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| 65 | Do I want love? Of course I do. But do you think that I’m so dumb that I’d go out with you? | FDS MOVIES & TV | WiggleWormDelux | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:36 AM |
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| 148 | I'm really interested in how society in your country/culture 'discourages interactions in social spaces'!I agree. I was looking for the point in your last paragraph. Its very clearly a young lady, not a woman in her 50s, not a man in his 70s. He wants something specific from her under the guise of what is wrong with society at large. These people clearly do not participate in many social settings outside of their imaginations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:15 PM |
| 11 | Stop watching reality TV and reading trashy novelsI think a nicer way to phrase this is to ask yourself.. Is this helping me become the person I want to be? Sometimes it isn’t, but we are in a rough spot and its OK for a while. It is a personal decision for everyone. Ambition and inspiration come from within. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:12 PM |
| 40 | She’s only asking this because she know deep down her fiancé sucks and she’s settling. Why not wait until you’re no longer students?We got a Walmart ring when I was pregnant with my 2nd because I gained some weight and was swollen, my regular wedding ring didnt fit. I got soooo many compliments, it was unreal. Edit to add.. my girlfriend grew up in a family of jewelers, when she married her ex he gave her a pricey ring. She was a housewife while they were married. After the breakup, she sold it to buy herself a car and the tuition the first semester of school to finish her undergrad degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:03 PM |
| 33 | Scrote wants to start secret “poly “relationship with gfs sisterOk is it me or does it seem like this is the kind of situation your expect of people at least 10 years younger? A month!? Like yes it sucks, shes not going to be happy to hear it, but she needs to be told- no brainer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:57 PM |
| 32 | Lessons from Fboy IslandI agree. One thing I noted is how they used “vulnerability” as a tool. The one guy came out right away talking about he was adopted. Another fellow toward the end just started randomly crying near the target woman, and then gave her a sob story about his upbringing- simply the manipulate her. Gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:50 PM |
| 17 | Lessons from Fboy IslandYes, me too. It reminded me of the very attractive LVMs I dated and how Id just smile and stare at them, and buy allll their BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys think of Botox?The inkey list one. I don’t know if it is doing much, I don’t have many wrinkles yet and I am not prone to acne- but its a good price so itll do for now. I’d like to get to a derm to get a prescription just so I know it is a product that is regulated/standardized more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:46 AM |
| 163 | Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids…That is so sad she doesn’t yet realize she has a right to her own body. Given the age gap and 2 young children I presume she doesn’t have her own money to leave if she wants. I feel for her, I hope she got some good advice about the reality of her relationship instead of how to “increase her libido”. This is a cry for help poor woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:00 PM |
| 46 | How many red flags do you see? I wAnT tO eNjOy mY eArLy reTiReMenT (but my wife can still work f that)Yeah I can’t stop thinking about this post. This man has gone 12 years as a father and still doesn’t have his family’s best interest at heart, so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 63 | How many red flags do you see? I wAnT tO eNjOy mY eArLy reTiReMenT (but my wife can still work f that)Ugh this poor woman. As a mother, making sure your home life is stable is EVERYTHING. That is great how they have saved, but… I think really, if this was a very nice and loving man who was truly interested in spending lots of time with his kids, his wife might be more receptive to his idea. But she knows on some level he is trying to “check out” on their family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:25 PM |
| 23 | It’s a myth when scrotes justify cheating and poly with ‘It’s biOlOgY’Yeah I find many of those ‘evolutionary psychology’ ideas end up being an exercise in perversion for men. You can think up some reason for anything if you think hard enough enough. On the front page a few days ago there was a shower thought about evolution selecting for premature ejaculation as humans are vulnerable to predators during sex. Hes telling on himself! Have they heard of bonobos? Has he ever been camping with a woman? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:19 PM |
| 20 | What do you guys think of Botox?Yes it is a larger debate. I use retinol and have a skincare routine, I wear mascara and blush. I have 2 little kids, and I like the time for myself. It makes me feel good about myself. That being said, even though it is for me it probably makes me feel good due to my culture and socialization in a sexist society. I was a womens studies major in undergrad (a relatively long time ago) and so many things are deeply problematic, but I found you have to negotiate with yourself to find your own peace… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:19 PM |
| 30 | Women should not go on hiking dates whether as a first one or as a married couple.I agree, once the relationship has begun and you have established some trust its a great date and a wonderful way to vet. Does he hike faster than you and leave you in the dust? Does he respect your sense of direction and map reading skills? Does he respect nature and ‘leave no trace’ principals? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:09 PM |
| 11 | "WoMeN WeRe hAPpY JuSt In ThE 1950's WhEn ThEy WeRe MoThErS AnD WiVeS"Most people think they know about the 50s from watching media, which is not real life. Also most people alive old enough to remember the 50s were children at the time. Its all a fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:52 PM |
| 4 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningI agree, the perspective has also changed now that I am married. I read these long things on reddit moaning and debating leaving a relationship, its like dude you arent married just break up! Thats the whole point of relationships before marriage, to see if its a good fit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 03:34 PM |
| 62 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..I don’t think they have any relationship with real women, outside of their Moms and they are mostly still young so they are UGH Moms are awful (Karens). It’s also something they can cling to and say “look! Sexism against men!” But really, who cares what they say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 09:19 PM |
| 66 | "I don't want a regular girl. I need a super hot one"😒Yup! I’ve been married 4 years, husband is always thrilled to see my body even during pregnancy and post partum. Every time he sees me undressed, even getting into pajamas he gives me a little smile and a wink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:20 PM |
| 19 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄Great, an insightful reflection from a dude whose whole life experience is reading shit on the internet.. to be upvoted by other people who have little or no real life experience. You know what hasn’t changed? Chemistry. The thrill of talking to someone you find attractive in a fun way and having them smile back. If they left the house they might have a clue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 31 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookMy college boyfriend was like this. He dropped a ton of weight after we broke up because he just ate ramen to stave off hunger and played on the computer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 16 | The only advice needed is to break up, delete and block the liarI think there was probably overlap with baby’s Mom and the original poster, so he started out with a lie then had to keep it going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 03:42 AM |
| 43 | HVpartner, but no attraction after many years - advice wanted!Like the other commenters say, you already know the answer. Even though you are not attracted to him, I am sure you care deeply about him and have grown used to the closeness. But, that is why breaking up is hard. Like other commenters have said, its a skewed sample on FDS posts.. 2nd hand quippy twitter stories of righteously dumping a sick abuser. True he is not that, and thats great, but clearly you two are not a match. You aren't doing him or yourself any favors by dragging this on. It will … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 46 | Wife and mother is "starting to feel taken advantage of" by "exceptionally smart" husbandSo sad. I cannot believe she is still giving him some kind words, when he is putting the security of their family at serious risk. Also as a mother, in some locations finding child care really is impossible so she really is in a bind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:36 AM |
| 51 | The eternal girlfriend in the mediaMy father’s family is Italian and his brother did this as well. My uncles wife is my age peer, he had a long term (20+ years) girlfriend who I see pictures of in my baby books.. My Dad is jealous of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:31 AM |
| 10 | Are success stories on marrying a HVM?An important step for me was recognizing and accepting love. I am married, but in the courtship and early marriage I was tempted to go back to the alcoholics/eternal bachelors/destitute “free spirits” because that was the pattern I was used to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 03:44 AM |
| 4 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youWow. I hope it ends up being a blessing in disguise that they are not married, so separating is easier. As a mother, once the baby comes it is one of the most intense and difficult times in a woman’s life. If he cant be bothered to acknowledge her while pregnant he is surely not going to share the immense responsibility in caring for a newborn. She would be better off alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 01:06 PM |
| 7 | With no disrespect to other religions, I do NOT get this. At all. It’s a no from meI saw this post, shes not even married. Its completely a mental exercise for what I would guess are internet points. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 04:19 AM |
| 6 | I know most of us know the pitfalls of pursuing age gap relationship, but would you pursue a friendship with someone in an age gap relationship?I agree. Likely she probably feels a little weird about her age gap relationship. one day she’ll confide in you, and youll have the opportunity to support her to do better for herself. I used to have an age gap relationship, it alienated my peers from me because it was an odd vibe. I appreciate the girlfriends I had who were genuine about it with me and supported me that I was worth more than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:17 PM |
| 7 | Women just need to lower their standards 🙄Ahh, an ugly man who believes he understands the motivations and desires of both women and attractive men. He has no idea, hes just sitting around fuming because he isn’t getting what he wants from online dating. Then all his lonely bitter peers chime in to agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:42 PM |
| 38 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.It was an outdoorsy community, he taught me how to ski, canoe and camp. There were plenty of other men and women my age who I could have learned those things with but my self esteem was in the garbage. Glad young women are learning about FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:58 PM |
| 50 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.One guy I dated for too long in my 20s, was 21 years older and en eternal bachelor vagrant (worked in a restaurant as little as possible to get by)… we lived in a small community and I really think a big part of him pursing me is because he LOVED being seen with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:52 PM |
| 10 | Hadn’t been OLD in almost 15 years. I wanted to see what you all were talking about. Now I know I will be single forever. On purpose. 🤣💖I loved that line in your post, so perfect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:17 AM |
| 14 | This 29F is scared to ask a guy to be exclusive but also is willing to move countries to be with him??Its stupid, but at its core its just very sad. She has no inkling of her worth outside of a man choosing her. Guess what I did once? Moved to a city and got a job to be near a guy, he was already dating a woman I had introduced him to by the time it was all settled (he eventually left her high and dry too). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:05 AM |
| 12 | This is one reason female only spaces are important. There will always be men who get off on women’s traumaWow imagine if he had put half of that effort into improving some one’s life instead. Pathetic and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 12:33 AM |
| 7 | He Who Poops In The Shower.... RUN!Where is the shame? OK that is disgusting if he does that living alone, but its his business. His girlfriend moves in, does he think its time to stop? She asks him about it directly, does he think its time to stop? She is disgusted, still its like “take me as I am”? Where is the part of him that is ashamed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 05:52 PM |
| 38 | Why does this man feel the need to go out of his way to ask for pats on the back for something so mundane. Wow congrats you have empathy which is the bare minimum we expect from people. Idk gives me nice / woke boi vibesWow, so out of touch with human reality… and what would he have done if on the 2nd day of knowing him she had told him she was in a dangerous place? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:58 PM |
| 2 | It's the edit for me ~~~Gee, I wonder what this guy thought the guys on reddit would say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 06:17 AM |
| 10 | Those of you in a relationship with a HVM: How did you two meet?Online dating. Keep in mind I was a huuggee pick me from puberty on. It was the first time had made a profile and I was his 2nd date. We were both in rural areas and lived about 3 hours apart, this was almost 10 years ago. He planned a great first date, met for breakfast then we went to a national monument and he had packed a nice lunch for us. I really felt like I could be myself with him. Not pure FDS, but a sweet thought out respectful date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:53 PM |
| 4 | Same energy as 'MaRriaGe iS a PiEce oF pApeR'Thats what friends are for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Same energy as 'MaRriaGe iS a PiEce oF pApeR'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:46 PM |
| 100 | Want kids but dread raising them?I always imagined having daughters because I often had thoughts about my mistakes and how my parents did things. Well ended up with 2 sons! Its a trip because I never hung out with boys or males as friends as a teen or adult, I guess I am going to learn. It is for real a big challenge in my mind to raise them to be men who make the world a better place. I recently listened to the FDS podcast where they interviewed the early educator from New Zealand and got some good ideas. I do wish some of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:13 AM |
| 59 | Teach your daughters to recognize the tricks older men might use on them.Yes! I always imagined having daughters to teach this lesson!! I have ended up with 2 boys. Gotta raise them well, and will bring age gap relationships to their attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:10 PM |
| 86 | Dear Male Lurkers: This is WhyI love meeting new and different people especially when traveling, unfortunately many are like this and I felt the same way as you. Something that helped me: someone said they are only interested in themselves and I owe them nothing. Now when I see convos are heading that direction I just shut it down or move away quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:03 PM |
| 11 | Just watched Some Kind of Heaven on Hulu. Ladies, please do not stay with these LVM through the golden years of your life…Oh no, when you said it was a documentary... geeeze. I work with the elderly, and there are some sweet and kind old men but more often than not they have huge egos and are just cranky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:40 AM |
| 24 | I'm 25 years old. What advice would older women give me?If you like school, get a good degree and a great career. I finished my undergrad during the recession so I ended up going to grad school for something pretty practical. Don’t get me wrong its good work and I make OK money but I do wish I had followed my dreams. If you two are deciding to break up, really break up.. don’t keep him/don’t allow him to keep each-other on the back burner. All of my dating life I had such a hard time making a clean break. If its over its over. Write down your priorit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 11:43 PM |
| 1 | I'm 25 years old. What advice would older women give me?Whoops posted in the wrong place | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 11:42 PM |
| 20 | Starting a social circle/ life from zero. I’m looking for some much needed advice.I moved a lot when I was younger, I would make friends through: Volunteering Classes Work Really if you get along at all with another woman, invite her over to hang out, do a craft, or to go out to dinner. Anything. Some people are not friendly, but many are. It is hard to put yourself out there like that, but it gets easier every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:04 AM |
| 5 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.Happy Birthday! I am so proud of you! Echoing the chorus of “that was me too” it is really what young women are encouraged to do. So glad for FDS messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 12:24 PM |
| 21 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexIt could also result in a pregnancy, which could potentially link you to each other for the rest of your lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 18 | No Man I’ve been with has ever made me orgasm. EVER.Despite all my terrible pick me ways of my single days I never faked, and almost never ever came. Had the most orgasms ever with my now husband, for me it was not a size thing but a mental thing and feeling comfortable with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:53 AM |
| 27 | Don’t change your last name for a manI am dual citizen in Italy, women don’t change it there either. I kept mine, our kids have my husband’s last name so we agreed their first names would be like mine (Italian/Spanish). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:17 PM |
| 14 | If you're *really* married, how come you're on FDS?I was a womens studies major back in my undergrad (In the 00s), I am just so excited to see these new ideas. I made terrible terrible dating decisions in my teens and 20s. I want to support other women so they don’t drag themselves through the mud just for attention, like I did. But, despite that- accomplished a lot before getting married. I have a career and if our marriage didn’t work out I could live and support my kids without difficulty. I have 2 boys, want to really pay attention to what i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:15 AM |
| 33 | Does Anyone Else Get A Feeling of Dream When They See Older (50+) Men In Public?First if all, I am so sorry about all you have been through. I also feel this way, I am in my thirties and a Mom and I look like both. My opinion is, in their heads they think they are adults (not seniors) and we are adults and they have a chance. Additionally, they were raised at a time where they thought they could do whatever they want, are always right, and everyone will sit and listen to their opinions. Lastly, after 65 most men are physically frail- before that even if a man is out of shap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:28 AM |
| 4 | It’s 2021- no more getting scammed for straight women.🌺 Reject casual sex and normalize sex as an extension of a loving relationship for our youth.I needed to read this at 17.. took me from 17 to 25 to realize I only liked the fantasy of casual sex. In reality it was always awkward and disappointing, if not objectively dangerous. Found FDS I am In my 30s and married with kids, so badly wish I could have seen this stuff when I was younger. So hopeful for young women!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:38 AM |
| 10 | Please comment to share your therapy stories! Particularly couples counseling (fails and wins)Little one liner.. we were talking about how husband wants more sex, baby is 5 months old. She says “well maybe thats why some cultures have multiple wives haha”. Hmm more like maybe thats why some cultures have taboos against sex while the woman is still breastfeeding | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:51 AM |
| 24 | Society's promotion of young adult novels/ romance movies created a lovesick generationFor real. I remember being 5 and wanting nothing more than to be picked. So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:44 AM |
| 24 | So true.I had a patient in her 90s who would chew food and spit it out in secret all through her adulthood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:42 AM |
| 12 | Do I want love? Of course I do. But do you think that I’m so dumb that I’d go out with you?Silly skit from a show called Kids in the Hall that was on in the 90s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:36 AM |
| 29 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Ughhhh I had been there. Handing cash under the table to my boyfriend who was 20 years my senior, so he could look less useless in front of friends. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 12:09 PM |
| 19 | What should a women do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?For sure. But for the grace of god I did not get pregnant with any of the terrible men I was entangled with. Only now that I have children with my loving responsible husband do I realize how lucky I was to never have any accidental pregnancies despite how inconsistent I was with birth control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 11:54 PM |
| 12 | Ditch the LVM and get the Doctorate: A Cautionary Tale.Congrats fellow Dr. 😚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:28 PM |
| 3 | What is your stance on your husband drinking during your pregnancy?I have two children. I’d recommend both parents abstaining during pregnancy. The first pregnancy I told my husband, “go ahead, no reason for us both to go without” Seeing him enjoy a beer or mixed drink make me miss it more. It also made it easier for him to discourage me from having ONE drink (we were also first time parents so more pressure to do it all perfectly). 2nd pregnancy we agreed we would both abstain and it was great. A couple of times we each had one beer (valentines day, anniversar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:47 PM |
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