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Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 12:39 AM
4

Don't let take your children out of the country. I'm sure there are options when it comes to getting children passports in the US. Make sure she can't get passports for your sons without your consent. Also make sure that you get full custody of the kids. There is nothing wrong with getting a smaller home for you and your sons. Also,contact a lawyer asap. Keep us updated.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 12:38 AM
7

Don't contat the betrayed spouse until the divorce is done. When it's done,then he can go scorched earth. He doesn't want her to lose the job,then have to pay her alimony because she's unemployed. Also she may be in a hurry to get out and as long as it's going in his favour,why rock the boat. After he's done get off that damn boat,he can sink the damn thing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:25 PM
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This op,this!
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 12:38 AM
8

Bruh,not everyone wants to live in the US. Ironically alot of women own their own homes and have their lives together in these countries. Depending on the country they're in,life is also better. It amazes me that Americans still think that everyone wants to live in the US.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 03:04 AM
2

I was thinking the same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 12:04 AM
1

Good for you. You have the better woman. Did your ex ever try to reconcile or even apologise to you?
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 05:23 PM
2

Take you time,heal first. Then everything else will fall in to place. As for the trust issues,when you heal this will get better. BUT you'll notice the red flags quicker next time around. And the older we get the less shit we stand for.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 03:50 PM
2

I don't understand letting yourself be completely destroyed by someone leaving. Considering that they're out there lving their best life and you're wallowing in self-pity. Shite OP needs to pick his butt off the ground and realise that no matter what happens the sun comes up everyday,and that life goes on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 03:42 AM
5

I definitely agree with this. I notice that a lot of men on here go back to dating very quickly. I think everyone needs to take time to truly heal before stepping back in to the dating pool.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 03:31 AM
1

It's 3 years,he may not have access to his kids until they become adults,but ,aybe he doesn't feel too bad as it's only 3 years and could have been alot worse. His wife,mother and brother are the worst kind of humans. I hope he left scars on all 3 of them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 02:59 AM
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Go to the divorce sub,not this divorce men sub. You're looking for a man's point of view I get it, but most guys on here will bitch about a woman posting on here. It is for men.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:19 AM
4

THIS!
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 11:19 AM
5

Be honest with everyone who ask. AWhen she ask why you were honest,ask her why she lied to them?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 11:19 AM
3

RUN!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 01:12 PM
10

This is exctly what I'm thinking,unless she's seening someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:29 AM
1

She'll cheat on him the same way. You'll hear about it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 11:26 PM
10

You should block and delete her. You don't need to see or know anything that's going on in her life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 10:07 PM
3

I'm happy thay you're in amuch better place emotionally . She can only be herself and will most probably cheat on him but they deserve each other,as as usual,how you get 'em is how you lose 'em. One of these days hopeefully she'll apologise to you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 01:46 PM
3

I hope you're dong much bettee now. Is your ex still with the AP?
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 01:11 PM
16

You stayed for not 1 but 2 additional affairs?? Are you still with this woman??
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 01:36 AM
3

NO,that's not ok. Yes,sign the divorce papers and put her out. If you can get full custody,go right ahead,otherwise 50/50 is good. Your wife is using you,she doesn't want to be with you but wants all perks that living with you allows. Don't be a fool,let her go. You don't need to be with this kind of woman.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 09:40 PM
2

Exactly
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 02:58 AM
3

This..
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 03:53 AM
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OP this. With that said,if she does ask your son to ask you "how you're doing", tell your child to always tell his mother that you're fantastic. If she ask you directly,always say fantastic,don't ever give her the pleasure of thinking that she can still get under your skin. Don't have any conversation with her unless it's about your son. Actually you should get a coparenting app. Speak too her via messaging,only use phone calls if there is an emergency.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 08:46 PM
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None of those men wanted a relationship with her. So you're the back up guy she can come back to. She now realises that there is nothing out there. Bruh,tell her sorry but the divorce will continue. If this woman can hookup so quickly with 4 men,I highly doubt that she hasn't been commuincating with them for more than a month. So she was most likely reaching out to men even before she asked for the divorce. Continue to live your life and don't go back there.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:54 PM
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A divorce lawyer in my country is $1250usd. We don't pay alimony in this country,thank god. Child support payments is crap,pure crap. I don't think anyone in this country gets as much as $400 or $500 usd per child,hell no. You may have to sell the house or pay your spouse their share of it,but you must have been married for 5 years or more. And I'm in a 3rd world country,where we have free education all the way to university,and we have an A class university (university of the west indies). Free…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 01:27 AM
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Thank you for explaining.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 01:48 PM
2

OP,why do you say that now she is lost??
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 04:40 AM
3

This ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 04:39 AM
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It's finally over,you've been through so much with this woman. I didn't always see your post,as your profile doesn't have the follow option. So I've just kind of caught up on the posts I missed. Did Ap's wife find out about the affair? I recommend that you only contact your ex via a coparenting app,don't conversate because when her life isn't going well in the relationship department,she'll all of a sudden reach out to you. Because she'll now realise that she will never find anyone who will trea…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:24 PM
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Just a more compact version of your first comment,should still be the top comment. I hope OP keeps us updated on this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 10:51 PM
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This should be the top comment!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 10:50 PM
1

This made me cackle.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 08:24 PM
1

Your therapist is totally right there about her lying to make herself feel better. I hope when people approach you with her lies,you tell them the truth. Have you started the divorce as yet?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 08:13 PM
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That's her folly. You take care of your well-being first. Get out to the gym,try hiking. Just get out of the house and do things you like. Why did you guys choose to file for divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:29 PM
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Don't hook up yet. Heal first. It's only been a few months for you,I promise it gets better if you allow yourself to heal. Talk about it until you want be bother to.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:09 PM
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You'll get there eventually. Just give yourself time to heal. Talk to family and friends,this is actually very therapeutic.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:40 PM
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I see no reason why you should ever need to ommunicate with this woman for the rest of your life. Your kids are grown andout of the house. She charged your son,a college student an exorbitant amount of money for rent, and refused to help your daughter when she was leaving for Alaska to go to college. Why is she still able to contact you? I'd block her,but that's up to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 03:34 PM
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Exactly! I'm sorry that OP even bothered to reply to her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 03:30 PM
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Exactly!
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 02:56 AM
3

She is a sahm,you have nonidea what she does to him when you're not there. This woman is physically abusing your son and you're asking us what to do,are you joking?? Bruh,put a few cameras in the home,don't let her know. Go to a lawyer ASAP. Your wife needs help and you child needs to be away from her. I'm not saying to divorce her but she must know that you're serious and will leave her if she doesn't get help. Do you intend to wait until she seriously hurts the baby??
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 01:12 AM
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This should be the top frigging comment.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 09:04 PM
4

Because no one else wanted to treat her the way you did,no one else wanted her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 09:03 PM
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Plz update us in a year when your ex tries to reconcile with you,because she will.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 01:01 AM
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Seriously though,who on earth wants a cheater? She is delusional. How is she delaying the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 12:00 PM
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LOL,she's blaming you for her cheating,frigging classic. Now that you have filed,is she trying to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 03:08 PM
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I know right!
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:21 AM
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Plz follow your heart,your wife deserves better. Plzzz,go to your affair partner.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 01:39 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 05:46 PM
1

Do you still live in the same house together? Have you filed as yet?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:33 AM
1

Did she try to reconcile after you moved out?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:18 AM
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I'm not in the US and don't know some of the terms. What is a PFA?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:17 AM
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I was wondering this same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 08:25 AM
3

Wow,how long have you been divorce? Also how long were you guys married? I assume that no children were involved.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 01:10 AM
1

Good for you. I'm happy for you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 01:07 AM
2

If it's been a few years,has she ever reached out to you since divorcing?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:28 AM
1

Good for you. I hope you'ree living your best life now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:21 AM
1

She's a fool. I hope you're doing fine now,hopefully the divorce will be done soon.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:20 AM
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I came her to say this. Mine wasn't going to be as eloquent as yours. Mine was that her life is now shit and and she missed the way OP treated her,she can't admit that what she did was wrong,so she is blaming op. Also she hopes he takes her back.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:46 PM
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Has she ever apologised? Did she try to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:41 PM
1

Did she try to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 12:23 PM
3

Did you divorce your wife?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 12:23 PM
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Did you divorce her?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 12:22 PM
2

Did you divorce her?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 12:18 PM
2

True.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 03:14 PM
2

Good,then your exit plan was frigging fantastic. I hope you do a post when you finally serve her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:33 AM
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No problem. You had an exit plan. I recommend talking to lawyer,because you don't wan to be stuck paying her alimony because of the new raise at work.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:25 AM
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So you haven't filed for divorce as yet?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:13 AM
2

Has 2nd wife ried to reconcile or is she witll with her AP?
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:47 PM
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You're either a sucker for punishment or your self esteem is completely gone. This woman has shown her hand, but you're now finding excuses for her behaviour. Dump this woman asap. She will cheat on you. Bruh,take time to find yourself. Do things you enjoy,get a hobby,chill out with your buddies.but STOP dating. Until you can truly enjoy your own company,then you're not ready for a relationship. Take time to get know yourself, and enjoy your own company,but I can tell you now that this woman isn…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:18 PM
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I truly hope that you divorced her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 06:16 PM
2

I truly hope that things will get better soon. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 05:48 PM
4

I hope that you're living your best life. Has she ever tried to contact you?
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:46 AM
1

Has she ever apologised for cheating? Did she ever try to reconcile with you?
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 11:48 PM
3

Is she still with the AP?
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 11:41 PM
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The law states if she remarries then you don't need to pay her anymore alimony. You should contact your lawyer asap as the divorce isn't finalised as yet,this is considered bigamy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 01:22 PM
2

I came on to say this.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 02:27 PM
2

Sorry,my bad, thought she waas cheating. Oh so chick was a thieving golddigger. You've said that your life is now much better and you have a fantastic wife. keep living your best life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 07:51 PM
1

Can I ask how did you find out that your ex was cheating? How long were you married and how old is she?
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 02:10 PM
6

Plz share the dirt,I have popcorn ready.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 10:43 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 09:23 PM
2

OMG,I came on to say this.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 06:09 PM
3

wow,she asked for the divorce and is making the process as difficult as possible. I do hope that custody is favourable to you. Hopefully you won't have to give her everything. Hang in there bruh.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 12:05 PM
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Has she ever contacted you after the divorce. I'm asking because I find that alot of these people go on to not have the lives they thought they would,and I'm just wondering if she ever reached out to apologize or tried to reconcile,unless she already had someone else in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 07:28 PM
2

When you filed for divorce did she offer to try mc?
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 04:01 PM
10

You will never ever meet anyone else to truly love because you haven't allowed yourself to heal. And yes,living your best life is truly the best revenge out there. Karma will hit her, but you will never see it because you're hell bent on revenge. You will become a lonely,bitter old man because you couldn't tell a good woman standing in front of you, because you refuse to allow yourself to get over the piece garbage that took it self out. Edit to add: If you can afford to go to a therapist,plz do…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:10 AM
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Leave everything to your lawyer. When she gets to see or spend time with the dog,ask one of your friends to do it. So you won't have to see her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 12:16 AM
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I truly believe in Karma,it may not happen in the first few months or years,but it does come, and when she comes,she's mean as shite. The longer it takes,the meaner she is. OP,I'm happy that you're doing much better.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 09:32 PM
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How did you find out about the affair? Did she ever try to reconcile? Is she still with her AP? I hope that you and the kids are doing fine?
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 02:49 PM
1

Did you file for divorce or did she?
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 12:56 AM
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Great reply.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:43 AM
1

How is the relationship with your ex and your daughter?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 12:35 PM
1

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 10:40 PM
1

I'm confused as to why she had to leave AP?
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:58 PM
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Exactly! OP should contact the AP's wife. At the end of the day OP,do you truly want this woman back in your house as your wife,really? This will explode when his wife finds out,see how fast he drops your ex.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 01:14 AM
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Why didn't you contact the AP's wife about the affair? Also you need to stop worrying about her. Start focusing on yourself and your chldren. Get revenge by living your best life. She doesn't care about you,she's selfish. Contact the AP's wife,she needs to know what he is doing,it'sno fair to her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:24 AM
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You've allowed her to control the narrative for too long. You should have done this from the moment she started blocking you from seeing your children. You will succeed. Your son is old enough to speak in court.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:03 AM
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This comment in on point. She is most definitely trying to get OP to accept her affair baby. I wouldn't be surprised if she eventually tries to reconcile with OP.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 10:19 PM
3

Exactly! I think in this case OP should mind his business.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 09:58 PM
1

Did she ever try to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 09:42 PM
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My mother beat me as child,I never hit my child. My mother was not an affectionate parent,actually her idea of parenting was to ensure that I was clothed and fed. She has never seen my homework or ever hugged me. Never had a friendly conversation with me as a child. I was the complete opposite with my child. Your ex is extremely abusive to you and the children. I wish you'd recorded some of her outburst towards you and the kids,this may have helped in the custody battle. The reason her older son…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:42 PM
2

GO! You are now single. Do you plan to stay home after work and not go anywhere because you're now single? How do you plan to meet new people? Go on your free all expense paid holiday,have fun. You can do tours,you don't have to stay on the property 24/7. Go on holiday and book a few local tours,sight seeing,maybe a visit downtown. Go and have fun. Come back and update us on how your holiday went. Take tons of photos,put them on all your socials. This is a new beginning for you,not the end.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 07:13 PM
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I 💯% agree with you. I don't get this new trend where you're going through divorce but still doing things together because of the kids. That shit is extremely confusing for children. This also sets a note for them in their relationships as adults. To me this harms more than it does good. Updateme!
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:34 PM
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I am so confused. You said that shes a serial cheater. You have had enough and finally moved out and getting your life together,women are showing interest in you. You got a promotion at work. The kids are happy. She and the AP that she moved into your house has broken up and now she wants you back. WAITTTT,what is wrong with you? So you're happy being the back up everytime her affair fizzles out?? Keep being happy,go on dates,enjoy your life without her. Only speak to her via a coparenting app. …
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 09:19 PM
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I find it so damn ironic how they either try to wiggle their way back in your life, or go back to court once the affair fog goes for more money once they realise that they can no longer afford the way of life that they were once accustomed to when married.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 12:05 AM
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Grow a spine means you have to put your foot down. Stop being afraid of being the bad guy. As a parent there are days that our children won't live us,they'll still love us but not like us. Stop trying to be the favourite parent,there are consequences to actions and you and your daughter need to understand that. That's the problem,you won't correct her behaviour but you'll allow the world to?? Bruh no,correct you child now. Stop trying to be the gentle favourite parent. Sit her down,have an adult…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 07:49 PM
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Ohhhhh, thank you for explaining.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 06:19 PM
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You don't have to be verbally abusive to your chief at all. But when she walks in that behaviour, you shout her name loudly,then you take her into another room and speak to her calmly. Explain how she is behaving,also tell her that she is 12 years old and doesn't need to behave like her mother does and you will no longer tolerate that behaviour. Don't force her to stay in her room,good god, No don't do that. But you need to tell her that that you will nolo get tolerate that kind of behaviour fro…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 06:15 PM
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This comment is 100% on point. OP is pussy-footing around this issue with his daughter. He needs to put his foot down and also change her therapist ASAP. OP your daughters abuse of you and her sisters will only get worse if you don't put a stop to her behaviour. Also her sisters may follow. Grow a frigging spine.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 05:50 PM
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What is OPSEC? You should have filed before your started cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 05:09 PM
1

THANK YOUUUUU!
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 12:22 PM
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Okkkkk,she and her mother lied about you in court You stopped your restraining order against her but she still continued with hers. Her brother destroyed your home and told you what he really felt about you. She made it difficult for younto see your children. Wait,am I missing something here? Look,if try to get 50/50 custody and move on with your life without that woman. I'm truly not sure how much more you want her to hurt you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:35 PM
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There are coparenting aps you can use. Find one that suits you,let her know that will be the only means of communication,then you don't need to answer her trival calls. Text should only be pertaining to the children and you have evidence if she tries any bs. She baiting you with the boyfriend. There is no reason for ex's to remain friends,yes coparent amicably but you don't need to vacation together. That's just confusing the children. If you don't want to be buddies then don't be. But don't let…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:04 PM
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Don't stop the process. If you can put it on hold then do that,if not continue the process. There must have been a reason she wanted the divorce in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 12:18 PM
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Thank you,he is so full of it. I think that he believes that this group supports men no matter what they did. He's wrong,men here have a conscience.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 01:10 PM
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Are you serious with these shite questions? I hope to god that you're being cynical.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 07:11 PM
3

Cancel that card for heavens sake. Don't allow access to your money.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:48 AM
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Sorry I was planning on following OP,I've read a few of his replies and he's deadset on her definitely not cheating. I didn't realise I was reply to your comment, I was actually trying to reply to one of his comments. Shite I truly need a new phone. Anyways,I do agree with you. Did your ex ever try to get back with you?
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:11 AM
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I guess we'll know for sure in a few months,you'll eventually tell us what you fund out,if she is or isn't. I'll be following you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 02:51 AM
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I agree with you there,it's generally to be with another man.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 02:28 AM
2

OK,I get you. I feel like you need to heal and you certainly need IC,but plz take time to heal before dating again. Most people tend to take their very burdensome baggage into new relationships rather than healing first.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 10:27 PM
2

Bruh,she was violent towards you? Ummm,NO! You miss who you thought she was. There is no way that someone can be physically abusive and you miss them.The problem is that she made you believe that you could do no better than her and you decided to believe her. I do hope that you have gone to IC,you truly need it to help with your self confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 10:19 PM
1

How is she with you now? How old are the kids? Getting arrested infront of your children is traumatic to both you and the children.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 09:35 PM
2

My goodness,she's forever lying. She wants to get back with you because she hasn't been able to find a good man,it's as though she thinks you'll be her back up. I'm happy you got out of there,I truly hope that your life is going better. Hopefully, you'll meet a much better woman.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 09:28 PM
2

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you,I truly hope that things have gotten better for you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 09:07 PM
2

Did you get yor dogs back? Did she ever contact after the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:05 PM
1

Are you still with her?
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:04 PM
1

Did she ever try to reconcile or try to be friends since the divorce? Is she still with her AP?
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:04 PM
1

You never told them that she cheated? Is your son happy to spend time with you?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 08:36 PM
1

How old are you kids? If you go to court for more time,can they speak to the judge themselves?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 08:21 PM
2

I can agree with leaving the country never to return and I can also why you would want to do that. Good luck in your new life,I wish you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 02:33 PM
1

Leaving them alone?? Why on earth does she want 60/40 if she's always at her man?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 02:29 PM
2

Nope,still don't tell him. let him findout on his own,let him learn what it feels like to screw a married woman. Let him feel the pain,son't worry she'll get hers eventually. Do you share the kids 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 09:33 PM
1

That's truly crazy. In that case it might no be wise for you to own property unless you put it in someone else"s name,because if anything happens to you,she can claim it. Was it an arranged or love marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 08:38 PM
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Ohhhhhhhh,wow,I'm so sorry. Here and most other countries you just file and that's it. Do the 2 of you still live together and have children?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 08:01 PM
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NO,don't tell him anything. He doesn't deserve anything from you. Let him find out himself. updateme!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 03:23 PM
2

She doesn't have to let you. if you want a divorce,you can file,whether she wants it or not.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:05 PM
1

Are you paying her a ton in alimony and child support? Does she have a great salary? Otherwise,the house will need to be maintained,so will the car and insurance for either isn't cheap. The man sounds like a complete waste of time. Bruh don't stress,those froends were never your friends,they were hers. Let her be. She will get her rude awakening before the end of this year and hopefully by then things will be 100 times better for you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:19 AM
4

Individual Counselling. To be honest I've never had this kind of problem,at least not for that length of time you've had it. But what I've learnt even from my parents is that I don't want to be in a relationship where neither of us are happy. The thing is that children can see that you're not in love or affectionate to each other,they'll think this behaviour is normal and go into their relationships the same way yours is. Is this what you want for your kids? Would you recommend that they stay in…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:15 PM
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This is coming from an older woman You did therapy for year,because of it,your house is no longer a war zone but still there is no love. why would anyone want to live in your situation? I would speak to a lawyer,also speak to your wife on coparenting. Don't stay with someone where you're eternally unhappy and loney. Sometimes there is nothing wrong in thinking about yourself. Maybe do IC and go from there,but there is nothing wrong with getting a divorce,your wife may also be thinking the same t…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 03:27 PM
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I truly hope you have gone no contact with your dad. How long were you with this woman? Sorry,I kindda wan to know how you found out that she was cheating with your father? Did she try to reconcile with you? How old is she and your dad?
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 05:48 PM
3

You made me cackle.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 01:14 PM
1

No matter where she goes,depending on the position she has,there will always be whispers about how she got her jobs,no matter what,someone will always mention it to someone else. She'll probably never ever have a truly loving relationship like the one she had with you,I do hope that you're dating and happy now. As long as you allow yourself to heal,it will all fall into place.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 04:16 PM
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Do you see her often,does she still reach out to you? Some people assume money is all, just because she makes more money is so irrelevant. Now she's probably slept her way to the top,still making money but won't get much respect from her colleagues because they all know how she got her posiition.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 11:47 AM
4

How is exwife now? Did she try to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 09:45 PM
2

Your wife is truly sick. She doesn't care about anyone but herself, she loves your daughter and wants to look like a saint in her eyes. All the best,I hope you can do it for 2 years. Amazingly I can if I have a goal in mind,I can totally ignore someone,or only speak to them when it's necessary. We'd be roommates for my daughter's sake and if my child ask,I'd most probably tell her the truth,but you said that your daughter had issues. I just want you to know that she may handle it alot better tha…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 03:22 AM
1

So you're going to have a honeymoon after you've found out that she's cheating on you,doesn't love you, and will divorce you in 2 years? This must be a cruel joke? Bruh I hope you said NO? You'd be validating her lack of respect for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 03:14 AM
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Plz don't waste any time going on a pretend vacation next month,let her go with her AP. Why bother to pretend,how much hurt do you want to feel? In that case,I hope that you're planning your exit strategy,don't let her pull you in her shit,vacation together lol.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:55 AM
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I've read all the comments,glad I did. You said she's a borderline millionaire and you and your children have a particular standard of living with her that you couldn't afford otherwise. You wouldn't be able to afford to get your own place in this school district. As a woman,if I was speaking to another woman,I'd tell her to stay the 2 years. You already know who and what she is,and the hardest thing is to know. Bruh, I think at some point in time,you'll need to tell your daughter,you can't pret…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:57 AM
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Plz read the last post from this redditor. Beneficial_Hand2496 She has been going through it for 10 months,but now she is in a much better place. Plz take a moment to read it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 12:27 AM
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For shite sake,why can't he see that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 07:56 PM
2

You stayed too long in that marriage,there is nothing wrong with you wanting to live your life now. I truly hope that she agrees to the divorce and the 50/50 split. There are many people out there who shout divorce and when they finally get the divorce option they generally refuse it. updateme!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 02:42 PM
2

In timeI think you'll be fine as long as you allow yourself to heal. I'm rooting for you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:42 PM
1

Is your cheating ex still with her old man AP?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:50 PM
1

How is your relationship with your ex now,as you're coparenting? Did she try to reconcile?
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 03:08 AM
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Good question.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 03:07 AM
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