WhyAreYouUpsideDown Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-1	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup I don't hate the community as a whole in the sense of hating each one of you because you participate in it. I hate the dehumanizing language and idiotic "system" that lurks in the community. I'm sure this subreddit contains many charming and thoughful people, but nevertheless it may be criticized for its "culture". Every subreddit has a culture. Yours is pretty sexist. I think you should address it honestly, without the panicked, stubborn defensiveness. Your dismissal of me as a prejudiced "hate…	/r/seduction	01/05/13 09:10 PM
0	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup Also, you're right to say explaining PUA to your mother is a bad example. But explaining it to a love interest? If my boyfriend told me he thought of the first time we had sex as "f-closing", I'd dump him immediately. It's not just a term. It's indicative of a larger mindset in which I became a goal for him, not a participant in a nice encounter. Even for one night stands. Imagine telling a girl you just slept with that she's an HB7 and you're glad you n-closed her, when instead you could say "f…	/r/seduction	01/05/13 08:37 PM
0	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup I replied further up, but here's a part of my issue with your lingo: There really is a difference between having an opinion on how much you'd want to date someone, and using a simplistic, dismissive rating system that reduces a person to one number. It may seem like a reasonable "abbreviation", man you're just trying to make it easy to immediately sum up a girl! But there's a whole field of psychology that deals with the fact that abbreviating and labeling lead to dehumanization of the labeled g…	/r/seduction	01/05/13 08:25 PM
-1	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup There really is a difference between having an opinion on how much you'd want to date someone, and using a simplistic, dismissive rating system that reduces a person to one number. It may seem like a reasonable "abbreviation", man you're just trying to make it easy to immediately sum up a girl! But there's a whole field of psychology that deals with the fact that abbreviating and labeling lead to dehumanization of the labeled group. Look up P. Zimbardo, Paul Bloom, Albert Bandura, Google Scholar…	/r/seduction	01/05/13 08:07 PM
1	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup It's shameful that you think of interacting with a woman as a hoop you have to jump through to get in her pants. And if you don't like the way she treats you, DON'T HANG OUT WITH HER, SHE'S OBVIOUSLY AN ASSHOLE. Also "just to get laid", as if getting laid is your right after a certain amount of time in the presence of a girl. That's shameful. Dude. You never really have the "right" to sex. That's not a thing.	/r/seduction	30/04/13 04:01 AM
1	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup I can't speak for all womankind. I'm sure there are many women who don't have a problem with the language you guys use here, and many who enthusiastically buy into talk about "alphas", "betas", and all the psuedo-evolutionary psych babble you guys toss around. But for me, I see evidence throughout this entire community, not just the "bad apple" posts, that using PUA fundamentally changes the way you approach interacting with others, and women in particular- and the change isn't for the better. L…	/r/seduction	30/04/13 03:43 AM
-13	Billy's Guide to Learning Pickup Become a whole person, one that’s just in search of another whole person to share the adventure with. See, you say things like that, which makes you seem like an alright dude. But then you're looked up to in this community that, according to my thirty-minute perusal, is centered around a framework of treating women like we aren't people. I.. don't understand.	/r/seduction	29/04/13 06:49 AM
1	Total newb at talking to girls, is this an ok way to start? Well. Why don't you talk to her like she's a person? Ignore the part where you may or may not want to bone her, and just talk about normal things pertinent to the situation you're in. Seriously. We're human beings too. You don't need a strategy.	/r/seduction	29/04/13 06:44 AM