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Wookster789/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:09 AM
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Thank you for this... Hmmm...she moved out a month ago...and has been limited contact since. Throughout the divorce, and I'm learning likely before, she is very two faced...so it can be hard to get the real her. But, I believe she has definitely changed to be more kind towards me. So, yes, in a way she has gone back to her old self. She is going through perimenopause and I'm also finding out the real her (she is controlling, narcissistic, selfish, manipulative) so it is a bit hard to come up wit…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 02:07 PM
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Don't let the highs be too high or the lows too low...it is a marathon. Best of luck!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 08:55 PM
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Projection is the calling card of the inferior minded. Stay strong, OP! Focus on the process, not the person. Document rules in court, the rest is hearsay.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 03:08 PM
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Oh man, yup...it is shocking how greedy they can be. My x has not spent a single penny of her own money on the kids since before Jan1 this year...our separation started Jan 3, 2026 and she makes about $1200/mo....not a penny to any joint bills...even though she used to put her whole paycheck into the joint funds the last 4yrs. She says her lawyer told her to do that...we are telling the court she said that, texts to back it up. And she wants 60% of my monthly take hole for the next 8yrs...WUT I'…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:39 PM
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Yup, I did it for 17yrs... anything to make her happy. I'm so nervous in this divorce as she is asking for all kinds of crazy things...and I'm so conditioned to always cave so I'm worried she will get everything she wants...but I'm learning to stand up for me and especially the kids. I fully agree...I want my ex to rise to the occasion and be a great coparent for the kids...they need it. Hang in there OP and keep reaching out, if I can help, just let me know :)
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:31 PM
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That is so wild about the personality changes. My ex was always full of herself but kept it under wraps mostly...will see how this goes, her being off it. Also, she always was super hangry and a bitch when underfed...these might take away the hunger urge but not the hangry part, I wonder 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:29 PM
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Thanks, you too ☺️ I sure hope things work out well for you and your kids!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:26 PM
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Gator arms? Has her personality changed after being off the GLP-1s? Less feeling like God?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:21 PM
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Wow OP, your post and the other comment...has me thinking more and more about my STBXW being this way. Things were not perfect but they were tolerable and ok enough...about 2yrs ago...she said she wanted to go on the GLP-1 meds to lose weight. I said, "I'm not your boss...my opinion, if u get one, is to wait for Gen 2. Soooo many folks want this, the manufacturers might rush to market before we know all the side effects." Well, her controlling behavior, rudeness, and selfishness has skyrocketed …
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 02:19 PM
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IMHO, have that family go directly to where you want it...I would not deposit it into any of your accounts. I would pay mortgage only if you are close to being done or if that $40k is part of a refinance as just paying $40k down on the principal should not change your monthly payment. Also, if you have a low interest rate on your mortgage...like less than say 4.5%, I would pay that money elsewhere. You can put it into a PayPal account...that can be used to pay people (labor on house,etc) or for …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 04:20 AM
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People change a lot over time Yup, for better or worse.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 07:36 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about this state in your life. It is awful and a death of a family and a dream. You, like myself, have to clean up the wreckage of your past. Do all the things to get it cleared that the today you is the best you.... sobriety, no gambling, you are dedicated to your kids, etc. In my limited experience, this is what will help you the most in getting the most custody with your children...50/50. Best of luck and keep reaching out! You are not alone :)
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:52 AM
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Look back but don't stare. #rearviewmirror
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 10:02 PM
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IMHO, document the significant things...like cops, drunk driving with kids, etc. The rest won't matter much, I'm told. I'm sorry you are dealing with this, I can imagine how difficult it is. If you can, spend any energy going into the emotional reactions to this into loving your kids :)
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:53 PM
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We use the Buy Nothing group on Facebook. But, that takes as much time as selling it.... unless...you do a free garage sale type post. Best of luck to y'all and congratulations on the new life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:49 PM
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You survived. That might be enough to think about for today. You can deal with tomorrow, then. You might dwell on why you chose this path...your child. Putting your motivation, energy, and care into that reason...might help you with the healing. Keep reaching out!! There is a life waiting for you better than you can possibly imagine. It just arrived :)
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 03:08 PM
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Thank you for this. My mom worked at CPS in this county for almost 20yrs...she has been an Angel in this. Document, document, document.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:31 AM
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Her going to a free house that her fam is giving her free use of after they renovated it. Spousal support is a need, not a want. We ain't rich. So I'm told.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:30 AM
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The cash from the family is a loan against my inheritance. Fully their choice and they are not put out by it. I was very leery to take it but they assured me.... everyone in the family supports it. So, to me, it is really nothing out of my pocket. She is fully against spending any money on anything except herself. She says gettysb apartment...even when Ihad offered to buy her an apartment for 6yrs nearby...she called it pissing her money away. There is no way I'm not fighting this and getting an…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:29 AM
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WOW. THANK YOU! I sure hope someone said that to you at this time for you. I will happily live in a garbage can and eat scraps if I knew my kids will get through this just fine... HAPPILY!! Just don't tell my ex. I'm hopeful, sorta, that this will end...and life for the kids will get stable and boring again...that is all I really want.... settlement, etc...is just the mechanism to get there. This shit takes a while! Kinda like when you start having kids...we birthing a new family setup!
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:43 AM
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I agree...I'm very new to this arena...but I have heard exactly as you have said from well experienced folks. She is hurting...needs/wants CASH...and has been wanting to have polite conversations about a settlement. That is new. I filed first, shortly before her...but she served me first as my server got delayed. So, we are going with her filing. We both still co-habitate. The June hearing is asking court to have her move out. I have no way to pay for the fam house, my own rent, and child suppor…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:31 AM
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She has a clear pattern of behavior where she prioritizes her social life over the kids. She will do play dates with them, take them to fun stuff (rarely) but only with another mom n her kids present. In 4yrs, she has done exactly 2 outings just her and them alone...for their benefit. Her emotional instability rules...logic is non-existent. Very interesting point on that decision making part. I have a spreadsheet tracking every day since separation...all activities, texts, videos, etc. She wants…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 03:22 AM
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