WhoDatSayDat Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
34	How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS? Agreed! Me, too. I’ve saved SO much time and avoided so much drama.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/22 12:47 AM
14	You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross” Oh goodness… you know how smart you are to have gotten out? I had an ex hold a gun to his head once. My therapist later told me, “Do you know how easily it is for a person to go from here [fingers to the head like a gun], to here [fingers pointed at me like a gun]?” … I am so proud of you for following your instinct and getting OUT and away. … That sounds like it was awful…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 01:48 PM
36	On "Roasting" THIS. “The Verbally Abusive Relationships: How to Recognize Them & Respond,” by Dr. Patricia Evans, points out that physical abuse never starts out of the blue. You see it in language first. I love this book because the ‘how to respond’ part gives great examples of the language of abuse and many examples of how to stop playing into them. This book was HUGE for me as a first step in healing after being in a relationship with a bona fide sociopath. I was young. Almost got irreparably pulled down b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/01/22 01:43 PM
16	On "Roasting" 😢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/01/22 01:27 PM
32	On "Roasting" Yep. NEXT…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/01/22 01:23 PM
73	A Curated Selection from OLD Pretty much. Almost happened to me in my last relationship. …. So DONE…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 05:35 PM
131	A Curated Selection from OLD As a single, unattached Realtor, I SUPPORT this 1,000%!!!!!! That’s exactly what I’ve been doing for the last 20 years. Happiest I’ve ever been in my life! 😄💪❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 05:33 PM
1	you're not toxic. Me, too. She gave me vocabulary for what this sub is for me. :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 12:33 PM
2	you're not toxic. Yeah. “Hostage away from you!” 💪	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 12:22 PM
29	I Met My Friend's LVM During The Holidays Good for you for blocking and deleting. Life is too short to spend near disempowering assholes. As for meeting new friends, I’ve had a lot of success meeting and making new friends by volunteering in my community. My favorites include being a behind the scenes volunteer for events related to the dramatic arts or environmental conservation (i.e., ushering, breaking down a set, picking up litter, planting marsh grasses, organizing events). Maybe pick 2 passions, see what’s in your community and re…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/01/22 01:34 PM
166	Wife’s message to husband on Tinder He should leave. She should keep the house.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 01:56 PM
98	Dont mention your standards omg… THIS! All of THIS! I am putting ALL of this into my collection of “things to say” when… 😂 THANK YOU, Goddess!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/21 02:22 PM
47	I did it. (TW: r*pe) Onward, Warrior! I am SO PROUD of YOU!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/10/21 12:04 PM
37	I finally said NO to a narcissist Re: “…really waking up with the FDS pod” ~ I feel the same way. This is the support group I’ve always needed. GREAT JOB finally saying no! Great job, also, in recognizing the pattern in the first place, identifying what is okay and not okay for you, and navigating your own terms. Queen, that is outstanding! Keep leveling up!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/10/21 10:11 PM
1	Found out a man I went on 2 dates with with was married (and not divorced 4 years as he said) by searching public records online! Here's how to do it. It shows a person’s current & past addresses, what property is in their name, financial problems like bankruptcies, and their full criminal record (everything from traffic violations & up).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 12:28 AM
17	Just a list of SOME of the red flags I've overlooked... Over almost 5 years Aw, wow… I’m glad you’re OUT!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 05:45 AM
33	Found out a man I went on 2 dates with with was married (and not divorced 4 years as he said) by searching public records online! Here's how to do it. I’ve recently subscribed to TruthFinder.com. WORth EVEry PENNy. I use it for personal and professional relationships. I’m tired of not knowing who I’m dealing with! I feel a lot better having more real data. … Protect yourself out there, ladies!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 05:38 AM
45	Gabby Petito Thank you for posting that Ted Talk link. ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/21 03:01 AM
5	Can we talk about how being with a porn addict seriously impacts a woman’s psyche, body, and life? Yah. ❤️ Poorly worded on my part! The jury is still out on him as a whole. Lotta pluses, seems to be acting like a HVM, but I’m being hyper aware to EVERYthing. 😂 You all are helping me be REAL about it!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/09/21 09:17 PM
4	Can we talk about how being with a porn addict seriously impacts a woman’s psyche, body, and life? He does get rock hard at the sight of me. I’d rather not be crass and get into the details of something that happened ONE time. It’s something I’m aware of, that can have more than one reason behind it. I love you guys, and mainly wanted to share the interesting episode on porn addiction. ….. Careful to not shame a girl for something very lightly touched on. ;)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/09/21 09:06 PM
5	Can we talk about how being with a porn addict seriously impacts a woman’s psyche, body, and life? Not jumping to conclusions. It’s too soon to tell. Super grateful to this community for keeping my eyes wide open!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/09/21 07:18 PM
34	Can we talk about how being with a porn addict seriously impacts a woman’s psyche, body, and life? One of my favorite podcasts recently featured an episode on porn addition. It delved into the neuroscience of it. Not sure if I’m allowed to post a link, so anyone that would like to hear an interesting, pretty science-based episode on porn addiction, search The Lucas Rockwood Show, Episode 476 (August 11, 2021). This episode informed me a LOT.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/09/21 04:26 PM
12	I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit. Brave Warrior! You will crush it! Keep going! You’ve GOT this!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 12:33 AM
30	OLD as a business strategy This. Whether I was in my 20s, 30s or 40s, this.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 12:09 AM
4	Female Thriving Strategy What she said. Everything she said!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 12:07 AM
5	A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats? Feather in your cap, if you ask me. He has no power over you. Delete/block everywhere you can, screenshot the evidence just in case, and hold your head high that you knew his true colors before he showed his true colors. You are a Queen! P.S. And, yes, be careful as you always are by locking your doors, being aware of your surroundings when out, and having some kind of security system. Beyond that, own the fact that you are Betty Badass and saw right through him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/04/21 02:44 PM
2	Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!! Whiny bitch. Figure it out instead of keeping a score card. Carve out 10 minutes in the morning and at night to take out the trash, wipe down the counter, sort and throw in a load of laundry. Your lady is telling you she’s maxed out! Instead, he used time to create this post. He’s definitely not a HVM. Hope she DTMF.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/04/21 02:24 PM
47	Never thought about this until I came across the idea today. The comments miss the point but I think you all would appreciate this type of discussion. I think as women we recognize there are better ways to be in this world besides crass and demeaning.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 01:33 AM
3	Not even surprised So much wow in here! ❤️ Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/21 11:08 AM
11	Really eye-opening interview of a SW named Reilly. There’s an entire series of heartbreaking but fascinating stories of SW on this channel if anyone’s interested. This one in particular stood out to me because she’s been at it for years Wow. On so many levels.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/21 01:53 AM
5	Scrote that I dated 23 years ago feels entitled to my emotional labor & tries to stalk me on Instagram “... at this rate I figured the scrote owed me over $1k!!” I LOL’d at this! Invoice him. I’ll help you draft it. 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/04/21 01:07 AM
31	Not even surprised I went through SO much. ❤️ Yes, I AM doing BETTER. Thank you for your reply. I’ve been doing physically better for more than 6 years. Now I’m doing emotionally better because I’m hanging out here and getting my eyes wide open!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 05:04 PM
8	Not even surprised Oh, THANK GOODNESS!! I hope she doesn’t sign...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 04:22 PM
30	Not even surprised ❤️ Thank you. I’m getting a lot of strength and clarity in FDS. I appreciate your response.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 04:20 PM
39	Not even surprised Yes, yes, and yes. That’s what happened to me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 01:10 PM
23	Not even surprised First of all, DO NOT BUY THE HOUSE! I am a licensed agent and I don’t care what you have lined up in the way of movers, plans of where to live, etc. DO NOT BUY THE HOUSE! Do not sign. This is not a partnership that is okay to be in. Buying a house is a major investment. You could set yourself up to be in financial ruin. There is no scenario I can think of where you turn out okay! Maybe he executes a Quit Claim Deed (gifting it to you) immediately after closing, but why would he? He’s still on th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 01:08 PM
14	It’s been a month So proud of you!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/03/21 03:56 AM