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a mix of cognitive dissonance and marketability.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/26 12:50 AM
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The redpill can be summarized as a "cure" being sold by the same people who poisoned you in the first place. It attracts people who are down on their luck and experiencing the receiving end of the zero-sum, dog-eat-dog mentality that is prevalent in our culture. It tells them how to be better at "winning" by no longer conforming while still making them totally conformative to the social mores that put them down in the first place. However, I found Hazma at a very difficult time during my life an…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/26 01:58 PM
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whole edifice of the red pill phenomenon exists because of something already heavily skewing reality: dating apps. No, the "red pill" existed before most dating apps. And dating apps aren't what brought it about. It's a modernized, internet-driven manifestation of very old modes of thinking that are antiquated and ill-suited to the times we live in. It's what the feminist would call patriarchy. Many of the ideas are modern, secular offshoots of Christianity's ideas about men & women.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/26 04:09 PM
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No, it was never about "understanding" women. It was about project misogynistic assumptions about women onto them, and treating them like less-than people. Then being shocked that the only women they can attract are toxic and unhealed people, which then they use as proof their insane ideas are based in fact and not just survivorship bias of their own cognitive filtering.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 12:29 PM
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Which study? also I have a lot of doubts about the entire field of evo-psych. On top of that, redpill types tends to grossly misinterpret the findings in that field to favor their ideology, giving it an even worse reputation.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 10:24 PM
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There are no redpill "truths", it's a bunch of sophistic thought-terminating statements masquerading as facts. No shit you feel miserable when you walk around convinced that: - all men are engaged in an endless competition against one another - women are all sadistic opportunists who will leave you the second they meet a man with 0.00001 more "SMV points" than you - these things are all inexorable truths of the universe and biology and there's nothing you can do to change it - anybody trying to …
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 01:03 PM
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Well said. Nobody's immune to propaganda.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/26 05:25 PM
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I'm not giving him any sort of "pass". He's a grifter through-and-through and is an "OG" of the early days of the redpill movement. But the one thing that stands out for me is that he frequently cites his experiences with his "BPD ex". I honestly think most of the behavior he ascribes to ALL women is just his unhealthy projection/coping with having been in a relationship that I'm assuming was abusive towards him. I recently ended a 1.5yr relationship with my ex who has diagnosed BPD and a LOT of…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/25 01:24 AM
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I never really went full incel. Whenever I would accept redpill rhetoric I could always feel within myself a lot of anger about it and a sort of reluctance to accept it as being really true. But I think it was the combination of listening to Terrence Real's "I Don't Want to Talk About It" and bell hooks' "The Will to Change" on a long road trip that really made me see so many of the issues I faced were basically downstream of patriarchal rhetoric and ideas enforced through generations, which red…
/r/ExRedPill02/11/25 05:40 PM
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Because in their rationale, evolutionary psychology (a widely discredited and pseudo-scientific field) gives them de facto absolute explanations on why a woman behaved in the way that she did without ever considering her agency as a human being. I think it's basically mental gymnastics of them attempting to make rejection feel less personal.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/25 11:38 AM
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Women do like to affect, influence, and control men... Well that's a pretty sweeping generalization. To me "redpill rage" is just people redirecting the angry they feel inside onto women. In psychology this is usually called projection, or displacement.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/25 12:13 PM
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lmao this is mental gymnastics and myopic.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 12:16 PM
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Yeah the aspects they ascribe as being innate to ALL women are things I only encountered in the absolute most damaged, traumatized and hurt women I've ever met. It's kind of telling that one of the old-guard of redpill is Rollo Tomassi. He often mentions his experience dating a woman with BPD. I recently went through a similar experience, so I can tragically sympathize with the guy. But I'm healthy enough to realize her behavior was a result of severe dysfunction and not just because she was a w…
/r/ExRedPill05/08/25 07:59 PM
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Something to factor in is that lots and lots and lots and LOTS of people have varying degrees of trauma experiences imprinted on them. Myself included. You mentioned a lot of little things that added up to your sum experience of dating and relationships. EVERYONE has one of those, and every single one is gonna be a little bit different. The similarities likely have more to do with cultural history than any biological determinism. No, I don't have a citation for that, just going by vibes. Wheneve…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 04:04 PM
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Social media is all about engagement. You fell for her ruse by viewing the content and posting a comment. Best option is to block these accounts from infiltrating your mind.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/25 12:05 PM
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"I'm still battling a really low self-image" That is your only actual problem. 5'9" isn't short. 4'9" would be short.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 10:57 PM
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A lot of right wingers have these sort of pseudo Christian moral values that are all about some vague sense of purity without them actually needing the dedication that a full commitment to religion requires.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/25 02:34 PM
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It "works" on people who are susceptible to it because humans usually default to what is familiar to them, not what is genuinely best for them. People who come from abused and/or neglectful households grow up to believe at a really deep level that those sorts of behavior ARE loving and they're what love is, and that them being distressed about it is somehow their fault, and not their abusers. It goes a lot deeper than that and there's decades of research into the dynamics of abusive relationship…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/25 11:03 AM
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I suggest you find a therapist with experience in abusive relationships. You said: "they kept asking me why I was staying and I honestly didnt know" that's because they're shitty counselors who don't understand how these sorts of things play out. And it's awful for them to shame and blame you further for not leaving.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/25 06:36 PM
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I'm sorry you went through this. This is the nature of redpill content, it doesn't teach men to be "better with women" it teaches them to be abusers and to find people who will be more susceptible to all sorts of emotional manipulation and abuse.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/25 05:13 PM
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PUA doesn't work because it's emotional manipulation techniques that only seduce people who are susceptible to unhealthy relationship because of unprocessed issues in their psyche. Learning PUA tactics is actively sitting down and learning how to be an actual sex predator and abuser. If you find yourself doing that, stop and seek a qualified therapist instead.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/25 12:27 PM
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looksmaxxers BTFO: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9925008
/r/ExRedPill16/07/25 12:10 PM
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Dude hates patriarchy and government systems, yet has somehow been gaslit to thinking women are the problem
/r/ExRedPill15/07/25 10:18 AM
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People are drawn to jerks/abusers typically as echos of past neglect/abuse in childhood. We usually don't pursue the love we want, we pursue the love we know and it abusive neglect is what you know, then it becomes your operating understanding of what love is. So when a new person treats you kinda bad, part of your system is like "yes. this is good. this is what relationships are." EVEN if it's making you clearly and outwardly miserable.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/25 07:38 PM
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This is another point about redpill thinking. It's all based on this self fulfilling cycle. The make you think that using special techniques on women is a skill you develop that will lead you go the promised land. But the techniques are basically how to become an abusive sex predator, and the only skill you ACTUALLY build is how to better identify dysfunctional people that will lock you in what's known as the Karpman Drama Triangle.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/25 12:41 AM
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I see no evidence that I'm wrong. Then open your eyes lmao
/r/ExRedPill09/07/25 12:32 AM
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It's a factor for sure, but it's SIGNIFICANTLY less important than chronically online people would have you believe. Imo to the point of being basically negligible in it's impact on your life and sense of wellbeing and contentment. Additionally who cares about these "man on the street" format videos where all the girls (often times paid to be there and told what to say) act all turned on for the giga-chad or whatever. Are any of those women actually content with their lives? Do they feel genuine…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 11:29 PM
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This kind of advice, all of it, all of the "self improvement" genre is just how to try to obtain the shiniest shackles in the prison. Real advice points people away from living in a cage.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 02:03 PM
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"improving your looks, going to the gym, making money, improving your game" this is comical advice as well. It's surface level and doesn't tackle any real issues
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 10:54 AM
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I'd say look into therapy, and possibly start to work with a therapist to identify if you're what people might call "codependent". Then work on that if that's the case. I think a lot of the "Nice Guy" schtick is actually just codependency by another name. Pia Mellody is one author to look into.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/25 11:36 PM
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I think it's unprocessed anger at their primary maternal caregiver that's been misdirected to blanket statements about women thanks to outdated patriarchal frameworks of belief.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/25 07:47 PM
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I think he hates himself This tends to be true of redpillers.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/25 12:29 PM
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I don't mean to sound cynical towards people when I say this. But, generally speaking the average really just isn't that great. They've probably got a lot of untapped potential and goodness deep down, but at least as Americans I think there is a TON of unaddressed emotional baggage of some degree in basically all of us. That's why I think so much of the rage bait content sells, it hits such strong emotional triggers in people without making them actually confront their own personal issues or res…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/25 01:11 PM
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This just sounds like you're self-hating and crashing out. I don't really see any relevant or meaningful causal relation between testosterone and misogyny.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/25 11:44 PM
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Another thing is the hypocritical values. They want all women to be chaste and virginal, yet they also want men to go out and have harems and be promiscuous. That necessitates women also being promiscuous.
/r/ExRedPill10/06/25 11:52 AM
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The number of people who do NOT question ChatGPT or other GenAI's outputs is mind numbing. I mean like I'd guess 90% of users take whatever it says at face value
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 02:38 PM
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alpha males are supposed to be the most competent and successful men Literally only uneducated morons would even think of a sentence like this, let alone utter it aloud. Who tf says what an "alpha male" is? (hint: long debunked pseudo-science) Honestly this opening alone says so much. It reveals the same mental model that conspiracy theorists have, that everything has to happen as a result of some implicit or explicit control structure. These people literally think we live in a universe without …
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 04:30 PM
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redpill ideology relies on women not really being autonomous individual agents, rather they're viewed like a machine where you just input the right sequence and you'll get the same outcome regardless of anything that may have shaped that individuals decision making skills
/r/ExRedPill22/05/25 03:44 PM
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> So I have been hitting the gym trying to look good because I play saxophone with house music djs. Ok so the house music scene is really focused on looks but pays well. It's also pretty high paced and and I really need to be fit. So ok, I've done that as well. I get attention from women at these gigs which is good for business at it tends to be women hiring me and women who run the entertainment agencies I also play for and it's good if they can see women enthusiastically interacting with me wi…
/r/ExRedPill17/05/25 10:08 AM
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