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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5pzjyt/the_beta_shit_goblin/
/r/askMRP11/01/26 01:07 AM
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OYS 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 204lbs Top lifts: Front Squat 120x5, Deadlift 395x7, O Press 140x3, Bench 145x16 Deload this week, missed a couple of running days due to the holidays but got back on the horse without issue. Ate too much fucking pie so I gained a few pounds, that will be fixed the coming days. Muay Thai starts up tomorrow, I'm really looking forward to that. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do. Relationship “practice” Our dog h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 04:39 AM
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Boundary enforcement from me Being far less tolerant of her crap (though much work to be done) I'm far more attractive than in the past physically/socially I think she senses that I have proven to myself that I can replace her Fear that she'll be forced to go to work and the wonderful lifestyle I provided is coming to an end Some mixture of those.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/24 03:40 AM
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OYS 28 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 202lbs Top lifts: Squat 355x5, Deadlift 375x10, Overhead Press 130x2, Bench 135x20 Lower body training max reduction is still working well. No pain at all with running or other activity, I’m not as run down during the day, so far so good. Overhead press on the other hand, I got stapled after 2 reps of 130. Ran 6 miles on Saturday, and it felt really great. My son has a conflict with this Muay Thai class and won’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 05:28 AM
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OYS 27 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 202lbs Top lifts: Squat 335x7, Deadlift 350x10, Overhead Press 120x7, Bench 125x20 The lower body training max reduction experiment continues, and so far so good. My running has gone well with less issues, the lifts feel great as I’m emphasizing technique and bracing. Overall I feel good, and can’t wait for each workout when I wake up in the morning. Upper body workouts remain essentially the same, though I’ve ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 03:59 AM
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You know, you ask really good questions. The ones that need to be asked. I'm going to reflect on this and reply tomorrow. That's a pussy, putting shit off answer. You're right, I am putting my own problems onto my son. My issues do come the surface sometimes, and occasion I find myself being overly negative towards him when he doesn't deserve it. I know what I don't want, but knowing what I want? I don't really have an answer for that right now. As an aside for your lifting some good insights. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 03:41 AM
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Yeah you're right, that was a shit answer. Haven't really thought about it. The financial I can handle, though it will be tight. Social stuff, yeah I can deal with that, with a couple exceptions that will suck. The influence parent's actions have on children's life outcomes are smaller than you think. I've spent some time thinking about this, my immediate reaction is to disagree, but maybe that's ego on my part. Are you divorced with kids? How did this work out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 03:39 AM
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At your weight it might be the running causing the injuries, not the lifting. You may be right. Lifting is my baby, running is my side piece, but I really enjoy that side piece. That being said, if after a few month experiment if I find I keep having issues running will get the heave ho and I'll do other stuff for conditioning. After the much reduced squat session on Monday I'm feeling a lot less beat up, and running this morning felt better than it has in weeks. A few days is not a great sample…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 06:29 PM
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I'm holding off on the side piece, I don't like the deception and with a divorce looming adding that variable doesn't seem smart. If she goes elsewhere I've proven to myself that I can find others. The obvious financial downside, in my state it's a 50/50 split which can shift a bit, so half my 401k and other assets. I may be able to keep the house, but refinancing is going to be expensive given the interest rate difference. My son is my greatest concern, he'll be ok but it pains me that this wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 06:05 PM
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Sex: None Divorce: My state takes a lot of time, and I have no idea what I'm doing. As I understand it the process can take up to 90-120days. As far as me, getting the lawyer retained is obviously step one. I won't lie, I have a fair amount of apprehension about this. Doubts about whether I'm doing the right thing, etc...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:52 PM
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Looking back, I have no idea why I let this go on so long. But then again that's in the past, I can only go forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:48 PM
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Far from perfect, but I get a lot of "do really need to have that nonchalant look right now?" "I really need you to take me seriously right now"
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:47 PM
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OYS 26 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 202lbs Program is 531 plus running. Top lifts: Squat 310x10, Deadlift 335x3, Overhead Press 130x6, Bench 135x20 Friday I stopped Deadlift at 335 due to hamstring pain. This weekend I had a come to Jesus moment because I’ve been fighting constant lower body injuries for months now. Everytime I run, no matter the stretching and mobility work that I do, I either pull something or feel like I’m going to. Bottom line …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:09 AM
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Have you tried scheduling negotiations? Yes, got an additional RSU grant, which after talking to other colleagues is pretty much how this company handles salary negotiations. Nice to have, but it doesn't move the needle as much as I would like. It's a tech company, and as with so many other tech companies if you want a significant raise you need to change jobs. Completely nuts as the brain drain in the last 5 years has been very high, but that's how it is. Alternatively, scale back if you're ind…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/24 08:03 PM
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OYS 25 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 202lbs Program is 531 plus running. Top lifts: Squat 370x3, Deadlift 410x7, OH Press 140x3, Bench 130x20 Squats and deads felt great, if my progress holds I should be squatting 4 plates before the end of the year. My dumbass forgot to edit the training max on my spreadsheet for overhead press, and I ended up missing my target of 140x5. Strangely my overhead press is regressing, I have to chalk this up to shitty t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 05:00 AM
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You ever consider that you're the "bad guy" by putting yourself second? Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/24 06:38 PM
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lmfao. you're a fucking retard. you got pregnancy trapped and you're the bad guy? you think the pregnancy was an accident? is your son even yours? No, I am not the bad guy, though I spent years playing the victim card internally. If you're the victim you can't be held accountable. When I say "bad guy" I'm referring to breaking up the marriage. I'm aware of how retarded that sounds. Paternity: Yes, I tested him a while back. If a person put a gun in their mouth and pulled the trigger, would you f…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 02:37 PM
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Why? And why not file now? We got married because I knocked her up, and it was the "honorable" thing to do at the time. She had 2 kids, neither of the dads were in the picture. So I became a step parent very quickly, and it was a nightmare. My step son was a junkie, though I didn't know that at the time as I've rarely allowed myself to be around drugs much so I didn't understand the signs. I suspect my wife knew and wanted me to straighten him up, or something. I have no proof of that, just litt…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 02:24 AM
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Well, I've already set aside time for the volunteer work that I get a good deal of enjoyment from. I attend Toastmasters, which started as a self improvement thing because I'm introverted as fuck and I was terrible at public speaking. It's now something I really look forward to. Beyond this, which I know isn't enjoyment per se, a goal of mine this week start inviting friends of mine out for drinks or dinner, something I've let languish for way too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 01:59 AM
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I like her sometimes, but often her being likeable is performative. I do plan on leaving her. Part of my hesitation with the younger gal is yes, you're right. After reflecting, there is some "take that bitch, look at what I can do". That's not who I want to be, though I do have revenge fantasies about that sort of thing. The validation is not sweet in retrospect. Feels good to be wanted by a woman 10 years younger than me, I'm not going to lie. She would fuck me I think, but I have zero desire t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 08:16 PM
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Why is your life outside of work miserable? Not miserable, I won't go that far. I just don't feel restful in my own home, I look around and see things that need to be done. Like a constant pressure that I put on myself. Do you know how to have fun? If you do, why aren't you? A strange question, yet apt. Yes, but I'm not good at it. It's something I've been working on, turning off my brain's internal "do this shit" list so I can enjoy the moment. Example: Going on a camping trip with my son, that…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 05:56 PM
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OYS 24 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 202lbs Program is 531 plus running. Top lifts: Squat 350x7, Deadlift 445x2, OH Press 150x1, Bench 140x16 Squat felt great this week, the bracing drills and core work are paying dividends. Deadlifts felt ok, hit my target with overhead press but after missing last week I’m going to drop the training max during the next cycle and focus on technique. Calf strain still hurts when I try to do anything besides walk so …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 06:38 PM
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threatening to nuke the relationship I've done that twice well over 14 years ago. Her son and I did not get along, constant conflict due to attitude, disrespect to me and her, criminal behavior, the list goes on. She made threats about taking my son among other things and I caved. I've resolved since then to never make the threat again, just leave. Past anger There's definitely anger towards her, but also towards myself. One thing I'm coming to terms with, I've thought of myself in the past as b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 10:50 PM
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Had some interesting feedback from neighboorhood parents and wife's family over the past few weeks that I'm too strict with my oldest. I've ignored it, but fuck did it feel good to see his above average test scores for his grade. It's all the proof I need that I'm on the right track. Are test scores what you use as a progress metric for him? Was this an issue before, and your intervention helped him score better than his peers? How much of that is because of his own internal drive, or the desire…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 06:23 PM
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OYS 23 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Started on Practical Female Psychology, a few chapters in but it’s a fascinating read so far. I missed the fact that there’s an audiobook for it, so I’m looking forward to making faster progress on it. Monday I was asked by my wife to talk about her getting a job. The back and forth doesn’t matter, but essentially I was presented with arguments against their working that were ridiculous, and when these were called out she got…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 03:39 PM
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Ironically, bench pressing. Hurried my workout in my 17degree garage, skipping my usual warmup because my son had an early morning school thing. Decided to try to put up 225, which I got for 2 reps and tore the pec on the 3rd. Even more irony, I had read an article about the risk of tendon issues among people in their 40's who start working out again about a week prior.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/24 08:46 PM
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I tore my pectoral muscle from the tendon last year, and had a cadaver Achilles tendon grafted in as a repair. After reading other people's results with this repair type, including a number of lifters who re-injured themselves, I opted for an extremely conservative training max. So far it's worked, I can bench and do pushups with no pain other than an occasional ache.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/24 06:26 PM
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As to the last bit. Far as I can tell most guys your age that divorce end up with younger, hotter girls that put in more effort and have better girl game. Even bloopers, though they eventually turn those girls feral as well. Just ask redbackedbadger/proto-worm. I'll look those guys up, thanks. Then it's about reducing the cost of divorce. Get your prep done, follow the sidebar guide. In process, her getting a job will reduce the cost of child support some. My state has the possibility of spousal…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/24 04:50 PM
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There's residual anger, sure. I am not a victim, but she's done some shit. I'm not out of the anger phase, I recognize that. There are times she's likeable, she can be a good person to be around/live with when it's in her interest to do so. It's often performative. She hasn't gotten a job, she put in applications so I didn't cancel her allowance as that was my stipulation. But I know that the rest will only happen if I make her do it, and at the end of the day I find little value in living with/…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 09:49 PM
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I've been thinking about this a lot. A while back one of the livestreams you and some of the other mods did came up in my Youtube feed, I guess because I watched some of Rian's stuff. I remember a guy you talked about, Glory Walrus or something like that. Fat guy, wife cheated or something, and he just said fuck it to his whole life. Starting fucking a much younger girl, lost a shitload of weight, and I guess nuked everything. Meeting up with that girl just cemented in my mind that I can replace…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 09:18 PM
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Interesting read, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 10:11 PM
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Thank you. I'm trying to be systematic in my approach here, the temptation to go all in like a asshole is definitely there.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 10:02 PM
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I think this was more of a comfort test than a shit test, personally. She's grasping at straws here seeking your approval, that was my read. Hmm, ok. I'm still fairly new at this so perhaps I read it wrong. With that said, this week you fucked another woman. That's going to shorten your fuse with your wife. Combined with starting TRT, and this, I'd just be conscious of your short(er) fuse that would cause you to blow this up, Rambo, and fuckup a reasonable divorce if you're really wanting that p…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 09:59 PM
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Squat 135lbs 5 sets of 5 (back injury), Bench Press 185lbs 5 sets of 5, RDL (n/a, back injury) Coming off a relatively minor back injury as well, this has worked quite well for me: https://squatuniversity.com/2018/06/21/the-mcgill-big-3-for-core-stability/
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 07:27 PM
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On the way back she showed me an Instagram video promoting a run club she was considering joining in our local area. I'm part of a run club, and it's promotional stuff always has the fittest people on it. The reality is that maybe 10% of the club will be really good runners/super fit, and the rest will be older or far less fit people. You're over analyzing this, as I suspect you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 07:19 PM
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I've seen Betrayal at Baldur's Gate in game stores, always forget to look into it. I haven't played BG3, I've had issues with video game addictions in the past so I stay away from them these days. I did play the shit out of BG1 and BG2, plus read a ton of Forgotten Realms books when I was a kid. D&D is something I've always been interested in, but never played the OG game. The shit testing about perceived nerdiness isn’t that far removed from the shit testing about perceived sluttiness. Ha! That…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 06:44 PM
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It's the older starter set: https://www.amazon.com/Dungeons-Dragons-Starter-Wizards-Team/dp/0786965592 The contents are very bare bones, includes 6-8 premade characters. Since D&D isn't straightforward there isn't straightforward instructions. Highly recommend you read through the campaign book first prior to starting, I hadn't and it's caused issues with the players as I didn't have a scenario pre-planned. I couldn't remember the name of the campaign, and while searching I found this thread tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 06:16 PM
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OYS 22 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Reading MallardCove’s Tinder Guide was fascinating, really brings to light the shit I’ve done wrong prior to marriage with online dating. Next up is Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man which I realized this morning I hadn’t read yet as well as rereads of Better Beta Divorce Guide and related threads. A refresher is a good idea. Son Now that baseball is over we’ve been taking him to Muay Thai more often, and I’m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 04:29 PM
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Why are you texting so gd much? Have you read MallardCove's Tinder guide? I have not, I'm definitely not great at this. I'll check it out. Better beta I have read the guide, and have begun to put it into practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/24 09:27 AM
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Goddamn that post is embarrassing. You know I wish I could say that it's been the work I've done, and sure that's part of it but tits really are the universal salve. I'm having fun with it, while not going "Rambo" by acting like an idiot just cause some chick flashes a boob at me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 01:42 AM
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OYS 21 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 203lbs (+2) Not sure how I’m up 2lbs despite keeping my diet basically the same. Water retention? Program is 531 plus running Lifts this week: Squat 345x7, deload last week on the rest of the lifts Last week’s much needed deload went great, I feel rested and ready to go. Switched up all the accessory exercises, and kept those same exercises this week. Replaced ultra wide grip pull ups with palm towards, and after…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 07:53 PM
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It does, thank you. The way you put that is well done. Regarding you being more even keeled, well it seems like based on your recent OYS's you're already doing better, though perhaps leaning to a negative a bit more. The negative things you mentioned like your landlord kicking you out or your wife giving you shit tests after your grandpa died, big in the moment but I would suspect viewed long term you'll see them as a blip on the radar and not much else. Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/24 05:12 PM
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None of this post is useful in any way. A woman saw an old fling and had emotions? So what? Your posting history is littered with whining about marriage and divorce. In the 57 seconds I looked, it seems you've never been married? If so, you're crusading about something you've never experienced?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/24 05:02 PM
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It does, thank you. I tend to be reactive in that I'll think about what happened in the past for hours/days. The trick i talked about above helps, as I'm mentally working on what I need to do that day or whatever rather than what's happened in the past. I.e. doing shit rather than worrying/ruminating on what's already happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/24 01:08 AM
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Dammit, I forgot to respond to this yesterday. I’m running SL 5x5 until I fail and plateau and then moving to Madcow or SL5x5 intermediate. I’m keeping it simple and heavy and trying not to overthink it. Awesome, I did pretty much the same thing with 531. In no time you're going to look at your log book and say "holy shit". Do you have thoughts on how to be more even keeled with this type of thing and OI through life’s ups and downs? I have a lot of work to do here as well. It's part of why I as…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/24 09:41 PM
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Agreed, much the same thought went through my mind that night at the meeting. Thanks for the feedback
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 11:58 PM
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Watched the video made me notice that I’m tucking my elbows in because my shoulder width is about the same as the bar. Thank you for sending that You're welcome, that dude's channel is geared more towards advanced lifters, but his borderline autistic break downs of individual lifts can be very valuable. I took the same advice this morning when I was trying out body-weight tricep extensions. “Don’t rock the boat too hard” thinking. Seems like a reasonable approach, however aren't these 2 a bit of…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 05:57 PM
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it’s a real joy to restart! It really is. Letting go of my ego about lifting knowledge (of which I didn't half of what I thought I did) and really learn from others has been transformative in many ways. During which I've gotten better with another skill => being able to shift through the mountain of bullshit that is fitness advice for the gold among the pyrite. she’s adding a lot of value to my life these days, and she’s choosing to follow my lead as I start to build my vision Good to hear, what…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 05:52 PM
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the 24 year old. have you fucked her? no. have you done anything? no. so why are you fawning over her over multiple weeks - pedestaling her and fetishizing her? You're absolutely right. She wasn't there last night, and I found my self being disappointed. Thought about that for a minute, realized what I was doing, felt like an idiot and carried on with the meeting. Well caught, I am fawning over a girl I haven't done anything with. also - you don't understand the 1000' rope. Apparently not, time …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 05:01 PM
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Spot the oneitis, towards my son you mean? Yes I have heard of the 1000ft rope, the question that I've had is "is the value that my wife is providing in my life worth my continuing the marriage?". Currently the answer that I have is "no".
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 04:36 PM
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A post of yours (I believe) applies here in particular https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/put-your-ego-in-the-box.1095500 This is a damn good post, thanks for linking that. I've followed some of your past OYS's, in them you've mentioned you had a hard time finding what value your wife brings to your life, yet you seem to be changing your mind on that. I'm curious what's changed, her behavior or the work you've done on yourself causing you to not care about things that you used to? Lifts …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 07:54 PM
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I’m having some intense elbow pain that lasts for two days on skull crushers. Take a look at this video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUxMSEtz9ag&t=2s lots of good tips on avoiding pain with skull crushers, or other lifts. When you're doing them, are you controlling the down portion? Also, I I'm guessing you're using a straight bar, you might try dumbbells but held parallel to your body. That can put your elbows in a more comfortable position, preventing pain. I left the kid with the grandpar…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 07:39 PM
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OYS 20 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 201lbs Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Front Squat, deload week started Deadlift 440x2 Bench 135x20 Overhead Press 150x1 PR Hit an overhead press PR, but it was a struggle. I’ll see how the next cycle pans out, will probably drop the training max. Deadlift felt like a million pounds, I was shooting for 3 but got 2. Instead of my long Saturday run I ran a 5K race, it was a lot of fun but I tweaked my hamstr…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 07:21 PM
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Yeah you're right. I could have taken a few more minutes here. Noted for the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 06:32 PM
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Had this typed out yesterday, but lost it. OYS 19 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 201lbs (-2) 12% BF Navy DEXA scan scheduled for Friday, Navy method sucks Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 375x3 (PR) Deadlift 415x5 Bench 130x20 Overhead Press 140x4 Broke previous squat PR of 370x1, concentrating on back tightness and knee location out of the hole on the backoff sets have really paid off. At my current rate of progression I should hit 4 plates on s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 02:40 AM
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This is the template I'm using, not one of Wendler's: https://www.elitefts.com/education/5-3-1-and-run/ Monday is squat along with accessories that hit hamstrings, single leg, and calves. Tuesday is hill sprints. I thought the author was kinda stupid putting fast work after squats, but he's right. It's basically front loading the leg fatigue at the beginning of the week. Wednesday is over head press, with upper body accessories Thursday is a shorter slow run Friday is deadlift and bench with a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 01:04 AM
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Yes you're right, I have been stepping on my own dick as far as game goes. I suck at it, and haven't really focused on it to get better. I read that same OYS yesterday, my first thought was "good for him", second thought was "he's doing it, get your shit together".
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 12:50 AM
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3 years ago I was a fucking mess. Probably 250-260lbs, hadn't regularly worked out in years, depressed about what I let myself become, etc... Day by day I'm slowly getting my shit together. My biggest hurdle with game is I've always been extremely introverted, still when I'm in social situations I have a little voice in the back of my mind telling me to go by myself. Childhood shit that I never dealt with until recently. It's a behavior I'm in the process of killing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 06:09 PM
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Yeah, it's why I've consulted with a few lawyers about getting out of this marriage. I've been debating in my mind whether this whole "sparring partner" thing is stupid or not. It's working, I'm getting better and better about not letting her emotions get to me, so from that perspective I guess it's not.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 05:58 PM
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OYS 18 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 203lbs (-2) 12% BF Navy Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 355x5 Deadlift 395x10 Bench 120x20 Overhead Press 135x5 All lifts and runs are continuing to progress, though overhead press is a bitch. Really concentrated on the lower body engagement as well as a more controlled eccentric with the drop down sets, started to get lazy with that. For a few weeks I’ve been having an issue where I’ve been “good morning” t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 10:00 PM
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10kg isn't crazy, but it's not just weight gain that causes sleep apnea. I was born with a jaw structure that cuts off my airway when I sleep, got worse as I got older. I was in the same boat as you for years, always tired and weak. A CPAP helped, but I never could sleep through the night with it. I got an apnea mouthpiece fitted and it made a huge difference. No more falling asleep driving, needing to down 6+ cups of coffee to stay awake, etc. I've found that taping my mouth shut forcing me to …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/24 08:56 PM
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You're welcome. He has videos on all the major lifts, some great form cues that have been a tremendous help over the last year. Often times when I've started to stall it's been a technique issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/24 08:46 PM
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Outside of T levels being checked as many have said, do you snore when you sleep? Fall asleep driving or when sitting around doing morning? Does your wife say you make choking noises in your sleep?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 10:44 PM
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I'm just fucking around there, the point is one of the behaviors in working to rid myself of is the ease that I can be emotionally manipulated. Not the best example I'll admit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 04:04 PM
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Excellent questions that I've been asking myself. Throughout my marriage I've allowed myself to be taken advantage of because I'm pretty easy to manipulate with emotions and guilt. NMMNG hit me like a ton of bricks. I avoid confrontation because I want to avoid hurting the feels of others, which leads to stupid situations like I described in this week's OYS. I try to fix others because I feel bad about their situation, which lead to me dating and subsequently knocking up a single mom. There's fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 07:36 PM
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Heh, I read that Substack post a couple of days ago. Paralysis by analysis, I do this a lot. Fitness is currently the best aspect of my life, but I had a lot of fucking around for a while. Creating a concrete plan, then following the plan to the letter in a very consistent manner has been the key, which is totally a no duh moment but if I had my shit together I wouldn't be here right? So, I picked a tool and started using it to create a system so I can manage my time in a systematic manner. I've…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 02:09 PM
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Seems Reddit ate my response yesterday. Beyond planning for the divorce, I have a flawed mental model that I'm working to change. I've reflected on this a lot and I've realized it's affected every relationship I've had including my marriage. Above all else I don't want to divorce then find myself in basically the same situation 2 years later.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 02:00 PM
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What do you mean by D1/D2?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 09:15 PM
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Hit a wall with OH press, checked out some videos and apparently I was lifting with the arms too narrow. Will try with new form and reassess next week. Overhead press is frequently a hard lift to progress on. As you've already said narrowing your grip can help Watch this, some important form cues that have helped me quite a bit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGlqD8oqUcE If you really want to nerd out, here's this channel's playlist on the overhead press. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=P…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 09:07 PM
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Come on dude, if I remember right you're a professor. Imagine if one of your students came up to you and asked a question that would be easily answered by searching for a keyword in the online text book. That would be the same response would it not? All body fat measurements other than a Dexa scan suck, consider them as a poor reference point only. The Navy method (I'm not linking that, you can handle finding it) sorta works
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 08:14 PM
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I’d like to learn how to measure my body fat % soon, so I can track that in future OYS posts. Here you go: https://gprivate.com/6d75b Come on dude, if I remember right you're a professor. Imagine if one of your students came up to you and asked a question that would be easily answered by searching for a keyword in the online text book. That would be the same response would it not? All body fat measurements other than a Dexa scan suck, consider them as a poor reference point only. The Navy method…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 08:12 PM
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I know what I don't want, I don't want to be married anymore. I've set myself on fire to keep others warm for 16 years. As far as the endgame, I'm working on that. It's a big part of why I haven't pulled the trigger on the divorce because I've jumped off a cliff without a plan fairly often in my life, which hasn't worked that well. That and my Nice Guy tendency of hating to hurt the feelings of others. I want to be a man who is self actualized, free to work towards my own goals and desires rathe…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 08:02 PM
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good luck - i'm cheering for you. seems like you're making progress if we use the competency model as a basis Thank you the tech market is making a correction. they've imported a bunch of 3rd rate indians that are body count. make of that what you will. Yes I know, the company I work for has been recruiting Polish employees, which hasn't worked out well. My workload has increased taking up the slack for them, yet another reason to leave this company.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:36 PM
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Relationship & Sex - About 6 weeks ago, I gave the FMFY you speech. I've been hesitant to comment on anything in other people's OYS except for fitness stuff, but I would suggest you read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3fpefe/every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim/ and this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/tje76d/the_three_stages_of_dread/ You're getting compliance, which will probably work for a bit, until it doesn't. You didn't break up, you stomped your foot a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:56 PM
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hahaha. i love this because it really highlights how emasculated you are. I cannot disagree. I have a Nice Guy tendency to avoid hurting feelings, so I end up being a little bitch about it. What i notice about your posts is you like to fuck around with the window dressing. Instead of figuring "how to get it done", you focus on "how to get it done". it's interesting and something you may want to think about. Yeah, I've been thinking exactly that while working on my lack of focus/time management. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:44 PM
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I had the same issues while WFH during COVID. Going back to the office was a relief to allow me to separate work and home. Having a commute sucks, but just getting away can be a relief. Is WFH is the only option for you? Manning: I’ve been checking back in on the manning 101 list lately. I've always thought that lists like this were kinda silly, but he's not wrong. As someone who has wasted a lot of time learning skills for the benefits of my wife, I would caution you on working to learn new ski…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:32 PM
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OYS 17 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 203lbs (-2) 12% BF Navy Navy method still says my bodyfat is at 12% but my abs are clearly more defined in all lighting. I think that method has run its course, Dexa scan is in my future. Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 335x8 Deadlift 415x7 Bench 130x20 Overhead Press 140x3 Everything fitness wise continues to go well. I’ve fallen in love again with running, and all my lifts continue to improve. Increasing m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:13 PM
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OYS 16 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 203lbs (-2) 12% BF Navy Hit my goal of 12% BF. Navy method sucks, but until I get a DEXA scan it will have to do. Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 335x7 Deadlift 395x9 Bench 120x20 Overhead Press 135x5 I continue to progress in all areas, this program continues to work well and I’m able to combine running and lifting in a good balance. Bench didn’t bother the pec tendon as much this week. Read NMMNGx3, WISNIF…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 03:51 AM
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OYS 15 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 205lbs (-1) 13% BF Navy Missed my goal of <=12%BF per the Navy method this week. I’m definitely leaner based on my ab definition, but either way I didn’t get there. Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 365x2 Deadlift 430x3 Bench 130x18 Overhead Press 145x1 Hit a PR on hill sprints, I’ve been sick for about a week now but got the work in. Felt like I was going to pass out afterward, not sure it was smart to be run…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 03:25 AM
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Seconded on the salt, adding a pinch of salt to my water prior/during my workouts has been a godsend in preventing light headedness as well as cramps.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 03:15 AM
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Session 1 I wore a belt for the first time and adjusted my breathing (I was doing it wrong). It helped. I added 2.5kg (up to 65kg) but mostly it helped my confidence. This was before I read the replies from last week. I noticed that I was nervous squatting - maybe explains the light headedness I’ve been getting. This video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CvectcykUuI helped me a lot with my breathing while wearing a belt. His channel in general is a gold mine for form cues on every lift, worth t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 03:13 AM
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OYS 14 44, wife 52, married 16, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 206lbs 13% BF (Navy) Program is 531 plus running Top lifts: Squat 345x5 Deadlift 405x6 Bench 125x20 Overhead Press 135x4 (PR) Obligations in the morning caused me to skip all the running this week, hate skipping workouts but it was what it was. Getting a PR on the overhead press was great, progress on that lift has been extremely slow, but adding additional volume has proven to be the ticket to progression there. Injury …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 02:53 AM
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OYS 13 44, wife 52, married 15, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Fitness 6’4” 206lbs 13% BF (Navy) Top lifts: Squat 330x6 Deadlift 385x10 Bench 115x20 Overhead Press 130x5 Cardio was hill sprints and longer runs @ 136BPM heart rate. Chaotic schedule so some accessory lifts were skipped but I got in the work I had time for. Read NMMNGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, SGM 50%, Mystery Method, bunch of posts, RedPill sub's Sidebar. Once I’m done with Day Bang I’m goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 01:53 PM
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Point taken, thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 11:30 PM
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Fuck sake, he is 15, not 5. My son is 9, and he doesn't have time control, he can manage that for himself. Is your son busy with good activities, does he have hobbies? When my son was 9 he was the same way. Example of what I'm talking about, he expressed interest in boxing, the local boxing school doesn't take <16 years old but Muay Thai does. He goes, likes it, I sign him up. Fall baseball coming up, loves baseball. We've exposed him to so many other activities, board games, geology, drawing, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 03:22 AM
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I have no idea what you're on about here. Do I have a lot to work on? Fuck yes. Am I giving up before trying? Certainly not.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 02:38 PM
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Oaks. Don't get too excited and validated, betch. Kids feel safe and relaxed around their dads unless you freak out like a bitch. I take it as an indicator of our relationship. I'm really glad that he's trusting in me enough to come to me with these things, as well as being a source of stability for him. If that's validation then so be it. You suck, and he isn't a kid anymore, he is 15 so treat him like a man. I may very well suck in this regard, though I don't see how. When left to act on his a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 07:54 PM
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Physical - Just in maintenance after a neck procedure Dips - Assisted 60 - 10 x 3 Pullups - Assisted 60 - 8x3 OHP - Barbell - 8 x 3 Standing Rows - 60 - 10x3 (Hard to activate last though) Squats - 60 lbs x 3 x 8 Deadlift - 70 lbs x 3 x 8 You're 37 weeks in and your lifts have barely improved. After briefly going through your posting history many of them have stayed the same for weeks. Do you have a health condition which prevents you from straining? If not, and you're unwilling to push yourself…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 07:33 PM
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Lifting: Lifts keep going up, increase on DL and Squat can still be made every two weeks roughly. Bench have been increasing each week but with microloading of 0,5kgs. Still unsure if i would benefit of entering a cut in a couple of weeks or if to keep slow bulking for a while. Goals: Reach 1rpm of 1xBW bench, 1,5 BW squat (done) and 2x BW DL (done). After 1rpm of bench is done which should be soon, new fitness goals are required. 1000 lbs club could be a good target. Entering a cut and shooting…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 07:09 PM
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The reason guys get screwed on custody is that they aren't willing to fight for it. The reason guys are screwed in general is because they don't fight for themselves. Yeah, I do need to balance exactly what I'm looking for vs what I can afford to fight for. My instincts tell me to fight for as much custody as possible, but given my wife isn't a meth addict or something so trying for greater than 50% that will most likely be money down the drain. I really don't give a shit about the house, but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 05:17 PM
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OYS 12 44, wife 52, son 15, stepdaughter 25, 2 grandkids Mission /u/_RedTard’s comment https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1efo63y/own_your_shit_weekly_july_30_2024/lfqoefl/ on my last OYS was/is really thought provoking. I’ve been doing a lot of autistic over-thinking on this, and really it comes down to it I want to be a man that lives for himself. I’m a talented hardworking guy, but I want those characteristics to be used in service of my goals, not a plow horse for others. The c…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 01:47 PM
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This is fucking retarded. What, if he stopped working out or some shit and his T levels dropped, causing him to punch her cause she made hamburger casserole instead of tuna he would be justified cause hormones?
/r/askMRP03/08/24 03:22 PM
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When I came home e from work, she ran over and hugged me and apologized again. I forgave her by kissing her on the forehead and saying “it’s ok.” Look man, you're literally telling her that it's ok to abuse you. No consequences what so ever. I get it, it's a terrible situation, however if there's no boundary enforcement from you she'll have no incentive to see a doctor/therapist/exorcist to help with the hormonal issues. After all, why should she because you'll just say everything is fine after …
/r/askMRP03/08/24 02:49 PM
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Based on your post history are you in Pakistan? Because that changes a great deal in terms of DV claims and divorce (as I understand it, American here). Now I'm very new here so I'm hesitant to give advice. However if it's escalating to violence on here part, or close to it, I think the question would be is this the person you want to continue to be married to and/or have kids with? So basically what do you want? If you can figure that out, and you do see her in that vision given her behavior an…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/24 02:58 AM
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I keep seeing that book recommended, I'll add it to the queue, bumped up a bit. Yeah, his stuff helps clarify things a lot. Not bad for a "not 6ft tall" Canadian.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 12:40 PM
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I was going to keep my answers to those questions to myself, but I've changed my mind. I'll be dead, doesn't concern me that much. That my son is a self-actualized person, capable of reaching achievement in whatever he wants to the best of his ability. That I've grown to be self actualized as well, as an example for him as well my own desire. Stories that are not meant for the validation of others, rather my own pride in my accomplishments and the work I put in to reach them. Still do it anyway …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 03:09 AM
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This is a damn good reply, thanks for the feedback. I read it this morning, been thinking about it off and on since.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 02:32 AM
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Holy shit, and I thought my OYS posts were long winded. Look nobody is going to read that. Here's an article that's helped me as a guide: https://whinemoreplease.substack.com/p/oys-posts-are-for-you-to-own-your-7c5?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 02:17 AM
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As I have lost weight, dressed better, and become more successful, my wife has become a shittier and shittier First Mate. Testing is expected, but it has gone too far. Consistently crossing boundaries, lying, gaslighting, nukes, purposeful neglect, and even sabotage are recent additions to her arsenal.> Is your wife heavy as well but is not trying to get healthier as you are? That may account for some of this, it's something I've encountered before. Is this something that has built up over time …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 01:12 AM
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<As I have lost weight, dressed better, and become more successful, my wife has become a shittier and shittier First Mate. Testing is expected, but it has gone too far. Consistently crossing boundaries, lying, gaslighting, nukes, purposeful neglect, and even sabotage are recent additions to her arsenal. Is your wife heavy as well but is not trying to get healthier as you are? That may account for some of this, it's something I've encountered before. Is this something that has built up over time …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 01:08 AM
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Get yourself a watch or something to measure sleep, record your sleep if you snore, try remedies and mobile apps, but stop whining, betch. Already do this, but watches and recording aren't reliable in determining the extent of sleep apnea. Hence the need for a sleep study. Whining would be complaining with out action, which I'm doing by getting the sleep study done. If I have to go around my provider I will do so. Long road, you just whined about medical systems, do you spend a lot of energy on …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 06:57 PM
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OYS 11 44, wife 52, married 15, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids 6’4” 206lbs 13%BF (Navy) Mission: This is the hardest question isn’t it? Lots of things come to mind, but none of them really encapsulate what I’m looking for. Read: I’ve hit all of the sidebar except for MAP. It seems like a repeat of other materials, but I’ll keep on with it. I can only assume it’s on the sidebar for a reason. Next up is to repeat NMMNG and WISNIFG, will be good to review these again. Fitness/Health Lifts t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 02:38 PM
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OYS 10 44years old, wife 52, married 15, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 grand kids Mission: I don’t know. I can put down some nebulous things, but they’re kinda bullshit. I know what I don’t want, to be the person where life happens to them. Read: NMMNGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, SGM 50%, Mystery Method, bunch of posts. Working on the RedPill sub's Sidebar as well as Day Bang. Fitness/Health 6’4” 206lbs, 13%BF (Navy) Squat 340x4 Overhead Press 130x5 Deadlift 400x7 Ben…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 05:36 PM
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Any decent routine (good progression, based on the basic compound movements, etc.) will be fine. Starting Strength, Stronglifts, Phraks, whatever. For a beginner or someone with a very long layoff everything works. The key is consistent, hard, work over time. Just start, the routine doesn't matter. Adjust later, just get to work. And don't go in trying your old maxes, start too light. But fucking start.
/r/askMRP22/07/24 03:15 PM
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I'm very new to the MRP space so I have little advice to give on your situation (which if you take 5 minutes to read threads on this sub or OYS's is not unique) the side bar or Steel's thread quite literally gives you a step by step guideline for the reading. So why not respect the time of the person that typed it out for free and follow that guideline? Cooper's book isn't on the sidebar anyway. Edit: you can't make someone WANT to do things, that's on them. She used to find you attractive enoug…
/r/askMRP20/07/24 05:09 PM
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None, I didn't mention it because improving my sex life (or lack there of) is secondary. My goal is to improve myself, fix broken behaviors I've had for years. If I get my dick wet more often while doing that, cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 12:10 PM
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OYS 9 44, 6’4”, 206lbs, 13%BF (Navy), married 15y, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 step grandkids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. This still applies, but it’s nebulous like saying “I want to be a good man”. I know what I don’t want, need to figure out what I do want. Thanks to /u/alldownhillfrhere/ for the call out here. Read: NMMNGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, SGM 50%, Mystery Method, bunch of posts…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 07:30 PM
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Indeed, a four figure lesson.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:58 PM
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You're right, putting this shit on "paper" has an affect of making you face your bullshit. Booked a consultation a few minutes ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:33 PM
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Booked a couple of consultations, you're right I'm fucking whining. Same reason as everyone else, I don't want to lose my kid for 50% of the time. If I have oneitis for anyone it's him. She's not enticing, but I do get horny. My lack of options is my main issue here, something that needs to get fixed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:31 PM
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It's been 3 years which is my fault, but I listened to her saying that she did it. It's getting done now because I'm making sure it's getting done. It's my wife's problem because she's the disabled veteran, I can't file the deduction. However, you're correct I was passive aggressively nagging for years playing the victim until I sat her down this week end and let her know this needs to get done. She did it this afternoon on her own, did I fail to lead her in getting this done in a timely manner,…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:23 PM
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OYS 8 44y, 6'4", 204lbs (-5lbs from OYS 6), 13%BF (Navy), married 15y, son 15, step daughter 25, 2 step grandkids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. Sticking with MRP's MLAesque OYS format this week. Forget about posting goals, that turns into mental masturbation and they're arbitrary anyway. Read: NMMNGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Book of Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, SGM 50%, bunch of posts. Working on the RedPill sub's Sideb…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 01:30 PM
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OYS 7 44 6'4" 209lbs 13%BF(Navy), wife 52, married 15 years, son 15, step daughter 25, couple of grand kids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. Came across this post https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4drywg/finding_your_mission/ along with the article that apparently it was based on: https://markmanson.net/life-purpose Definitely some things to think on, my mission is nebulous and I need to determine what it means…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 09:36 PM
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I said my time for reading is limited, not non-existent. I do read a bit in the morning prior to my workouts, on the shitter, or a bit before sleep (if I can stay awake that is). Hence my supplementing with audio books, not replacing. I re-read my OYS's yesterday, and you're correct. A whole lot of "her" and "my wife". I'm here for me, and now/in the future will be working to correct that. Both in my OYS and internally.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 04:44 PM
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Indeed
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 08:11 PM
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OYS 6 44 years old, wife 52, married 15 years, son 15, stepdaughter 25, couple step grand kids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. Fuck the template/format, I only really have one thing to talk about. It was basically dear diary shit anyway cause I didn't know where to start. The Problem Last week I was acting like an idiot, and was rightly called out for it. Knew I would be after I wrote it, but I kept it in anyway. I do indeed…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 07:49 PM
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Control often makes men hard. Currently your soundly in her soft frame, and angry about your impotence. Nail => Head.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:15 PM
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You're completely right. Like I said earlier I realized how fucking stupid this was after writing it out, but I kept it cause I need to deal with this. I let the anger of past actions cloud my future, I've been doing that my whole life. There's a lot of nasty history between us, shit she's done and I've done but at the end of the day I allowed all this to occur.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:06 PM
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Yeah, after typing that I realized just how stupid all this was, it was just some shit tests that I completely fucked up. I kept it in there cause either I own and fix this stupid shit or I don't. I have a lot of resentment against her, but in the end I put myself in this position and I need to internalize that. Dealing with anger is not something I'm good at, there's history there due to some childhood shit but that's no excuse. Lifting and diet are good, I continue to make progress. My game is…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:02 PM
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OYS 5 44, 6'4" 207lbs (-2lbs), 13%BF Navy (-1%), married 15 years together 17, son 15 years old, step daughter 25 years old, couple of grand kids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. Read: NMMMBGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Book of Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, SGM 50%, bunch of posts. Currently reading Mystery Method per feedback from https://www.reddit.com/user/castironskilletset/ Started on the RedPill sidebar, and I have to s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 12:32 PM
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Oh I share much of the same frustration. I dealt with sleep apnea for years, going to from shitty doctor to another until on my own researched a possible solution in a fitted dental mouthpiece. No doctor even mentioned they existed, I found out on fucking Joe Rogan's podcast and went from there. So apparently I get my best medical advice from a meat head podcaster. So far my endo has refused to up my dose from 100mg/week, though my script gives me enough where I could probably up it to 125mg and…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 08:09 PM
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I didn't get a notification you replied. Military as a closed-system highly rewards service leadership. That 'Men > Mission > Self' prioritization is difficult to shake once you enter the open-system civie world, but we see over and over again how it holds ex-servicemen back. Yeah, it's a mind fuck when you get out, I was completely lost for years. Found purpose after my then girlfriend got pregnant, then got even more lost. There is something to be said for being part of a group with a like min…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 03:37 PM
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Didn't get a notification you replied. If your estrogen levels are too high (as in, you are having high E symptoms), try injecting more frequently. The best dose (in my world) is the highest dose you can take without needing an AI. My endocrinologist tried to get me to take an AI after my blood test, but I wasn't having symptoms so the common sense approach to me was to just lay off until I need it. Thanks for the reply, finding reasonable information on this stuff seems to be difficult on the i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 03:22 PM
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Gear: 195mg test, 5mg cialis EOD. 195mg test, is this per week? Do you pin daily? Every other day? I'm curious as I take 100mg/week, and my estradiol has gotten up to 52pg/dL. Have any issues with it yourself? Regarding the Cialis, what's the rationale on taking it EOD? The woman must become who I need or I am ejecting. Realistically though, what's in it for her to actually do so? People don't really change unless they want to, so if she doesn't want to change and see's no incentive isn't it a m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 10:04 PM
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I walk in and start lifting, ignoring active recovery and any kind of stretching, which was dumb, but seemed to "work" up until now. Can't away with that anymore, changing this going forward. This has helped me quite a bit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4E-0uaG1Kk&pp=ygUPd2VubmluZyB3YXJtIHVw Many people including me over complicate warmups, worrying about shit that doesn't matter. Pick some exercises that hit problem areas, for me it's hamstrings, shoulders, elbows, etc... and do shit that mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 09:37 PM
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-- gym: went to the gym 3x. two upper and one lower session. couldn't make it to add weights. still struggling a bit when it comes to pickthe right amount of reps for different exercises. for now I do compound for 3x8 (bo, incBp, ohp) while accessories for 3x12 (latPull, tricPd,…). I'm highly motivated when it comes to going to the gym but can't crush it as I want to. being patient, will continue and adjust/improve my routine week by week. I'm new to MRP stuff so I'm extremely hesitant to give a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 09:31 PM
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A decent life where I'm the Atlas that holds everything up. Covert contracts abound, looking for validation on how good of a job I'm doing, gratitude from everyone, etc... The only answer I have is a lifetime of conditioning that I'm trying to tear down one day at a time. I constantly fuck up, but I fuck up a little less every day. The biggest covert contract I have is with my kid, that's going to be tough.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 08:18 PM
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he will survive a divorce. Millions of kids do. Your focus should be on yourself. This is my biggest issue, I keep falling back to being the plow horse for everyone. I've gotten a lot better, but the core behavior is still there. Its useless without basics internalized. Start with mystery method, then go to bang and then day bang. It will take its sweet time. Noted, thanks for the feedback. I grabbed a copy of all 3, will read/internalize/practice over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 05:45 PM
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OYS 4 44, 6'4" 209lbs (-2lbs), 14%BF (Navy), married 15 years together 17, son 15 years old, step daughter 25 years old, couple of grand kids Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. Fitness: PR's Squat 370x1/Deadlift 450x1/Bench 135x15/Overhead Press 140x4/Pullups 12 (chest to bar, 2 sec hold, 3 sec eccentric) Program is 531 with FSL supplemental lifts, combined with running. Last week's lifting felt great after the deload, top lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 12:01 PM
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OYS 3 44, 6'4" 211lbs, 14%BF (Navy), married 15 years together 17, son 15 years old, step daughter 25 years old, couple of grand kids Read: NMMMBGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Book of Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, bunch of posts Currently reading: Book of Pook audio, stopped reading SGM cause my libido is shit anyway. What the fuck do I want: I want to live life on my terms, not things just happening to me Fitness: PR's Squat 370x1/Deadlift 450x1/Bench 135x15/Overhead Press 140x4/Pullups 12 (ches…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:11 PM
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No I don't feel guilty in the slightest, I feel awesome about it. Even in my military days I wasn't this disciplined with diet and exercise. I'm just being impatient, these past months have been an awakening for me, and I want to fix it NOW and I can't reverse years of engrained behavior in a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 08:53 PM
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OYS 2 44 years old, wife 52, married 15years, 1 son 15, 1 step daughter 25, 2 step grand kids 211lbs, 14%BF Navy (-1% from OYS 1 which had been measured 2-3 weeks ago) Read: Horn's post on getting past porn and sex for validation, Rian Stone's Dread on Audible, reading other's OYS's. Fitness: PR Squat 370x1/Deadlift 450x1/Bench 135x15/Overhead Press 140x4 BF down -1%, though it's the shitty Navy method. Need to get a DEXA done, however abs are certainly more defined as I no longer need the right…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 12:33 AM
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Next time I would suggest journaling OYS #2 as a rough draft a few days before you publish. Then sleep on it, return and bold the parts that explain what you did and did not do. Leave the rest of the fluff for your own introspection. This will help keep you on target. Yeah, I vomited this out while working yesterday which wasn't the best idea. I like your idea of a bit daily, a good lunch time activity. Your lifts are great and progress outstanding there, as you've identified. As for your sex dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 03:05 AM
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The general advice (and I agree with it) is to consider your wife "good enough clay" and to stick around and work on yourself for a while first. Your wife isn't even clay, let alone good enough clay. She's shit. I've heard the term on here "sparring partner", which is my what I'm considering her at this point in time. Btw, her temper tantrums are a learned behavior. Her reactions and emotions aren't your responsibility any more (they never were). I know this concept, but I don't "understand" thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 02:53 AM
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The general advice (and I agree with it) is to consider your wife "good enough clay" and to stick around and work on yourself for a while first. Your wife isn't even clay, let alone good enough clay. She's shit. I've heard the term "sparring" partner on here Btw, her temper tantrums are a learned behavior. Her reactions and emotions aren't your responsibility any more (they never were). I understand this concept, but I don't "know" this concept. I need to make this part of my being, tattoo that …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 02:38 AM
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OYS 1 Me 44 years old, wife 52. Married 15 years, together 17 6'4" 211lbs, 15% BF (Navy Method) 2 kids: Son 15, step daughter 25, 2 step grand kids Read - NMMMBGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Book of Pook, 48LOP, MMSLP, bunch of posts Currently reading SGM Non-sidebar: Rian Stone's Praxeology 1&2 I put up a couple OYS's a few months ago, but I deleted them because I didn't own shit. I've done the reading but not a lot of applying. Batman Backstory - After getting out of the military I da…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:58 PM
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OYS 2 43 years old - 6'4" 207lbs (-1lb) 16% BF (Navy Method) Married 15 years, together 172 kids: 14 year old son, 25 year old step daughter Mission To be a free man, a man that happens to life, not one who has life happen to him.Honestly that sounds great, but it’s something that I don’t really know what it means nor how to get there. Developing my mission is one of the things I need to work on. Read NMMMNGx3, WISNIFG, TSM, Rational Male, Poon, Book of Pook, Horn’s year 1 OYS, sidebar posts. Cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:02 PM
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Okay, so DB pressing may be practical. However, what was the injury? How does it feel uncomfortable benching? What muscles does it feel like barbell bench press hits for you? Here are some notes that may or may not help you I shared elsewhere. The injury was that my pectoral muscle tore off the tendon, called myotendious tear. The repair is grafting an Achilles tendon from a cadaver unto the muscle, then connecting that via some titanium buttons to the humerus bone. Normally when I lift in the m…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/23 04:23 PM
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What do you hate about? Best lift there is. Bench press: I've never felt comfortable doing it despite the coaching I've received and reading/video watching on form cues. It always seemed like a silly lift, and after the injury there's some fear too. Yes I'm aware that's kinda stupid considering I'm doing DB bench press and weighted pushups. I'm curious why you say it's the best lift there is. Sure it is. I assume you're referring to something along the lines of my son's life being better or wors…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/23 02:15 AM
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Game/Personality/Social Skills I’ve been an introvert my entire life, mostly due to some childhood shit that I’ve been working on with a therapist. A big one was being terrified of public speaking, so in March I signed up at a local Toastmasters club. This has been fantastic for me, I’ve gone from being terrified to speak in front of people to looking forward to doing it. I’m by no means good at it yet, but I’m no longer terrible. Also I’ve made it a point to start conversations with people in p…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 04:17 AM
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OYS 1 Lurker for months, new account for OPSEC 43 years old - 6'4" 208lbs 16% BF (Navy Method) Married 15 years, together 17 2 kids: 14 year old son, 25 year old step daughter Mission To be a free man, a man that happens to life, not one who has life happen to him. Honestly that sounds great, but it’s something that I don’t really know what it means nor how to get there. Developing my mission is one of the things I need to work on. Read NMMMNGx3 (this was like a hot poker in my skull, done the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 04:16 AM
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