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WallyHotvedt/r/askTRP18/10/17 08:09 PM
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 02:34 AM
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she's not yours, it's just your turn no, reframe into a statement of *your* worth - she's not yours, it was just her turn
/r/askTRP29/01/19 02:27 AM
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Yep, agree, this is on him. He fucked up. the texts that were released are uber cringy. Soon to be ex wife hit the jackpot.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/19 09:29 PM
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His woman has just shown him that she is garbage. Wish granted. He'll do fine, the blow to his pride and ego will diminish over time. He will refocus on making his $ back. Woman throwing themselves at him. He'll suffer from a wicked case of #firstWorldProblems for the rest of his life. Someone send him a Amazon gift card for his own copy of RM... ETA: eeeehhh, the wife, WNB. There are no survivors of the wall
/r/TheRedPill09/01/19 08:57 PM
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Good time to review The Principles: https://illimitablemen.com/understanding-the-red-pill/game/ This is on point for this topic: 25 – Stop making black and white movies into Technicolor. You see women as better than they are, you think she’s worth so much more than she is. In reality it is you who is ascribing this extra value to her, she does not actually possess it. As an asset you are worth more than her, your value appreciates with age whilst hers depreciates. Stop seeing women in some golde…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 02:51 PM
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I would only hook-up with older and low-key guys because they wouldn't shit talk to the whole city. I also pray that they don't. crippling fear of slut shaming from other women/friends. This is why providing her plausible deniability is so important so it kind of just happened yep, don't make a big deal out of the journey, just sprinkle it with a bit of "magical thinking" along the way
/r/TheRedPill07/12/18 05:43 PM
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If you never escalate because you don't like the drama that happens - how exactly do you know that drama is the certain outcome since you never escalate? And since she clearly was open to escalation, she could only be "taken" if a) she didn't go out with you to begin with since she has a boyfriend b) didn't go to your house alone with you, c) gave you weak, at best, LMR. So, is she really "taken" if she is waiting for you to escalate, or are you just sitting in a place of total fear of women con…
/r/TheRedPill14/11/18 02:04 AM
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I married a normie who turned into a BPD monster, a long time ago before BPD was identified as BPD. Came on after first child was born, there were some warning signs in hindsight that I wasn't capable of seeing at that point int time - but you see the same signs in most women anyway so they weren't "unusual" in the moment, but I was already well down the path. Once kid #1 arrived she went full moon werewolf 24/7/365 after postpartum set it. Divorced her a few years late and still couldn't get aw…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 05:50 PM
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if you are in the states and want to get bloods done on your own so that you don't have to deal with waiting on docs and insurance then you can order labs online yourself. There are 2 major labs in the US - LabCorp and Quest. You can use https://www.directlabs.com/ if you have a Quest lab closer to you, else you can use https://www.privatemdlabs.com/ for LabCorp. Quest is closer to me so I use directlabs. The procedure is the same for both, you choose the tests you want to have ordered for you o…
/r/TheRedPill21/07/18 10:51 PM
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so much talking, so little action, so much loss of frame
/r/TheRedPill19/03/18 09:43 AM
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Don't forget to factor in the visa issues for each country you might consider relocating to.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/17 03:13 AM
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love that the cow sitting to his L is stuffed into a shirt that is clearly too small and the gap underneath that poor top button... Just not attractive.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/17 04:39 AM
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I don't do crazy... well, at least not a lot of crazy. I vet very well prior.
/r/askTRP19/10/17 04:26 PM
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the guy I direct report to has posted on this thread, so there is that... I've had a street fight with a guy who was part of a conference in Buenos Aires, we still think to this day he was slipped something in a drink, its a long story for another time. Company backed me up. As long as we create plausible deniability for her reputation and also for our own professional integrity then things are good. We both come at the women with direct intent, no lying, so they understand what the deal is and …
/r/askTRP19/10/17 04:25 PM
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Correct, I don't work with these women directly but they do show up at our conferences semi regularly. Edit: due to high profile/visibility there are lots of people asking where we're going to for the "insiders" after party that we end up being responsible to drag a smaller crew of 20-30 out to. So not always possible to totally break away solo. But an option is to organze the after party but not show up and instead show up at plan B with the girl alone, creating drama and excitement
/r/askTRP18/10/17 09:37 PM
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when you stop caring about what mommy and daddy think about you as a man then you'll have actually started to make some progress.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/17 03:56 AM
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You want someone to validate your feelings and tell you everything is going to be perfect and she'll love you forever if you just keep being you. Yea, that's not going to happen here. You've gotten your answers, just because you don't like them ....
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 11:51 AM
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you're a hot mess, but when this blows up and destroys your Disney-esq blue pill ideal you'll be able to come back here and get help understanding your mistakes.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 02:26 AM
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dealing with this exact situation over the last 60 days. My ex girl was told repeatedly what was needed in order to make me happy, after she herself put together 2 lists of "I will do these things", 64 items in all, and presented them to me a few months ago. A past girl was waiting in the wings even though nothing was going on between us other than the occasional phone call, but she'd been wanting to rekindle but I wasnt really interested. I got fed up and told the current girl that we were done…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/17 10:20 PM
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she already knows how to get a hold of hot guy, he's part of the circle of friends. The moment she gets approval from the hive mind her legs will spread
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 02:03 AM
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seems pretty simple. cut ties with mom, go full no contact with her blocking numbers and email and text. move on with your life. or, continue to be her punching bag and enjoy living the rest of your life like this. up to you - do or not do, there is no try
/r/TheRedPill30/08/17 08:27 PM
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He's incel, permanent victim mode, not a good use of your time
/r/TheRedPill25/08/17 06:05 PM
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Yea, think I called it "modified monk mode". We're on the same page. It's just that instead of 1 year of introspection I've got 6 that I saved up. No matter, I'll get through it, not optional. Been at it hard today, back to journaling and building action lists. One of the items on the list is meditation to get this monkey brain under control
/r/TheRedPill25/08/17 06:02 PM
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interesting perspective. I'm doing monk mode because I feel I have to in order to regroup, refocus, reclaim the bits that fell out along the way to get whole again. I've got plates reaching out and wanting to support me but I'm kinda meh about that part, GFTOW who are 40ish isn't the thrill that it once was, 40 year old vagina is like old bread, nobody gives a shit, but 20 year old vagina smells like hope (h/t to Patrice) but it helps to keep the pipes cleaned. so I'll take what feels right as l…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/17 11:38 PM
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not continuing to do the work is not an option, I got the message later in life than most here, but tough shit, I got the message and made the needed changes and life was fucking epic finally. Going into modified monk mode, got a cracked heart atm after dropping my ex in a really really nasty final go round with her. One that should have been ended long before, that part is on me. Isn't the first time I'll feel like this, won't be the last time either. Other harem members stepping up to fill the…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/17 05:20 PM
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Every woman has higher value than virtually every man. couldn't disagree more. Why would you possibly believe this? What value does any woman bring that exceeds a mans? the only thing they have that we can't find anywhere else is vagina. Meh, bang the same girl for a year, its like eating the same cereal 24/7/365, that vagina loses its appeal. Without internalizing the fact that you are the prize then you've lost the battle. a 4/10 short man with great confidence, who has his life setup well, ph…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/17 04:41 PM
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monk mode in your late 50's is a bitch, can't shake the feelings of time running out on you...
/r/TheRedPill23/08/17 03:20 AM
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you didn't even try, you got what you deserved then. zero effort. you might consider actually making an effort next time. whats the worst that can happen? rejection? you already dealt with that. so try doing something different if you want a different outcome. Its not a "unique" experience, you are not a special snowflake. Shit like this happens all the time. Welcome to the world So I just sank further back into my shell. perfect, that'll fix everything right? We got into a heated debate and he …
/r/TheRedPill23/08/17 03:13 AM
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interesting guy, chatted with him a few times
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 12:50 AM
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in the US $1750/mo * 12 = $21k annual, that's below poverty level income, so not much income tax load to factor in, but also no eye to the future with financial investments or savings or ability to get to "fuck you" money. Just treading water and kicking the can down the road.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/17 04:06 PM
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depends on where you want to land. Singapore is prob the most expensive area in SEA over Korea, but Korea is much more expensive than Thailand, Thailand is inexpensive but is expensive compared to Cambodia and Vietnam which can, etc. International travel is about money/costs/expenses, but you'll need to understand each countries visa requirements which plays a bit part as well. You'll save big money by just renting small apartments for a month or 3 at a time vs trying to do potentially non-exist…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/17 02:44 PM
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when you are 36+ then plant the seed in a 25yr old
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 08:02 PM
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great reply above, you'd do well to read it a few times till it sinks in. Easy to see that your gut instincts are screaming at you, trust your gut and listen to it.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 07:55 PM
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He's completely destroyed and is moving back home. He doesn't know his value, this is a chronic man-crime in our world today. Remind him that she has done him a real solid, shown him that she is garbage and not worthy of him, and has saved him from a horrible marriage and miserable future. He won't be able to hear the message for awhile till the fog clears in a few months, but keep giving him the message whenever you can.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 05:32 PM
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keep going back, she's giving you the chance for great frame building exercises, building those ZFG muscles. Once you learn agree and amplify, treating her like someones stupid little sister, ZFG, hard dominance - all that translates over to white girls really well, you'll be top 5%, and you just stay in that frame from now on
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 04:27 PM
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Hispanic girl shit tests = nuclear level, requires top level dominance at all times
/r/TheRedPill15/07/17 01:10 AM
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As another old guy here I absolutely agree. The wall is brutal for women. She'll look like garbage soon enough, it's just not an option for her as the years roll on. Meanwhile you'll have dodged a bullet. I smile when I think of my oneitis because I came out well ahead on the deal, knowing that I got her best years that she'll never be able to look that good again, and that I'm even more fucking amazing now than I've ever been in my life. Best revenge is to go out and create an awesome life for …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/17 09:56 PM
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Deceived by these women in your teens you gingerly believed would help you understand women when they told you to "Be nice", "Be yourself", "Wait for her", "Disregard her past", "Must cuddle", "Dadbods are hot" and the list goes on. agree. But the message behind the scenes in these type of messages is "don't do anymore work, don't try to be better" Then we find out that it is all a lie, we realize that we are so far behind, we're pissed that it didn't have to be like this, etc. But in the real w…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/17 06:04 PM
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its an old adage, but being in the anger phase is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/17 05:58 PM
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ha!! as if such a unicorn exists. AWALT exists for a reason. And what's up with his eyes in that photo? No idea who either of them are...
/r/TheRedPill10/05/17 05:51 PM
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so someone bipolar or schizophrenic, this stuff doesn't exist? it's just someone acting 'funny'? just feel like assuming somebody is acting X way simply for no reason other than an inherent disorder is kinda simplifying the complexity of the human psyche. I think it serves to define a consistent behavioral pattern that is systemic in the person. In this case there is/should be zero effort put into determining why this woman ended up with the behavior pattern she did, there is nothing to be gaine…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 07:50 AM
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there a plenty of people here encourging you to get out, and you seem to be trending in that direction. So once you accept that this will be your outcome the next steps are to do the due dilligence work to get your finances/life prepared as best you can for divorce. There are many blogs/MRA sites that have lots of info on the best way to do this. A good first step to talk while you are getting your ducks lined up is "attorney disqualification" - by figuring out who the best attys in the area are…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 05:56 AM
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you should be thankful that you have no clue about what you are talking about since you clearly have never had to deal with BPD. Till then maybe stick to things you know about
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 02:37 AM
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you're welcome. not a lot of guys have dealt with BPD at this day to day, year to year level before. It is impossible to describe to anybody just how significant the impact is. Feel free to ping me if you need some support/perspective/whatever. I know the "being alone" feeling, its part of what the BPD spouse does, they cut you off from your life in order to make your life totally about them. And all those friends/relationships/etc that you let go of during the last few years because of all the …
/r/TheRedPill12/12/16 02:56 AM
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ignore him, he doesn't know shit, boisterous != value A real man tries to help others not suffer from the ills of society and the failure to protect every persons rights :rollseyes: at "real man" shaming tactic, but a real man tries to help others that he's taken the time to figure out if they are worth his valuable time and effort to help, and only helps as long as the person on the other end makes use of the help.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/16 02:31 AM
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married to a BPD woman in '83 when no one knew what BPD was, had 4 kids with her who are now grown. Divorced in 87. First off, don't get physical with her, it'll only hurt you and give her more ammo. Yes you do have PTSD. Yes, the court system doesn't care about you. With all that said you can get your life back, the problem is that you are so emotionally spent that you are running on fumes which leaves you little 'battle armor' to take her on with. Whatever, these are the cards you have now. Yo…
/r/TheRedPill12/12/16 02:24 AM
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I want to be honest and dependable when it comes to other people. Fuck other people - probably best to be honest and dependable to yourself first, which you don't seem like you have sorted at all at the moment. This reeks of co-dependence. See the advice below about reading NMMNG. An actionable item around this is to read the book and do that exercises within I want to be straightforward, direct, and able to be respected as a man. Respect is earned, what are you doing to earn that at the moment?…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/16 07:27 PM
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as long as you continue to worship at the pedestal of "mother of my kids" you won't move forward. Sure you want her to be a good mother to your kids, but she gets some special dispensation because your kids emerged from her vagina? It's biology, not some magical heavens parting event that comes once in a million years. Kids have been popping out of vagina for hundreds of thousands of years, some to the point of the vag being a clown car.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/16 07:21 PM
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meat algorithm, I like that, very adept
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 02:01 PM
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I followed pretty close to the same path for enlightenment. I've always thought of NMMNG as the book that showed me what I was doing wrong, and TRM, MMSL, TRP and all the other resources I found after that epiphany as what I could be doing right. What you did that I'm not sure I could have was to find your path while staying in your relationship. I'd left mine prior to discovering NMMNG, and I often wonder if it would have been possible to stay in the relationship and learn what I needed to - al…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 02:00 PM
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might want to read up on agree and amplify eta: I'm not necessarily agreeing with the strategy, but pointing out the basis
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 02:00 AM
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I can't say she's wrong. I can. Almost 60, single, happy as a gopher in soft dirt. This is an illogical argument, which is actually the worst fear a female can have - being alone with no attention and no skills to attract a male companion. This is the whole motivation for a very late post wall female - do anything to find someone to give you attention and provision for you. I see this constantly. As a man, the argument that if you are alone then the only option possible is that you are lonely is…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:21 PM
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And how exactly did he get "fucked over" due to emotional investment? It's just feelings, not like losing a house that you built with your own hands, or being on the hook for 18 years of child support for a kid you got duped into fathering, or losing your life savings. Yes, it doesn't feel good, but that is the extent of it. He wins. This bitch did him a huge solid and showed him who she really was. She made the decision for him, and it was a stupid decision on her part. Shocker. Chances are hig…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:04 PM
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Damaged women need the dopamine fix in higher and higher doses, thrill, excitement and feelz. Dick game is always off when it goes into crazy box
/r/TheRedPill14/12/15 06:54 AM
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If you were really blocking her you wouldn't be seeing these messages. All the way. 100% RADIO SILENCE in both directions. Your body/mind is going to fuck with you hard being denied its drug of choice. It will pass. Gym gym gym, take this shit out on the weights, channel the anger. Hit up all your friends that you dumped along the way so you could spend time with this bitch, tell them they were right. Stay busy. You got this ETA: you can't see it yet but in time you'll smile and see that she's a…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/15 06:52 AM
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Should have said something about how bad you want her, or how hot she is instead of just "...ok." agree on something other than ok, but how bad you want her?? You'd have a hard time digging a deeper hole with a shovel, bad advice to encourage him to go full beta given what he has described of himself. Makes me wince just to see that. Her timeout of 5 min in the head on the room bounce was a bad sign to start with, as OP noted the candles need to be saved for a plate that perhaps needs comfort an…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/15 01:38 AM
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return some tapes... lol, well played Patrick B. And since we're on movie memes, clearly coffee is for closers
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 06:51 AM
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We all get got. It's part of the game. The trick is now - what are you going to do about what you've learned? How are you going to channel that pain to "do better"? Sounds like you're working on getting it figured out already. Great job. Bitch did you a favor, she showed you who she really is, and reminded you what the game is all about. Yea, it stings, but never ever forget that: you'll be much much better for the experience and she gets to keep being exactly who she is right now Heal up, and t…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 05:49 PM
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You might want to consider adding a step 0 to this great post. Lot's of guys in LTRs have been beaten down over the years to a beta pulp by the woman they love which results in a sense of "there has to be more to this relationship than this miserable feeling I'm left with every damn day. I'm restless, bored, unhappy, and sick of what little duty sex I'm getting". And in trying to "fix it" they've folded more towels, done more dishes, ie supplicated deeply and self-sacrificed to keep princess hap…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 05:15 PM
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what you are not realizing here is that by not being "more attractive" than the previous Chad you are preventing yourself from getting Chad-level sex out of her. To your conclusion: A) so what, that is an excuse you are using from being a Chad B) she wasn't yours before, you are only renting her now, she'll be back in someone elses rotation at some point in the future when you release her back to the wild where it will be someone elses turn C) you have much work to do if you are pulling a case o…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 12:13 AM
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figure out why you feel you need to have the permission or approval of others as part of your interaction with people. Learn why you feel you need to care what people think about you. Nice Guy personality that you need to work on? When I approach them I say "Excuse me, can I say something ______" Or I should stick to saying "Hi"? if you really feel this is a question that you don't have the answer to then you should seriously consider logging more time on the sidebar material.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 04:30 AM
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"excuse me" is supplicating. you are asking for the permission/approval of others to speak. You don't need an alternate form of supplication, just start speaking by saying whatever you were going to say minus the "excuse me". Also, consider removing "sorry" from your vocabulary as well since you might use that too. "mistakes were made" "its too bad it ended up that way" etc are ways to acknowledge a mistake on your part without losing frame like you would with using the horrible word "sorry".
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 03:40 AM
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waiting a period of time in silence where it begins to become uncomfortable for everyone around you that it is suddenly so quiet/why isn't someone speaking?? before continuing. Part of owning the frame that you and others are in. bill burr/epidemic of golddigging whores (youtube it): "why is it so quiet in here??!?"
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 03:36 AM
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Thankfully I'm mostly past all that now with my kids. Divorced when they were very very young so their mother had at them mentally/emotionally with brainwashing them about me. More than a few cassette tapes from the old school answering machine sitting in a closet somewhere with her screaming in the background about "that bastard your father". Just talked with one of my daughters earlier this week and that phrase/point in time came up. She acknowledged the damage my ex caused them I think all ki…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 01:43 AM
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I'm a few years older than your dad (based on your age), and it became clear to me a few years back after the enlightenment that we did your generation no favors in passing down what we know/knew - nada, nothing, clueless as to the truths. As a father it's tough to look at my offspring and see how I failed them in this regard. I'm doing my best to make up for lost time with them, but it's an uphill battle given all the years of bad example that I gave to them. Doesn't mean that I stop now in try…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 02:49 PM
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Take this shit down, you're taking money out of a guys pocket that has helped millions of men be better men . Do better
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 04:21 PM
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Met this girl online, she said she wanted to take it slow Actions over words. You ignore this hamstery garbage from her and still escalate appropriately when you are with her - kino, making your sexual agenda known, flirting, creating attraction, being fun, mysterious, etc. If her actions at that point are a "no" then you figure out what you want to do about continuing to invest time in someone who is showing you by their actions that they are not interested in you/attracted to you.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/15 07:48 PM
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why? there is nothing he needs to do here, his frame is solid. It's up to her to come around to his frame of both sharing a side plate in some agreed upon fashion or she drops it. If she tries to plate one up by herself he has already set the message early on that he has no problems with abundance and dropping her. He's in the drivers seat, she needs him more then he needs her. I explain that what she wants is action without consequences, and that I don't accept her reasons for wanting to step o…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/15 07:33 PM
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actually I'm a full-wit, and your post of "facts" is pretty shallow. I understand that what you posted originally are your values, but to strongly and angrily imply with a huge hand wave that your facts apply to all members here in a pissed off tone is misguided at best. If you want to mgtow then do your thing. If you hate women then no problem, that is your right. But to somehow pitch your facts as the hard rules that everybody must goose step to in order to allow YOU to feel like "they are doi…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/15 05:01 PM
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Mirror mirror on the wall, who appears to be the angriest of them all? If it doesn't work for you then take your ball and go home. But calling people out about being angry in an angry post is a total waste of energy and projecting pretty hard. Figure out why you care so much about other people's responses (hint:you shouldnt), and what part of you that you are ignoring doing the hard work on as a result of your anger and misdirected focus here instead of doing the work on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/15 12:48 AM
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Once a week gives me the validation and emotional release I need. I am not getting attached to her. These 2 things in no way go together, there must be some part of you that recognizes this. If you rely on her once a week to feed your weaknesses then you are already attached to her What do you imagine will happen when this plays out after she tires of you, and twists this all up to make it 100% your doing? This WILL happen given how thirsty/needy/unattractive you are right now. At least own your…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/15 12:30 AM
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Over/under on seeing the author here in 3 years... unfortunately I think I'll take the over, this guy is a sad case
/r/TheRedPill15/07/15 09:44 PM
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If you found yourself in a relationsip with a woman who conducted herself in the same manner you would be advocating capital punishment for her. uh, no. We'd recognize her actions for what they are, hypergamous, and drop her and re-plate without the anger or capital punishment. She is just being true to her nature. See the "Dirty Sheets" post here I just had #1 plate go full retard 3 weeks ago while I was on the road pursuing my passion and I invited her to go with me. During the 2nd evening she…
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 04:00 PM
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so the woman has no agency here then.... interesting. I'm not trying to be all high and mighty try harder, you're still in nosebleed territory
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 03:49 PM
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I'll give you looks matter on Tinder with no problem, but I'll also take that working Tinder to close is in no way heavy lifting.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 03:04 AM
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looks don't matter, stop applying male logic to female dynamics. Confidence is what attracts them, not looks
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 02:13 AM
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it's socially unacceptable to pursue other women when you already have one, we're expected to sit back and suppress all our natural desires while our girlfriends have all the fun. garbage. That is you not setting boundaries well. If you want to date multiple women then do so and stop being afraid of making princess mad and losing her. You clearly feel strongly that being able to act on your natural desires is a right you feel entitled to. So what are you doing to give that to yourself? The only …
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 12:51 AM
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don't quite understand 2 of the replies to this. Guy goes to do something he enjoys doing and is/was/will be fine doing by himself. Invites girl to join him as he is learning about the importance of his value. He has a good time, does his stuff during the evening, works on his game in a way that doesn't tax him, is happy with his interactions, learns a bit, confirms existing knowledge, and then seals the deal in the end. Remind me where exactly the heavy lifting is in all this?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 12:43 AM
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"I like the color of your eyes, especially the left one"
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 12:38 AM
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I'm taking you to XYZ restaurant on Friday. Be ready at 5:59. I'd direct it a bit differently: I'm going to XYZ restaurant on Friday, you'll look great on my arm, wear a dress, something sexy, and those black hooker pumps that I like, hair down. I'll pick you up at 8. direct the interaction. you are doing something that she can join in or not, but you are doing this and it isn't centered around her, not the "I'm giving you a benefit for something you haven't done" inherent in "I'm taking you to.…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 12:03 AM
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Once again, they engaged in consensual sex in Emma’s bed. The Sophomore Sexual Encounter involved vaginal and anal sex, followed by oral intercourse. eeeeh ass to mouth, she's a well used dirty little thing
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 07:19 PM
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Awesome stuff. Welcome. Welcome to your new life and the awesome that is in front of you. Feel every bit of that anger and continue to channel it into learning. The anger will pass, and you will make amazing strides in bettering yourself during this time. After my anger phase passed I realized how important the phase was and tried to get my emotional state back into that anger phase so I could do more growth, didn't work, you've got one shot at it so ride that fucking wave for all it it worth. W…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 03:26 PM
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I really have to agree, it's so hard and takes so much work, it'll be so much better if you lower your expectations, then you can go back to being who you were, cause that was awesome right? /s
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 01:27 AM
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...and now "Dad" is only 5 years older than his "son". smfh
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:58 AM
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I always characterized my AF->BB plummet as when I "become the 4th item on a 3 item to-do list". The other mantra that has stuck with me is "if someone says they are only 90% into you then I'm 100% out the door" What you do from there is the question I still havent answered. channel the frustration into positive self-improvement. Learn to self validate, stop seeking it in your partners. Become the guy she was attracted to in the beginning, kill the inner guy that got lost along the way.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:50 AM
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prostitution is NOT legal in Thailand, it's just a much more accepted way of life. Tea money gets paid, everybody is happy
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 10:10 PM
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first thing. stop calling for escorts. That's lame. Begin to work on heading out to a local bar and escalate your game to bar girl game. Meet other men, enjoy shooting the shit. Thai girls willing to bang your for $ are everywhere. Literally everywhere. Next step would be to start turning them down, and hunt for a girl that you really click with. Say no 5 times for every one time you pay for it. Source: I've had 6 trips to Thailand, staying upwards of 60 days per trip over the last 5 years. Stop…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 10:08 PM
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it's not like you have a choice in the matter, you know this at some level right?
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 05:22 AM
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holy fuck, kid is on fire spitting truths. That is some church. Sidebar +1
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 05:11 AM
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You're 48, why in the world would you want to get married or into an LTR with a 26 year old? Fix your pedestal and oneitis problems first. That you feel that you've somehow got to 'convince her' about you reeks of scarcity mentality. Plate up 2 more 26 year old and then see how you are feeling. Who gives a fuck if you are legit or not. Youre being lazy by thinking that somehow she'll wing for you in your current BP haze of thinking. The less legit you are the longer the pussy will stay attracted…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 04:46 PM
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https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B__VYHwVEAAVkVQ.jpg
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 10:09 PM
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You wouldn't really have it any other way. came here to post the same ideas, but /u/karmasutur3 nailed it better than I could have, well done. Clearly OP is in the early days, everybody starts somewhere. But your perception is skewed, you've swung too far to the other side, and you've framed your complaints as negatives when instead they, for the most part, are positives. It's just that they conflict with the Disney viewpoint. Once you actually begin to live your life instead of living life in s…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 05:26 PM
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better to pay for these services than to receive them as "gifts" that come back to haunt you later
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 02:23 AM
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I've not used the "female prison guard" criteria for determining bang potential. But L is a def WNB, and R would depend on quality and volume of tequila
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 02:21 AM
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be careful of the Craigslist bought positive pregnancy stick tests, girls buy them positive to frame guys up. If she produces a positive stick that you didn't mark up with a marker prior to conclusively identify it later, and then directly watch her piss on it in the bathroom and wait the 5-7 minutes for the results then DO NOT trust it. Bitches pull all kinds of shit. The phony preg stick happened to the mid 20's son of an ex plate of mine a few months ago, his bat shit crazy ex GF used the pre…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 08:15 PM
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fugly hambeast, WNB with your dick http://imgick.oregonlive.com/home/olive-media/width960/img/argus/photo/2015/03/16/-630dbad706097890.JPG
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 08:01 PM
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the old rule - stop trying to make sense out of nonsense.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 07:56 PM
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Great post, I'll pile on with the others saying the same thing. It's amazing what happens when we (self included) go through this sort of pain. Things become very primal, internally we move the ego out of the way and gain brutal brutal honesty with ourselves. We use the physical pain as motivation to allow us to cope with emotional pain, since the physical pain is much easier to deal with than the emotional pain. All that energy, now channeled honestly within ourselves, serves to better us in wa…
/r/TheRedPill12/03/15 05:11 PM
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what do you see specifically as being the problem with what he wrote?
/r/TheRedPill10/03/15 05:11 PM
0

What they don't understand is I'm not interested in training vanilla women in BDSM, that's a waste of time. I'm only interested in playing with genuine submissives, they are the best and the only ones worth my time when it comes to BDSM. I'm dealing with this now. I've let my sub go last week after 4 years, the submission and the bedroom dynamics were off the hook, but the rest of her life and communication style were a mess making the whole thing unworkable in the end. When I became unwilling t…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/15 05:09 PM
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reminds me of Mark Grace, Chicago Cubs first baseman on a "slump buster": On the definition of a "slumpbuster", after being pressed by host Jim Rome in a now-infamous 2003 interview on the television show "Rome is Burning" to clarify the baseball slang term (this is the "official" word-for-word transcript from the interview)... "A slumpbuster is if a team's in a slump, or if you personally are in a slump, you gotta find the fattest, gnarliest, grossest chick and you just gotta lay the wood to he…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/15 11:57 PM
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She wasn't the same person. but you treated her like it for 2 weeks anyway... While you are clear that you chose to do the suit dress thing you ended up way on the sharp tip of BB without the stones to reset the situation into your frame. Dislike it but still put up with it?? that's fully on you. While it's good that you learned something, it seems kinda clear that you had "learned something" at about day 2, yet didn't do anything to fix the problem, you just swallowed and took it for the entire…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/15 05:23 AM
1

let her miss you. let her compare spending time with BP Boy vs spending time with you. Demote her, and get some new plates spun up, spend time with your boys, have fun, enjoy life. http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 04:40 PM
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"you can't sacrifice integrity for happiness" uh, you already have given up any position of integrity... pretty hamstery logic at play here, but avoiding all that, the answer to your question is - you can't. You can't give your girl deep dick and then take it away from her and expect her to somehow want to stay around. It's bait and switch, pulling the rug out from under her, a unilateral decision of "oh hey, I changed my mind now, and if you want to hang around then you need to accept it too". …
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 04:23 PM
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How in the world could he not know with his wife in a international publications saying 2 guys from 46 years ago pushed her husband of 50 years out of her romantic view? he damn sure knows now. but he may not know that he has options, if you've ever been deep in the midst of a blue pill fog and feeling that there is nothing to do but accept your current lot in life then you'll understand this. If not then good on ya for not having to deal with that horror. I searched for him too hoping to find c…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 10:02 PM
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garbage. plenty of guys start very late in life. I became enlightened in my mid 50's
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 08:30 PM
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You can't blame a guy who doesn't know what he doesn't know, that he has no idea that there is any other option than continuing to do the only thing he knows. We were all Olly at one point till we learned that there were different choices available. You can, however, hold a guy fully accountable who has the knowledge but continues to ignore it.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 08:28 PM
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imagine being Olly and reading this...
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 06:08 PM
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56 yo checking in, validating both this post and /u/squarehead93 's more detailed post above. squarehead is 100% spot on. I traveled in my early 20's in the service and fucking loved it - Guam, Philippines, Africa, Fiji, Singapore, Samoa, New Zeland and more -- the world was my oyster. Came home after discharge and got locked down in marriage and kids, divorced, locked down again in an LTR that grenaded which brought me to the red pill. Miserable the entire time. Now I travel the world about 4 m…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 05:58 PM
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Welcome. Your story is no different than most here, and most here have broken through to the other side. Remember that without the pain you are in now you'd have no reason/motivation to better yourself - this means that your next experience will be less painful and more in your control. Breakups and losses are never totally pain free, but having better tools in your toolbox to deal with things creates better outcomes for you. Stick with it, anger phase is next, you've got this
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 06:11 PM
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"She has had therapy and is writing an 'autofictional' novel about her experience." of course she is...
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 03:45 PM
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Any help would be appreciated, bros. assumes that you'd be willing to take the help, but wondering what did you end up doing here? side note: I married my bpd ex (strike 2) before bpd was a known condition after I knocked her up (strike 1). Had 4 kids with her (strike 3) that are all suffering as adults older than you due to their mothers illness. I have a finely tuned inner radar for cluster B personality disordered people who appear in front of me now, zero tolerance for them. This shit makes …
/r/TheRedPill16/02/15 02:53 AM
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tl;dr past '...F who may have bpd' in the title run, run now, run far in 10 years you'll see the reasons because you'll prob stay with her for that long...
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 03:57 AM
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now I say, "we can do A or B. I prefer A." don't even do that. If >you< want to do A then you are doing A and she can come along. Else you are doing A without her. Too much gynocentric focused thinking, you aren't spending time to please her, you are doing what you want and she can be pleased with it or another one who will be can take her place next time. Continue to work to get the pussy off the pedestal You need to get out of the mindset of some sort of responsibility of entertaining her, dan…
/r/TheRedPill03/02/15 01:09 PM
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major shit tests as she tries to regain the upper hand. hold frame. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=96n15NpTw-g gotta be willing to lose her to keep her, she needs to learn to "act right"
/r/TheRedPill01/02/15 10:50 PM
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a vote here to drop the "ask her out" angle/mindset, instead let her know you are doing something fun/interesting/your passion, and let her know she can join you. I've used the "you'll look great on my arm with me, and I want you to wear those tall pumps" angle, but I'm quite a bit older than you so that might not play in your demographic, ymmv. there is a lot of very subtle "you are better than I am" and "I am chasing you" messages in the "asking her out" mindset, which removes you from the one…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/15 09:06 PM
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^ this is a good post about things you can push him to do for himself prior to dealing with the realities of what he is about to run head first into, vs "how can I make him feel better via TRP". Chances are that he'll try the usual "salvage it for the kids" angle (male hamstery bullshit for not wanting to do the hard work in my world but to each their own). The actionable things listed above will actually help him. I'd add that he should try to squirrel some cash away as emergency fund, doesn't …
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 03:14 PM
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you know about the cheating but you don't tell him? why? I can see a guy who is uber beta blaming the messenger, but there comes a point where it's not good to have people this weak in your life. But you are a better judge of what's what here. To your question, you can't help him. He needs to want to help himself. You can put resources in front of him, but you can't force him to better himself. Tough to watch the train wreck isn't it... Just be there to support his tearful initial woe is me act …
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 06:38 AM
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LG said that, not you. Agree, but for a guy 2 months into his new RP frame banging a cheating whore ex that you went full beta/dopey love on and tried to take back before enlightenment isn't usually a recipe for success for most. While everybody carves out their own journey, that's not usually great pussy in the end, and it drags most guys backwards into a full reset mode since he's limited on the tools he can rely on in his new toolbox vs keeping eyes forward and enjoying new growth and leaving…
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 10:47 PM
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Still much to learn kōhai - you don't take whores back.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 09:31 PM
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NMMNG teaches us what we've being done wrong, solves the puzzle that we/I couldn't figure out for myself - "WTF does this keep happening over and over, I'm following all the rules that women/media tell me I should be doing yet I end up in the same fucking horrible place each time". It's the proverbial 2x4 upside the head that explains WHY your life has been a fucking mess despite playing by all the rules, and what you need to change/do in order to get on course. Rational Male/MMSL/Chateau/80proo…
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 09:24 PM
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Some RoK advice: http://www.returnofkings.com/29220/how-to-respond-when-your-girl-wants-to-be-exclusive
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 04:35 AM
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ummm, here's a thought - cancel your Facebook account? It's not a life critical thing, just saying... People went without it for hundreds of thousands of years prior. In the triage of important things, keeping yourself clear of BSC ranks at a higher level than flaunting your latest whatever eta: suggestion from a guy who married up a borderline and had 4 kids. I know about BSC
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 11:44 AM
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