| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 215 | Men have no options. | Debate | Worldly-Box6080 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:37 PM |
| 95 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier. | Debate | Worldly-Box6080 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Vibes vs Planning: Which type of dating is better? | Discussion | Worldly-Box6080 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 07:21 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 12 | Men think women “have it easy” on dating apps. Let’s run a thought experiment.Is this meant to be some Gotcha? Men would like up in droves to experience the “problems” you’ve outlined for even 5 minutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 04:30 PM |
| 7 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outThis gave me a good laugh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 09:48 PM |
| – | Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in datingDepends what country/city you live in. My guess is you're in the west | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 12:06 PM |
| 29 | This sub’s idea of the “average man” is way off from the general population.We really gotta stop with this “I know a guy” standpoint being the basis of our points | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 02:26 PM |
| 0 | Is being a "passportbros" really a bad thing?This. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 05:54 PM |
| 5 | Is being a "passportbros" really a bad thing?They want you to try and struggle under their umbrella where they have the leverage and control (western countries). Meeting women from other cultures and countries can expose the fools errand that is dealing with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 08:03 AM |
| 3 | Performative males are more attractive to women, at the expense of their own dignityI don’t think that’s what OP is saying. I’m a left-leaning guy who enjoys perhaps more feminine hobbies too. But It’s the men who do it to pander to what they think women will approve of which is what I agree with OP about. Women usually reward these men socially, not by dating them necessarily, but by metaphorically patting them on the head, which is the sensation these men are seeking. Some may do it because they truly in their hearts believe in what they’re saying/doing. But I believe many do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 02:13 AM |
| 4 | Performative males are more attractive to women, at the expense of their own dignityA decent person? That’s just code for someone who's decent for you. In this case, it’s at the expense of themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 01:15 AM |
| 3 | If society continues to act silly when it comes to gender dynamics between men and women. Then online dating apps should be the only valid place to form relationships.I agree with you, however the problem is those who you describe probably make up the majority in the type of settings I’m in (even geographically too). I suppose it comes with the territory of being in predominantly liberal and feminist spaces. Gen Z women in particular do a great job of making approaches feel like you’re in a minefield. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 11:35 PM |
| 1 | If society continues to act silly when it comes to gender dynamics between men and women. Then online dating apps should be the only valid place to form relationships.As I said I think this is more prevalent with younger women which is only the spaces I’m in. Gen Z women are colder to their male peers than millennial women and older from my experiences. University women in particular also self select for more left leaning, feminist women who tend to not be a fan of us in spaces they perceive as theirs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 10:58 PM |
| 9 | If society continues to act silly when it comes to gender dynamics between men and women. Then online dating apps should be the only valid place to form relationships.Maybe this is more of a Gen Z thing. But as a university student, what OP says seems to match. When you’re at the yoga club, salsa club, or any club where the ratio of women is in your favour, they are more standoffish to the few men there (unless you’re exceptionally attractive). They push out a “you’re only here to try something on us.” energy in the air that OP describes. Meaning you have to play the long game for any romantic interests. I’m envious of the older generation like millennials, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 09:50 AM |
| 1 | We're headed toward rich get richer in the dating market aka PolygynyEm dash detected, opinion rejected | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 01:49 AM |
| 5 | Female double standards regarding insecurityI’m a more progressive leaning guy who was for dismantling stereotypes like gender roles etc. but what I’ve found is that my equally progressive female peers are still enforcing those gender roles for us in the dating market. I eventually realised is that women were talking mainly about dismantling gender norms for them. Us guys have been kicked to the curb in our quest for a more inclusive society, so in a way I don’t blame these red pillers for going rogue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 01:21 AM |
| 5 | Men aren't good enough as they areThis gotta be ragebait, don’t fall for it folks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Why are the good men so opposed to marriage recently?That’s because there ain’t one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 04:50 PM |
| – | Vibes vs Planning: Which type of dating is better?So cold approaching is the highest ROI activity for mere mortals like us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 12:17 AM |
| – | Vibes vs Planning: Which type of dating is better?Very true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier.Very true, I suppose if I was born earlier, I’d just have something else to point to. Thank you for sharing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier.Precisely what I have observed anecdotally too with my older siblings. I’m quite envious of this era and I truly wish I was born in the late 80s/90s. Perfect blend of enjoying a strong level of technological advancements, good education (not riddled with AI), and a great social/dating life for many. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:03 PM |
| -1 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier.The data you have shown doesn’t contradict concerns about Gen Z male loneliness and social isolation. It shows a modest, recent uptick in one narrow measure of partnership directly after a global pandemic where people had to cohabitate. All of which is now occurring in the context of eroded social support systems. There are other points such as the countless other trend lines and figures going the opposite direction, both quantitative and qualitative I could go into more detail on that paint a f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 11:23 AM |
| 5 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier.In the west, young people are now drinking much less frequently than prior generations, including in countries that traditionally had a strong drinking culture such as the UK. Killing a direct social lubricant that facilitated many relationships being sparked. Secondly, people are now socialising in the context of online dating existing. “Who cares about that average looking guy at the book club when I have 100+ better looking men begging to meet me in my pocket.” Thirdly, we now exist in a soci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 12:15 AM |
| 4 | Female Sexuality: The Power Nobody Wants to Admit Exists (Until It Stops Working)ChatGPT generated slop | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 11:32 PM |
| – | Most people here think strategically bout what it's just normal for the average personHow on earth does thinking about your dating life strategically imply autism or inceldom? That is such reductive thinking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 09:08 AM |
| – | Most people here think strategically bout what it's just normal for the average personHonestly. I was reading this and thought he’s attributing his “expertise” to his undiagnosed ADHD and natural extroversion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 09:00 AM |
| 21 | Befriending women will not make a differenceOP never mentioned himself having negative feelings, he just believes that if one already does, then being friends and getting to know women isn’t going to be an antidote for it. It’ll likely make it worse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today.This is also very true. Feminism has been the worst of the bunch, but the right wing will collectively weaponise all of these initiatives under one umbrella. It’s an “us vs them” sentiment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today.Are you part of Gen z? That’s all we ever do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 08:43 PM |
| 6 | Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today.Yeah for sure. But I think they’re just pushing the knife further in, as opposed to inflicting the knife wound to begin with. These initially positive movements like feminism, BLM and DEI went a too overboard in their quest for equality. And the anti-variants of those movements are gaining traction because of that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:54 PM |
| 4 | Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today.There are economic factors at play, but unfortunately you’re right. I believe we need to win back young men to see the left take a better hold once more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:33 PM |
| 13 | Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today.I do think the left would certainly have more of a stronger position if the dating landscape was healthier. The two genders being at war with one another is something the right has, and will continue to, leverage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:30 PM |
| 6 | Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceableThey have met each other 5 times, so common sense tells me the 6th one was in the pipeline for both of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/25 08:33 AM |
| 3 | Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceableRead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/25 08:32 AM |
| 0 | Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceableThis is such a warped view to have. A man being busy is not rejecting you. It means he’s snowed in and will get to you as soon as his work pressure is alleviated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 07:58 PM |
| 42 | Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceableShe got “rejected” because he was busy (good reason). He got rejected because he’s replaceable and a cheap commodity (not a good reason). That’s his point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 07:43 PM |
| – | Men have no options.I’ve checked and the advice is you’ve given others here is wish-washy egalitarianism. It gets a D grade from me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:58 AM |
| – | Men have no options.Exactly this. People are telling men here to just suck it up and take over 9000 rejections across all available pathways. Negative feedback loop is real unless you’re autistic asf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:34 AM |
| – | Men have no options.I don’t even think she lied tbh I think she said something to the effect of “that man came up to me and made me feel really uncomfortable today.“ Instead of probing further, the owner just went along with it and banned him. I think she was firmly in the camp of “don’t bother women when they’re out doing X” you see sometimes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:32 AM |
| – | Men have no options.This is also very true. I think millennial males and older are extremely fortunate they grew up in times where they had adequate social lubricants and are now pasting the same solutions that worked for them. Not realising the landscape for younger men and women has changed completely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 10:07 AM |
| – | Men have no options.Introverted females don’t. They can afford to be passive and let men approach them nowadays. Infact for any young woman now, even if they don’t want male attention, they are guaranteed to encounter it due to the oversupply of single men around. From their, they can take their pick of the litter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 02:53 AM |
| – | Men have no options.Yeah everyone here’s giving a big middle finger to introverted males. “Just expand your social circle to 10,000 people bro” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:04 PM |
| – | Men have no options.You’re so right about everything here. Thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:34 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Damn why ain’t I think of that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:26 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Most women are in relationships and having sex* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:25 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Very good advice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:18 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Actually good, actionable advice - thank you. Sounds like something that will take a considerably long windup, especially with the gender ratio for my hobbies looking tragic. But you are right, maximising odds is all you can do. Even if year by year those odds are diminishing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:16 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Well go on, Spill your fountain of wisdom so we can learn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Men have no options.Perfect timing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:57 PM |
| 0 | Men have no options.Eastern Europe is a really nice place to socialise and date I hear. Much better than Western Europe in comparison | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Men have no options.You know what, now that I think about it, that’s actually a great option tbf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Men have no options.Nice one man. Hope it’s 11 soon 🔜 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Men have no options.How many do u think before we call it quits? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:40 PM |
| 11 | Men have no options.Help us out here then. Open my mind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Men have no options.I don’t disagree - I echoed a similar sentiment to him too. I gave a more extreme example to make a general point that the social lubricant that helped facilitate relationship finding in previous years is running more dry as each year goes by. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Men have no options.Good advice. A numbers game really | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Men have no options.When did you meet your wife? I think social landscape at the time of meeting matters. For example, I’m Gen Z, but I believe millennials and above had it easier in this aspect of coupling up with less social stigmas and more social lubricants to facilitate that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:21 PM |
| 9 | Men have no options.I hear you bro, I’m career coping now too. Sounds like we’re in the typical passport bro pipeline (something I’d heavily like to avoid if possible) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:10 PM |
| 24 | Men have no options.A couple of months ago a friend of mine cold approached a girl he found cute at the coffee shop in the most respectful way. She politely declined and he went about his day. He returns a few days later to find out he’d been banned because she reported him for making her uncomfortable. Thankfully he managed to argue himself out of it. I guess my point here is social stigma isn’t just limited to Reddit weirdos. Even those nearby were also giving him odd stares. I agree with just doing it anyways bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Society is unintentionally creating more and more angsty single menAgreed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:25 PM |
| -1 | Society is unintentionally creating more and more angsty single menA significant portion of the women trump voters were older (40+). And my theory is that these are the mothers of some of the lonely young men and are watching their boys struggle. Again I don’t think Gen Z men voted for him because they thought he’d solve their problems, I think they just wanted to get back at the people they feel abandoned and betrayed by. When Musk and Trump started pushing their “ban DEI” crap, that actually jolted the big companies in my country all the way around the world … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:04 PM |
| 26 | Society is unintentionally creating more and more angsty single menI disagree. I believe the internet is just mirroring back issues within society (and magnifying them to an extent) instead of causing them directly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 07:39 PM |
| 5 | Society is unintentionally creating more and more angsty single menI’m no trump supporter, but i definitely understand why some men “revenge-voted” for him and women’s general apathy to their male peers issues is a big reason. Trump used this newly disgruntled cohort to win and is now dismantling everything you guys worked hard to put in place over the last 15 years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 07:32 PM |
| 5 | Society is unintentionally creating more and more angsty single menwhat are these men supposed to do when every pathway they have gets shut down? I believe you’re a woman, so id like you to imagine you were invisible to every single male you come across both online and in person For years on end. I truly believe this sort of “stop moaning and get on with it” attitude towards single men is the reason why Trump won and why conservatives are slowly taking over. Women, please be more understanding for these men because these are the same people we need to win back … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 07:17 PM |
| – | Women not granting men sexual access is not a “mens issue”False equivalence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceI can’t access the tables on my device to run the filters myself just yet so will play around with it when I can. I’d be interested in taking that info and split this by gender. This is because young women coupling up at a higher rate isn’t new, it has been mentioned frequently over the last two years that most young women are not single, but most young men are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceSpot on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceI don’t think most men nowadays have the optionality for this to work, both in person and online. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 09:02 PM |
| -1 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceThe data you cite is likely for older demographics. This issue of high standards is most rampant among younger cohorts of women, especially Gen Z. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 08:56 PM |
| 15 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceBrother, this is NOT an online exclusive problem. Go to any singles event and you will see the exact same dynamic play out. Even when there’s a surplus of women at the event, they will give attention to about 30% of the dudes available and the remaining 70% are left standing there holding a drink in their hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 08:46 PM |
| 11 | Dating got easier not harder as people are making it out to be.This has to be rage bait because there ain’t no way 💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 05:44 PM |
| 11 | Women have sexual needs just as much as men do if not more soChrist almighty look at yourselves 💀 Arguing about who whacks off more often and longer sort it out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 07:38 PM |
| -1 | Single mothers symbolize something deeply painful to a lot of menQuestion: why exactly is that an issue? Hatred towards single mothers is clearly awful and misplaced and needs therapy. but I want to know why contextualising her choices leading up to the child is a bad thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 04:43 PM |
| 2 | What going to happen to the dating scene in 10 to 20 years?I assume you’re a millennial? You haven’t lived through the issues young men are facing right now. Even five years ago, the dating landscape was healthier, it has gotten progressively worse over the last few years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Both genders would be happier if women did the approachingWell that’s not happening though is it. Because currently, only one gender is burdened with doing the approaching whilst the other simultaneously demonises the approaching, labelling it as bothersome and annoying, and at the same time complains that they don’t get approached enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 06:42 PM |
| 5 | Both genders would be happier if women did the approachingBumble literally tried this by being the first dating app that forced women to make the first move and in 2024 they had to remove the feature because women found it too much work to initiate a TEXT conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 06:38 PM |
| 8 | What going to happen to the dating scene in 10 to 20 years?This sentient AGI concern would only be an issue in around 100+ years from now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 11:10 PM |
| 10 | What going to happen to the dating scene in 10 to 20 years?I think you’re right. I am less optimistic on that equilibrium being reached any time soon simply after observing how the genders have adapted (mainly Gen Z’ers) in recent years to this issue and it has only made the problem worse. I personally think this will only get worse, I’m just not sure on all of the consequences outside conservatives having stronger hold on the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 10:08 PM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter