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-6

Men are “4 times more likely to face violence” FROM OTHER MEN, primarily because they choose to engage in violent activities like owning guns, & participating in gangs, drugs, & violent crimes. Men are expected to “protect women” from OTHER VIOLENT MEN. Don’t like all the bad guys getting punched in the face? Men make up over 75% of directors, writers, producers, editors, and cinematographers working on the top 250 grossing films. Over 85% of directors. Take it up with them. How often do you see…
/r/MensRights05/02/25 09:40 PM
-6

Nonsense. You have the right to choose not to have sex if you don’t want to be a parent or be financially responsible for one. Or you can choose to get a vasectomy. Using a condom with spermicide every time you have sex is also a choice.
/r/MensRights30/01/25 09:32 AM
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The difference is that women like lots of men for things other than just sex. Men don’t seem to be as interested in that and thus lies a lot of confusion.
/r/MensRights25/01/25 02:36 AM
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No. Not if you want to be pedantic. ADULT female humans are called women.
/r/MensRights25/01/25 02:34 AM
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ALL women have been treated badly by ENOUGH men to justify anything from extra vigilance to outright fear-based hatred. Trust is earned. So decades of experience with male family members creates an exception if so deserved. The cycle of abuse often begins at home, so yes, indoctrination IS going on, as in they’ve been indoctrinated into accepting abuse from male family members for decades.
/r/MensRights25/01/25 02:33 AM
2

Almost anything can be oppression if it’s forced upon you against your will, or with undue pressure. Like, if it’s your life-long dream to travel the world as a wildlife photographer but your billionaire family wants you to stay & become CEO of their oil business, that’s not going to feel like some kind of blessing. Huge difference being of course that housewives are typically unpaid, undervalued, unappreciated, have limited options, & are financially dependent on men who could dump them & leave…
/r/MensRights25/01/25 02:28 AM
-4

Didn’t the Boy Scouts decide to change to just “Scouts” & open up to all genders because they had little choice after they went bankrupt after paying out around two billion dollars to around 82,000 former Boy Scouts who were sexually abused by leaders/staff? Their membership is less than half what it was 50 years ago. While I get the deep desire for having male only spaces, doesn’t seem like that’s a particularly good argument for them. Quite the opposite really.
/r/MensRights07/10/24 07:37 AM
-4

Also… if it’s a war that takes out a lot of soldiers, you’re gonna need a whole lot of women back home to care for injured soldiers and have a lot of babies ASAP to rebuild the population.
/r/MensRights03/10/24 10:35 AM
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I totally think the draft should be abolished. If those in power know they won’t have a virtually unlimited number of bodies to throw into a situation, perhaps they’d try harder to find non-violent solutions. Women provide the vast majority of caregiving in this country for children, the disabled, & seniors. We do not have an adequate infrastructure to take care of people as it is, if women were drafted as well, who would take care of all these people? Could pregnant/breastfeeding women be draft…
/r/MensRights03/10/24 10:30 AM
-2

There’s a guy in r/TwoHotTakes right now asking if he was s-assaulted by his girlfriend after telling her no many times & her insisting & bullying him into sex. As far as I can tell, it’s all men who are the ones telling him it’s his fault, that he’s a doormat, that he obviously can’t keep up with her & questioning his masculinity. Of course women can absolutely be awful about perpetuating these harmful ideas too, but the vast majority of abuse I see men getting on this topic online/IRL is from …
/r/MensRights24/06/24 11:46 PM
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Who are the ones doing the majority of the laughing when a man says he was assaulted by a woman? OTHER MEN. Women certainly didn’t set the standard for mocking victims of assault. Other men saying he should have enjoyed it, was “lucky,” was a pussy for not making her stop, etc. Stop blaming women for the society men created and keep perpetuating.
/r/MensRights24/05/24 01:10 AM
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You say this as if women aren’t as well?
/r/MensRights24/05/24 01:03 AM
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Would you put a condom on your dick if you put it into a bear, since apparently you’re not willing to do that if you put it into a woman?
/r/MensRights10/05/24 01:27 AM
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There’s this thread on here right now about a woman with possible endometriosis who’s been dismissed by many doctors including her own Dr father & given pain pills instead of further investigation. The discussion below it (much like here) is full of women with similar stories.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 06:31 AM
-3

I would submit that the issues of poor mental health support for men & poor medical treatment for women have similar roots. Historically women have been excluded from medical studies as their specific issues were seen as just not worth the expense or trouble. Gender discrimination & bias. Historically men’s mental health has been dismissed as not worth the expense or trouble as men were supposed to just “suck it up” & taught that troublesome emotions were a sign of weakness. Also gender discrimi…
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:34 AM
-4

There’s REAMS of data supporting the fact that women have historically been excluded from medical studies & thus suffer from improper diagnosis & over medication as a result.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:25 AM
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Women have historically (and still are currently) been left out of medical studies.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:20 AM
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That’s just it though. The medical community is dismissive of women’s pain, but specifically the CAUSE of women’s pain. So they’re more likely to get pain meds for their “period cramps” or headaches or back pain, but less likely to get the CAUSE of that pain addressed & looked into properly. Also when they are given drugs, they’re over medicatedbecause the drugs were often only studied on men & not with regard to women’s physiology.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:16 AM
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Women have historically been excluded from drug trials as it was believed that fluctuating hormones would make trials too expensive & difficult, so they just adjust for body weight & call it good, even though it very much is NOT. Because women were historically left out of so much medical research, we still know a lot less about how the most widespread diseases like cancer or heart disease affect women, and less about how to prevent, diagnose, or treat these diseases in women. This is the same s…
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:11 AM
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Because Black women are more likely than other racial and ethnic groups to die from cardiovascular disease, hypertension, stroke, lupus, and several cancers. They are twice as likely than white women to develop diabetes over age 55 or have uncontrolled blood pressure & are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than white women. When a specific group is suffering worse outcomes than others, is worth singling out that group & bringing attention to it in order to make improv…
/r/MensRights13/04/24 06:46 PM
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IF her actions were a result of postpartum psychosis, then an abortion would have prevented her from experiencing any postpartum complications as those come after giving birth.
/r/MensRights13/04/24 06:35 PM
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Yes!!! See the link in my post.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 10:51 PM
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Yes, but the “starter home” is still bigger than the studio/1 bedroom apartment they were living in.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 12:25 AM
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That’s literally impossible. There’s ALWAYS “repercussions,” they’re just not always experienced by the man but are by his children, their mother, and society at large. What does that say about a society that would allow children to be abandoned without holding the people responsible for creating them accountable?
/r/MensRights13/01/24 11:19 PM
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Spermicide exists. Spermicidal condoms exist. They GREATLY reduce the chances of pregnancy in case there is an accident. I don’t understand why people who don’t want to be pregnant/parents aren’t doubling up on protection this way unless there’s an allergy/sensitivity issue.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 11:16 PM
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An even better option is hopefully, FINALLY coming to market in 2026 after DECADES of research and struggles to get funding/trials completed. Vasagel/Plan A gets injected once into the vas deferens & blocks/shreds sperm that enters it. Some research showed that it also may shred HIV virus, reducing spread. It’s cheap, under $1 of product, has basically zero side effects, lasts years/decades, & is easily 100% reversible with another injection of saline solution.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 11:12 PM
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Unfortunately, this will probably not happen. Despite men dominating the medical field for 150+ years, & many options for birth control for women, there are virtually no new non-surgical option for men in the mass market in the last several thousand years since condoms were first introduced. This is because too many men simply aren’t willing to deal with even the most minor of side effects in order to use them. Anything that even gives the slightest hint that it might impact their perceived “vir…
/r/MensRights13/01/24 11:04 PM
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In order to better understand, what is it specifically that you feel women are demanding be changed about comic books, video games, sports? What are the particular needs and wants that you think they have that those spaces lack? If you were to go a female dominated space, what kind of changes would you want to be made to better accommodate you and your needs?
/r/MensRights13/01/24 08:00 AM
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This is total nonsense. I say that as someone who grew up in & had my own career in residential real estate and a parent. The industry is HUGELY dependent on people needing different housing to support their family size… up in the beginning and down later in life. I had a close group of friends that wound up with approximately 12 couples in it before kids/marriage. Every single one of our group that had kids moved when they had them in order to have more space/better schools/etc for them. Our in…
/r/MensRights12/01/24 02:36 AM
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Because nobody wants to have to pack and move while pregnant or with a newborn. Get the nightmare of moving out of the way FIRST.
/r/MensRights12/01/24 02:24 AM
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You obviously don’t have any children.
/r/MensRights12/01/24 02:21 AM
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It’s not just about time spent with the child, it’s about who incurs the most out of pocket expenses, which is usually the mother. Who buys most of the kid’s clothes, toys, school supplies? Who schedules and then takes them to most of their medical, therapy, tutoring, practices, rehearsals, play dates, birthday parties? Who buys most of their groceries, toiletries, medicine, furniture, room decor? Pays for daycare, babysitters, summer camps, education? Women are typically the ones who make the v…
/r/MensRights12/01/24 01:57 AM
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Fair enough, and of course not. However, in general, I certainly attempt to behave that way, ESPECIALLY towards people who are important to me/that I want to like me back. I don’t have a facade of being “nice” towards men only because I want them to buy me something, and if they say no I refuse to accept it and immediately become angry, nasty and super aggressive towards them. If I did, it wouldn’t matter how “nice” I was to him before then, would it? My sense of entitlement overshadows all that…
/r/MensRights05/01/24 06:16 AM
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Define “nice guy.”
/r/MensRights05/01/24 06:09 AM
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Uh, it absolutely DOES happen. Guys, especially teenagers, can easily become obsessed with some girl who isn’t interested in them romantically/sexually, finally makes a move and then loses it when she turns him down and he doesn’t know how to process his feelings of embarrassment and disappointment in a healthy way. How do you or your friends deal with profound embarrassment or disappointment? Is it more normal to pretend you never really wanted that thing in the first place, pretend it’s NBD, b…
/r/MensRights05/01/24 06:08 AM
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Uh… did you even bother to look at the links? There’s countless examples of men outing themselves in this manner. “I helped her with X/took her out to dinner/was nice to her for months and she STILL won’t fck me, that whre/cnt/btch! Are you saying that genuinely nice guys shouldn’t respect healthy boundaries, communicate openly & honestly, give & deserve equal amount of respect, and avoid having ulterior motives?
/r/MensRights05/01/24 06:01 AM
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True. They may not even be genetically related to the child if they used another person’s eggs.
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:33 AM
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The difference is most male mechanics don’t seem to WANT women in their field, same as engineering, tech, higher levels of healthcare, etc. As a result, many barriers exist to try and prevent entering. Whereas they DO want women as nurses, secretaries, flight attendants… positions where they tend to hold superior positions of power over them, to do work they typically don’t want to do (in general). In those careers, the majority of their peers are also women, dealing with the same issues, so at …
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:31 AM
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Not a chance am I posting that info here to possibly unleash trolls upon them. Nice try.
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:23 AM
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Don’t be silly. Nobody’s “eliminating that option for them.” This is purely a legal issue. Are saying that all children should be required to refer to their parents as ONLY “Mother” and “Father” because that’s what it says on their birth certificate? No “mama” or “daddy?”
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:20 AM
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Technically one could be a surrogate to the other one’s eggs. Regardless, if they’re using a sperm donor, the donor may not be listed on the birth certificate, so the wife of the person giving birth would be. In my state, if a same sex couple decide to have a child then both are considered legal parents to that child. This may be nationwide now with Marriage Equality, I’m not sure.
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:15 AM
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Um, it’s not that women don’t want to become mechanics because we don’t want to get messy. It’s because the industry has too many men that we don’t want to be victimized by laying on a creeper under a car & possibly finding ourselves under one when we roll out. Dirt and grease washes off. Lewd comments, wandering hands (or worse) doesn’t.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 06:29 AM
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That is entirely about leadership. She repeatedly states examples of others poor behavior that management should have addressed immediately, but did not. She states she had problems with bullies as a youth and she clearly wasn’t able to manage people with similar tendencies as an adult. I’ve actually worked for and with all female film companies and organizations (Women In Film) and there is absolutely not that kind of drama tolerated in any that I’ve heard of, and I’m fairly confident I would h…
/r/MensRights03/01/24 06:22 AM
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Or perhaps by people who have had a lifetime of violence & abuse at the hands of men & believe a world without men would be safer for them, despite additional hardships.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 06:09 AM
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I’m not saying I agree that we “don’t need men” but it’s worth thinking about who’s responsible for the vast majority of wars, crime, & violence that all those soldiers, police officers, & firefighters are needed for and why that all might lead some people to fantasize about a world where they really didn’t need men.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 06:06 AM
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So how is it inclusive when it’s a lesbian couple? The non-birthing person is not a “father” by default.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 05:21 AM
-1

If a guy is “willing to give things to a woman just for existing” then she isn’t obligated in any way to respond in kind. By your definition he gave freely, expecting nothing in return. If he’s disappointed because she doesn’t reciprocate, it’s because he was attempting to take advantage of social programming that conditions women to appease men, not the other way around.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 02:08 AM
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It’s a sarcastic term due to the number of men who like to claim they’re a “nice guy” so why won’t a woman date/love/fuck them.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 02:03 AM
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“Nice Guys” believe that if they exhibit token nice behavior towards a woman, then she owes him attention &/or sex in return. GENUINELY nice guys respect healthy boundaries, communicate openly & honestly, don’t have ulterior motives, give & deserve respect in equal shares.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 02:01 AM
-1

There’s the “Pink Tax”that applies to products priced higher just because they’re branded for women. Sales tax factors in.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 01:09 AM
1

“Female” is only derogatory if context shows it to be so. “Female” encompasses an entire gender regardless of age or development, the same as “male” encompasses men and boys of all ages.
/r/MensRights24/12/23 08:17 PM
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There you go again on the defensive, when in no way did I say that you were to blame for her possible assaults. That’s EXACTLY what I’m talking about. What “situations or places” do you envision as being dangerous? Places that most sexual assault and harassment happens? Places that she should avoid? Why is it HER responsibility to avoid ANYWHERE and not men’s responsibility to avoid making those places dangerous in the first place?
/r/MensRights24/12/23 08:14 PM
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Women have that fear because the vast majority of the violence we experience is at the hands of people who we are supposed to love and trust the most… fathers, boyfriends, husbands. People that we have no real chance of fighting back against. The same is not true for men. The cognitive dissonance of being told to love and trust the very people who may have harmed us (or close friends or family members) the most makes it virtually impossible for many to not have an “elevated perceived risk of vic…
/r/MensRights23/12/23 11:23 PM
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By saying “not all men” you’re completely ignoring her personal fears & experiences that have helped form that opinion, & going on the defensive & even offensive. You’re not trying to support her or even understand why she feels that way, you’re just attempting to minimize her fears & gaslight her & win an argument. Which is EXACTLY why some women (the ones who have experienced assault/are the most vulnerable to predators) need to keep their guard extra high by making generalizations… because th…
/r/MensRights23/12/23 11:12 PM
1

What don’t you believe?
/r/MensRights23/12/23 10:57 PM
1

First, I’m so sorry this happened. It must have been so scary & upsetting to see your wife behave so irrationally like that. Having some of your options taken away from you by laws meant to protect victims of abuse can also be devastating & frightening. Know that you did what seemed like the right thing to do at the time, and probably still is, as who knows how things may have escalated. It seems like the most important thing right now, assuming you, her & kids are safe, is to get a diagnosis & …
/r/MensRights20/11/23 09:51 PM
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If she genuinely has PPD, then it’s like many other mental illnesses that one doesn’t just “learn” not to be schizophrenic/bipolar/suicidal. She needs help if that’s the case… medication, therapy, support and SLEEP. This is NOT to excuse her behavior. What she did was not acceptable in any way.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 09:37 PM
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Wow. That is horrifying and surprising that that’s still considered a bankable script in this current #MeToo era. Sigh. I’m so sorry that you, and so many other men, were victimized as children. That should NEVER be fodder for “an interesting character study” such as that. So I unintentionally found myself attending the LeTourneau/Fualaau wedding after signing a hefty NDA on location while working in the film industry. I can personally testify that she was a manipulative, abusive monster (FOUR h…
/r/MensRights23/10/23 06:21 AM
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If the alternative is me pissing/shitting/bleeding through my pants, then using men’s “gross space” should be a preferable alternative for everyone. Unless you’re an asshole.
/r/MensRights19/10/23 08:02 AM
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To be clear, I didn’t specifically mean only one male/one female, although there are a surprising number & variety of speciesthis applies to, but more specifically that the females only mate with one male, as in with gorillas where one male will have a variety of females he controls and mates with, thus his much greater size compared to females in order to fight off other males competing for mates. There was also corresponding data relating to how such males are less likely to engage in cannibal…
/r/MensRights19/10/23 07:58 AM
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What nonsense. Using blatant racism as a way to defend perverts having more unfettered access to women and children in order to sexually assault them is really quite a take. You’re clearly part of the problem.
/r/MensRights19/10/23 07:50 AM
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“Normal movement” on trains doesn’t result in hands down underpants or semen stains on their clothing.
/r/MensRights06/10/23 09:05 PM
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The main problem being addressed here is women being crushed in with men you can’t escape from while they grope & jerk off on you. Being followed is a separate problem addressed in other ways.
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:58 PM
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1- Japan is not anything like the US. 2- Those number are not based on facts. 3- Since predatory men don’t have PREDATOR tattooed on their forehead, women are left with little alternative in order to keep themselves (and their children) safe on trains.
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:56 PM
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Interesting side note- the greater the size disparity between males and females in primates, the greater the likelihood of monogamy among them. In species where monogamy is not the norm, males are smaller as they don’t have to fight off other males to protect their “harem” (see gorillas) as it’s assumed that everyone is sleeping with everyone. Just heard this via interview on radio yesterday.
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:50 PM
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They why has there been a need for train cars segregating children from men?
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:44 PM
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You think FATHERS are the ones that travel with kids the most‽‽‽ Especially in a country like JAPAN‽‽‽
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:44 PM
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Have you ever actually BEEN on a train in Japan? Especially during rush hour? I have, just a few months ago. They have employees (oshiya) whose job it is to literally SHOVE people into the already packed cars. Some pervert (chikan) is shoving his hand into your underwear or rubbing his dick on your leg? Too bad, there’s nowhere to go until the next stop AND HE KNOWS THAT. There’s also the likelihood you won’t even be able to identify who it is in the crush of people. Even if you do manage to, it…
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:42 PM
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“As soon as it suits them‽‽‽” You mean, as soon as they desperately need to go to the bathroom and the facility didn’t bother planning out their restroom facilities better in order to meet the needs of their users? Trust me, using the Men’s bathroom is the absolute LAST option for women. They tend to be so gross compared to women’s.
/r/MensRights06/10/23 08:32 PM
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There’s a reason that the guidance has changed around teaching kids to be afraid of strangers, & that’s not actually recommended anymore. Kids are MUCH more likely to be harmed/abused by someone known to them & their family, like a relative, neighbor or church leader. Children also need to be able to know how to trust strangers for help if they’re lost or in danger, like store clerks or police. Instead the current wisdom is to teach kids about “tricky people.” This would be any adult that asks a…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 07:34 AM
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It’s not even that they’re ugly, it’s that their attention/comment/advice is unwanted. Men who are creeps never think that THEY’RE a creep. It’s always the other person’s fault that their intentions were “misunderstood” because they’re aCtUaLlY a “nice guy.”
/r/MensRights25/09/23 07:24 AM
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She was worried about her physical safety, because countless other women have been raped &/or murdered by a man who was “just being nice” after he figured out where she lived, did she have a boyfriend/husband/dog/roommate? Did she work at home/nearby/when? Did she work out there often/when/how long? Questions that guys can ask each other no problem while “just chatting,” but can raise red flags for a woman, especially if she lives alone, has had a bad experience that’s made her extra wary. Not s…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 07:19 AM
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The difference here is that while you’re concerned about your reputation or feeling shame, women are literally worried about being raped or murdered, and this is because other men have absolutely raped/murdered countless other women in similar circumstances. Your reputation & feelings ARE important. Someone who is unhinged or bears a grudge of ANY gender can cause you harm, but women in an especially vulnerable way. However you bear some responsibility for your own actions. Your behavior made so…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 07:06 AM
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While I’m genuinely sorry that OP had that experience… do NONE of you see why a parent may have concerns about a non-family member taking photos of their child and sharing them with others? After having her sit on his lap, attempting to buy her ice cream… those are stereotypical groomer tactics. Note: I am NOT saying OP was grooming her, but from the outside it’s not unreasonable to see it that way. I have several friends who have a No Photos Online of their young children policy. Some due to pr…
/r/MensRights11/08/23 07:00 AM
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I am so sorry this is a problem you’re having to deal with. How are fathers supposed to be involved & supportive if they’re not included in basic communication like this‽‽‽ So self-defeating! This is also a problem in the states to some degree, although it seems it’s more that gendered expectations keep Dads from feeling like they’d be welcomed. I’ve been strategizing all summer on ways to get Dads more involved with activities at my daughter’s smallish private school. Events aren’t even gendere…
/r/MensRights27/07/23 09:00 PM
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Women who shame men into going into therapy are behaving in a toxic manner. Women who want to make a relationship work, who don’t want to see someone they love continue to suffer as a result of trauma will ENCOURAGE the men they care about to seek help for problems they’ve been unable to resolve on their own. Just like men who shame their partners & attempt to manipulate them into doing or not doing things for their own comfort are acting in a toxic manner, as opposed to taking responsibility fo…
/r/MensRights11/07/23 04:20 AM
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If “every woman you’ve dated has the emotional maturity of a toddler,” then perhaps it might be worth exploring why you’re attracted to damaged women that you then have to “fix.” Without understanding this & deciding you want to change it, then that’s who you’ll continue to find yourself involved with.
/r/MensRights11/07/23 03:38 AM
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So only at a select few high end restaurants then. Certainly not “always.” Because many more places REQUIRE girls/women to wear debilitating & dangerous footwear, restrictive & inappropriate clothing, clothing that’s unnecessarily sexual or punishment & shame for wearing clothing that’s arbitrarily deemed too revealing because it’s a distraction for the male faculty/students, which is deemed a priority over her comfort/personal choice. Aside from your very narrow & mild example, women face FAR m…
/r/MensRights06/07/23 07:46 AM
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How do women “always get more flexible dress codes than men?”
/r/MensRights06/07/23 06:23 AM
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The OP is arguing ON BEHALF OF MEN. She’s on your side & STILL y’all have to drag on her? She’s arguing against an antiquated dress code FOR MEN. I’m sure a good portion of y’all have complained about being required to wear a dress shirt/suit/tie at some point, but when SHE does it for you, &/or because it involves someone who is trans/gender fluid that’s now a bad thing? And you claim women are mercurial! Sheesh.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 06:22 AM
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They fired Lasseter because he apparently frequently got drunk & would grab, kiss & make inappropriate comments about other people’s bodies. Correlation ≠ causation.
/r/MensRights30/06/23 12:57 AM
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Life long or as long as the children are minors? Article says she wasn’t looking for spousal support.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 11:35 PM
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To 99.99% of this, this number sounds absolutely absurd. However, in looking at the breakdown, the cost attributed to raising their three kids is less than half their overall monthly expenses. It’s also only 15% of his income. Is this still an obscene amount of money to spend on kids? Absolutely. However he was apparently willing to spend this amount on them while married, so why should the kids have to change schools, drop out of activities, etc because their parents decided to get divorced? It…
/r/MensRights24/06/23 11:34 PM
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First, I’m sorry that happened to you. Those do not sound like good friends. Any relationship that isn’t a balance of give-and-take that works for BOTH people is abusive. Please know that their inability to properly be there for you is all about THEM, and not you.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 10:41 PM
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That’s not how I interpreted it at all. He’s suggesting that if you want women to understand you better, learn the way they communicate & attempt to emulate that. This is no different from learning any other language. The way to communicate more efficiently & effectively with someone whose language you’re not fluent in isn’t to get angry & yell at them, or force them to learn yours. Most men simply don’t have a fluent vocabulary around describing their own emotions. More women do. So if you want…
/r/MensRights24/06/23 10:37 PM
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Dating ≠ f*cking. One can date dozens of people & still choose to remain celibate. It seems like it’s OP’s desire for his brother to get laid, not his brother’s.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 11:45 AM
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You say you don’t mock him, yet you very clearly think there’s something wrong with him not having had sex yet, despite by your own statistics it being totally normal. Sex just for the sake of having sex can absolutely screw people up & skew their relationship with sex in a toxic way for life. ESPECIALLY since he clearly doesn’t want that. Maybe he’s waiting for the right one. Maybe he’s asexual/gay/etc & just not interested in your help. Maybe he’s got other priorities. If he seems depressed ov…
/r/MensRights11/06/23 04:20 AM
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He’s not involuntarily celibate. He’s said he’s waiting for the right person. It’s OP that’s obsessed with it.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 04:04 AM
1

Why does it matter who files for divorce? If someone is desperately unhappy in a marriage, why would anyone want to force them to stay with them?
/r/MensRights27/05/23 06:41 AM
-10

That too. The vast majority of those are only for a few years until the spouse is able to support themselves again. Only a small handful of states even offer permanent alimony (until remarried or death).
/r/MensRights12/05/23 07:21 PM
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Why is it all YOUR stuff if BOTH of you spent years/decades building up that wealth TOGETHER? Also, your math is off. Who has the other 50% of leaving a marriage? Highly doubt non-binary people factor into your math there.
/r/MensRights12/05/23 05:48 PM
7

Wait… you’re a “full time student doctor” but as soon as you finish “training” you’re going to just stay home & be a housewife‽‽‽ Guessing by this and your “vibrational” references that’s not any kind of actual medical doctor, because that would make less sense than your original post.
/r/MensRights30/04/23 08:52 AM
2

That’s a totally reasonable boundary to set, both for the help in preventing things from escalating, and for her personal safety. I would suggest it more like a guideline though, as all kinds of things may be similar but not specifically that. So it’s more the intent behind his gesture that you want to prevent from escalating into certain actions, be they alcohol/club related or not.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 12:04 AM
1

NEVER if she has headphones on, unless she’s on fire or about to be hit by a bus. They’re a universal sign for “leave me TF alone.”
/r/MensRights08/03/23 12:44 AM
-1

What may seem like an “innocuous comment” to YOU does not make it an innocuous comment to everyone, or even anyone else. If you’re wanting to compliment someone, it should be done with the intent to make them feel good about themselves, not to get laid. If it’s the former, you’re much more likely to succeed. If it’s the latter, it’s obvious and comes across as predatory. Trying to center your own needs while complimenting someone else are almost always mutually exclusive agendas and will make ot…
/r/MensRights08/03/23 12:42 AM
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Sure, but some of the rights that each of those demographics advocate for are often very different.
/r/MensRights28/02/23 01:12 AM
0

You totally misrepresented the original post. Probably why you deleted it. She doesn’t want to become some guy’s live in maid/cook and give up her independence just to save some money on rent. She prefers to pay her own rent/expenses and appreciates a man who is self sufficient and isn’t in need of a woman to take care of him. Why you’re finding fault with an independent woman who is NOT looking for a man to pay for her AND appreciates a man who is a fully formed adult speaks a lot to what your …
/r/MensRights16/02/23 09:08 AM
0

Nope. Not at all. She refuses to compromise her independence to move in with a guy and pay half of HIS rent, preferring instead to pay ALL of her own, in her own place, instead. OP misrepresented the original post.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 09:04 AM
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Nope. Not at all. She refuses to compromise her independence to move in with a guy and pay half of HIS rent, preferring instead to pay ALL of her own, in her own place, instead. OP misrepresented the original post.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 09:03 AM
1

That’s EXACTLY what she’s saying she wants! She prefers to have her independence, and live on her own, paying all her own expenses rather than risk her independence just to save some cash by moving in with a boyfriend, where the odds are she’d ALSO wind up doing more than her fair share of household chores as well.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 09:03 AM
1

Sheesh. OP misrepresented the post. She was clearly saying that she’d rather live alone, in her own place, than move in and risk compromising her independence just to save money. She likes independent men too who have prioritized that and don’t need her to cook/clean for them.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:59 AM
1

Why? Men complain on here al the time about women just wanting them for their wallet. A woman can’t value her own independence and want the same?
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:56 AM
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She refuses to compromise her independence to move in with a guy and pay half of HIS rent, preferring instead to pay ALL of her own, in her own place, instead. OP misrepresented the original post.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:54 AM
1

Her independence and own financial stability and no need to be with a man to have him supplement her lifestyle.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:52 AM
1

That’s not what she was saying. She said she valued her independence and her partner being independent as well and didn’t want to risk that by moving in together just to save cash. Wasn’t worth it to her.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:51 AM
1

She’s saying she values her own independence and in her partner as well and doesn’t want to risk that just to save on rent, plus also likely having to do most chores/cooking as well.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:48 AM
1

She posts elsewhere about her 80K job and looking for advice on budgeting for retirement and a downpayment, so not likely.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:46 AM
1

That’s not remotely what she was talking about. She doesn’t want to be some guy’s live in maid/cook/rent break. She values independence for herself AND in her partners.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:45 AM
0

Did you completely miss her whole point that she values independence, both her own and in a partner, and doesn’t want to risk compromising that just to save money in rent. She speaks extensively about her current boyfriend and what she admires is that he’s an independent, fully formed adult who isn’t looking for a woman to move in, pay half the rent, and also cook, clean, etc.
/r/MensRights16/02/23 08:43 AM
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Not because of the secret itself, but because they feel shame around liking and enjoying that thing in the first place. That they feel they have to hide an important, special part of themselves from the world out of fear of repercussions. The shame around having to hide things that bring you joy is super toxic. Witnessing other people who aren’t afraid to or are able do it can build resentment and anger, which is also toxic. Shame is such a cancer in our psyche and can absolutely lead to depress…
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:45 PM
1

Paying to support the life of your biological child is different from “paying a woman” or “restitution.” What do you mean by “males have to pay a woman who was convicted for the act of conception?” It’s not clear to me.
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:46 AM
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An abortion would also save the man from extended consequences of an unwanted pregnancy as well. Why are you suggesting it shouldn’t be allowed?
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:39 AM
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In a way, yes because previous commenter compared paying to support ones own child to a crime. Yes, getting pregnant is a consequence of sex, one that ONLY women are forced to contend with. Men only HAVE to deal with consequences IF she gives birth, and IF the courts get involved, & even then less than half pay what they owe. Are you really suggesting women should be punished with forced pregnancy and a child because she allowed herself to become pregnant‽‽‽ That makes no sense.
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:37 AM
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Interesting! Good to know, but also kinda sad. I wonder what would happen if one of them just said they weren’t married. Would they still be able to get it?
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:28 AM
-2

Is that a chicken and egg scenario? There’s more female therapists because there’s more demand for them because more females seek out therapy, who are then more likely to become therapists themselves. Men don’t seek out therapy because they face too many barriers finding one they connect with so they don’t become a therapist themselves that could help future generations. Although you seem to be implying that a man can’t find value in a therapist who’s a woman, which is totally untrue. Just depen…
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:25 AM
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Once the damage has been done, it seems like getting him the help he needs is likely to be more effective than attempting systemic cultural changes, but maybe I’m misunderstanding what you meant by “oppressive stimulus.” Toxic people/situations should be removed wherever possible for sure, but that’s in addition to proper help sorting through issues.
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:12 AM
1

FWIW- As a feminist, I hate that term, and I do call people out for using it, for exactly the reasons stated here. One of the most amazing, kind, intelligent and caring men I know (and once dated) has a micro penis. I think of how that term would crush him every time I hear it (we’re still friends).
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:08 AM
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Do you have links to info that led you to believe this? I would be curious to read more, as that’s a surprisingly high percentage of men seeking therapy, and horrifyingly high number of them being failed by it. The medical profession is rife with long-held toxic beliefs that they’re stubbornly unwilling to address and change. I’m so sorry this has been one of them. So then maybe it’s worth exploring what changes need to be made BEFORE men are so distraught that they need therapy that’s not worki…
/r/MensRights15/02/23 09:04 AM
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Well, do you want to “get laid a lot” by one person, or many? That’s an important distinction to make, goal wise. In my opinion, it’s helpful to envision the kind of person you want to be with, and then speculate what kind of person they would want to be with. I mean, do you really want to be with someone who is just looking for a hot guy with a big wallet? Why would you think that’s all you have to offer, or all you deserve? There are literally millions of men in happy, loving relationships who…
/r/MensRights15/02/23 08:49 AM
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What might encourage more men to seek help before they resort to suicide? What current barriers exist that deter this? Expense? Availability of therapists? Stigma against seeking help? Or do we go deeper and examine what drives men into depression in the first place?
/r/MensRights14/02/23 10:33 PM
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Damn. That’s heartbreaking. Mental health desperately needs to be de-stigmatized so it becomes more acceptable and accessible for everyone. ESPECIALLY men, and children.
/r/MensRights14/02/23 10:29 PM
1

How do you define “winning” in the dating market, specifically? Getting laid? Having a girlfriend? Getting married? Finding a partner that you love & is worthy of you & vice versa? Ir having a trophy you can use as a status symbol?
/r/MensRights14/02/23 10:20 PM
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Not a problem, thanks for that. Nothing was specified up front so easy mistake to make. I wish equal weight was given to everyone, everywhere in making such an important decision, and for the same reasons. It’s unfortunate this is not the case. On a side note, the world really needs a reliable form of affordable birth control for men that’s not permanent & has low side effects. There is hope that Vasagel might FINALLY be close to making it to market, possibly as early as next year! Near 100% eff…
/r/MensRights12/02/23 11:11 AM
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Equally difficult decision? I mean, sure. I don’t know how you quantify that one way or another, so we’ll give it the benefit of the doubt. Process? No. Not even close, on average. A vasectomy is typically two visits, local anesthesia, costs approximately $1,000, recovery about a week though most men can return to work next day if not lifting things. 1-2 per 1,000 fail. Tubal ligation is two visits, involves being put under anesthesia & abdomen inflated with gas (both posing additional risks), c…
/r/MensRights12/02/23 10:53 AM
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I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum on this issue, having been a 34 A-F in my adult years, pre and post pregnancy. Personally, the only women I experienced grief from over my large chest size was from my Mom, snide, passive-aggressive comments that were really ALL about her issues with her own body. I sure got tons of comments/judgements/stares & even photos taken on the DL from men, despite not wearing super low cut/revealing clothes. When you’re petite with a 34F cup, there’s just no hiding…
/r/MensRights12/02/23 07:21 AM
-10

To be clear, punitively withholding sex is childish and destructive. Her making the decision for HERSELF to refrain from sex because she doesn’t want to/can’t risk pregnancy is an entirely different thing. Should a man ever be forced to have a vasectomy OR denied one if he wants it? Absolutely not. However, the same doesn’t hold true for women. Doctors often refuse to provide the similar procedure for women. The reasons given make it very clear that it is NOT “her body, her choice” as they revol…
/r/MensRights12/02/23 06:48 AM
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Also, “forced child support” is no more a “violation of bodily autonomy” than court ordered restitution for committing a crime. You decide to do A, then B is the logical consequence for the actions you decided to take.
/r/MensRights12/02/23 06:32 AM
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Assuming sex was consensual, you chose to take the known risk of pregnancy in order to have sex, same as your partner. It’s the literal example of FAFO. If you aren’t compelled to pay to support the child that you helped create during consensual sex, then all of the rest of us would be forced to pay child support for all of the abandoned children of dead beat dads via raised taxes. So in a way, you’d STILL be paying, just not for only yours. Does that sound fair?
/r/MensRights12/02/23 06:28 AM
0

Men can absolutely decide if they want a child or not. What are you on about? Children are the natural result of sex. Don’t want a child? Get a vasectomy, or don’t have sex. Want a child? Find a suitable mate, hire a surrogate, look into adoption. Men improve their quality AND quantity of their lives via sex in that married men live longer, happier lives than single men. However the opposite is true for women, where single women live longer, happier lives than married ones who are stuck taking c…
/r/MensRights24/01/23 07:35 AM
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Interesting how you just completely ignore that men would be capable of, even prone to, rioting, looting, and extreme violence (including rape) in any such given scenario. I mean, they’re prone to doing that over a FOOTBALL game, even when their team WINS! Hospitals without nurses, even with half the patients gone, would collapse. 85% of nurses are women, as are around 40% of doctors. So you’d have 50% of the population, but 15% of nurses and 60% of doctors. That would mean going from a current …
/r/MensRights31/12/22 04:20 AM
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There was a very interesting book written about exactly this called “The Disappearance” by Philip Wylie. Things go a bit differently than you imagine here, but it was written back in 1951.
/r/MensRights31/12/22 03:46 AM
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Men are ABLE to work more inconvenient hours because society has largely put the responsibility of childcare upon women, and there are few/zero affordable options for them to allow women with kids to work those types of shifts, so nobody really expects them to.
/r/MensRights31/12/22 03:41 AM
1

These posts makes me wish there was an art show or craft fair of some kind where y’all could show off your “non-masculine” skills, win awards, get support and perhaps even sell your products and find a new source of income that brings you joy if that’s your thing. So much amazing talent that’s being kept hidden… thanks for sharing here though!
/r/MensRights21/12/22 10:08 PM
1

Awww… Utilikilts makes some fun colors, maybe that might work for both of you? Tell her Brad Pitt recently wore a skirt to a red carpet event. If he can do it, so can you!
/r/MensRights21/12/22 10:03 PM
0

How do women tend to or stereotypically use/express their anger versus how do men tend to or stereotypically use/express their anger?
/r/MensRights20/12/22 10:41 PM
0

If a man is able, at will, to opt out of financially supporting his children, what government program should be created to then help support those children and their mothers, and how should it be funded? If he opts out financially, it’s assumed that he is also simultaneously opting out of any custodial/visitation rights as well, correct? What happens if he changes his mind later and wants to meet his child/ren? Or if they want to meet their father & have a relationship with him? Should that be a…
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:56 PM
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The average rate of child support payments in the US is $100 a week. That’s for food, clothing, housing, healthcare, education, entertainment and more. Except around 30% of people don’t even pay that. Only about half of custodial parents get the full amount due to them each month. That’s not a “wealth transfer.” Nobody is getting rich off of that. What research shows that there’s “when child support is forced, there is no benefit to the child?” Under what possible terms could access to better ho…
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:44 PM
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Wouldn’t “informed consent” involve consenting to sex since he presumably knows a pregnancy is a possible outcome?
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:35 PM
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The government does all the time. If the mother has no money to feed & care for the child, and the child is starving to death, then the state will either give financial support/money to the mother or take it away so it can be properly cared for while she gets back on her feet.
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:33 PM
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The woman does NOT “always [have] the choice.” Especially now. If she becomes pregnant due to rape or coercion, that wasn’t her choice, or if by accident (failure of birth control, incorrect usage, no bc) and either state law, religious or cultural beliefs prohibit abortion, then she is forced to continue with the pregnancy. A woman is fertile for about 48hrs a month from puberty until menopause. A man is fertile 24/7/365 from puberty until death. Knowing this, a man has the responsibility to ta…
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:29 PM
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That’s not remotely an accurate conclusion to draw. Only a tiny fraction of rapes ever get prosecuted, much less a conviction.
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:09 PM
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Have you considered WHY those things are as you say, and who or what, historically and currently, has been in a position of power in which to decide to either help or further exacerbate the problems you mention? Having a growth mindset of looking for reasons and solutions to the very legitimate concerns you raise instead of just looking for someone to blame so you can continue to portray yourself as a victim is a lot more productive and healing in the long run. Why are men more likely to commit …
/r/MensRights04/12/22 02:39 AM
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Out of curiosity, how much more likely do you think? Like, percentage wise?
/r/MensRights14/11/22 12:06 AM
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First, it’s not fair for someone to respond to your legitimate concerns with an attempt turn things into some sort of f-cked up Trauma Olympics. I’m sorry that’s the experience you appear to be having, it’s not right. Second, your definition/perception of “harmless” is likely to be much different from a woman’s, simply due to most men being able to defend themselves from unwanted attention/physical contact from a woman easier than women are able to defend themselves against a man. Similar to an …
/r/MensRights14/11/22 12:05 AM
1

See my previous post. Women accounted for 47% of violent crime victims in 2021 vs 53% for men. In general women are also much less able to defend themselves from violent crime. Violent crime also includes sexual assault and rape, which happens to women more than men. So given that violent crime appears to impact men and women at about the same rate (though in different ways), do you have any thoughts on what might be done to address it?
/r/MensRights13/11/22 11:41 PM
1

Out of curiosity, I looked it up.. Out of a total of 2,734,700 victims of violent crime in 2021, men accounted for 53% of the victims to women’s 47%. So not actually a huge difference, which was surprising to me.
/r/MensRights13/11/22 11:30 PM
1

Well, everyone should do their own risk assessment. Seems a bit out there on the “What if‽‽‽” spectrum and more likely to cause you harm than protect you from it. I think it’s not accurate to imply that in general, most women are “afraid of all men.” Wary of unknown ones, or ones that raise a red flag for some reason? Sure. But “afraid of all men” is generally going to be more specific to women who are like survivors of abuse, at the hands of an abusive man. Under the umbrella of “violence” is t…
/r/MensRights13/11/22 11:14 PM
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The circumstances in which men become the victim of a violent crime tend to be much different from women. Those contributing factors matter.
/r/MensRights13/11/22 06:44 AM
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What “same thing is true of female false accusers?”
/r/MensRights13/11/22 06:39 AM
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Yes, men are much more likely to be victims of violence… at the hands of OTHER MEN because MEN ARE MORE VIOLENT. Men get into physical altercations with each other FAR more often than women do.
/r/MensRights13/11/22 06:37 AM
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Simply changing genders and arbitrarily raising the ratio doesn’t make anything you said valid (or anything I said invalid), it just makes you look lazy and incapable of coming up with your own unique argument. Try harder.
/r/MensRights13/11/22 06:35 AM
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Imagine I hand you a bowl of your favorite candy. Then I tell you 1:100 are toxic and will severely injure or kill you. How wary would you be about diving in and eating them? That’s what the unpredictable and unreasonable violence (or implied violence) from men is like, and the excusing and tolerating it by other men is what keeps women wary of ALL men. We walk down the street and get implied threats of rape yelled at us. We ignore a request to smile, go out with someone, give them our number, a…
/r/MensRights12/11/22 11:05 PM
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Yes, victims of violent crime, AT THE HANDS OF OTHER MEN (the vast majority of the time).
/r/MensRights12/11/22 10:48 PM
-5

There is virtually no place in the world where a woman who is walking alone at night and suddenly hears footsteps behind her, doesn’t have reason to fear for her safety and/or life. This certainly isn’t because of violent women prowling streets looking for potential victims either.
/r/MensRights12/11/22 10:45 PM
1

FWIW, I do think there should be a term for the kind of awful and pathetic way that wives in certain sitcoms are scripted to speak to their husbands who are portrayed as an endlessly incompetent man-child. He can do his professional job just fine, but the SECOND he comes home, there’s this toxic incompetence that’s portrayed as “just how men are!” and the wife has to explain basic chore or child-care task as if he’s feeble-minded. That kind of dynamic seems to be disappearing (though I don’t wat…
/r/MensRights10/11/22 08:30 AM
1

Women mainly do it to fathers? Do what? I’m not clear what you’re trying to say here. Umm, yes. This entire thread is about arguing semantics. That being the accurate definition/meaning of “mansplaining” Anyone can be condescending. Mansplaining is a specific subset of that behavior unique to men speaking to women.
/r/MensRights10/11/22 08:21 AM
1

Agreed… except it was just him talking past us. He either wouldn’t let us interrupt, or just argued we were wrong without really considering what we were saying. Like there’s no reason fit-and-flare dresses/skirts can’t have pockets. We were complaining because the majority of women’s clothing doesn’t have functional pockets. Many are fake slits, or 3” deep and good for nothing. I once ordered matching family pjs and the ONLY difference between the man’s and women’s drawstring bottoms was women’…
/r/MensRights10/11/22 08:15 AM
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No, the video says men are more likely to speak up, interrupt, and talk over women. Not that “only” men. One of the explanations of why is because they assume they know answers that women don’t and need to have them explained to them. Otherwise, why wouldn’t they shut up more and let women answer?
/r/MensRights10/11/22 08:01 AM
1

Of course women can be sexist, where did I ever say they couldn’t? You seem to be making a lot of questionable assumptions here that’s causing you a lot of confusion and misunderstandings. Might I suggest an attempt to first seek to understand to help prevent that?
/r/MensRights10/11/22 07:53 AM
1

Again, how have you made that determination that what women say they’ve experienced has been “grossly exaggerated?” By what metric have you determined that a “small minority” of women are “experts in their field?” You seem to be making a lot of questionable assumptions, and I’m curious as to what you base them on.
/r/MensRights10/11/22 07:48 AM
1

Did you bother to watch the video I linked to? Because it really seems like either you didn’t or are willfully ignoring the points it made. The beauty of the English language is that it’s a living language and constantly changing. You’re free to make up whatever words or phrases you’d like, “magical” or not. If you’re lucky, it’ll become commonly accepted and even officially added to the dictionary, like “mansplaining” was. Best of luck!
/r/MensRights10/11/22 07:43 AM
1

Families in the US spend more than $7,000 on average for childcare. It doesn’t make financial sense for many to pay for childcare just to go to a part time job that pays about the same. What do you think it would cost to hire a full time nanny, maid, teacher, personal assistant, and chef? Do those roles not have any value to you? Who would do them if the woman is at work all day?
/r/MensRights10/11/22 07:34 AM
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Before I address your points, did you watch the video I linked to?
/r/MensRights07/11/22 11:18 PM
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Because it’s a specific behavior that’s experienced by a lot of women. It’s partly that collective experience that was so hard to define that gave it this name. This video helps explain it better.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 11:15 PM
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I think this video adds important context. It’s not just about individual experiences or examples. It’s about a collective and pervasive experience that MOST women experience at least some point in their lives. It’s a gendered word because it refers to a specific gendered experience. Objections to fireMan and such are because it’s not an inherently gendered role any more, and calling it that is a subtle way of reinforcing that women aren’t welcome to be part of that culture.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 11:00 PM
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Yes, women can of course be condescending and incorrectly assume ignorance. The term is more about the collective experience women experience as a whole by men who just assume their ignorance and their right or obligation to “educate” them while ignoring many signs that they’re incorrect. This link explains it well.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:53 PM
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That’s a big part of it, the collective experience of women who are experts in their field having their ignorance just assumed by men who feel obligated to educate them.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:49 PM
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Men do NOT generally “explain things to other men the same way they explain things to women.” I am a woman who has interests and expertise in many areas that are more typically aligned with men. Leather working, motorcycles, vintage cars, home remodel, SFX prop creation, 3D printing, etc. SO MANY TIMES I will say join a discussion with a group of men on a related topic, go to buy a related tool/product with a male friend, or take a class with all men, and the speaker/sales person/instructor will…
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:47 PM
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How did you make the determination, as a man, that what women say they’ve experienced is “grossly exaggerated?”
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:27 PM
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The way in which some women do this to men is sometimes similar, but still lacks the collective undermining of authority and experience that women experience as a whole. This breaks it down well I think. https://youtu.be/t7GUjKv9qSI
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:25 PM
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It’s an example of an accusation, but without the context of what he’d said to show if her accusation had merit.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 10:21 PM
1

What do you think “mansplaining” means, as it is used by women who claim to experience it?
/r/MensRights07/11/22 09:33 AM
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I would not. You can read it in the thread for yourself.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 09:17 AM
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You’re missing the point. I’m not assuming anything. It’s been repeatedly demonstrated that many people here either genuinely or willfully misunderstand what the term means, as it is used by women. The term was created by a woman, is primarily used by women, and in regards to a phenomenon experienced by women. So a woman offering clarification and her perspective on men discussing it is not remotely the same thing.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 09:13 AM
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Only 24% of books are currently written by women, and in fiction, it’s currently 52% are women vs 48% being men, so “dominated by women” may be a bit of a stretch. Especially since this is a very recent phenomenon, and men have pretty much dominated literature of all kinds before then since the beginning. So the vast majority of ALL novels have been written by men. So considering that, and that every author has a story they think is missing from the world, women who are FINALLY able to get publi…
/r/MensRights07/11/22 08:50 AM
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Not at all. It’s already been demonstrated that the person I’m replying to misunderstands the concept and usage. I’m not just assuming that because they’re apparently a man.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 08:23 AM
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It’s like the time at the opening of a new costume collection at a museum where a man interrupted a few friends (all women) and I while we were complaining about the lack of pockets in women’s clothing. He began to tell us all about how items in pockets destroy the line of clothing, and the way it’s supposed to lay, drape and look. He then told us about a bandolier style case he had for his phone and how he had just added a pouch to it to carry keys, sunglasses, etc. and how we should all look i…
/r/MensRights07/11/22 08:09 AM
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Mansplaining isn’t about speaking in a condescending manner as I’ve seen several here attempt to assert. Often, men appear to have no intention or awareness of being condescending when doing it. It’s a man assuming, often by ignoring obvious signs to the contrary, that they know more about something than the woman they’re talking to, even (and often) when they have no particular expertise in the field themselves. This is especially rampant in regards to fields that are typically dominated by men…
/r/MensRights07/11/22 07:49 AM
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It’s not about speaking in a condescending manner. Often, men appear to have no intention or awareness of being condescending when doing it. It’s a man assuming, often by ignoring obvious signs to the contrary, that they know more about something than the woman they’re talking to, even (and often) when they have no particular expertise in the field themselves. This is especially rampant in regards to fields that are typically dominated by men… the sciences, engineering, medicine, cars, finance, …
/r/MensRights07/11/22 07:44 AM
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Well, you got part of that right. It IS meant to silence men who might be about to “mansplain” something and cause them to think twice before they speak.
/r/MensRights07/11/22 07:28 AM
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Why is it “asinine?” Women make $.77 for every $1.00 men make. At current pace, it will take over 250 years for that to equalize.
/r/MensRights29/10/22 06:17 AM
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It what scenarios are you talking about? Can you be more specific? Like, ANY women? Women they don’t know? Hot women? Women in sexy clothes? Certain parts of women? Women in certain scenarios?
/r/MensRights28/10/22 03:25 AM
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Umm, yeah! Chicks would HATE this! Like, SO MUCH. You should TOTALLY do this. That’d show ‘em!
/r/MensRights28/10/22 03:11 AM
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Highly doubt those are often LITERALLY the “same women.” SOME women might send unsolicited nudes to stranger men, and OTHER women get super mad when men do that to them. Probably pretty rare for those two groups to overlap though.
/r/MensRights28/10/22 03:09 AM
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Women choose to dress the way they do because it makes them feel good. Full stop. SOME of that may be because of the attention they get from men they find attractive, but unless it’s a specific situation like she’s a stripper, going clubbing, frat party, etc where attracting the male gaze is the main point, that is a misconception for most adult women. Generally, the more insecure, the more likely women are to dress for external validation though. Teen girls dress for those reasons more so than …
/r/MensRights28/10/22 03:05 AM
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Except child support is supposed to be exactly that… financial support for the CHILD. Why should the innocent child be forced to suffer because of acts of adults? Who else should be forced to pay for the support of the child if the father isn’t required to?
/r/MensRights27/10/22 06:08 AM
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You said “there were times at which we haven’t [used a condom]” which means more than once/repeatedly. Correct? So were you passed out or asleep? And another time you apparently had sex while blacked out? Was she also drinking heavily and possibly also blacked out or unable to make safe decisions? This sounds like a concerning amount of drinking and sex while doing heavy drinking. Regardless of how this works out, it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself in trouble again engaging in r…
/r/MensRights27/10/22 05:02 AM
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There’s being a “dad” legally, as in name on birth certificate, legal/financial obligations, and then there’s BEING a “Dad” in regards to what you’re referencing… being willingly present in the child’s life and an active and enthusiastic participant in raising them. You imply that it’s a given that if OP isn’t there as an active father figure, “bad things” will happen. This is of course far from a guarantee. Plenty of “bad things” happen to people WITH Dads around. ESPECIALLY apathetic, emotiona…
/r/MensRights27/10/22 04:47 AM
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He made a choice to REPEATEDLY have unprotected sex with a woman, knowing the possible consequences he might have to deal with. Pregnancy is an almost certainty given enough frequency in that regard. He gambled that he she wouldn’t get pregnant and he could have birth control free sex and he’d never have to deal with a possible child, and now he appears to have lost.* That was HIS informed choice. Not hers. *Rape possibility set aside as argument stands regardless.
/r/MensRights26/10/22 11:16 PM
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Be honest about what you realistically see happening going forward. Tell her that you understand that the reality of being pregnant may have changed her mind in regards to being child-free, but not you, and specifically what route you plan on taking as a result. If you don’t see the relationship continuing, and plan to have nothing whatsoever to do with the baby, say so. It’s not out of spite or anything, you just haven’t changed here, she has. Let her know you’ll do what’s legally required, but…
/r/MensRights26/10/22 06:12 AM
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Women who are mothers who work full time lose out more financially than men who are fathers working full time because they statistically miss out on more promotions and raises than men. The burden of child care falls disproportionately on women, so they miss more work due to school vacations, sick kids, childbirth, etc. During the pandemic stay at home orders the vast majority of home schooling responsibilities fell on women, even with both parents working from the same home. This negatively imp…
/r/MensRights26/10/22 06:02 AM
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Why 50/50 parenting plan? He has stated he doesn’t want kids. Why punish a kid by forcing it to be with an apathetic parent who never wanted it?
/r/MensRights26/10/22 05:54 AM
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Why? He said he doesn’t want to be a parent. Apparently she does. Why punish the kid with being raised by an apathetic parent that never wanted them? That just sounds spiteful. He admittedly drinks until he blacks out (so still engages in activities, just doesn’t remember them afterwards) and doesn’t always wear a condom. Pregnancy was basically inevitable, and rape is by no means a given here.
/r/MensRights26/10/22 05:51 AM
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