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The second he mentioned being a stay at home dad with any sense of seriousness, it was time to leave. There's maybe 1 in 100,000 situations where that is even a viable option, let alone a wise one.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/25 05:43 PM
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desires of marrying a SAHM doesn’t have a career won’t be able to financially support us 33M This man needs to sort his life out. You can't want a SAHW and not be able to provide. Insisting/ passive aggressively jabbing you over it despite that are markers of an overgrown child. It's one thing to believe what he does and fulfill what a man's role would be within those dynamics. It's another to have (and orate) those beliefs and completely fail to embody them. I would consider your union here car…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 04:48 PM
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tl;dr: This is a wholly non-pragmatic, philosophical spiel. If that does not interest you skip it. Basically all I say is that she( u/fuwafuwarachel), is technically correct in application, but you're likely to still experience some cognitive dissonance. ​ She's right in that effectively you can utilize both, if you regard them as solely a toolbox. If you don't believe either to be fundamentally true, then there's no issue. The issue therein is that if you act out an belief of your own volition,…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 10:12 PM
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I won't tell you how to live your life, but at the very least you should know that much of feminist theory, or more accurately it's application is in direct conflict with RP principles. This stems from the notion that either men and women have inherent psychological and physiological traits or they don't. The latter is a little less controversial than the former, but RP (and coincidentally, many traditional belief systems) make some core assumptions about men and women along those lines. Much of…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 02:00 AM
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All of these things are true, but my point is that graduate degrees, especially PhDs, are something you should get if you have a desire to do research or be faculty. If you're just there to make a ton of money, most stem fields have a path to do that without committing half a decade of your life. For women in particular, those 5 years are valuable as they usually come out of your 20s or 30s.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 08:24 PM
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While I agree that there's definitely some hypocrisy here, I don't think it's quite that simple. Though I doubt many of them would be able to articulate it, it's likely that some of the ire and irreverence comes from the notion that she's aging without having done what a traditional woman should do by the time she begins to really age, i.e. build a family or at least have started doing so. I don't have much information on this situation so it might just be nastiness, but a lot of the 90iq "make …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 12:35 AM
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It's not necessarily bad on it's own, but it's more like what are you getting out of it, and what do you plan to do with it? If you're going for a stem degree, especially two, are you just doing it because you enjoy the subject or are you going to pursue a career in the field? If you do pursue a career in the field, it's going to be primarily male. Despite every effort by the powers that be to make everything more androgynous and have more women in various stem positions, it's still going to be …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 12:22 AM
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I’ll put subliminals on my Instagram. If you could suggest me with captions Call me a mid twenties boomer, but I cannot think of anything less effective for communicating a message to him. You need to change how you're receiving advances in person, not some social media mental gymnastics.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:25 PM
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Get off tik tok and ig. You're actively damaging your mental state. I think the other comments have the rest covered.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 02:58 PM
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I would definitely tell the boyfriend, anonymous or otherwise. Inaction is to some degree, compliance. You would tell someone if you knew they were having 100$ stolen from their bank account every week. Unless you don't see cheating as worse than petty thievery, then you should logically tell him. He'll either live life in a lie or find out eventually (much more likely) and the longer it goes on the more it eventually hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/21 04:58 PM
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Fertility mainly, but also looks. It applies to nearly all men, marriage minded or not. That's not to say older men won't marry older women, they will. Sometimes you cant stand being around someone who's barely more mentally than a child, but the takeaway should be this: Your SMV is in it's prime in your twenties, if you want to get married you should be actively working on yourself and looking to get that done in that time frame, especially if you want kids.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 02:46 PM
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I prefer turn-based chores, but I'm more of a planner anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 08:39 PM
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I think you're way oversimplifying the role women have in society. Childrearing is in and of itself an honorable thing when done correctly, as children are the society's future. Let me describe the details a bit more to get my point across. You've got a decent understanding of a man's natural role in human society. The world is a unknown and dangerous place, and it is a man's job to go out into the unknown and conquer, tame, and make it known. Traits like risk taking, being disagreeable, headstr…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 04:27 PM
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Depends, it's like if someone was really into movies. If they just enjoy the art form and the quality pieces it produces, all the better. If the majority of their watching material borders on, or is pornography and/or some other degenerate obsession, it's probably a red flag for a few issues. Unfortunately there's a fair chunk of degenerate anime due in large part to the dismal state of Japanese society (if you're ever feeling too happy look at japanese suicide/depression/relationship/sex life s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 10:02 PM
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At least use proper grammar while trolling
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/21 07:05 PM
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People here like to separate politics from RP, but it's not something you can really do since feminism/identity politics, especially today will worm it's way into every aspect of life. Pretending like they coincide easily or exist separately is lying to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/20 04:54 PM
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If you want to be a shitty person and make the world worse, there's a very small list of people who will even so much as say anything about it. But don't go trying to convince yourself that you're not a shitty person and that decent people will somehow remember you otherwise. The reason morals exist is so that the world doesn't get progressively worse by the cumulative unhealthy, selfish decisions of dull, short sighted people. You cause less suffering and less problems in the future by being mo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 06:07 PM
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I'm yet to hear of what debunks the notion, but I'd be interested in reviewing your sources.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:29 AM
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or they like the idea but can't afford it. You can thank second wave feminism in part for this. One way to guarantee women have to work is by forcing them into the workforce and thereby increase the supply of labor by ~60% or more and lower the value of it in kind. And people wonder why inflation adjusted wages have been stagnant over the the last 5 decades.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 09:56 PM
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The "death of God" is to blame for much of the rot that afflicts the West. Religious atheists love to quote Nietzsche's sister's misinterpretations as some sort of big brain power punch against religion. When Nietzsche declared God "dead" it was out of despair for what lie ahead for mankind without a fear of eternal justice. Either way, well put.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 11:51 PM
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If you expose yourself only to trash then you might think that's all there is. It's the opposite side of the incel "all women are (insert offensive term)". While the reason they get there might be different, the fact of the matter is neither side is right and neither have put in the requisite work or made the correct choices to experience otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:36 PM
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Let's hear it. They can only be evaluated after they've been heard.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:33 PM
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My God that's disturbing
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 01:01 AM
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Harmony between the sexes, beautifully and succinctly put. I was introduced to trp (and rpw) by an ex of mine. I lurk about and comment occasionally because the solution to a problem isn't always "your man is a piece of shit patriarch misogynist" etc etc. This feels like one of the few places where the dream of harmonious and understanding interaction between men and women isn't having it's last breath beaten out of it (rad feminists/bpers), or being unceremoniously abused for hedonistic gain (t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 08:58 PM
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I wouldn't go so far as to say the negative examples are powerful. They regularly get downvoted into oblivion, and they're certainly not winning any people over.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 02:21 PM
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I was sure this was satirical when I started reading. This is hilarious and depressing. What a sad state of reality.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 08:37 PM
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There's a reason the sub has attempted to maintain a consistent feminine space. Even barring the ill formed angry manlets that will pollute whatever space they choose to disgrace with their presence, many men either don't understand or lack the empathy to give effective advice for a woman. I'm not saying this is necessarily bad or wrong, but as is often said here: hunters shouldn't ask the deer for advice. Neither should they give it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 08:36 PM
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Leave. Hitting a child like that is the act of a monster.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 09:09 PM
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This might seem very antagonistic, but my first question for you would be what do you think feminism has to achieve in the west to accomplish it's goal or be reasonably close to doing so?
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 04:53 PM
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Wisdom, perceived or legitimate, is nothing to be ashamed of.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 04:56 PM
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I see. Assuming you are still dating you may want to drop that. Not because I think you're wrong about where your beliefs lie, but because like you mentioned, one label very rarely covers all a person's beliefs accurately. For example, I have a friend in my research lab who identifies as very far left, and I usually call myself a conservative for shorthand. I'm often surprised that we agree on a majority of stances and goals, the differences being in the details. You may be skipping over good pa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 12:16 AM
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Is there a reason for "conservative" given a lot of the other things you mention line up with conservatism?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 08:57 PM
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Perhaps ask the hunters rather than the doe.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 06:46 AM
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This guy is afraid of or unwilling to commit. He's beating around the bush and bullshitting excuses so you don't leave. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 04:40 PM
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The demand is pretty ridiculous. Only 26% of couples have sex once a week or more, once a day puts you into at least the top 10% of frequency overall. A transactional view on sex is always unhealthy, even in the context of marriage. This needs to be curbed either by an honest heart to heart or by counseling if that shows no fruit. Feel free to use that stat in your discussion. I found it here.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 05:25 PM
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Men finding RP philosophy feel like they've been lied to in a pursuit they've been at for their entire adult lives. For women it's more of a slight adjustment to what should have been somewhat obvious already. You can imagine the difference in emotion (see: red pill rage). Both responses (when dealing with the opposite sex) are inherently selfish, but one is far more societally sustainable and far less emotionally harmful. You can guess which. As such they're two sides of the same biologically d…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 03:54 PM
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A good lesson, if a bit heavy on the imagery.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 02:09 AM
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In his profile hes only looking for fun and something discreet. Then you shouldn't have met him if you wanted something serious. Move on, case closed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 05:03 PM
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It's nearly impossible to tell why he did it with the information, nor is it really what you need. Infidelity is an awful thing and I don't blame you for being profoundly distraught. There's two things I recommend you do (that are really just one thing). First (it's difficult) but were there any signsof discontent from him? Try to analyze them and, if there's something you could have done to improve the situation (be honest with yourself about this) and take that with you as a lesson. Second, fo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 09:55 PM
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They don't advertise themselves because it's all to easy to get screwed by a greedy woman feigning interest to get a sizeable chunk of your assets. A man who intends to be a provider wants his wife to be with him for the quality of his character, character that led to his succuss, not the success itself (though that should occur and be shared).
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 07:47 PM
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The fact that you're demonizing extinction avoidance and not ruining the lives of kids before they start by giving them proper parents as "reptilian" tells me this isn't going very far. I haven't seen nor heard of any stats that show this to be the case. Monogamy has a strong history of psychological support (nd if need be I can probably find some of the studies) for it's merit in forming families and improving the lives of children. At the very least polyamory does not have the same. Paternal d…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 07:23 PM
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It's the goal of a society that wants to last more than a few generations and doesn't want those generations to be riddled with problems from poor parenting. Having a variety of parents doesn't impart any intrinsic benefit, paternal doubt is inevitable unless tested, it's rare to hear polyamorous people speak of children or making a family (again, hedonism), and I've never seen a case of modern Western polyamory (that is to say, not strictly polygamy or the incredibly rare case of strict polyand…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 07:00 PM
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As another commenter elucidated, it would be oveerrun with gold diggers, escorts and sugar daddies almost immediately. If you made the focus around tradition, then it might be useful, but it might not have the same level of specificity here.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:22 PM
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Polyamory is, in most cases, an exercise in hedonism. It's societally unsustainable because it makes raising and caring for children diffocult and suboptimal, and due to mate selection strategies would leave even more disgruntled men than there already are if it were mainstream. We all know what men who have nothing to lose are capable of.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:07 PM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 04:21 PM
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The proclivity for greed and it's manifestation lies in it's host, not it's subject. Just like you can't make someone not act like an asshole, you cannot act in a way such to eliminate other's coveting (that is, without eliminating whatever good they are coveting, which should be out of the question in this context).
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 01:51 PM
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Having someone like me (not a literal clone, but sharing values and interests) sounds great. You should be careful about this thinking depending how far "values" go. That's a vague word that could end at morals or nearly your every waking action (which would constitute a near clone). You said you don't understand why "manly" men prefer feminine women, and particularly seek submission. Let me clear up a few misconceptions. I don't see why he would be any more capable of defending himself and me t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 06:00 AM
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There's not a lot to say other than that you can have children with low risk of complication well into your 30s, so you've got time.v you clearly know what you want and are willing to work towards it, all that is left to do is put yourself in situations in which you're likely to find a suitable man and the chances that you achieve what you want are very high. Humans are predisposed to negative emotion, so however you're feeling I can guarantee the situation is not nearly as bad as it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 05:13 PM
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This problem is particularly difficult because you and your mom have a fundamental difference in opinion, and we can only assume that your mom is (in a bit of an abrasive and ignorant way) trying to help you. I would recommend that you sit down with her and have a heart to heart on the matter. Tell her how much these changes have made you happy, and that she's very important to you so her words mean a lot. In some way, just kindly ask her to refrain from doing so while explaining to her how much…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:53 PM
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I think people in the modern west overemphasize the value of intellect. Notice how the phrase "you think you're smarter than me?" Holds almost the exact same connotation as "you think you're better than me?" As if being smart makes you a better person. It might make you more competent in certain areas, but unless it's trained directed at not only something, but something useful and good, it means little. I do think that it is in part due to feminist agenda in that the feminist agenda's key conce…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:00 AM
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I agree entirely, there seem to be quite a few of us about. I am sometimes concerned that there may be too many of us though, I wouldn't want the culture of the sub to be compromised. Too many wolves lurking near the deer may scare them off.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 07:48 PM
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The other way around moreso. Unchecked biological impulse will ruin society and lives. It's prime for a chaotic world with small tribes of people living short, sorry, violent lives. If you want to be a positive societal force and live a fulfilling long term life with companionship then you ought to learn how to control your innate (but easily destructive) sexual election impulses. Notice I did not say to rid yourself of them or not utilize them (both are likely impossible) but to keep them from …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 04:44 PM
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They don't need to be plugged in. I don't consider myself an rp man but obviously I'm here, and I'm doing my best to become an exceptional man. Surely there are better men than me, and they should be in no short supply. Furthermore, we're not slave to our impulses. It's easy for me to focus on my SO if I'm in a relationship with a woman I'm properly attracted to. I might check out some attractive woman walking by or have a sexual thought about someone, but they're both involuntary and fleeting. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 02:14 PM
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Since rp is fundamentally an extension of evolutionary psychology, it's a reflection of the innate sexual strategy of both sexes. An ostensibly universally accepted way to see if you're a high quality man is if you can bed many women, so it's easy to see why they go this way. Not to say that the polygamous nature of men or the serially monogamous mature of women is societally sustainable when left unmoderated (and it should be heavily so), but it is key in why these differences exists. I will sa…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 05:40 AM
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Jarvis, what percentage of teenage years are left considering an individual who just turned 16? 57.14%, sir. You're not even halfway through your teens. Just focus on your own self improvement. Don't sweat over teenage boys; the only consistency is that they're horny and clueless about what they want otherwise. Source: I was one in the not so distant past.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 10:30 PM
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Tl;dr: Its core message is that femininity is bad and weak, and masculinity is good, so everyone should be a man. We interrupt your scheduled work that you really should be doing or you're not going to submit by the conference deadline to bring you a novel on something I think way too much about: ​ People address modern feminism as if it is something that "occurred" with no link to previous waves of feminism and other cultural movements. I spend way too much time thinking about society in the we…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 05:57 PM
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Younger than 40 is probably a bit much lol. Mid/late 20s should be fine. Nonetheless, best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 11:21 PM
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Your therapist is a professional, but it doesn't mean they're always right. Since non-negative male-centric study is often looked down upon in the heavily left leaning area of humanities and social science, you might find that the strategies given to you are better for working internally or with other women rather than with men. The problem with the way it's brought up is that the message is still authoritative and a bit accusatory despite the flavorless, precise language. It is essentially "you…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 06:49 PM
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I'm glad I've established a positive reputation for some. I think that's a very wise way to go about things. I may have already mystified it too much due to my social ineptitude, but I think I should be able to clear it up. This really helps, I appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 08:48 PM
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I'll consider that. I don't think I'm in quite the situation you're outlining, but there may be merit in just conveying things my own way. I was hoping for this to be an efficient means of getting across the same points.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 08:35 PM
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Do you remember what videos specifically?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 08:34 PM
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You lost me at "I'm 15". Focus on developing yourself first. You're a child and so are the people around you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 09:13 PM
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In definitely was a part of it. In fact, in Julius Ceasar's triumvirate (a kind of victory parade), his troops are recorded to have sung a song along the lines of "Ceasar has fucked Gaul(spain/France at the time) but (some guy I don't remember) has fucked our Ceasar." In many empires on the decline, homosexuality is somewhat commonplace. It is worth mentioning however, that being effeminate and submissive as a man was still viewed as highly disgraceful, and being the bottom in a homosexual encou…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 04:43 PM
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I don't think we functionally disagree on much, so I'll just mention a few points. Upper class women were always formally educated. They were privately tutored in many fields. The only difference now is that women are permitted at universities. Had they been allowed to enrol in the past, I guarantee they would have. Equating a degree from a university nowadays to in house tutoring of the past is erroneous. Specifically when it comes to graduate degrees (especially the doctoral degree today), the…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 09:42 PM
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Agreed. I would say that for most women, even if your goal in life is to be a SAHM, you should have a path to a decent career that serves as a second option should things not work out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 06:40 PM
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I understand what you're getting at, but the fact of the matter is that that is something that is heavily if not entirely bred in that culture. If anything humans are adaptable, and society has the power to mold them. At one point in China, having feet that fit into ridiculously small shoes. That was specific to that culture of people, yet isn't relevant to most people today. The notion of red pill is to address things that are universal across cultures. Similarly, the possession of a degree mea…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 06:37 PM
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I think this is because quality people will (try to, and usually succeed to) marry other high quality people. It takes a certain amount of intellect, tenacity, etc. to become educated and successful. However, the selling point is not the degree, it's what the degree implies. I think it's highly unlikely that the quality of women has drastically improved in the last half of a century (I might even argue otherwise), so we can agree that there were high quality women 50, 100, 1000 years ago as well…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 03:40 PM
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Dishonesty undermines trust. Trust is the foundation of a strong relationship. Leave.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 04:26 AM
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Diminishing returns; it's universal in human psychology. Happy cake day.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 05:25 PM
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It all depends on what you withhold until commitment. If you withhold nothing, then nothing and there's no reason and visa versa. Striking the correct balance is one of the things a rpw needs to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 04:09 PM
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Your sister isn't a role model for attraction if she's going home with men after a few hours. If you want to be approached by men, might I take a step forward and say you also want to be approached by the right men. Bars are usually not the place to find a worthwhile man. Hobby groups and other social gatherings may give you more luck in quality (though perhaps less in quantity). Even if someone approaches you at a bar, are you okay with being pumped and dumped simply because you were finally ap…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 07:51 PM
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The primary focus should be self improvement. To that end, start by ridding yourself of the victim mentality. Your life is your own, you control your outcomes, good or bad. You should focus on making yourself into a decent person you are comfortable with before dating, especially multiple men. Both men seem immature, one by way of obsession and naivete and the other by premature fetishization. Your place to start lies in the places where you're lacking. Find those and your next step is to find s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 06:14 PM
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At least attempt to be a good troll.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 02:32 AM
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I am a man, but I would expect that of my prospective wife, especially towards our children more so than towards me. I believe it to be the basis of a relationship that lasts through tribulation.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 07:48 PM
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When you are willing to make sacrifices for the good of another. Selflessness. Everything else is likely lust or infatuation.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 01:06 PM
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Feminism is a word tarnished by bad actors. RP encourages taking a realistic, scientific(ish) view at people and society. I'm not in the mood to be publicly hanged so I'll keep this short. Who says equality or equivalency between men and womenis beneficialto humanity? Does it offer anything to the group as a whole? Does it make people more fulfilled (there's a lot of data for the contrary)? I've yet to see anyone answer these questions before exclaiming "rah rah equality". In the interest of tak…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 11:10 PM
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From what I can tell, rpw is a group of women who seem to procure and maintain long term relationships via traditional, biologically based methods of attraction and retention. It has been mentioned before but it bears mentioning again, trp and rpw are fundamentally different. They share the same base beliefs in how women and men function on a basic, biological level and use some of the same vernacular but that's where the similarities end. Rpw is at odds with feminism because feminism often deni…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 08:35 PM
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A piece of advice I can give you if you want to be approached by men in places like Starbucks, etc. Is to be inviting of it. Smile at men you would like to approach you if they look your way, etc. Not only can it be mentally exhausting to approach a woman you know little to nothing about with little chance of payoff, but the current culture in the West highly discourages men being forward. I can guanatee you that a lot of men who are unsure of approaching will be spurred to motion by a warm gest…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 11:47 PM
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You might want to get counseling if someone coercing women into anal is your type.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:23 PM
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Yeah agreed, some kind of useful degree, especially in an era where social accountability is pretty low.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 01:13 AM
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Not everyone wants to work long hours in an office the majority of their life. Being a homemaker perfectly viable, they problem here isn't her occupation, it's the person she's with and their relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 06:08 PM
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I don't think feeding and monetizing degeneracy for a year makes you anything akin to a guru on how to cultivate meaningful romantic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 08:44 PM
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Societally unsustainable, and I've yet to see one actually work of the 5 or 6 I've witnessed first hand.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:14 PM
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Comment wasn't directed at you. However, I would be wary of openly and zealously red pill men. I wouldn't even consider calling myself a red pill man as the other side of this coin has a sizeable handful of unsavory characters.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 03:21 AM
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The original comment suggested charisma necessitates reliability and that the opposite is also true. This is blatantly false and I think anyone knows enough people to support this for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 03:18 AM
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Thanks, didn't know that. There's always the chance of making a fool of yourself when you try too hard to sound like a big brain.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 03:12 AM
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Dishonesty is always a dangerous gamble, and dangerous gambles are a poor way to consistently build a happy, successful life.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 11:53 PM
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This isn't advice for men, bud.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 11:44 PM
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I couldn't give you any info on the rate of sexual satisfaction, and I don't care to google studies on the matter. Either way, if you can spare time to vet him you can spare time to work on the sex. I do know that quality of sex generally increases with age/time in functioning partnerships, so it's worth feeling it out if this guy is what he seems and he is not attempting to sucker you or lacking in resolve/responsibility like your child's father
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 11:42 PM
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I'd like to see the logic behind this. I'm sure there are many stone-faced fathers who'd like a word with you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 11:16 PM
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Sounds like you're new to rp. Men's primary markers of sexual attraction are factors for fertility, those being youth and health. Both vary inversely with age. Furthermore, as partners men look for women with few obligations (debt or a child) and few previous partners (this stems from paternal uncertainty in the past, but is still a strong factor today regardless). These are a general trend, so of course there are exceptions and trends that can affect the overall outcome. However with the inform…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 11:12 PM
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If you haven't been working on it with him for very long you may want to try that a bit longer. Being realistic, you've done away with a lot of your previous value by waiting and siring a child out of wedlock, so you might have to make some compromises.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 10:57 PM
3

I'm not saying that there are not societal conditions or standards for beauty, but they're usually supplementary and don't contradict biological definitions unless the "beauty" is not judging sexual attraction but other forms of mating suitability (I.e. wealth). The phrase "beauty is a social construct" mandates that society created the idea of beauty. That's blatantly false. At best it modifies the standards, positing that is created it is overly self-important (regarding humans in general).
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 11:00 PM
1

There are cross cultural biological markers of beauty. Symmetry is an obvious one. The notion that beauty is a construct is laughable, considering humans had to breed before advanced society was developed, and even then there were ways to evaluate other individuals sexually.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 08:51 PM
5

Sex is only hollow if you make it hollow. Something is not inherently vain because it is sexual or contains elements of sexuality, more would I treat it on such a way as it will needlessly hinder your contentment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 08:46 PM
3

Depending on the profession, workplaces can be masculine spaces where rpw tactics do not apply.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 07:34 PM
1

I think part of why online dating gets a bad rep here is because it's an especially raw deal for men, and a lot of lurkers and a few contributors are men. For women it's perfectly viable in my estimation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 09:29 PM
1

My thoughts on it are nothing of note, but I dislike assuming anything of the sort. My evidence against a "rape culture" lies in the word "rapist" itself. It has a terrible connotation, one of the worst possible. Furthermore, rapists are banished from society and often tortured or killed in prison, and It is seen as justified. In essence, everyone fervently hates rape and rapists. If this is the case, where are the people inhabiting a culture that supports or dismisses rape? The confusion lies e…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 07:42 AM
1

Good post. You said you "believe in rape culture". Can you define rape culture for me? I'm confused as to why you feel inclined to mention and purport this given your post.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 05:37 PM
1

I think "zero side effects" might be a little presumptuous. There's a host of scientific literature that shows behavioural changes in women on birth control that are not as obvious as wild mood swings and depression, and I find most people don't record a detailed control to really compare the before and after. So just because they aren't obvious and disruptive doesn't mean they're not there, especially in the long term. This channel does a decent meta analysis(though there's a conservative bias,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 08:12 PM
2

The man always wants to sleep with you somewhere down the line, doesn't necessarily mean he's not a good man who'd be good to have.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/19 02:54 PM
1

Extremely leftist post history Rabidly attacks right wing/ traditional ideals No post history on RPW hELlO gIrlS iM nOt a tRoll
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 04:26 PM
1

Oblivious and belligerent. You're a real package.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 10:19 PM
1

Find somewhere else to stroke your ego.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 06:25 PM
1

I suppose, I should have said something along the lines of "you can't complain if...".
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 06:23 PM
1

Lying is a poor way to construct your life. Lying to a prospective partner is a terrible idea, and any worthwhile man will boot you if you're caught. You can lie if you want. You'll be a worse person for it, but you can. However, you had better not post here in x amount of time about how your lying ruined your relationship and you need help to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/19 03:18 AM
6

Don't spew drama questions all over subs that do not concern that or you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 08:09 PM
4

I'm not seeing the point of this post. You want someone to say that American men are all chumps? The country is far too large and diverse to say that. Your sample size seems biased.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 07:45 PM
1

Your boyfriend wanted to fuck. How are we supposed to tell anything meaningful about your relationship from this?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 08:16 AM
5

You're going to leave a man for his friend's choices in women? Don't you have your own friends?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 08:41 PM
3

I'm telling you so you can take something from it. I could have just linked it to a free friends with the caption "what a jackass" rather than point out the mistake to you. If there's no way a know you're someone who has answers, why would we want to ask a questions? "I'm a good guy" says nothing and unless you're known to all, making known your attributes and more importantly the hardships endured to acquire them are key components of qualifying for an AMA. This is a sub for women to council wo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 02:48 PM
4

There is nothing so pompous as to assume that whole swathes of people would bestow unbridled approval on you based on your own appraisal. This is not the place for this, nor is any.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 02:21 PM
0

I don't really have enough info to advise you. If I had to guess I'd say it's likely bs as I find the majority of women to be dreadfully boring as platonic friends, as do many other men. I don't have much else to go off of to give you something accurate.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 10:37 PM
2

Be sure it's something that needs to be brought up. Past that it depends on the issue, but I would generally set aside a time and be very clear that the intention is to make things better for the both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:57 PM
34

I'm a 15 year old girl You're a girl, a child. Older children tend not to like younger children. Give it some time. Also hormonal birth control completely fucks up your oxytocin dynamics so I'd probably do some research into that if you're on it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 06:16 PM
1

I'm not debating how it came to be, I'm commenting on how it should be and how it should have attempted to stay. There are plenty of instances where large portions of the male population have been occupied for an extended period of time throughout history. It contributed, but it did not necessitate it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 12:14 AM
1

I'm not a woman, so I don't think I'm the right person to answer this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 08:04 AM
-4

Sure, there's a lot to be said about the prolonged childhood that prevents people from being mature or financially stable enough to raise children. I'd also like to see what they're classifying as birth defects, how that study was done, etc. Anyone who's been around academia knows not to take the abstract or conclusion of any study as truth. I may have sounded a bit foreboding when I originally mentioned it, my point was that it's ideal to have kids by that time if you're going to have them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 06:19 PM
1

It varies based on the woman, and the chances of a healthy baby past 40 are not great. Keep in mind that people usually only notice the immediate effects like autism or downs syndrome. These effects can manifest in other way that are not as blatant. To my knowledge, epigenetics can play an enormous in the genetic makeup of a child, which can drastically alter them amd their prospective life. Point is, having kids in your 20s/early 30s while healthy is what should be advised.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 05:18 PM
13

I'm actually a PhD student myself so I have a bit of perspective on it. To answer your question: feminine fields tend to deal with people (psych, social work, nursing, teaching[I'm also a teacher so some perspective on this], etc.); so yes, it is. Set a time frame for kids if you want them. This is core to the next few things. A PhD is an immense time commitment. You're essentially locking yourself into rigorous academic work until you're 25-26. This means no kids until at least that point. Gaug…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:55 PM
15

The only thing I wanted to comment on: Sure, it doesn't have to be women, there are some men who would be okay with or even enjoy the role, but people should be put where they're going to be most happy and you're going to tire yourself out pushing cubes into a circular hole.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:39 PM
122

So this might be a really controversial opinion, but I think making women part of the workforce as a norm was a mistake. It cheapened the price of labor making two incomes a nessecity in many if not most households with children, and women's happiness has been on the decline since it has been measured varying inversely with women's inclusion in the workforce. Women's proclivities (at least to me) indicate that they should on average be either in part time work, a typically feminine field or simp…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 03:01 PM
9

You'll find good men in lots of places, even in raw deals like online dating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 03:13 PM
2

You gutted the chance for a true platonic friendship when you slept wth them, though I'm of the mind that platonic friendships between men and women are a rarity in the first place. They're not there (or at the very least they weren't for the majority of the time) because they wanted advice and rides to the airport. Either be up front about telling them you're not going to date them, or ditch them and start actually platonic relationships. Sex is integral to romantic pair bonding, you can't just…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 07:11 AM
2

Sure, I don't think we actually disagree much. The point is, they're likely obstructive to the goal, and as far as I can tell a disingenuous way of conducting oneself as a female.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 04:11 AM
4

If they're looking for any sort of monogamy, or are family oriented then they probably care if the woman is still using other men for emotional validation. The number of orbiters means nothing to men. The number of women a man sleeps with may favtor in as a positive fof them because they are communal/pack animals and have a pre-selection bias. You also didn't show any evidence why it was solipsistic, you just said it was.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 02:06 AM
9

Would you like a man you're very interested in to spin plates while you're dating him? Would you like to be plated? Even on a moral level, manipulating people for your own gain is destructive and sows discord. It's a sign of an immature, selfish person.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 09:34 PM
-1

If it wouldn't bother you if a man you were attracted to did it then simply ask him to stop. Simply because you're disgusted because he's not appealing to you is not grounds to jeapordize his job. If he doesn't stop after you ask then take it to management.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:50 PM
2

So what was the point of this comment?
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 03:22 PM
1

This sounds like bait. You're not even asking a question or presenting a reason for your post.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 09:28 PM
1

You sure use this account a lot for a throwaway lol
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:24 PM
6

Pretty sure you're looking for /r/jokes
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 02:00 AM
2

A fair assessment.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 06:05 PM
1

Right, but the difference is that the woman never really "leaves" her family, symbolically at least. That's different in the west.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 06:05 PM
3

I understand why this is, and I'm not going to object, but it can be hard to get marriage minded advice aside from "don't get married" on trp. Yeah, it shouldn't be here but I can sympathize a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:46 PM
1

It's customary in the west, since brides are supposed to join the husband's family, not the other way around.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:38 PM
2

Depends on what country she's from. But to elaborate for some of the people who are seeing this as "not a big deal" and all, I'd like to present what this means for a man. In the United States at least, marriage and it's implications are still a heavily impacted by their roots in religion and traditional society. Marriage is a sign of supreme union. There are few things you agree to for the entirety of your life so marriage(at least originally) is not something to take lightly. There is often ta…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:37 PM
1

There might be a slight proclivity by correlation, but I don't think it's measl necessarily a need.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:10 PM
1

I'm among a number of men who have long been done kissing ass like this. You might get some desperate cuck by being manipulative, but any man worth his salt is not going to put up with your bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 06:33 PM
29

That's not how a relationship works, unfortunately. Sex is a critical element.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 04:38 PM
14

This goes about as far as elementary school children swearing to sound more mature to their friends, and end up looking like a prospective degenerate to anyone else. Your logic is flawed and this habit is detrimental. If you want flavorful language, become eloquent. If you want to dispel the stigma of submission, show competence. Your very mindset is unfeminine. There's nothing wrong with appearing submissive or feminine, so long as you only submit to those worthy. Vulgarity grants you nothing. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 06:39 PM
3

You still haven't answered whether you want a traditional relationship or not. There are men who will be superior to you in masculine realms. That's not a question. The question is if you want one. Once you answer that question, you can delve into the how.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 02:29 AM
12

You don't have to pretend to take a less active role. By that logic trying to enact any change in yourself would be "pretending". You can't complain about no one sitting next to you when you're laying across the entire bench. You've said the very thought of submitting disgusts you. Do you even want a traditional relationship? I'm not being accusatory, I'm slung because nowhere here have you hinted at that. If you never want to submit to anyone, this probably isn't the sub(lol) for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 12:55 AM
13

He sounds like either a sociopath or a solipsist, neither of which are father/husband material. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 12:46 AM
9

Men can change. Rarely, but they do. He may have shaped up in the time after/near the end of the breakup, or perhaps he was simply still forming. It's pretty rough to compete as a young man in the sexual market, seeing as most lack both experience and resources. There could be something wrong with him, or he could have simply improved markedly. Either way, intuition is not always right and should be tempered by logical analysis.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 08:50 PM
1

I'll find some studies when I have some time and care enough to win an internet argument by proving a simple, well known premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:10 PM
1

It's my estimate substantiated by the actions if men/wome on average, which is statistically proveable. Until you either prove my argument unsound or invalid, it stands as a valid and sound argument as I have already justified. This is critical thinking 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 07:47 PM
1

That's true generally, but my point is most mens' intentions are overt by default. I'm not using my own understanding of people as a basis, I'm analyzing the set of information provided to each on average. Unless you provide a reason why my argument is wrong, you're not pointing out anything useful. My sex is still irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 07:39 PM
0

Your experience is anecdotal evidence. Anecdotal evidence is scientifically worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 07:36 PM
2

Irrelevant, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 12:19 AM
1

"Don't tell a group of people what demonstrable facts effect their group generally due to it's position and common attributes". Your first line has no justification other than "muh experience" so I'll discard it until you make it a functioning logical point. It is a feat not to see the essence of male behaviour. Men are loud and straightforward about what they want unless feminized by their upbringing. Listen to the lyrics of your common rap song, the topics of a typical male gathering, or the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:31 PM
6

The reason men have an anger phase is not because of the nature of women, it's because blue pill society lies about the nature of women. Finding out everything you've been taught is a fraud is what's infuriating. Women don't have this issue because unlike the covert nature of women, men are overt and easy to analyze. What drives them is obvious. For women, rp does allows a more detailed look into the male psyche, but there are relatively fea world shattering realities to be found.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 06:58 PM
16

There are things you can do, but I have not the knowledge for you. The ladies here can help you with that. I do have, however, something to say on this black pill-esque mindset. To save some typing, I'll link it here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 09:23 PM
4

I'm not shaming him for his sex drive, I'm shaming him for his lack of willpower and empathy. Being entirely enslaved to biological impulses is the standard and ruins society. There will always be a heavy biological influence on human behaviour, but surrendering to it is weak and deserving of nothing but scorn, if anything.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 04:51 PM
1

Let him screw some party girl; he's not mature enough to think without his little head. Find someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 09:38 AM
6

If the man has some principle, he'll want a low n-count. 2 is pretty standard, and most men understand that; don't go crazy and you'll be fine. An unprincipled man will fuck anything that can get him erect, but that's neither here nor there since I assume you're looking for someone with some values.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:00 PM
40

Giving up easy sex/servitude/submission. It's a bit common wth lost souls here. Sex and affirmation of worth (submission/servitude) are the most valuable things you can provide, as the fruits of competency (often measured, perhaps erroneously by wealth) and protection are the most valuable things a man can provide. Either party giving up their valuables with no guarantee of return is in a desperate situation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 09:16 PM
2

Learned through psychological study and rumination, affirmed through experience.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 09:04 PM
8

People can do shitty things unknowingly. The unconscious mind is often in control, especially for those who do not acknowledge it's influence. Guilt-tripping someone is textbook manipulation. You see this guy in way too positive a light.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 07:52 PM
14

Everyone dies, everyone suffers and everyone has dreams. This guy is just manipulating you to get his most primal needs met in a way that suits him. In my eyes he's a complete jackass. You're no angel either, though. Leave and go into nun mode. You have a lot of work to do before you're ready for any kind of relationship, let alone an n-way clusterfuck. As a final note, polyamory is societally unsustainable and promotes the spread of stds. There's no reason to participate in it other than weakne…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 06:40 PM
7

I'm glad you finally worked up the courage to do so. It's not an easy thing to do. The pain is amplified right now due to recency, but that will improve with time. You're going to need a bit of time to "grieve" so to speak, as does everyone. However, things are far from bad for you as you've still got quite a bit of time. Focus on improving yourself in the time being. Cultivate maturity, your hobbies and femininity. If you need inspiration to keep going, many of the ladies here have stories abou…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 07:00 PM
5

If you aim act out male behaviour, this is not the place for you. Your "what do I count as" question is too inherently moral/political to pose in this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 10:28 PM
6

If he's not a man that can stay committed to a woman who is conducting herself well and properly in a relationship then you ought to find a better man. "Enough" of an age gap is a generally unessecary question. The age gap exists both because men like youthful looking women and women prefer more accomplished men. Worry about whethee you can trust him. Doesn't matter how young and hot you are if you can't trust him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:11 AM
7

If that's all, you might want to point that out in the beginning. I would assume the majority of women here want that, but the moniker "Chad" usually comes equipped with aversion to commitment/indulgence in spinning plates and a disregard for women aside from their sexual utility. You could just say you like attractive, competent men and be done with it without the misunderstanding, though part of me suspects you realize this and were being contrarian.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:02 AM
4

How do you define a Chad? The term has become too ambiguous for your statement to be consistent.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 01:38 AM
4

I'm being harsh so the point gets across. You're wasting your time, the most valuable resource you have. If you saw someone you wanted to help actively worsening their situation after multiple attempts to help them gently, you'd likely be inclined to be harsh to get the point across. If you didn't, I'd be doubtful of how much you care.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 09:40 PM
6

You've posted about this relationship already and heard the verdict. Leave this relationship already and stop wasting our collective time as well as your own.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 08:12 PM
3

I used to be really averse to this dynamic, but I've embraced it with my current partner. She's a bit younger than me (19 v 22) but even a small gap means a lot in terms of maturity at young ages. I serve a sort of mentor/lover role and I enjoy teaching her about life and being the protector. She ostensibly enjoys feeling safe and being taught. It seems like the pinnacle of submission, and it's certainly something that, as your average man, I appreciate. However, it is worth noting that it requi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:17 AM
5

I don't see the problem here. He got a job, now he should be able to return the favor, ostensibly. What's the issue?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 04:17 AM
7

You're being used. Bail.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 07:40 PM
3

I think you're in the wrong sub for this question mate. This sub is to advise women. But, in short, make a confident provider of yourself and cultivate as much charisma as possible and you'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:34 AM
9

This question is as nebulous as "what should I do in life?". It depends on what you want to be doing. I'm going to assume that you want to have a traditional relationship where you'll have time to raise and spend time with your kids. Ideally, you would have (or be in the making of) some sort of career that can at least sustain you while you search for your captain. You should have and be developing feminine traits and behaviors in order to be a more appealing and complimentary woman. You should …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 04:09 AM
13

You feel behind because, biologically, you are behind. You need to be active with dating and be improving yourself and cultivating femininity so that you can hopefully find a decent man to have kids with. "Just got out of a relationship of 10 years" What do you think you reap from terrible decisions like this? "I need to work on being a well rounded individual" This is what the teens and early 20s are for. Sure, everyone should always be improving, but if you're still referring to males as "boys…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 05:13 PM
3

So you're just unnecessarily abrasive by default then. My mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 12:40 AM
3

Be careful not to take personal offense from advice for others. Let's break things down. His mom does everything for him. At 22 not I nor any man I know and respect has their mother do anything but occasionally make an additional portion of dinner for him while preparing for the family. He's "expressed" not wanting her to do much but has not done anything to actually affect it. One would wonder if (and I would go so far as to say) he is more than comfortable allowing his mother to continue to do…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:11 PM
12

Absolutely. Western culture as it is shuns both young men and old women. Notice the rampant frustration, anger and loneliness in these groups. I believe the ideal society may lie between the extremes offered by the east and the west. While neither is perfect, nor handle either case perfectly (especially young men), a balance of individuality and community is ideal if not absolutely necessary. Currently neither embraces that balance.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 08:52 PM
24

It's not something that's well defined in modern western culture, to my knowledge. Everything is about youth, and very few people account for the second half of their lives until it is well upon them. From what I've observed, older women are somewhat like younger men in that they don't really exist unless they've built a social circle that cares about them. That is why the "cat lady" trope is a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 08:31 PM
21

Weakness is not goodness. From what I can tell he's weak willed and unable to lead. Your lack of sexual desire may be due in part to that already, and will sure as hell be killed by it in the future. Your time is precious, spend it on someone with a future.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 07:55 PM
9

It's a bit of an apples to oranges comparison. They're different, and both necessary. The concept of "being equal" as some ambiguous measure of worth is mostly pointless and a bit childish. Men and women are complimentary pieces, and while you certainly could beat in a nail with a screwdriver, it would be much more prudent to use a hammer. Especially in the context of relationships, who's worth what doesn't matter. You'll never hear a couple in love comparing individual worth and contributions. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 05:03 PM
3

So don't answer.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 09:27 PM
2

I'm not sure what the shift options are like for nurses, but it's a matter of your goals and desires. If you'd rather be working as a nurse than a full time SAHM or other career choice, you can still cultivate your femininity and RMV to become an excellent wife. However, if you foresee enjoying homemaking enough to be able to do it as an occupation, perhaps with some side jobs or working at home, perhaps a demanding occupation like this is not ideal. Either way, it's not an instant no generally.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:32 AM
6

I'm inclined to agree with this. Most people are loved when they meet certain conditions of behaviour or have certain traits. And no matter the love, one can always do something terrible enough to lose it. As such, no love is unconditional.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:28 AM
4

It is, but it's not necessarily wrong unless it's done to hold power over him. In this case it was just a bit of desynchronization. It can definitely cause some doubt and worry in the partner though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:24 AM
4

Yes, without question, ceterus paribus. However, with enough soy infusion, liberal dogma and "sexual liberation", that changes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:22 PM
11

That's a lot of hang time
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:00 PM
4

I don't think the effects of serial partners are quite that drastic that having two past relationships cripples the ability to form subsequent bonds, but OP certainly underplayed it significantly.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 03:36 AM
1

If you do try to come to an understanding with them, you may have to avoid getting defensive over any accusatory notions they bring up. Sit them down and calmly (emphasis on this) listen to everything they have to say on the matter. Then clearly and calmly explain why you made the choices you made and why you think they're right. Do NOT set out to rebut every single point, simply listen to their concerns and explain yourself. They may not necessarily agree with you but at the very least they may…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 04:41 PM
15

"I love that you come to see me so often, but it must be costing you a lot. Is there any way I can help?"
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 06:25 PM
3

Harmlessness is not goodness. It is being able to and abstaining from doing evil that is good. It's a bit more of a masculine concept, and in the acreage case modern women don't need more masculinity but your case is an exception. You need to start seeing your time, body and investment as valuable. It is good to help people, I relate very heavily along this axis as I have some sort of hero complex, however there are simply too many people in the world who are not worth your time to try and help …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 07:35 PM
2

My boyfriend is looking for a better job why would he try to find a job in another city? I hope you see the mental gymnastics here. He sounds plenty serious. You can try a LDR for 6 months or so. If he's as serious as you paint him to be, he'll probably propose not too long after that. You can always ask about his plans for the future as well, he seems willing to talk about it from what I can glean. If you're looking for a reason to break up, you're better off letting him know how you feel and d…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 07:00 AM
12

I can relate heavily to this feeling. Some two years ago I was about to go on academic probation for my undergraduate study, worked a shitty part time job I put no effort into and was scorned at, was dropped by my girlfriend of 3 years (who was my reason for life at the time), and had generally no idea where to go. I was very close to offing myself, if I'm being completely honest. Luckily I didn't, and taking a critical look at myself and setting about being honest about who I was and what I nee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 06:52 AM
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Generally a bad idea unless engaged, married, or otherwise marrying soon. Very few men can be trusted to rid them if things go sour. They likely will not do anything malicious with them, but they'll stay. Most aren't comfortable with that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 08:21 AM
2

To nurse my sanity.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 08:47 PM
4

I'm not sure how traditional red pill knowledge applies to exceptional cases, being that it operates in the knowledge of biological imperatives inherent to men and women, and more precisely how a man and woman's imperatives interact. Those between a woman and a woman are almost inevitably different and assuming the same exact guidelines transfer from heterosexual relationships is naive at best.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 08:42 PM
1

Here's something I wrote a while back that may act as some solace and encouragement.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 06:47 AM
4

Sounds like an issue with the man. Blaming yourself is neither effective nor justified if what you say is true. It's a terrible situation, but life has a great capacity to be terrible. You must move on to cultivate what good you can. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 09:43 PM
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I agree. I think the majority of women should default to feminine occupations first(be it nursing, home making, etc.) And then pursue a more masculine career if they discover they truly do not fit the mould(which is far fewer than many women seem to think, especially in regards to themselves). The current mode of being is analogous to telling all men they need to be homemakers despite the clear mismatch in toolsets.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 03:42 PM
2

to default This implies I am speaking about the average woman. On average women are more happy doing traditional feminine things which at most entails a career in a more feminine field, and more often constitutes not pursuing a career very far.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 03:39 PM
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Which is exactly why I think it's a poor idea for women to default to pursuing a career as a life focus. It's a net negative for their happiness on average and it's not a sustainable societal model.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 02:37 PM
7

You sound like a woman. Nothing here has anything to do with TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 08:32 PM
2

You have a lot of wants. That's great. What I'm not hearing a lot of is a plan. At 20, you've got four to six years minimum to work on yourself and still be a hot piece, but you've got a lot of work to do. First off: graduate. Being that uneducated is unacceptable. Second: learn to be and practice being self sufficient. Cooking, cleaning, self care/ maintenance and finances. Third: put away the games. Now. It's obvious they're an affliction, and they're best cut out completely until you're not a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:09 AM
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Telling you that he loves you gives you power over him. It means he's invested and men don't want to be in that position in current times. My response to that is that you've only been together a few months. He likely has to trust you more first. Edit: in fact his comments make me fairly sure he'd like to be able to do so but doesn't for the aforementioned reasons. Give him some time.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 03:43 PM
7

I've come to see the "born into poverty therefore pushed to be successful" situation as a rather tragic one at times. However, let's address a few things. There's no such thing as being "unlucky in love" if you're not doing something about it. If you've been minimizing your chances of finding a good partner to focus on your career, you have nothing to blame but your own choices. The clock has been ticking for you, so if you want to find a partner you're going to have to do a 180 on that behaviou…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:40 PM
1

If it were that a man could swoop in and save a woman from her personal issues, I'd probably be happily engaged. Even if he did earnestly want to, what happens when the hamster spins or old scars strike back, old feelings well up and culminate into fears or accusations of infidelity or other grievances? Relationships are cumbersome and come with their own set of problems to solve. It is rare if not impossible to solve a problem with something that creates problems. I think you went into both nun…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:55 AM
1

You remind me a bit of myself when I got out of my first LTR, perhaps because we are both intj. I was out trying to find another partner within a month, and found one within the next three. While I had made some improvements, I hadn't cultivated the emotional security necessary to be the rock of a healthy relationship. You seem to be in a similar situation, I would recommend you come to terms with your demons to some extent while single. Give it another 3 months at least. One last thing, sex is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 07:12 PM
2

jesus christ is my dude Amen
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:44 PM
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I know you're here for the female side, but allow me to be an emissary from the males. I know it can be dismal looking at the attitude of the male communities. Hell, even as a male I limited my consumption of it recently because it was depressing me. The movement has become what it is because men simply can't trust women anymore. Not only can we not trust them to damage us emotionally through unchecked hypergamy, we can't trust them not to utilize society and the state to destroy our lives shoul…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:30 PM
1

Quote directly where you think I used anecdotal in response to you. I've rechecked and can't find any.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 01:18 PM
1

I used it to detail probable causes and solutions to OPs issue, which was related to but different from what we're discussing. As soon as it came time to detail and support a position, I used no anecdotal evidence to support my argument, let alone let it constitute the majority of my supe support.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:17 AM
1

Your first comment completely disregards biological fact, and since we're speaking generally and I need to sleep, I'm going to discard that obviously flawed portion. It's not a question of if everything is logical. It is, we simply have not discovered all the rules. I'm not asking people's intuition to be logical, I'm asking their decision making to be logical despite intuition. The notion that something cannot change if it follows a set of rules is outlandishly unfounded. Natural selection is a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 06:37 AM
1

Your opening example relies on the party having enough experience making the right decisions to be able to make them intuitively. Women do not have this by default and will not in a time frame that is relevant. This is evidenced by the awful sexual and marital situation in the west, where women were left to make their own choices. It is precisely because women do not follow logical vetting that they get pumped, dunped and left with a kid. Everyone uses intuition by default, it's not some admirab…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 06:31 AM
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Love isn't a rational process which is why we have an epidemic of single mothers. It should at the very least be more rational. Note that I'm not advocating for exclusively opposing or ignoring intuition, but you should be aware that it is far from fullproof and often flawed. As such you should use it as a resource for information and not an end all be all decision maker. You make claims that things will or will not work under those conditions and give no reason as to why. Until they are substan…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 06:21 AM
2

Sound observations. The area in which I very much do not want to cede in is that women should be logical about how they choose their partners. As much as I would like for this to be the case, I know it's unlikely and I quite despise that as for me and other men, it means we're playing a game where the referee is capricious in regards to the rules and their meanings. Anyone who has played a game with unfair rules knows how frustrating that is, extend it to real life and you could understand why I…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 07:33 PM
2

Thinking before action is not a behaviour of men, it is a behaviour of the wise. It may be that I have some limitations in my ability to empathize, but one can deduce an optimal action/mode of being so long as there is sufficient available information regardless. What state of mind confers intuition with better predictive ability a judgement than logical analysis? How does it change base instinct and reactions to become any better at long term decision making? Choosing to receive or reject is an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 04:19 PM
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Your intuition is your subconscious making decisions based on a set of partially discernable but mostly unknown set of biological instincts and influential life experiences. Unless you analyze it logically, you have no guarantee that a decision made by it is even remotely good. You're gambling every time you do this with significantly worse odds as opposed to logically reviewing the decision prior to implementation. Trusting your intuition wholesale may be what the average woman does, but being …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:58 PM
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Your intuition would tell you to cheat if you found a man better than your current one, especially if he's out of your league. Does that seem like an optimal mode of being? Being a moral, feminine woman is about listening to your tuition, tempered by logic.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:33 PM
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My motivation is not anger. I can let my temper slip sometimes but the fact of the matter is I almost exclusively respond to correct logical deficiency. As I outlined before, using feelings as a method for making decisions ruins lives. Emotions are useful for gathering information and occasionally for making snap judgements. Anything other decision should be thoroughly supported by logical analysis. This is why I refuse to accept your response or let you advocate for it without resistance. It pr…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:16 PM
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You didn't say anything that related to anything concrete or even with a definition. "Vibes" and "feelings" are subjective, arbitrary, and worthless for amalysis and decision making if you cannot delineate their origin or significance. It's this kind of reliance on emotional state that leads to the majority of poor decisions. Your entire post is a horribly elongated "it's a feeling". Your past cases of whatever phenomena you are attempting to convey are likely to be caused by some delusion or mi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:24 AM
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Then differentiate. What is the difference? Does the relationship and desire you've built become null once you enter the bedroom? This argument is fundamentally flawed, the whole reason you bring a man into your bed is because you've observed a good character, body, and mind. What else is there left to connect to? Are you emotionally connecting to his penis size? How he acts in the bedroom and tuning that is part of learning kinks, so obviously it's not that. What is left?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 08:15 PM
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Every conclusion here is logically bereft. First of all using vague words without a definition like "sexual chemistry" and continuing to build a argument off of assumptions on this thing that is not even defined is a great way to sound smart to an idiot and sound like an idiot to anyone with a brain. There's a wealth of psychological study that says the complete opposite. Sex becomes less frequent, but higher quality with time. Secondly, unless you think you're some kind of exception(you may be,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 07:06 PM
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So it's not about sex, it's about your connection with the person that culminates in sex. You should learn to delineate the two if you're going to have such a rigid requirement.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 06:50 PM
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Depends on the time frame. Expecting amazing sex when early on when your partner knows nothing of your sexual desires is pretty unreasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 03:54 PM
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Anecdotal evidence is worthless in an argument about how people act in general. You just admitted that you have no idea if your anecdote is even a valid point to bring up. I'll say this one last time, if you're not going to make a substantive point, don't waste your time. I don't care about you or your personal life. If you're going to argue you could at least do the courtesy of learning the basics of logical debate as to not waste people's time with meaningless prattle. Edit: and if you really …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:28 PM
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Well if only everyone's life could be the exception. If you have nothing to contribute aside from anecdotes(which are worthless logically speaking), then I'm done here.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 05:42 AM
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You're failing to see the male perspective in the situation. As we all know, men are human doings and are haunted by the imposter syndrome, essentially an eternally present(no matter how slight) sense of inadequacy. Couple this with the fact that women are more prone to lie to avoid social tension and be serruptitiously manipulative, it makes it very, very difficult for men to trust women(hence why a true man's trust is a rare and momentous gift). Now let's go to the situation of sex. Orgasm is …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 03:16 AM
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It is undoubtedly emasculating for a man to be unable to elicit an orgasm from his partner. I've been there personally and it never really fully stopped bothering me. However, the woman I was with at the time made it very clear how attracted she was to me. She was similar to you, very active sex drive, frequent masturbation, and I was quite happy to hear her reports of fantasies of me that ended in orgasm. All of those things helped bring the negativity the situation generated in me down, but it…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 04:57 PM
1

I feel for you. The plight of the tall woman is even worse than that of the short man. However, like any problem, it is not insurmountable. As when ascribed any disadvantage, it is important that you cultivate enough of that which is in your control to overcome it. In this case, that is femininity. Ultimately, men want a feminine woman, shortness is just one preferable attribute but an absence of it is not an immediate disqualifier for a relationship. Dress, act, and exist in a pleasant and femi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 01:58 PM
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Yes, unequivocally. The last thing any masculine man wants for a partner is another rendition of a man/masculine traits. Yes to the first half. If the man is less successful fiscally than you, you will invariably lose attraction. To the latter, perhaps not, but it would most certainly help. Quite. Money will mean little in old age. I realize there's a reason that you are this way, but it's quite literally the definition of vain to make the acquisition of money the end goal. Money is a means of a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 07:16 AM
1

Yelling slurs out of moving vehicles I didn't know this was a vice, nor one that was dopaminergic
/r/askTRP24/10/18 08:04 PM
1

Yelling slurs out of moving vehicles I didn't know this was a vice, nor one that was dopaminergic.
/r/askTRP24/10/18 08:04 PM
1

Yelling slurs out of moving vehicles I didn't know this was a vice, nor one that was dopaminergic
/r/askTRP24/10/18 08:04 PM
1

Yelling slurs out of moving vehicles I didn't know this was a vice, nor one that was dopaminergic
/r/askTRP24/10/18 08:04 PM
1

So be it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 04:24 PM
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I don't have time to address every issue here, but let me be frank in telling you that having a family is most certainly not your top priority. You're a smart woman, and a doctor no less, I'm sure you can read some studies and do some basic math. There's no way you're going to have time to be a proper mother in your training as a surgeon, nor in practice especially with your plans. You and your husband(who you insist must be as busy or busier than you are, both biologically and by your own admis…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 01:12 AM
1

It's never a bad time to make yourself a better person. Strong, quality men don't have time for a project. Fix yourself up for 6 months to a year, then date.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 05:31 PM
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Seconded, far too rare for how pleasant they are.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 02:45 AM
2

Man, that's a bit dismal. On the bright side I'm glad to see Nikola Tesla back from the grave.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/18 05:24 PM
1

Good for society and individuals depending on the religion. You can achieve many of the benefits secularly, but a good community is always a plus(they're not always good)
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 01:29 PM
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I've never heard a man say that outside of a relationship. Regardless, it means you have put forward seemingly wifely traits. That's it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 06:32 AM
3

Your spacing made me feel like I was reading poetry, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 03:30 AM
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At that point it's time to just leave outright.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 07:50 PM
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Regarding the change, it's because who you are fundamentally doesn't change. You might be able to force it with some conditioning, but if you're not going to put up with stupid ideas being put forward at work(critical to success), then you're not going to put up with what you think are stupid ideas at home. A lot of other things can follow the same strain. You can certainly try to condition yourself to do so, but I can't speak to the success of that and suspect some congitive dissonance may resu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 05:51 AM
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Well, let's start by recognizing that you're sixteen. To assert that you're mentally matured enough to correctly judge what you will want out of life is generous at best and dangerous at worst. That being said, it is possible to find an alpha as a career woman, but much more difficult to maintain. This lies in that you're going to be reducing your pool of eligible men to an infinitesimal size as women only date up, and being a proper career woman will necessarily make you less feminine as to be …
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 02:49 AM
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Alright, since you're so insistent I read the sidebar do me a favor and point me to something you think will enlighten me on what that I've missed. I'm still not seeing what principle you think I'm missing other than what people agree upon. As a man, you should know and empathize with the fact that I want to know why, and I'm not going to accept it until I see the reasoning. I don't see the difference between 28 and 35 besides the inevitable smv gain through resource acquisition.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 04:59 PM
1

That's pretty reasonable. The metric I'm going by now is that she should be cooperative with logistics and show some ioi the first time we hang out or it's a waste of time.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 03:29 PM
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You realize meeting accusations of narcissism with self praise is the objectively worst response possible right? I have a hard time believing any of this when you tackle social confrontation with the grace of an elephant with three legs.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:26 PM
2

at least 30 Late 20s early 30s Believe it or not man, some people would like to see their grandkids regardless of sexual strategy. Besides that, a difference of 3 years or so hardly seems like a staggering difference. And yes, that was exactly what I was asking, and you understood it so there's no need to change. God forbid I use a 3.50$ word. All that said, I get the point. The woman is gone and I won't make the same mistake again. I'm aware that marriage is a suicide mission, and that women ar…
/r/askTRP09/10/18 03:19 PM
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my character value is extremely high Did you drop your mirror, Narcissus?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 03:08 PM
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She's calling you a bit of mess. Your tone makes it sound like you're way out of your league. You should improve your character value, and fast before the world gets another alpha widow who thinks life is no longer worth living.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 02:54 PM
1

Alpha widow in t minus
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 02:49 PM
1

Yeah, maybe. But a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. That's why I'm here. Pretty sure nexting her was the way to go. I felt like I lost a lot of valuable time after some looking back, and that's reason enough.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 05:23 AM
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Yep. I did enjoy the conversation because it made me introspect a bit on a topic I hadn't elaborated on. But yeah, not something I'd do again.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 05:22 AM
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Appreciate the insight, brother. Pretty much what I suspected.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 05:21 AM
1

Yeah, I mean the next was already done. The notion of talking logic being a complete no go is disappointing, I'd like to have a spouse I can speak logically with some day, though that seems increasingly unlikely.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 05:19 AM
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I could not condone this more. If there's anything I learned in the second transformation that trp aided me in, it is that a woman with lukewarm or poor morals is worth little more than making a plate. It is a rare day I meet a young woman who is not consumed by vapid hedonism and a lack of foresight. Cultivate this goodness and you'll become a treasure many men would be elated to find.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 12:58 AM
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Trusting a woman is either a very hard or very dangerous thing for men to do in modern times. Gaining a man's trust in the first place can be a daunting task in and of itself, especially if he has any degree of self awareness. Breaching that trust once it has been(often painstakingly) given is the greatest and deepest fear of any man in a relationship, and in my eyes at least warrants immediate dissolution, even of a marriage. As some have pointed out before, it is impossible for some men to for…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 09:07 PM
1

Sometimes I wonder if people even read the studies they link. You claim to be red pill, so you must accept that men biologically want more and varied partners. With that in mind let's look at this little snippet: 70% of the survey respondents were male Who would have guessed that middle aged white men who get to spin plates would report more fun and exciting lives. Not to mention that they even mention themselves that the demographic is overwhelmingly white middle class, centrist church going me…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 03:01 PM
1

I apologize that activities like sports, music, craftsmanship, helping in my community and intellectual pursuits are objectively less harmful ways to spend my free time than engaging in the most hedonistic pleasure risking disease and degrading my body. I'm well aware you can have run after 40, I plan to do archery and rock climbing well past my prime and teach it to my kids as well. And given that I'm not actively poisoning myself, that's pretty likely. You can make pathological arguments and r…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 01:50 PM
1

Then you might find an alpha guy to do that, and you can both deal with the rest of the poor choices you want to make and be sickly and unfulfilled at 45.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 01:34 PM
1

Believe it or not, any self respecting man is not going to stand watching his wife or girlfriend get railed by someone else, and it's generally not healthy for the children is mommy is doing a line of coke either while she's prrgnant or after they're born. It's also very harmful to them if mommy and daddy leave all the time to go get wasted and have sex in a bathroom(hence the multitude of attachment issues people have). Did I mention drug users and alcoholics have an increased rate of child abu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 01:16 PM
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I believe TRP is an extension of biological facts and optimization. I believe traditional life is also an extension of biological facts and optimization(hence why it has become tradition: it works). That's why you see a lot of that here. I also believe this to be because having your life properly in order keeps you away from hedonistic, nihilistic and mostly harmful activity(i.e ingesting poison, having sex with a multitude of people, and being altogether unconcerned with psychological and physi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 03:40 AM
5

How would you feel if everyone in the world spoke to you as if you were five?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 01:09 AM
2

Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:12 PM
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We're all ostensibly mature here. We don't need the childish euphemisms.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:02 PM
2

I can't really help you there. If you can get any time you talk about what's going on and voice your concerns, that could be a good place to start. If that's not an option, you could always leave but it seems to be a drastic measure at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 09:57 PM
5

I may be able to offer some insight here. My life in the last five months has been about as busy as possible. There are times when I'm working, times when I'm sleeping, and times when I should be working and am not because I need to work out to stay fit and sane(And I browse Reddit while I walk and such if you're wondering where this factors in). Needless to say I haven't a lot of time. If I had a girlfriend, I'd like sex to be on the menu whenever we spent time together(which would probably be …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 09:40 PM
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You're going to get the answer that it's possible(and perhaps even likely if done correctly) on this sub whether it's true or not as it is a necessity for the mindset it cultivates. I wish I could tell you I buy into it wholesale but as it stands I'm just not sure. TRP as a whole is founded on evolutionarily biological truths, and the culmination of women's optimal and developed sexual strategy being innately selfish, as opposed to mens which necessitates self sacrifice doesn't help. This combin…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 05:10 AM
1

Edited in kind.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:10 PM
3

What \u\CalvinRichland said is curt but true. Whether you're failing to curb unwarranted hypergamous instincts or legitimately losing attraction is difficult to tell, but if you're having misgivings about committing to this man don't commit to ruining his life(and those of any kids) in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 07:49 PM
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Society has more often than not been gynocentric simply because women are the limiting(and thereby far more valuable) reagent in continuing the species. It has become intolerably so with the unnecessary "empowerment"(I air quote this as women have always held the power of sexual selection over men, which pervades all aspects of life) and diminishment of men. That being said, I'm right there with you in terms of sentiment towards it. I've long had my fill of dealing with(god forbid attempting to …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:15 AM
2

Straight from my soul.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:08 AM
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The goalposts will remain the same as long as you are single. The difference is that you now have a handicap in the market and on your time. Take care to recover well and maintain your figure after your daughter is born, remain pleasant and composed whilst caring for your child. It's going to be difficult to secure a good man with alpha traits. The thought of raising another man's child is one that bothers any man worth his salt. It will be difficult, but not impossible. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 11:25 PM
6

No. Judeo-Christian religion when not perverted beyond recognition promotes and cultivates traits that raise RMV, but is not a necessity.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 06:34 PM
1

I agree what I said was extreme, hence my apology afterwards. Please keep personal information personal.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:55 AM
4

Leave. You can spend the time you're wasting with him on improving yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 02:13 PM
30

My god these liberal neanderthal cucks are intolerable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 05:14 AM
8

Agreed. Phobia is indicative of an irrational fear. An STD can trash your life, so that fear is in no way irrational.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:40 PM
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I see this as the equivalent of hypergamy and monkey branching but for men. Both genders have a set of biological instincts that are harmful to a stable society. On the sexual axis, this is hypergamy for women and polygamy for men. It takes a certain amount of willpower and discipline to keep these in check and not only maintain a stable society for both children and adults, but also maximize the benefits of humanity's incredibly strong pair bonding abilities. ​ Your man seems to have no intenti…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:15 PM
5

Yeah, I meant to put it there. My browser nearly had an aneurysm. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:14 PM
1

I see this as the equivalent of hypergamy and monkey branching but for men. Both genders have a set of biological instincts that are harmful to a stable society. On the sexual axis, this is hypergamy for women and polygamy for men. It takes a certain amount of willpower and discipline to keep these in check and not only maintain a stable society for both children and adults, but also maximize the benefits of humanity's incredibly strong pair bonding abilities. Your man seems to have no intention…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:59 PM
2

You're almost a good troll.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 02:34 PM
6

I'm not going to apologize for the substance of what I said, however I would like to issue an apology for the manner in which I said it. It's fairly unlike me. I've been under quite a bit of stress lately and this(obviously) hit a soft spot, and while that's no excuse it's not my usual mode of operation. I commend your tempered response to the situation, and I'm glad you've resolved to improve yourself and realized the harm the path you chose is likely to cause for others. As a final request, I'…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 02:26 PM
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This is patently preposterous. ​ You are beyond deluded on what this "phase" is and even if by some infinitesimal chance your recollection and it's implications are completely true, the message it sends is irrefutably destructive. Let's embark on this anger-fueled journey as to why. What makes you think that any of the things of value you learned on this escapade of irresponsibility could not have been learned without giving into your most base instincts and being a complete fuck-off for x amoun…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 04:00 AM
3

There's a lot of criticism of your man here, which I think is the wrong approach. He's likely telling you that you should get in better shape, as well spend some time with him at the gym. He may perceive that he's a higher smv now(subconsciously). Porn may certainly have a negative effect on his sexual attraction, but unless there was a noticeable change in his porn habits it seems unlikely to be the cause.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:01 AM
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See my response to her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 08:20 PM
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You seem to be confusing a few things. There's a difference between being able to care for yourself and refusing to be cared for. You should be able to care for yourself whilst you find a man worth your while, but you should be equally able to defer that provision and care to him whenever appropriate. ​ What you need to work on is not being "high maintenance" but being more passive and humble. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you're someone who talks a lot, perhaps even about themself. T…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 08:20 PM
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Alright well, there's two things I want to address here that I think are part of the issue. I make my own money and don't need a man, I just want one. Why do you feel the need to explicitly mention you don't need a man? You sound like a typical blue piller who's pride comes from the fact that they've needlessly filled a masculine role and are miserable because of it's ramifications. Tons of women can lead unhappy lives without a man, and you certainly sound like one of them here. I mention this …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 06:34 AM
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I'll concede that I should have admitted that the example was a slippery slope. My point was it was used to highlight a fallacious logical step. Unfortunately I have to start my week, I'll look this over later.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 02:38 PM
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There are a few issues with your argument here. First of all, my argument was not a slippery slope because what I was trying to highlight was the fact that he was filling a lack of information with bias. As OP indicated in a response to me, the ratio of women to men in her friend group is 5:1. If a woman has 50 friendly acquaintances and 10 of them happen to be men, is this what we wpuld call an attention whore? Yet for someone who has not ever had male friends this could easily be seen a a mult…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 01:12 PM
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So women who interact with men in any way that is not strictly within the context of a relationship are attention whores? I'm no captain save-a-ho, and I realize this example is extreme but what you put forward is simply an extension of it. It's purely illogical and ignores context in every way possible. You filling in a lack of details with whatever is necessary to reach the worst possible conclusion is not only intellectually dishonest, it's called being a dick.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 10:48 PM
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"You are an attention whore" So it follows that anyone who attracts attention, be it intentionally or otherwise is an attention whore? You don't even know the ratio of men to women that OP is talking about, this judgement is likely made off bias. I know as well as anyone the selfish nature of humanity, especially it's females, but being spiteful is not helpful. There are other places to mask anger as advice.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 10:19 PM
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If there's nothing official then you have no obligation to cut off other men.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 10:12 PM
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The red flag is usually if you have only male friends. This is due to the fact that, as you stated, even the shyest girl can make friends with other women. Since male "friends" are easy to acquire regardless of character, female friends are more a judge of your quality. If you have none, that means they've all identified something wrong with you as a woman, hence the red flag. Now, onto the question at hand. As it stands, you just have lots of friends. If you have equal male friends as female I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 07:58 PM
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"Sex is meaningless to them" This is not quite correct. Sex is very meaningful, perhaps the most meaningful thing in the world. It is an affirmation of our worth and place in the hierarchy of men. It's our droving force. What is meaningless to us is a woman's emotions afterwards. Unless men are made to develop a connection, leaving is as easy as not responding, given we have confidence we'll find another broad to sucker. I'm not saying this is the way it should be, however being reserved and ori…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 06:57 PM
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A necessary sacrifice, but I understand your lamentation.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 01:59 AM
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I don't think it's sad. While the phrasing I used may have been vulgar, it essentially encompasses that the woman's figure/appearance is acceptable for courtship. I purposefully included the words "consistently" and "very much" for the following reasons: Consistently - Men can often feel the urge to bed a woman due to novelty, but this tends not to last past a few instances of desire, and especially after the curiosity being sated. Very much - To cover the cases that a man find a woman just attr…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 11:38 PM
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Basically what I'm saying is that women should be devoted to a man once he's shown he deserves it. I saw the question as what kind of trait a woman should have before entering a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 11:33 PM
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Devotion is something that is earned. Something akin to the propensity to develop devotion would be more accurate. edit: Fixed an autocorrect atrocity.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 05:50 PM
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I'm not married yet, I've got business prospects and a doctorate I'm focusing on first. That said, being 21 I have time. It's hard to narrow it down to a quality that is truly singular. I could say "femininity" or " softness" but each of those is an amalgamation of several traits. If I had to pick one , it would be "kindness" or "empathy" as your ability to care for others translates directly to your ability to care for your man.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 05:05 PM
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Glad to contribute. Thanks for the kind words.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:13 PM
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I can't speak for women, but for men as long as they can look at a potential partner and consistently and honestly say "I would very much like to have sex with that person", then the threshold is just about met.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:12 PM
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And people don't value things that are easy to obtain.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 08:47 PM
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Agreed, if you haven't seen so much as a first date you shouldn't be doling out anything of the sort. It signals that you don't value your body.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 12:15 AM
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You're failing to see this from a male perspective. Men are built tougher than women on average, and it's expected from day 1 that we'll get some dings in bruises. Most of us don't mind, because that is essentially our job biologically speaking. Why would we put up with being harmed, in danger, or working long and grueling hours? Easy, we really like women, especially those who love and support us(emotionally). It's the carrot we will forever chase, and one of the most important things to many o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 02:21 PM
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Seconding everything /u/Flockofpuppies said in addition to this: One of the ways in which I motivate myself is this: Imagine the person you could become in say 5 years if every day you made an effort to improve a little more. Got up early, did a bit more for work, ate a little better. Essentially someone you wish to become. Get to know this image well, this is your goal. Now imagine the person you will be in 5 years is you continue to shirk your duties, sleep in, waste time and neglect improveme…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 11:37 PM
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21M. Been in 2 LTRs, one of 3 years, the other of a year. Typically, I see giving it up early denotes a lack of self worth or dignity. Giving it up before exclusivity is a definite no- no for the above reason. I'd like to say it immediately disqualifies a woman for me, but history shows otherwise. Nonetheless it doesn't reflect well. After exclusivity is established, it's hard to tell. I personally equate it to the male equivalent of saying he loves a woman( which, for me is a way of expressing …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 10:14 PM
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Es hora de empezar de nuevo. ¡Ándale!
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 03:54 PM
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Are you seeing/can you afford to see a professional? Mental illness is(as I'm sure you know) a serious matter that should be looked at by a professional, especially if it's more than run of the mill depression. I made the mistake of underestimating mental illness in my last partner and not pushing her enough/doing enough to getbit under control, and it ended in a breakup. By no means am I saying it spells doom, there were other issues, just be sure you're using all the tools at your disposal.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 03:50 PM
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I have no shame for my gender, nor do I have anthing but pride for my masculinity. It was a tongue in cheek way to both acknowledge that I don't have a perfect grasp of optimal female sexual strategy and poke fun at the brain dead feminists who have infested every corner of western culture. While I can understand why you might be sad, I assure you you should not be. Not in this situation, anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 01:27 AM
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I can tell you how I've been making friends, however the way that men and women socialize is nearly fundamentally different, so you cant just copypasta it. I'll do my best to identify those parts which I think differ. Be helpful/offer help I'm currently finishing up my education in Computer Science. A lot of people struggle in the field; as such, I offer free tutoring to everyone in my classes. Furthermore, whenever someone indicates a situation where I could reasonably be of use I offer to help…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 05:06 PM
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Ha, it's as if you've looked into the core of my being. Yes, all I(and most) men have ever wanted to be is a hero. The hero warrior king, accomplished and revered. Indeed, the fire that engulfs my being is the dream of becoming the honorable warrior, the stoic leader, and finding a woman worth the effort that I have and will put forth. I would even be so pompous as to say that this fire is the epitome of masculinity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 01:23 PM
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If you're on a date with a man there's typically varying(and not necessarily conflicting) amounts of "I want to fuck this woman now" and "I enjoy this person and would like to spend more time around them". The former is always present assuming they're actually interested. When you have the former without the latter you've got the pump and dumpers, and when you have a sufficient amount of the latter you've got the men seeking or open to an LTR. The pump and dumpers will be forward with you regard…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 12:44 AM
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Let me stop you right there. I'm not going to assert that I'm the perfect guy, nor that a guy like me is necessarily what you're looking for, but I am looking for a fufilling LTR and only that. While there has to be a sign of attraction, I would expect nothing sexual before commitment was established or nearly so at the very least. I want a woman who treats herself with some dignity, and giving it up on the second date is often indicative to me that you do not value your body/dignity. If you don…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 02:14 PM
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People are often afraid to leave even terrible relationships due to emotional pressures and consequences. Duration != quality. See: Sunk cost fallacy, relationships with physical and verbal abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 01:42 PM
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I see, thanks for the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 05:39 PM
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How was that pre-marriage? I'm also religious but I have a hard time even convincing myself to attempt to wait until marriage. Did your husband ever voice concerns or frustation over it? Edit: Also, how long were you together before marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 04:42 PM
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Perhaps not complaints directly to women, but in my search for a satisfying LTR I've dropped more than a handful of women because they were so dry. Perhaps "hobbies" are not the root of it and more a symptom. Interesting people tend to have some hobbies they care about. Indeed, it is likely that them caring about something that is not utterly mundane contributes to them being interesting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 04:37 PM
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Western culture as a whole is very attached to the idea of egalitarianism. On a surface level your proposal seems to infringe upon that, but specializing education to be more accurate and efficient is hardly an affront on that end after a bit of analysis. The idea that two groups can be roughly equal but not identical is one that is still in it's infancy, slowly being cultivated in communities such as this one.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 04:46 PM
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I'm glad men are being acknowledged without ruining the inherently female nature of the sub. It's certainly a difficult balance to keep, but there are a considerable few of us lurking about, and I appreciate the effort. Good work ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 05:50 PM
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I don't know what idiot told you colored women are somehow lower value, but that's an asinine, demonstrably false belief. Work on yourself, if you are or become attractive you'll be attractive irrespective of your ethnicity.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 09:17 PM
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I'm glad I could help. It's funny, a fair few men actually browse this sub, and I think I know one of the reasons why. While it is interesting to get insight into the workings of the female mind, the sub promotes what I think is a healthy, positive version of relationships within TRP which the main sub fails to do. I suppose it will stay that way till there's something analogous to a r/TRPButNotAngryAboutIt community.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 12:55 AM
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I know you asked for a woman, but as someone who's been through the process, I think I have some good information to impart. First thing to realize is that swallowing the red pill is a really tough experience for guys. We're essentially being told that we have to bust our asses to get any kind of mate, let alone a good one, and even then there's a chance that hypergamy will hand us a nice "fuck you". Coming to this from a left leaning feel good "just be you" culture is a pretty big shock. Becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 12:23 AM
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It sounds like a prudent move. Whether social media, even less controlling ones like reddit, are a net good is still something I'm very dubious of. Your mindset seems healthy, and it certainly is grating to deal with some of the...less palatable people. As for any youtube suggestions, Jordan Peterson, Entrepreneurs in cars, Blonde in the Belly of the Beast, Lauren Southern and the like are all one's I'd reccomend. My only advice would be to cultivate a group of friends who are not completely lik…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 11:47 PM
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It may not be entirely unwarranted. Op will likely have to take the mother's role and it doesn't seem like she's up to that. It is also fairly ridiculous for an adult of that age to be exhibiting behaviour you'd expect of an elementary school child.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 02:33 AM
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Reading stories like these really warms my cold, dead heart. You can apply this strategy to more than just food though, something to keep in mind as your relationship progresses. Best of luck, and congratulations.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 09:59 PM
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As a side note, swearing is seen as really aggressive and unattractive to men. I understand this is a recent thing but if swearing is the MO I'd work on that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 12:21 AM
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I think it's important to remember your boyfriend is not his culture, if that makes sense. His taste is his own, and I'm probably in a similar situation as him. I come from a Latino background where the ideal is medium height with extreme curves, but my preferred type is shorter and generally small framed. Your boyfriend finds you attractive, so long as you mantain yourself, you're fine there. Now, family may be a different issue depending on how traditional they are. My family is a bit disappoi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 06:21 PM
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I've always been a fan of a saying I once heard: "There are no boring lives, just bad orators." We often witness stories who's premise is mundane, yet the story itself is captivating. Conversely there are plenty of tales with granduer abounding yet are stale and dry. This is due to the fact that stories are less about the actual content and more about the emotions infused in them. With this in mind, you can make the most mundane recountings of your life be at least tolerable with expressive, emo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 08:41 AM
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I think its apparent that you were involved with a pretty low caliber man, but the mentality I don't think was entirely addressed. Say you do actually encounter a legitimately high quality man, and lose him later. Due to the ease of communication in the modern world, it is a physical impossibility that you will not find someone of similar or better caliber. There is no such thing as "the one" or a "soulmate". We pair bond with people and that is enriching but painful when it fails. While it is w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:18 PM
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Mm, that's a good sign then. Enough for me to retract a bit of the negative connotation my initial post had. It makes me believe it's more of the latter issue, which is much more manageable. Either way, as long as the issue has been brought up and is addressed with a calm mind the issue should be manageable. You may want to sit down and dissect the issue at length with him to find out the details. Introspection always helps with these matters. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 06:11 PM
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Perhaps "interest" is not the best way to phrase, but perhaps care or something long those lines. I'm not saying he doesn't, just perhaps not enough to be an ideal partner. Good sex early on is indicative of good communication and sexual compatibility. They've been together for less than a year, so the health of their sex life has not been observed long enough to be very significant. On the contrary, if you are interested/care about in anything, you will take time to learn about it. This applies…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 05:25 PM
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Tl;dr: He either doesn't care much or is a narcissist. As calmly for him to change a bit and keep an eye on things. It's a bit difficult to judge this situation, given that you've been together for less than a year and we're relegated toba snapshot by which to estimate. The way I see it there are a few possible situations: A. He's not that interested in you. I personally find this unlikely as he was willing to admit that he was being self centered. However the notion that he likes to make you ha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 03:03 PM
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Tl;dr: Be patient, utilize active listening, but realize that you cannot force someone to change. I think there's a bit of a middle ground between what I've seen here so far that you want to be in. I think your issue was patience. People do not change quickly; in most situations serious problems take a lot of time to be resolved. It's important to be empathetic of the individual's situation and suppress the desire to become irritated( usually). One method for being effective in addressing emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 02:43 PM
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Of course. I think you've got the right frame of mind so with good intention, effort and some analysis I'll sure things will be splendid. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 03:53 PM
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tl;dr: you should bring up these issues, but be sweet and understanding about it. I think there is a good frame of mind here, but I find a bit of an issue in it if the examples you gave reflect the norm. You're not communicating with him at all. You're addressing them on your own and that's fine to an extent, but the reason the C/FM dynamic works so well is because while yes, captain had final say, the first mate is his eyes and ears as well as his advisor, and a lot of communication is key. You…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 02:36 PM
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There's a lot of sweeping absolutes in this post that ought to be corrected. First of all, men and women are the same in intellect and other important factors on average, however males are much more diverse(more big winners and losers). How you judge "superiority" is highly subjective, but even that can be curbed by observing male variance. Sure, there are likely to be very few or no female Einsteins, but there are also few or no female Hitlers and wastrels. In this same vain(as someone already …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 08:49 PM
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What rule was broken exactly?
/r/TheRedPill09/09/17 08:55 AM
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Perhaps the issue is with your own confidence. The world is shitty, yeah, but if all you're going to do is complain about it rather than modify and improve yourself to be able to better handle it, perhaps you deserve what you have.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/17 10:59 PM
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