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| 3 | How can I stop being an incel nice guy piece of shit 💩That's not an unreasonable expectation at all. But you have to be careful to not put the carriage before the horse. For a lot of people who want to get married and have a family, that desire can be so strong that in your quest to fulfill it, you start looking at people as parts to fill into that role, rather than the person themselves. And women are very good at sniffing out when they're being looked at as role fillers and not being looked at for who she is. | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 03:39 AM |
| 3 | How can I stop being an incel nice guy piece of shit 💩Live life for yourself. A woman/relationship can enrich your life, but you shouldn't look at it as what gives you happiness. You should be happy on your own, and there are plenty of things about the single life that are better than being attached. Treating women properly, with respect. Good. But there is a line between basic respect and worship. Treat women like people, not some mythical creature. And not every woman is a potential romantic interest. Just interact with women as you would any oth… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 02:20 AM |
| 5 | Fun or creative questions to ask on a date?You wake up tomorrow morning and find you're in my body for 24 hours. What do you do? | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 02:35 AM |
| 3 | First time Japan as a couple. Where can we meet girlsThe most straightforward answer is something called happening bars, Japan's equivalent to swinger bars. The problem is that it'd probably be difficult to go to one being a traveler and not understanding Japanese. From there, as someone else suggested, I'd say hit up some bars in Shibuya or Shinjuku, especially ones that are popular with foreigners. If you're not particular about meeting locals you can meet other expats or travelers, but the main thing is that Japanese people who are interested i… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 09:50 AM |
| 5 | Why you should NOT aim to smash on the first dateI never go into a first date expecting or even hoping for sex. However if the opportunity presents itself I will most certainly take it. And all of my best relationships have come from sex on first/second date situations. | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Reflections on trying to do cold approaches in Japan as an introvertThank goodness you didn't Approach at the trains. There's a very good chance someone would have recorded video of you and uploaded it as more tourists behaving badly in Japan. Japan is not really a good place for cold approach, out in public. Most Japanese guys don't even do it. There are places where that kind of thing is more acceptable, such as bars and clubs. Or International parties. Those venues are actually a good bet since most of the women there will be actively looking for foreign men.… | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 02:35 PM |
| 1 | how can i be happy with nobody?People can't give you happiness. They can compliment/supplement it, but they can't be the source of your happiness. | /r/seduction | 05/10/25 06:11 AM |
| 11 | Why men obsessed with analysing women's signals keep failing with them and why men just need to follow their desiresAs someone who's been around the block and back, I think there's two ways to approach things. One, try to read signals and respond appropriately. Two, ignore signals and just bulldoze your way through, and either it works or it doesn't. Here's the thing - both approaches have their pros and cons. There are women for whom the measured, take it step-by-step in accordance with the signals approach works. And women for whom bulldozing your way through is the best way. Both approaches will either wor… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 08:58 PM |
| 117 | Going to Japan but there is one little thing I’m concerned about……People do have sex in Japan. Japanese women generally prefer Japanese men, but there is a small percentage of women who like/prefer foreigners. The good news is that this small percentage can be pretty proactive, even aggressive, in pursuing foreign men. You will need to position yourself in places where these women go hunting. Someone already mentioned a bar called The Hub, that's more or less the default place to go. Also there are international exchange parties, which are more or less meat ma… | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 07:02 PM |
| 1 | A Study on Interracial HookupAs a black man living in Japan, this doesn't feel accurate at all. | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 10:05 PM |
| 19 | Some people are dying of thirst while others are drowning.I've been on both sides of this coin. Here's my advice. First, you have to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? And a big part of that is being okay with who you are now - including being single. You can be happy in a relationship, but don't use a relationship to make you happy. Needing to have someone in order to make you happy makes you clingy and co-dependent - women can sniff that out from a mile away and it's a major turn-off. Second, know your niche… | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 04:01 AM |
| 13 | Im 36, im having success with milfs 45-50+, i think its because of my age and physique, how is dating gonna be when im older like 45+ will it be harder or easier? Would be interestingwith some insightsIt's gonna be harder. 35-ish was the time of my life, it was insane. I enjoyed casual relationships with both younger and older women...they didn't take me seriously because of the age gap. Now that I'm around the same age as them they look at me as potential relationship material and want to rush into being super serious. If you engage in what you intend to be a casual relationship, but things get serious between you two...hold onto it. Dating sucks regardless, but it only gets harder as you ag… | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Low bodycount headacheI'll give you my perspective from the opposite end - my body count is triple digits. Comfortably so. ...I don't need it. It doesn't really serve any purpose. I never tell women the truth because they'd never accept it, and the number of men who'd be impressed by it is dwindling. It's helped me to gain a clearer picture of what I like and don't like. What's out there and what's possible. But you don't need numbers for that. If you are in a relationship with a girl and she's giving you everything … | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 03:59 AM |
| 1 | I feel so hopeless and jealous of all the hot wild sex and relationships happening the worldWhen I first started I didn't understand why a woman would ever pay for it either. Most clients are married women who are unhappy sexually for some reason in their marriages. For them it's not quite cheating as it's a paid transaction. Many of their husbands know and don't care, or even encourage it. Also, while women do have options...you have to realize that the vast majority of them are bad options. This applies in general and not just paid transactions. A woman can say "I'm looking for sex" … | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 10:23 PM |
| 2 | I feel so hopeless and jealous of all the hot wild sex and relationships happening the worldI'm not entirely sure how it's worked out this way, but I have never had an unattractive client. A very small percentage that I maybe normally wouldn't have chosen, but they've all been very lovely women. When I started I mostly prepared myself for the possibility that I'd be engaging with women that I didn't necessarily want to. I was fine with that. But I'm in a position in my life now where...y'know, I've hooked up with a lot of women. Many of them model/porn-star level. But there's nothing w… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:42 AM |
| 0 | I feel so hopeless and jealous of all the hot wild sex and relationships happening the worldI'm an erotic massage therapist in Japan. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:31 AM |
| -1 | I feel so hopeless and jealous of all the hot wild sex and relationships happening the worldI am. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:31 AM |
| 23 | I feel so hopeless and jealous of all the hot wild sex and relationships happening the worldI didn't lose my virginity until my early twenties. And 20 years later...I've done a little bit of everything, and hell, now women pay me to have sex with them. You're still so young, the worst thing you can do is give up. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | What’s everyone’s experience seducing women in Japan ?Interracial relationships aren't that much of a norm to begin with. Then you consider that Japan is 98% Japanese. People usually stay in their lane. | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 11:09 AM |
| 2 | What’s everyone’s experience seducing women in Japan ?I did say that there are women who are not opposed to foreigners, but the conditions have to be right. Those conditions are what you just said - know enough of the language in order to actually communicate, know enough of her culture to understand her. Plus the usuals - height, appearance and upkeep, etc. These women are out there in non gaijin-hunter places, of course, but I would still put them at a minority of the whole, 30-40% at best. | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 01:07 AM |
| 56 | What’s everyone’s experience seducing women in Japan ?Japan is 98% Japanese, and the vast majority of these women have zero interest in anyone who isn't. I'd say a good 60-70%. Then you have women who wouldn't be opposed, but the conditions have to be right - she has to be into him. And so all the usual conditions apply, plus the bonus difficulty of probably not speaking the same language and probably not living here long term. There is a very small minority of women who do like foreigners, and those who actively prefer them over Japanese guys. You… | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Socializing with locals in Japan as a foreignerTokyo has more people, so more opportunities theoretically. But that also means there are more men serving as competition, and women can be a bit pickier in their selections. I feel like I had better successes in Osaka personally. | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 01:11 AM |
| 17 | How to go on a date in JapanYou'll want to hit up foreign bars. A chain called The Hub is infamous for this. There's also a place in Shibuya called Tasuichi which is pretty well known. Also Meetup events and international parties. You want to find the women who actively want to date or hookup with foreigners. I'd say your average Japanese woman isn't really interested in foreigners so randomly hitting on women won't get you very far. Online... Tinder is fucking awful, Bumble is slightly better. There are dating apps which … | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 02:23 AM |
| 22 | Is there any winning here?In my experience...and this is not just for talking on apps but in general as well, there are two ways to approach dealing with women. Adaptation - try to match her preferences to ensure that she will take to and keep a liking to you. Bulldoze - do things the way you want to do them, and if she's on board great, and if not oh well whatever. Both methods have their advantages and disadvantages. If you have the time and patience for it, adaptation probably gives you the best chances, or at least g… | /r/seduction | 27/05/24 04:27 AM |
| -5 | What’s your Body count?Male, early 40s, stopped counting at 250-ish. | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Looking for some bars open and populated during weekdays in Tokyo JapanTasuichi in Shibuya. | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Dating apps in Japan are only for foreigners?Yes, Tinder is awful here. Bumble is much better, but I think far less people in general, and it's generally populated with women who are looking for foreigners specifically. Pairs is the most popular dating app, but it's for people who live in Japan AND more geared towards serious stuff. There are deai-kei sites like happymail, wakuwaku, and Asobo which does actually have real women looking for hookups, but they're also very densely populated with women looking to get compensated for their effo… | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Tips to stimulate two girls to have a threesome at tonight’s dinner?I feel like this is where a game of truth and dare would be pretty effective. | /r/seduction | 19/03/24 12:26 PM |
| 17 | Socializing with locals in Japan as a foreignerFor bars you'll want to hit up a place called The Hub. It's a British-styled pub chain...this is where you will find the most women who are looking for hookups with foreigners. Nightclubs also work, and for you specifically you might have better odds going to a hip-hop club. However, keep in mind that the women at hip-hop clubs who like black dudes tend to like guys who look like they just rolled off the set of a rap video. If going to a nightclub and you have a good physique, try wearing someth… | /r/seduction | 29/02/24 10:11 AM |
| 3 | Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25?I had the best sexual years of my life in my late 30s. | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 05:00 AM |
| 27 | Unpopular opinion: most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex. We just feel immense amount of pressure to make moves on dates because we don't want to be friendzoned.I disagree, because sexual compatibility is a very real issue that exists. Having a great emotional connection does not guarantee sexual compatibility. You two could get along excellently but have zero sexual chemistry together. You could have very different views on preferred frequency, kinks and interests, and even the style of sex. You wait, develop an emotional connection, and then have sex only to find out that it's not good between you two, and now you're in an awkward position where you e… | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women?You have to start somewhere. And if you don't introduce that it's a date/relationship with a physical component to it somewhat early on, she'll move on from you and find someone else. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever dated two girls at the same time? how did it go?Yeah, it was fun for a while but I'm definitely not doing that again. I'm even willing to go back to monogamy, which is something that was inconceivable to me a few years ago. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 08:52 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever dated two girls at the same time? how did it go?In my heyday I was juggling 10 different women at the same time. It was pretty rad, but also could be very exhausting. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Here is what I don't understand about shy girls I meet through OLD.Well, this is exactly what dates are for. It's a screening process. You're vetting her as much as she is you. This is one of many reasons why the first date should be a brief coffee or light dinner. Have some stories in your pocket you can use to keep things from being awkwardly silent, but if the conversation is like pulling teeth the whole time, then thank her for her time, leave, and move on. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 06:35 AM |
| 21 | Most women don't realize how hard average guys have itWomen do not lack for options, this is true. However, the vast majority of these options are absolutely awful, and it can be difficult if not impossible to sort through them all. With each failure, she will lose time, and if the relationship progresses far enough to sex, will get one step closer to a future potential serious mate being turned off because her partner count is too high for him. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever gone out with a girl who said she was just looking for something long term?Yeah. You tell her that you just want something casual and leave it up to her to decide what she wants to do. If she continues with you, either she's willing to fool around with you while she continues to look for something serious, or she's going to hope/expect that you will change your mind and want something serious in the not-too-distant future. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 04:57 AM |
| 6 | Should I just lose it to a hookerThere's nothing wrong with paying for sex if that's what someone wants to do. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 07:37 AM |
| 49 | I am deeply terrified that I missed out on the human experience in life. I have never hugged, never kissed, never had friends, never done anything that didn't have an "economic" value assigned to it. Virgin at 30.Some of the best years of my life were post 35, hell my best years sexually were 37-39-ish. It's never too late. Someone else suggested letting yourself hit rock bottom and get angry, and I kind of agree. I had that moment in my early 20s and it really changed my life for the better. I stopped worrying about other people and superficial shit, and started living for my own sake. Do what you want, figure out what you want from life, and go out and get it. It's not gonna come to you, and no one is … | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 04:17 AM |
| 4 | Would you pursue a "fuckgirl"?First figure out what she wants and if she might be on the same page as you. If you're going to date someone exclusively, date a "fuckgirl." You never want to find yourself stuck in a sexless relationship. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 02:02 AM |
| 5 | I hate dating as a manA couple of things...first, don't think that women have it any easier. She may have 200 matches, but 98% of those guys will end up being lame, and she's got to try and figure out which ones out of that group aren't. Then there are the ones where, if she tries to let him down gently, he's gonna get pissed off due to some weird sense of entitlement just because she matched with him/actually sent him one message. The process sucks for women too, just in a completely different way. Understanding why… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Why is sleeping with a huge number of women considered so desireble?When I was younger I was the type of guy that women liked to use to unload their emotional issues on. At the time I misinterpreted that as friendship. I was very popular in that regard, and had no problems making female "friends." But none of these women ever showed a sexual interest in me, and it became very apparent that the guys they were sexually interested in were far more important to them. Being able to sleep with a woman was an accomplishment, a difficult feat. So of course the more I co… | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Paying for sex, am I a loser?I've had more than enough sex partners in my day to be able to say that comfortably. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Paying for sex, am I a loser?Do it, and if you can afford it, keep doing it. Honestly it's the most straightforward way to get laid. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Pulling a girl that night is a total crapshoot. It can and does happen so you should be aware of the possibility at least, but so many guys aim for pulling her that night and end up striking out because he over-committed to her. Chat for a bit, keep things light and fun and flirty. Slowly escalate the physical interactions and flirting. If she responds well to it you can try to pull that night, and if not stop while you're still enjoying each other's company, get a number, and move on. A girl ca… | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 01:40 PM |
| 8 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Just went to a club, literally talked to every girl This might be your problem. Women are observant, man. If she sees you butterflying to every girl, the things she takes away from that is that you're looking for some action, and anyone will do so long as she's got a vagina. Generally you want to hang out a bit, pick out the girl or girls you wanna talk to, engage, get their numbers, and then move on. If you want to talk to other women, go to a different location. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 10:34 AM |
| 3 | Kissless virgin at 20, might be until I’m 21. Do I have any hope of true redemption/becoming a confident man?I didn't get my first kiss until I was 22. I'm in my 40s now, and I've had over 200 sex partners since then. So, a couple of things. One, it is never too late. Two, stop tying your self worth and success with your interactions with women. You know what changed for me when I was 22? I stopped caring. I realized I was awesome, and if a woman couldn't recognize that...fuck 'em. I go on dates now, and I don't care if it goes well or not, because even if it doesn't, that doesn't make or break me as a… | /r/seduction | 31/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 5 | It's time I admit I suck with women and will probably never be one of those men who are successful with themFrankly, i hate what I'm as a person. If you don't even like yourself, how do you expect anyone else, let alone a woman, to like you? This is where it starts. I turned my life around by taking better care of myself, by learning to love myself. | /r/seduction | 20/03/22 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Advice on scheduling? 6 dates this weekend!3 in one day is kinda rough. 2 is a little more doable. Out of your 3 for Sunday/Monday, pick one that you'd put on standby. Now make concrete plans with the other 4. Depending on schedule and preferences, you can schedule dates from 11-4 and 6 or 7 to...whenever it ends (for Sunday night, at latest 9 am on Monday morning lol). If one of the concretely scheduled girls backs out, you can hit up the backup to see if she is still free and willing. | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 09:29 AM |
| 3 | Personally, how do you balance seeing multiple women?I don't hate lol, if she wants to juggle multiple dudes go for it. Just save some for me! | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Personally, how do you balance seeing multiple women?Restaurants and cafes. Yeah, I try to avoid super-involved activities, or anything that would require spending a lot of time together in one go. | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 09:42 PM |
| 18 | Personally, how do you balance seeing multiple women?Only 2? Sometimes I've juggled 5-6 at the same time. Having some kind of notes helps you to keep track of who you did what with, although I constantly made little errors like you did. "Hey, remember when we went to that one restaurant?" "We never went there..." ...Oops lol. I tell them from the beginning that I'm only looking for something casual, and if I sense them catching feels I try to gently remind them. I try to limit meets to no more than 2-3 times a month per girl, and avoid doing too m… | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else using professional sex workers occasionally?I'm gonna go this way eventually, and not out of lack of options. If you want a casual, stable relationship, this is probably the only way. Regular women, for a casual relationship, either they get bored of it and dump you, or develop feelings and expect you to do the same even if you swear you never will. | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 04:42 AM |
| 5 | As a man, how important is it to you to make sure the woman you're having sex with is left satisfied?Making sure she's satisfied is the best way to turn one night stands into FWBs, and hook ups into relationships. | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 06:04 AM |
| 7 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…If you go out seeking validation no one is gonna give it to you. You gotta be completely comfortable with who you are. Even right this minute with no girlfriend or no randoms sliding into your DMs. Women and sex and all that is cool, but it's not everything. Enjoy your life. And don't give a fuck about others and whether or not they validate or like you. | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 06:00 AM |
| 118 | What are good purposeful questions for dates?Here's some questions I like to use. "If you had a magic lamp, what 3 wishes would you make?" Gives me insight into her personal wants and goals. "If you could work any job right now, your absolute dream job, what would it be?" More info on her aspirations, or if she has them at all. "Let's pretend we switched bodies for a day. You wake up tomorrow morning, and you're in my body for 24 hours. What would you do?" A fun question that shows me her perception of me, and to some extent, how she sees … | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 03:15 PM |
| 9 | Guys who have slept with 100+ women. What's your secret?A lot of people are saying to lower your standards. And...yeah there's truth to that. But there's a little more to it than that. The vast majority of men flock to the most attractive women. You can see this live in a bar, and it applies to dating apps too. These attractive women have the abundance of choice, which drastically reduces your chances. If you are incredibly attractive, confident, and have a lot of money, your chances will be better. But if you're just an average dude...chances are pr… | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 04:18 PM |
| 32 | As a man are low body counts attractive to you?For me the higher the better. I'd even be down with triple digits. I have a high partner count myself, so I can't be judgmental against any women who also have a high count. More than that though, I married a woman who had a low count and was inexperienced overall. We had a lot of sex at the time so I thought that was fine. But as we got older, had kids, and life got more hectic, her priorities shifted and sex went way down on her list. Probably at the bottom. It wasn't a matter of seducing her … | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 10:20 AM |
| 3 | I’ve given up on searching for hookups and getting laid because it is so damn hard. Instead I’ll be going to brothels from now on lolSex isn't really free. You're paying for it one way or another, be it time, effort, or money. | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 10:53 AM |
| 3 | Fuckboys and players: how do you do it?I think once sex gets involved a lot of people get emotionally attached to the person. But this kinda gives you tunnel vision. There might be a lot about the person you don't like or aren't compatible with, but your focus on that person lets you block all that out. The nice thing about seeing multiple people is that you can get that perspective back. You're not super-focused on one person, so you can look at each one objectively. You can see their faults and their shortcomings, and know that whi… | /r/seduction | 16/03/21 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be monogamous ? One girl for life?Sex with a woman you love, you want to be with, not just jerk off with her vagina for 3.14 minutes, is so much better. No comparison. Man, I used to think this way too, but not anymore. I mean, it sounds nice, and theoretically it feels right, but for me...not anymore. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 02:21 AM |
| 5 | Do you think porn is detrimental to the modern man? And in what regards?I've met a lot of women who say they've been with guys who tried something awful in bed that he probably picked up from porn. And there are a lot of guys now who prefer jacking off to porn over having actual sex. I don't think porn itself is bad, but I think modern guys are overdosing on it. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 12:10 AM |
| 173 | You can't make someone love you.The way I see it is - there are women who will not be into you at all. Nothing you can do about that. Then there are women who are totally into you from the start. All you have to do is not screw that up. But then there's a pretty big gray area, where she's kinda neutral about you, and your behaviors and how you present yourself can influence how she feels about you. Not everyone is looking for The One, some are looking for someone to keep their bed warm, or someone to help them get over The Las… | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 05:46 AM |
| 11 | 𝐁𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐈𝐬 𝐀𝐥𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐓𝐨 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐋𝐚𝐢𝐝The way I see it is, if the girl isn't into you at all, nothing you can do will change that. If she is into you, you just have to avoid turning her off. Then there's a whole lotta women in the gray area. She isn't disinterested, but not particularly interested either. She could be! But that's where you have to charm her. | /r/seduction | 11/09/20 03:18 AM |
| 3 | Sex buddy has feelings for me now.I literally just asked this question a few days ago lol. Just tell her how you feel. But unfortunately, apparently spending time with her regularly doing non-sex stuff will make her feel like you also want to be serious, even if you constantly and directly say that you don't. It might end up being one of those things where you gotta stop seeing her for her sake. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach has changed my life in every way possibleThis is what I want for myself. I have met a lot of women over the years through dating apps and what not, but I've never been able to do the cold approach. I talk myself out of it. I want to be able to do it because I feel like it'll change me, give me more confidence and make me a better communicator overall. I've been psyching myself up to go out this weekend and just approach. Expect nothing, just do it. | /r/seduction | 21/08/20 05:14 AM |
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