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| 170 | Get tf away from men who try to push your boundaries | QUICK TIP | West_Zone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 01:10 PM |
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| 4 | Have you ever wondered why women sports fans follow men’s sports teams without ever questioning why we don’t follow women’s sports on mainstream media and sports venues?Cheerleaders are a very American phenomenon, as far as I know they are unheard of in Europe. And I don’t understand the part about “your man ogling them”? Like if that is the case he quite obviously is low value. Women’s sports are often inaccessible for viewers. Because watching women’s matches is difficult people tend to watch the men’s matches instead. Community is also a big aspect of being a sports fan, and sadly the supporter clubs of the women are smaller than those of the men. Although I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 11:36 AM |
| 0 | Why am I doing things to make myself more attractive when at the end of the day, men are still going to look at other women anyway?You shouldn't be triangulating yourself with other women. There will always be women who are more attractive than you, but why should that matter? If a man is HV he won't be thirsting after women who, in your opinion, are more "attractive" than you. I would argue that when it comes to attractiveness, clothes and makeup don't play that big of a role. Makeup, in and of itself, is not bad imo. I mean, both men and women used makeup in ancient Egypt. Beauty has always been a "thing" in society, but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 11:56 AM |
| 5 | Hmm, it’s almost as if we don’t want men like you 🤔Exactly why do you want to copy the behaviour of LVM who pick on unattractive women, by picking on unattractive men (who seem to have HV traits)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 08:12 PM |
| 4 | Hmm, it’s almost as if we don’t want men like you 🤔Yes, exactly. The handbook tells us to block and ignore LVM, right? Especially those who make misogynistic comments. Sinking to their level is exactly what LVM want us to do. Even if this meme isn't directly engaging with LVM, it is mirroring their cringey behaviour. I come to this sub for dating advice, not because I want to shit on men 24/7. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:55 PM |
| 12 | Hmm, it’s almost as if we don’t want men like you 🤔So because misogynistic redditors sexualize women, we should make fun of a man who has spent time and effort on supporting women just because he looks a certain way? I truly do not understand why a man, who has shown signs of HV traits should be publicly mocked simply because he isn't attractive. Even though I only date men I find physically attractive, I am absolutely not going to disrespect a man who has spent a lot of time and effort on making online spaces better for women simply because he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:40 PM |
| 56 | Hmm, it’s almost as if we don’t want men like you 🤔This is so mean and unnecessary. Posting pictures of people who mind their own business and don't bother anyone just so you can mock their appearance is low value behaviour. The man in the pic has made a ton of positive contributions, for example when it comes to the way women on Wikipedia are treated. ''Men make rude comments about the appearance of women who haven't done anything wrong all the time'' yes, and that makes them low value. Why on earth would you, as a HVW, want to copy such behavi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:26 PM |
| 12 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessScoobyginger25 But you don't know the reality of a relationship unless you are in it. A lot of "seemingly happy" relationships can be really toxic where one of the people (most likely the woman) is miserable. The ~men care about appearance, women care about money and power~ is such an outdated trope. If you are a woman who has a stable career and the same rights as the men in your country, there is no reason for you to date a powerful and wealthy, but ugly man. Tons of people are telling you tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:41 PM |
| 21 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessAs I mentioned, if they stay faithful they tend to become insecure, obsessive and controlling. They know that you are "out of their league" when it comes to attractiveness and are terrified of losing you to a more attractive man. Also, I don't think men should be grateful of having a girlfriend who is more attractive than them like that is really weird? If a man is grateful for that it's because you're his trophy wife and you give him a higher social status amongst his scrote friends. Your views… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:23 PM |
| 50 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessSorry, but what kind of dumbass logic is this? One's appearance does not dictate how one treats others. LVM treat women badly because they have a rotten personality, not because they are attractive. Dating a less attractive man solely because you believe he'll treat you better is ridiculous. You know what will happen if you decide to date men you find somewhat, but not very, attractive? You'll run into a LVM whose ego will become gigantic. He'll start negging you and either become really control… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 45 | How do we identify, manage or avoid men who project their fantasies onto women in their lives? When are they dangerous?Men who do this to me will start to push my boundaries, which really makes me angry because it shows that he has 0 respect for me. If a man keeps trying to push my boundaries after I've firmly told him "no", I hit him with the "I said no. Do you really think I'll change my mind because of something you said?" and see how he reacts. If I feel more annoyed than usual, I add a "you're just a random guy I [just met/work with/take a course with etc.)". Depending on the guy, I either say it in a "joki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:05 PM |
| 14 | Flirting tips + dating when not ready for marriageThank you for explaining your views, what you wrote does make sense, dw! Hmm, truthfully it depends on what kind of boxes you end up having and when you believe you'll have an idea of what those boxes are. I mean, I would like to have a partner with the same ethnic background as me. However, I am also attracted to other ethnicities. If I end up meeting a man with HV traits who is of another ethnicity I'll "go" for him instead of rejecting him and continuing my search for a partner with the same … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:52 AM |
| 23 | Banned for one comment for “incel/redpill content” on a popular relationship subreddit. Ladies, only use your current account for FDS and nothing else. Scrotes can die mad!Great points! I'm sure it's hard for a lot of them to accept that they have been "tricked" by men/society and gone through a lot of unnecessary pain due to male manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:19 AM |
| 77 | Flirting tips + dating when not ready for marriageI have trouble understanding your view on relationships and marriage. What do you mean by a "super serious" relationship? If you meet a great HV guy, why not date him until you are ready for marriage? I feel like FDS is more suitable for serious long-term relationships as vetting takes a lot of time and energy. However, you could of course use the FDS strategies to find a HV man and enter a relationship with him, even though you aren't aiming for marriage. I don't see what the difference is betw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:16 AM |
| 178 | Banned for one comment for “incel/redpill content” on a popular relationship subreddit. Ladies, only use your current account for FDS and nothing else. Scrotes can die mad!Yes, of course. Supporting other women, advocating for women to not have casual sex, urging women to only spend time with men of good character, is exactly the same thing as incel and redpill content. This is a rhetorical question, of course, but why are men so fucking threatened by this sub? Why is it that women who would rather be single than waste time on a low value scrote, scare so many male redditors? If you are a high value man you shouldn't have any problems with this sub, as the charact… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 11:08 PM |
| 20 | Navigating the FDS as a WOCI'm mixed race, but look racially ambiguous which clearly affects the way people (especially men) treat me. I feel like men put me on a pedestal. I have very "stereotypically" female interests, but am a huge fan of one specific sports club. Being a WOC who is a fan of sports (lmao as if these things are special or abnormal!! 😭) makes a lot of men put me on a pedestal and give me the classic "I'm not like other girls!" speech. This upsets me because I feel like they don't see me as a real person.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 10:59 PM |
| 43 | Most men just want their egos strokedI love the last paragraph, you're spot on! Men are incredibly delusional. A lot of them measure their self worth in the amount of female attention they get, their egos largely depend on how many women want them and how many women they can "get" (sleep with). Men's egos are especially prone to being bruised if the woman who is rejecting him/giving him ~mixed signals~, is out of his league. This is why LVM tend to go after pick mes, they'll worship the ground he walks on and continually boost his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 09:33 PM |
| 8 | After being told by men more than once that my standards were "too high", last weekend I got given the proposal and ring of my dreams by a man who meets those standards!I’m so happy for you!! I hope your wedding is beautiful! 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 27 | Women that join men to bitch about or laugh at other women, are bottom barrel.Yes! Whenever a man tries this with me I always make sure to 1) ask why and 2) compliment the [type of] woman he's trying to bring down. Why is makeup bad, there are women who are so talented and do amazing eyeshadow looks? Why are long ~fake nails~ bad, they look really cool - especially when they match a woman's outfit? I'm into sports and very stereotypically feminine, this must do something to men's peanut brains because they immediately put me on a pedestal (after I've proven myself worthy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:47 AM |
| 43 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a businessEwww, men really do want their girlfriends to be their mommies, giving them fancy stickers for being good boys. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:21 PM |
| 7 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?Same! This is nightmare fuel 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:48 PM |
| 78 | Diary of a recovering pickmeishaI'm glad you are in therapy and have taken control over your own life! I wish you good luck with your recovery. <3 While your behaviour can be categorised as that of a pickmeisha, in my opinion it's rather a result of the horrible abuse you experienced in your youth. The pickmeishas I grew up with would constantly throw me under the bus and put me in dangerous situations just to look gain men's approval and attention. They were not pickmeishas as a result of serious trauma, but because they had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!My country is similar to yours when it comes to concubine couples, but marriage is important to me because it represents commitment. I don't want children, but want to get married because marriage has a great symbolic value to me. In my country a lot of people buy houses together with their bf/gf because the prices are quite high. Even though buying a house with someone is very different from having a child with them, I am not buying a house with a man I'm not married to. I done't even want a la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:31 PM |
| 43 | Another date, another lessonMy exact reaction, omg... Girl I don't want to shame you, but a Redditor??? The majority of users, especially the male ones, on this website are huge losers. Once in a while i browse other subreddits than FDS out of morbid curiosity, but quickly have to stop due to the second hand embarrassment I get from reading other subs. Like 98.5% of reddit users are socially inept losers who are unable to hold a conversation irl and the rest are desperate pick mes who lack a backbone. A man being active on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:18 PM |
| 22 | Greys Anatomy LVMGrey’s Anatomy is one of those shows that show you what not to do when it comes to men and romantic relationships. I used to watch it as a kid and even back then I found Meredith’s behavior annoying and desperate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:59 AM |
| 58 | I learned quickly that if I have to chase you, I don’t want you anymore.Yes! It’s a sign of them not getting enough validation from other aspects of their lives. 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:55 AM |
| 9 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMThat's great to hear! Btw, being uncomfortable when a man you are romantically interested in has lots of close female friends is not a result of you being insecure. As u/thepsychopathhunter stated "a plethora of female friends is always a red flag". That's not your insecurities speaking, it's your intuition! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:59 AM |
| 13 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMPlease don't refer to yourself as a "piece of shit", you are clearly an accomplished person (you work as an engineer, hello!!) at a young age. Society brainwashes us to accept the bare minimum, which is why it might be challenging to realise that you deserve more than the man you are seeing has to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:41 AM |
| 10 | An open letter to men who will have sex with me but won't date me.Exactly! In high school my (now ex) friends tried to pressure me to "live life" by having ONS or FWB with guys in our grade, even though I firmly stated that those things weren't for me. I could clearly see those situations fuck my friends up emotionally, and knew the same thing would happen to me. Why do so many women do this to themselves? Where is the self preservation at? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:06 AM |
| 33 | An open letter to men who will have sex with me but won't date me.This is why I'm glad FDS exists. This woman, who probably has a libfem mindset, is clearly hung-up on an incident that happened years ago. Instead of realising that men are willing to date and be publicly associated with like, 25% of the women they are willing to sleep with, she believes she is the problem. I totally agree with you about her not wanting to see the "real" him. How is someone leading you on when they clearly state that they don't want to go to dinner with you? This illustrates why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:35 PM |
| 0 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itWhy the fuck do women put up with all of this shit? Personally, hormonal birth control pills have benefitted me greatly. I went on birth control, as an adult, because my periods were out of control and the period related mood swings broke my mental health down. While I do believe it's important and valid to be sceptical of birth control, completely dismissing it and acting as if women only take it "for men" is kinda close-minded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:17 PM |
| 21 | Times I should have left my fianceI am so happy to hear that your close friend(s) and parents are supportive of you! It really cements the fact that you definitely made the right decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 08:54 PM |
| 7 | This need to be sharedThen why are you in a dating sub..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:37 AM |
| 7 | On the “Stay In Your League” post…Your comments/takes are always well-articulated and reflective! I really enjoy reading each and every one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:11 PM |
| 20 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?I feel like it depends on whether you’ve processed the trauma/learned how to deal with it in your everyday life. Personally, I don’t see the necessity of sharing deeply personal problems with friends/family/your significant other if you can afford to go to a therapist, especially if you haven’t been able to process your problems. One of my close friends casually mentions that her mom OD’d when she was a child. This is something she has been able to process and doesn’t talk about in depth. I talk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:57 PM |
| 228 | Random male acquaintances when you wear anything revealing or flatteringLMAO, this is so spot on! 😭😭 As a society, we need to laugh talk more about how utterly delusional and self-centred most men are. They really do believe that whenever a woman makes a decision, especially when it comes to her appearance, she has him in mind. Scrote, I am wearing a sundress because it's hot outside, not because I want to please or impress you. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:23 PM |
| 98 | Online dating vs Online shoppingThis is so true! The only difference is that there are certain items a woman who is online shopping knows she can't afford, delusional men on dating apps, however, believe they're able to get every woman they swipe right on. Ladies, most men on dating apps can't afford you! They are dirt poor when it comes to personal hygiene, emotional intelligence, and ambition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InI thought FDS used to be kind of "against it", but this might be a case of the Mandela effect... I always think about this post when I see users (especially new users) talk about OLD on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 06:53 PM |
| 42 | "You need to forgive!"It seems like you have grown into a great person who is the total opposite of your horrible mother. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:40 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Check-InLately, I've been seeing a lot of posts about online dating and I'm just like "uhhhh". Isn't FDS against online dating? HVW on online dating apps are wasting their time imo. Like, the fact that some LV scrote even has the option to swipe no on you, a woman way out of his league, gives him an ego boost. Men you wouldn't even have noticed irl develop the biggest superiority complex because they are delusional and believe they can turn down beautiful women by swiping left on them. Even if this is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:30 PM |
| 171 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youI do not understand why women bring babies into these toxic relationships. I keep seeing posts written by mum's who rightfully vent about their terrible bf/husband who has 0 empathy for them and refuses to do any kind of housework. The situation is going to get so much worse when a child is in the picture. Especially if they already have a child together. He's never going to change! If anything, he's probably going to get jealous of the attention the children receive and become even more obnoxio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 37 | If he wanted to fix his mental health, he would...So many of my friends excuse their scrote's behaviour by saying things like "his parents rarely showed him affection as a child, which is why he acts the way he does" and I always point out that healthcare is free in our country and there's nothing stoping this adult man from seeking professional help and sorting his problems out. This may be a controversial take, but I feel like most mental health related topics should be talked about with a professional, not your significant other. "Normal" pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 05:13 PM |
| 19 | When women swap stories about their spouses’ parenting failsYou don't necessarily need to speak up though, you have the option to not laugh. While it might make some people uncomfortable, laughing at your husband being so lazy that he neglects to pick up your daughter can be damaging to her. This also goes for kids who witness their mum carry the entire workload when it comes to housework and childcare. When someone laughs at their scrote's incompetence around me I look really horrified (all my emotions show on my face) and say something like "That's not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 117 | Oh no honey, that’s not something to be proud ofShe is literally giving him an allowance from her own (!!!) savings. 🤡Men being fine with their wife/gf treating them as their literal child is bizarre and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 11:56 PM |
| 40 | When you follow a financial literacy page and then they start posting this shit... Unfollowed!LMAO, as you should! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 77 | When you follow a financial literacy page and then they start posting this shit... Unfollowed!Nothing is sexier than buying a man a suit as if you are his mum and he is 14 and about to attend his first high school dance. 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:35 PM |
| 41 | An old but good one on “forgetting the wallet” and restaurants.While this may be true, I would argue that rich people are aware that other's have less than them to spend, but they just don't care (like the guy in this story). What bothers me about the second screenshot, is that it implies that rich men aren't aware of the fact that other people may not want to spend large amounts of money on eating out. They simply do not know better! While, in reality, they most likely know ... they just don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 124 | An old but good one on “forgetting the wallet” and restaurants.If he was interested in her for real, he would have paid for everything from the beginning. This is such a tragedy lmao ... the fact that she even went to the restaurant with him after he told her that he "forgot" his wallet, yikes! Venmo wasn't brought up because they "trade off who gets the entire bill". Now, if we go by their [flawed] 50/50 logic, if he cared he would have suggested paying for everything that evening and have her pay the next two bills or something. He was definitely testing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:47 PM |
| 91 | God help the woman married to this manI'm a huge sports fan and have swapped work shifts with coworkers in order to be able to watch important games. However, I would never choose sports over my friends or family. Most male sports fans genuinely love their team more than their family/significant other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:02 PM |
| 181 | Why Does He Do That? Answer: Because he canGreat post! Women need to stop believing that, when a man treats them poorly, it’s because they deserve it or have some inherent flaw. Girl, the only flaw you have, is tolerating his behaviour! Most men do not care about you. The sooner you realise this, the easier your life will become. I also feel like a lot of women hang onto LVM because they are unable to accept the fact that a man just isn’t that into them. It wounds their ego, and as a result they start doing olympics tier mental gymnastic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 119 | Girl, you need the FBI, not relationship advice 😳Exactly!! He is ashamed of it, yet makes jokes about slitting her throat? 2+2=5 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:56 AM |
| 6 | Why 50/50 in the modern world is a scamIt is! Why should I go on a date with a man who shows 0 interest in investing in a potential relationship with me. 🤔 Going on a date with a man, being seen with him publicly and giving him your precious attention is priceless. These things elevate a man’s social status [to some extent]. Even though we don’t pay for the meal, women pay for dates in other currencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:53 AM |
| 7 | Is the perception of being nice or kind really so different for men and women?Straight up. As if men don’t laugh at others behind their back. A lot of men are extremely catty and love gossip - this is why they spread rumors about women who somehow “wronged” them. And they love trashing women they slept with when they are alone with their male friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:45 AM |
| 92 | Update: reining in the subThese are great! While I don’t mind seeing radfem rhetoric in the context of dating, it’s often in relation to outrage posting/fatalism and topics that aren’t relevant to the sub. When I visit this sub I want to see posts about dating, not screenshots of depressive and misogynistic incel manifestos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 05:54 PM |
| 20 | This 29F is scared to ask a guy to be exclusive but also is willing to move countries to be with him??The fact that she is willing to move to another country for a man who has shown 0 interest about the prospect of being in an exclusive relationship with her... This is why it's important to block and delete. Men who don't make it clear that they want to be in a committed relationship with you early on are a waste of time. He knows she wants a committed relationship, he is probably laughing about her and her utter desperation with his scrote friends atm. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:36 PM |
| 7 | He's a divorcee, ticks all the boxes but I need strategies on how to do more research🚩 Men who have kids and see them like 5-6 times a month. Huge LVM sign in my opinion. A father who loves his child would work out a 50% custody agreement. How can a parent be fine seeing their child ONCE a week? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Womem are "Gold diggers"Omg, I LOVE this and will def use it in the future!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:22 AM |
| 52 | Womem are "Gold diggers"I have two methods: A) I say something slightly rude, but in a chirpy tone, for example "Why are you so hung up on this? Haha, are you afraid you don't have anything else to offer women?" then I change the topic or walk away. Or B) I act like they really creep me out. I say something like "uhhh... ok....." and create an awkward silence before I leave. Or I am straight forward, but still act weirded out, and say "I can't believe you have opinions like that. So weird." and leave. If you go for B),… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:46 AM |
| 102 | Womem are "Gold diggers"I feel like the men who throw the loudest tantrums about ~evil gold diggers~ are upset because money is the only thing they can offer a woman and being reminded of it wounds their ego. Like, bro, if you think your wealth is the only reason women are into you, you need to work on yourself lmao. Ironically, most men with this attitude don't even make that much money in the first place? It's such a weird phenomenon. I'm very career oriented and focus on making my own money, but why should other wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:02 AM |
| 3 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?I hope I don't sound too full of myself, lol, but I'm in my 20s and feel like I did [almost] everything right. This is what I focused on when I was your age: - No online dating - No wasting time on men - Focusing on friendships, studies and my career I feel like the fact that I wasn't in a relationship positively affected all aspects of my life. Am I against dating at 20? No, but be extremely picky with men. I 've always been extremely picky (my mom used to be a huge pick me and doing to opposit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 08:42 AM |
| 6 | Have any of you experienced worse street harassment since lockdown?As if that isn’t bad enough he was wearing sunglasses, I wasn’t even able to see his face properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:54 PM |
| 51 | A take on the libfem stance on victim blamingMajority of rape victims know the rapist. There are conducted several studies on this. Being raped by strangers in a nightclub might be more likely in some areas or parts of the world, but it's not as common as people believe. At least in the West. And even if women dress modestly, we are still going to get harassed or assaulted by men based on factors such as out body type and our ethnicity. If you are a minority woman, you are going to get harassed no matter what. I have seen Hijabis get creep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:47 PM |
| 18 | FDS rules totally apply to all relationships and not just dating & What I learned from ending a friendship with an LVM friend.I'm so happy to hear that you kicked him out of your life! I don't believe most men are friendship material, and would avoid befriending them in the future if I were you. Most men don't see women as friends, they see us as vending machines that provide them with that sweet, sweet attention and emotional labor. They are also incredibly delusional and genuinely believe that there is a chance of you guys having sex at some point. I do believe men who are genuine and have good values are friendship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:52 PM |
| 26 | Have any of you experienced worse street harassment since lockdown?I am so sorry that this is happening to you, your post was so upsetting to read. I hate it so much, the fact that you can't even walk without being bothered. Men are disgusting. I live in a country where talking with strangers isn't socially acceptable, and during the weekend I experienced: - A lot of catcalling, men literally yelling at me like I'm a dog - A group of LVM were sitting on the grass while I was walking through a park. As I walked past them they were WAVING at me with their entire … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:37 PM |
| 101 | Is there anything about being picked like this to be proud of?@ my fellow woc: PLEASE love yourself, there’s no point in pitting yourself against white women like this.... 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 1 | How can I figure out what I'm truly physically attracted to, since we've all been coerced into having no standards?Thank you! Describing attraction is very difficult so I’m really happy this all makes sense 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 65 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?A man victimising himself because a woman he's interested in has standards... the absolute state of liberal feminism in 2021. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 48 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?Modern dating is just scrotes wasting women's time. 😐He's interested in a woman, but not interested enough to invite her to a proper dinner? At his big age? Men on dating apps don't want a gf, they just want different women to pay attention to them so they can get an ego boost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 28 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨Oh my god, I'm def using this in the future, this is hilarious lmao. The "give up, toss hands and shrug"-part has me dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 59 | How can I figure out what I'm truly physically attracted to, since we've all been coerced into having no standards?Personally, I don't have a check list of features that I'm attracted to. There are features I find unattractive though, like small thighs. So if a man doesn't have X amount of unattractive physical features I probably find him objectively good looking, but I'm not necessarily attracted to him. Idk how to describe it, it's more like the energy, or the ~vibes~ a man gives off. Combined with physical features I find appealing, that makes me attracted to him. This is why I've never tried, and never … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 90 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueI’d rather date a guy who works as a teacher because it’s something he’s really passionate about, than a sociopathic finance guy who makes 7 figures or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 133 | Men were not socialized the same way you were. Keep that in mind when you listen to them talk about women.This is so true! Especially the sentence about men craving attention, this should not be underestimated. Men will say almost anything to make a woman pay attention to him. Remember ladies, well-adjusted and confident men do not spend their time on forums like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inAre there any other things you can focus on? If you keep yourself busy and do things that make you feel fulfilled (everything from self care to working on a school assignment or a job project), you'll gradually start to forget about him. Good luck! You can do this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:29 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inI'm so happy for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 45 | Why you shouldn’t date down or give out sympathy chances - the manipulative strategies of low status men.Exactly! I think the fact that they finally managed to manipulate a woman way out of their league into going on a date with them makes them act controlling because they might "lose" the only attractive woman who gave them a chance. Deep down these men are extremely insecure about their status/appearance and because they have 0 self awareness they lash out at women instead of examining ways in which they can better their own lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouI see! It's difficult to know where the line is between bad jokes and calculated negging. A guy I know (who has never negged me or been rude to me) once told me that his friends would joke with him by calling him an "elephant" because he has gained weight, and he would reply with something rude about their appearance. I was like ...ok....? 😐Because it sounded very unfunny, but I guess that's just their thing? He seemed to genuinely find it funny. There might be a chance that the guy isn't neggin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:13 PM |
| 74 | Why you shouldn’t date down or give out sympathy chances - the manipulative strategies of low status men.Yes!! The worst thing is that LVM call men who are outgoing, take initiative and are fun to be around "bad boys". I constantly see redditors post stuff like "I never leave my house unless it's to get to work, will women find this boring?" and the comments are like "no a lot of women are introverted and like to stay at home! :)" coddling him as if there's no tomorrow. Yes, a lot of women are homebodies, but these low value scrotes do nothing but game with their friends while they are at home. It'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:04 PM |
| 66 | Many women are unsafe at the workplace.I remember back in hs I used to work in a small store where all the employees were female, most of us hs students. This man in his 50s would sit HOURS on a bench outside of the store and stare at us. He never interacted with anyone, just sat there and stared almost every single day. If we walked around the store he would move either left or right (while still sitting on the bench) and strain his neck so he could see us better. Security was never contacted because he didn’t do anything except sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 03:23 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Check-inLOL no way, oh my god what a loser. I love that you just laughed at him and said okay! But wow, that’s some intense negging. It’s really messed up to try to break down someone’s self esteem like that. Why do men act like assholes around women they are interested in? I’m nice to everyone, unfortunately a lot of men see this as flirting. Men who have obvious crushes on me (and assume I’m interested in them because I’m friendly) tend to have periods where they blatantly ignore me, but quickly sneak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Check-inLiterally wtf at men telling you that they find you “bitchy” to your face. Honestly, they sound intimidated by your self esteem and are trying to “humble” you by negging. It sounds like some of them genuinely like your personality though, as they want to spend more time with you and keep hitting you up (although most of them probably want to ‘conquer’ you by having sex). I’m sure some of them had a crush on you, but called you a “bitch” behind your back in order to impress their bros. This is a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:13 PM |
| 30 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouWhat kind of negs do you usually experience? The moment someone says something negative about me, alarm bells go off in my head. I think it’s because I am used to hyping up, and being hyped up by, my friends. When you surround yourself with HV ppl who want the best for you (which is kinda hard to do tbh), and are used to positivity, negging is easier to detect as it stands out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:39 AM |
| 210 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouIdk if this counts as a proper neg, but I remember one guy who I was friendly with online (not dating/interested in him romantically) saying that I had a resting bitch face and always looked bored in pics. I was like "no, my face looks really good actually" and he was like "K" and didn't really message me much after that. LOL. Irl, what works for me is acting really shocked at some guy believing I care about his opinion. I'm a very bubbly person and do that thing where I say something slightly "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:13 AM |
| 90 | Too many Pickmeisha’s are levelling up on their looks and not their mentality. It changes nothing except giving more men the illusion of choice.You made a ton of good points in your post! I fully agree! All the high value women I know - they may post the odd selfie etc but they don’t live /breathe male attention because they get enough unwanted attention IRL. They know that most male attention isn’t worth shit because they just see you as an object and will treat you as badly as the next woman. THIS! This is so true! I believe craving validation in some form is a part of the human experience, but I wish women would stop wanting validati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:38 PM |
| 69 | In a world full of disappointing pickmeishas, I’m thankful for creators like her. Been watching her journey since law school and I love how open she is about having high standards on tiktok, a platform where that isn’t usually welcomed.Instead of being productive and focusing on how they can up their income to be appealing to more women, men waste time on whining. A lot of women get breast implants because their LVM is a "boobs guy", but no one calls these men "pornsick parasites" or "implant insects". 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:20 PM |
| 116 | They hit on you when you look like crapWhy do men place so much importance on a woman's attractiveness? Seriously, what is wrong with them? Like yeah, women and men alike may be a bit intimidated by attractive ppl, but most women grow out of this after their tweens/teens. Men, on the other hand, are unable to even have eye contact with a woman they see as very attractive and/or put together. LVM don't act this way around women they deem as more attractive than themselves because if they get rejected by a woman they see as a "10/10" i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 40 | To my fellow WOC - if you date outside your race be careful of “woke” guys. There’s a good chance he’s a LVM putting on an act to impress you.Than you for this post! And I'm so sorry you've had to go through those awful experiences. When I talk about this issue, people often say "just don't date white men!", but this doesn't solely apply to white men. And depending on where you live, you might not even be around men of the same race as you. I'm also mixed and rarely do I see mixed men my age (not men with my background, just multiethnic ppl in general). Mono-racial men, no matter their race, keep fetishising me, but when it comes to w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 08:13 AM |
| 81 | Don't worry if you're not one of those "popular girls"As someone who gets a fair amount of attention from LVM: IT'S COMPLETELY WORTHLESS!!! YOU AREN'T MISSING OUT ON ANYTHING! I'm a WOC and live in a country where the majority of men are white. Let me tell you, the men here literally see me as an exotic trophy. Nothing more. There are men who refuse to look me in the eyes, but have no problem ogling my body as if their life depends on it. They literally view me as a porn category, it's so incredibly obvious in the way they look at me. Not to mentio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 39 | I hate everything about thisImplying that a woman this attractive would be in a romantic relationship with such a pathetic and ugly man is very sick and twisted...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 04:05 PM |
| 209 | This subreddit helped me avoid a LVM. Thank you.I'm so happy for you!! Getting rid of pickmeisha traits is difficult, but it sounds like you are getting there! This guy sounds like a creep though, and the friend groups seems very :-/ considering one of your female friends started flirting with a guy you were "interested" in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:38 PM |
| 68 | MEN ARE THE BIGGEST GOSSIPERSExactly!!! It's pathetic how much men care about other men's opinion of them and constantly compare themselves to their friends and coworkers. This is why they are unable to shut up and not spread rumours if they are jealous of someone. Especially when it comes to successful women who they see as a threat. I agree with you about supporting women, it's so important! Whenever a scrote tries to talk shit about a woman behind her back, I just start complimenting her and bring up her good qualities/a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:34 PM |
| 14 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureI’m born and raised in Northern Europe, but because I’m mixed, ppl (especially men) assume I’m from SEA/South-America. The fact that I immigrated from one nordic country to another as a kid, and refer to myself as an immigrant, strengthens this assumption. As a result, the men here tend to objectify/fetishize me and assume I have other (lower) standards because, in their eyes, I’m from a third world country and WORSHIP men with blonde hair and blue eyes. Ew. Or they put me on a pedestal because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:02 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020Thank you so much for your suggestion, I really appreciate it! <3 I'm a uni student, but moving back in with my family is sadly not possible. My other housemates are very nice though, so I'll survive! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:57 AM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020This lockdown is driving me crazy as I constantly have to be around one of my LVM housemates. He is a pathetic and nauseating little creature who spends all his time on playing video games and eating fast food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 03:57 PM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Be careful. Your tinder adventures seem to be a result of feeling lonely and bored. Why not spend some time on self-care and relaxation instead? Are tinder convos with horny guys really going to make you feel better? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 08:08 AM |
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