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| 511 | Great read! Why Sex-Positive Feminism Is Falling Out of Fashion... Let's hope that's the case. Posted archive link so no paywall. | DISCUSSION | WinterSolaces | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:45 AM |
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| 38 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayPls dm me the original post! I gotta read the comments | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Just another year end reminder to NEVER EVER build a man. Focus on yourself and only yourself.Pm me as well! So proud of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:14 PM |
| 22 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Oh how could I forget this one. Never fucking again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:45 PM |
| 501 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Oh god there are so many. Being cheated on several times has it's uses lol he always has his phone on 'do not disturb' he has certain app notifications turned off so they don't show up when the phone is locked (like Instagram messages/likes, etc) you can check this by liking a photo of his on insta or w.e you think he's hiding and see if it pops up on the locked phone. he never invites you out with friends if he does, those friends barely know you/don't know you as his gf. any girls close to him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Think twice before you get into a long distance relationshipI'd almost agree but I think it depends on your lifestyle. Considering I'm on the computer almost 24/7 because of both work and my hobbies, I had a really awesome relationship with a HVM that was long distance. We were both on the computer 24/7 for the same reason and occasionally would work together on side gigs, and would regularly see each other when we could irl. We ended up breaking up mutually due to other reasons, but the relationship was great and we're still on good terms. Although, I'm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:41 AM |
| 14 | Does anybody else never click links posted here for security reasons?Fyi, there is nothing they can do from you simply visiting a site. The information they can collect on you are just your IP, and a generalized geolocation from your IP. For anything else that requires a further action from you (EG, phishing for your password with a fake web login, or a download link/button to download a trojan etc). At worst, they can ddos you with your IP, which takes some effort and can be usually traced very easily, especially if they paid for a ddos service. If you're truly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:19 AM |
| 37 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Caught my ex putting recording devices all over my apartment. Several times. Me in my completely brainwashed and delusional state 🤡 thought it was so 'romantic' how obsessed he was with me. I cringe so hard at my old self... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:14 AM |
| 82 | Matching men's energyI've been doing this for years. It's always funny to me when men act all cold and distant, and the moment you are the same way back, they start going off 'whats wrong?!', bitch I'm mirroring your enegry/behavior. Men always expect women to shower them with attention and adoration because we're '''biologically nuturing''' but can't even put 1% of the effort back. The moment you stop, is the moment you see how they really are -- full of mommy issues and needing constant validation. A HVM will put … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:33 PM |
| 17 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youOr the deadly NVM that is both number 1 and 2. 🚫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 09:10 AM |
| 205 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?That is highly subjective. Personally, if I made it extremely obvious that I was clearly into him (touching him, holding hands, getting close), I wouldn't consider it a red flag. If I didn't give the very obvious green flags for it, then yes of course. But honestly, if you follow FDS you wouldn't really want to kiss on the first date anyway. I wouldn't want to do anything sexual at all on the first date since I basically just started vetting (outside of talking prior to the date). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:58 AM |
| 6 | Any career-focused ladies have dating advice?I'm in a STEM field, have my masters and currently working on my PhD. The guy I'm currently seeing is working on his master's in a some what similar field as me. It's only been 6 months and I'm still very much vetting but so far it's been green signs. Prior to that, a lot of men I've encountered were usually either boring by my standards, or were intimated by my '''success'''. They'd often get moody or depressed because they feel as if they should be 'ahead' of me in success and feel inadequate,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:39 AM |
| 1 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.Literally psychotic. I would of reported this to the cops. Even if nothing came from this specific interaction, this is a huge red flag for him to do more fucked up things in the future to her or his future girlfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:23 AM |
| 24 | Does anyone have any articles pushing back against sex positivity?Hey that was me! I'm glad you liked my article ☺️. I'll definitely look up more and post them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:20 AM |
| 6 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.That man is 100% cheating and finding every excuse to spend as little time with her as possible. He can't even be bothered to lie to her, he just straight up blocks her because he has 0 enegry and motivation towards her, their relationship, THEIR CHILD. I feel so horrible for her to be this gaslit and manipulated, she's just lost all will to live. At this point, I would hope her love for her child would snap her out of this awful situation. There is nothing worse than your own child seeing how l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:14 AM |
| 116 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?'destroying' is spot on. There's a reason why a lot of men watch porn of women slowly getting degraded/devalued over a long period of time and watching women 'fall into depravity' on only fans and crap. LVM looooove going after women way above their league and not only taking them down, but actively destroying and devaluing them to feel superior due to their fragile egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:56 AM |
| 9 | Gathered from the redpill sub, which is filled with posts like this. These men are literally advocating for sexual assault and somehow people still have the nerve to say FDS is the same, when it teaches us how to stay away precisely from men like this and vet for the sake of our own safety.Every time I see these posts I feel so sick to my stomach. The audacity that these men think they're some how superior when they themselves have 0 to offer and feel the need to go after women who are 'off their rockers' just to get 'the basic standards'. They're literally sociopathic. They don't even realize we are the ones in power in the relationship-- men attention is as infinite as the universe, and they're unable to accept that so they have to roleplay these edgelord tryhards to cope with i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:45 AM |
| 60 | Hookup culture is a scamI'm so sorry you went through that. At the same time, I honestly think this is such a common thing for all of us. I certainly did the same when I was younger due to the inability to have health boundaries and wanting validation and to be accepted/loved. It's disgusting that LVM are highly aware of that and prey on women who are clearly showing signs of trauma/depression etc and go after that just because it's 'easy'. They dont think we're 'cool', they just see us as an easy target for easy sex. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:00 PM |
| 187 | It’s so heartbreaking to see how women always have to be on high alert in public spacesjesus christ that's terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Talk to your ex’s exI really wish I could speak to my ex's exes. However, he learned a long time ago to make sure all the women in his circle to HATE each other. He regularly lied/made up things to make sure none of us ever spoke to each other. I've tried to reach out to an ex, and she (without even knowing or meeting me), already knew of me and disliked me, saying details about our relationship that never happened. He's done this to many, many girls, not just one's he's dated. Only reason I even realized what happ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:17 AM |
| 6 | we hold SO Much power over men. even if you are partnered up already or not interested in a relationship at all, you can still empower women (and yourself) by spreading the fds messages.Needed to hear this. Saving this post for a rainy day. Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:57 AM |
| 108 | Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him?I clearly remember constantly being paired up in 5th grade with the class bully. I never really understood why at the time, no matter what, I'd always be his group/buddy whatever. It sucked like hell, he'd always throw things at me, break my stuff, ruin my art (I used to draw a lot in sketch books and make fimo sculptures that he would break/mash up). Whenever he'd do something wrong, some how I'd always get partly blamed for not 'keeping him calm', or 'keeping him focused'. It got so bad that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:51 AM |
| 3 | Opinion: No woman should ever have to have ‘maintenance sex’ with her husbandlmao 'maintenance sex'. Women have just as high of a sex drive as men, usually if you don't it's because you're not attracted to him anymore. Why is it that when the guy you're seeing puts so much attention to you, your sex drive is high, but suddenly when he stops, your sex drive drops? Gee I wonder. You get what you give! We need to normalize breaking up if the sex is bad! And also, normalize breaking up without having a 'out' reason. That'd probably fix like almost all these issues lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 10:26 PM |
| 2 | "If he wanted to, he would." Stops hurting so much in time when you see it for what it is.thank you for this post. I'm going to reread this all day today until it hits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:46 PM |
| 33 | Men of all ages will cover for each other cheating in the name of "Bro Code". And if you wanna see how men think about cheating, peep the commentswhen I told my ex bf's friend (our mutual friend, but slightly more his friend) that he cheated on me, he said verbatim: "Well you know how guys are, he's just trying to have fun." Oh thanks asshole. Yeah, him having an entire fucking relationship for a year behind my back + sleeping with MULTIPLE women behind my back for 4 years, is just him 'having men fun'. Men have 0 empathy for anyone else but themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:37 PM |
| 16 | Remember ladies - if he doesn’t respond to your text within a reasonable amount of time he’s not excited about you.100% percent true. If a guy doesn't respond within an 30 mins I literally lose interest. Unless he messages me a legimately reason why he can't like he's working or w.e else, I just don't have enough time in my day to sit there giving a shit. Any guy who's 'not good at texting' is also someone who's not good for YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:24 PM |
| 46 | Let's see how many of these we can come up with.. I'll go first. "He says he wants a woman to have long hair because it's feminine, meanwhile he's balding." 😂🙈THIS x10000! I worked my ass off to be as fit as I could be, got a boob job, everything for the guy I was seeing because I was deep in the pickme hole... And the guy never worked out, was eating mcdonalds nearly daily, fat as shit, with constantly telling me I was too much this or too little that. Fuck that, never again. I'm going for guys who are fit like me, and care about their health like me. LVM are so insecure they feel entitled to EVERYTHING like a 'beautiful woman' so they can pretend th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:19 PM |
| 21 | Basically All of Reddit vs FDSsaw a post from a pickme about FDS that basically was this, talking about how FDS are 'over valued prude women' who don't understand it's ThEiR cHoIcE to do porn. Sometimes I wish I could shake them into the truth of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Category is: dating in the 21st centuryThis is 2real4men right now lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 06:12 PM |
| 19 | I'm leaving my unfulfilling relationship and couldn't be more excited. Thank you all.I wish you all the best! I'm still dealing with the trauma from my ex, but seeing posts like yours gives me hope to emotionally finally level up past all the bs. Good fking riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 08:26 PM |
| 6 | The NotAllMen brigade love to use this excuse when it comes to casual/quick sex toothat's impressive! I have yet to meet any man who's the first to say that. It almost sounds unreal but I guess that's just how it goes with the massive quantity of LVM. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, don't forget to heal your own wounds before entering into relationships. Sometimes, Pickmesha behavior is a symptom of unhealed trauma. Take care. 💙oof. All of these are me. I wish I could call up my ex to pay for the therapy he caused like he asked me to pay him back for past dinners/gifts. NEVER again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inlong time lurker, but decided to make a new account to post here without my ex stalking my posts. I just wanted to say finding this subreddit has been a huge blessing. I'm been dealing with an excruciating breakup with who I thought was not only my best friend since childhood, but ''soulmate''. I don't know what was worse-- finding out he cheated on me with at least 6 different girls, and one he had a year relationship with, or the extreme amount of gaslighting, manipulation, taking credit for m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 12:02 AM |
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