta” as a bad thing, I don’t buy into that terminology but if I had to use it my husband would be a beta and he’s the best. Best of luck to u
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:53 AM
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Men are less likely to feel the need to lock their doors at home, to check the backseat of their car when they get in at night, to make a weapon by holding your keys in a fist when walking to the parking garage, look behind their shoulder when walking alone at night. Also are less likely to require a travel buddy and can travel solo without fear. I’ve never been assaulted or had someone come in my home but I’ve been hooted and followed and hollered and leered at enough to feel the deep need to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:40 AM
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Contraception for women often fucks them up with bad side effects. The pill wrecks sex drive, mental health, and more. IUD hurts like a bitch and can perforate uterus. The shot and the arm implant makes you bleed sporadically. Then men whine about not wanting to wear a condom. Which makes the woman, who loves her man, try the rhythm method and bam she’s pregnant 3 months later. He never wanted kids but never got a vasectomy and complained about condoms. She’s pissed she let the guy sway her into…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:17 AM
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Projection: “beta me can’t get a date and I wish a female would ask me out”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:38 AM
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Just had to look up that term beta bux. Why would a guy want that, if (according to urban dictionary) the woman doesn’t actually love him and is just there for the cash?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:20 PM
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Why are men here so obsessed with age gap relationships? Are they like 40 something neck beards looking for validation for lusting over their 19 year old neighbors daughter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:30 AM
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Whoever she is doesn’t represent all woman’s feelings on this matter. I’ve gotten older and while I bemoan my wrinkles and age spots, I certainly don’t miss the filthy scary things men would quietly utter as I walked down the street to work. Also don’t miss being cat called or hollered at from men driving past me when I was like 12 and walking to my friends house. I don’t miss the time a guy at the gym approached me and somehow took my hand to give it a squeeze while he gazed into my eyes. I lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:18 AM
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😂 ily
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:47 PM
1

Nihilists! I mean, say what you like about the tenets of National Socialism, Dude, at least it's an ethos
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:44 AM
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Your comments are so good. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:49 PM
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Watch Love On The Spectrum. Date within your lane. Lots of autistic women out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:48 PM
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Do you have social anxiety disorder? I suffered like you for a long time. Therapy (specifically CBT) and medication really help! It opens so may doors that before seemed forever impossible to even REACH for the doorknob. I was a late bloomer myself. It gets better once you take the first steps :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:03 AM
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I apologize , u are right . My reaction was more of what I was seeing In the comments I guess. Thank you for saying “some girls” and not generalizing all girls .
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 10:11 PM
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"Stop thinking in terms men vs women, start thinking in terms of different behaviors." I only think that way in this sub because I've been forced to due to the vile things I've read here in EVERY SINGLE thing a guy has posted. Offline I don't think in terms of men vs women at all! And I don't use one man's bad behavior to generalize the whole gender. And trust me, I've had a lot of bad experiences with men, romantic and platonic. OP made a generalization about all women, and I find it offensive.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:09 PM
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Those studies mean nothing to me and I didn't even look at them, because I'm talking about at my friend who I've known since high school, and her real life marriage, in which I was in the wedding for. Also didn't look at it bc it's some long winded copy pasta and if you have a point to make and want someone to hear and contemplate on it, then keep it clear and simple. We all aren't robots who's destinies are programmatically decided. There's real life experience and nuance involved. If you think…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 08:59 PM
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Easily slept with 20+ people. Had trouble holding down a guy but no problem with casual sex. When she dated she was always primarily looking for a relationship, but had no problem hooking up even if she realized the guy wasn't truly interested in anything more. Hooked up a lot at parties too. She just really is comfortable with and loves sex. We always called her the "Samantha" of our group (from Sex and the City!). Anyway, the guy she married was the first real longterm relationship she ever ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:44 PM
1

Is this a statement or a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:29 PM
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100%. Women can't win in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 03:16 PM
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Bizarre and 100% self indulgent. A drug so women are hornier and more likely to have sex with you? Wow. Really creepy and scary tbh. How about a birth control pill for men? That's a drug that actually benefits both parties, AND increases women's libido by the sheer fact that she knows she'll be safe from pregnancy. Also, how come this sub is so against women with high N counts, but at the same time filled with posts like this about how women wont have casual sex with them (thus increasing their …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 03:07 PM
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This sub amazes me. Just yesterday there was a post about slut shaming women with high N counts saying how they are not worth it, now this post shaming women for NOT wanting to be friends with benefits (which would lead to a higher N count for her). Women can't win in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 02:55 PM
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You people in this sub are absolutely delusional and must be truly miserable people inside to believe what you do. My friend is happy and just had her first baby girl with her husband a few months ago. What do you have going for you? Obviously no women in your life. Utterly sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:27 AM
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Low n count should be the goal if you're looking for something serious Why? My best friend from high school was very promiscuous from her teens through her mid 20s til she found her husband. She has been married like 5+ years and has 2 kids with him, so clearly it became something serious. I don't understand the N count issue regarding women in this sub, and how men don't apply it to themselves. It feels very outdated...? Like in the past men were always allowed to be promiscuous, no shaming wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:28 PM
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Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting men Again - women showing off their hot boyfriends on social media has no correlation with your claim that they 'vet men for looking good as a couple'. It's a weak conclusion that generalizes women as a whole and yes, makes it look like you hate women. PS none of my women friends do this on social media. So I don't know what kind of social media accounts you are looking at to begin with. Probably influences who are absolutel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:13 PM
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I'm a woman and was once a young woman, so I'd say I have experience lol. Still, you have no personal experience to back up your claim, and are using social media to generalize all women. As if men aren't as well posting photos of their hot girlfriends on social media.. This sub is so anti women it's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:37 PM
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You didn't provide any specific examples though, thus no evidence. Just generalizations. Can you provide specific experiences that back up your claims?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:22 PM
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I provided evidence and an actual example of an IRL person that feels that feels that way. You are providing a gross generalization about women as a whole without providing evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:16 PM
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Only person I know that EVER was concerned about what you are asking was actually a man. Had a whole list of criteria for his future wife, including how many kids she would give him (as many as she'd let him), and top of the list is she had to be attractive so that he'd look good in public. He told me this many times straight up. He's kind of a sociopath, but he did find this woman eventually somehow. Prior to his marriage he'd date women to pass the time and break up with them because he was em…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:06 PM
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R/enoughpetersonspam
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:54 PM
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Wrong. My husband does NOT have any authority over me. We are true equals in our 10 year marriage. I love and respect him and am aroused by him, lying on bed next to him right now. Your reality is not based on reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah like 1%. I’m out tho, the sub is woman repellent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:17 PM
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Good to know. I’ll see myself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:13 PM
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You’re so sweet and a rarity in this sub. I’m out, this sub is too hurtful, take care. But thanks for your kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:11 PM
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Don’t reference me again in this sub, I can’t take it, I’m repelled
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:10 PM
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He’s still blaming you! For being offended and hurt and emotional from online attacks discrediting you. It’s truly sickening. This sub is a horrible place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:09 PM
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Well what is your point then? That men are predators and us women should never go to parties because we might get ruffied or accidentally drink too much of the jungle juice? You guys all act like classic beta nice guys here but with your logic you’re all actually predators and we should be fearful of you. Which is it? Also I can’t argue this with you, I can’t make you realize you are victim blaming so please don’t respond anymore. I give up on this sub, this is a real shitty place. It’s like wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:54 AM
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In an interview with “60 Minutes” on Sunday, Miller, 27, was asked a question by correspondent Bill Whitaker that made me cringe: “What do you say to those critics, people who say you did drink till you blacked out, you did make yourself vulnerable?” “Rape is not a punishment for getting drunk,” Miller replied evenly. “We have this sick mindset in our culture — you deserve rape if you drink to excess. You deserve a hangover, a really bad hangover. You don’t deserve to have someone put their body…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:20 AM
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1000% disagree. I recommend the book “Know My Name” by Chanel Miller.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:51 AM
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So you would victim blame Chanel Miller then? For being at the same frat party as Brock Turner that night?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:30 AM
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It is malicious though. It’s no different than asking why Chanel Miller was at the frat party that night Brock Turner raped her. It’s turning blame back on the victim, time and time again. Also you were really cruel and insensitive to the other commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:24 AM
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Take the first paragraph and reverse the genders and send it to every man on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:08 AM
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Alolan vulpix was beautiful and sooooo cute. Hmm I don’t really have a favorite eevelution, maybe espeon! In Red I think I evolved mine to vaporeon so I could have an awesome water Pokémon (bc I didn’t choose squirtle)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:59 AM
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Nah ur right. I haven’t been on fb since 2017. I remember the same vitriol there and worse bc of photos so never mind what I said .
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:05 AM
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Oh I see, you don’t want credible allegations, you are looking for court convictions. Is the latter necessary to fire someone for workplace sexual harassment? It wasn’t necessary for the 45 year old dude who orbited the 25 year old women in the office including me 10 years ago. Once he told a manager she looked fuckable in her jeans it took her statement as well as a collection of all the women’s statements to get him fired. Her sole allegation wasn’t good enough for the boss at the time, despit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:42 AM
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I don’t do cards but I played Red in middle school, and played Shield when it came out, and played the crap out of the new Pokémon snap! Oh also in middle school I was obsessed with Indigo League! Special place in my heart for the original 150 ☺️. Do u play?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:33 AM
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It’s cool me and Garth are fine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:32 AM
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https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/23/us/metoo-replacements.html
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:14 AM
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Actually idk, if someone here made me mad enough here I’d probably insult their photo and vice versa. So you’re probably right
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:12 AM
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I wouldn’t use a photo against someone. If anything it would remind me I was talking to an real living breathing person. When someone’s icon is their actual photo I find I’m kinder to them and less likely to lash out in response to some unkind thing they said to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:09 AM
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*her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:07 AM
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It’s their first attack bc they haven’t seen an actual photo. When seeing a photo there is more humanity in the conversation - you’re reminded you’re talking to a REAL person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:06 AM
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Yikez
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:05 AM
0

Yay!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:04 AM
1

Yeah you’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:36 PM
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I’ve seen that one a long time ago! Was really great and helped me understand a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:32 PM
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I understand. This is supposed to be a neutral kind of space though (not like FDS or ask feminist) so I wish we could appreciate common ground and just be more open minded toward each other but I haven’t seen it much at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:30 PM
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I understand. I will say that I’ve felt the same uncompromising behaviors from men in this sub and it has not led to healthy discourse at all. How can we both be better? Maybe we can listen more and agree to disagree without insults or trying to force someone’s views to change..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:28 PM
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Yeah I mean, if we all could see a photo of who we were taking to it would change the conversation. And would probably make us treat the other person kinder in discourse I think..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:25 PM
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Hell ya i’m a Pokémon master !
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 10:23 PM
1

New Contrapoints video briefly mentions incels, trp, and tbp - thoughts ? (https://youtube.com/watch?v=aPhrTOg1RUk&feature=share at 8:10)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:51 PM
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Word! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:50 PM
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My husband is attractive but he’s not a chad. He’s a wonderfully dorky sweet kind dude. Walking down the street he and I probably look happy and average.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:48 PM
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Ok thanks for your insight
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:42 PM
1

Ha ouch, well I share similar sentiments. But it doesn’t make me feel good in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:40 PM
1

Do you feel the women in this sub are some kind of exception?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:39 PM
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Ok - so only because of the consequences would you want to keep women in the sub? So would you rather me not participate at all in here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:38 PM
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Fwiw I don’t come here with the intent to mock people. I come here to defend women in the face of mass generalizations of our entire gender. Do you think there is a better way we both can communicate with each other? I just don’t find TRP welcoming at all to women so I can’t seem to get a healthy foot in the door conversation wise. Like, what can I specifically do to communicate better with you yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:37 PM
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When don’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:30 PM
1

Why not? Would you prefer this be a men only sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:13 PM
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😂🤣 I like a nice light hearted joke in here once in a while
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:09 PM
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Are u calling me autistic lol…? I don’t use the phrase “man up”, it’s toxic and unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:09 PM
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Men: do you enjoy discourse with women on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:07 PM
1

Good for you I hope it goes well!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:07 PM
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Because men are bigger and physically stronger than us? Don’t call us pussies either. What are you 19 years old?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:59 PM
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I don’t want that from you. What I want is for women to not be generalized as a whole for amber heard behavior. Because I’m not generalizing men as a whole for Harvey Weinstein behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:57 PM
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I’m not over here blaming all men for this like the men in this sub are blaming all women for a plethora of things. Sure a false claim can end someone and should not even happen in the first place. Ideally there is an investigation, credibility, suspensions, and warnings.. and if bad behavior continues a termination happens. If it’s not credible and is actually false then the woman should be held accountable and fired. How many false claims have there been? It seems you care more about that then…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:28 PM
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https://www.inc.com/magazine/201804/minda-zetlin/sexual-harassment-workplace-policy-metoo.html So I don’t know how many men are doing the harassing but half of women have and are experiencing it (including myself)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:00 PM
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Large enough so that the metoo movement happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 07:32 PM
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I’m really sorry you had to go through that. And sorry that shaped your entire view of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 07:07 PM
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To stand up for women. But it’s exhausting and I’m thinking this should be an all male sub tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:42 PM
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Ha no I don’t agree, so I guess we can just agree to disagree. Men who can’t control themselves around women at work should avoid them sure, and should probably just work in all/mostly male industries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:40 PM
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I avoid men who are super aggressive sports types. Maybe you should avoid women types who are super into social media ? Either way both are not representative of the gender as a whole, not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:37 PM
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Does that help with your love life/relationships? Or do u just save the insults for Reddit? (I hope the latter). Anyway you might have more successful debates sans insults. I learn a lot more from guys here that are civil even when they disagree completely with me. And ideally they learn a bit from me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:55 PM
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https://youtu.be/JGGziPQp07o. Ok Dwight 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:48 PM
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How many false allegations have there been? What’s the stats on that? Also if you can debate without insults and “you” statements it really helps your case because you come off inherently more mature and level headed. Are you young?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:45 PM
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No, it’s not. Have you.. ever seen a vagina..? Vulpix is a Pokémon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:44 PM
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That’s not true that that is the average woman. But a lot of men and women are terrible, I mean look at reality shows and the people who watch them? Protect yourself and surround yourself with people that uplift you and inspire you. Don’t let the shitty people drag down your opinion of an entire gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:20 PM
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Also I’m not worried about losing my job unless I’m underperforming. I’m also not worried about losing my job for saying sexual comments to my all male colleagues, for saying at their packages, or for treating them less than - which I’d NEVER do. But if there was a global issue with women treating men this way in the office I’d absolutely support the abused men and want the women to be held accountable!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:16 PM
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Wrong. Just commented above. Also remember to be civil, wink!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:09 PM
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One is the right to not have your every movement tracked and information stored. It’s the fourth amendment in the constitution. No searches without a warrant. I think that’s a right we can all agree on, we don’t want a tyrannical government tracking out every move and using it against us. The other is some worry that women are conspiring to eject men from their jobs for no reason, using claims of harassment. There is no truth in this fear or this actually happening so I don’t know where the worr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:09 PM
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Sometimes we are not in the mood enough and know we won’t achieve orgasm but if our man is really horny we’ll fool around and let him have a quickie. We might not be super into it, but it’s still fun and makes us happy to make him happy. Then another day when we are feeling hornier we let him know and have a romp in the hay that results in both of us orgasming. Female orgasm isn’t as easy as men’s, not even close. Some women can only get off with oral, some can’t get off through vaginal, some ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:07 PM
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My experience and observations are the opposite so I guess we are gonna have to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 02:56 PM
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Yikes, well good for him for taking care of it. I only asked bc I’ve been in his situations and it’s bc of my boundary issues. I had an orbiter I had to block very recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 02:50 PM
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Dude it’s SO exhausting. I get a kick out of it and I keep coming back but I really should just not because I’m not changing anyone’s minds, I’m just getting riled up for nothing lol. I admire your spirit though and your civility when you talk to such brazenly hostile people. You do a great job keeping your cool and if anyone could change someone’s mind it would be someone like you 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:15 AM
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I didn’t even read this. Too emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:13 AM
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Well good. I mean I asked why you were angry and you said Instagram. So if you don’t even use it a lot I don’t see why we even had this discussion lolx
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:12 AM
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Some women, not all. It’s seductive because of the likes and the dopamine hits. Give less attention, we will care less about it. I deactivated my account a few weeks ago because Instagram as a whole was exaggerating my depression, it’s not a super healthy place and barely anything posted is based in reality anyway. So why don’t you delete? And like, yeah I’m disappointed in the women who use filters and are hooked on their account and projecting this image of perfection, and disappointed in myse…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:07 AM
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Instagram thots are not good for women either. They make me feel insecure and bad about myself even though I know they are not projecting reality in their photos. Did you not see my second question? Just don’t look and you’ll feel better and less angry (esp less angry at women overall because we are not all Instagram thot influencers or whatever),
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:52 AM
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I did get it! Fox news’s tag line is like double speak. I just didn’t expect an innocent light hearted joke here so thanks I needed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:48 AM
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So you mad at zuckerberg ? You try logging off or deleting your account?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:47 AM
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You are the one being emotional and triggered, not OP. Your ego is clearly bruised. You came at him hostile and angry and accusatory from the beginning. Like, you’re basically a hysterical woman, chill out honey.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:40 AM
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You sound like an awesome dude, and that’s rare in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:31 AM
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That would drive me mad! Do u think ur man might have some boundary issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:24 AM
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This was my conclusion as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:19 AM
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Sorry, if u were making a joke then it was cute. I just am met with such sarcasm and meanness here I genuinely didn’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:13 AM
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Wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:11 AM
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Aww damn I’m so rekt
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:11 AM
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Ha, ha?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:10 AM
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What happened to you to make you so angry? I genuinely would like to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:09 AM
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I appreciate your honest balance response
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 12:42 AM
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lmao these men are SOO upset that you had enjoyable casual sex!! It's only allowed for THEM, not for us women! Wowwwww.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:39 PM
1

Same!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:23 PM
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Showed my husband some of the arguments I've gotten into, and he's added his opinion, always from his own personal experience, and never using his experiences to generalize or deride women. He's a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:22 PM
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I'm coming at you with real world experience with diagnosed narcissists, and you're disregarding AND discrediting them. How am I supposed to NOT feel exhausted by that? If you don't care about my real world experience I don't care about your pulled-out-of-your-ass 90% statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:47 PM
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Well, from what I see here a lot of TRP flaired users post these very generalized derogatory views of women. Can you shed light on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:43 PM
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also, posting a lot on social media is a strong indicator for narcissism. Also you fully contradict yourself here. You also said "they are not easy to spot" but according to your previous post they're apparently everywhere online... So which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:18 PM
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Is The Rational Male = The Red Pill? Can you give me a tldr; ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:16 PM
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I don't believe this is a credible comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:15 PM
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I don't need your advice, or to teach me about narcissists. I just told you I'm well versed with them, but you still don't seem to believe me, and seem to be questioning my knowledge on them despite my experience I shared. I KNOW they aren't easy to spot initially - but at a certain point they are easy to identify. So - my friends who I've known since high school who post a lot on social media, I've known them a long time, we are close, and I know they are not narcissists. My mother who abused m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:08 PM
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I grew up with an alcoholic, bpd, FULLY narcissistic mother. My grandmother was a narcissist. I an unfortunately well versed with narcissists, and I still succumb to them. 99.99% of the people in my life I encounter are not narcissists. But there's been about 3 people I've encountered that I became close with, was manipulated by, and eventually had to cut them out of my life. So, I know narcissists. Because of my mother I've done a lot of reading and talk therapy, so I am confident that I know h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:44 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:26 PM
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Thanks! Exactly what I was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:26 PM
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Gross. I don’t even know why I’m here. Like, I have some weird need to debate and stand up for women as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:24 PM
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My friends who post a lot are not narcissists. The only narcissist I know actually DIDN’T post at all, he felt above it all, so he had no online presence really. But IRL he was horribly needy, selfish, hostile, manipulative, and insanely narcissistic. Like, seriously needs a therapist (has one but thinks he’s superior to her so it’s useless). My sister posts a lot of videos of her doing hip hop dancing and just funny stuff. Is she a narcissist? No. But is she confident and a little self absorbed…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:22 PM
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Tell me what TRP really is because at face value it seems like basic misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:19 PM
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What are the gender stats of this sub? 95% men and 5% women? It seems most posts and comments are men shitting on women, and women trying to defend themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:51 PM
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I refuse to assist or mentor a man beyond the most basic capacities anymore. The men all fall in love with me and try to ask me out, despite me being married. Or they get too cozy and personal with me and makes certain remarks that makes me extremely uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:43 PM
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The only men who are worried for themselves rn are the ones who are guilty of being creepy to women at work IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:38 PM
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Me too! I love not having to deal with my boss blatantly staring at my tits anymore!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:34 PM
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This sub is so weird. So many men posting here straight up hate women. Are they only here because red pill is banned? It takes so much energy debating with these guys !!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:31 PM
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A lot to unpack here but I’ll keep it simple. A persons online identity is NOT always representative of their IRL personality. I know the loveliest women who post a million selfies on Instagram because they are bored and have low self esteem and need the likes for dopamine hits. In person they are quiet and a little shy and very caring and kind towards others - aka not narcissists. What you said is completely baseless and only supports whatever self defeating logic you’ve created in your head fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:28 PM
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Women were completely excluded and banned from entire industries. What.. what time period are you referring to? I mean what you said is historically and categorically false and screams misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:25 PM
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It’s real easy to pinpoint and avoid attention whore types in OLD, is it not? Man or woman, if you don’t like attention seekers just avoid them instead of hating them and then using them to generalize the entire gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:21 PM
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On my feed of like 300 friends only three post a constant stream of selfies. The others don’t post at all, or post photos of their children now and then. Are you following women you know irl or Instagram models? Because the latter doesn’t represent all women or all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:17 PM
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👏 I love every woman here who has the energy and courage to face the men in this sub who hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:14 PM
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Funny how you don’t mention gym selfies (from MEN flexing in front of the mirror after getting some wicked gains from dead lifting). Just the women are attention whores tho 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:13 PM
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Well no one is going to dox themselves. She was like the only person in this thread that said 10. If 50% of the people said 10 then I'd doubt it. Again, she was simply answering OPs question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:20 PM
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She’s a 10 and you can’t handle it. If you knew you’d have such an emotional response you should have included “no tens!” with your odd “no sevens!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:31 PM
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He can’t handle it and instead of whining and fighting on Reddit he, and a LOT of men here, should seriously consider therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:25 PM
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Reeks of sour grapes. She answered the question the OP asked. What else should she have said instead??
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:33 AM
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He’s so envious of you and at the same time hates you bc ur so far out of his league, all he can do is argue with u to feel better about it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:31 AM
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Rekt
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:21 AM
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Poppy your posts are on fire 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:07 AM
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Seriously, disgusting. Something makes me feel like he’s not getting laid and it’s sour grapes (per usual with these weirdly mean and combative ppl here)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:59 AM
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Just because you haven’t experienced it doesn’t mean a sexual peak doesn’t exist tho. I mean read this thread, esp the posts from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:44 PM
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I hear you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:38 PM
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It’s just a generalization that addresses what a majority are experiencing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:06 PM
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Are you 12? Not only do you sound cringe worthy uneducated on the matter, but you sound plain mean. What does your comment add to the discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:05 PM
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Bingo you got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:03 PM
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It also may not even be their most satisfying sex (in their 20s when they are having it the most)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:03 PM
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That’s silly because women don’t always have sex bc they are horny. They do it to please their man esp if he’s higher libidoed. So no extinction either way. Many Women prior to the sexual revolution didn’t even know them can orgasm. Her personal anecdote is just that, an anecdote.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:01 PM
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Can you elaborate more? So you’re having more sex, and sounds like it’s more satisfying, and you’re libido is up. What do you think caused this? Curious bc I’m a woman of similar age! Do you think sexual comfort and experience is a big piece here, which may come with age, or do u think it’s simply biological?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:58 PM
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You just made my night with your kind words, thank you for saying that! Take care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 02:12 AM
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Lmao 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:58 AM
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Narcissism is a personality disorder and shouldn’t be demonized, it should be treated. I wish my mother found her treatment that works wonders for her when I was a young young girl, would have prevented a truly awful childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:56 AM
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Wherever you go, there you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:23 AM
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Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:21 AM
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My friends didn’t settle. They are happy. And they are mostly average too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:19 AM
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That’s why I mentioned therapy and self acceptance. And the part about him gaining confidence and thus improved self esteem. Like Tyrion Lannister said: “Own it. Then they can never use it to hurt you”. Easier said than done, but acceptance therapy does wonders.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:57 AM
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Well my lady friends ended up with their “average” husbands and love them to death, so it all worked out for them. Some of them short, some chubby, some not the most attractive objectively. A real mix and my friends are very happy! So why did it work out for these average men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:53 AM
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Thank you, that really means a lot to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:49 AM
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We aren’t friends anymore. I cut him off because he was hostile and self absorbed and ranted/emotionally dumped on me every single day and ignored my attempts an boundaries. His anger lost him a friend. Maybe he’ll move out of the country and find these mysterious better women who will “get” him!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:48 AM
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Of course they wouldn’t have a chance with me, because of their terrible attitudes!! Anyway, I worry because my friend who I had to cut off recently started becoming increasingly more misogynistic and hateful in his rants at me, red pill stuff. He did not respect my boundaries when I told him to stop. He’s a nice guy overall, and I feel like communities like this just ruined him. Instead of blaming ALL women for his dating woes he would have been better off with a therapist or a life coach who g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:42 AM
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Funny bc my lady friends complain about male harassment and dick pics from OLD. And for guys just looking for sex. I guess ALL guys are terrible shallow fuckbois, am I right? Also my friends who have had success and found their spouses online were in their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:34 AM
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“a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women” The definition of misogyny, btw. I wouldn’t tell anyone in your real life you are a misogynist like you just told me, might get a bad reaction. I don’t care if he’s bitter or jaded. He hates women. And he took out his anger repeatedly on his kind, caring , woman friend who always listened and tried to help. Oh his attitude also gets him blocked from most women he tries to date, and gets him blocked from close friends for …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:31 AM
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It’s bad to get mad. It causes you to blame whole genders for your problem and generally see things irrationally. Acceptance is better, with a determination to better yourself & your situation. You think all the short successful guys were mad..? Or is it possible they got a grip on their mental health and social skills, learned the confidence to accept themself as they are, and proudly presented himself to people beaming with such confidence that THEY too believed in him and overlooked appearanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:23 AM
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Strongly disagree on the last sentence, as a woman myself. Also Idk about the anger part. With my friend it caused him to be angry at WOMEN, not at his situation, not at his flaws that he refused to improve or work on, or on the shitty current state of the dating world in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:18 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:16 AM
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Women do have it easier. And, in general, those are the only things they care about. What does a single guy have to gain from constantly harping on this statement (which I don't believe is true) to excuse his failed dating exploits? Does it simply make him feel better to devalue the group that he feels has excluded him? However, there is a very small subset of women that actually prefer guys that aren't like that. That's the pool that most men have to select from (and the pool from which I found…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:47 PM
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Bingo, thank you!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:53 PM
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I love you so much lol you’re awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:48 PM
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No, what are you even talking about? I got mad because I was emotionally dumped on every single damn day. And had to listen to long denigrations about the entire gender I belong to. And because my boundaries were ignored time and time again. Dude was a BAD friend and pushed me to my damn limit. Don’t treat friends like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:46 PM
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Thank you so much for supporting me here sister !!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:43 PM
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Wtf? When a friend emotionally dumps on you EVERY SINGLE DAY and denigrates the gender you belong to… and doesn’t respect your boundaries when you ask him to stop, that’s what’s unfair and makes a BAD friend! I don’t know why you’re making this all about you right now, bizarre and has nothing to do with my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:42 PM
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He was taking his frustrations out on me yes, and venting NON STOP using sweeping generalizations about all women. And sending me incel hateful shit. I told him to stop and he refused to respect my boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:32 PM
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Victim blaming. Would have happened in her 20s too. She’s not responsible for the patrons behavior at her workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:26 PM
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Sing it, sister
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:20 PM
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Like, ALL women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:59 PM
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Thanks for the honest answer. So for a woman probably not 6ft because men don’t like women taller than them usually, not 6pack but relatively in shape, not chiseled jaw or hunter eyes (just drawing a parallel) but attractive enough to you, 6 figure not indicated. Your standards seem pretty genuine and healthy, just looking for someone you get along with, are attracted to, and in basically the same league as you? Edit: do u think this is the criteria most men have for women? Do you think some hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:52 PM
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Because people in this sub are using this notion to blame women as a whole for their dating problems. The guy doesn’t meet those top tier standards (which he believes all women hold), so he believes they are all that shallow. People here aren’t explicitly saying they hate women but it’s pretty evident by the language used, especially from the ones who have given up on dating altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:47 PM
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Thanks for your succinct well said insight. I think a lot of people here are saying that women have it easier in dating AND in life, and are using it as an excuse for their dating problems. Some are taking it to a particularly hateful level.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:41 PM
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So are most men seeking the wrong kind of women then? Women with straight up bad personalities who are overly critical of their potential partners? Does this type of woman have a certain type of look, is there a way to filter them out when swiping ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:33 PM
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I have not but like 8 out of those 10 friends have, and about half found their spouses that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:27 PM
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Attractive men have the same kind of strict preferences too. It hurts obviously because I’m a woman and he’s using incel, misogynistic logic and terms. It would be just as bad if one day he told me he was not pro choice. Hard to continue a friendship with someone who feels so hateful towards my entire gender. He would probably resent me if every other day I talked generally about how awful and shitty men are (which is something I don’t believe).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:26 PM
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I will agree that dating today is really hard, esp if you’ve already graduated from school or work from home. Also a lot of people are just jerks. And tindr seems toxic and limits a person to their physical attractiveness. There has to be a better solution to dating that OLD.. what do you think? I don’t think the solution is to blame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:22 PM
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If she were willing to date in her lane, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:18 PM
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It doesn’t just make them unattractive, it makes them scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:17 PM
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Because misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:15 PM
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Ok so my opinion and experience doesn’t matter. But yours does. The sweeping generalizations that align with your opinion is all that counts. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:11 PM
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I’ll just add my inner circle is different and the women date and have married all kinds of men. Attractive, unattractive, fat, fit, stable, unstable, educated, uneducated. I myself married my husband who is maybe 5’8, didn’t have a six pack, and who made the same salary as me at the time (a bit beyond entry level). So I don’t think it’s fair to generalize about women’s criteria based on your personal evidence. I will concede that women would rather have a man taller than her but my hot friend i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:08 PM
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So you would?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:51 PM
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Sure they can opt out. But opt out and maintain sweeping negative generalizations about all women? I think that’s unhealthy. A dude responded to my post saying how he accepts how some men were born in a better genetic pool and he’s moved on from it. He didn’t give up on dating altogether or hate on all women because one left him for a taller man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:50 PM
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Thank you, I’m so exhausted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:47 PM
1

What are the odds a man will date and seek an overweight unattractive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:46 PM
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They really do, it IS insufferable and they can’t even back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:44 PM
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I’m talking about my 10 person group of girlfriends from and since highschool. I’m not lying bro. Why are you accusing me of lying? So those 3 billion women are all simply simping for chads? Generalizations are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:43 PM
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What about men saying women want the 6 6 6? Is that misogynistic (I feel like these men are more likely to also believe women have it easier)? If not, is it sexist for me to say men only want big tits, big ass, fuckable pussy, and cooks and cleans?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:40 PM
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You’re still generalizing all women and saying they want alpha males… that’s not true at all. Wasn’t true for me or for any of my group of girlfriends. Are you an alpha male, is that why you were able to have sex and have a son?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:39 PM
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Right! Women are more often turned on by a romantic connection, where men are more often to get turned on like an oven, instantaneously. Them comparing their abilities to get sex makes no sense because the wants & needs regarding said sex is generally different between the genders. (Source: the book Come As You Are)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:33 PM
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I don’t go to that sub. Just know that I never looked at that man and used him to generalize ALL of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:27 PM
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Ok so if we believe that’s true where will that attitude get us when looking for love?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:27 PM
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Thanks, I really appreciate your honest response. You have a great attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:26 PM
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The men that claim this are more likely to hold misogynistic views toward women. Is this true or no? How does a man better his romantic life without using this phrase as a self defeating mantra?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:25 PM
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I care because I lost a great male platonic friend due to his increasingly misogynistic views. I couldn’t take hearing his rants anymore about women. It hurts me that men feel this way about women, because I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:23 PM
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I disagree with what you say but help me understand. What do you want women to do for men. You feel all women are gaslighting you? What kind of women do you seek and give me some examples of how you have been treated ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:18 PM
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People are shallow when it comes to first impressions. But when looking for a true partner are most women AND men holding their potential partner to such strict insanely high standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:12 PM
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These standards may be true for a small percentage of women who have insanely high standards but it certainly is not what most women require in a man. See my comment about the types of men me and my girlfriends dated on our 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:11 PM
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So are men and women just BOTH shallow horrible people then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:09 PM
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2) see my other comment describing how me and my friends never dated with such strict criteria Question for you - what is your criteria in a woman? Do you think there is a pattern for why you are only meeting women that want those things? Or, is it an excuse for something lacking on your end that you refuse or are unable to improve?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:08 PM
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Do unattractive and overweight women get these same benefits? Also don’t attractive men get these benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:06 PM
1

Got it, I appreciate this discussion with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:04 PM
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Right. So instead of bettering themselves it’s just easier to give up and to hate women altogether😬
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:02 PM
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Yes I do live in this society and in my twenties (not super long ago) me and my girlfriends dated all ages, sizes, good looking bad looking, weights, heights, economic backgrounds. None of them including myself had such strict criteria about a man. The only person I know who had such strict criteria on their potential partner was a man. He wanted someone who was beautiful, and who would stay at home and have as many babies as he wanted. He dumped someone because he thought she wasn’t attractive …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:57 PM
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Again I never called my situation predatory. He was not a bad guy. So I think we agree that sweeping generalizations are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:53 PM
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If this is true then what do men want? Big boobs, big ass, a pussy, a personal cook and a maid?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:51 PM
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I hate when men say “women have it easier”. It’s such a red flag. It’s also usually followed up with “they only want 6ft 6pack 6figures and social status”. Like if a man truly believes that, why does he even seek a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:23 PM
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Explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:51 PM
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No, I wanted an equal healthy relationship. I had no idea what I was getting into with an older man, but It was a lesson that was very quickly learned. Edit: this guy was only my second boyfriend. So I was very inexperienced still and all I knew was that I wanted to find love. I wasn’t looking for a unequal power balance at all and I didn’t enjoy it hence why I left.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:50 PM
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Well this is no longer civil if you’re gonna call my opinion bs so I’m no longer interested in this discussion. I just think there’s more nuance to these situations than you’re claiming. You don’t want to seem to admit that these situations CAN be predatory at all (woody Allen), so oh well. Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:48 PM
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I was talking about my naïveté (because of my young age and inexperience) regarding the innate power dynamic problem in May December relationships. It ended up being one of the top reasons I left him. I never called him a predator. Edit also wouldn’t it make sense for an actual predator to go for someone naive aka young? I’m not understanding the point you’re trying to prove. One more edit: also, in both scenarios (mine and the one you made up) the power dynamic overwhelmingly favors him. So aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:17 AM
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Aw thank you! Hm.. I don’t think any advice would have changed my decisions back then. I was just out of a three year relationship with a man child so an older attractive man seemed like a good idea at the time lol. Sometimes lessons just need to be learned through experience I think. But I’m surprised no one not even my mother voiced any dissent about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:19 AM
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I’m new to this sub so I’m just speaking to my general experience and knowledge of the topic. I still think May December relationships are hard to sustain either way.. and even though my experience was not predatory the power balance was blatant. I’d like to hear about a man twice her age story that worked out.. I mean I guess it happens In Hollywood, some really bad stories there tho (woody Allen).. also I don’t know the stats but I feel it’s much rarer that older women date men half their age,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:37 AM
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I mean even though I said I was in charge and made my choice there was absolutely a naïveté on my end that I was fully not aware of at the time. Do I think some older men are predators in this kind of situation and take advantage of the naïveté? Absolutely. Just not in my case. So we don’t need to generalize we can just call it case by case and by statistics I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:20 AM
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Holy crap this is exactly it. He wanted me to be his little housewife who fawned over him! It wasn’t until I got my very first office job that my eyes opened and I saw a whole world of opportunity in front of me, which included sooo much more than being the house wife he wanted. That’s when I ended it!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:18 AM
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This is pretty much it. I felt like a little puppy dog following her owner, and I sensed he liked that, and that bothered me a lot. After the first month my self worth suffered a lot. When I did try and take charge he just didn’t seem interested and would not make himself available.. I just don’t think either of us saw each other as equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:14 AM
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What compromise would one have to make? Explain, I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:46 PM
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"Make him belly laugh" so sweet!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:06 PM
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Is that really how men in this sub feel? Because that's really sad, what a terrible attitude, just so self defeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:03 PM
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She succinctly said that she basically look for guys in her own league, in the same spheres of interests. She's not just doing "nothing". She's also saying she's not changing herself or her behavior to attract men. She's being herself and finding like minded, similar people. Why does this upset you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 03:29 PM
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You really simplified it here, better than the whole book I wrote!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 03:08 PM
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What do you see yourself offering a man Love, commitment, companionship, support in every way, fun times, emotional support, financial equality, a calm quiet gentle homebody life, an equally balanced healthy romantic marriage (with my husband) Do women experience any similar trepidation when a guy approaches you? I mean I'm not really thinking of the whole list of things I wrote above when someone approaches me. But I am kind of sizing myself up to see if we are both in each others league, and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 03:02 PM
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I was in my early 20s when I dated a man twice my age I did not feel "groomed" by him, but I felt inferior in every way. I did not feel he was a predator, but I felt the age gap certainly came packaged with some inherent power dynamics - him, being the older "wiser" experienced one, me being the doe eyed, green, inexperienced one. Was I passive with him? Yes, because although I was attracted to him very much, I just felt so small and felt I was looking up to him, so I let him take the lead in ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:32 PM
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Nope ! Are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:48 PM
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It's just sour grapes. He's pissed he's not 6 pack 6 ft 6 fig salary and REFUSES to put in any effort to change his life. Sucks to suck!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:42 AM
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LMAO doughy asses ... it's SO TRUE. It's a lot easier to blame women instead of going on a diet and exercising for 6-12 months!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:41 AM
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LOL go cry in your girlfrield/wife's lap... now THAT'S a laugh 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:59 PM
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You just came out of left field and derailed the whole convo with that one. Stay on topic. And as a feminist, you're false in your premise of feminism and the patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:40 PM
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Where the fuck did I suggest that? Are you insane?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:31 PM
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Women look for guys better looking than them? Is that what you're saying? That's not true at all, source?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:20 PM
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Would you give a chance to someone who looked like Adele pre weight loss?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:18 PM
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Right so hypocrisy on both sides really sucks. And it sucks that men AND women (but on reddit mostly men) choose to straight up HATE the other gender and blame them for their life's woes because they won't date them (aka date down).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:17 PM
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No, mainly AT your level
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:27 PM
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Sure hypocrisy happens with both. But men (at least one I know) who is borderline incel said straight up that he only will date fit women even though he's overweight. He said "girls like fat guys" (but he gets no second dates). And he's borderline Red Pill now because he hates that women wont' date him. But I think if he dated within his lane he'd be a lot happier. Anyway I digress.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:16 PM
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Seriously like, us women in our 30s have this big secret organization that meets regularly and reaches out to the younger gals to spread the word about the EVIL older men!! Like wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:52 PM
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Women can't win lol. We are the reason incels can't get laid, and we are at fault for not changing the toxic alpha male behaviors. This subreddit is blowing my minnnnnd. Can you tell me, why do these men exist? I really truly think it's because they are unwilling to seek people on their level of attractiveness, and because they have unresolved mental issues that repel women, even if they are decent looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:45 PM
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Lameeee excuse for why men avoid fat ladies. They avoid them because they are not 'hot'. But if they (men) themselves are not hot then they are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:39 PM
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Nope - only if you're willing to date on your level and stay within your lane, aka not trying to date UP
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:37 PM
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Hunter eyes? What does that even mean? Regardless, he's 100% no Chad. I really don't like how incels blame other people for their problems.. I really believe they are simply trying to date up and refusing to stay within their lane. edit: also unresolved mental issues
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 09:38 PM
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I know a quiet, shy, and introverted guy who is fit and balding at a young age. He sought women within his league and decided to try online dating: he was immediately dating like 5 women at once. I was shocked but so thrilled for him. So I'm sorry but I feel like there has to be something else going on with this incel friend of yours. Is he a nice person or no? Edit: also he's a like 6/10 at most. Loveliest person to be around, real gentle soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 06:30 PM
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Right so the incel I know who is overweight, has bad social skills, and is mentally unstable, AND only seeks attractive thin women on online dating.. He's an incel *not* because of the chads... Not because of his failure to better himself and weird habit of only seeking women way out of his league *thumbs up* Edit: He's an incel NOT because of the Chads
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:40 PM
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His feelings are soooo hurt. I just found this subreddit, this shit is wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:16 PM
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Yup, and the dude that decided to lowkey 'pill' was single because he was a grade A asshole, had bad social skills, and was overweight. He only tried to date thin/fit women, despite his own body type, and then would say the most horrible things about them when they noped him. Every woman he meets blocks him, including me (he was a platonic friend). Are there any 'pilled' men out there who aren't mentally unstable?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:09 PM
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