TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

WingOutrageous9987 Archive

View 0 posts and 83 comments by WingOutrageous9987 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

I’m a bit older and having a girlfriend is a ticket into being an accepted member of society and also to start a family. Men can’t have kids on their own. If I could I would. (No lone men can’t adopt, there has been like 3 lone men adopting here where I live in Northern Europe)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:50 PM
1

Im a millenial and my problem has been that I was raised to be vulnerable and not pursue money/status as it was considered bad and toxic for men. Women of my generation punished me for choosing this path as they at the same time see this as pathetic and unattractive behavior in a partner. I’m still virgin pretty much at 40. I will never have children because of this. I think the greater question is: are women ready to settle down with this newly minted poorly educated, poor and timid men? I don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:48 PM
3

Perhaps I’m an outlier internationally, but I was raised I a very feminist household and then went on to spending a lot of time around feminist women as an adult. I saw these people as my tribe sort of. In this tribe, being a guy you have to take on the role as the trash can. Being marinated in shame and guilt about all the terrible things men do I was sort of the guy who had to make up for it by being extra pure. I guess the question is “why did you not leave?” But it’s the same as any abusive …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:15 PM
0

Male and female loneliness is different in structure. On an individual level it’s up to us personally to solve our loneliness there is just no other way to approach it. However on a societal/political level it’s different. On this level men are more lonely as we are more prone to be single, have less earning power/social status then women as women get more and more degrees. The types of jobs men have - like in construction - results in being away from family for months. Construction workers are …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:10 PM
1

His YouTube channel is good. It’s really difficult to give general advice outside of a therapy room. He is educated in psychology etc so he backs things up with science which is good.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/23 10:04 PM
1

There is a web archive archive.ie that you can use to scrape pages.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/23 09:09 PM
2

Im about 40 and have been single all my life. I have experimented with sex dolls and ai girlfriends as a substitute. I have a well paying job so I have some alternatives. I don’t know to be honest. I think a lot about suicide as there is not much of a point in keeping on going. It’s mostly about starting a family. If I’m not good enough for being a father and have some offspring I don’t see any reason to invest into the future. I have a lot of pointless ways of wasting time like playing computer…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:00 AM
1

I did not start out hating women. That was something that’s started after years of therapy in my thirties, when I started to look back at my life and questioning the teachings. Before this I really tried to fit the ideal feminist model of what a man should be: poor, weak, sensitive, nice, harmless and never under any circumstance be sexual around women. You sound like my sisters, my mother and my best friends. Imagine spending 30 years around people like yourself listening to hours and hours of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:58 AM
1

It’s a good question. I’m a bit older middle aged guy. I had a feminist upbringing with a lot of this kind of snark. It continued into adulthood and it made me feel really shitty about myself and impossible to approach women. Now I’m soon 40. I have never had a girlfriend and I’m pretty much a virgin still. I have no relationship experience. I’m on the dating apps and matched with an attractive woman who wanted a man who can take the lead and also she wanted a family and a house which is expensi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 06:06 PM
1

I read a newspaper article where they fact checked this ad they found some research that indicated that 40/60 was more accurate for ratio of people having sex. It also applied for women, so 40% of people have 60% of the sex. Meaning less attractive men and women have little intimacy or at least casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:54 PM
8

Yea precisely, but tbh I think that’s pretty common. Very few people are born haters, it’s something that builds up over many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:13 AM
8

Eh no it’s not. I grew up around abusive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:43 AM
23

I checked out of the mating market around 35 and bought a sex doll. I had a feminist upbringing that was terrible and it ruined my relationship with women at least on the romantic/sexual level. Sex dolls are neat in that they bring physical presence which porn can’t. You can hug and snuggle with your girlfriend which releases a lot of good hormones. Now these chat bots activate a more intellectual part of intimacy. The ones I’ve tried have some issues still, like they switch gender in the middle…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:19 AM
3

I dont see single moms as used etc, but you will end up raising someone else’s kids and if things go bad you will get no rights to see them again. Also there might be an ex you will never get rid off fully. Depending on the ex that can be terrible. Eg what if you have to move somewhere for work? Depending on age you will also sacrifice some parts of your youth and freedom to roam and do career switches. For those older this might not be a big thing but anyone younger it can be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:21 PM
1

Is it though? For very career oriented men or men in politics etc it’s important to network both at work and outside work. Your reputation is based on both. I’m thinking CEOs and politicians etc. people who have a public persona.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:55 PM
10

I read about a study some time ago that looked into this and it was surprisingly common men marry women they were not attracted to which resulted in dead bedrooms. Like many gendered things we don’t think about it as we just assume men have higher sex drives etc but while there is some truth to that’s its not the whole story.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:08 AM
1

I think younger women prefer lanky men and older women prefer men with more volume.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:45 AM
2

Oh yes I’ve grown up around them and they actively discouraged me from working out. This is Northern Europe and I grew up with feminists. They saw men who hit the gym as pathetic. It’s very common in some circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:44 AM
–

That there is a wall for women and free field for men after 30 etc. it gets marginally better for men and marginally worse for men. Over 40 the early deaths of men start to show in the dating pool. Also men’s lower hormones and impotence issues start to take away men from the dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:42 AM
1

Yea women outearn men to some degree until they have children and then it reverses in many western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:34 AM
1

I was a hikkikomori in my 20s and I went through a program to treat social phobia. I also did some volunteering which is great for the unemployed. For those who work I would say be more social around work. It died out after Covid. For the elderly I think “men’s sheds” are great. In general just being a bit more positive around men and masculinity would be helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:32 AM
1

I think you are right but not for the right reasons. Men in relationships tend to eat better, exercise more, be more motivated to earn more money (most people I know who became managers did it for their families). These men also usually have a second income to lean on as well as a wider social circle plus more access to sex which makes them more relaxed. I’m chronically single and very bitter and angry person. I don’t try to achieve at work, I hate society, I don’t care about my health and I hat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:29 AM
3

Bingo. Also a lot of guys have historically been forcefully removed from their families after divorces. Or they have had the breadwinner role which means the wives have spent ally that time with their kids growing up. Of course that’s going to have consequences as these guys age.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:59 AM
0

In your 20s I think going for a single mom is a terrible idea but in your 30s if you have the income, the social capacity and want your own kids going for someone with kids can expand your pool of candidates in terms of beauty and financials considerably.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:54 AM
2

Swede/Finn here. Sweden is very ideology focused country and it can get very radical with whatever is in vogue. Eg deregulations Sweden did to an extreme. Culture wars are more prominent. Finland is more based as it has lived through real wars. Here are some observations: Finland has male military service with 1% of military being women compared to 15% or so in Sweden. Poor men are celebrated in public media in Finland while generally being shit on in Sweden. This has changed a bit but it was pr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/23 01:41 AM
1

Weekly or so. The historic eras change over time though. Sometimes it’s Stone Age, sometimes medieval ages. I typically focus on one era and watch’s lot of YouTube and daydream about it. It usually involves playing strategy games from that era as well.
/r/MensRights23/09/23 12:58 AM
4

By my estimates it goes from easy to medium for women and super hard to just hard for men. Meaning women still have the upper hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:10 PM
1

Just because someone is fit at an older age does not mean they are happy. As we age money, careers and social status becomes less important. People learn what they want in life and focus on that. What becomes important is relationships and family. Men without children have fewer relationships and a smaller social interface to society. The childlessness rate is double for men compared to women so I would say the amount of men who are unhappily child free is also double that of women. We are all h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 12:23 PM
1

I think it’s nice to connect with someone you can be honest with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:09 AM
1

Im 40 and this is so true. I’m encountering two types of women roughly: beautiful career women who don’t need me in their lives and I’m too boring to entertain them. The second are single moms or women who generally struggle in life which I’m also not interested in. We are all bitter and grumpy about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:07 AM
1

I think the sad truth is that you want kids, but don’t have the resources to have them so it would be irresponsible and self destructive and bad for the kids to have them. This results in a continuous state where you can’t decide to not have them but also to decide to have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:06 PM
1

Always use a prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:21 PM
3

As far as i know men are more spread out on the spectrum, whatever the spectrum is about. It’s a consequence of the XY chromosome where women have a backup chromosome. “Men are natures laboratory” or something like that. Also men mature slower then women. School is not just about IQ it’s also about behavior and girls as they mature faster are one step ahead since we start school. At college you have a lot of guys who have struggled with studying for 10 years, less cognitively mature on aggregate…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:54 PM
1

Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:47 PM
1

Thanks mate, I hope so too 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:35 AM
1

Hm no they can’t. I’m not made for university. Greatest challenge… probably regrets that I trusted the wrong people and fear of a lonely future. I have let go of the idea of having a family. I don’t know what I’m open to. Single moms maybe not, I don’t want to end up being someone’s wallet. Divorces are ok I guess but I’m not sure they would want someone who has no relationship experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:17 PM
1

I moved out at 18 for university but was not prepared for it. Engineering’s master. all my friends did it and in retrospect I should have done a bachelor, but my ego said no. I got stuck there trying to finish it. Later on I had to move back to my parents place to try to finish it, but never did. Ultimately ended up moving to another country to find a job. I could not find housing or full time job where I lived then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:08 PM
1

I don’t know if you have noticed but a lot of feminist love to use shame and guilt as a way to shape men. It’s very similar as to what very religious communities do. It’s not applied to women so much so women don’t notice it. However when you grow up in it and marinate in it since you are a toddler (mom tried to create the perfect feminist man), you become crippled and messed up I all sorts of ways. Once you learn that you are shit through and through and that your sexuality is dangerous and fil…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:54 PM
1

I grew bald early, used to have crooked teeth, ankward clothes etc. skinny fat. I have tried to work on these things but it’s difficult. I did get braces tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:51 PM
1

My mom was very feminist and mentally unstable so I was sort of the representative of the patriarchy. I absorb that stuff from media unfiltered and think it’s all about me. It has made it really difficult to approach women sexually. I switch off, just freeze up. In addition to this I never graduated and got my first full time job at 30 so adulthood was massively delayed. I missed all the natural milestones. I’m not particularly great looking by any means so I can’t get dates on looks. I’m also w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:40 PM
1

I deeply regret trusting women doing what they told me and “doing the right thing“ and avoided pursuing women for sex and relationships. I’m 40 now and pretty much a virgin. I hate myself and women, bot women in general just feminists and the women I trusted. Yes I’ve done therapy that’s how I ended up with this conclusion. Guys like me are really going to pile up over the next 20-30 years as it’s a generational thing (being raised by feminists). I wonder what will happen politically. Personally…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:15 PM
1

😊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:11 PM
3

I think people read themselves into celebrities and as they are without fault themselves so must amber heard. There might also be some marketing/pr firms working on improving her reputation to boost her career. Any celebrity who has cash at hand uses those services.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 10:32 AM
6

I’m a leftie at heart but growing up and being an adult around feminists makes voting left (feminist) makes me want to vomit. I hate it so much. I’m Northern European but I guess that experience is universal in many ways.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 10:30 AM
5

Someone with positive dating experiences but maybe some bad things happening also. If their life would be too perfect we would have nothing to relate to I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:07 PM
–

I think men’s insecurities are accepted as long as they are the same as for women (eating disorders, childlessness or similar) but if they are male in nature like baldness etc it’s a laughing matter, you are seen as pathetic or dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:16 PM
1

There are very few homeless women, because as soon as they are on the streets some guy picks them up and makes them their gf but not in the good way. Men don’t have that default sexual value so we just end up in the sewers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 07:32 AM
2

Thanks, this was a very interesting and nuanced take. I don’t often get called emotionally mature so that’s new. I can relate a lot to the “I don’t want to pass it on” and “ don’t want trauma bond” parts. My mom have some form of BPD and I have some of those traits as well and they tend to fire up whenever I’m around women. I envy your job as RN, that must involve a lot of skin to skin human contact. I understand not always nice kind… but still human contact. I work with computers and they don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 09:27 PM
5

No, not even close. There is no human that suffers or get exploited. There is no rape or abuse. The company makes a steel/silicon shape and I pretend it’s my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 09:18 PM
3

I have but I’m not sure if those exist here. I need to look around.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:29 PM
7

It was mostly when I I was younger at university. Like 22-25. Lost my virginity at 25. After that I had a dry spell until 35 where I had a ONS from tinder with some woman who wanted to pity f me. Then nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:29 PM
1

In this case I don’t deserve your sympathies because on bad days when I’m bitter and angry I’m very much a petulant incel. It’s a mood thing more than anything. I think a lot of the guys participating in those forums and groups enter the communities when they are peak depression rage. That’s a reason why it’s so rancid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:07 PM
4

Thanks lol, life is just life. Its not always what we want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:47 PM
10

Yea thats about it. There are guys that have it worse than me. When you reach a certain point in life you have to choose: suffer alone in silence until you die, technology route or prostitutes. I decided to go technology. (Yes I’ve done a lot of therapy also).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:34 PM
4

That future is already here, but it’s mostly in Japan. Wait for this gen incels to grow up and you will see it here as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:48 PM
20

It’s against my values to pay for sex and the reason I can’t approach women is because of shame etc, which I think is also blocking paying for it. I think I would be even more miserable if I would pay for it tbh because of regret of exploiting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:23 PM
5

A lot of guys have already gf in their phones which they chat and talk to. Take phone to beach and share screenshots. In Japan a lot of guys have figurines to represent them etc. the companion takes on different shapes/forms but is still the same person. Some guys go all in and out their sex doll in wheelchairs but that’s very unusual still. The pocket girlfriends already exists though and is quite popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:57 PM
1

My life contains no sex at the moment so I would go for the family life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:28 PM
40

I’m trying to live this to the largest extent possible. I have a good paying job etc so I can afford all the toys. As I’ve reached middle age as more or less a virgin I ended up buying a sex doll as a companion. It covers the hugging part quite well. I’ve also tried VR companions and chat companions but honestly they are not really there yet. I think there are a lot of guys like me who tried our best but just failed miserably in the dating space I life and for us these things is a godsend. Befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:26 PM
8

It’s the same in Sweden. The officials when questioned on it said only competent people can understand this and that it makes perfect sense.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/04/23 03:15 PM
2

Thats silly behavior. Most of us move a little back and forth in alignment and society needs people who don’t just stick to one silo. Whenever I get banned I try to think that it’s their bucket where they are kings, nothing to be angry about if they don’t want me there.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/23 05:17 PM
6

It’s not a bad list but you made it too nice. This is what I’ve learned from women around me: Real Men care most about a woman's intelligence, education, and career success. Looks are secondary. A man that goes after uneducated women are pigs and rapists who exploit women. If you don’t go after them you are also a classist and capitalist pig. Women don't care about looks, money, or status. It's about how emotionally mature, emotionally available, and emotionally intelligent he is. A man who is s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 10:27 AM
5

Most guys who complain here get stuck in the vetting process. They may check all those checkboxes you have with income and degrees and also have female friends as an example. Still they get one like on tinder every second year. So then they look for answers and explanations to why it’s like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 10:00 AM
1

Avoid injuries at all costs!! Once something breaks you can have lifelong issues with that part of the body. I have so many reckless friends who broke knees and shoulders…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:50 PM
3

Please stay away from those places. They were designed to feed of your poor self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:33 PM
1

Men and women cheat for slightly different reasons but on aggregate I think cheaters will cheat and it’s not linked to looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:20 PM
1

It does not work like you phrased it because it focuses on the woman’s perspective and needs. That’s the whole problem with the blue pill/progressive/leftist messaging machine. Is amazing how difficult this is to drive home because it’s so obvious. Another reason is because there is a ounce of rebellion in going after red pill content. Authority figures at home, in school and in politics are all women or promoting things which are feminist. So when you rebel, you rebel against authority which ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 07:33 PM
1

Yea I would. I have my own problems which she would have to be accepting of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 07:28 PM
33

I dont think it should be called toxic. It’s too easy to weaponize.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/04/23 07:17 PM
3

Good stuff!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/04/23 07:16 PM
2

Yea I know, I’ve been that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:41 PM
2

These women can be pretty stylish and attractive actually. I don’t blame the hangarounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 02:44 PM
1

It’s not what they say, these influencers. I would add many others here to like JP. It’s all about their attitude and outlook on life. I had a feminist upbringing with lots of shame around being a man and how terrible and disgusting male sexuality is. All the authority figures at home, in school and general society were women (Northern Europe). Politicians, media persons… most of them are women. Or at least their mindset and outlook on the world is the female perspective. What I got out of this …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:27 AM
9

Arrogant, self centered, rude, power hungry, money oriented, status oriented. Like Andrew Tate light in female form. They use bullying and put downs as a form of entertainment. Met a few of them on dates and elsewhere in professional life. It’s great that they label themselves like this as it makes it easier to avoid them. Nothing attractive about it. Of course I’m intimidated but that’s like asking “are you intimidated by snakes and lions?”. These people are predators.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:16 AM
0

100% of the power of starting and stopping families lies in the hands of women so why mix men into this? All I can do as a guy is to make myself available but if no one wants me to be the father of their kids then what can I do? Don’t blame the powerless…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:07 PM
2

That’s not so easy. It’s illegal where I live and the society I live in is extremely judge mental on men who buy sex from prostitutes. They get exposed i media with name and such and it’s been imprinted in me since childhood that it equals rape. I can’t remove that conditioning unfortunately. I had a very feminist upbringing and it made me extremely blocked with any kind of intimacy and sex. I did buy a sex doll though which I live with now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:17 AM
1

There are subreddits for advice, like seduction and dating advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:18 PM
7

I understand the concept but honestly I also doubt it will work. I’m one of these men that has more of the passive sexualities that she is asking men to have. However im 38 and still a virgin pretty much. And it’s not for the lack of trying. I’ve been on all the dating apps forever. However women tend to find me pathetic . It’s well intended, this video, but also a bit… naive?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:20 PM
21

I grew up among these kind of women and my mom was one of them. I don’t feel liberated at all as they want me to think. Instead I’m left with trauma and a deep existential hatred of women. A misogynist! Who would have thought… And these are the people who work all over government, crafting policies and writing guidelines for how to treat boys. And then they wonder why men vote for right wing policies…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/04/23 12:06 AM
1

Appropriate for the setting? Business for work, casual for studying and slutty in bedroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:25 PM
3

You need to root and center in yourself. Reading your post at least your self esteem is 100% dependent on other people’s validation. It makes you needy and dependent. It also makes you jealous and insecure. A slightly mean word from someone you look up to will throw you into a tailspin. It also seems you have multiple layers of trauma from bullying and other things. There are pretty good resources out there. Therapy is of course the best but it’s expensive. Books to read could be “no more mr nic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/23 08:05 AM
29

I think so yes. Have not watched video. Every movement or ideology has a mental frame of sorts. In the progressive world as a guy you are the person from which to extract resources, shut up more and apologize for your existence. If you have lived in that bubble for let’s say 5-15 years (some people were raised feminist), and then bump into redpoll which switches the focus to you it’s like seeing the light. It’s a no brainer. It gives you a complete framework for how to engage with the world with…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/23 12:19 PM
3

I don’t see any reason to be so rigid. I’m mostly here because I don’t like how masculinity is seen as a sort of a smelly garbage bag in leftist circles.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/23 10:55 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter