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"weddings will break the bank, not break bad habits." soo many gems in this video!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:40 AM
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Really profound insights here. I totally agree when she said the instagram joke that she found curde in the blind date set up. the way he acts or posts publicly is a reflect back on her if she continues to give him a chance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:29 AM
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sounds like my ex. great on paper, zero in personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 07:11 PM
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I am so sorry to hear you went through all this. This is helpful. It gave me permission to step back a little and assess whether I might end up pushing her away if I keep telling her to go see a therapist or file for a divorce asap. I want to help her so much. I care about her. it is so hard to see her this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:51 PM
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Thank you! I've been going back and forth with her to see a therapist all morning. hopefully this helps :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:55 PM
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Thank you for sharing your divorce story. If it is okay, can you share how did you went about processing the break down of the marriage? my friend just called me last night that she found evidence on her husband's phone that he cheated on her....again. I am the first person who has told so far. Her parents are going through health issues and her sister is helping them. She doesn't want to burden them. She wants to work on the marriage. What can I say to help her? She doesn't seem open to the ide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:36 PM
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wow, I'm sorry to hear this, but glad to hear you are on the 'other side of this' now. You are strong inside and out. Sending you lots of hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:11 AM
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yay! bought it! thank you for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:20 PM
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sending you lots of love. for me, this was triggering. I, also, up and left my ex at the 3 year mark. You are making the right choice to leave. You are a queen and this the start of your healing journey. Me and other FDS sisters are rooting for you. you got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 08:54 PM
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omg, southern charm is another show that puts pick-me's on the map. After FDS, i can't watch it anymore without getting angry with all the disgusting comments coming from the men and the few women who actually stand up to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:56 PM
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I just saw this! I felt so bad for the girl who reflected on her first relationship and the guy basically pressured into sex every time he came over to watch a movie or hang out. she would give in and just waited for it to be over. Reflecting on this, she realizes out F'd up this is years later as she swipes and have insecurity issues. This further confirms I need to stay off dating apps for good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:18 AM
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same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:53 AM
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thank you for sharing this! I have not been dating since COVID and feel more prepared now with stories like your when I do start dating again. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:07 AM
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what the heck happened?! wow, the audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:59 AM
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I just ordered myself a massage chair. Hopefully it will be here by valentines!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:52 AM
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welcome! Happy to see a new queen on here! Let me help straighten that crown for you. There you go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:55 AM
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whoa, and now I know how I'm spending my friday night alone. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:29 AM
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don't watch any further. save yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:52 AM
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"the fact that women can be agents of ill will to other women." Unfortunately, this has been my experience in STEM field. I wish I had learned of your experience before I had this female manager take over from my previous supportive male boss. I had dealt with good and bad male bosses over the years and did not believe women can be agents of ill will to others. That is until this female manager saw me as a young female engineer who did not put in 20+ years of work from the bottom to get to where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:50 AM
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Thank you for sharing this. When you get a chance at the end of this fun filled weekend, please fill us in on how you met this bf. Thankyou!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 04:40 PM
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beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this. I needed this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 12:07 AM
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me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:49 AM
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IF he passes all the FDS vetting, then the mortgage should be split in accordance to your incomes. If he makes 100k and you make 50k, then he should pay 2/3rd the mortgage. This advice is based off listening to financial podcasts by Suze Orman and Ramit Sethi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:18 AM
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thank you for sharing this! I feel like I am still at the stage where I see LVM everywhere. This gives me something to look forward to when I do finally get my vetting level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:56 AM
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my ex was like this about flowers on valentine's too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:31 AM
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I told him at our place. So in your case, it would be at this current apartment that he shares with you. You would be at this apartment when he comes back from his trip and get your car keys from him. Sit him down and tell him the relationship is over and that you will give him some time to process while you drive and process this on your own for the next few days. I would take pictures to document how the place currently looks. If he tries to trash the place, you will have proof. But since you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 06:12 AM
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She probably can't get her deposit back, but I wish we could all go to her venue and have an FDS celebration party instead! I can picture it already, a group photo of us straighten her crown, baby!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:47 AM
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This makes me of "second date update" radio segments (that is available as a podcast now). Almost every one of the guys gaslights the girl, when the girls explains why she ghosted him. He then tries to force her to go on a second date with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:07 AM
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I was once in her position too. It took an intervention by my mom and sisters to finally address my fears of not finding a better partner after investing so much into my ex-LVM. They took me to a psychic reader (and part-time nurse) who correctly predicted some things about my sister's life in the last few months. This psychic told me that my current boyfriend is not my prince charming and that staying with him was blocking me from meeting the One meant for me. The tarot card with all the lighte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:05 AM
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wow, she is so right! I didn't even realize my own unconscious bias until she pointed it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 07:03 AM
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Yeah, I was so blinded. He was stationed in the middle of nowhere North Dakota. He wanted me to give up my tech career to follow him. He always talked about "prairie harpies" (girls were always trying to hook up with military men to get out of small towns). He kept preaching about how highly desirable he was for his active duty status when he just sits around waiting to turn a damn key. He ended up getting medically discharged from the military. The last time I checked his Linkedin, he worked at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:15 AM
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My coworker helped me reframe the money I lost to my ex-LVM as charity. She found me crying in the bathroom because I was upset at the response I got from my ex when I confronted him about the bounced checks in the past when he tried to pay me back for the plane tickets I bought during our long distance relationship. There were so many red flags in that relationship. I wish FDS was around back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:58 AM
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Same there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:55 AM
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this is the description of my ex to the T! But he didn't get his PhD at an Ivy League, so he went and got an MBA at my alma mater. ugh, now I will see him at alumni events!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:25 AM
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this comment triggered to me to google sperm bank. The vetting required to be a sperm donor is quite a long list. I think this will be my standard for the future partner I possibly consider marrying and having kids with - yes, I want your medical history dating three generations: https://www.cryobank.com/donor-search/donor-information/#Donor-Profiles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:07 AM
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omg, my high school boyfriend was like that too! Every guy after him was LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:49 AM
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Anyone who wants to reclaim their right to roam the world as freely as men do -Anyone who eventually wants to go for a care-free walk/jog (using all safety precautions) without fear I walked around with my pepper spray in a sleeve today. Took a seat at a bench for moment and some guy tried to engage me in conversation as he walked near me. I stood up, took my hands out of my pockets, set my pepper spray in the ready and gave him the death glare. he walked away from me calling me a crazy bitch. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:45 AM
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Thank you for sharing. I filled in the information to support the Idaho Project to hold her accountable for releasing the victim's info: https://www.theidaho97.org/conduct-unbecoming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:19 AM
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[email protected] Quick google search of this email and the first link says she has a daughter too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:13 AM
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I did a double take when I read a similar story of a middle-aged scrote wanting to divorce his wife because she only worked part-time raising their kids and won't share all her inheritance she recently received: https://www.marketwatch.com/story/my-wife-inherited-800k-she-put-300k-towards-our-mortgage-and-500k-in-her-own-bank-account-after-35-years-of-marriage-2021-05-03
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:02 AM
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wow! thank you for this! I am in the tech space and experiencing something similar. I needed this story to help me be more productive in my responses to situations like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:58 PM
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please keep us updated on your journey! I'm considering this in a few years myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:37 AM
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I would recommend you take a look at this resource: Podcast episode who did exactly this in Australia and talks about her experience. https://www.shanisilver.com/home/2021/3/11/alexandra-collier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:56 AM
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please go ahead and tell us about your HVM Father too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:22 AM
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Thank you for sharing. I needed this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:18 AM
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. I didn’t know if I should unmatch immediately or actually explain it to him 😂 i hope you didn't actually mean this. you don't owe him an explanation and would be a waste of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:59 AM
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omg, I'm enraged just reading this. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing. ugh!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:53 AM
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whoa, i did not know that. ugh, why did they take it down?? I want to see it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:16 AM
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ugh, he chose a pickme for his best friend! "I am a working girl and I can pay my half and even treat him from time to time"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:39 AM
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thank you for these words. I absolutely agree with you and hope OP sees this. I have had this fantasy of kicking the MF who assaulted me by grope my butt continuously that felt like forever on the NYC subway on my way home from school at 16. But I froze. I remember telling this experience to some male friends in college and how I wished I had kicked him or made a scene. They just laughed and made a joke of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:52 PM
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oh man, don't leave me hanging, what did you seee???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:44 AM
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wow! really cool read. thank you for translating!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:04 PM
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Hi! I would like to see it too please. I've taken a break from dating during this pandemic and using this time to learn and level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:44 PM
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this reminds me of a conversation I had with one of my guy friends in college. He went to MIT and there was a busload of Wesleyan (all female school) students who came to MIT campus for a few courses every week. The MIT students would call that bus, the "fuck bus". As you know, MIT was known for engineering and had a gender imbalance in the engineering school. It's been almost 20 years since that conversation and I never realized how uncomfortable that conversation made me feel until now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:25 AM
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seriously, when I read that line about how he couldn't afford paying for sex or paying for date, I laughed my head off. Notice how which one he mentioned first too. the ranking, the depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:21 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:56 AM
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thank you! I didn't find this subreddit until the pandemic. It is a silver lining, since it made me so much more reflective of past relationships and isolated me from toxic friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:56 AM
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Totally Agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:29 AM
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thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:24 AM
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Thank you, I'll repost and @ you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:19 AM
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me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:36 AM
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whoa, it is soo good! Thank you for recommending this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:21 AM
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He is actually vacuuming now between clients! ugh! i can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:42 PM
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read the comment section and Mercedes (the woman in the picture with her child in the bathroom and husband in the office) responded: RRachelBaltimoreFeb. 5 I hope Mercedes’ husband sees this and realizes he needs to step up. Letting the child scream and make popcorn while she does her job in the evening was beyond. I’m worried that she’s overstretched and her final thoughts involve more work for her (school) and working with him to start a new practice (will he be an equal partner in that or wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:27 AM
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him writing a check to his parents a few hundred every month to pay back the apartment lease he broke that his ex convinced him to get and that he couldn't afford. He blamed it all on his girlfriend. You can guess how this ended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:10 AM
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This was my ex whenever I returned home from holidays out-of-state with family: Did you notice i wiped down the glass dining table? YOu mean the table I clean every night after cooking a whole meal for us? While you can't be disturbed from your MBA studies until food is ready? Yet we make the same salary and split all expenses down the middle, but I do all the unpaid labor on top of this? YOu get to pull the plug in the middle of me vacuuming because you have a weekend call with your classmate a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:40 PM
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woot! congratulations on the new house and dropping this loser! Toast to a New Year and a new fellow solo homeowner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:11 AM
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whoa! bullletttt dooooodged, 'sis'!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:29 AM
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omg, wow, i will definitely be alert on such calls going forward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:41 AM
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YESSSS! Congratulations on getting to be happy!!! and living YOUR life! - former-engagement breaker here who hesitated on saying yes when he proposed with all of those camera phones filming it so you are in good company! Dodged that bullet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:35 AM
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yesss, I love this. I love to cook, but I cooked EVERYTHING and cleaned EVERYTHING in my last relationship. I'm taking your note: concentrate on one dish and he does the rest!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:20 AM
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Thank you!! i needed this! My ex was similar, now I have more hope for my future HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:37 AM
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omg, this was me when I had arguments with my ex. He would just leave in the middle of the argument and then I'd cry and have to explain how he hurt me by not resolving the problem. every. single. time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:08 AM
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first of all, congratulations on your upcoming graduation. second, thank goodness you dropped that NVM! you certainly have a wonderful career ahead of you (speaking from experience) and wish I had looked into this subreddit 10 years earlier (did this subreddit even exist yet?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:57 AM
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Thank you for posting these comments he made too. I was curious how that section blew up. my goodness, he is so oblivious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:53 AM
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the response in the comments on the last screenshot: Spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:07 PM
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Thank you for standing up to him! I've moved around the US for different jobs and each time I had to find a new primary care, gyno, etc. There are both female and male doctors who have very poor bedside manner. The last female gyno totally missed a diagnosis and rushed me off the phone when I called her for some info because she 'has other patients to see'. I wish I was able to report her to the medical board, but I was dealing with all this paperwork and trauma that it was too much. But ultimat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:19 PM
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wow, are you psychic?! Good job on ending it like a queen that you are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:05 PM
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wow, thank you for sharing this. I'm still picking up on the red flags when it comes to dating. So many to be on the look out for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:58 AM
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ugh, I'm sorry your mother feels this way. But i'm glad you found the support here for embracing singleness rather than being pressured into a relationship with a NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:49 AM
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thanks for replying with these steps, I was so curious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:07 AM
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wow, so many red flags! please tell me you blocked him after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:05 AM
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update us after the date please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 06:48 AM
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thank you for sharing your experiences. I feel more confident in cutting off LVMs sooner. I'm still unlearning my 'nice' girl mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 06:45 AM
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What are your most ridiculous OLD stories? wow! you win best story ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 06:37 AM
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when i ended things with my ex, I asked him why he never got me flowers. His reasons: 1. waste of money and 2. the one time he bought flowers, I let it die in the vase. It wasn't until I talked to a therapist, that I realized his gifts 'has strings attached'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:00 PM
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omg, i saw this movie again recently and it definitely reminded me of my relationship. The ending of the movie was so triggering that I had to journal out my memories of my last relationship with a LVM to get it out of system!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:52 PM
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omg, i haven't seen this before! hilarious! this is gold! QUote: "he f***s up everything, why does he even try anymore?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:40 AM
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