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Frequently encountered situation (even in case of immigrant families with no divorce). Most women and kids will not want to leave the US (especially if they are Indian/Asian). Most men don't have a choice as they are invested and accept the new reality. In your case, if you don't have 100% custody, this is out of question. There are several other questions to be answered: Do you have enough support system back in your home country to raise your kids (not just money)? Do you have financial freedo…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 12:04 AM
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Thanks! have posted it there too!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 02:45 AM
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The bank has connected her with a lawyer for real estate purposes and he has indicated that the money from the private lender and the bank has to go to a trust account first. Also, wants to review the separation agreement and have IDs submitted for the kids, etc. It seems to me that those would be out of his purview and he should stick to real estate docs. Was hoping someone in this forum may have already been through this experience and can provide some insight into the step by step process of …
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 11:20 PM
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Thanks for the response but we need to be separated for one year before becoming eligible for divorce in this province. Also, I am in no rush to get divorced as there is no question of getting married again in this lifetime!
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 11:15 PM
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Missed mentioning this is in the province of ontario, canada
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 09:44 PM
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You sound needy and it is a big turn off for women in general.....You need to focus on improving yourself first. Lose weight, improve your career/financial situation and rest will fall in place on its own. If you don't have anything to offer, no woman is going to fall for you let alone your ex.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 10:34 PM
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Congratulations! I'd say don't rush into any other relationship immediately. Take the time to heal and spoil yourself with all the things you've been deprived of. You are still young - give yourself one year to be free of any relationship before you start dating again. Your vacation spot depends on what you like doing...There are many suggestions including beaches, mountains, third world countries for sex, etc. If you don't know what you like doing on a vacation, start sampling and find the answ…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 10:28 PM
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If your problem statement is that you are not getting sex, there are options to fulfill that need. In some ways, it is an easy fix (unless you are expecting emotional connection along with it, then it is a different story). Sounds like your kids are adults - it is time you "closed" your wallet for them so they can manage themselves or learn how to. Starting over and hoping to find someone at any age let alone 60+ is a gamble....Younger women may want your house/assets and the security that it ca…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 10:09 PM
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God helps those who help themselves! Don't know why you say your daughter is suffering...If she is being abused, you need to ACT NOW and do everything in your control to address / report/ remediate....You cannot stop the child from being brainwashed by the wife.....If you have proof/evidence for your wife having cheated, you could try for a 50-50 custody...At least insist on regular visitation and make genuine attempts to keep the communication/relationship alive with your daughter...Not doing s…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 09:53 PM
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This is probably going to sound blunt but did you think about the silver lining? She's gone from your life...There are so many men out there who are fighting so hard to get rid of the wife! If there is no reciprocation, it is not a healthy relationship - it probably never was...You are better off! Take the time to grieve for however long you need....and then move on...Cannot avoid the pain if you were emotionally invested...Some say it goes away...I say it only fades away but never completely go…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 09:47 PM
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Sounds like you are dealing with someone who exhibits symptoms of a Narcissist. No empathy, making you walk on eggshells, isolating/devaluing you in your own house, lots of power play & control. Don't know why you are taking notes because parental alienation is so hard to prove in court. I'd like to think you should focus on controlling your emotions/actions and move on in life. Children are needy/survivors - will come to you if/when you are needed. Begging them for love ain't gonna happen. Look…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 09:42 PM
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SO long as you show that "YOU CARE" - she will not change her ways. Why must she? You are doing everything anyways....With a Narc, you need to be prepared to go all the way....Stop paying the bills and let is all go to shit. You need to be willing to lose in order to level the field. You are not trapped by her - she is just making it look that way. You are trapped by your own "attachment". You need to be prepared to DETACH from EVERYTHING including kids. It may sound cold/impractical. If you can…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 02:58 AM
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Don't have any hard evidence and I understand this is hard to prove in a court. Not looking to prove Parental Alienation or Narcissism or anything else. Just want to get a divorce and move on with the rest of my life...She does not want to let me go; is not willing for mutual consent. I do not want to continue to allow her to control my life and keep abusing me emotionally.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 02:41 AM
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Lived with one for over 20 yrs - just hired a lawyer to proceed with divorce; parental alientation was the last straw that made me decide finally. From my experience, it never gets better - we just keep giving until there is nothing more left for them to take other than your life. They say anyone can change but a narc won't change. A true Narcissist will never change.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:03 PM
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Lawyers don't appear to either have the awareness or the appetite to fight a narcissist. Hearing standard responses that the system is screwed up and that it is really up to the judge for the most part. Feel like I will end hiring/paying just for the paperwork to be processed and be at the mercy of the judge and my STBX. For example - I am told there is no point in fighting for 50/50 custody as women almost always win the custody battle. I am also told I may not get 50% if she is able to convinc…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:38 AM
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I've been in a similar situation - it is even worse because parental alienation has been fully accomplished by my wife - my kids don't talk to me anymore. I live in the same house like a known stranger . Trying hard to stand my ground and not move out unless forced to.....Hired a lawyer and arranged for friend to bail me out incase the standard playbook kicks in.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:32 AM
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Sounds like you got married to a narcissist. Cut your losses and get out while you still can.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 10:40 PM
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Have 2 kids - elder one is an adult (3rd year university), younger one is in school - neither of them did anything. My STBX would have been the happiest. It's a degenerative age and I don't see anything changing/improving anytime soon.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 10:26 PM
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