WaltVegas Archive

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3	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? That is also well said. My divorce forced me to learn about myself and learn to see her for who she was, and she is someone I don't care to be around. I can be amicable with her and communicate with her, but we're not hanging out. Ever. She's not a monster. She's just someone I don't want to be around. It took a long time to get there. Everyone in my life could see how she was but me.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/25 02:13 AM
3	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? Exactly. She's a human doing the only thing she knows to keep herself safe, even if it sucks for everyone around her.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 11:01 AM
2	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? Sometimes we have to spiral. I struggled so hard. I went to the darkest place you can go and survived to be happier than ever. We grow in the struggle. It's where we find ourselves or die trying.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 10:59 AM
2	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? Well you can recognize their flaws and your own flaws. there's usually plenty of blame to go around. But yeah, you have to accept that they're just a person doing what they know how to do to survive. You have to if you want peace. Even if they're being a shitty ex, accepting that they're doing what they were taught or learned to do to survive and there's nothing you can do about it will help your mental state.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 10:54 AM
4	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? Be careful with terms like "best woman ever." You might be surprised. That's terminology that will limit your perception of other women. Even if she died, you have to be open to the idea that there are other great women out there. Most people are great in their own way. Don't immediately put them in the less than box. That's no way to live life. I'm just trying to be supportive, brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 10:51 AM
3	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? When I told everyone she was leaving, they said thank God! Congratulations! Even though she was nice, she had been slowly isolating me from everyone for 10 years, and they could see it, but I could not.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 10:45 AM
4	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman? Ditto. If her boss asked her for anything, she would go to the ends of the earth but not at home. She acts all meek and mild and doesn't say much and almost acts afraid in public. She still lets me do most of the talking at parent teacher meetings. But at home, it was pajamas on immediately after work. Don't ask me for shit. Never a kind word uttered. Criticism. Leave me alone with my TV and beer. Anything you ask me to do will become less likely to happen if it ever happens. And if it does, you…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/25 10:43 AM
5	Today is the day we tell the kids. That's how it starts.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 09:27 PM
4	Today is the day we tell the kids. Okay. You're well on your way. I'm proud of you. Dig into some new things. Don't just try to recover someone you were. Find out who you are. Find new hobbies and interests. I found out that I like shoes, nice cologne, and watches. They gave me a whole new dimension to life. I reconnected with the gym. I dropped video games. It wasn't a choice. I just have no desire to play them. It's weird. I don't watch much TV now, but I still watch YouTube.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 06:13 PM
5	Today is the day we tell the kids. I was there too! Nobody in my circle has experience with divorce as an adult. That makes divorce isolating. That's why I suggested finding a divorced men's group, but it needs to be a good one with a mix of members at different stages and structure. Don't just get together and complain. Lean on each other and lift each other up. Some need to be heard. Some are there to listen and nod. Some are there to guide. Group therapy can be powerful. I only did one week of it, and I was so surprised. It's …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 05:31 PM
6	Today is the day we tell the kids. Yeah. That will stay with you. That cry is terror and sadness. I tear up just thinking about it. I hope he was able to find some comfort. Don't make it taboo. Talk to him about it. Ask him how he feels and listen. Just listen and Ask him questions. Let him know he and how he feels matters. He needs to know that. You can try to help him guide him, but you don't have to tell him how to feel. Good luck. You're going to be a better person after all this. It sucks but we have to get down in the shit …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 03:59 PM
3	Today is the day we tell the kids. Just go in peace. Drop her. You have better things ahead of you. You can try counseling. If she refuses or manipulates the therapy, just go.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 01:03 PM
9	Today is the day we tell the kids. I've been there. It sucks. When I did it, I showed my emotions, and I let my son know it was okay for him to show his emotions. We cried together. She never shed a tear. He calmed down after we let him know that we were going to have 50/50 custody and he wouldn't lose either of us. Before that he said it was a nightmare. It was a sucky day, but you have better days ahead. I promise. Unfortunately, you're going to have to go through a lot more shitty days, but eventually you'll get to reconnect w…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 12:58 PM
9	Almost Got Killed Last Night Bro, you're not alone. I felt that way for so long. You have a lot of work to do. If I had to guess, you need to learn what codependency is because I bet you were in a codependent relationship. But for sure, you need to connect with yourself and learn your value. It sounds like you placed all your value in another person. I've been there. You have intrinsic value, and you need to do new things, meet new people, and find things you're passionate about. You're more than a husband or a dad. It's ti…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/25 09:36 AM