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What if I think both are toxic as fuck and want them to just destroy each other like matter and antimatter?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:25 PM
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"Let's encourage men to grow the fuck up and stop being dependent leeches."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:42 PM
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400thousand https://www.fool.com/the-ascent/research/average-house-price-state/#:~:text=The%20median%20U.S.%20existing%20house,increased%20to%20%24295%2C300%20in%20June. Bullshit. And that's $20 an hour for one person. If your SO is pulling half that, you can easily afford that. Stop whining, grow a pair, and go get a fucking job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 08:27 PM
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Because those debts are things like car payments and student loan payments. They have structured payments that are easily manageable. Normal people have those kinds of debts and are still financially stable, because their long term income is higher than their expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:45 PM
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Maybe, but it's difficult to distinguish from the "I'm just doing enough to not get arrested for indecent exposure" types.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:32 PM
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You've got a warped world view if you think the majority of people are "low paid hourly wage slaves." The median household income in the US is around $60k per year, which is enough to afford a fairly comfortable suburban lifestyle. If you can't keep a stable job, don't know where your next meal is coming from, and are living in fear of being evicted, you're not in a condition to be in a meaningful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:21 PM
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Debt can be manageable. I have roughly $25k in debts and only about $16k in my combined bank accounts and investment accounts (and that's not including my mortgage.) But I'm very financially stable, because after all my bills are paid I've still got about $1k left over at the end of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:14 PM
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Now you just have me wondering if you can count. The last two are "Have a life" and "Have conversation skills." Neither of which mentioned style.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:55 PM
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Did you stop reading at before the last two?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:39 PM
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You are one special cookie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:28 PM
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Seriously, she rises above sexual attraction and goes to art status. I don't feel arousal when I see her, I feel like I'm looking at high art.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:48 AM
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Catherine Zeta Jones. Denise Richards. Anya Taylor-Joy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 08:34 PM
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but your average woman is not going to demand these things That's the point. As I said elsewhere in the thread, it isn't normal for women to expect over the top extravagance beyond their means. Just the same way that it isn't normal for men to expect porn star standards. This isn't an AWALT or AMALT argument, it's an argument on what excessive stimulation does to expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:59 PM
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You're arguing semantics. The example I gave is just that, an example. /u/zeedoctorzee put it into more generic terms, which is the expectation of glitz and glamor beyond what you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:43 PM
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I really shouldn't say "women", as that implies broad application to all women. It's really just social media addicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:52 PM
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normal, sane adult woman That's my point. Porn standards for men are not normal for men, and social media standards are not normal for women. But they're out there, and in large enough numbers to warrant discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:43 PM
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Fair point, though I think that's mitigated by it being scripted fiction. Seeing a never ending highlight reel of people's "real" lives gives the illusion that this is normal for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:17 PM
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You're inserting an assertion of AWALT to my OP. I'm not making that claim. I'm saying that social media has a similar effect on women that porn does on men. Addicts of both have warped perceptions of what is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:14 PM
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That's an example of a woman who has well grounded expectations of life though. She's not the social media addict who sees this idyllic life and thinks there's something wrong if that's not happening to her. It's the same as a man who isn't a porn addict and isn't rejecting women because her ass isn't two volleyballs in a pair of yoga pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:12 PM
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One of the biggest driving forces for women's attraction to men is what the man could add to her life. They want excitement, they want nice things, they want safety and security, so men who demonstrate they can provide these are more attractive than men who sit on the couch and watch TV when they're not at their shitty job. Seeing "real" people living extravagant lifestyles tells women that this is how it should be. You should be spending a month touring Europe and eating at 5 star restaurants. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:54 PM
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Because women make dating choices based on their perceptions of what value a man brings to her life. If she is expecting life to be 6 weeks of tropical vacations per year and all the rest of what they're bombarded with, anyone who isn't living life on that level is falling short.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:34 PM
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Yeah, the influencers here are analogous to porn stars. They're the impossible ideal that are hyperstimulating people's brains to the point where they don't recognize reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:28 PM
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I think there's more overlap here than you let on. A "good man" is going to develop a lot of the attractive qualities you listed from the woman's perspective as a result of practicing the traits that are viewed as good from the man's perspective. A man who is lazy and does not want to work on his career will not be financially stable. A man that doesn't care about his health and fitness will be physically unattractive. A man who is disrespectful and impolite will not put the effort in to establi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:57 PM
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Now that I think about it, I think chads are mostly a coping mechanism that men use to shift blame from themselves to that of a woman. Yes and no. I agree that from the perspective of a man on the outside looking in, Chad's are a comforting lie they tell themselves to shift blame away from themselves. But from the perspective of a man in a relationship/married whose gf/wife then cheats on him, that's when the Chad myths start making sense. The woman in question started off with a strong passiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 05:08 PM
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This statement needs the qualifier "over time." I may be able to take some contextual clues about a woman's personality, but attraction starts off 99.9% physical, and then gives way to a more even split over time as you learn more about her. Ben Shapiro makes a similar point on occasion. He talks about two different types of love in a relationship: passionate love and companionate love. The former is driven by lust and looks, but our brains aren't wired to maintain that for long. As passionate l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:52 PM
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It helps when it's a moment that you should cry for, like the loss of a family member or close friend. Those are humanizing moments that women are socialized to accept that everyone cries for, and doing so is showing you're human. Tears of joy are also acceptable, though that's not really the same. It hurts in just about every other situation though. If you're busy crying, you're not busy doing something useful like fixing the damn problem and getting over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:38 PM
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Not from my perspective. It's a matter of judging character and motive for me. Dating a single mother adds extra questions I need to ask about her that I wouldn't otherwise need to consider. Questions like "Does she have poor judgment and impulse control?" "Is she interested in a relationship or someone to bail her out?" "Does she have a type she's sexually attracted to that wasn't fit for a relationship?" And that's all on top of the restrictions a single mother places on dating. Most of the ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 03:42 PM
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There's a difference as far as the man is concerned though. There are a few women who are actually physically attracted to a successful man intrinsically, IE she doesn't need expensive gifts or vacations out of the deal, she's turned on by the man himself by virtue of his success. But that's a difficult thing to prove, and I would argue pretty rare. For a successful man who isn't physically attractive, he knows that a woman's desire for physical attraction doesn't just disappear. He would need s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 04:34 PM
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I think there needs to be an understanding of levels of violence. Yes, full blown fist fights or straight up beatings are unacceptable. But a physical response to unacceptable behavior was the norm for almost the entirety of human history. I'm not a clinical psychologist or anything like that, but I find it difficult to believe that we can eliminate a slap or similar physical response to unacceptable behavior and not expect repercussions in terms of personal growth. Nothing drives home the point…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:08 PM
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Those were only examples to illustrate the broader point. The question was would you prefer A or B, to which someone replied that they're both bad options and that she should expect more. If that's always the default option, be prepared for life to disappoint you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 11:16 PM
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As I understand it, it's also known as "All men/women are like that." Which is to say, all stereotypes are 100% true for all cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 08:45 PM
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There are definitely exceptions, but the vast majority of us are still humans with flaws and limitations. We all have 24 hours in a day, we all need to sleep from time to time, so it's not reasonable to expect that every man is going to have the time, aptitude, or interest in being a perfectly rounded student of all disciplines. Maybe this life of the party guy is smart too and does well in school. Does he work out too? How handy is he? Is he well traveled? Does he speak another language? Or pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:56 PM
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Because we're all flawed. We're creatures of habit, and personality traits that create some good habits are bound to have some bad habits as well. Is he the life of the party? Probably spends a good amount of time partying, and his grades (and possibly his fidelity in a relationship) are questionable. Bookworm? Just the opposite. And so on. I see a lot of women who complain about men changing not too long into a relationship, and what that tells me is that the guy was faking a different personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:31 AM
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There's no one cause for it. Higher labor force participation from women, birth control, urbanization (much harder to raise kids in an apartment than in a suburb or on a farm), cultural influence (lots of people think it's immoral to have kids because they believe the world is overpopulated), declining religious beliefs, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:14 AM
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Because it's already spread a long way, and it's having disastrous consequences. Single motherhood rates are rising at an alarming rate, which on top of causing poverty and crime (boys raised in single mother households account for some 75ish percent of violent crime) also limits dating options for relationship oriented men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:52 PM
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They're not obliged to. I'm not threatening any kind of political action or anything to force them to change. I'm laying out my case for why they should. I'm obviously not convincing you based on your life goals, but others whose life goals aren't set in stone might be persuaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:46 PM
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If their end goal is just to have sex and never commit to anyone, then yes, red pill is effective towards those ends. And if that's the case, he's either lying to himself or an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:30 PM
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MGTOW is pretty different from red pill. There's some overlap, but mostly MGTOW are jaded men, whereas red pill are cynics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:16 PM
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https://gfycat.com/wellgroomeddapperhoneyeater
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:12 PM
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You're not getting the same results though. Sex with a fling is very different from sex with someone you love and are in a relationship with. It's completely disposable, it offers nothing except a momentary release. To use your engineering example, if it works, but it keeps breaking and requiring repairs, it's a shitty solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:08 PM
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Absolutely. Some people made some observations about modern dating culture and the disconnect between male and female dating psychology. There were a few different strategies that came from those observations, and the hateful toxic assholes glommed on to the shallow approach because it gave quick results. Then those hateful toxic assholes started making a philosophy around their limited experience, and that became known as red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:14 PM
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It's simple, but it's not easy. Commit to a certain period of time and a certain level of commitment before having sex, and make it known that you won't have sex without that level of commitment. The men you're not interested in won't stick around that long. Of course, your odds would be better and you'd have an easier time of it if there weren't a large percentage of women who are giving away sex easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:57 PM
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As I mentioned elsewhere, this isn't about any one individual. It's about dating culture. I don't care what you specifically do. I care what a statistically significant portion of the population does.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:37 PM
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and yet women have been complaining that it’s difficult to find a good man who is willing to commit and invest in them. This is arguably due to the casual sex culture of today. When sex comes with the requirement of commitment on a societal level, then men's mentality changes accordingly. It also helps sort out the dating market such that people in a relationship aren't competing with people who are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:10 PM
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Then you value sex more than I do, which means we're incompatible as a couple. Since I don't want kids, sex is just for orgasms. I can give those to myself just fine, so a man's ability to give me one is meaningless. You're the exception, not the rule. For most of the rest of us, sex is the deepest form of intimacy. This is why infidelity is so hurtful to the person being cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:51 PM
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I care because if the philosophy of dual mating strategy spreads, it reduces my dating prospects. It's a matter of influencing culture to discourage undesirable behavior that produces negative results.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:20 PM
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For the gender that invented the "pump and dump" you guys very quickly romanticize the fuck out of...well, fucking. It's almost like there's different types of personalities. We should categorize them scientifically with the Greek alphabet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:44 PM
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It's almost like there's different types of personalities. We should categorize them scientifically with the Greek alphabet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:36 PM
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If you're willing to have sex with a man that you would describe as a walking vibrator, then your affection loses all meaning in a relationship. If you will give up the most intimate act you can share with someone to a man that has no value to you beyond looks, then it means nothing for you to then go and offer it to me. The fact that you condition that worthless intimacy upon a committed relationship that I have to work for just adds insult to injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:34 PM
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There's guys they'd only fuck because their personality is shit. Then there's guys they'd commit to and then fuck. You have that right, and I have the right to say that mentality is disgusting and disqualifying of a relationship. If you treat sex so casually that you would give it to someone by your own admission is a terrible person, then you've proven your affection is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:22 PM
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It's not about your N count. It's about your approach toward relationships in general. If two women have each had sex with 10 men, but one of them did so in successive relationships that fell apart, that's very different than the woman who has had sex with 10 guys she met at a bar and went home with that night. The former has a track record of being interested in a worthwhile relationship. I would date her with the intent of forming a relationship, and when we have sex is unimportant. The latter…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:11 PM
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That's not the conclusion. You're claiming the line of thinking is "They got easy sex, so I should too." What I'm saying is "They got easy sex, but not me. That's a red flag, I want nothing to do with her."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:40 PM
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If you apply that consistently, great. Women giving men fast and easy sex has been very damaging to society. If you give one man fast and easy sex, and then make another man wait, you're playing games with the man you supposedly like. No one has the time or stomach for that bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:25 PM
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That makes sense from the perspective of someone to whom sex comes easily. If this hypothetical woman were to try that approach on a man who has lots of easy hookups, there's no issue here. Both of them are playing fast and loose with their sex life, but maybe with each other they can build something more meaningful. If you're talking about this hypothetical woman trying the same thing on a guy who is more relationship oriented and has few sex partners, that's a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:16 PM
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Not necessarily the most sexually attractive man. If you're looking for a woman who thinks you're hotter than Jason Momoa, you're going to be looking for a long time. It's the total attraction package that you should be at the top of, so that you know even though there are objectively better looking men out there, she values everything about you more than his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:00 PM
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This is the answer. If a woman has sex with someone as a fling, that establishes she has a type she doesn't have to wait for. If she then goes on to another man and says she wants a relationship with him, but wants to wait on having sex, that man is clearly not the type that turns her on the same way her fling did. It takes seriously low self esteem to take a look at that scenario and be ok with your significant other being attracted to other men more than you. A key distinction here though: act…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 06:55 PM
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I had to remind myself I wasn't on PCM and refrain from just replying "Based."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 03:14 AM
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"Nation-wide murder rate spikes 30,000% overnight, more at 11."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 03:10 AM
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Probably. I do like living here, just bought a nice house. I just wish online dating and long distance relationships didn't suck so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:02 PM
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Let's see how I stack up: Body type. Currently working on it now that gyms are accessible again. Fuck you Covid. Phenotype. Went bald by 20, just decided to shave it instead. Not the worst thing to have to deal with, but given the option, having thick luscious locks never hurt anyone. Culture that doesn't align with my desires. I'm a 32 year old metal/classic rock fan living and working in a college town that is very country an hour and a half from the nearest major city. Sociability. I used to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:59 PM
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Stigma probably isn't the answer, but the point remains that recklessness in relationships should be discouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:19 PM
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While I condemn those things and advocate getting out of such a relationship, the lack of a stigma attached with divorce greatly reduces the incentive to screen out people with warning signs of those tendencies. I have pretty much the same response to women who marry (or shack up with, as the case may be) gang bangers as I do with men who marry gold diggers and eventually end up divorcing: What did you expect was going to happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:49 PM
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I feel that women need to learn a lesson about identifying fools gold. Now, relationship norms of decades past where virginity until marriage was the norm is definitely not coming back. That said, there are a lot of positive lessons to learn about more stringent selectivity. Particularly, the ability to blunt the worst of mens tendencies in the modern dating world. A dating culture in which women are more selective rather than willing to throw themselves at what they perceive as a high value man…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:36 PM
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Enough for it to matter quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 07:43 PM
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It's a lazy version of very solid advice. Trying to be someone you're not never works, and it often backfires because it comes off as inauthentic. What would be much more helpful is to say "Be the best version of yourself." Go out and excel at something that appeals to you. Doesn't matter what it is (as long as it's not seriously creepy), just be good at it. If you like music, pick up an instrument and practice. If you like cars, build a hot rod. If you like anime, put together a really good cos…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 06:44 PM
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except the kid That's the kicker, you just excluded the biggest life-changing event anyone will ever experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 05:34 PM
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She absolutely fucking owes him. This "she doesn't owe him anything!" bullshit is the clearest sign of a generation of perpetual children. This hypothetical man had the chance to live on his own, keep his money, commit to no one, and continue being himself in comfort and relative ease. But instead he chose to commit to a relationship with someone he loves, have children, and devote no small part of his life to ensuring their wellbeing. The sheer ingratitude and immaturity of thinking that a woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:55 PM
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What precipitated those changes though? If it's in response to having the additional responsibility of having children and taking a promotion at work, he hasn't changed. You're just seeing how he handles higher stress and less free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:53 PM
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Work, kids, bills to pay, appointments to meet, increased need to take care of your body, etc. Being a grown ass man isn't always fun, but most of the time it's necessary. Your parents are done raising you and any siblings you have, they're retirement age, and now they have all the time and money they need to enjoy whatever they like. But when I'm 35, have 2 kids, a mortgage, 2 car payments, utilities, food, clothes, home repairs, a big project at work, and my pregnant wife with random food crav…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:47 PM
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The only men who prefer porn over sex are the addicts who have been at it long enough to develop preferences that no woman can fulfill.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:27 PM
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Most of the time, impossible unless you have a fortune in specialized tools and a full repair manual for the specific car.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:23 PM
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That's probably the biggest irony of this thread. Women want men to change in certain ways, but if the impetus for that change comes from the woman telling the man, there's no way of knowing if he's faking it or sincere. Some things might be easy enough to accept, like a clothing style upgrade or taking up a hobby. But personality changes are rare indeed. Faking a change of personality, even if you really want to, is exhausting and almost never lasts. By that same token though, it's very difficu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:38 AM
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I don't want to live in a world where that affront to style and class is considered attractive to women. If that's what gets women, I don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:20 AM
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The bolder part is incorrect. There have been studies showing that men rate women's attractiveness on a typical bell curve. 50% under average, 50% above average. I'm not talking about physical attractiveness, I'm talking about the whole package. The flip side of men being able to use other things to be more attractive, IE money or social skills, is that women generally don't get much mileage out of those same things. How many guys would be seriously interested in dating a woman who isn't particu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:16 AM
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Men have advantages in terms of time and flexibility. Dating apps are a terrible measure. Generally, men have a lot more time to find a good fit, and are considered attractive for a good deal longer than women. We also have more options on how to be attractive other than physically. Granted, being physically attractive is important, but you can still get to HWP and compete with social skills, money, intelligence, etc. On the women's side of things, they have a shorter window of opportunity, fewe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 08:27 PM
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A steady population will do fine. The US is fairly close to a steady population, though there's going to be an adjustment when the boomers retire and Gen X is on top. It's when there's a sudden drop off in the labor force (and tax base) like what Germany is facing that you have real problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 05:52 AM
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Bad news for economies though. Which is bad news for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 11:33 PM
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It's not so much a matter of maintaining the current population as it is making sure we don't end up going broke funding social security and smothering old people as soon as their savings run out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 11:32 PM
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2.1 children per couple is replacement level. So if 9 out of 10 couples stop at 2 and the 10th has 3, we'll statistically hold steady over time with some margin for error due to premature death. It's also not just Europe and Canada. Throw in Russia, China, Korea, Japan, Brazil, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:55 PM
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The planet is full enough. Look at the demographic collapse that Europe and Canada are facing and tell me that again in a decade when all their current 55 year olds start to retire. If you think we're overcrowded as is, dropping to 1 kid is enough. But if everyone buys in to the idea that the world is overpopulated and has no children at all, we're all going to end up broke and lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:02 PM
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I'm not saying that women deserve to get cheated on, it's always heartbreaking to hear how someone was betrayed. But if you're cheated on while doing all the right things, you picked a guy only interested in you for looks and now he's gotten his fill. Women in general would be much better off in this regard by holding out and gauging motive before having sex. If he's genuinely interested in you, he will gladly wait and will be satisfied with hugging and a kiss here and there. If he's just out fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 07:54 PM
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It's a very common cause of insecurity in men, especially ones who have been cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:11 PM
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If it does, that's a dead give-away that she's in this relationship for the money and not out of attraction. Barring medical issues, a woman with a healthy sex drive and the knowledge of how to have good sex isn't going to suddenly lose that. It would happen gradually, with barely any loss in her 30s, a bit more noticeable in her 40s, and then start to drop off in her 50s. If you know that the woman you're with was a party girl and is giving you low effort sex in her early 30s, she's in it for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:04 PM
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Appearances are always subjective. One man's 5 is a 7 to another, and some "10s" are so plasticky as to fall into the uncanny valley. In general, I'm a sucker for cute heart shaped faces and a feminine figure. Too skinny can be just as unattractive as too fat as well. I'd say for a woman who's 5'6", there's a good 40 pound range in which you can still be really sexy. And just as a personal preference, long wavy hair is always a plus. But those are general guidelines. Physical attraction is a mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 04:51 PM
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If you don't want a woman old enough to have sense That's the crux of a lot of issues though. Yes, sense or wisdom come from experience and age. But if that wisdom comes with a track record that makes me question whether your interest is from a change in your taste in men or out of desperation for stability, I can't trust you in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 04:28 PM
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Depends on what we're calling a red flag these days. Obviously, things like abusive, violent, disgusting, or criminal behavior or being unfaithful are good reasons for immediately ending it and calling the police if appropriate. But what if it's something as harmless as liking video games or forgetting to wash the dishes? I wish those were ridiculous examples, but I'll be damned if I haven't seen wall of text after wall of text on Reddit and elsewhere railing against other women's boyfriends whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 02:58 AM
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No, I was referring to some kind of responsibility. If we're both single, no kids, both financially independent (or in college), then I know the sex is because you want it. If there's factors that suggest you're doing this to secure a better life, like being unemployed or a single mother, I now question your romantic interest, and no relationship can be built on that kind of mistrust.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:50 PM
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I'd say so. At the very least, I'd know she found me attractive enough to have sex with me when nothing was attached to it. Though if that list drags on too long and there's some really questionable choices in there, then it starts looking more like she just doesn't give a shit one way or another. And if that's the case, convincing me that you love anyone is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:25 PM
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Not the person you're replying to, but I'll take a crack at it. A few flings is understandable. We're all human, so if you're single and the stars align, I won't think anything of a handful of casual encounters. Where it gets worrisome is when it's often enough, or with severe enough consequences (IE kids from more than one father) that your taste in men and sense of judgment are suspect. It's going to take a lot to convince me that you've suddenly stopped finding bad boys attractive and want no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:06 PM
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