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Girl, no. Honestly I’m hoping you are not real and this an AI post because reading it was seriously concerning how you kept skipping through the field of red flags like they were poppies. It was weird, it was. Unfortunately really, I’m sorry the only conclusion that can be drawn from reading your post is that you are severely vulnerable. You may think you have an idea of normal or healthy but it’s clear you really don’t know the true base of that. I don’t know if it’s an esteem problem or not gr…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 05:20 PM
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Ok, I’m just putting this out there, maybe it’s red pill but another thing it sounds a lot like is when a guy comes across something new and shiny and all the sudden starts talking how it won’t work because they need blah blah blah. Coincidentally stuff new and shiny is interested in too. Already reached out wanting to apologize and fix things= things weren’t going to work with new and shiny or he had his fun but knows he’s coming back. Yep, sounds a lot like when a guy has met a girl and is com…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/26 05:50 AM
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Catholic? No drinking? I do beg your pardon. Even if conservative that feels sacrilegious.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/26 05:33 AM
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I’m just going to point out if anyone is thinking of people or relationships in terms like this than they are not mentally ready for one. That still points to an extremely immature mindset, certainly not a healthy one yet. Better than awful doesn’t necessarily mean good, he may have improved, but is still waving red flags, overall attitude still doesn’t feel safe. “The girl I chatted with (yes, just chatted with) for the longest time before she blocked me was rated 3/10. While those looking for …
/r/ExRedPill20/02/26 12:37 AM
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I don’t know exactly because the post starts getting into your specific situation but your question and beginning are more general. I’m not sure if you think there is actually a difference in the first place or want to know strategies women use to deal with those insecurities? Because like your “what ifs” are all things that women might experience with their friends too. They are trust, vulnerability, self esteem, etc. type worries, not really gender specific. Because trust me (I know, trust ha)…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 11:56 PM
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I think if anything there is a crisis of people preying on insecure men by creating bullshit ideas like “masculinity crisis” to cope with a world that is quickly changing and getting more difficult for pretty much everyone but the very well off. They can milk many benefits from the people who fall for it. Of course obviously there’s the money various grifters can make “teaching men how to be real men”. Thing is what they teach is often very toxic and will often drive actual healthy caring women …
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 10:37 PM
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That’s typical in abusive relationships. But there are already good terms used to describe and help people deal with having been with someone who is abusive male or female. The redpill jargon and gurus, etc. are unnecessary and used to sneak in extra shit that is not helpful and is just toxic in another way. You were in an emotionally abusive relationship with what sounds like a very narcissistic person. But it’s certainly not women specific and the lingo while simple doesn’t quite get to heart …
/r/ExRedPill22/01/26 08:59 PM
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It’s not a bad point when applied universally in the relationship. As long as he knows that also applies vice versa to him towards his wife. It’s two full people in a relationship, not one full most important person who gets to then mold someone to their liking.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/26 10:01 PM
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“Im starting to believe women do not genuinely love men the same as men love women,” What the fuck are you talking about? I mean, do you hear yourself? You say the worst shit and then act like you’re the good guy who loves. The shit you say is not what someone who loves says. Did you ever just consider women as people same as yourself? They are you know, just other humans out here. Not some monolith, or other species. Each a person with their own obstacles and abilities, good and bad. Now I will…
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 10:38 PM
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Your hope is misplaced and self destructive. You need to stop worrying about changing him and start taking a look at yourself. This is not healthy. There is something wrong if you don’t believe you deserve better than trying to rehab a clearly toxic person whose views are self reinforcing and will be aimed at you someday. Codependency problems? Self esteem? I don’t know but you should try and figure it out. Because even if you dump this guy, you need to figure out why you subject yourself to unh…
/r/ExRedPill25/11/25 11:03 PM
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No, what it’s related to is intersectionality. The manosphere is a bad place for intersectionality so it’s really not related to that. The manosphere tends towards being also incredibly racist and bigoted overall. Which isn’t that surprising for a system that is so heirarchal.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/25 11:58 PM
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I don’t trust what either of those people tell press at all. It all seems very PR. She was an evangelical pastor for christs sake, whatever is said publicly is pretty much guaranteed phooey about them. They’re both fake as fuck. Come on people. I think we can’t have real lessons because we have no idea who they actually are and what actually happened.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 06:57 AM
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Hey you were able to follow all that nonsense above and beyond honestly. But really do you guys do itinerary s ,
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 05:50 PM
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You need to get some therapy for yourself. Figure out why you think so little of yourself that this is what you think you deserve from a relationship. Maybe it’s codependency problems. It’s not good setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. You have tried. What you do is focus on your own mental health for at least a while. You are no less important. His personality is revolving around that and now yours is revolving around fixing him. See how you too have a problem? Also, an important…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 08:29 PM
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So you must believe all men are abusive because there have been some women who have only experienced abusive relationships with men then. Otherwise it’s clear you’re being ridiculous and illogical, like it really isn’t even a question/challenge that should be dignified with an attempt to “prove you wrong”. Your method of assessing things, think about them and ability to see different perspectives is a joke. Get it together man. Grow up, you’re better than these alluringly simple but oh so stupid…
/r/ExRedPill22/09/25 03:54 AM
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Oh I doubt it’s anger at the ex that is the trigger. I bet the ex has already seen plenty of toxic behavior themselves and that’s why they are the ex and have custody, no matter what bullshit he fed you about it.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/25 10:56 PM
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You fail at reading comprehension and true literacy. You are misunderstanding what that comment is saying. And honestly it feels a fairly willful misunderstanding. Settling would mean going for something less than what you really want. The comment is clearly trying to explain that what people actually want can change, that some things might become more/and just important which only makes sense, since that essentially what maturing is. You keep saying you don’t want someone who has had their “fun…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 09:42 PM
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I know you said you’ve been diagnosed with ARFID but have you been evaluated for other things, autism, adhd? Because that outsider feeling, feeling like a foreign object, actually a lot of your issues could possibly have some basis in that. Which can be such a mindfuck because you don’t really get why you can’t just be normal if you aren’t aware. And that feeling can exist no matter what someone’s appearance is, if it’s something like that than your appearance may be what you figure it’s attache…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 05:47 AM
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Also what kind of attraction are we talking here? If this is based off of just looks, that doesn’t mean much. There are plenty of people that I think are physically beautiful, attractive to look at, but would I want to date them? Nah. Lifestyle, etc. are way more important. I think some people are attractive but I’m not attracted to them personally.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/25 11:48 PM
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Even supposing that’s true women aren’t a monolith and are attracted to different types of men, not all the same men.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/25 11:43 PM
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I think experts should stay in their lane and not try and make it seem like their expertise and respect in one field makes them knowledgeable outside of it. He may well be a famous and well regarded scientist, in neurobiology. That means nothing about expertise outside neurobiology. And I don’t trust or respect people who try and carry over their respect in one field too meaning they should have the same respect for all their other opinions. That’s dishonest and slimy.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/25 10:57 PM
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It wouldn’t work with their “sexual biology” theories at all because they aren’t logical, facts or stats and no bs. Pseudoscience at best, deliberate twisting most of the time. They teach nonsense. Which unfortunately I think resonates even more because it is nonsense. Like with many conspiracy theorists, thinking they have special knowledge “they” are trying to keep from them makes them feel special. The more contrary the more attracted they are to it.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/25 07:37 PM
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There is no “up down up up down cheat code” to life. You can’t give what doesn’t exist. Of course there are no alternatives giving step by step instructions guaranteeing something in life, that’s not how reality works. It’s hard to counter a message that discounts the inherent uncertainty in life. Sure simple answers are very appealing.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 09:22 PM
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I think if a community sees criticism and thinks that the correct thing to do is become the bad thing or worse to prove some point I guess, than there was already something seriously wrong already. Just like healthy minded people don’t actually become fascist just because someone has said they are. They were already a problem.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/25 08:16 AM
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For real though, and that is such a pain. Even doctors exhibit this behavior. I’d probably be considered fairly attractive but goddamn do I have some fucked up health problems and it has taken forever for most to get diagnosed and treated and not just dismissed.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/25 10:19 PM
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Ok, to be honest I’m finding your boyfriend a bit suspect now. More guys than we care to admit have pressured or coerced women/girls into sex before. Often those guys get all defensive when hearing about something happening to a girl. Just saying.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/25 02:54 AM
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I’ve noticed a lot of people who talk about how logical they are also don’t seem to acknowledge that something being logical does not inherently make it good. Logic is a neutral thing until applied. How and to what logic is applied makes a big difference. As they say “Garbage in, garbage out”. There’s a lot of bad logic. It’s also just not logical to not take emotions into account when you’re dealing with and discussing humans. So they get that wrong off the bat. It’s absurd to believe humans op…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 08:28 PM
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Ok, but why do you only mention a mother? Fathers are perfectly capable of that role. Do you not think they are good enough people to do it?
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 11:24 PM
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Do you think you and most men are emotionally abusive and don’t know if any guys are not abusive? Your sister is leaving her abuser for one but another thing is unless you are equally as willing to believe men are abusive like her ex, why would you use that to base your opinion on the majority of people off of. Is that what men are really like?
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 03:28 AM
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Do you only have issues with interaction with women? There might be a bigger issue you whose focus you have distilled mostly on women. Have you ever had therapy? Ever been assessed for ADHD, autism, etc. Depression, social anxiety? Maybe stop thinking of your issues in terms of romantic relationships and take a look at them overall. There’s no shame in having issues if you try and address them. Because honestly a lot of that sounds like stuff that isn’t just about dealing with romance. I say thi…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/25 08:54 AM
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Toxic people may get people but those people tend to have issues they could work on before being a healthy partner too. You’re acting like it’s only toxic people who attract every person out there. That’s not the case. I guess I if they don’t actually give a shit about the girls or a good life with good friends and relationships then sure they should be jealous of those dudes. But then that already makes them pretty shitty and they’re chasing the wrong things.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/24 04:36 PM
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The only two certainties people can expect in life are change and death. Like someone else basically said you can take a chance on relationships or take a chance on being single forever, either way you risk being hurt. Fact is, there’s a fairly good chance you will get your heart broken, not necessarily from someone leaving you for someone else, there are just lots of reasons relationships might end. I think almost everyone goes through at least one heartbreak (men and women alike), but that doe…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 08:30 AM
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Then you still don’t truly accept yourself.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 11:10 PM
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You say that you have learned to like who you are but your words say differently. You’ve just explained that you don’t like who you are. If you did this wouldn’t bother you so much and you wouldn’t think you needed to seek validation this way. Sounds like you want to like who you are and that’s a good start but you aren’t there yet. When you truly like who you are you won’t feel this much insecurity because of who you are.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 11:08 PM
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Well, it was a good guess because OP says unfortunately yeah they do that, not with friends but in their head.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/24 09:55 PM
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Casual sex isn’t about love and intimacy at all. I’ll have casual sex when I’m not in the right space for a whole relationship. When I do I intentionally avoid love and real intimacy. I do need to feel comfortable and safe but neither of those require love and close intimacy. I don’t love or feel intimately connected with someone who is friends with benefits. If you think casual sex means you are loved you have problems you need to work on. You won’t find any happiness with that belief because i…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/24 09:50 PM
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No, most people met through socializing through friends, family, shared activities and events, places meant to meet people. Not random strangers in completely random settings. There’s a difference between socializing and cold approaching.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/24 08:11 PM
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Everyone wasn’t cold approaching all the time. They were socializing with other people through shared activities, friends, and places meant to socialize. Not just walking up to random people in random places.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/24 08:08 PM
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If in a warm environment it’s not really a cold approach.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/24 08:05 PM
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In places where it is normal to socialize I wouldn’t consider it cold approach because you’re in a warm environment itself.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/24 08:05 PM
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Red pill is very incel adjacent. Since red pill ideology makes men repellant and then they get all pissed that they aren’t getting women they want. They are both part of the toxic manosphere, meant to keep guys angry and easily manipulated by the people in the community with so called “solutions”.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/24 05:46 AM
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You need to seek some therapy. You have horrible self esteem. Healthy people would not think this relationship would be worthy of them. You do have issues you need to work on, but not the ones he says.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/24 12:11 PM
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I mean if there is even the slightest tiniest hint of how he acts and how he feels about himself and others it’s easy to see why. Who wants to hang out out with an aggressive, willfully ignorant, twisted and bitter soul sucker.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/24 11:17 PM
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You can’t. And you have just found yourself in a different abusive relationship. He’s not an emotionally safe person. It may not be sexual but it’s still emotional. Better then other guys you have dated doesn’t automatically mean healthy, safe or something you should try and fix. You need to just continue trying to work on yourself so you can realize you deserve better for yourself, not try and fix him.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 08:49 PM
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Did you miss where he said doing the opposite of what they say is the thing that works? Whoosh
/r/ExRedPill03/04/24 04:33 PM
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“So while the rest of the world plows ahead with positive body images, freedom to be and do what you want, men still feel stuck on rails that we have to be rugged individualists with no insecurities or vulnerability.” You say this and then say that most men have at least that one story about being rejected, made fun of, or made to feel ashamed for opening up at the wrong time or in the wrong way. However most women still all have stories about being treated badly for being a woman. Still having …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 09:43 PM
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What you want is a positive guarantee in life. There are none of those, for anyone. Basically you’re in denial of reality. It can be tough growing up and learning to deal with that.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/24 10:34 PM
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They are basically conspiracy theorists. So yeah, they can twist anything to see what they want to see.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 07:51 PM
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You don’t have control in that situation, fear does. You are giving up any control you have to fear. You’re like an anorexic person. They think that what they are doing puts them in control but really they are completely lacking it.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 04:37 AM
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When you keep your emotions from someone that is being emotionally unavailable. You keep yours from her they are not available to her.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 04:28 AM
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Welcome to life, there are no guarantees for anything we just have to work towards being the best of ourselves and hope we can find a relationship that furthers that. Is being unhappy and scared and forever unwilling to take any chances what you think the best of yourself is? You do realize woman also take chances with their heart if trying to find the right relationship? No one is exempt. At some point you will need to venture out of your comfort zone if you want to be an adult and not just get…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 04:09 AM
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You’re beating yourself up right now. What you are thinking and doing is already backfiring on you and making you unhappy.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 03:56 AM
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It devalues everyone. It strips everyone of most of their humanity.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/23 04:04 AM
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A depressed and scared 16 year old needs that haven like they need to become a methhead and be accepted in the tweaker community. They’re both unhealthy ways of dealing with life that gives you an easy out of being responsible for yourself. You can get addicted to the easy out. So one way you might fight it is to tell yourself that’s your addiction talking, but you don’t need an easy out. You are strong enough to get through life without it.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 10:58 PM
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A lot of your fears seem to come down to you wanting to be able to have pretty much absolute certainty in life and a relationship. That’s just not possible. You will never have that, but everyone else is in the same boat. That’s life. There is no way to game it. You can never be 100% certain a significant other will act a certain way, it will always be a risk. On the the other hand your significant other would be taking the same risk with you, they can never be 100% certain how you will act.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 05:34 PM
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It matters what the different sides are for or against. You can’t just say they both think the other is indoctrinated and leave it at that. Such a stupid argument. I think gay people should be able to be married vs I think gay people shouldn’t be allowed to marry. Both thinks the other is wrong. But only one is actually intolerant and wrong. As far as tolerating the intolerant. People don’t need to. Tolerance is a social contract if you break it, then it’s not in play. And it’s not the left who …
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 04:19 PM
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WTF, you can’t seriously be considering putting up with that shit. Oh and as far as the alt right media borderline promoting fascism, you can remove the borderline. It’s absolutely disgusting and vile what he is saying. He sounds too far gone, I don’t think he’ll listen to you, especially because you are just a woman.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 04:09 PM
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Because he’s an asshole. You are trying to make yourself perfect for an asshole. The real question you should be asking is why you accept this, why you don’t love and care about yourself more. Why your self esteem is so low that you are trying to be perfect for a gross creepy misogynist. He’s ick. Of course it causes you hurt and anxiety, your boyfriend liking redpill stuff is fucked up. He’ll probably try and tell you that you are toxic and horrible if you try and leave him. Make you feel small…
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 03:43 PM
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Ew, you’re ew
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 09:21 AM
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Just have to add, those conservative men would be wrong. It has repeatedly been shown that how someone is dressed is not a big factor in sexual assaults overall.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 11:02 AM
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Her husband
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:48 AM
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And you can decide what to value in men. Being a grade A asshole sexist abusive scumbag like your husband seems low value. Make no mistake how he is treating you is emotionally abusive. Oh yeah, he’s also a terrible father if he’s abusive towards their mother.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:39 AM
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You’re fine until you speculate they are only fine with how they do things out of necessity.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:33 AM
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It’s telling you used that analogy though. And just saying you aren’t equating the two doesn’t mean you aren’t. It very much sounded “I’m not a racist, but” when you said you weren’t comparing them.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:31 AM
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Well some conditions are good but that goes for men and women both. Like don’t have a secret family, don’t be a serial killer, etc. Everyone should have some conditions.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:17 AM
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Someone has no idea what they are talking about. There are men who are paid to have sex. For one have you never heard the term gigolo? It’s you, you don’t know
/r/ExRedPill13/10/23 10:10 AM
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Ok but she didn’t marry a man with dementia. That level of relationship is of course not right off the bat. They grew together over time. As far as knowing if a partner will leave you at some point, you can’t for absolutely sure. And they can’t for absolutely sure know you won’t leave them. That’s Fuckin life, there are no absolute guarantees for anybody. Everyone has to take a chance if they want a relationship. It seems like you are expecting to be at a destination of a relationship like your …
/r/ExRedPill22/07/23 11:26 PM
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Therapy almost always is a good idea for people who are emotionally struggling though. I hope you don’t think people are always just using a “seek therapy card”. Seeking therapy does not make someone a screwup. Getting therapy if possible when you might need it is the opposite of screwing up. Seeking that help is a strength not a weakness.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/23 10:18 PM
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Buddy, if you think watching some YouTube videos can program you to be LBGTQ you might already be. Seriously if you think it ‘s as simple as that and a choice, something seems up because that’s not how that works. If you are having to make yourself (choose) to be straight, you’re not really straight.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/23 04:47 PM
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