Vvviv_ Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
73	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?	DISCUSSION	Vvviv_	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 09:54 AM
13	Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore?		Vvviv_	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/25 09:07 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore? They span from 3 yrs ago up to last week.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/25 11:56 AM
2	Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore? It was a post about a professional achievement unfortunately with her posing in a pretty dress, so benign enough that I don’t feel I have the right to be upset as such.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/25 08:22 AM
1	Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore? This is a reasonable take thank you. He barely ever likes anyone’s posts so it did stand out, however my worry is exactly what you pointed out, that he would respond by saying he wasn’t thinking about it and dismiss the whole thing. Focusing on emotions hopefully highlights that the issue is not just about clicking a button.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/25 05:46 PM
1	single mother by choice? OP you need to look at this realistically instead of adopting the wishful thinking that you’ll be the exception. You can rationalize away the above observations from someone who’s actually worked with children and studied the issue firsthand, at your own peril. Also here’s something stats can’t capture: How do you feel about depriving your child of growing up with their father and all that’s special and precious that comes with that experience? Be prepared to explain how your desire came before …	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/24 09:50 AM
2	How can I stop worrying/obsessing over my looks? You seem lovely and so self aware, kudos on that. Part of dealing with an overwhelming emotion is being okay with feeling it. Sounds paradoxical, but to realize that emotions are not something to be shoved aside by sheer will (which you can't), that the function of any emotion is that it's a piece of information (as opposed to the whole truth), is the first step to feeling more in control. Also notice how emotions come and ago. They are never static. Let them come and go and wash over you, and o…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/24 05:55 PM
5	How can I stop worrying/obsessing over my looks? Sounds like you're already trying to make the best of what your genetics gave you. Beyond that, you can work on other aspects of attractiveness: improve your physical and mental health. Recognize that in the long run that matters more than having superficially the most conventionally attractive features, and as you age that will really pay off. Beauty is inside out. That means getting your anxiety or any emotionally instability under control. You stop being overly obsessive about your looks (and…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/24 11:02 AM
11	Should I (21F) continue my relationship with my “almost perfect” boyfriend (23M)? Many assumptions in this post. One, you are assuming that short equals suffering. Well, it can be, but it's also subjective in that life is what you make of it. It's partly the parents' job to give their children the tools to deal with adversity, and your current mindset is very negative. After all, your boyfriend sounds like a very lovely man in spite of being short. Two, life is going to be full of inevitable suffering for whatever reasons out of our control. Suffering is part of life. You're …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/24 07:56 AM
8	Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'? I wasn't raised in a way that would ever lead me to think "I am the table". This type of arrogance is very unbecoming in my culture. It would've been smacked right out of me. If anything, I pursued people as a youngling out of desperation for their validation and approval. Grew out of that, but that's another story. With SO: We both invested equally. It was never a question for discussion or anything either of us had qualms about. Neither of us are fans of games and we appreciated that about eac…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/24 07:14 AM
2	Will No-One Think of the Children...? But, for the past seventy years or so, feminism has flourished by taking children out of the equation. The avowed aim of feminism is destruction of the nuclear family. Feminism took the liberation of women steps too far with the delusional belief that not only should women be freed from traditional social restraints that curtailed their freedom to pursue the life they wanted (fair enough), but that they should be freed from all the natural consequences flowing from the biological fact of being f…	/r/MensRights	24/07/24 09:02 AM
4	Just wanna thank this sub for exisiting. Absolutely appreciate what you're doing by calling out these double standards. An embarrassing number of women seem to think they get to be full and equal members of society yet somehow conveniently be immune from equal accountability for their actions. Honestly, they give the rest of women (who are not as vocal in real life or online) a bad rep. I'm working on being less agreeable/more confrontational specifically because of what I'm seeing around me and the men I care about suffer for it. It's…	/r/MensRights	22/07/24 06:48 PM
3	Should I become active on social media? Personally my experimentation with social media (instagram) was extremely detrimental to my mental wellbeing. Given my temperament and personality the costs far outweighed any benefits (constant comparison destroys self esteem, encourages focus on the superficial/most readily visible, the fakeness due to everybody curating their image, living for others' approval etc etc).... But the much deeper point here is I suspect you're letting social comparison and the fear of missing out dictate your dec…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/07/24 11:59 AM
2	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? Framing honesty as a skill to which neuroplasticity can apply certainly gives one a much greater sense of agency! The flip side of that being lying is a muscle you could train, too, is the prescient warning we ought to heed. most people don't actually want to live a life filled with shoddy bullshit, and will gladly follow-cue & reciprocate once they've verified it's not a trap. To truth or not to truth: the prisoner's dilemma.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/24 10:38 AM
1	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? Thank you for taking the time to articulate your wisdom. And, man, I just wanted to say I needed to hear this. I struggle with (1) a lot due to people pleasing tendencies. It's a personal weakness and what you've said is what I've known deep down and been afraid to confront, it's that disingenuous relationships and interactions follow an incapacity to be truly honest with oneself and others. It doesn't just happen without our own complicity. Also what you said about dealing with complexity upfro…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/24 09:21 AM
1	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? I've thoroughly appreciated all your observations in this thread. I can't take credit for it, as the overt vs covert competition phraseology comes from the literature itself :)	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/24 07:50 AM
1	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? I've just come from replying to another comment of yours and used the word "covert" again, before I saw this. Oops! That is a great point hilariously explained. Part of it is the need for evo psych (and indeed other fields) to come up with catchy buzzwords and phrases that might be somewhat intuitive but obviously miss a lot of the nuance.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/24 07:39 AM
1	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? I think the world would be a much better place if we realized it doesn't take consciously malicious intent for the human brain to decide on ultimately malicious contributions. I love that you clarified what so many seem to have understandably missed. Most people aren't going to consider themselves and most others malignant actors because—as you astutely pointed out—it's uncomfortable, so they reason that surely they can't be driven by such insidious competitive forces. I love the example given b…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/24 07:26 AM
1	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? Great explanation, thanks!!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 09:00 PM
4	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? On protection as evolutionary function: I imagine that is what close kin is for, after all they have a much greater interest in you and your children due to shared genetics. What incentive would a non genetically related woman have to protect you? For example, women of polygamous marriages have even been known to poison another co-wife's offspring. Just some thoughts.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 08:03 PM
5	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? More the latter I would say. Facts about my relationship if they ask. Eg how do we split chores, who paid the bill on the first date, what does he do to make me feel loved, etc. I can't speak for what others share. My male friend for example, his ex was fine with him working as much as he did (at least according to him), then suddenly she wasn't anymore after spending time with her best friend. I can only speculate as to what they talked about.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 07:54 PM
3	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? We could be having the biggest fight but in public or on the social scene I'm very much about presenting a united front. I find it quite embarrassing otherwise. Somehow saying "I don't mind doing the chores because I work less" translates to the man not stepping up blah blah, so I'm taking your advice to just keep it all off the table from now on. Really appreciate it.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 05:24 PM
14	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? That is a great alternative explanation. Feminist ideology encourages rampant entitlement divorced from reality, shaping behavior through desires for conformity and status signaling.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 03:27 PM
9	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? You’ve inspired me to now start adopting this principle	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 02:38 PM
8	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? Thank you for your perspective, I really appreciate it. Especially if they're single... They may be genuinely yet mistakenly spreading their own misinformed but sincere takes on dating and relationships. This is an excellent point. In the hair study, if that were the case you'd expect the advice to apply equally to all the "clients" in the study. That is not the case. Women advised clients with the most similar level of attractiveness to themselves to cut off the most amount of hair.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 11:13 AM
1	I don’t want to be fat anymore. What is your definition of fat? Are you at a healthy weight/BMI? Believe me, I've done the restricting food then binge eating thing, if you think slimming down is the only thing that'll finally give you confidence, you'll get there and feel empty because you haven't actually worked on your internal state and rebuilding a healthy relationship with yourself and with food. Start with building healthy habits. Do you have the basics down? Sleep, exercise, eat whole foods and eat mindfully, social con…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 10:18 AM
1	The Emotional Hangover of a Toxic Relationship: How Do I Move Forward? 3. Start a gratitude practice. You can train your brain to think positively if that's what you want. The more you do this the better you'll get at it. Write down what you're grateful for and why it's important to you, and how that makes you feel. Everytime you feel unworthy for 1 reason list 3 reasons why you are. Develop those positive circuits and it will become habit. 4. Channel your anger and other negative emotions for good. You feel angry and resentful. There is a very good reason for that…	/r/MensRights	30/05/24 12:52 PM
1	The Emotional Hangover of a Toxic Relationship: How Do I Move Forward? First of all I'm sorry to hear about your experience. Safe to say that even if it might not feel like it, you experienced a trauma (I know, but hear me out). 1. DETOX and DIVERSIFY. Take AT LEAST half a year off dating. Focus on building up "capital" in other parts of your life: hobbies, travel, friends, career, or anything you can think of. Think about spreading your self worth in as many baskets as possible. Why? So if you fall down in one area, you can still find worth in others. 2. You have …	/r/MensRights	30/05/24 12:52 PM
-5	If you think modern women are all about equality, just remember that 10 million women fled Ukraine, leaving behind their 16-year-old sons and 60-year-old fathers to fight against the Russians. Let's not ignore the differences in physical ability alone will compromise your combat effectiveness. An injured male soldier cannot reasonably trust a fellow female soldier to carry or even drag his bodyweight plus 30 lbs of gear. There is no way to add women en masse to combat positions without collectively lowering the standard.	/r/MensRights	27/05/24 12:28 PM
-2	How can I convince my doctor to get a vasectomy The childfree sub has a good wiki with a lot of information and a list of doctors. Good luck	/r/MensRights	01/05/24 08:25 AM
13	I dated a radical feminist Feminism is a licence you hold allowing you to be shitty instead of working on yourself. Much easier to blame all your problems on an out group which you can then completely dehumanize	/r/MensRights	01/04/24 08:10 AM
11	I dated a radical feminist Yikes. Sorry to hear about your experience what led her to be this way From the perspective of a woman who tried on the feminist hat in her teens & late teens: 1)Completely agree with what you said about relationship with one's father: research has shown that a present father (figure) is absolutely crucial for a young girl's self esteem 2)Negative experiences building up to resentment: bad luck or poor esteem or whatever it is leading to poor experiences with men who behave badly. 3)Temperament:…	/r/MensRights	01/04/24 07:31 AM
2	A new scientific study conducted in Israel found zero gender differences in regards to the perpetration and causes of domestic violence amongst student populations. Thank you for the very interesting write up. Also reminds me of this recent finding that female psychopathy may be much more prevalent than once thought: https://www.aru.ac.uk/news/female-psychopaths-more-common-than-we-think#:~:text=Female%20psychopaths%20are%20up%20to,females%20by%20around%206%3A1 Notably: characteristics of female psychopaths differ from males and that gender bias plays a role in the under-reporting, with society ignoring what people perceive to be male traits when they are d…	/r/MensRights	31/03/24 10:07 AM