Winter_Present_4185 Archive

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1	Don't believe the media, Bezos never declared his finances to the court Okay, I'll take the bait. In Washington State (where we are discussing), when a party chooses to settle their divorce outside of the court system (such as Bezos), there isn't a strict requirement that requires financial disclosure the same way if it were to be litigated. However, mandatory financial disclosure typically becomes a formal requirement if breakdowns in the divorce process occur and the divorce becomes contested as then it has to go through the court system. When handling outside of …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 06:36 PM
1	Don't believe the media, Bezos never declared his finances to the court he has followed an out of court settlement process Yes. This is the way you divorce when substantial assets are involved and you are amicable where no financial document is submitted and no discovery is required No. She was granted Amazon shares. Unless they bartered and she gave up her shares (which we know she didn't because its one of the largest payouts for a divorce in history), for her to exercise those shares from the company with the approval of the FTC and IRS would require a judges "th…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 05:34 PM
1	Don't believe the media, Bezos never declared his finances to the court Oh you're using a County database. Financial documents like Bezos that are sealed are held by your state and never sent to the county (for protections against leaks I guess). You'll have to request under your states equivalent of the public information act. You'll also see that most discovery inquisitions related to and/or challenging marital assets are held in the states database and not kept in your counties database as well. While I'm not an expert in your county/state but this is typically w…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 03:57 PM
1	Don't believe the media, Bezos never declared his finances to the court Not sure what exactly you're looking at, so I can't easily assist. Jack Ryan (the politician) and Jeri Ryan's divorce documents unraveled his political senate campaign and they were sealed in the same manner as Bezos. What ever case lookup service you are using should mirror Bezos and the Ryan's in terms of how they display it. There are some documents can't be held back - such as the initial filings and ending judgment (not the summaries). If that is what you're referring to, those types of doc…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 03:32 PM
2	Don't believe the media, Bezos never declared his finances to the court That's because it was redacted... https://support.trellis.law/how-to-request-a-redaction My friend owns a company that does this for rich clients. You can petition the courts, and if that doesn't work, pay off the recording outlets (request court redactions). Edit: By rich, I mean "rich" I make just shy of $500k/yr and when I was going through divorce, I inquired about his services and promptly realise that you only really need this if your net worth is 100M or more. Furthermore, they work with …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 03:38 AM
2	Top 10 mistakes men make in divorce He isn't wrong - he just doesn't realise that the chance you might get caught is not 0%. It can vary drastically based upon state, spouse, spouses attorney, spouses available legal fund, judge presiding over your case, ectera. To relate it to a different topic, it's wise to have armed guards outside of Fort Knox because there is gold in there. It's a waste of resources, however, to have armed guards outside your personal house because you are a nobody. With middle-class divorces (both spouses ma…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/09/23 04:51 AM
1	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? I'm going to take a quote from a comment you gave to someone: You can negotiate whatever you want and put it in the decree. However in most US states, there are long backlogs for family court cases and no one is interested in taking up minor disputes This seems 100% correct to me. Unless a judge slaps you down, you can negotiate for what ever you want (prenup or postnup not withstanding) I will argue however that a 100% to 0% split in a prenup or a postnup can be argued very easily if there is a…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 06:13 PM
1	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? What "discount" are you referring to? Please be specific (cite a law or factoid that is in your state, for instance). We can't contrast personal accounts as there will always be outliers. The data suggests it used to be that way, but it seems to be changing.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 04:51 PM
1	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? For sure it's changing in a positive direction for men. I wouldn't be surprised if in 50 years all permanent alimony is abolished. Society is now under the gun with expecting equal work from both spouses, and the family ideology of a woman being dependent on a husband is no longer the norm. As people who are more accustomed to that norm pervade into law making positions, the laws are bound to change. I also think society is bit confused right now. Millennials parents were born in the 70's which …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 07:58 AM
1	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? I've edited my previous post to make it a little more readable. But yeah, man, haha to be honest I have no clue why more states aren't like Texas! People say that most states are quick to offer alimony because they don't want the lower income spouse to drain tax dollars utilizing state benefits like food stamps and such, but I personally don't think that argument holds a ton of weight. You do see many states being to shy away from long term / permanent alimony now adays however so I guess it's a…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 07:11 AM
8	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? If I'm not mistaken, you've asked this question before but prefaced it around postnups. Overall, yes, Texas is better than most states. But to expand on that, I'll separate out the big things in divorce: alimony, asset division, child custody, and child support. Alimony: Texas is better when one spouse earns more than the other (regardless of gender) as the courts favor people being self-sufficient over getting alimony and other "helping hand" laws such as pendente lite from their spouse. That's…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 05:49 AM
5	How did you get out?! I feel for you, man, and I'm sorry you are going through this. That's so messed up. I can't offer any advice other than financial. What state? Looking at your post history, it seems like you are in Florida. Specifically on maintaining the financial status quo, most states have this general "guideline," but it is not a legal "standing order" to maintain her lifestyle. If she wants to go out for drinks with her friends, she can pay for that herself. Nothing about maintaining her lifestyle is initi…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 06:36 PM
1	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? The ones you mentioned in your post: Texas, California, and Florida, tend to be better for recognizing postnups. However, this might just be because a larger percentage of people in those states pursue postnups (maybe due to local sociological factors), and so those court systems in those states have become more standardized with a legal framework for dealing with them. Conversely, states where more marriages are listed as religious ceremonies (like Kentucky and Ohio) tend to be the worst as the…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 03:00 PM
2	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? Edit: See other post. On your quip about disputing financial declaration. I've seen you on here always going on about lying about financial information this and that. Not trying to attack you here, but most of the time, you are downvoted - not because you are always necessarily wrong - but because it's a stupid thing to gamble. Maybe it worked out in your case, but it's stupid to tell men on the internet who have no idea what they are doing and who may not have the same level of competency as yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 05:16 AM
2	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? Seems only Washington state calls it PTDSS forms. Interesting, but I suspect this level of granularity will vary widely from state to state. For example, I doubt a state like Oklahoma or Louisana would have the infrastructure in place to make it that easy to search. As far as I know, most state sanctioned studies are done in the backend as they analyze all the scanned documents, OCR them, and then make it searchable to the research team that way. The OCR documents aren't typically made available…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 05:00 AM
2	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? Not sure what state you're from, but with the state databases I've interacted with, you typically don't have access to the backend SQL database. Furthermore, as with any relational database, you can't search for keywords such as "post nuptual" Any database requires you to use a search key which in the case of divorce documents is usually either one of the parties name. Gone are the times we're you could walk into the municipal buildings and request any information on court cases with "post nupti…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 04:45 AM
3	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? Unsure what you are getting at. A court database doesn't collate information like a study does. You'd have to do it manually. Also, why is university in quotes?	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 04:34 AM
2	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? A postnup in most states is not an airtight contract (and in many states, it isn't even classified as a contract). In your post, the lawyers you asked said it "might" hold up in court, but now you are saying they are valid - implying they will. I'm not sure if you are pining for the answers you want to be true. Realistically, if you are talking about enforcing a post nup, and one party doesn't believe it is fair, you're going to have to go to a judge for a trial as it is no longer an uncontested…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/23 02:07 AM
3	Can we get a final answer on whether postnups work or not? Short-term postnups tend to be fine (less than 2 years) provided that both parties have it officially signed by your states equivalent of a notary public, the marital lifestyle did not change to much during those two years, and it can be PROVEN that both parties did not sign under duress. I capitalized 'proven' because this is the most common avenue for arguing that a short-term postnup is invalid. ("I only signed because I wanted to save our marriage" - legally means that they signed under dure…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/23 11:39 PM
1	Second marriage ending after only 2.5 years. No problem man. The issue with divorce in NJ is that the state really doesn't want to interfere in how the breakup is accomplished. They mostly just let both spouses fight it out on their own. If the state does have to step in - sadly, it won't matter to them that she came into the marriage with nothing. They just want both sides to be "half happy" with the outcome which tends to involve a split right down the middle. Since this is your second time around, if you do have a third, just remember t…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/23 03:00 AM
5	Second marriage ending after only 2.5 years. I'm in NJ, 2.8 year marriage, so short-term like yours. My income is a little more than yours, and my ex-wifes income was imputed at minimum wage of around 35k. No kids. One thing worth mentioning first: In this state, because there isn't a "formula" for much of anything other than child support, it's really up to you and your spouse to determine alimony amounts and asset division. The state statues only apply if the matter goes to a judge and doesn't mean a damn thing if you and your spouse agr…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/23 01:12 AM
1	Roughly how long after you file.. do things start to resolve, like house sale, alimony, retirement split May I ask what county you are in and if you had an ESP? I'm in Mercer. Filed in January 2023. Her lawyer has been no contact with mine since then (no CIS or discovery). We have the ESP coming up and was hoping it would speed things along.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/23 12:58 AM