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| 5 | Worst year ever. Do I just keep up the charade?Protect yourself, separate as much as you can after filing is filed and served you can’t make changes as everything at that point is marital. At the same time I believe in marriage, but after going through what I’ve been through it’s hard to not see the practical side of protecting yourself if someone else decides to go off the deep end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/26 03:04 AM |
| 3 | Divorce is coming and I'm not sure what to do.Make all changes you can to life insurance beneficiaries, bank accounts, etc while it’s still marital and no filing has happened, some changes aren’t supposed to be made after filing, then secure what you can that really matters, don’t focus on stuff it’s all replaceable, focus on what will be needed long term to get on your feet in life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 12:58 PM |
| 2 | To the daughter I am losing slowlyKeep on keeping on sir, I hope the best for you, I’ve received support from arching vids from The Anti-alienation project on YouTube. https://youtu.be/VwR9QteTUbI?si=3wAH7C4pmF4bbbbH As I’ve learned more I’ve had more empathy for the kids struggling to navigate the OPs world. Consistency with the kids has helped, in time their hearts have turned and changed towards me but it was very hard on me emotionally | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/26 10:15 PM |
| 1 | When do you guys take off your ring?It’s truly a personal decision, my stbx took it off as soon as possible already started dating and posting pics with the new boo. I still wear mine as in my mind I’m still married til I’m not. Once the ink dries I’ll truly move on. Till then I don’t want to move like I when I’m not. For me it came to personal integrity, I can honestly say and know I did things in a moral and ethical way. To me that’s important if I’m ever going to trust again, if I can do it I can have hope someone else can too … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 07:36 PM |
| 12 | I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh airSorry you are going through this…it hurts so badly and the emotions run wild. I’m happy you have found a place to find some hope, comfort and relief. It is a hard situation for anyone to go through…it seems time and working on yourself as an individual is the only way to successfully move on. I’m also glad you are allowed to post here…on some of the divorce women’s threads men are not allowed to post. The standard difference is interesting. On those threads in reverse a mod would have removed yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 11:05 AM |
| 2 | I wished my ex-wife a happy birthday, and didn't add an insultThis is tough, you show a level of resilience many men lack, keep on keeping on! One day when the kids are older I’m sure they will come to hear your side of the story…til that time comes make your life a place they will want to come…not for the questions about what the divorce looked like, but a place where they can feel and know that they have a father who loves them | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 05:37 AM |
| 7 | Picked up the last of her stuff... with her new bfWe all know that’s a lie, it’s called monkey branching, she’s hopping onto new supply to start the cycle she never faced or healed from, the playbook is love bomb and mirroring to make a quick connection feel real, I’m sure they have so much in common all of a sudden, soon she can’t help but compare the man you were and devaluation starts, until it hits a head then the discard begins, where she slowly retracts and evaluates resources until she feels she can leave, usually to the next supply, the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 07:08 PM |
| 4 | Picked up the last of her stuff... with her new bfShe has many moments you don’t se, she has to keep the facade up for public view and even for you, promise you she’s thinking of you all the time and working hard to repress the thoughts with distractions, in the quiet moments the shame, guilt, and realization seeps in, as more time goes on and you continue your growth as a person and father she can’t help but continue to see it | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 06:57 PM |
| 2 | I bought myself flowersDespicable that this happens so often as a playbook tool in divorce. I used the alone time to research, plan, prepare, and process emotions, definitely not an easy time. Take it day by day build your faith, resilience, and stay steady. The false claims will be seen in the future to be untrue, it’s only a piece of paper, a true monster wouldn’t let that stop him from hurting someone. Stay consistent and time will show the allegations untrue, you won’t even have to defend yourself, just keep livin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 11:46 AM |
| 1 | What to do when the stbxw hits the wall?When I began to focus on me, she realized I wasn’t able to be manipulated by her anymore and I could see through the facade she puts on for everyone publicly it triggered her abandonment and she spiraled, claimed abuse, filed injunction, made up lies and claimed her life was in danger to have it granted, forcing me out of the house, away from my kids, still required to pay all the bills, then she filed for divorce, claimed I abuse the kids to try and get 100% custody, called CPS and opened multi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 11:05 PM |
| 5 | Anybody else just feel crazy?You aren’t crazy, the euphoria can last a while m, the harder she is going the more she is trying to replace, forget, and push away reflection. There are phases to divorce and it hasn’t hit her yet, it will eventually, as hard as it sounds the best thing is to focus on yourself, when the waves of emotion come process them, feel them, let it out in a healthy way and when they come again the waves won’t be as big or long or strong. You feel them because you actually cared and poured your heart int… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Why do we allow women into our community?It’s a paradox, many want both sides, and don’t want a space where they can be confronted and have to defend their positions to come to a logical conclusion, much of it is based on emotion. Men usually can take the criticism, but even respectful criticism and disagreement will feel like an attack to many emotionally dysregulated women in those groups. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 01:33 PM |
| 3 | My Wife won’t stop being CruelSounds like cluster b personality disorder look them up find what fits, even check for yourself Not medical advice but a start disorder test | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/26 04:37 PM |
| 8 | Beware of all DVPO consequencesYep, they will try to bait you just to have you jailed, just keep the no contact and give time a chance to work in your favor. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/26 04:17 AM |
| 1 | I feel wrong for feeling relieved after it's overAww man sorry to hear that! Even had accusations to authorities and investigations and smear campaign and everything else. I have just been focusing on prospering and being the same person I’ve always been. Kind, helpful, trying to bring those around me up with me, a rising tide raises all ships. As I keep doing better and not going on the attack the community around me has been seeing through the lies and trusting the a higher power is fighting the battles for me. I won’t let myself get weary i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 05:49 AM |
| 2 | I feel wrong for feeling relieved after it's overAww man sorry to hear that! Even had accusations to authorities and investigations and smear campaign and everything else. I have just been focusing on prospering and being the same person I’ve always been. Kind, helpful, trying to bring those around me up with me, a rising tide raises all ships. As I keep doing better and not going on the attack the community around me has been seeing through the lies and trusting the a higher power is fighting the battles for me. I won’t let myself get weary i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 05:49 AM |
| 1 | I feel wrong for feeling relieved after it's overThat is the exact term…discard…just completely discarded, no recollection of all the things, just what can you do for me now or what have you done for me lately. One day they seem to wake from the dream and then that’s when the regret seeps in, but their psychological mask usually can’t handle the mirror and they double down, triple down, quadruple down and I seem to find that only in their old age do they realize and come to a place where they can come to grips with the gravity of their decisio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 05:34 AM |
| 3 | I feel wrong for feeling relieved after it's overIt’s amazing how we are great husbands and fathers for years until they want out and then all of a sudden we are narcissistic, abusive, controlling, manipulative, and everything else | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 12:37 AM |
| 4 | I feel wrong for feeling relieved after it's overSounds like the divorce was her choice, she no longer wanted to work on anything and now has no support system that would have been you. She probably won’t ever admit it but sounds like you weren’t as bad as she thought. Should have taken accountability and worked on the marriage with you. Nothin in what you said sounds like a divorce reason other than she didn’t want it. It’s like the saying I’ve heard many times now going through this. “Women are willing to forsake their family for their happi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 08:54 PM |
| 8 | So F’ing SadSo sad and sorry to hear this for you, the irrationality of how some women are is beyond comprehension. No real dealbreakers just done…as if on a whim. It hurts so bad, takes time to get through, the days have been long, the nights tough. Working on building me and never looking back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/25 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Stay the course?30 years, congrats on that, it’s rare to hear these days. Lighthearted please don’t take offense: From what you wrote sounds like you should just be friends and have an open marriage :) just kidding Real stuff: sounds like you all have been through a lot, raised kids together, went through the tough time of babies, toddlers, teens, and now adult children. Each of those seasons has their own hardships and you all lasted. Although you don’t feel like you are on the same page, maybe some intentiona… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/25 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Found a way to be abandoned twice in equally sh$t ways.So sorry to hear this for you, it hurts so bad, truly devastating, I’m praying for your strength, take it a day at a time, you have life and that means you have purpose, find out how to fulfill the purpose and focus on that, I’m praying that you will get out of this deep hole of despair, good on you for reaching out and not ending it, you are stronger than you feel right now, a weaker person would have ended it. Use that strength to get through, the pain and despair Will change in time, give it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/25 12:49 PM |
| 13 | What is it with perimenopause?Yep it’s the Perry we called it, just seems to change their way of thinking and they think finding themselves will make them happier, they are all over algorithms but miss all of the divorce regret vids and posts. How they would be better and happier if they just worked on themselves and their family | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/25 12:12 PM |
| 4 | I’m trying my hardest to save my marriageI applaud your for putting in the effort! You are doing what most men do…trying to save your marriage and family! From what you are describing it’s a her problem not a you problem. The hard part is getting her to see that and make some changes without causing a fight. The optimist in me hopes that she sees your effort. The pessimist in me says that since you have the time and she is not moving on any phase of divorce you may want to go to a few lawyers and have a consult, they could advise you o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/25 10:45 AM |
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