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Question For WomenWGttDS/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:49 AM
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Question For WomenWGttDS/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:24 AM
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I had Two gems in mind don’t move in with your boyfriend and no monogamy until marriage basically they expect you to propose to get them to stop dating other men. I don't think (m)any FDS proponents are actually planning to sleep with a groomsman the night before the wedding because "no monogamy before marriage". I think these are good examples of rules that make sense conceptually but may go too far. If the underlying idea is "you're either marriage-track or purely for fun," they make sense to …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 07:58 PM
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For starters no no self respecting man never mind a high value man would stick around for the treatment the FDS handbook encourages reader to employ. The handbook seems like it just forgets that most other women haven’t read it and will treat men far better than its readers. What specifically do you have in mind? Some of the recommendations I've seen are a bit out there, and particulars can be rather arbitrary, but the underlying objectives make well enough sense to me. If you assume women are b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 07:33 AM
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I raised my sister while my single mom struggled with mental health issues. Not an easy job, but it was absolutely one of the most rewarding things I've ever done. It may not come with a paycheck but some things are more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 03:30 PM
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A mix, but leaning more towards personality. I don't think there are any particular characteristics or factors that make a woman "just for 'fun'". It's more like the women men commit to are a subset of the women men will have sex with. The difference will mostly have to do with personality, interests, intelligence, that sort of thing. As far as looks go, I expect most men are willing to have sex with women they view as somewhat below their relationship standards for looks. But this is more a que…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 05:40 AM
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Agree with what the other posters have added to the thread, and the one other consideration I'd raise is if he wants to see you X nights a week but be willing to see you up to X+Y nights a week. You had him somewhere between X and X+Y when you were planning things for him, and you've dropped him below X now that you've stopped, and he's pursuing you to get back to that level. In this scenario, your strategy has "worked" in the sense that it changed his behaviour, but it may not have changed his …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 05:30 AM
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How many days in a row are you going to make this thread pretending you're not the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:04 AM
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I'll take that as a "yes".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:49 AM
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I think that's exactly what it assumes. I see it as a way to identify which of the men you already attract are most likely to commit. I don't know what they suggest to actually attract those men, and I'm pretty sure they would tell you not to try to actively convince someone who isn't seeking commitment to give it. I should also say I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 01:57 AM
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I would describe those as tools to avoid relationships with LVM, rather than tools to attract HVM. There's some overlap, but having high standards and avoiding attachment to LVM will only make sure you're available for HVM; I don't think they do much more than that on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 01:10 AM
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I think FDS has some useful tools to screen out idiots and losers and for not overextending yourself in your relationships. I think their "rules" take a bit of common sense to apply and aren't meant to be taken completely literally, but they make sense to me in the abstract as ways to screen for genuine interest and possible commitment. Many of them would turn me off if applied to the letter, but I think applying the principles in a more delicate way would work - and I think I already do similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 10:35 PM
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I don't think I've ever done this myself. I'd certainly try not to. Cognitive defense mechanism.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 10:06 PM
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Probably not, but you can be his first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:04 AM
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Thanks, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:48 PM
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Quit drinking, or doesn't drink?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:55 PM
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I'm a bit past "gaming and plating" women, but I've been there and done that, so I'll answer based on those experiences. 1) Do you actually enjoy going out of your way and talking to all these women? Especially since RP men don't think much of the women they're with. I never slept with anyone I didn't also enjoy talking to. I talked to many along the way who I didn't find stimulating conversationalists. I didn't keep talking to them. 2) Do you dislike having to put on a mask and "game" chicks ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:27 AM
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Thanks, friend. I try my best to be helpful, glad someone appreciates it!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:00 AM
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Lying strikes me as a separate can of worms entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:48 AM
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Not sure what the second paragraph has to do with the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 03:52 AM
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Several women in this thread, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:20 AM
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That seems like a more specific detail than I had in mind, but makes sense to be a little uncomfortable with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:00 AM
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Whether they're fair or not, do you have any preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:58 AM
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I'd consider it a very good friendship and pursue sexual relationships elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:51 AM
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I wouldn't use the word "all", but certainly "most" or "many". I've been sexually active for 7 years, 5 of which were spent in generally happy and always faithful LTRs. In the 2 unattached years, I slept with over 40 women. They were a mixed bag in terms of attractiveness, but in my estimation they were almost all above average. Do you think I lack impulse control or have self esteem issues? If I were a woman, would you think differently? Do you think it's hypocritical to hold men and women to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:08 AM
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Thanks! FYI these are technically median numbers and I gather the averages are somewhat higher but skewed by extreme outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 11:50 PM
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Exhibit A. Who gives a shit what other men did or didn't do? If I want to have sex with her, I'll have sex with her. If I want to date her, I'll date her. It's really that simple when you stop worrying she likes/d someone else better. Also, newsflash. Women making you wait isn't necessarily an indication that they value you less, it's an indication that they want you for more than sex. And I do the same thing - if I'm contemplating more than sex, I will almost never have sex on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 10:35 PM
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This also illustrates what a nebulous, floating target "Chad" is. IMO the only logically consistent way to understand "Chad" is as a manifestation of male insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 08:47 PM
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I've never had sex with a virgin, don't have any particular desire to, and have likely aged past it being a realistic probability unless I decide to be a predator. I disagree that there is an instinctive preference for virgins, or that it makes biological or social sense. I have no problem with "practiced" women. I am not at all worried that I won't stack up to the men she's been with in the past, which I think is what drives a lot of male insecurity on this front. That said, I would be a bit di…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 08:41 PM
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The short answer for me is "yes, sometimes". My fantasies are a mixed bag. I enjoy being dominant, in the way women typically want, but not exclusively. I also like being the object of someone else's lust too, and it's a bit harder to explore that with most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 07:50 PM
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Wash your penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 07:33 AM
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Have the courage to be good on your own terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 07:32 AM
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Have you ever asked a woman what she wanted? What did she tell you? Was that consistent with how you observed her behave?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 02:08 AM
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Where is that 8 figure from? Globally?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 01:19 AM
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Good bait. Oversold it being graphic about Chad. Otherwise, flawless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:28 AM
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Read it. There's a section on birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 08:02 PM
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Same thing applies to men's fitness. Most women have no idea how often and how hard you need to work to get a good male body. Many women think a man can get pretty muscular and pretty ripped from playing basketball twice a week. "Isn't that how guys work? They got testosterone and all that stuff, right? What do you mean they don't accidentally turn into Ronnie Coleman if they work out one more day a week?" The number of women I've spoke to who are considering lifting weights and tell me they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 07:32 PM
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"Try my small, twisted, dirty weiner!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 06:20 PM
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I'm assuming "pumped and dumped" excludes women who are content with a purely physical relationship? If so, then I think it depends on whether she was manipulated into believing commitment would follow sex (victim) or was trying to change the mind of a person who had communicated clearly to her that commitment was not on the table (loser).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 03:34 PM
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IMO, most PUA material is harmless, even normal social behaviour dressed up in jargon and faux-mystique to convince lonely, frustrated, socially inept men to spend money on an ersatz therapists. Negging, for example, strikes me as flirtatious teasing re-imagined as some sort of mind control technique. The behaviour isn't really alarming, but the fact that the guy "negging" thinks he's pulling a fast one on someone's brain is a bit... sinister I suppose. To the extent I have a problem with PUA ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 03:32 PM
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If you mean that in situations like that I am aware of how annoyed the man is and like knowing that I having the option to press on the nerve, even if I don't often want to exercise it, then yes, I will agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 03:23 PM
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It's mutual, then, I guess. I was just curious what made OP think more women are "holding out" than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 06:34 AM
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Most of the advantages a secure woman offers are irrelevant to a man who is primarily looking for sex, because they are predominantly advantages experienced in an LTR. However, even when I was mostly or only looking for sex, I preferred "secure" women because I trusted them more and communicated better with them, both of which are important factors that improve sex for both parties. Additionally, some men might not care why their partner is having sex with them, but I preferred sleeping with wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:09 AM
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If I can impose to offer some advice, something I find works very well is what I'd call "calculated vulnerability". I don't mean fake or deceptive vulnerability, but genuine vulnerability that's presented in a way that doesn't make you seem needy or desperate. If you can get the message across to a prospective intimate partner that (1) you are interested in pursuing an intimate relationship with them, but (2) you are not going to be more than mildly disappointed if they say no because you are co…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:01 AM
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Pretty much, yes. Edit: Why do you think "more" women are choosing loneliness over mediocre men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:46 AM
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I generally agree with your conclusion, so I'm going to post as a reply to AutoMod, but your examples don't do a very good job of illustrating your point because no reasonable men would consider them to be genuine men's issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:43 AM
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For men, height, broad shoulders, jaw. For women, hip:waist ratio, angular features. For both, low bf%, symmetry, clean skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 01:47 AM
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I work in a large office that probably counts, but I was quite a bit younger than my peers when I joined so was less threatening at the time. Now I've been around for 5 years, so I'm established. I also can count on one hand the number of women I'm attracted to, and in any case I don't want to shit where I eat. Depends on the guy. If he bothers me for some reason, I'll innocently talk to his girlfriend to annoy him. But no, I don't typically act like an asshole for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:41 AM
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I see it more from jealous boyfriends trying to subtly keep me away from their girlfriends than unattached men in social settings. Definitely no concerted rallies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:19 AM
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Attractive man here, AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:30 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:24 PM
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It says she's a doctor, not a corporate conqueror. Maybe I'm showing my bias because I come from what the Excited States would call a socialist hellhole, but what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:58 AM
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How much do you think a maid costs vs bankrolling a house husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:36 AM
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Because she's a doctor? You realize, of course, that a majority of doctors under 35 are women? And that healthcare is, in general, a profession dominated by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:28 AM
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If it's her house, you do realize he's benefiting from her wealth, right? That fear makes some sense when she stands to gain financially from her partner, but what exactly is the benefit to this woman of having this man in her home, if it's not intimacy related? And if it is intimacy related, why would she also be "getting what she actually wants" casually?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:23 AM
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So in your mind, he's paying their bills, and she's spending her entire paycheck on herself? What makes you think she's going to cheat at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:08 AM
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Fuck me, I knew I was doing something wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:04 AM
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It seems to me he's assuming she's a cheater for no reason other than that she's a woman...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:58 AM
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The intelligent, successful, and generous ones? What the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:54 AM
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If he's making any kind of money, she adds it to her own, which still makes him a beta chump. Even though her contribution will undoubtedly be larger than his, and he will be financially enriched by their relationship? If he's not making money, that means he's a stay-at-home husband or dad, which still makes him a big beta chump, because he'll be minding the house while she's taking it from alpha fucks. It seems to me that you're presupposing that she's going to be "taking it from alpha fucks". …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:50 AM
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I'm not going to pretend to be intimately familiar with TRP idiology, but if she's making that much more than the hypothetical male, isn't she clearly not in it to exploit him financially? As far as I can tell, all she gets from this relationship is his companionship, because he doesn't bring much else to the table...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:45 AM
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I'm 6'1, never been with anyone taller than I am, but a few around my height (5'11, 6'0). Been also been with a few just over 5'0. Anything between 5' and 6' is totally fine. I'd probably have a "huh, we're going to look funny" moment on either side of that, but I honestly can't imagine it being a significant factor. If you were to make me pick an ideal height, I guess it's around 5'8, give or take an inch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:26 AM
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You're not alone, no. But I suspect most have a threshold that must be met, without which no realistic amount of cleverness, kindness, or wealth could make you consider them as a partner; I certainly do. Physical attraction is also obviously relatively more important for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:19 AM
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Neither do much for me, but I'd take the one with a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:55 PM
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From beginning to end, I'd guess >95% fall between 30-60 minutes, with the average and median being around 40. That's including all foreplay. Typical session probably looks like 5-10 minutes of kissing/touching, 10-20 minutes of oral, and 15-25 minutes of intercourse. Moderately kinky and quite physical, but nothing extreme. Pretty typical to lie together for at least another 10 minutes afterwards, too. I typically have sex with my LTR partners twice a week. My preference would be 5-6, but that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:52 PM
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I don't understand your question. I think it's totally normal for men and women to prefer partners of relatively similar means.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:32 PM
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That's probably all true if he's chasing casual sex or someone far more attractive than he is. Because you're right, he probably is towards the bottom of the list in terms of sexual attractiveness, and guess what, that's at a premium for casual sex and going to put him behind most other guys. But, if he's willing to put in the time and effort, I'm sure he can find someone in his league. Some of the couples I know who are the most obviously in love are not attractive people. The asshole in me won…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:29 AM
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No, none of that is unreasonable. There's nothing wrong with wanting to found your relationship on something other than sex. There's equally nothing wrong with someone deciding sex is an important part of their intimate relationships and deciding they are unwilling to wait, but as long as you recognize that as a compatibility issue rather than a moral failing, I am on board with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:18 AM
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I don't think "safe" in this context means "non-dangerous". I don't think many men would mind if their partner decided she valued stability or generosity or non-violence or whatever else and as a result preferred them to another man, because he's still the preferred partner. The worry is that she would prefer another man, but pairs up with someone she thinks she can control or exploit or gains some benefit calculated to offset the cost to her intimate needs (and I don't exclusively mean sexual).…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:53 PM
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Believe it or not, men also want to be wanted by their partners. They want to feel desirable for their own sake, and not as a means to an end. When people complain about being the "safe" option, I think they are suggesting they feel like a 2nd or 3rd or Nth choice. When men feel like a backup plan, they don't feel wanted for their own sake by their partners, and aren't getting what they want from the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:42 PM
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Not really, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:38 PM
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I had a post deleted for mentioning them by name last week. I assume this thread will be taken down too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:23 PM
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That's not shocking: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed?term=1309413. Edit: Oh, hold on, I misread. After 12 years, that is a surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:38 AM
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All? No, obviously not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:20 AM
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Definitely not saying height is the most important thing or short guys don't end up with attractive women. But "irrelevant" is unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:56 PM
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I've always thought of it more as an Nth percentile man compared to an Nth percentile woman. Who wouldn't necessarily have identical or even similar traits, because as you say, men and women value different things. I think I agree with you, but I'm not sure if anyone is saying what you think they're saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:47 PM
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Whether you like it or not, height is a major factor in female attraction. That dude would need to have a lot of other things going for him if he was the same height as the woman. Even if she herself doesn't care about height, she can probably get a guy with other good things going for him because most other women will be treating that as a negative quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:45 PM
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If I'm interested in her, sex will heighten that. If I'm not, it won't. So, sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:05 PM
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I'm going to give you a few responses. First, I don't think it's "cheating" to have sex with woman A while you are seeing woman B before you have slept with woman B, unless the expectation of exclusivity has been expressly communicated. Exclusivity should generally be something that is expressly agreed to, although I do think a reasonable expectation of exclusivity arises at some point, with or without having that conversation. But I wouldn't ever think I am exclusive with someone I haven't slep…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 05:59 PM
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You're misunderstanding. He's not saying "manwhores" don't have sex with attractive women, he's saying they have sex with all or nearly all types of women. He's asking if you also want to have sex with all or nearly all types of women, or if you're only interested in the most attractive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:52 PM
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You can't be a robber if you aren't taking without entitlement - do you think your analogy is nonsense as well? Evolutionary slavery? Are you at all familiar with human history?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:39 PM
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I don't know if the "average" man's complaint is "the average women ignore X, Y, and Z positive traits about me!" so much as it is "the average woman is trying to 'trade up' and I am left without (tolerable) options". I don't think "worthiness" has any place in the conversation at all. Women and men are absolutely entitled to set whatever "price" they want for intimacy. If they set their "prices" too high, they won't attract any "buyers". It's up to them if they want to raise their "value", or l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 06:06 AM
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Great, glad we agree. Yes, our brains are programmed to seek intimacy in a similar way that they are programmed to seek food, water, shelter, etc. So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 05:21 AM
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Could, did, no longer appeals to me, likely won't again. Guess I hit "the Wall", huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:12 AM
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Interesting! I expect you're somewhat unique in that regard. But the point is I can trade selfishly and confer benefits on others in ways that are calculated to maximize my own self-interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:46 AM
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Recently met a woman who I'm very excited about. We've been on a few dates. I've been looking for an LTR and have had some disappointing experiences with women who were only interested in sex. I've been trying to adopt more traditional dating habits (calls as well as texting, taking her to dinner, etc.), and it seems to be working - for her and for me. I definitely feel more attached to her than to other, previous partners at similar points in our relationship. She seems equally infatuated. I wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:44 AM
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Part of the problem is the ubiquity of dating apps affects your dating life even if you don't use the apps yourself. So I am at least willing to give a pass to those who aren't actively participating but are negatively affected. When you say act accordingly, what do you have in mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:08 AM
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Most are exercising at least somewhat regularly, but we're a far cry from a collection of professional athletes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:55 PM
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Wait, Chad starts at 20? Later, virgins...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:31 PM
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I don't think it's a men vs women issue. Online dating has substantially reduced the transaction costs associated with finding partners, and has commodified intimacy. The constant perception that something better is always right around the corner means people have a harder time committing to what's in front of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:43 PM
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Who cares what they say? They have a social obligation to put out for one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:19 PM
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Great idea! If lonely men want sex so badly, why don't they fuck each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:11 PM
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Even if that were true, so what? No woman owes you sex just because you really want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:28 PM
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Do you consider yourself to become less worthy as a potential future partner each time you sleep with a new woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:22 PM
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Yes, 3 months is a long time, and many will interpret her hesitance as a sign of disinterest. It may be that the men willing to stick it out are particularly valuable to the woman in question, but I'd be shocked if high quality suitors weren't giving up beforehand. I think 3-5 dates gets the message across (this isn't going to be only a sex thing). Alternatively (or additionally), I think demanding exclusivity before sex is a similarly useful screening tool (but one that is vulnerable to dishone…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:00 PM
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Irrational and insecure, unless the other man betrayed your trust in some way. I'm imagining a friend aggressively pursuing your partner behind your back. I think a good way to "check" is ask yourself if you would be been upset with the other man had your girlfriend acted faithfully. If the answer is yes, I think there's good reason to be upset with both. If the answer is no, it's on her and he's simply the instrument of her infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:51 PM
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I would say heroin chic is its own thing, but I think has been out of vogue for a while, no? When I say skinny fat I have in mind average and below average BMI with relatively high body fat %.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:17 PM
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Ayn Rand thought selfishness was the highest virtue and she was also a proponent of trade. When you buy something, are you motivated by or even thinking about how your consumption provides jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:11 PM
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Two things. First, trade benefits all parties, including in this sphere. Even if I'm giving more than I'm getting, chances are that my trade partner isn't going to show up in the same place as I am and directly compete with me. And, even if they do, presumably I'm better at my techniques or whatever then the other guy. Creating communities to exchange ideas benefits all participants, even if some contribute more than others. It's not that different from joining a study group in a class graded on…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:56 PM
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I've seen a growing dissatisfaction with skinnyfat women (the sedentary but not overeating physique) in my social circles, from men AND women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:54 PM
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It's not only women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:44 PM
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There isn't anything metaphysical you're missing. Hitting the gym is one of the simplest and most effective forms of self-improvement available. Short of a disability, there's no reason anyone shouldn't be exercising regularly. People can be culty and elitist about it, and that seems to be more what you have in mind ("DYEL" and that sort of thing). And some may struggle with body image issues (anorexia, bigorexia, etc.). But the underlying sentiment is, IMO, absolutely correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:35 PM
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Skinny fat or slightly chubby, bad posture, good skin, nice hair are the characteristics that spring to mind for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:48 AM
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Too stupid, too ugly, and untrustworthy are my big three deal breakers. I also prefer people within a couple years of my age in either direction (I'm 27 and would prefer a partner between 25 and 29). Clingyness is hard to assess upfront, but could potentially become a deal breaker down the line. N count isn't a problem if she's STI free and willing to be exclusive. Relatively similar financial means and some overlapping interests are also areas of potential concern I try to suss out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:44 AM
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I'm sorry that happened pal, but try not to sweat it too much. If you only had one date, there's probably nothing there for you to fix. Wrong place, wrong time, wrong lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 07:32 PM
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I'm not a TRPer and I'm not particularly well-versed in all the labels they chuck around. As I understand it, the idea of hypergamy is more local and more relative than you're making it out to be. It's not that every woman is only interested in the most attractive man that they are aware of in the entire world. It's more like the most attractive man or men in their social world. As that changes, so will their attraction. I have no idea if slut has some technical TRP meaning (body count, how quic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 07:24 PM
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False dichotomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 11:14 PM
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Well put. Kind of what I was getting at in a reply elsewhere in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 11:11 PM
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Do you think men and women are becoming more and more like each other? No, I think men and women have always been fundamentally more similar than different. However, increased reproductive autonomy and economic empowerment for women have brought intimate behaviours closer together. Changing social norms are a product, rather than a cause. Do you think this trend will continue for the next 10 years or reverse? Largely continue. Why do you think? Contraceptives and capitalism. Personally I think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 11:00 PM
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Yeah, that's a you thing, not a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 09:51 PM
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Maybe they just hate having sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 08:04 PM
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It hurts me to know that men can have sex JUST to have it and feel nothing for the woman involved. Women can, and do, do this too. This isn't a men vs women issue. It's a being hurt by mismatched expectations caused by poor communication or manipulative behaviour issue. It especially makes me sick to know that any guy I’m with will (not may, WILL) still desire sex with other women. I don't understand what you want. Someone who is only attracted to you? Seems like you're insecure about competitio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:58 PM
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I only ask a partner is clean and has an N count near mine. What if your N count were low? I agree there's a double standard, but I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with expecting a partner with a relatively short list of conquests.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:48 PM
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It's okay to cheat on Joey_Lopez, because he'll get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:46 PM
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Friends, bridges, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:13 PM
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Keep in mind the thread isn't about the behaviour, it's about the RP claim that women are less moral than men. I'm not asking for martyrdom. I'm asking for, at a minimum, intellectual honesty. I don't expect John Doe to revolutionize modern dating. But if John looks out in the world and thinks to himself "wow, modern dating sure is shitty" and decides that's carte blanche for him to be shitty in his own dating life, he's a coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:54 PM
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My feelings re: money in a match are a bit confused. I don't like the expectation that I pay for everything, but I also don't mind because it doesn't mean that much to me. I am not at all attracted to wealth, but I want a partner of relatively similar means because I don't want a dependent partner. Kind of a box I feel I ought to check, but don't really care about. Good luck with med school!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:45 PM
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Law.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:31 PM
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I don't fault them for "playing the game", I fault them for their self-righteous refusal to take responsibility for the way their behaviour perpetuates the conditions they claim to be revolting against. TRP remind me of couch-surfing nihilists who recognize absurdity and futility in their lives but lack the courage and conviction to do anything about it, and instead use it as a justification for meaningless hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:24 PM
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Mid 20s male in a major North American city, white, multiple post-secondary degrees, 6 figure salary, fit, 6'1, probably somewhere between a 7 and a 9 depending on the woman. Body count is mid 30s. Have had two major relationships (combined, they account for just under 5 years). Both were good, but not right for me. Casual sex is, I think, fairly easy for me to get. There are at least 5 women I could text today who would have sex with me this weekend. Most were met on dating apps. I'm introverte…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:16 PM
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They would probably describe it as a "fight fire with fire" approach. They think they moved second, so they're in the "right" because they're "defending" themselves. Up to you if you buy it or not (I don't).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:27 PM
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This is among the stupidest and saddest things I have ever heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:53 AM
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Stupid comparison. Predatory men are not bacteria. Shaming is not antibiotics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 03:44 AM
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I agree with your premise that the likelihood of social shaming deterring a particular man from behaving in a predatory manner is probably negatively correlated with how dangerous he is. I disagree with your conclusion that social shaming puts teenagers at increased risk because it deters some but not all men from engaging in predatory behaviour. I called your post nonsense because your premise seems to undermine your conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 03:04 AM
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This is complete nonsense, buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:37 AM
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Not all predatory behaviour is illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:17 AM
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A 40 year old man who prefers to date teenagers is a predator.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:08 AM
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Being sex guy is overrated, but the grass is greener, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:04 AM
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You aren't asserting self respect. You're brandishing an insecurity. That's why it's "kryptonite". Your premise - that you are a consolation prize for better men - betrays you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:54 PM
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Can't speak for anyone but myself. Yes, I know what it's like to not be sexually attracted to a woman. In fact, I've been intimate with more than one. Not an "I'm horny and desperate" thing so much as a "too polite to say 'you look nothing like your pictures, I'm sorry'" thing. Or that's what I tell myself. I wouldn't describe my reaction as strongly as what you have, but I was mentally checked out and gave poor performances each time. I don't think any sane person believes women (or men) should…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:33 PM
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