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WatchOutItsAFeminist/r/askTRP15/11/16 11:35 PM
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Sure seems like you should try to become the kind of man women would be happy and excited to date. Good company, supportive, helpful, kind, self assured, and confident. Note that none of those are physical attributes or anything to do with your financial accomplishments. Your current attitude is extraordinarily unattractive.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/25 08:24 PM
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My friend from college put it really well- when she was in college her standards were lower because her life was really hard - working full time to pay for school and barely having time for anything. Just having someone to sleep next to was enough for her because it marginally improved her life. Now she's a successful lawyer and a total badass, and the caliber of person it takes to improve her life is higher. She has higher standards because she wants her relationship to make her life better, an…
/r/ExRedPill02/02/25 12:50 AM
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People of all identities can be absolute bastards. I think realizing that is probably a key part of your reprogramming: women can be trash or can be wonderful or be incredibly boring, just like men.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/24 02:02 PM
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Bro I'm 30 and I'm way happier than I was at 22. I don't worry about nearly as much stuff when it comes to societal standards and I just do what makes me happy!
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 03:39 AM
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The older I get the more I feel sure of myself and feel like I've hit my prime. The kind of men who use the term "wall" aren't worth having anyway.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 03:39 AM
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Did you choke her or something? Violate her consent? Hurt her? Disrespect her? What did you actually do??
/r/ExRedPill08/07/24 09:58 PM
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You should work on finding a way to enjoy your life without a partner. That'll actually make you a more attractive person, too.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/24 07:54 PM
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Now is the time to try and reach out in the community. Godspeed! I'm happy for you taking this first step!
/r/ExRedPill12/06/24 07:52 PM
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Yeah don't let the internet tell you how real life works. It's full of echo chambers
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 12:31 AM
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There are plenty of non-abusive men who end up with wonderful partners BECAUSE they're kind and wonderful people. I married my husband because of those traits and would never be with someone who hurts me. That's not what love is, and it poisons your own soul to view it that way.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/24 02:20 PM
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I think you should spend concerted effort actually looking at couples in public. Not just couples with women you're attracted to, but every couple walking down the street. You will see plenty of "normal guys" with "slightly above average" women. I think women look better in public a lot of the time because most of us put more effort into our appearance than the average man. But maybe if you pay attention to reality instead of online propaganda, you'll see that your assumptions aren't true. As fo…
/r/ExRedPill23/06/22 02:12 PM
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I'm being honest with this guy about how his attitude will impact his ability to form relationships with women, and using myself as an example. What's wrong with that?
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 07:31 PM
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Plus, not every woman is a 10/10 hottie. If you're not conventionally attractive, it can be very difficult to find a sexual partner as a woman. And even if you are attractive, it can be impossible to get the sexual partner you want if they're not into you- especially if you're an awkward person.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 01:37 AM
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If I enjoy sex, why should I avoid doing it because of your expectations, or because it's easy for me to get it? In college I once asked a guy who stayed late at a party if he wanted to have sex with me, and then we just did. Luckily, my friends weren't judgmental, and neither is my boyfriend of 6 years who met me after my ho faze. I've been with him loyally forever, and we plan to get married, but I have no regrets for seeing what else was out there beforehand. You can disrespect me for my "bod…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 01:33 AM
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You're completely right. They use warped psychology and abusive techniques to entrap women.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/21 06:44 AM
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Why would I be repulsed by having sex with someone I love and respect who loves and respects me?
/r/ExRedPill29/11/20 12:57 AM
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We started dating when I was twenty, and we've been together for five years. Not exactly a time in my life when I was trying to settle down, and I agonized over that sometimes. But I stuck it out because he's so worth it! He is 5'8" and a little on the chubby side, probably not a chad by your metrics. and I started dating him because he was smart and funny and we had similar interests and hobbies. I also love how much he cares about his friends, how he's a wonderful host and conversationalist, h…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/20 11:54 PM
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How do you explain all the 50 year marriages and people who stay together till they die, then? Why would human society have marriage if branch swinging was built in to us psychologically?
/r/ExRedPill28/11/20 10:22 PM
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If I'm after beta bucks then when am I supporting my boyfriend through college.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/20 10:05 PM
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They are successful. They wanted a girlfriend and they got one. You're the one with strange and dehumanizing expectations for human sexuality.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/20 10:04 PM
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You're assuming most men want to sleep with different women constantly after they're horny teenagers. I don't know that that assumption is correct. It's certainly not the case for most women, or for the men I've dated. But I guess people who respect each other find each other, and assholes who want to pump and dump can be sniffed out from miles away.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/20 10:02 PM
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That's hilarious. Y'all could also watch Contrapoints and Lindsay Ellis if you want to see more humorous videos that may help you de program. And for the latter, she does really great film analysis you light enjoy.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 05:09 PM
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Some think YouTube's algorithm pushes people to extremes, because people tend to view more and more content if it's more radical. https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/10/opinion/sunday/youtube-politics-radical.html
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 06:47 AM
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I'm so glad you got this wake-up call, and I hope you can cut that toxicity out of your future relationships. I hear it can be a hard habit to break, but maybe you can work through it, on your own or with therapy.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 02:53 AM
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Apologize, tell her in the apology that you want to give her space, but that you'd love to go back to your previous friendship someday. Then give her the space you promised and let her be the one to reach out first.
/r/ExRedPill20/11/20 06:47 PM
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Maybe sexually? But not as a lifestyle, unless they're extremely into that very rare kink. That's not the context of the conversation as written. BDSM stuff is pretty common, and the roles slightly skew towards traditional gender roles, but enough men are into submission and women into domination that it's hard to say it's a biotruf.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 01:28 AM
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Ok I read what you wrote. I will say you're sort of assuming all women are like the woman in that story, when they're not. Red pill dudes have this great ability to only notice women who fall into the patterns they say, and they somehow ignore or are rejected by women who don't fall into those patterns. There are plenty of women out there who would be delighted to get flowers after a date. Hell, my partner of 5 years handmade a bouquet of paper flowers for my birthday less than a month after we …
/r/ExRedPill12/11/20 07:20 AM
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I haven't read what you wrote yet, but I read what you linked and it totally seems fake to me. No woman would say "I want a man who would dominate me." That's not how women talk to men unless they're literally fucking. Those field reports are usually made up imo.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/20 07:17 AM
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I say "owed" because it's implied when you say "ripped off." You are ripped off when you don't receive something you are owed. I don't know why you're so worked up about other people's divorce proceedings, but you may want to consider how those determinations are made. Consider: a man marries a woman and asks her to be a stay at home mom while he works. She does so, giving up the career and training she would have pursued otherwise for 8 years. She later finds out he is cheating, and they get a …
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 05:02 PM
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I find it interesting that you can only speak in vague metaphors and insults without giving actual examples of your beliefs. What are the hoops you're talking about? And there's a difference between rights and a gift. Black people should have the same right to live unmolested by police, but they don't and they're over incarcerated and murdered as a result. The right of a free existence is so unlike a "shitty toy at Christmas" that it's truly laughable you couldn't think of a better metaphor.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 04:47 PM
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When you say "deal with this," what are you referring to, specifically? You say a lot about feeling ripped off. What exactly is ripping you off? What do you feel owed that you're not getting, and why do you feel entitled to it? Please think carefully about it and respond concisely.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 04:33 PM
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What's the problem with the current liberal narrative on women's rights, bud? Do we deserve less than you?
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 06:57 AM
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Using the term "feminized men" is another great example of TRP behavior- thanks for bringing that up!
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 06:54 AM
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That was a bot, dude.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 06:51 AM
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I've honestly lost the thread of your argument, but I'll just say I don't see anyone encourage cheating. That's really uncommon, at least in my part of the world. People who cheat are typically ostracized or seen to be scumbags, regardless of gender. If you've been cheated on, I'm very sorry that happened to you. I do think you're assuming it's more common than it actually is, though. https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-common-is-cheating-infidelity-really/
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 06:50 AM
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Cheating is bad, I agree. But I wasn't "being used" when I consensually slept with other single people and enjoyed it. I was enjoying my sexuality and my life. You've decided that all sex is exploitative or harmful unless it's in a committed relationship. I can tell you I've had exploitative sex in a committed relationship and I've had free and enjoyable sex while single. You seem to think I would fit a stereotype while sleeping around- that I would say "why can't I find a good guy?" But I actua…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 05:08 AM
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I don't really see why you went off on this tangent, but I do want to know- why do you feel hurt when women choose to sleep around? Why does it not hurt you similarly for men to sleep around? In what way does a woman sleeping around make her unpalatable as a future partner? Because there is no social or biological reason for that unless you see women's value as tied to their virginity, but not men's. I slept with a dozen people of different genders before settling down with my partner, and those…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 04:18 AM
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You call women plates and think our value is determined by how many people we've slept with. I don't think there's a form of feminism compatible with that kind of dehumanization, and it's a stench any feminist can sniff out very quickly.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 02:50 AM
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You only pay alimony if you marry a housewife. A lot of these sexist dudes insist their wife shouldn't work, but don't want to actually be responsible for her. It's disgusting.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 02:06 AM
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I agree about not expecting sex. Try to think of dating as a good time getting to know people, not a means to an end. If you're desperate to get your dick wet, that will come across and make the person you're on a date with feel used.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/20 06:00 PM
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Agreed with all of these, but for the ignoring your texts thing, give them a little more leeway than few hours, especially if they're at work. If it's days, that's a lot more questionable, but I think neediness in texting is a red flag in itself.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/20 05:58 PM
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If it didn't go over well with her, you can probably talk to her about it and salvage the friendship. It sounds like she's not that into you. The way you talk about this, though, makes me worry that you'd be okay with "forcing" other things on her as well. She might be thinking the same thing, depending on whether you cornered her or if you were pushy or she was drunk. She may trust you less if you crossed boundaries to fulfill your own desires despite what you knew were her own. Only you can re…
/r/ExRedPill09/09/20 06:53 AM
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What did you actually do? Your post is extremely vague.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/20 06:46 AM
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Both, I'd say. You should be honest with people you try to date/get close to. I don't mean that you should say it on the first date or even the fifth date. But if you start getting to the girlfriend/boyfriend stage and have been there for a few months, then you should be more honest about your past and who you are. If they can't handle that vulnerability, they're the wrong person for you to date anyway. I wanted to get that advice to you since you're inexperienced and because you're in this sub,…
/r/ExRedPill07/09/20 05:05 PM
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If you end up in a serious relationship you'll want to be honest eventually, though. It'll be suspicious to be hiding it if they ask.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/20 03:41 PM
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I'm so glad you stayed out of it! I hope things start looking up for you soon.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 07:32 AM
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Very true. I wasn't still in contact with my ex when he reached out, but it still meant a lot.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/20 07:16 AM
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That's true, but I also think it can be really beneficial to have a conversation with the people you hurt who you're still close to. Tell/show them you've grown by saying what you did was wrong and why you've changed your thinking, and apologize. I really think it can mean a lot for people to hear that, speaking as someone who had an ex apologize for shitty behavior years after the fact.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/20 06:11 AM
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There are at risk youth programs or mentorship. something like that might be good. You’ll have to do research in your region but it’ll feel like a fun hangout with friends, and he’ll eventually learn a bit about appropriate behavior.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 04:07 AM
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Can you get him into counseling? Even group therapy might help so he can find positive representations of masculinity.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/20 11:14 PM
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My friend, I think you need a professional counselor. Your perception of women has been warped by TRP, for sure, but this attitude about life goes deeper than that. I don't think any of us can cure you of your misogyny if you're wrapped up in a suffering attitude all the time. I really hope you can get the help you need. And I'm not some optimist who thinks people are fundamentally good or anything like that. I think people are fundamentally sociable, interested in helping their in-groups, stuff…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/20 03:24 AM
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That's cool as hell!
/r/ExRedPill11/06/20 03:21 AM
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This is great! I’m proud of you and happy you’re getting out of your depression. I know it can be easy to backslide, however, so it might be good for you to block websites or subreddits like theredpill to avoid temptation. You don’t want to get brainwashed by that propaganda again. I’m rooting for you!
/r/ExRedPill06/05/20 06:57 PM
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Exactly! I’m glad you’re starting to see that. And just like men, there are some women who abstain from sex, some that sleep around, some that cheat, some who are cheated on. Women are just like you. We’re all the same species with the same temptations, desire to be loved, and fear of rejection. Women become a lot less intimidating and a lot more comprehensible when you recognize that.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/20 06:54 PM
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I’m reading your post history and it seems like you have an unattainable ideal about women that was “shattered” when you found out that women behave like any other person. I think you need to question why you expect such different behavior from women compared to men. Why do you hate women for things you accept in men? You should stop expecting women to be Disney princesses and then you might not hate them for falling off this impossible pedestal.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/20 04:32 PM
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Did they stop hanging out with you? Was it around the time you developed these beliefs?
/r/ExRedPill06/05/20 04:12 PM
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Yeah, and there are women who were raised by abusers and think that’s what love looks like. I don’t see why it’s laughable.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/20 02:54 AM
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I’ve just seen a lot of cases where they explain their origin as incels or red pillers and it seems to come from their childhood in some way. They may exaggerate that though.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/20 12:15 AM
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Or maybe they were raised by them. That seems to be a theme in incel forums- their mothers might have been narcissists, and they extrapolate that behavior to all women.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 10:48 PM
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It's a YouTube channel. Here's the video. This might help you see what Incel perspectives look like from the outside, and how you might be able to overcome them. This video isn't an end-all for your views, but YouTube is nicely digestible and this is a good channel.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 05:16 PM
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You’re so right that the reason women don’t date him is because of these attitudes. It’s easy to sense disrespect and hatred in another person. Women probably meet him and think he’s dangerous.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 05:12 PM
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You should watch the Contrapoints video Incels. I also think you might develop more empathy for women if you read more stories from our perspectives. Start browsing r/relationships and reading what women say about their relationships, what they worry about and care about (and these aren’t performative, they’re seeking advice for problems!). You don’t believe that women are fully developed emotional humans the same way you are, and you’re incorrect about that. Maybe these kinds of readings can he…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 05:07 PM
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I've never met a feminazi. Have you?
/r/ExRedPill28/03/20 11:55 PM
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People identify as incels starting as young as 17, though. I don't blame virginity for it, I blame a toxic culture that tells men their value is based on what women they get and an online culture that takes their resentment and turns it into spite and self-hatred. Also- I don't think most feminazis are virgins. Can you elaborate on what you mean by that?
/r/ExRedPill28/03/20 11:39 PM
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I think this is an interesting point. Maybe instead of "amused mastery," you could develop "interested curiosity." When someone talks about something you don't understand, you express interest and curiosity and ask about it. That kind of interest in who you are and what you know makes someone feel connected with the person they're talking to.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 07:30 PM
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What are your specialized interests? Do you go to groups that are related to them? Have you tried talking to women there? It can help to bond over a common interest, so long as you allow room for the other person to talk about it too. ​ Also, please don't say "get your dick wet." It's gross and dehumanizing.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 02:52 AM
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I hope you're able to grow into a place someday where you look back on these comments and shake your head at your former self. I hope you can find happiness.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 04:26 AM
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He's a city bus driver, so not the richest! I wish his dick were smaller, swear to god. I've run experiments on Tinder where I get hundreds of swipes right, and it didn't fulfill me—I stuck with my guy. We're having our five year anniversary in May. I bet you're thinking I must be ugly, right? Couldn't possibly be that your worldview is the thing that's fucked up. Keep in mind all those dudes who swiped right on Tinder—so obviously it's not that. I love my partner because he's smart, funny, and …
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 04:19 AM
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I just want to say—I think you're experiencing confirmation bias when it comes to the kind of men you see as successful in the dating world. Try to pay more attention to all the couples you see out in the world, rather than just the ones that stand out to you because the guy is tall and muscular, or whatever. I, for one, am dating a guy who's only an inch taller than me (he's 5'7 or so), and he's got a bit of a belly. A male friend of mine who's 5'3 or so dated my 5'8 bombshell friend for a year…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/20 11:05 PM
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I'd try to have a really straightforward conversation about whether this is just for sex for her or if it's something else. That way you know what you're getting into. But if you actually want a serious relationship, you might be barking up the wrong tree. Alternately, people have spread vicious rumors about her that are hurting her dating prospects unfairly. I feel like honestly is the best policy here.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/20 01:43 AM
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Can you go to therapy? It might help you move on and form new relationships instead.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/20 05:07 AM
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jesus christ
/r/ExRedPill24/01/20 01:36 AM
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Thanks for sharing your advice. I'm in this forum despite never being red-pilled because I want to reach out and share what real relationships are like (I'm in my 20s and in a 5 year long relationship). You've put everything so well and succinctly, and your long and successful relationship is so admirable!
/r/ExRedPill24/01/20 01:33 AM
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If you want a relationship based on genuinely caring about each other and a deep emotional connection, I think it will be relatively easy to see the gold diggers for the shams they are. It sounds like you developed a lot more respect for women after you turned 20, but I can just say (as a woman recently in college) that you should take friendly invitations from women at face value. The girl who rejected you for a date and asked you to hang out later certainly wanted to be friends. I wish you all…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 05:45 AM
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Hm, what kind of girl do you think I am, that I cause men I don't know to be abusive? What behaviors do I exhibit that cause such problems? I'm very curious to know what you think I am like.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:59 PM
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Of course she should be good to him, but if he goes full redpill it isn't exactly her fault, is it? Telling her she can stop him from being redpilled by being "one of the good ones" implies that it would be her fault if he went redpill again. "Your behavior made me do this" is an abusive mindset.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:08 PM
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I think it's reasonable for you to be concerned, honestly, but I don't think you should break up with him for it or anything like that. Take it as a potential red flag to keep an eye out for, and know that it's a possibility later in the relationship. You don't want to get trapped in an abusive cycle. But if he never falls down the rabbit hole again, you're golden!
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 06:17 PM
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Why would you make it her problem to make sure he isn't an asshole? That's a shitty and abusive mindset.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 06:16 PM
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Ah, so you CAN put all humans in two boxes... if you decide the humans who don't fit in them are "abnormal" or have birth defects.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 05:21 AM
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I'm glad you got out!
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 05:11 AM
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That's not even true according to scientists, let alone feminists or sjws or whatever. Ever heard of intersex people?
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 05:09 AM
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Yes, I think it's fucking stupid. It doesn't even actually work for normal wolves in wolf packs. Why would that nonsense apply to humans? There are no studies proving it, no real evidence. Humans can never be put into 2 simple boxes.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/20 06:40 PM
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Unplug from the redpill communities you're reading- they're a toxic addiction once you start going to them. I think u/huyumseemmoja has a great point about living a purposeful life, but I might also suggest trying to meet people though your hobbies and become friends with them. Meet women who share interests with you, and spend time with them as friends, without the ulterior motive of sleeping with them. You should try to develop a sense of what women are like as people, rather than just as pote…
/r/ExRedPill02/01/20 01:09 AM
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You sound like a terribly toxic person who's unwilling to work on himself. Is it really surprising that people don't want to spend time with you? That sounds harsh, but it's fixable. Work on your goddamn attitude.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 06:10 AM
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Look man, being an asshole makes people think you're an asshole. That's why you're not getting laid- not because of sjws.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/19 06:07 AM
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No. But do you talk about other men like that? You need to examine your prejudices and probably get counseling.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/19 07:07 PM
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The way you talk about them is terrible, my dude. You should work on your attitude towards women- I can guarantee your lack of success at least partially comes from the reek of distain women get from you.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/19 05:28 PM
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If you don't want to have a relationship and don't think you'd get much out of one, then don't get into a relationship. Society tries to convince us to follow specific expectations and social paradigms, but that's not always a formula for happiness for every kind of person. If you'd rather be alone and bike up mountains, do it! Follow your bliss. ​ But I also think it's possible for you to find a person who has similar desires out of a relationship as you- companionship in small doses. If that's…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/19 08:25 PM
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Well, I guess that's a good point. I meant more for how she'd view his "weakness" on the shitty day described in the OP.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/19 12:57 AM
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Well there's no evidence she has, you know? You're reading into stuff based on self doubt even though she has told you different. You should believe her instead of doubting her.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/19 12:23 AM
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She's probably more comfortable being herself now that you've been dating a while. And what she likes in bed isn't the same as what she likes in general... there are polite housewife type women who dom in bed too. I mean, do you like having to be dominant all the time, even when you're having a rough day? Like the day you describe in this post- If I was your girlfriend, I would be totally understanding about weather and a car accident fucking up a date. I would probably have a lot of sympathy fo…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 06:56 PM
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If both of you want to be in charge you just might not be compatible. Obviously she doesn't have a problem with you being passive if she has a personality that's more domineering, so I wouldn't be so self conscious about it. But if you're unhappy in that role, you should probably either stop thinking about it in those black and white terms or leave because you'll inevitably feel unhappy.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 06:48 PM
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I mean, I'm a girl and I'm a dominant personality, so I don't mind when my partner is passive. It's silly to generalize about what women want in such broad strokes. But is your girlfriend someone who wants to be led? It sounds like she just wants to be comfortable together.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 06:22 PM
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Are you in the right subreddit?
/r/ExRedPill16/09/19 05:04 PM
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I feel like you're arguing with a comment I didn't make, bud.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/19 05:03 PM
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Yeah, definitely.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/19 05:02 PM
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I get that. There's more negative messaging than positive when it comes to masculinity. But women had to make our own messages and work to define ourselves in a new way. You can be part of that change too- redefine masculinity in a way you see fit. And honestly, when you're leading by example and changing the world for the better, you're going to be more successful in every aspect of your life- including romantically. Most people would rather be with someone genuine than a faker, and you've made…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/19 04:10 AM
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You've decided I'm an exception to the rule somehow, even though I'm another comment you said you've had women respond positively to similar attributes in yourself. What would it take to convince you that not all women are exactly the same? It seems like you experiencing it and having it told to you by women doesn't quite work. Even seeing similar men succeed in relationships doesn't work to convince you. Maybe you should spend time reflecting on what you'd need to know for your perspective to b…
/r/ExRedPill10/09/19 10:21 PM
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You've pre-empted the possibility that some women like people like you by saying that women who are with people like you are "settling." You've essentially put yourself in a corner where no evidence contrary to your assumptions can qualify as true. ​ I'll say for my own part that I chose partners based on having similar interests. The guy I've been dating for almost five years is a soft nerd-boy who works out for fun (but doesn't look like an adonis, he has a belly) and DMs for me in our campaig…
/r/ExRedPill10/09/19 08:16 PM
16

You should focus more on your personality than your looks, especially at this age. Is your trouble with girls really your looks, or is it that you have trouble talking to them and getting to know them? Most 16-year-old boys I knew in high school didn't know how to engage with girls, and that was the biggest issue. If you can't be friends with girls, you'll have a lot of trouble finding one who will date you without even knowing you first.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/19 08:10 PM
5

That's fair. I think a lot of people are interested in BDSM but never join the community because it can be toxic and/or challenging to get into. I've never done and community BDSM stuff but most of my relationships have involved some elements of it in the bedroom. I'm curious what a broader survey would say with those percentages of it included those outside the community. Are you mainly bothered by the gendered element of bdsm because of TRP? You may be able to explain it differently to yoursel…
/r/ExRedPill17/08/19 02:50 PM
10

Some women like to be dominated, some like to dominate. I like a bit of both. I even bought a collar and leash for one of my male exes for his birthday because he liked me to take charge in the bedroom so much. A lot of feminists theorize that the basis of those role playing kinks comes from patriarchy, meaning their origins are problematic. It's often a stereotype that a person dominate in their daily life likes to submit in bed or vice versa. To be honest, it's not worth reading a lot into. If…
/r/ExRedPill17/08/19 02:26 PM
2

You should talk to your therapist about this.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 08:19 PM
9

If you can tell that a subreddit is toxic, you should chose to spend your time elsewhere. Even though you're clear-headed about it, you're risking your own mental health spending time in a community that degrades you and degrades all of humanity. It sounds like you're struggling a lot socially. Did you say you get more attention than previously AT the gym or because of the gym? Because if you're meeting people at the gym it might be because you're getting out more than you used to. I'm sure your…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 06:29 PM
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TRP advocates for emotionally abusive relationships in marriage. A lot of women stay in bad relationships because they're made to feel like they don't deserve better. Being in a shitty marriage shouldn't be the definition of success, and you know it's a shorty marriage because of how they talk about their wives. When a wife is upset in TRP, the husband ignores her and tries to make her feel more insecure. Does that sound enjoyable for either person? I for one would be miserable.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/19 06:28 AM
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Why would lesbians have sex if women can't enjoy it? A lot of women fake enjoyment because they're sleeping with men who fail to satisfy them, not because they're incapable of being satisfied. Edit: I'm also a woman and I also generally enjoy sex, but not if it's unpleasant for me. My current boyfriend doesn't often do enough foreplay for me to be ready for PIV, so it's painful to me and I don't look forward to it anymore. But earlier in our relationship I was enthusiastic, and with less well-en…
/r/ExRedPill03/07/19 12:14 AM
2

I think you can let her make her own choices. She knows exactly how fragile she is and what she can handle. She probably told you as a warning so you would be prepared in case she gets triggered while you’re getting down and dirty. You’ll be fine!
/r/ExRedPill25/04/19 08:18 PM
3

I think rape victims don't want to be treated differently from other people: respect their boundaries, and act as you would in any respectful sexual relationship. As far as relationships go, she's not inherently more likely to fall for you or anything. If you would normally go for a FWB situation, you can talk to her about it.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/19 03:11 AM
2

I don’t think you should be focused on “being ready to be in a relationship,” because you’re clearly going through a lot right now. Relationships really complicate things and they’re poor goals to set for yourself because you can’t control something perfectly if it involves two or more people. It sounds like, whenever you’re ready, you won’t have any trouble finding a relationship. So instead of worrying about it, I would just focus on improving your own mental health. I’m honestly more concerne…
/r/ExRedPill18/03/19 01:33 PM
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Don't look at that sub. TRP women and TRP men can date each other in hellish, abusive relationships full of cheating while the rest of us can live civilized lives with actually meaningful relationships. I mean, if TRP were true, every relationship between a man and a woman would end in divorce at age 32 because the woman is now "post-wall." But women have value other than their bodies, and a lot of men are capable of seeing that.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/18 11:33 PM
3

What does that have to do with Eve? I know tons of abusive but hot women who get to bang hot dudes. Life is stupid and not all people are good people.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 03:14 AM
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I'm not sure how to help you, but I can tell you we're the same species. Women aren't a different race than men, and those bible stories aren't an accurate reflection of the entire half of the human population you're referring to. You seem to be really hurting, and I thought maybe this post in this sub could provide some useful context for your experiences. https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/6mxzaz/what_redpill_needs_to_learn_most/
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 06:27 AM
3

I had a really warped idea of what love is when I was younger. I went through a few bad relationships, one abusive. But true love? it's real, genuine, and worth searching for. I found it, and it was worth it.
/r/ExRedPill02/12/16 07:34 AM
2

If alpha and beta women are so rare, what category do the rest of women fall under?
/r/askTRP16/11/16 04:23 PM
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Reading Red Pill can certainly lower your opinion of yourself as a woman- even though I only read their shit through the /r/thebluepill filter, I still get this sense of visceral horror and disgust and it can really make you cringe to see men thinking this way (and in such horrifyingly large numbers.) To detox when I've gone in too deep, I think about my career and all that I've contributed to the world that those shallow ass-hats can't comprehend or respect because of my vagina. Thinking about …
/r/ExRedPill14/09/16 12:02 AM
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