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you're sitting there and for no reason feeling mad/shitty/whatever. What's going on...can it be fixed...can it be prevented. From the post: As you learn to stabilize real-time conscious awareness through mindfulness practices and anchoring your attention in your body, your ability and capacity to be with and experience pain in yourself and others will grow When you're feeling shitty, spend some time paying attention to what it is like to feel shitty as a physical experience, where it lives in yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/17 03:35 PM
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good start. Systems are great. The strengths of men are in systematizing, the strengths of women are in empathizing and communicating. Moving to systems moves it onto your turf. You're never going to be able to match the endless maneuvering and negotiating a woman can manage, so why try. Also systems are much more efficient.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/17 05:04 PM
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I know MRP talks about abundance in regards to relationships and pussy, but I need abundance with my job situation yesterday. If I were to quit tomorrow I wouldn’t have anything to fall back on. I am qualified for other jobs and was even looking at interviewing but I just can’t bring myself to walk away. I don’t know why, but I am afraid to disappoint my grandfather. I’m lost here You don't have to walk away from your job right away; building a sense of abundance for jobs is the same as with any…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 10:31 PM
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A consistent daily meditation practice is foundational to my life now, a lot of what you describe is familiar; I was able to switch out of 24/7 survival mode. I also practiced how to stop obsessing over the past. I meditated off for many ears, but treated it as a stress management framework which was very limiting. On the death of my father I began to review my life in light of his. A consistent meditation in conjunction with that and studying positive models behaviour has and is transforming my…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 12:42 PM
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You buried the lede with your OYS posts; you're operating a business (at home?) with your wife in a language/culture you've learned but is native to her. If MRP is hard mode, that's nightmare mode on an overclocked machine. But what I have learned since I got plates is that this problem is to some extent unique to my wife. LTR them and run a business with them, see what happens in a few years. Plates are easy (no personal experience but it is MRP dogma), you have narrow well defined interactions…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 12:45 PM
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Based on my own experiences with this: 10 minutes is fine to start but it's important to develop the capacity to do this in general; actually fully engage and listen as though this were someone entirely new that you are interested in. The Charisma Myth is a great book that covers this and like MRP, the underlying theme is that you can't fake it; you must really be what you appear to be; someone who is interested enough to pay attention A man with an attitude of abundance gives freely of his atte…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 02:17 PM
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I used to have a lot of anxiety, far more than I knew, I realize now that it's gone. Consistent, long term meditation practice fixed that for me. Feelings that used to shove me around are now just indicator lights I can ignore if choose to. A method that worked for me was to pay close attention to the physical manifestations of the feelings themselves; the fine details and how they change. What is "irrational nervous energy"? Where does it live in your body? How does it change, does it have a sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 10:01 PM
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I'm far happier having some sort of model for how the world works; it's not perfect but it explains my prior experiences and it's predictive, tells me what to do to get what I want, and it seems to work. I was never angry at women, just confused. Now I'm not confused, just regretful of lost opportunities. Biological drives operate from cradle to grave in humans; AMALT, AWALT, even AGMALT, see: "Matrilateral Bias in Human Grandmothering" It's not "fair" but it is certainly the case.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:07 PM
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WISNIFG one chapter, did "I want my meat" routine at customer svc. counter I found that intentionally being pushy and demanding really helped with assertiveness; rather than waiting for situations where I could be assertive, I created them. Spent an hour on the phone once browbeating a poor service rep into giving me something he didn't have any cause to give me. Was uncomfortable but a great exercise. shut down one kitchen argument with wife by "I'm not going to argue with you." She tried to dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:46 PM
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I went swimming three times last week. It is good to keep moving but I really need to join a gym soon. Cool thing about swimming is that it's good cardio and it builds the upper body (see swimmers V); swimming started me on the whole MRP thing years ago. Swam an insane amount one summer out of what I realize now was sexual frustration, got totally ripped and wife changed her attitude to me completely. From now on I need to form my plans completely, and then let her find out when the change has a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:09 PM
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I have decided to just give up on attempting to take over the family business. It doesn’t line up with my goals for the next 10 years, and tbh I can do much better. If my grandfather doesn’t recognize the potential in me then I am going to be endlessly in his frame having to prove myself. That's some blue pill shit right there. Fuck potential, what value have you proven at your work? I don't want staff that has potential I want staff that does shit. From your prior posts you're a bit of a fuckup…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 10:00 PM
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Everything is about "fairness." That is so much bullshit. Fairness is a sophomoric concept. Kids have a finely honed sense for when things are unfair to their detriment, but they somehow don’t notice all the times it’s unfair in their favour. The belief that somehow life should be adjusted for fairness is absurd. I have nothing but contempt for that idea and I make a point of expressing that to them. Any time my kids say I’m not being fair, I tell them it’s not my job to be fair, it’s my job to …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 10:13 AM
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re: scoreboards, this comment from /u/jacktenofhearts is brilliant and clarified a lot of things for me. His entire post and comment history is worth a read, full of insights. She won't let go of her scoreboard until you let go of yours. And fundamentally it's a stupid model of the world for both of you; how could you possibly put a meaningful value on efforts that you both agree on? Marriage is not a balanced series of transactions. My way around this has been to reframe my life as a series of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 01:56 PM
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Nice; worked hard, got some results. Inspirational.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 09:02 PM
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Careful wth the extraversion expectations; while it is possible to change, from what I've read and experienced introversion/extraversion is one of the more inflexible personality traits. I have generally introverted tendencies and have learned to demonstrate more extroverted behaviours in the last few years. I can be the life of the part but it costs and I get burned out. I had a big teaching thing a while ago where I had to be on all day for 3 days, lots of social interaction with new people. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:17 PM
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So it's not your fault. Also, feminists. Sure thing. When in fact she loses her cool from the very beginning of the discussion. And then afterwards acts innocent. This what I mean by gaslighting. This behaviour is a shit test, re-read the sidebar material. It's not conscious so it's not gaslighting, and you're failing the test. The issue is not the argument at hand, that's just an excuse. She's annoyed because you're not the man she wants you to be, and she thinks she could have done better. Rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:56 PM
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Best response I've read to the Google memo: http://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/07/contra-grant-on-exaggerated-differences/ Worth a read; lots of good references and some great insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:46 PM
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I also realize that this scenario is not really about getting me to buy the subscription but for her to Score Points by having me lose Frame by slamming the keys down on the table. This sort of thing was at the heart of my issues with my wife. When I solved it so many things fell into line. This shit is no more conscious on her part than it was on yours, it's a bad pattern you have together fallen into, almost a ritual that plays out in known ways. You're now more conscious of it so can interrup…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:38 PM
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3 bodyweight sessions, 2 swims and avg. 15K paces daily. Injury. I keep injuring myself dammit. Anyway injuries are no excuse. In any event, the policy is to do something each day. Gotta ask; How are you managing to injure yourself with bodyweight, swimming and walking? Swimming is great (my program is a lot of swimming + lifting + yoga) but get coaching or at least watch some videos if you're not a trained swimmer already. Form is everything, it's painful to watch people thrashing away in the p…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 02:07 PM
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I have been working my way through the history of Hellenic philosophy and taking Zen Buddhism classes. I have found that both Stoicism and Zen Buddhism resonate with me and that they are remarkably similar in many aspects; though, they naturally diverge as well. I plan to continue my studies in these two schools of thought for the foreseeable future. Do you practice Zen meditation? Theory is informative but meditative practice can lead to profound insights. It's the difference between reading ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 01:56 PM
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The grind is setting in…. Don't be confused about what the grind is; it's not the work itself, life is a cauldron of fuckin' toil till you die. It's upping your tolerance for it and changing your habits so that you are achieving and taking responsibility for more automatically. It's like going to the gym; Standard failure mode for the gym is; start going, get some traction, get overzealous, overcommit to a specific workout when things are going well, dread doing it when things aren't going as we…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:04 PM
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Try to remember that perspective next time you fuck up; a day makes a big difference. This is the place to vent, not to your wife. STFU is so powerful because the consequences are never worse than victim puke. We've fucked 30 times in the past 50 days. If I had that before, I would be on cloud 9. Instead, the sex is consistently making me unhappy because it's still just duty sex, she's not enjoying it how I want her to, and I know why. The more you get the more you want, this is how it works. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 03:21 PM
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Final note about therapy, I might go back. I might not. My therapist was the one who kept pushing pills and they just made me feel like a zombie. I'd rather be in pain then numb. I hate being numb. Can you find another therapist that's a better fit for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 01:54 PM
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Solid progress. Have you read MMSLP? The book has a good framework for self improvement. I broke the areas out into a spreadsheet for tracking which helped a lot in mid/early phases. One of the key points is you can't take on too much stuff, and your todo looks reasonable. Even stuff she would have considered her responsibility like weeding the flower bed. I did it because I didn’t like the way it looked. Watch this; easy to get resentful. Just do it for your own reasons to the degree you can. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 01:48 PM
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Strange how I feel insecure about becoming this. I'm attracted to confident people who DGAF. Always have been. I think somewhere deep down I'm afraid nobody will like the real me. That’s very common. When you’re doing what you want you have no excuses and you risk failing at something you care about. Failure is entirely on you and it will hurt; that's a huge risk to take. Easier to do nothing. You’re exposing who you really are to yourself and the world, that's a risk too. I've learned a lot abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 12:30 PM
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This is how I've organized. I didn't know it was a thing! I recommend David Allen's GTD book, a lot of good strategies in there. I do keep fighting the urge to fantasize future approval. Could be anybody, not just my wife. My mind keeps playing out different scenarios like this while I'm doing something. I never realized I've been this way my whole life. The thought of me being a bad ass for the satisfaction of being a bad ass with no recognition/admiration from others feels kinda empty. Obvious…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 01:07 PM
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Progress! GTD style planning may help with scope and overlaod, distinguishing clearly between planning and execution, and breaking stuff into doable pieces is useful. Big picture (planning) is needed but it's overwhelming to keep it in mind while you're trying to finish a task. The relationship hasn’t changed at all. This is not your goal. Your goal is to fix your shit and be a man. Your wife's behaviour may improve or not. Observe, proceed accordingly. You need nobody's approval but your own. F…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 10:11 AM
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Good. re list; one at a time or you're just digging the same hole deeper. Start with the easiest. The person that you really need to convince of your competence is yourself, so easy wins help a lot at the beginning and will give you momentum. If it's more than a day's work make a plan; budget & time. This is for your own purposes as you've clearly not though stuff out as much as needed previously. Do not look to your wife for approval or reward or even interest, however; If it's biggish you will…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 03:22 PM
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Also, alcohol is my frenemy. I really enjoy it during the evening and rarely get drunk. I just like a bit of head change. Problem is, some mornings I still feel sucky which keeps me from being productive. Alcohol messes up sleep you're subtracting an hour or two from your effective sleep time. If you're drinking frequently at night you may be sleep deprived. Try this; for two weeks don't drink at night and observe how you feel in the morning and more importantly how effective you are that day. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 01:30 PM
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The grindiest grind you'll ever grind Well said
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 01:06 PM
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re: ADHD, thing that worked for our daughter was intensive exercise and sport. This is important both because exercise calms ADHD kids down, and because it provides a source of "wins" to bolster their self esteem. They're not getting many wins at school and that is an ongoing erosion to self eseteem at a time that they should be building a confident self image. We tried a few and were able to find one my daughter liked and was good at; got behind that and pushed hard. Competitions and medals wer…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 12:56 PM
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Great progress! Total shift in attitude from your earlier posts. I am getting IOI from random women. The extra big smiles, flirty eyes, hand waves. The instinct is to retract, and become invincible, so I am doing my best to calm my self down, and not feel threatened. Next, I want to start approaching/interacting with random stranger such as in a supermarket, street, public places. Just the thought of it, is making my heart race. So I am doing it in my head first, and getting my body to calm down…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/17 12:02 PM
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re: points 2&3, this forum is great for seeing principled paths other men have chosen; some spin plates and stay married, some get divorced, some stick it out. Choices based on their values and desires that they take full responsibility for.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 12:37 PM
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The calendar was key for me; Google Calendar, one for each family member. It isn't happening if it isn't on the calendar as far as I'm concerned. Everyone in the family can have situational awareness if they bother to refer to the calendar. I schedule stuff then tell my wife, if she has issues we can discuss. It's low hanging fruit for taking charge, surprised it isn't mentioned more.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 12:33 PM
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Been there, it takes a long time to climb out of that hole, but it can be done. Wife was very similar to what you describe, is now affectionate and generally DTF though I don't initiate enough. But that's just my issue. Any suggestions on a plan around initiating sex. I look at this as about the hardest of hard NO's I've ever gotten. Should I just take sex off the table and keep focusing on me only at this point? General advice: Stop the butt slapping for now, dial it back to light kino. Low val…
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:29 PM
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There isn't much value in planking beyond 2 minutes. I was given a lot of planks by my physiotherapist for back issues and as soon as I could hold them past two minutes he'd make them harder and more unstable; this requires engagement of more secondary muscles for stabilization. Front plank, elbows on an exercise ball, feet on a bosu (half) ball, one foot up. Side plank, elbow on a bosu ball, other arm up, leg up. Try holding those for 10 minutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 03:15 PM
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Summary: Very rough and disappointing week. Had to seek outside help to complete home project, work situation resolved as worst case. Somewhat improved accountability at work; have been doing more successful delegation. Initiated successfully at home but was 1/1. Minor progress on financial, my avoidance of it is strong and I don't understand why. March Goals 1: OYS weekly this month this post is #3 2: Financial review and budget with commitment from wife Have all data in place Plan by March 31s…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 01:46 PM
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Replying to my own comment here about your social anxiety, please watch this video, his ideas are the basis of my comment. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8GSf5cYCvE Jordan Peterson is a great thinker, highly recommended.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/17 03:04 PM
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I want to start practicing in front of mirror, to gently try and overcome social anxiety. I recommend the opposite; rather than focusing on yourself (as you are practicing here) learn to focus fully on the person you are interacting with. The root of social anxiety is often self consciousness, you end up trying to mentally model how the person you're interacting with is seeing you. You can sidestep that by focusing outward. So much of social interaction has to do with frame and focus. This is co…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 12:45 PM
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Well I have never been accused of being passive so maybe I just don't get this Based on what I've read in your postings that issue is far afield from your experience. but when my dick gets hard and I am laying next to a woman . . . well it's just not that complicated. I'm up two hours before her, but yeah, it really isn't that complicated. and yet I struggle. Working on it. Have you tried noFap? Periodically. Haven't jerked off in more than three weeks. I get horny but it's kind of undirected. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 03:44 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 01:58 PM
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First, you can't let this happen very often. Find a way to lift. The lift issue is two things; strained back from Deadlifts which isn't getting better (only an issue with deadlifts) and this week is crazy; swimming more than 3x normal and doing a bunch of very physical stuff 8 hours per day. I'm feeling that grey overtraining haze and I need to cut back somewhere. Will be missing 2 sessions at most. May hit the gym for some deloaded lifts today but I'm really pushing it already. Not worried abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 12:34 PM
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Summary: key things I should be handling; accountability at work and at home (financial) no significant progress. Fitness and spiritual going well, but not so impressive as those are already areas of strength for me. March Goals 1) OYS weekly this month this post is #2 2) Financial review and budget with commitment from wife started on this, had issue gettig access to one of the accounts; need wife to contact Big fail, should have had draft budget in place by now. 3) Increase medition from 30 to…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 11:12 AM
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Your currency is your attention. As a man with an attitude of abundance you give your attention freely, withdrawing it for bad behaviour. Reread your post again from the perspective of your wife asking for your attention and not understanding why you are ignoring her. What did your behaviour communicate to her? What did you want it to communicate? Also; texting is for logistics only.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:40 PM
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She’s not on your team until you’re winning The corollary to that is, once she is on your team, she was always on your team. Women will reinterpret the past in light of the new you, retconning https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retroactive_continuity their feelz of the moment back in time to write a new story of your time together. If you have seriously improved, that new narrative will be to your advantage. This is the reason to STFU about your dissatisfactions of the past; not restricting her creat…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 03:33 PM
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Airport practice is a great idea; field report please. If that doesn't work you can go down market and hit the bus station.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 10:10 PM
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A lot of us are struggling with this one way or another. I am becoming more and more convinced that only her hamster can lead her to a better spot; not you directly. Indirectly, by example and application of dread her hamster might talk her into loosing weight. Agreed. I have been at DL6 for years now. Will consider trying some active pickup. My SMV is far above hers, has been for a long time, and she's still not moving on this. However; she is hypersensitive to any mental states on my part that…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 10:07 PM
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It said you are going to be going through changes and your partner may not understand so explain what you are doing or better have them read the book. I recommend explaining what you are doing not why: "I need to spend more time with my friends ". You still need to coordinate with her, don't be a dick, just don't tell a big story of your motivations. Then provide comfort. Big hug, "I still love you babe, this is just something I need to do". My first mediation teacher said "Personal growth is a …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 04:06 PM
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Thanks; will do the tape BF% method tonight. Have a good finance modelling system at my bank site just trying to tie in another credit card. I want to have a draft of my budget together this weekend. Can you recommend a good guide to get started with meditation? Just posted a comment on that, repasted here: If you want to start meditating, choose a specific program and commit to it for a set period, preferably more than a month. Fuckarounditis of the mind with starting meditators is common, tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 03:56 PM
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I just have to shut up going forward and do work to correct it Read NMMNG a long time ago so I don't remember details, exactly what did it tell you to do? The sidebar isn't a monolithic consistent body of strategies, it's a pile of different tools to achieve similar goals. Having A Talk is fine but think long and hard before you do it, decide on what you want to achieve. My default is STFU. As the marriage counsellors say, a relationship is all about communication. What they don't say is that co…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 01:45 PM
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I have to show myself that I am not all talk sure sounds like you are all talk from what you posted. Holy shit dude, you just puked out everything to your partner like a girl, all your feelz and plans and reasons. Why? What are you looking for? Her approval? Her support? Some sort of consensus? This is not helping you. You need none of these things, you need to fix yourself for yourself. Telling her all this is undermining you. A man tells his wife he's going to do it this time, he's going to lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 01:25 PM
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If you want to start meditating, choose a specific program and commit to it for a set period, preferably more than a month. Fuckarounditis of the mind with starting meditators is common, trying different stuff, not getting much traction, like going into the gym for 10 minutes a day and screwing around randomly with weights and machines and expecting to get strong. I favour guided meditations for beginners, the HeadSpace app is a solid intro to mindfulness meditation and the first 10 sessions are…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 06:12 PM
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As part of Men of March day #2, I investigated what I was avoiding, turns out to be accountability in general. So as a start I’m committing to OYS for the duration of March. This week is a longish outline for future reference; in following OYS will just reference areas or I’m working on. Background: Married ~ 20 years, teenage kids. Very dead bedroom for a very long time. I assumed that’s what marriage was and grimly, sadly, passive aggressively plodded through it. The Talk every 18 months or so…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:31 PM
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Right. First step is posting an OYS on Tuesday for initial accoutability; further actions will be in that. Great program. My lats are sore.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 01:59 PM
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Good program TFA, thanks. I will follow diligently this month. I thought about avoidances and came up with a few but they felt wrong and too specific. They were. They are all aspects of the same avoidance. I avoid accountability; I avoid making myself accountable to others (don't like reporting, time tracking, declaring plans) and I avoid holding others to account (calling them on not fulfilling obligations). That's really damn interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 02:11 PM
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Good post. Only recently realized that confidence comes from not the knowledge that things will work out as planned, but the knowledge that you can handle it if they don't. "This may not work" has become "I wonder what will happen". Usually works. Sometimes it's a catastrophe. Whatever, I pick up the pieces and move on. Sometimes it's hilarious. Sometimes it mutates into the unexpected. I'd rather have an interesting failure than be bored by the certainty of inactivity.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 03:14 AM
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Our official family calendar is a online google calendar, one calendar for each family member. everything goes on there, my rule is if it's not on the calendar it ain't happening. Everyone can edit their own calendar. I book stuff pre-emptively to grab the slot and discuss if it might be a problem. I'm already planning out the summer. It has been huge in terms of reducing stress and smoothing planning. The benefits are huge; mainly daily situational awareness for me. My wife (as many do) talks a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 07:27 PM
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Heinlein wrote some great boy books early on https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heinlein_juveniles . His later stuff gets really weird. Grew up in the 70's and the juvenile fiction they were pushing on us then was crap. I ended up reading a lot of old SF instead. Starship Troopers is fantastic (I'll pretend that shit movie never happened), and Tunnel in the sky are particularly good.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 05:12 PM
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Nice. It's really that simple. (edit) Also; note the almost complete lack of mention of wife or her response to this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 05:02 PM
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Thanks for the reference; Anti-Dump's Machine is golden, if a little unpolished. I always read the original sources when I'm researching something; the original insights often get badly distorted in derivative works. I can see what got grabbed and productized, and how it was diluted.
/r/askMRP23/02/17 01:31 PM
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Thanks! I'll add it to my list. Looks like there are clear parallels between REBT and buddhist outlooks and methods, need to read this in more detail. http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/bct/7/4/8.pdf The parallels aren't surprising, we all have the same basic brain architecture and techniques for fixing issues are going to be rediscovered. Year or so ago I was describing to a social worker friend a technique I'd come up with for getting rid of some bad recurrent thinking patterns, based on some bud…
/r/askMRP20/02/17 09:46 PM
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It's floating in my mind to recast and rewrite this whole thing and make it a main post. It deserves a main post. I recently started looking into mindfulness meditation to see if that can get factored in there somehow. I want to actually try it first to see if it works. Holy fuck does it ever work. I've rebuilt my brain using it. I've had a serious meditation practice for the last few of years (Vipassana, ~30m/day, various retreats) and it is the core of my changes. It's like a gap has been adde…
/r/askMRP20/02/17 09:27 PM
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Nice start. This post feels very much like where I was a few years ago. Shit man you've got an awesome ride ahead of you. Do the work and you'll get a lot better. At this point it is all about unfucking yourself. Until you've made substantial progress in that direction trying to understand her behaviour relative to you is pointless. I had good results treating my wife as a problem employee that I wasn't currently in a position to get rid of and who wasn't likely to quit. Tolerate, manage, don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 09:06 PM
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This is great stuff and well written, created an account just to upvote and comment. What you describe is very similar to my experiences and I would have benefited a lot from reading it a few years ago and I think a lot of men here will too. Have you considered merging the above and posting this as a comment?
/r/askMRP20/02/17 08:29 PM
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