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Yes, OP, have you been/ are you having sex with her?
/r/RPChristians26/03/25 03:08 PM
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THIS. So many times, in real life, NOT JUST IN COURT (as not everyone reports to law enforcement and then go through the whole process), that due to such cOnSeNt, the verdict turns out to be "She literally asked for it. He wasn't (THAT) wrong." Women need to wise up that such "consent" WORKS AGAINST YOU. It works in the do-er (usually male, how unoriginal)'s favor. You may feel good now with the sugarcoated term, but when you start to feel like sh!t and realize that's it's actually abuse, it's l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/23 03:14 PM
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It really feels like gaslighting because we've literally seen how millenial women were treated and abused. And when we're concerned and validly highlighting it, they seem to want us to accept the poor treatment they receive too??? I don't think the Gen-Z sisters who have been enlightened will change our minds, because we've seen what they've gone through. Being hurt from past relationships without healthy standards, being strangled in kinky sex, cheated on, manipulated, unfairly degraded by the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 06:45 PM
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You're the one shoving down a narrative different from reality. 😅 Are you the millenial the podcast is about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 06:06 PM
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Except that rollercoasters do not have personal motivations that could be used to abuse you. It's an object, not a person. Sex is carried out with the other person, not with an object. Thrill seeking adventures and sports are also common among all genders, unlike strangling during sex which is usually done to women by men. The NARRATIVE being pushed upon us is this. When we witness how the older women before us are starting to reveal their regrets and are still traumatized about it. So many sing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 05:23 PM
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You call yourself "degenerate"... I'm curious if you, as a man in the US navy, like being strangled?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 02:24 PM
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Guys who love to be strangled need inner healing as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 02:21 PM
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"Kink-shaming" could have saved Elizabeth Chambers's time, and so many other women's lives. Including previously abused men who have trauma. Newbies on here, please learn from Elizabeth Chambers and don't follow her footsteps. Skip directly to the healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 02:07 PM
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Thanks for sharing this. This is exactly it. Inner healing should have been the priority instead. It has been a serious effect on not just her, but you too, when you had to be the "next do-er". It must have been hard for you too, in terms of navigating things with her, from what you've shared, about it being really hard to do for you but you still did it to her anyway. Must have been so much desensitization going on. I hope she's healing and doing better. And that you'll also bring up how you co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 01:56 PM
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This sub doesn't need your respect that you don't want to give anyway. You're the one who needs more self-respect. We'll always welcome you here because we don't want women regretting then come crawling back in tears when something happens in the future. Ignore the downvotes you get (because you keep mentioning it). Your scenarios only work if the porn is for women. However, the REALITY isn't. It's made BY men (the one in power behind the scenes) FOR men. Even after porn, the men CONSUMING the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 10:53 AM
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Did you take in the logos part instead of just ethos? Why did you skip the part that BDSM acts are INTRISICALLY bad? You could ignore others' credentials (ethos) and others' pain, those who HAVE experienced it and were just like you (pathos), but facts are facts. Which is why consent does not matter in the discussion because the acts are bad. It's not kinkshame. Use more logic. It's also not outdated. More and more people in society are realizing this. Either you open your mind (how ironic), or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/23 09:13 AM
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⭐️No one is born and wants pain+pleasure together. Why do babies cry when their needs aren't met? Imagine causing pain to a baby. Would you do that to a baby? Then why would you let a man do that to you? :( To those being strangled, have you considered healing first, before getting involved in any sex acts that LV man use you for? Sexual desire is not the same as respect. Sexual desire is also different from being cherished. Do you want to be cherished by a man who loves you? Understand why Armi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/23 11:24 PM
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Good that you're educating yourself. However, have you considered healing first, before getting involved in any sex acts that LV man use you for? Sexual desire is not the same as respect. Sexual desire is also different from being cherished. Do you want to be cherished by a man who loves you or not? Understand why Armie Hammer could no longer carry out BDSM with his wife. The madonna-whore complex is very real among ZV and LV men. Seek healing first before being TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF by him. Check …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/23 10:45 PM
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Yes, because the action requires the person's hands to actively and intentionally restrict airflow of another person. Intentionally stopping the survival of another. Why would any lady want their man to have no empathy and is cruel?! If he's already willing and/ or likes strangling you now, what makes you think that he'll help you in surviving next time when something bad happens? Ladies, let's THINK!!! STRANGULATION being indicators of such serious life-and-death matters means a lot. It's NOT j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/23 07:22 PM
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STRANGLES! It's strangulation, not choking (on water/ pieces of food/ air when not breathing right)! Counts as DV too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/23 06:58 PM
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He can't 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/23 12:34 AM
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Exactly! It's like they can't wait to turn on their loudspeakers that they actually have when a woman is involved as part of the "perpetrators". Whenever the women who are their neighbors get abused/ disrespected by their husbands in any form, these men act like it's none of their business. There were articles, interviews and books literally on how Depp abused/ caused fear in women, before he got together with Heard in the recent past years. Such as him destroying things to cause fear in his exe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/22 12:27 PM
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Wow, this is IT! Thank you for summarizing my thoughts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:38 PM
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I wish I could respond in such a way!!! 😂 Savage. But I'm afraid of potential retaliation ugh. Don't want to get punched or dragged off to some other place :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:34 PM
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Yes, men who do that are sadistic so expressing our true thoughts of being hurt, or even showing them that, ouch, we do care about what they did, would please them internally. Scrotes do not deserve contentment. Don't provide entertainment/ pleasure after being disrespected in such in-your-face ways. Cutting them out of our lives without letting them know any more links of information about us would be the ideal. He will NOT appreciate the "second chance" because his core being is already rotten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:29 PM
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Yes. I've witnessed how Sulli of K-pop group f(x) tried taking back the narrative and owning it but she still succumbed to all the harrassment by hanams/ scrotes. It's not empowering because that is what exactly the LVMs like and LOVE. They are a sadistic bunch. We can't afford to be idealistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 02:43 PM
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THIS. There are many "male mentors" around me who would be viewed as HV fathers generally, but since I know their children (who aren't the typical rebel/ angsty teen nor LV) and the dynamics they have, I am able to see beyond the public behavior/ acts. If other people (who are in the same age group as the child of the "HV father") find the man awesome BUT the child herself/ himself dislikes/ isn't close to him, it's because something isn't right. There is ALWAYS a reason that their relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 06:56 PM
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Yes! I was thinking of such scenarios too when asking myself if I would want kid(s) someday. Would make a good conversation in gauging his perspective of being a father too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 06:34 PM
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Agreed. These were also making me go 🤨 when I was reading it. Yes, she might be anxious and acted LV-like, but with good reasons yet uncovered/ deeply understood. 🤔 Furthermore, he agreed to the re-evaluation of their relationship in a few weeks or months time?! His logic is weird, isn't it? So he'd already told OP about their break up (for him to look for other women via social media, likely) but also would like the offer of keeping OP as a back up? 🤢 He sounds like the type of guy who works ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 08:24 PM
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Yeap. Another sister highlighted that men like these are likely to be mass sending out such messages to others (do her colleagues get targeted too?) so OP should continue to be cold towards them. Ignore them so they know that they should stop trying because OP can't be messed with. Only allow them to be associated with her at work, at the workplace. Maintain boundaries. She does not owe them any responses over social media etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 09:20 PM
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No, a true boss move is to walk up (which he did), take over the mic and raise awareness of her condition, which Chris would then have to apologize in front of everybody. He would have no choice but to publicly apologize to Jada on the spot (which she deserves because C is trash). However, Will walked up and chose violence instead. Both men should not be praised. I agree that C should stop his sh*t but Will was being LV too. Handling it privately is not effective in making C stop his sh*t on Jad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:22 PM
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BINGO. Jada STILL deserves better after W punched C.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:13 PM
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Great analysis. Thought so too. He seems to be a huge narc. I don't get how people think he's defending her, because of what you've mentioned. He's the type to want all the attention on himself when voicing out issues that others face, instead of bringing the others up to let them express themselves. I used to be fan of Jaden and knew that this couple have been facing many issues. I've never believed his usual image. PR exists for a reason. They must be overworking now. He wasn't wise with his b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:54 AM
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Haha😂 Even in terms of fashion! I've noticed how similar (and BORING) men tend to dress themselves. Most men in my area literally only wear black, white, grey and brown. Sometimes blue. That's it. If you called up ten men and get them to stand in a line side by side one another with their backs facing you, they would look the same. Like Dude, is that it? It's not visually pleasing or attractive usually. Since they're such vIsUaL cReATuReS, perhaps they could apply it when it comes to their fashi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 06:00 PM
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Even for women's NON-sexual pictures, there are already so many men stealing them and then using them to pretend as women online to solicit money from other men/ "trade cute girls". 🤢 Scrotes have already been dehumanizing and objectifying grown women and actual girls before OF. Not only is it status quo, women on OF made it even more convenient for men to take part in their depravity. Those who think that OF is financially empowering are lying to themselves. Imagine men you don't like using you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:35 PM
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Some Queens here have taught me that society has normalized STRANGLING to "choking", as if it was choking on food bits or water. 🙄That niceguy really tried it. He's secretly afraid of women getting and banding together. 🥰We're no longer taking sh*t from men, collectively. They should stop perceiving WLW as a threat or challenge. We see through it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 03:40 PM
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Wow thank you 💞 FDS brought me here. So thankful for this community
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:13 AM
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These would really help in vetting to see if he truly cares and cherishes the relationship! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:00 AM
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I agree with this! He is SO bothered by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:33 PM
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Prevent yourself from using the word "just" too. Unless it's about rightful fairness. You are making an impact. Don't downplay it yourself. Why? Because there will be some men who are gonna downplay your ideas and/ or achievements! To those who are having doubts, please know that being extra respectful towards LVMs at work will NOT make them respect you back! It's the same for downplaying yourselves, like those that were mentioned. Little changes in the words we use when communicating ideas can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:21 PM
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Indeed, different people can have different ways to show affection. However, does he already know that you feel more satisfied with him showing affection through hugs etc., other than his usual ways of affection through purchasing items and maintaining the home during your recovery? Or does he not know (hope it's this)? It would further boost your contentment as you heal if the both of you share a common understanding of the ways you view affection, right? Take care and all the best, Sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:49 PM
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I'm always observant of the vocal "I am an ally" type because usually, they end up wanting the attention on them instead of actual women and our life experiences. Words can be meaningless. Use the ACTUAL RESULTS of his social actions for vetting. He could be taking up the space meant for women's voices by talking or acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:30 PM
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Yeah, it's about them. However, other men in other categories might then start to regard women as objects. Women are priceless. ALL women are priceless. We shouldn't give any bit of a chance for rich men to think that they can get away with being LV just because they accept our views on finances and support us financially for being "high maintenance". Not to mention the creator condoning other "less expensive" women (what?) being treated like sh!t by ZVM/ LVM. Pickme women should work on themsel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:11 PM
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But isn't it hypocritical to condone her "living in a man's world" when you believe that "men are historically trash"? Why can't it just be a world? If femininity is the true foil to masculinity then misogyny should have ceased to exist since ages ago because women were behaving in more socially constructed feminine ways in the past, no? Isn't that just the status quo, then? I personally embrace my femininity but think that things are much much more complex than just femininity and masculinity. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:44 PM
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✨Love this. Not to hide our light but keep the access of LVMs getting to us blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:58 PM
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Yes, a "no" should be enough. Don't waste any saliva or energy pretending to be dumb because even pretending to be dumb won't make LVMs go away LOL. 😬 In fact, it would ruin our image. More LVMs would love it. "She doesn't know how to do anything, even the basics? Cool, she must be rather dumb. Now lemme exploit her. 😏" Think like a LVM to counter-attack them. They are scared of leveling up deep inside. Being capable with "high maintenance" standards would be a huge turn off to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:55 PM
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She is shutting down her innerself and acting stupid. This feature was just her lying to herself and brainwashing others to become pickmes. I AM SURE THAT THE EX MIGHT EVEN BE SMIRKING IF HE WATCHES THE VIDEO! 🙄 Then brag and talk sh*t with his other friends and female friends (including some who know the lady). According to the bible and God's standards, monogamy between a woman and a man is crucial. Some men (especially prominent ones in the OT) had many wives because after Adam and Eve ate th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:40 PM
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☝️This. It's so clear to see through the ones who aren't serious but talk big, acting as if they were. That's why we shouldn't let them cloud our judgement. Stay clear-headed when vetting. Observe them for a while and it becomes obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:31 AM
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I think it's a combination of all that you've mentioned. Surveillance cameras being used more are also contributing to the changed phenomenon. Social media too, if women and pre-victims use them right. For instance, cancel culture is beneficial sometimes because they prevent the bad actions committed by certain people from becoming worse. Potential serial killers are being called out online and in person nowadays. An important thing to note, from Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear, was that we s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:24 AM
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Instead of genuinely self-reflecting on the ways they treat the women in their lives, they are being pathetic with the manipulative ways. "girl" 🤢 Literally justifying what we've been expressing when we need to interact(nah) with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 08:38 PM
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Yes, she needs to read and re-read the handbook. In a follow-up comment, she mentioned that he pays attention to her. Nope, he actually had the audacity to use "oh time passed" when he was having fun with his friends without giving a single care for her. A HVM would be able to manage both his relationship with the lady and his friends. And the letter incident too? One reason OP still remembers all these is because they bother her. And it's good because it's her intuition. OP, he ain't treating y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:02 PM
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Real life experiences like this are why NVMs and LVMs are just not worth it, AT ALL. Don't even let them start anything, ladies. Chop it off at the first 🤨 sign before they ruin your friendships and relationships with other women. Women's connection get ruined because of their toxic brotherhood, cover-ups and gaslighting. She IS a pickme. BUT she has also been struggling. Unless she herself breaks it off with the guy, whatever your actions(or lackof), would be triggering for her. The issue is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:20 PM
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One of my mentors at work taught me that but then I realized that this might kind of negatively affect our image when we "accept" the neg. At least that was what I saw when others talk about her behind her back. Sometimes LVMs at the workplace might CONTINUE "blaming" a woman via negging as a "punishment" for whatever. I guess it really depends on the situation as OP had mentioned, because the KEY is to communicate "I'm not someone you could mess with so you can stop trying" to the person saying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 03:53 PM
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Great post that also highlights the importance of nuances and being aware of the degree of our strategic responses due to the various circumstances. We absolutely do not need to be nice when the neg was to humiliate us into silence and to do more to please them LVMs smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 08:33 AM
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IKR 🤨🤢 That part stood out to me the most too. If a woman really posted that, then she sounds like she has low self-esteem and is someone who is easy to be manipulated into accepting and loving breadcrumbs. The post has strong "I'm not worth it" vibes 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:45 PM
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😡Driven drunk countless times?!? He's a parasite at home to you and a potential murderer outside! You're back on the right track, Sis. 👏Your happier life is starting now! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 05:42 PM
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At first I thought OP could observe a little more first. But I checked out the comment history after this comment and yes, the crux of the issue is clear after her other comments on another sub! 😕 Sorry but he hasn't been showing HV qualities. Those shared elsewhere were alarming, in fact. It's a no-no. I hope OP trusts her doubts and focus on leveling-up. He is aware of her insecurities and seems to know how to manipulate her already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:50 PM
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Hmm it seems like the degree of his views and beliefs are not fair for you/ women. For it being done on you, he mentioned it as in the whole penetration on top of emphasizing a wrong biological and anatomical fact. He is showing his bias. So he's okay with a finger? But if his point 3 was real, wouldn't he, by default, treat it like whole penetration DONE ON HIM, when you were telling him that? Realize how he scaled it down for himself when you maintained your boundaries and opened the discussio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 10:11 AM
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How did he respond when you told him about your third point of you possibly doing anal stimulation on him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:49 AM
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IKR, point 3 was. Whut? He was trying to psycho her into believing that, for his benefit only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:31 AM
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👏I love your comment! Sexual display and sex zoo for men. 🤯 The difference in the production design and marketing of such clothes and products really do make a difference on the way people in society perceive the other sex. It's like the controversy of women wearing tight leggings. Men shouldn't affect how women wanna dress ourselves. Don't eye-rape others. But the fact is that our clothes are usually more body-hugging than those marketed for men! Even the materials are usually thinner or more t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:48 PM
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Thanks for sharing the documentary. I almost didn't know what or how to feel after watching just a part of it. So many mixed emotions, including anger, sadness and hopelessness at the state of reality... Will be watching the full thing when I'm ready in the near future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:16 PM
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It's a doc named Eyes of the Devil by Patryck Vega (2021). He interviewed people in Europe who were/ are involved in human trafficking and featured mothers who sell their babies either to child brothels or as organ donors in the undergound black markets that involve elites who try to hide in the dark. Reality is harsh. I only managed to watch the first quarter of the >1h doc. The first mother showed signs of depersonalization towards herself. Not surprised that she would treat her baby like that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:09 PM
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Same! Considered myself demisexual too, then realised that it should be the default 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:45 PM
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Not to mention, surgeons are ranked among the top when it comes to psychopathy levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:16 PM
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For this case, it's likely that her family consists of pickmes with $ too. Not that uncommon now among the current generation of couples who are at the typical age where the parents of both sides expect their marriage. Especially in Asian culture. The mothers with $ would rather their SIL (before he even proposes which is 🤡) be "accepted under the wings" of the woman's family, because that older generation of women went through the more traditional SAHM lifestyle. They don't want their daughters…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:12 PM
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🥺YES, THIS SO MUCH. I almost went through what she had experienced, but with my mom. It was on purpose. The quick decision to be made. The false teaming. "What? You don't want to let me know the PIN? Don't you want us to have breakfast? You wouldn't want me to stay stuck here like a loser/ get chased out, would you? C'mon, people are watching." Manipulating and forcing her to be nice for his benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:26 AM
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☝️THIS. He was using it as a window for other cash withdrawal purposes. He made use of that moment when she was vulnerable (just woke up and became conscious). False teaming then act pitiful too. It's narc abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:19 AM
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I've been in a similar situation, but with my "mom" instead of some scrotish thief. That moment you hear them ask for the PIN when you just got up, is overwhelming and thoughts would be in the mind to link things up. She did manage it well. Thank God she was not FURTHER manipulated. Such stuff hurts for a long time too because you'd feel like you were taken advantage of when being vulnerable, in a very loud sense, because the first thing you had to do when you became conscious was to be forced i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:16 AM
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My N mom did that to me. The NVM in her case did the same thing. They did it when we were asleep and unaware DELIBERATELY because IN THE FIRST PLACE, OUR CONSENT DON'T MATTER TO THEM. They only asked for the PIN at the last moment, right before needing to key it in at the payment counter, because they thought that we wouldn't want them to "cause a scene" when shopping. He was playing the toxic "don't let society shame us" card by acting pitiful. See the buying breakfast for "us". NO. She did not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:59 AM
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It's because his hand is near your head (delicate segment of the human body) while he's doing something with focus. Proxemics of him using his body in an intimate angle to navigate both your positions via controlling the vehicle. Demonstrating safety and care for you, with his upper body movement. I find those moments pretty nice too lol. Update: New thoughts... Fckbois like to use this "tactic". I now believe that men do so because the only suitable/ best place for them to place their hand for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:40 PM
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💀 (Sorry but I think we all know the direction she's heading towards). Let's hope that she can understand FDS and see the kindness behind your concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:27 PM
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Your health is more important than pleasing any suitors with sex. The implications and aftermath of sex is different for us. That includes mental health. Vet mercilessly. Ignore the brainwashing attempts from the pickme. 2 months of getting to know each other better OR being together? She sounds like she'll be dismissive if you bring up FDS to her now. However, you could always share aspects of FDS that link to her current situation discreetly so that she starts to view her relationship differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:16 PM
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But the consumption level of those that hurt women is much higher than that of the other demographics. THAT NORMALIZATION is the issue here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:59 PM
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But could her husband be the actual one with infertility issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:49 PM
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It can only be done when you're truly happy with how life is for you that he becomes too lame to be even thought of, lol. Leveling up and being good for yourself are key. It's not narcissistic because it should be the default. Toss whatever brainwashing/ lovebombing info that he'd placed in your mind away. The selfish him is gone for a reason. Keep it up sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:39 AM
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The "she's just a mad/ crazy woman" has been used for centuries throughout the world to shame and lock women into their solo-silence and slavery of all sorts. Some people also have the audacity to pretend that they don't know what caused the "insanity/ mental illness" after society treats such women like that. Blocking society's attention and helpful resources from getting to such female victims of the misogynistic system. 😡 Good that the Winter Olympics period focusses on their reputation. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:51 AM
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"'Cause they don't want you to use your brain. They want you to continue being a dumb b***h" 👏 Yes, a man who hinders you from thinking/ becoming wiser/ experiencing growth and development intellectually ain't it. Oh, and gaslighting with negging too. When a woman is confused, parasitic men would find it easier to use her. Block and delete them, queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:31 AM
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🤯 This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:24 AM
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😲 I have no doubts that scrotes think like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:42 AM
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Criticism of capitalism includes the alienation theory. Women with OF are being alienated from their own humanity, being treated like they're only worth as being objects and holes to be viewed by scrotes. OF traps them from reaching more and higher levels of jobs that men themselves prefer. Why? 'Cause they are also afraid of the competition when many more talented women join their professional industries. Such manipulation from men and pickmes prevents ladies from reaching their best and full p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:36 AM
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It's like scrotation report. The ONLY good thing of having such a male friend around, is for intelligence purposes. Just don't get manipulated into contributing to his social value to appear good in front of the other women he wants to "bang" (likely the kind of word that he prefers using🤢).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:23 AM
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Yes, criticize their actions because noise is needed to wake them up, but have empathy for them too, because they're the victims as well. The positive side is that more and more women are waking up and getting it. I've seen how the women before me have been treated by NVMs and LVMs, and it's honestly time for their lives to start getting better. It's a NOW thing. Not talking about the wrong actions would just enable the exacerbation of the problems that harm women. Other sisters on here have hig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:13 AM
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☝️☝️☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:12 PM
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See how he uses the c-word. If he really loved his mother, shouldn't he at least have the basic respect for women? It's just that the only woman who loves him is his mother, that's why 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:06 PM
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🤯 Thanks for putting this into perspective. That's the crux of the issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:59 PM
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From my understanding after reading his post, I thought he knew but didn't care. He literally admitted that he knows that the chocolates were a bad gift but he went on with it anyway. He's so illogical...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:38 PM
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Except they don't, according to doctors. In fact, his "gift" could have harmed her 🙄 Why OB-GYNs warn you to never insert a yoni egg into your vagina (https://www.insider.com/yoni-eggs)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:35 PM
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She wants to do 50-50 with him by moving in. That's about the finances. Who knows if he would request other stuff or fake incompetency in house chores or something. It's too risky. Needs to re-read the handbook and re-evaluate the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:14 AM
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I just. can't. Please do not walk into the nightmare on your own, OP. Re-read the handbook. Reconsider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:09 AM
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His facial expression looks happier than the energy and emotions her eyes show though 😕 She made a wrong decision...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:02 AM
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I wonder if they rushed it without the other people's blessings. Pews seem kinda empty. Sometimes outsiders' perspectives can highlight the emergency of red flags to the lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:01 AM
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Yeah, he wanted to make her feel guilty (for no reason, on her side) and test her current boundaries, by making good use of the day to do so. Coward behaviour. I also agree with the others that he might be back again. Need to be cautious since he's been preferring physical contact rather than through the mail. He's even blaming her without any rational thought. Everything about this encounter of theirs feels "off".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:49 AM
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😨😱 Cancel culture should be relevant to such celebs! Why aren't these well-known enough?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:42 PM
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Furthermore, it seems like they want different things out of their relationship, at this point of time... Different stages of life, that's why. But he didn't propose so not really too. Seems kinda lacking from his side huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:35 AM
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I've always avoided men who're obsessed with his shoes. Stop funding misogynistic men like him :/ Mental illness does not make it okay to hurt and insult others. His narc level surpasses his outdated "art".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:24 AM
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THIS SO MUCH! I'm now wary of men his age who're getting their PhDs because when you see how other women are preparing for theirs, men just seem to default, focus on their PhD and that's all, while women usually juggle other things as well. The stage of life he is at is much older. He's still a potential, not successful, that even OP secretly feels so too. This is true. Until he gets stable earnings with the PhD that he's still currently pursuing, nothing about him means much. If you've moved in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:09 AM
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YES!! 👑 I absolutely agree with and LOVE the last paragraph you've shared. The amount of brainwashing on young women can be hard to manage sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:41 PM
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Not even kidnap. There's a term called "童养媳 (tong yang xi), where young girls are raised in the boys family, somewhat like a foster situation, to groom them into the sons' wives. I've personally known of a case like that. I wish that kind of thing has died but I think it might still be happening :/ The boy is about 25 currently. He's been LV since young because of how the family treated the girl. The worst thing was that the pickme mother was a pre-school teacher! The family had invited the youn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:29 PM
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Same. Being wary is good. The bar has been so low for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:04 PM
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"one step closer to justice", indeed! Many more steps, here we come! ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:59 PM
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Any info of his background being released? His SES could be playing a part here too, other than being a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:22 PM
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Exactly. I feel like it's too early for celebration now. At least her relationships with her neighbours weren't ruined because of the cheating scrote! Where I'm from, the number 1 anti-crime advice that police give to communties is "Know your neighbours and be friends with them". She was successful in NOT BEING ISOLATED (in terms of nearby relationships).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:53 PM
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Pretty sure he lurks and stalks women and our behaviours. He's been taking down notes, but all in the wrong ways and for nasty reasons 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:24 AM
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😂😂😂 Yeah to the "ok bye". Not gonna waste time nor energy on them. Let them beg for attention elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:54 PM
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He wants to be seen as an ally to women on the online community to make himself feel like he's a "woke and cool" dad. He failed, though, because we can catch a glimpse of his true perspective on porn. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:45 PM
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😕 This part stood out to me too. Superficial. Usually LVMs pretending to be feminists can't cover their gaps at the end of their posts (that function as a channel for him to gain "woke" points). He's choosing to act blind towards the coercion and manipulation of women (and girls) behind the scenes, in front of his son. Society has come to a point where EDUCATING KIDS IS NOT ENOUGH to save women and the future generations of girls WHEN THE DEMAND FOR PORN CONTINUES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:38 PM
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Lurking mothers who've been stuck and feeling lost, number 1 may be challenging now, but you're still capable of leveling up! Take it step by step! 🌹 Be STRATEGIC. Listen to YOUR lawyer and not fall for the other side's tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:36 PM
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Love this so much! Could you make it a post on here as well as perhaps on the other more women-centric subs to rescue breaking mothers who might be in such circumstances?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:15 PM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:10 PM
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👏Amen! Those men who are against porn now are still about "me me me and my dick", but that day will eventually come. Misogyny from hypocritical LVMs must end! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:06 PM
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Wow I've recently joined a class with such dynamics and this is so true! My professor is a sweet lady, knowledgeable in areas outside of the subject we're taking too, and well-spoken. However, I noticed that the male classmates with blue-collar working backgrounds (they bring out their backgrounds whenever they start to talk to her), who look older than my professor, would interrupt her and clarify issues in class with mean vibes. The not-so-subtle kind of resentment they give off can be sensed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:09 PM
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Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:08 PM
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I see. Gonna keep this in mind. I personally do not want tattoos but find certain tattoos on men cool. Didn't think much on the area like the neck though. But now, will be remembering this anecdote you've shared :) Better to be safe than sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:05 PM
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Why are neck tattoos a sign of problems with authority? I was thinking about it after searching for some stats but couldn't find much on neck tattoos specifically. Left another comment with my guesses btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:59 PM
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I'm intrigued. How come?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:55 PM
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Did the cop specify neck tattoos or tattoos in general? Does anyone know if there are studies or statistics of people having neck tattoos being more violent or prone to commit DA, like how strangling once highly links to more strangling and homicides? The neck part of the human body is special — the jugular veins, facilitation of breathing, projection of voice etc. In most Asian cultures, the neck and head are sensitive parts that are "off limits" to strangers. If the cop meant neck tattoos spec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:52 PM
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Whut?! 🤮 Can scrotes just gather together and vanish. Leave the poor pickmes and their basic dignity/ humanity alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:54 PM
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Yes, these! Which is why we need to share FDS with more women so that pickmes can revert and be saved (they're trapped and lost). Metadata can also provide certain info to the scrotes preying on women. Stay vigilant, sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:54 PM
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For those familiar with the semi-revealed operations of Epstein (and Ghislaine Maxwell), other than modelling job opportunities, parasitic abusers can also pretend to "invest" in women. J Epstein funded the trainings and classes for the teenage women, such as learning how to fly planes etc. Other than being a sex slave, young women were groomed and trained to be his private planes' pilots. As a woman, vetting literally saves your life – vet for everything, vet beyond romantic relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:47 PM
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This!! It's so immature. Why do they even do this when they could be using the time and energy to do or say something more wholesome for the relationship? There's a difference between being genuinely thoughtful and cute, vs highlighting their pretense of being caring (when they're in fact sadistic — trying to test boundaries or upset women). 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:34 AM
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"... Loved by all, ..." NO. You didn't love her. Right from the start, the ending was set to be somewhat tragic. I can't stand how her family members who are older adults are being devastated now. Where and what were they doing before she became a mother of the two children whose lives were set to be more challenging than those with much healthier family dynamics?! Such devastating real life statistic should really wake the pickmes up. The scrote in this case is an evil coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:25 AM
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You're amazing! How do you carry the pocket sand along with you? I assume it's great for blurring the vision of aggressive male attackers. Sad that we have come to this, just to safely get away from being harrassed. I've watched a show recently that's somewhat under the historical/ fantasy genre, and two queens who were able to use "poison" were debating with a male character that if men could harm women with their biologically stronger physique, why couldn't women use "poison" to defend themsel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:14 PM
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Any K-pop fans here? I remember finding it so refreshing when f(x)'s Victoria said that she practised acting from being on the show "We Got Married" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:23 PM
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Of course it's also fake to a large degree. The story angles of the finalised version for broadcast were intentionally picked out from the total footage filmed, and then intentionally edited to be the way they are. The majority of the participants are there to promote their businesses and themselves. There has also been a lot of online commotion about participant Ji A (beauty creator and influencer).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:21 PM
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"She would say it's just acting too." He still had his ex in his mind or whatever (yes, he's in therapy trying to overcome his hurt feelings and trauma, but). The current woman would just be compared to his ex all the time. & that's an extremely tiring and LV relationship. It's not fair for the current girlfriend even in the first place. Being always compared to the ex, in his inner being. But Mr Sensitive wouldn't care about it because to him, his feelings from the previous relationship until t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:46 AM
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During the promotional activities season for Justice League, I remembered reading some fanaccounts of how female fans noticing that Gal preferred to stay away from a few men of the cast and stuck to the rest instead. Most of them are LVM 🤢😑, including HC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:27 PM
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😂 He does not sound stable AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:07 PM
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WHOA about the asthma part. I haven't thought of that before. I used to over-rely on my asthma inhalers and would feel being safer if I could inhale more puffs. Thinking about it now, the inhaler might not be targeting the root cause back then... When I was a kid, I was able to sense and understand the difference between correction and verbally abusive threats. So whenever the abuse starts, and I'm not allowed to cry or be a nuisance any further, asthma attacks and chokes would then start to hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:16 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if that was his intent, other than a psychological condition or mental illness(hair-related types aren't uncommon), because scrotes do enjoy degrading women. In his mind, it could even be like "I get to shower with her and do nasty things TO her, and she puts up with all of it😏". 🤢 So much regrets from opening and reading this post 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:54 PM
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Exactly! So much vulnerable and essential info that he might've known (because he has already proven that he'd explored and started using his sinister verbal tactics on OP). In fact, I think that before OP gets the fck out ASAP (ASAP!), she should double check all the security devices she has with her, as well as check the place she lives in for hidden trackers/ cameras because he sounds and IS a LVM CREEP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:43 PM
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I see. Yeah, HV would include the healthy mindset of "couple(F+M) vs problem".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 03:29 PM
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Could you explain further? Does it mean that it's lovebombing if he gets annoyed rather than becoming genuinely concerned about the simple thing that could pose as an annoyance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:51 PM
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Yes, remain disengaged. Make him feel bored but keep your defenses up and ensure that the people around you do the same! They NEED to grey rock him too, or they'll drag your safety and wellness down. He sounds like a SERIAL problem to women. The legal system can't get him unless there's evidence of him doing worse than what he's currently doing. A RO doesn't do much and might anger him, like what Gavin had witnessed and written. If OP has enough time and financial resources, the best case scenar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:18 AM
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For your part 2, would you touch on the way they sit together? What's the general strategy for seats? Like on the yachts, most sat opposite each other. But one pair sat side by side. (Update: This was referring to Jia. But apparently, OP does not think much of it as doing so means chasing men?) Personally, I feel that if I'm comfortable enough with the man, I'd rather sit closer, side by side, when having a meal and talking to each other, instead of sitting on the opposite side (more like an int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:58 PM
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Your analysis of Hyunseung was so true. Yeawon's more caring and bubbly than the others. The "buddy" vibe she gives off (with the welcome back hugs and all that) is different from the vibe that's relevant to a romantic/ sexual relationship between a woman and man. I noticed how the men do little manipulation tactics on one another (e.g. telling the other men that the lady he went on the trip together with had a bad side, in order to make them feel turned off so that he can keep her – making her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:47 PM
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Yes, that smile! 🤢 I think when the show first started, he was the main factor to attract viewers, as well as the actress. He has many female and male fans, but unfortunately, they fail to recognize, nor have any empathy on the people (usually women) he mistreats verbally. Most of SJ are actually LVMs with unhealthy attitudes towards their female peers. IIRC, he had also been marketed as one of the more intelligent members on shows before. Feels like he's the "silently get the benefits too" frie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:06 AM
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Thought the same! Hope his career gets better because he seems sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:15 AM
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I dislike SJ's Kyuhyun. He's a LVM from the way he treated KARA (intentionally sl*tshamed his idol colleagues when he knows how much female idols are mistreated and more heavily scrutinized) and some of his labelmates (SNSD). However, some of his comments as well as those from Hanhae are interesting despite not really explaining much (I feel), because we're able to gauge how other LVMs (like Kyuhyun 🙄) view the dynamics between the women and men, and that most of the times, LVMs actually do "get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:51 PM
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This observation is so true! Love how Jia just does her thing. Tbh, most of them took part in the show to promote themselves or their businesses, except maybe not so much about this for Jiyeon. After the first trip to the luxury hotel, I mentally facepalmed when Jiyeon started to actively go to the men's dorm to get to know them. However, it seemed like she was not that interested in any of them from the indecisive manner she had when picking a man for the second trip. She studied abroad but in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:39 PM
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No one's dragging them about it. My family's the same. The posts on here by ex sex workers' regrets and life lessons to levelling up, and those that highlight men's madonna-whore complex are more beneficial for younger women and girls to not be fooled by the misogynistic brainwashing propagated almost everywhere. This tiktoker's content does not educate younger ones on how porn's bad in terms of basic human decency and respect for women, but is still based on selfish reasons. The only and only g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:03 AM
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The main thing is that the video in question is still problematic. I'm his age and the bar is so low for men. He was all about "me and my d*ck" and is still being interested in "getting action" with plural girls. Even if young men or male teens look up to such role models (have better standards, seriously), they're still not admitting and voicing out that porn IN ESSENCE harms women. The best thing kids should learn is to be confident in themselves to become their own role model. I understood wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 06:38 PM
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This! Number one rule is to avoid any engagement. If afraid of being followed, then wait for a longer time with a crowd (check the demographics). Always trust your intuition (I've read Gavin de Becker's book, The Gift of Fear, and it gives insights, tips and reassurance).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:17 PM
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He literally said that. Condoned and empathised with scrotes' basic sexual needs, "girls". His choice of words for his argument is still LVM standard, unfortunately. But at least the demand from some young men who are his followers may decrease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:04 PM
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Not to mention the many young women who were/ are directly (indirect are to women outside the porn "industry") exploited, do not get any "second chances" or defense from society whatsoever. Once they do porn, they're like shamed by society forever e.g. employment issues. Why defend and try to sympathise or empathise young men when the young women are being hurt more? We should provide more support and resources for the women. This TikToker is just doing the bare minimum, in fact, less, as he is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:58 PM
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👏THIS. "pornsick entitlement mentality". BTW, your username's interesting; I like it. I'm against the term "Karen" because men who behave like a "Karen" aren't shamed as much. It's sickening how men and pickmes are so okay with the humiliation and degradation of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:53 PM
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EXACTLY! They STILL DON'T RECOGNIZE that porn makes them view women like objects and dehumanizing is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:48 PM
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How could change occur with that mindset? I get not being rash but that means that some women are still okay with the status quo and do not seek changes to address the gaps and concerns faced by other women🤷‍♀️ How could women's lives become better if we just do what we're told and stay in place? Why not push for more resources to ensure justice for all women, instead of having things remain as status quo when they're mostly set by men? The process is complex but little steps can be done. Femini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:12 AM
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Erm, so what are your thoughts on her attitude towards him (you didn't really answer it)? It's not about blaming her for his behaviour. It's whether we should learn from her, if she's a role model, when having the platform/ power/ resources, to actually do (at least express) something for women's rights and not be part of the problem by letting "boys be boys". To me, not calling him out when she has the ability to, tells a lot about her. I'm following the Ghislaine Maxwell trial and realised tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:09 AM
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Just curious. What are your thoughts on her attitude towards Prince Andrew?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:05 PM
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Such job suggestions are good; please consider the advice and support here, OP! We're rooting for you. Look for those that offer a place to stay and maybe even meals. Taking care of children could also be less stressful than dealing with adults sometimes. But also apply vetting strategies on employers and home/ shelter owners too. It's new and hard to trust your own judgment but remember that you've done it and maintained it for about a year already (👏). Press on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:39 AM
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Hey sis I've managed to send you the link for the strategies and tactics. And no. You're not a failure for considering this. Please see my latest comment for you. The other sisters here are right. ANY HEALTHIER ALTERNATIVE is better than the "easier" path, which is going back to being abused. You managed to do what I've been planning and have been keeping it up for about a year! That's impressive and not to be overlooked. ⚠️People like her would NEVER give the type of emotional connection you ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:25 AM
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Thanks for opening the chat (vet still and close it when you find suitable), I've sent you the post about Sun Tzu's strategies and tactics! :> I was thinking about your situation because at our age, it's more complicated, like, not young enough to be accepted easily by homes and shelters, but also not that old enough (and being functional enough) to deal with the practical issues after leaving. I wish you gather enough support and strength from us here, and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. After thinking th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:16 AM
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And we all know what would happen next. When the final disaster happens on her (I really wish not but common anecdotes've proven to us), scrotes would be like "she asked for it (to be done to/ on her)" and then applaud the scrotes who'd been abusing her. Online. Publicly. Even until the final disaster, they would still abuse her with shaming and degradation, for their own sick entertainment. Nah, sis. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:41 AM
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That was faster than I thought. She's just another statistic for him to become bolder in his next "training" ugh. When can women like her be free of all these? I'm not active on TikTok but it sounds like she at least has the communication channel open to receive some painful but helpful warnings from women. It's all so sad. She deserves a better life from now onwards but I'll not be surprised if another scrote gets to her as her posts are a magnet for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:05 PM
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The places suggested here can be considered, OP! The airport spaces before the endemic were a good choice but you could check social media first to see if it's available now though. I would also consider 24h "cafe-libraries", not sure if you have them in your area though. Only pay for the warm and filling snack/ drink while you use the spaces. But all these places are very short-term (few days). Long-term stays until you're financially ready to rent a place would be other women shelters. Also, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:52 PM
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I agree. OP, please refer to some of the resources available online. I feel conflicted because it sounds urgent for her (weather and all). But she herself should know all the details of the available choices she has best. Her final judgment would be the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:20 PM
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About dealing with abusive parents, some strategies and tactics based on Sun Tzu's Art of War have helped me and I believe they would be helpful in guiding you wherever you will be at, based on an informed "choice". There's a post about the strategies and tactics in my history (scroll all the way down). I'm sorry I couldn't reach out to you via chat to share its content that is relevant and practical, but I've been there. The fact is that you are not ready to leave her completely, yet. Even plac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:57 PM
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Kinda similar to the term "demisexual" being born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:29 PM
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Her username. They're likely into degradation in their D/s "relationship" (ew). She deserves so much better. Putting this stuff online would only trap her inside the vile and misogynistic groomed lifestyle that she's in. He's gonna be modifying another part of her physically to shame her. Hopefully she can wake up and save herself in time, by realising that the attention and hands on care that she craves are possible in a normal and healthy relationship — a man who actually respects her. She wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:26 PM
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"...Shanabarger refused to accompany his wife to the hospital when she gave birth to Tyler last November and repeatedly complained she spent too much on toys." Truly horrible. This is why we advise women seeking advice and solace in other subs to leave once the red flags are obvious, regardless of the "stage" the relationship/ marriage is in. Yes, things do worsen with each red flag identified. He refused to be with her when she gave birth to their baby! The emotional and mental pain, on top of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:14 PM
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This just reminded me of Taylor's lyrics "boys will be boys then where are the wise men" Is LP himself a virgin?! I'd bet no. Such an awful and hypocritical being. I pitied Chloe Wang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:57 PM
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The🦶 that covered up the abuse towards the young talents (especially girls) in their productions? e.g. DSchneider Realise how that politician's empathy is only for men? The supposedly role models he brought up in the political discussions are from his past and they already made his beliefs about how men should behave and treat women clear for us 🤨🤢 It's interesting because in reality, character countertypes are just the other side of the coin representing the stereotypes. It's sad being a woman …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:28 PM
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I LOVE THESE SO MUCH. THANK YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:18 PM
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😨😡Do they actually do that?😂 At this point, it's just sad how pathetic they are when they're at that age. Even on professional social media platforms?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:16 PM
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He's extremely weird. The way he writes about animals is like acting cute (nope 🤢) and then the way he expresses his thoughts on women he is looking for through writing gives off totally different vibes. So weird and gross. Good thing that even women who do not really know English can tell at first read that he's self-absorbed and really really weird. 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:12 PM
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I agree. Scrotes would continue to sabotage (this is what they are trying to do) because they themselves don't want to improve. They'll negatively affect one's life in one way or another. AND. Just having female friends (OP) would make him look more "socially appealing and safe" to other women he targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:59 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:43 AM
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I agree that many are trying to quit because of selfish reasons. Very few of them actually quit because of their own realisation that porn dehumanises women and that they want to actually start viewing women as humans. The bar is already so low for men. Sisters, continue to vet carefully even if a man claims that he is against porn, because his reason might be for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:41 AM
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I agree. She's smarter than that. And she's very talented in constructing double narratives in her songwriting ❤️🌹Even her parents naming her as "Taylor" was strategic. Things feel off. Let's see how it goes after rep gets re-recorded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 05:14 PM
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Hahaha maybe we could upgrade and end it with a "Bye." cause if his vibe is off, it wouldn't feel right to say any "sorry" to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:21 PM
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Would the "thank you" after the "no" also function like "I might have a chance still" in his brain? I would either ignore all the way or gesture a "no" instead of saying it out to leave ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:17 PM
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👏All of these^. And I also really can't stand the "Karen" thing. I get that there are some entitled and rude people (with regard to race), but the whole stereotype is misogynistic because it is based on the exaggeration of women, as if men do not behave in the same entitled ways. Entitled men do not suffer from the same social repercussions like the so-called "Karens" do. The memes and name-calling aren't funny because people in the society end up treating such behavior as a dichotomy. Women are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:08 PM
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Wow thanks for this. Gotta keep reminding myself about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:47 PM
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Taylor had Cher's quote ("Mom, I am the rich man") framed in her YNTCD music video too! Andrea (Taylor's mom) is a business-minded woman. I'm confident that both her parents, though separated when she was about 22 IIRC, have been guiding her on her financial matters. With her hints on the dynamics of the relationships of her own parents and family, it seems like she's being careful about it. She's been joking about being a "daddy" and is very close to her friends who have become mothers. It's li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:27 PM
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Ugh yes this so much. I've learnt how to be a grey rock selectively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:08 PM
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I hope so too as it's too ridiculous! But the article included a promotion of the makeup and hair business. Likely that it's printed due to her pickmeism 🤢 Can't even imagine all the wrong ways of living for women that the daughter has been witnessing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:04 PM
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!!! I think this could be it. Whoa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:52 PM
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I'm so concerned. She and the man's baby mama needed FDS. Time has proven so many times that such relationships do not end well for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:51 PM
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😂 Thanks for sharing this joke of an article! Poor lady, though she was smart to promote her hair and makeup business in the article. THIS KIND OF CONTENT HARMS WOMEN. Just give it time why oh why did she even take him seriously. Pickme to the maximum. Poor kid stuck in their mess too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:48 PM
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Because the delusional and misogynistic older (for me, 30+ are already older) NVM and LVMs are attracted to younger women whom they expect to be less wise, which is why they even watch them film/ rant their reactions in the first place. And then they felt being called out too. They take it seriously, and PERSONALLY. For them, it's like KNOWING MORE about how THEY HAVE NO CHANCES with the younger women. Or how their expectations did not come true. Another thing is that throughout history, men are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:35 PM
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I agree with this! And always vet ruthlessly and keep to our standards, even for the pool of new guys who might be potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:25 PM
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Yes, he wasn't that good in faking HVM qualities. If he used to say that, he was being honest in hinting his true outlook with regard to this relationship. He's a time-waster. 🙄 Seemed like he just found the whole HV dating dynamics entertaining — knowing all the names of the staff at that dining place etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:17 PM
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"You kept me like a secret but I kept you like an oath" got me thinking. Their known relationship was actually about three months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:06 PM
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Thank you SO much for sharing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 06:16 AM
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This! He's the A to everyone around him. Using his friends to lie and manipulate his wife. The men in that group need to feel being taken advantage of, to increase the chances of them understanding and supporting the women he mistreats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 06:02 AM
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He's DEFINITELY gross. Just look at his past relationships (poly) and behaviour. I've been her fan for more than a decade. It's really obvious that she's been struggling against the misogyny in the music industry. Her taste and eye in men are messy. Most of the time, Avril's actions and songs are empowering, but also a hit or miss usually (miss due to the people who've worked on her songs, such as toxic producers who abuse female artistes). Avril tends to bond with those in the music industry wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:42 AM
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Likely other hobosexuals supporting the failed husband/father as they do not have common sense nor understand the importance of looking professional during work. Furthermore, they are also highly likely to be insecure of her looking even better with makeup. Some men actually prefer their partners to intentionally look worse because they fear the ladies would leave them. So they manipulate women into not spending too much on makeup - which she at least stands up for herself by justifying that she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:13 AM
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You've come so far 👏 Stuff like this are depressing for me as well but we have to keep these conversations and improvements ongoing so that more women can see the actual reality sooner. It'll be hard for those on other subs to accept it at first but at least when they reach the ultimate point of being unable to trick themselves into accepting the atrocious behaviour from the parasites mistreating and abusing them any longer, they can remember our warnings and advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:06 AM
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Yes, please keep us updated! I hope she has other support from other people like family because she'll need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:29 AM
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Do you think it might be better to let them know that they've lost a frequent customer because of them keeping the unprofessional cheater? I would have expected him to lose the job on the spot (set the right standards for other workers). However, I pity the woman carrying the twins. Regardless, he wouldn't even be helping or taking care of them much anyway. That place doesn't deserve any business from women. Thanks for informing and keeping other sisters safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:24 AM
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Which is GREAT 💕 which was why that absolute NVM started the mess in the first place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:21 AM
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We need more women with the correct mindset in law and to gather enough power and support to change laws ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:29 AM
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This is interesting. I've also done this act like I don't know what they're talking about before. Just a reminder that the man in the red car had an accent. In this case, the best way to handle the situation is to ignore, the second best way is to sound as boring but also firm, then extend proximity between the cars. Her survival instincts of watching him leave first to not get stalked and checking that he is farther away were right. Us women really have to go through so much thoughts because of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:01 PM
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Wish there were women like you around her - would understand her better because you went through it personally, and that from being inspired by your progress of making both the lives of yours and your child's better (keep it up sis), she would start to wake up and heal too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:30 PM
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I would be so upset if this was the case as I am religious, which is also why I'm not surprised. In most religions, women have been disrespected and abused. The greatest awakening I had that made me embrace FDS even more was how the older adults that I look up to, were ignorant of immoral large age-gaps. Ew. I don't even want to think about it. There are many more scrotes and pickmes than I thought there were in religion :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:50 PM
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I wouldn't even say the "good luck"! My personal experiences have taught me that some scrotes think they have a chance because of such words. They can be really desperate and delude themselves with connotating those words as encouragement. Yuck. All the luck and happiness should be to the women who suffer because of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:39 PM
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Oh gosh. As I was reading how their conversation went, I didn't think of this. Thanks for highlighting this potential nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:33 PM
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I agree. Please please please don't go back there for the timebeing. Not even with other people etc. The best way to move on from this incident is to make sure that he has forgotten about your existence at the spot and is being occupied with other things (hope that no other woman falls for his approach at such places). And yes, your reflection after the incident is right. Should not have provided any INFORMATION to him. It's amazing how we "auto-pilot" reassess the conversation. This is due to o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:28 PM
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Unfortunately, the parents themselves are likely scrotes and pickmes so they do not see anything wrong with their relationship and might even encourage such pairings 🤢 Her parents have failed her. Wonder if she still has access to safe and sane teachers/ friends that could get her out of the abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:59 AM
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THIS! She is no longer using logic. Her eyes are not happy at all. And she's posting online for other scrotes to potentially target her. It seems like she was trying to find solace online but NO! T.T Extreme pickme and poor child! The people women surround themselves with are so important. She is trapped with the sunk cost fallacy (more than a decade of dating plus a child with him) and has no one to seek comfort from. Completely inexistent self-esteem. Thank God she did not post their child onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:51 AM
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Same here! I'm on the opposite side of the globe and this community is so wonderful that I had to be a part of. FDS is so crucial and rare because it does not tolerate disruption from scrotes. There are no similar online communities here :( Before I received a flair, I unknowingly posted my first post that was auto-removed. I received my flair today and wanted to contribute with the post so I updated the content and posted it. However, it seems to be removed again. I'm not sure if it's because o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:38 AM
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I've seen the original post(s) and it seems like the now ex bf is consulting/ complaining to his friend to try to legally chase them out as the house is his. She mentioned that he is trying to get the cops to make them move out. The poor children. He must have manipulated her to move in with her children and after using her in whatever LV ways, no longer want to care for them. The age difference between them (although she's older than me, she's still a young single mother of two children) is ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:12 PM
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Thank you so much for posting this! I just saw this too and as I'm new here (can't post), was wondering how others are treating this? Could a rescue mission be reached out to her after she gets her children to a shelter safely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:02 PM
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This so much! It's not hard to see that she's following some of the paths taken by her own mother and women in her family who were mistreated and abused. It's ridiculous how the "momentum" of changes to highlight the unethical and abusive behavior in the entertainment industry ALWAYS gets interrupted when it comes to the misogynistic treatment towards the female celebrities. The process for Dakota to wake up and step out of the cycle would be hard. And she IS one of the more privileged ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:50 PM
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Yes! This issue that he is facing now actually already happened before the potential job change. Even without the new job offer, he was already resenting his wife and children (toddler and baby). He blames his poor time management on his pregnant wife, toddler and baby. I really hope that his wife sees his post too but unfortunately, not now as she is pregnant. Mess of a situation overall. Poor wife and kids. He is the father of the children and husband of the wife, meaning that it was his decis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:34 PM
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He also sounds like he's proud of barely reading the news. Yet he knew of and brought up the incident intentionally. So much selfishness and sadism based on misogyny exposed from just a few of his messages. Horrendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:07 PM
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I've come across men talking about this topic, and they think women get complimented all the time/ more than them. However, most don't even know what compliments mean! It's gross how some have the audacity to equate sexual harrassment as compliments. It even seems like the compliments those men are seeking for which they know they are lacking in (rightly so), is about how women find them desirable (when they're not) and should serve them in some way or another (sexually-driven or whatever). Some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 01:44 AM
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Thanks for sharing this! Gonna watch it. "Only in our society do we tell women to give a guy you're not chemically attracted to a chance. We never say to men, 'Look, I know she's an armadillo, but she's really funny! So maybe you'll become attracted to her.' But I wasn't attracted to him. " Ugh, glad she highlighted this. I hope the new girlfriend wakes up before marrying Iliza's NVM ex. It's frustrating how much men can get away with shaming, humiliating and harrassing their exes online publicl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:19 PM
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Would also like to add on a reminder: Vet before even getting into the same car as him. I personally only accept and share the same ride with people I trust a lot, due to red flags like these. What if I can't think of a convincing reason to get out of it in time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:40 AM
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Yeah I was thinking of this too. Could it be because it might be a sign that he isn't driving naturally but like "putting up a show" to please the date (us) ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:33 AM
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These are great reminders! Unsure of when I'd become sceptical of all men, but, as a consumer of K-entertainment, knowing how most men in S.Kor (and almost everywhere) are awful have made me view the adoration of most male K-pop idols as harmful for us. So many of them with their kind of platform could boost support for their colleagues who are women, and their mothers and sisters living in their society who are just sick of all the misogyny and molka, but the majority are just doing fanservice …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:24 AM
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Yes! That Vogue shoot! I agreed with her so much about "You give an ugly guy a chance, he thinks he rules the world" because of the couples I see IRL and the LVM ways the men treat the women. I'm a little bit older than her and even I myself can't imagine dating someone his age! Although she debuted young and has some life experiences due to her career, the huge age gap means that there's a huge difference in mentality towards life and it's definitely not advantageous for her in any way. It's sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:20 PM
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