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| 1 | CMV: "meeting women IRL" doesn’t magically bypass women’s standards in 2026 and people should stop acting like it doesYou got a lifetime ban from a bar for hitting on someone? Is the human race making an effort to go extinct? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/26 04:16 PM |
| 0 | CMV: "meeting women IRL" doesn’t magically bypass women’s standards in 2026 and people should stop acting like it doesThe 'singles event' is filtering you out for exactly the same reason as the app. There's a trillion dudes out there who have the confidence to approach when the pressure is off and they've been given Society's Official Permission. When you're the one person willing to go through the infamous "the worst she can say is no" crucible, *that's* what makes a difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Men want women to settle for themNow that we've grown used to "lol idc what this debate trope I just pulled implies for the rest of my world view", the internet bravely sets the bar lower at "lol idc what this debate trope I just pulled implies for the next sentence I am about to write". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Men need to stop chasing women.By this exact same argument people need to stop applying for jobs. In the real world this kind of sentiment doesn't solve one problem for one person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Dating apps show men want women more than women want menWrite "A relationship is a give and take -- if you put in 60% and expect me to put in 120% that's not my thing" in your bio. See how many matches you still get. I'm rooting for you! Go prove yourself wrong and be happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 02:52 AM |
| 54 | Straight women wanting masculine men isn't any more "hypergamous" than straight men wanting feminine womenIn my personal opinion this entire "how dare people have the preferences that they have" discourse is insane. If all women decided tomorrow that from now on they only date red haired men, that's their prerogative. At most we can say "look... honestly this may not be in your best interest, after all there are only so many red haired men to go around" but that never seems to be the flavor of the criticism, somehow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 10:51 PM |
| 3 | People who are unsuccessful at dating should learn to accept it, and be mature enough to not wrongly blame anybody but themselvesI disagree with your conclusion but I sympathize with your argument a lot. "Well do we have this moral principle or don't we". I feel like I mutter this to myself 9 times a week. This must be immensely unsatisfying to read, but what society has in practice is a messy cacophony of values and principles, and the system we have is a giant compromise. Of course if I leave it at that I allow infinite hypocrisy, so all I can say is that a lot of people, probably most people, have an intuition that for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 04:18 PM |
| 3 | People who are unsuccessful at dating should learn to accept it, and be mature enough to not wrongly blame anybody but themselvesLibertarians don’t really have their own holiday. Communists have May Day. The woke have MLK’s birthday. Nationalists have July 4th or their local equivalent. But libertarians have nothing. I propose Valentine’s Day. The way people think about love is the last relic of the way that libertarians think about everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 03:59 PM |
| – | CMV: Western women choose to demonize masculinity due to past personal traumas with mendouble lol at the "CMV" in the title. Yeah you sound like you're going to change your view right quick. Just the right argument will do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 03:44 PM |
| 11 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting.The village idiot who says "I'm gonna open a restaurant and have my cousin deal with the numbers, it's not much but it's honest work" is admirable. The village idiot who says "hey how come I don't get to step on the podium to accept my Phd" is out of his lane, and an object of ridicule. This is how it works, it's how it has always worked. Last decade has been full of performative "you're perfect just the way you are, you deserve the world" discourse that has confused some people into believing a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:09 PM |
| 25 | Women tend to greatly underplay the validity of men's worries about being seen as a creep.I'll be honest, I can't follow this many stacks of "it's unfair that women say it's unfair that men say it's unfair that women say...". At that point the discussion is 100% grievance and 0% substance. I can't find a single concrete feature in this hall of mirrors for me to express an actual opinion on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 05:06 PM |
| 4 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.If you think that it's not worth for you to have female friends - don't. What does it has to do with anyone else? For the record I think OP's opinion is bad and he should feel bad, but I'm uncomfortable with this argument. A lot of the modern conversation about all sorts of subjects is about building consensus, creating common knowledge, trying to exert force on the vibes -- and that's ok. When men first started saying "actually I say it's better to split chores more evenly" was the appropriate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 10:44 AM |
| 4 | The term “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not after you” applies to dating. The average man will mostly only have negative experiencesI don't see how you could've come to the conclusion that he was saying that. Twitter has destroyed people's ability to relate to an argument they disagree with in any way other than than this. "you're telling on yourself", "XYZ on full display here", blah blah blah. For the record I'm always pretty skeptical about arguments of the kind OP makes here because they never seem to address the elephant in the room -- "well then how is the human race not extinct". Even in Korea, the place you'd point t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/25 07:39 AM |
| – | If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same argumentsI don't share OP's opinion but I was never a fan of this "comparison police" line of argument. If Bob argues "if we take this logic to its conclusion aren't we basically allowing some things universally agreed upon to be terrible", and Alice's response is a thought-terminating "How Dare You!", my intellectual sympathy is with the former. If someone is stupid enough to argue "I'm a vegeterian so I'm a good person", and you bring up the obvious counter-example, I refuse to believe that makes you t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 03:21 PM |
| – | If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same argumentsThis is the "I'm just asking questions" response, basically. Come, now: these 'thought experiments' are transparently designed to reach a very specific kind of implicit conclusion. "Ha, see, that proves it! In order for everything to be properly fair, everyone should...". That's the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 02:52 PM |
| – | If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same argumentsI always find this kind of discourse so weird. It seems to be rooted in a model of the world where once a year the male delegation and the female delegation meet in a secure compound and have an impassioned 20-hour debate to renegotiate The Terms(tm) where the best argument wins. Meanwhile in reality gender norms are gender norms, and everyone knows we have them, and everyone knows everyone knows. These norms rest atop a bunch of practical realities that we as a society never debated ourselves i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Befriending women will not make a differenceYou are twisting OP. Does OP contain, or does it not contain, the following piece of text: a man that has not had any success with women at all and is currently going through these more negative thoughts and feelings towards women, they should absolutely not befriend women. It's almost a catch-22 no matter what. Either you befriend women and it will most likely increase your negative thoughts about them because it will reinforce what you have hear online [..] Are you sure that "twisting" is the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 02:36 PM |
| 0 | Befriending women will not make a difference"Don't bother experiencing real life to contrast with the angry gospel; trust me that it will only reinforce your belief in the angry gospel" Ok? Sounds like a good wager. If the angry gospel was right all along you get to tell yourself, I didn't trust it blindly, I went and interacted with reality and verified it for myself. If the angry gospel was wrong you get to tell yourself, wow, I almost let the angry gospel tell me not to bother to double check it because there is no use, how stupid woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 08:35 AM |
| – | Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conformingLet's grant it -- anyone who thinks this "empathy gap" is ok and also claims to support true gender equality is full of it. But the flipside is also true. How can someone admit gender essentialism, even the watered-down Damore-memo version (women on average are like this and that because society XYZ...) and then not conclude that women deserve more empathy? I mean surely even the median R voter, aboard the sinking Titanic, would find the shout "rescue the women and children first" naturally in h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 10:11 AM |
| 24 | "Everything is misogyny" is confirmation bias, not reality.It's true that ideologies that have a component of grievance to them have a tendency to develop a totalizing component, with proponents regularly making every aspect of reality an "example" of the wrong being done to them. With that said, when you single out feminism for this specifically, without even giving a concrete account of when we should take a feminist claim seriously, it reads like the "call to wisdom" here is cynically used as a tool to stage an assault on a concept you don't like. If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:52 AM |
| 2 | Dear women, he is not “emotionally unavailable” you are just his side piecePeople universally seem to be subject to this acquired situational narcissism. "I can get something better than what you can get, therefore I am better than you, therefore I am justified in looking down on you". On the bright side not all people are like that, and not all women are like that (yeah I said it, fight me). Many of them understand the above mind set sucks as a personality trait. Also many of them understand that the "thing" they have the luxury of going and "getting" is not so great … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 06:09 AM |
| -1 | Dear women, he is not “emotionally unavailable” you are just his side pieceWhen you get into this mindset where you cherry-pick groups' worst impulses the only possible conclusion is that everyone is going to hell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 04:40 PM |
| -1 | Dear women, he is not “emotionally unavailable” you are just his side pieceI think that's fair? If a girl says "gosh I wish these hot guys were really willing to emotionally commit" what am I supposed to say, "no you're a bad person for wanting that"? Gender discourse desperately needs more empathy, not less | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 04:33 PM |
| 7 | Dear women, he is not “emotionally unavailable” you are just his side pieceOP concludes with "but that's not what gets you going". On the scale of needy passive aggression vs. understanding it is what it is, that's like a 7. Could be better, could be a lot worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 04:30 PM |
| 3 | If men love women unconditionally, then the dickpocalypse will never happenand parents... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 06:32 AM |
| 15 | Makeup skews the dating marketFirst you put a huge societal pressure on a group to do something or be something. Then they excel at that thing. Then you come in after the fact and complain "hey! How did you come to have this unfair advantage!". A story as old as time... You're invited to think about what might be the male analogue for this... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Redpill men need to raise their standardsIt's just a gender flipped "women should want to date nicer guys". I thought we were all long past this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 08:03 PM |
| 0 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Yes, but who would self-profess to fall into this definition, really? How many people would say "all my angst is purely about lack of sex"? This seems less like a serious discussion and more like a calculated attempt to, how is it called, "Re-Center a Category". [The Atheist proclaims,] “I don’t like religion. Think of the terrible things done by religion, like the actions of the Westboro Baptist Church. They try to disturb the funerals of heroes because they think God hates everybody. But this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Men need to accept that dating may not be on the cards for themThis reply is only valid as far as "if we're doing zero empathy then two can play that game". Farther than that this is not a productive comparison at all. You can't seriously say that there is some profound analogy between the two discussions "do Men deserve a romantic partner" and "do Women deserve to vote". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 05:53 AM |
| 10 | Men need to accept that dating may not be on the cards for themEveryone has different ways to cope. Me personally, I find this "sour grapes" spiel intolerable. It's ok to want things. It's ok to be upset that you can't have the things that you want. The question becomes, is this how it's going to go? Plan A has to happen, or else you spend the rest of your life miserable and resentful? Isn't that a waste? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 12:17 AM |
| 0 | Believing every man claiming to be baby trapped is wild."Fuck your hypothetical about what people with opinion X might think; it is irrelevant because opinion X is abhorrent". Ok? Thank you for this interaction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Believing every man claiming to be baby trapped is wild.This sure is an interesting litmus test for the pro-life, "sex should mean something" crowd... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 03:36 PM |
| 17 | CMV: military conscription (as in the Ukraine) is matriarchal oppressionLet's be real, when this is brought up, it's usually brought up by someone fresh out of passionately making a case for the immutable physical and mental differences between men and women, who then reaches for this convenient gotcha. Fine: let's grant that anyone shouting for 100% equality but for a gender-biased draft has adopted an incoherent position. But, unless you really truly believe in 100% equality, then so have you in your quest to troll them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 04:52 PM |
| 26 | Most dating advice given to men tries to turn them into something they're not.This is a sad and inevitable part of the human condition. The world is not, cannot be, a place where everyone has all their needs catered to by everyone else regardless of everyone else's needs. The math just does not check out. Bob by nature is laid back and non-confrontational and wants to date Alice, but Alice by nature wants to date someone who is a confrontational go-getter, and what do you do now? How are you going to resolve this? Either you say "ok then don't date" or you shame one of th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 04:35 PM |
| – | Stop confusing your own experiences with the experiences of the others. People have different standards for diferent people.Right, agreed. Also remember this when someone makes some generalization that flatters you and you are inclined to agree with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 03:27 PM |
| -1 | What do men mean when they say they love deeper than women?I went in ready to agree with you: of course women love very deeply, and sacrifice a lot for their loved ones! Then you turned your valid point into a bitter rant about how your bigotry is more correct than the other bigotry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Men who think makeup is deceptive while being ok with body hair removal are inconsistent.Isn't it just an unspoken truth that in some competitive contexts like dating and job hunting you're going to put forward the most impressive version of yourself? Sure we could do away with it but then we would have a completely different society. Seems weird to fixate on makeup specifically in this regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 09:08 AM |
| 18 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseYes, this basically. The man who is confidently thinking "when she gets some courage, some self-respect to want better for herself, I definitely have a shot and I will treat her right" won't denigrate her in the way OP is describing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 04:15 PM |
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