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| 1 | Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far."them to act like they haven't settled or lowered their standards for you" I'm blue pilled, but what's wrong with that? I expect my girlfriend to treat me like I'm the hottest guy in the world, even if I know I'm not, just like I would treat her like there is no woman hotter than her, even if there is. Feels like the least you can do to your partner. You make each other feel like you walk on the moon and like you could win beauty competitions. My last girlfriend was a bit overweight, but I still… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 10:32 PM |
| 3 | A Swedish NGO released a dating manual aimed at lonely menRomantic connections aren't that taboo here. Sure, it can create some drama, but it's quite common. In my last job at a translations office we had two couples form and later marry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 11:49 AM |
| 7 | A Swedish NGO released a dating manual aimed at lonely menI'm Swedish, and what he says may be true in the US, but it's certainly not true here. Like you said, he's viewing from a completely different cultural lens. Our community life is strong and tradition due to our collecgivist mindset. People of all ages, not just kids and old people, go join board game communities, dancing communities, sports communities, photography communities and such all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 11:47 AM |
| – | Why does the redpill ignore passport sisters and only focuses on passport bros?You must've never heard of older women who travel to Gambia then. We have a famous case in Sweden where a Finnish woman went to Gambia and married like 5 different dudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Average guys are expected to abide different rules when it comes to datingThis sounds very much like your own head cannon. I'm average as fuck and always gotten a kiss on the first date whenever I felt like we both enjoyed it, and wanting sex has always been met with positivity in my relationships unless there's something logical stopping it like her having a fever and is almost knocked out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 10:00 PM |
| 1 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.I live in Göteborg and I walk home every night I'm out drinking, with headphones on so no auditory awareness. The worst thing I've ever seen was someone who fell and hit his haöesd on the ground and there being blood everywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 06:56 AM |
| 2 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.What kind of society must someone live it to be in constant fear and in fight or flight mode around all men? I'm 36 year olds, and I haven't been in, or even seen, a fight since I was like 8 or 9 ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Sounds like OP lives in a country where the streets are actually dangerous and not a first world country where the only thing you have to worry about is if your bike is where you left it if you forgot to lock it. As a Scandinavian this post sounds paranoid as hell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Men who believe AI “girlfriends” can replace real women should be judgedFor some people it's just coping. Some people are bad with women and no matter what they do it never goes anywhere. If it helps out then at ease of mind I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it doesn't take ALL their time and they still try from time to time with real women and understand that AI is not a replacement. I mean, I've been on like 59 tinder dates since my last girlfriend 7 years ago and not a single one has lead anywhere. Just a lot of how wonderful person I am but they didn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 07:41 AM |
| 3 | How is it not male hypergamy to expect women at their peak to pair off with undesirable men?When you're in love with someone and doesn't just see relationships as something cold, hard and transactional, that your partner ages will not become a problem. There are tons of couples in their 70s and 80s who have been married for 50-60 years who still love each other and, if their body allows to, have some kind of sexual intimacy all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | The Anti-Woke is now just bigots and neckbeards.There are female witchers, though. https://the-witcher-fanon.fandom.com/wiki/Female_Witchers Female Witchers were thought to be a myth until after the Second Conjunction, when the Manticore School’s sorceress Nasira perfected the Cat School’s formulae and devised a selection process by which the chances of survivability were improved exponentially. Prior to the Second Conjunction, however, the number of female witchers was less than a handful, with even fewer of those individuals having known na… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 08:50 PM |
| 1 | The Anti-Woke is now just bigots and neckbeards."And obviously there were comments that Ciri is ugly, old and not sexy." Which is hilarious because she looks just like in W3. There's just one, ONE, bad angle that they latch onto to "prove" they "uglified her". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 08:48 PM |
| 12 | Prostitution should be legalizedIt should not be legal when only a tiny tiny minority do it out of their own free will. For every prostitute who does it without any problems there are 20 that are either forced through trafficking, addiction, poverty or mental health problems. Even in countries where it's legal such as Germany they have huge issues with trafficking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/24 10:00 AM |
| 5 | women have an aundance of BOTH casual and romantic options"I'm ugly, so if people like me that's because I'm so good as a person and so are they" Why word it like that? In actual relationships and not just short-term flings there's so much more to it than just physical attraction. There's a reason average or even "ugly" people have a higher chance of getting into a relationship then ever being the guy that gets to sleep around with a new woman every weekend. Because personality can compensate in a situation where you will live together and spend your e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 07:44 AM |
| 6 | women have an aundance of BOTH casual and romantic options"This right here is pure, unadulterated and uncut "women are wonderful" fallacy." And this right here is pure, unadulterated and uncut "women are sadomasochistic manipulators where everything social related is a scheme" fallacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 07:35 AM |
| 20 | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manEh, not all level 1 autistic people are like Elon. Many of them are barely noticable. People get surprised every time I reveal my diagnosis and say "but how? you don't look autistic at all!", with some of my girlfriends I never told until after we broke up and they was surprised. I think it's a very big brush to say that all autistic men are hard to deal with. Everyone is different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 09:29 AM |
| 12 | Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low?A lot of the time in the past you weren't alone in taking care of your children, but your family or even the whole village helped. It's much tougher work nowadays, when you are not expected to get help raising. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 11:19 AM |
| -2 | Women in relationships with male best friends?Your partner is your partner, and can't by definition be your friend. Friend is purely platonic, and even your best friend is still purely platonic. There are no romantic feelings involved, which there is in a relationship. Your partner can't be your best friend simply because romantic and plaotnic relationships are different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 10:29 AM |
| 3 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?There are tons of experienced men who are completely shit in the bed. As long as you aren't asking here "how do I know where the hole is?", you'll be fine as long as you actually try. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?you’ll struggle to find any women willing to give you a shot full stop Why? People break up and divorce every day, even at upper ages. Not saying he should use people, that's awful, but there is always a big single market, at all ages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:43 AM |
| 15 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?Dude, you are talking about other human beings. Manipulating other people, especially when feelings and emotions are a core part, is disgusting, and if some people tell you that you should do that you should dump those people and look elsewhere. Think about how she feels if she finds out she is just your training wheels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:36 AM |
| 5 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexI don't get why cleaning is such a big issue for some men. I find it relaxing and calming to clean. And a clean home (not super clean, I just vacuum and wipe a rug over my tables and surfaces. I also mop the floors like once a month) makes good for my mental health. I lived with one of my best friends whose room was a complete mess. Clothes and pizza boxes everywhere. I had to yell at him so many times to clean his room, like an annoying parent. (It was my rental apartment, and not something we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 04:22 PM |
| 11 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexAnd the mental load of providing 100% for you and the household? Finances, insurances, cars, home, food, utilities, appliances, electronics, networks, tv, entertainment, cell phones, subscriptions and anything to deal with the outside like the yard or maintenance of the home. That isn't the majority of relationships. Only ones where the man is rich. In the absolute majority of relationships both work and provide 50/50 to the household. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?Gloat* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?Why do you think women glost to their male friends about the sex they have? I have female friends, one of them being my best friend, who I'm not friendzoned to because I don't want them. We never talk about sex or relationships. We talk beer, video games, frisbee golf and such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 10:49 AM |
| 15 | Relationships are for losersAre we seriously so deep in the rabbit hole that wanting a family is seen as a loser thing? What I want more than sex is coming down and someone is at home, wanting to do fun stuff with me every day. Just cuddle down in front of a movie or make dinner to. Sex is nice, but that's far from the number 1 reason I want a girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 5 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Is it meant to, though? To me that's just the base standard and expectation for being an adult. I view it as having a job. You don't need to have a fancy job with lots of money, but you need a job or you fail at adulting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 10:32 AM |
| 9 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?The last paragraph makes me wonder how you survive when you're single. Don't you seriously cook (properly. Microwave dinners don't count), clean and do chores? Maybe I'm the weird one, but I find cooking fun as hell, and cleaning is necessary as I can't stand a messy home. Gives me anxiety every time I enter a messy, or worse, dirty, home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Andrew Tate: "If a woman marries a man and she decides to take his last name, then the woman is given to the man in marriage"Maybe not, but he's still not under the corrupt American judicial system. He's not buying himself out of this. If there's anything Romanians hate it's human traffickers because of how much they ruin the country. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Andrew Tate: "If a woman marries a man and she decides to take his last name, then the woman is given to the man in marriage"You seem to think he's currently in American jail, where money is king. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 06:21 PM |
| -15 | Title"females" incel energy intensifies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 05:51 AM |
| 4 | Study Shows ‘Man-Children’ Are Destroying Women’s Sex DrivesI don't understand why some men take pride in not knowing shit, like how to take care of a home. I have a few friends like that, and I swear they would burn their pasta if they tried anything more advanced than microwave dinners. "I don't need to know how to cook, my future wife will teach me". Fuck off! Cooling is great and most of all fun. You can make so much tasty food. I made a mean Shepherd's pie a week ago. It's such an ego boost inviting friends over to dinner and all they can do is prai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 12:32 PM |
| 14 | Women often complain about lack of male friendships and getting "fuckzoned". But the truth is, women generally just aren't as good of friends as men.Why are you writing as if getting into fights is common thing? I'm 33 years old. I've never been in a physical fight alone, or with anyone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 06:55 AM |
| 1 | "Autism Acceptance" is largely hypocritical virtue signalingI live in Sweden. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/22 05:08 AM |
| 1 | "Autism Acceptance" is largely hypocritical virtue signalingNot sure how it is in America but here that term is still very vague. You still count as high-functiining here if you need like a nanny to come home to you to help you clean your apartment, you get a tailored job in the, sorry for my French, "office for special people", who gets to clean the floor at IKEA and such, and has no friends and is a loner, but is otherwise "well-adjusted". That's one end of the high-functiining spectrum here, but then you have people like me with lots of friends, who i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | "Autism Acceptance" is largely hypocritical virtue signalingI see., thanks. I still wonder, though, how the numbers would look like if you removed all who are unable to even have a relationship. the number must certainl be much higher for those who live by themselves with no need for any support, who have a stable job and social competence enough to hold a good circle of friends. the problem is that we are, at least if I remember correctly, are a minority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 03:27 AM |
| 3 | "Autism Acceptance" is largely hypocritical virtue signaling"In fact, 98.5% of autistic adolescent males do not have sex, but 69% want to. 46% of autistic women are in relationships, but only 16% of autistic men are. Both are lower than the national average, but the percentage of autistic men in relationships is especially low." I would need a source on this, because I don't believe these numbers at all if you remove the people with autism so severe that they are mentally unable to have sex and relations. If you only count high-functioning people with au… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 09:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV: "I'm ugly" is just an easy out for men who can't understand the complexities of human relationshipsPeople in general are awful at taking good photos of themselves, the problem is that men in general don't care and we just want to get laid. My best friend have shown me several times what male presentations on Tinder looks like and most of the people have absolutely awful photos making them uglier than they actually are. Things like this, of course, drags the number of right-swipes down. Other things making people not swipe right is stoneface, or even stupid superficial things like a dirty mirr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:15 AM |
| 2 | I (25F) sometimes find the "I've never been in a relationship before" guys more attractive than the rest, am I just a major anomaly??I missed that last part, but don't downvote as per the sub's rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 11:19 AM |
| 0 | I (25F) sometimes find the "I've never been in a relationship before" guys more attractive than the rest, am I just a major anomaly??What things would that be, if you don't mind? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?https://techjury.net/blog/video-game-demographics/#gref I was wrong, it's 34 globally (it's higher here in Sweden though). I mean, it's not really that weird. 34 is the age that means people were born around 1988-1989, and probably grew up with a NES or SNES. This is around the time video games slowly started to lose the stigma of being a kid's toy, compared to the 70's and early 80's. That means people from this era wouldn't stop playing video games as they grew up and probably won't stop as th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?Haha, when Elden Ring came I could play for 6 hours straight, but I noticed that at 32 years old it was incredibly fatiguing. I wouldn't be able to do an all-nighter like in the past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?The video game industry is the world's largest, and the average age for people playing is around 37-40. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?Not my experience at all. They've had a problem with men being addicted to it, spending 3-4 hours on them each day. Some go overboard and say "I hate all men who play video games", but when you dig into it it's always they same. They had an ex who neglected them to play CoD for 6 hours straight. I've never had an issue with any prior girlfriend for gaming, but then I only keep it to 1-2 hours when I'm with them, which they are fine with and either watches or does something like knitting or readi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 02:27 PM |
| 0 | The myth of "settling"guys want to be loved and not just for their wealth/providability. Most people aren't wealthy, or even semi wealthy, though. Last time I looked, the median income in the U.S, across all states, were around 3300 dollars per month, which is similar to my country (Sweden). That's not really enough to hook someone in with your finances. So if they aren't hot either, what else is there that would drag women in? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:05 AM |
| 1 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?I see. I just went by what google says: https://imgur.com/a/lrussz0 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 10:59 AM |
| 3 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?I think it's more of the actual number being even makes Americans think of this as the magical height. 6 feet is 182 centimeters, and I've never heard anybody here in Europe having that as a preference. I've heard 180 cm, which would be 5'9 in America. Probably the same thing there, 180 is a nice "even" number. Point is, that height obsession is more for superficial reasons for the number itself, and not how the height actually looks in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 09:10 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itI think the sum varies by income here as well, but I haven't heard of anybody paying more than 250 dollars, and that's mid to high income earners. We also get 150 dollars for "free" from the state per month, per child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itWell yes, the state does jump in in some cases, like if the father is unknown (naturally) or if the father lives on welfare. Doesn't the state pay in the U.S if the father is unknown? If he has a job he still has to pay his sum (usually somewhere between 150-250 dollars per month). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 03:13 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itWell, not really. The man gets welfare because of his financial situation. From that sum of money the government subtracts a (smaller amount than someone with a job) sum each month for the child. So in essence no. It's the same amount of money he would've gotten if he didn't have a child, he's just getting less money for himself now because a part of that grant now goes to the child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 03:04 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itSure, the second is somewhat realistic (though I wonder how many really are willing to move to an entire country just to evade child support), but in the first case when you're poor you get welfare money, and the government takes from that money to pay for the child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:57 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itNot really sure how that could work. You need a bank account here to do simple things like pay rent, electricity and such since you can't pay these by cash. All honest employers also refuse to pay out in cash, think it's even illegal, and you need a bank account in your name (they won't accept any random bank account). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itWith how controlled pregnancies are? Dunno about the U.S but here it's impossible to keep a pregnancy secret from the state unless you live locked inside your apartment for the entire pregnancy. Then they are gonna ask questions when you don't come to the first post-birth checkup at the nurse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:50 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itDon't you have a government agency for that? Here, if the father refuses to pay they simply take the money from his salary. Same system as when someone is on debt but can't pay. Then the agency steps in and takes money directly from your salary transaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:39 PM |
| 3 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itThat's when you make a worried call to the CPS. Not sure how good they are in the U.S but here they take neglectful parents very serious and he mother in question could get her child taken away | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:36 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itHow would that even work considering many people get children out of marriage? And no, that wouldn't necessarily be in the best interest of the child. Many children who get traumatized by their parents fighting day and night, who get a much better life when the parents split up and form some kind of amicable, or at last neutral, relation to one another instead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:35 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itI live in Sweden, one of the top countries when it comes to welfare. Sure, there are a lot of grants single parents can apply for, but the other parent still has to pay 150 dollars per month. If they didn't, our taxes would be raised and they are already high enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:29 PM |
| 2 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itSweden. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:23 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itYou are speaking from a standpoint that focuses on the parents. There is a child that didn't ask to be born that needs care for. Again, child support isn't meant to be a punishment. It's to give the child a worthy upbringing. The child shouldn't be punished because the parents can't get along. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:23 PM |
| 0 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itWomen, after birth, can give the child up to safe haven anonymously and never have to financially care for that child. That would be illegal in my country. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:16 PM |
| 0 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itDon't know how far along you are allowed to make an abortion in the U.S, but here it's when it's still a fetus at week 18. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:14 PM |
| 1 | People promoting male financial abortion don't understand that it's not to punish the male, it's to help the child with what's best for itThere is a huge difference, though. If the woman walks out, there is no child to begin with that needs to be taken care of. The woman can't avoid the financial responsibility either when the child is out. Even if the father takes on the role as the main parent the woman has to pay child support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Explain to monkeBecause it's not so much a "punishment" for the father as what's best for the child. If the father didn't step in, then the state would and imagine all the taxes needing to be paid if every father did a financial abortion. Again, it's what's best for the child, who didn't choose to be born. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 10:15 AM |
| -5 | Why do redpillers separate people in low and high quality?Of course I do in some areas, but not in dating because of how dynamic it is. You can't control who you fall in love with, and the feeling is as intense with every person you are in love with, at least for me. So in romance, hierarchies don't exist imo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/21 09:08 AM |
| 2 | If you’re of average genetic physical looks and are “incel,” the actual “black pill” is that you are involuntarily romantically uninvolved because of your divergent personality and malsocialization.A prostitution model like Norway or mandatory classes teaching relationships is probably the best solution to this problem. What? Where it's legal to sell but not to buy, like in Sweden? Sure you're not thinking about the Netherlands and Germany? Because prostitution is extremely taboo both here in Sweden and Norway. It's literally social suicide to admit you visited a prostitute here. It's close to a cardinal sin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 02:46 PM |
| 9 | What's with PPD's obsession with sex, and not the other wonderful parts in a relationship?I am a guy. I'm not a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 04:22 PM |
| 8 | What's with PPD's obsession with sex, and not the other wonderful parts in a relationship?Never said I didn't want it much. Just that it's not the most important part for me. In my relationships we had sex every day we saw each other, but it was always the cuddles and intimacy outside sex I looked forward to the most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 13 | What's with PPD's obsession with sex, and not the other wonderful parts in a relationship?Sorry, meant guy, haha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 02:20 PM |
| 13 | What's with PPD's obsession with sex, and not the other wonderful parts in a relationship?I'm also a gym for clarification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Men who don’t value friendships with women also don’t value relationships. They just want sex.I don't get why some men claim that women only talk and don't add anything to the friendship. I've had female friends all my life, and we've all done fun shit, and helped each other when we've needed each other. For instance, my current best friend I've helped move, as has she helped me move. She also helped me set up a roll-down curtain because my Aspergers makes me a clown in physical work (can't get stuff straight at all for instance, as my fine motor skills are fucked up (one symptom of the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/21 01:59 PM |
| 4 | Men and women can be friends, the only reason you don’t think so is because you aren’t willing to be friends with someone you aren’t sexually attached to.Wrong. It's because even when I was friends with a female I was not attracted to, I was expected to perform boyfriend type duties (ask me to help them move, ask me to help them fix things, expect me to listen to her problems, etc.) How are those boyfriend tasks? I do those things for my friends all the time, male and female. Those things are called being a good friend, imo. Those things is also returned by my best friend, a girl.She helped me move, she helped me fix things (together), she also l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?I have also seen the opposite one of my chad friends would bang 5+ women a month on cum encrusted sheets that he had his mother wash once a month. Because they aren't in a relationship with the woman. When they are, expectations are higher on your personal hygiene and household. I don't give a fuck if a woman lives like a slob if I'm just gonna have a one-night stand with her, but I sure will if we are committed to each other and I get to see her house more than once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?No, for every adult who was raised properly. Don't you clean your home or cook your own food? Do you have a maid do it? Doing chores isn't about being alpha or beta. It's about being a well-functioning adult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 06:25 PM |
| 5 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?Of course you don't do it to improve it. It's basic expectations in a shared household. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 06:21 PM |
| 5 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?That's not what I asked though. I asked "does everything have to be sexy in a relationship?". Sure, she should be attracted to you, but there are days, like my friends say, where you are gonna lay down in bed sick and your ass stinking like shit. Probably the least sexy situation in a relationship. Nobody is supposed to think it's a sexy situation, just every day life. That's what I'm talking about, that not everything is about sex in a LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 06:17 PM |
| 6 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?Is everything in a relationship about getting her horny, though? Not everything is sexy in a relationship. Like my friend use to say; the strength of your relationship is in how much you can tolerate her laying in bed in fever, with her ass stinking of diarrhea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 06:11 PM |
| 4 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?I mean, you can still be above her but still be a responsible adult in a shared household. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 05:23 PM |
| 6 | Why do so many men here seem to not enjoy doing things for their partner?And what's wrong with that? I don't want a lazy slob for a girlfriend either. If I'm the one doing all the chores and she's barely doing anything, I'm gonna break up with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?I think it may be trying to compensate for the fact that in the past I just sat in front of a computer and played games all day and barely saw anyone. Now I Love meeting friends. I still don't have many friends, but unlike girls that's not because I don't know how to make friends, I'm great at that, but because of my introverted personality. I don't have the energy to have 20 different friends to juggle between, so I settle down with like 4-5 max. Every relationship is different. I know that it'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?I mean, I'm definitely not the macho guy you see lifting at the gym 5 times a week, but I don't see myself as feminine either. Emotional maybe, bit not feminine. I've had girlfriends, about 3 of them short term. I think my problems with girls relate more to my Aspergers diagnosis than anything tbh. I've managed to train myself socially in all other areas really well, but fan is the romantic social life difficult to understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?Doubt that. I've even seen her half naked as I followed her to the plastic surgeon as an extra pair of ears for her boob job. I felt absolutely nothing but being a good friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:26 PM |
| 7 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?It's a punch in the gut because I get reminded of my own failures. It happens when male friends meet girls as well, but since I'm closest to my best friend I don't know how well and well off they are in the short-term department, only when they get an actual girlfriend they make official. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 8 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?Yes, but not jealous as in HER relationships. more of the level "I'm jealous because she has an easy time getting relationships and not me". Subtle, but important difference imo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 07:10 PM |
| 4 | Do people IRL "really" care whether or not their partner have friends of the opposite sex?It says that I have trouble getting girls, not that people have cared about me having a girl as a best friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 07:06 PM |
| 1 | What exactly is the "transactional" in the theory of transactional sex in LTRs?I'm not ok with it. I hate living in a pig sty. Like you said though, I have friends who you have to yell at because they don't do their own cleaning, and it's nasty to go home to them. What I meant by that paragraph was that you shouldn't see itas a transaction if you clean to get sex. Cleaning, and doing your half, in a relationship should be a given. It's not "clean and you get sex", it's "clean and you're not a pig". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/20 02:55 PM |
| 3 | What exactly is the "transactional" in the theory of transactional sex in LTRs?Depends if I'm looking to hook up or look for a relationship though. If I just want a quick lay I just go to the club and try my luck. There are no dates involved there. Chad also has to go on dates if he wants something more long term. Dates are meant to make you find out if you are compatible on an emotional level. if Chad wants live with this woman and start a family, he also has to start out with dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 8 | What exactly is the "transactional" in the theory of transactional sex in LTRs?Not sure I understand the problem. If I'm in love with a girl, I want nothing more than to spend ALL my available time with her. Now, I try not to forget about my friends and spend time with them as well, but I have never felt like spending time was a must in a relationship, it has just come natural to the point where I want to spend time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/20 05:36 PM |
| 5 | What exactly is the "transactional" in the theory of transactional sex in LTRs?The thing is though that Chad most likely isn't in a LTR with the girl. This isn't a case of what Chad can skip out on or not, it's what expectations there are set between strangers and partners. There are many people who are friends with benefits who aren't Chad that still don't pay, because it's not expected in a non-relationship. As soon as Chad enters a LTR with a girl, and especially when he moves in with her, he is also expected to pay for things, as is "beta Billy". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/20 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Why does PPD make it sound like every male and female friendship is the woman using the guy?I mean, I can't read her mind but we've talked about it. I'm of the simple opinion that I got no feelings, lol, while she's more of the "you're my best friend and it would be so weird and I don't want to ruin what we have"-camp. She's also actively dating and I've met a few of her dates that were in the "maybe there's something more..."-camp, so I don't think so. We also hung out yesterday and I saw that she was swiping on Tinder while waiting for her turn (we were bowling). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 10:29 AM |
| 4 | Why does PPD make it sound like every male and female friendship is the woman using the guy?Have you ever caught feelings for one of your female friends? If so, how did you deal with it? Yes, once. I handled it in the most cringy way possible tbh. Borderline nice guy-territory. My confession was an A4 paper filled with how I felt, and then I got really sad for like a year. That was about 8 years ago, and thankfully I've learned a lot since then. Nowadays, I just fail because I can't read signals for shit due to my Aspergers, but I take rejection with grace and don't get sad anymore ¯_(… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 10:01 AM |
| 3 | Why does PPD make it sound like every male and female friendship is the woman using the guy?Maybe. I'm absolutely awful with making girlfriends, or even casual sex, happen though because of my Aspergers. I'm no virgin, and I've had like 2 or 3 relationships for less than 6 months, but I'm definitely not what people like to call a "Chad". I'm great at making friends, however. Always have been. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Are there really "leagues", and if so, why should you still not try and go for it?I see it more like "I can't offer the exact same thing, but I can offer this instead". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 7 | Don't men here want love, want physical (emotional) contact and intimacy?Basically, there's a lot of talks about hook-up culture and how great it is and how LTrs are "tying a man down, nothing to chase after" in this sub. I don't get that thinking at all. For me, LTRs are the ultimate end. Nothing is comfier than laying down in your couch with your girlfriend and just being close. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 05:52 AM |
| 7 | Don't men here want love, want physical (emotional) contact and intimacy?haha thanks. I actually do get quite a few dates. Getting past the first date is quite hard though. Thanks, Aspergers for giving me crippling body language reading difficulties 😁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 05:49 AM |
| 2 | If women are "addicted" to Dark Triad men [and research seem to support so], then why wouldn't men aspire to become narcissistic and machiavellian psycopaths?Because not everything is about sex. I'd rather be a decent human being and get a little bit less sex, than be a total douche that gets all the sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/20 11:42 AM |
| 2 | Are a lot of tips and ideologis here americacentric?Isn't a big part of it that marriage is a bad thing because of alimony? What about egalitarian countries where, after divorce, you split only the things you've bought together as a married couple 50/50? Doesn't that take a huge part of the ideology out of if? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 05:26 PM |
| 6 | Are most people who can only imagine fucking young girls (18-24) around the same age bracket?I can't remember exactly, but I remember starting to have suspicions when I heard about it for the first time when I was 18-19. Things like having an extremely hard time having eye contact, beind the "odd-ball" in school, having a monotone voice, being "a little professor" as a child and such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 03:32 PM |
| 12 | Are most people who can only imagine fucking young girls (18-24) around the same age bracket?I have an official diagnosis by a psychologist since 21. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 03:28 PM |
| 15 | Are most people who can only imagine fucking young girls (18-24) around the same age bracket?Not really. I have Aspergers and was lousy with girls up til like 25. Still not an expert, but at least I get laid from time to time now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 03:07 PM |
| 8 | Would you be okay with being a girls beta bucks?I never liked this theory, because it assumes that the majority of BB-men waited for the same girl through her, according to TRP, AF years. That definitely happens, but I'm willing to bet my left nut that the vast majority of relationships, even those above 30, don't start off with the guy waiting 5,10 or even 15 years for the chance to be with her. They probably meet at a bar, at a dance class, in the grocery store, through online dating or whatever else when they are both 30+ and don't know an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/20 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Should close friends of the opposite sex be allowed in a relationship?Yes, he and I get along really well. I've followed along both of them to his family when they celebrate christmas because my parents live in another country and my other relatives celebrate christmas a bit later due to everybody not being able to at christmas eve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Should close friends of the opposite sex be allowed in a relationship?"Every girl I knew like this couldn't make friends with women and it was a very bad sign." In my case, she does have female friends, but she does have more guy friends, true. Like 3 female friends and 5 guy friends. "And are you in a relationship with a chick or are you single?" Currently single, but I've been in a relationship while I've been friends with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/20 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Should close friends of the opposite sex be allowed in a relationship?I'm personally okay with it, but there are a LOT of people who have a problem with it. I don't understand why, which is why I made this thread to hear their perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/20 06:19 PM |
| 8 | Do women "really" hit the wall at 30?I think that can be explained with there being many more younger people on OkCupid, who they themselves filter women to around their own age, so that her 30 year old profile doesn't even appear to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/20 08:12 PM |
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