Whatsupmyman Archive

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1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. Yeah, im not insecure in that way, her attraction for me has always been on top, i have just led they way i lead, but yes im dead set shitty at setting boundaries that im not sure i need or want, i never imagined it would take this long to even establish any form of boundaries, if she strung me along and saw other dudes i would have exited earlier, but i fear she is afraid of me hurting her so she has not set boundaries and i have always feared setting any myself because of seeming needy. Your e…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 05:16 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. Yeah, i guess you might be right, we spend way to much time together so i always saw it as me not forcing any labels and being chill, i did not get mad but i would say i was visibly disappointed which i see being a weakness. I have seen her as a plate up until recently when i felt things moving into more serious ground, i wanted to keep cards open and now i realize that i was not comfortable with her doing the same, i know, stupid and double edged, what set me off was her texting at my home.	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 05:06 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. I see her as LTR material because we have had it drama free for 11 months and she has some great qualities, yeah, i should keep spinning and get new prospects, i really jumped the gun when i explained to her why i was annoyed, and it backfired, i was not even remotely aggressive or butthurt other than seemingly disappointed with her, i reversed it and asked her if she would be fine with me pursuing other girls etc, she cleary told me she would not let that fly.	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 05:02 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. I thank you for your answer and im coming to terms with you being right, in my head i saw it as me just simply checking her about unwanted behavior taking place at my home quite passively, me protecting my own strategy of only dating this girl alone because i saw it becoming serious, me saying "i dont appreciate this and do not like it considering im dating you seriously, but you do you if thats what you want" Your answer is good, and i know what you say holds alot of weight, i dont think it is …	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 04:37 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. Im good with being brought to the curb by you guys like that, but how do you play it? I did not want to be needy with her, i dont care what she does at her own place and time away from me, i just dont want to be disrespected at my own home. I would have determined and specified things with her if i was deadset on wanting a serious relationship. The way i see it im an idiot for showing her i cared, i should have shrugged it off despite it happening at my place, i know that now, ill learn from thi…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 04:19 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. You are right, i never got mad, i never heightened my voice, i never seemed mad only dissapointed, but this caught me off guard and im not a psychopath, i was visibly disturbed because i thought about possible outcomes that i do not enjoy and felt slightly betrayed, this as also at my own home so i felt that i was betting on a losing horse considering she texted a new guy at my own god damn home. I told her she could do whatever she wanted, i saw this as potentially going into LTR because i genu…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 04:16 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. She used to have alot of guys texting her but have kept them on the backburner, she is attractive and this seems to be the norm for any attractive girl i have dated, a few months into this it did not bother me, she never spent any time replying and didnt seem to care about them, but now i recognized a new guy (red flag) and also some old guy i doubt she has any interest for messaging her and her replying, this new guy illuminated it for me, like you said, her interest and attraction towards he h…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 04:10 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. Yeah, i know i set myself up on this one, she has not asked, i have felt the underlying sense of it already being semi exclusive, and to be frank i have left it up in the air because i wanted her to ask me and i have been very unsure myself because of not feeling too strongly for her, i have also wanted to keep my options up, but now that she messaged another guy while at my home i just felt bad about it, as i said, insecurity and FOMO(but not mostly missing out on her, but other girls that i co…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 04:01 PM
1	Girl i have dated for 11 months, texting other guys. To be honest i understand where you are coming from, all in all there is some insecurity on my part no doubt, i would be better of dating more girls including her since she has not brought up exclusivity, i just dont want the short end and she sure as hell aint messaging other men while my place without action from my part, i have only recently started caring this much but i can guarantee its not love making me feel this way, i wont be treated unfairly, and the timeframe + my investment has made…	/r/askTRP	13/04/21 03:44 PM