TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Wyerie Archive

View 0 posts and 65 comments by Wyerie on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
6

Disagree. I work with autistic young people (actually and obviously autistic, not self-identified). They're often very attractive physically. I think the dissonance between their attractive appearance and the way people respond to their 'oddness' is how the autism is initially picked up. An ugly child acting weird and uncomfortable around people isn't noticed so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 01:38 AM
2

Like most men, I'm probably a bit on the spectrum. Men generally have problems understanding social cues. They're not socialized that way, or maybe it's inherently biological. You talk about the way the media presents the attractive, successful men pulling the girls. Most men grow up thinking that's them. They don't think they're NPCs, they're not the nerd, they're the main character. TRP, ironically, flips the perspective, allows men to see themselves as others see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 01:16 AM
–

The only thing I didn't like about your comment was the homophobia.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:09 AM
–

Please reflect on the implicit homophobia in your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:43 PM
2

All the life milestones are being pushed back, and people start dating much later, just like they move away from home later. Back in the day even a college student would have their own place, now 30 somethings live with their parents, it's not really much of a surprise that their sexual/romantic life is stalled.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 03:31 AM
1

That's probably OK for Mother's Day, maybe a wedding anniversary. But a subscription is a gift when you first give it, thereafter it's a recurring cost and additional gifts are still expected. A family member is paying for an art gallery membership until one of us expires, but they still continue to buy me birthday presents.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:32 AM
1

I'd love to be gifted a flowers subscription. The problem with subscriptions as gifts is that you need to meet the recurring cost, and also buy new gifts as well. You can't be like that's all your future birthdays covered! I'd advise anyone against gifting subscriptions for that reason, but if you're on the receiving end it's a really good deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:15 AM
2

Being gay is somewhat over diagnosed when you're younger. One reason is you can't talk about ex girlfriends if you've never had one. You're basically a blank slate sexuality wise. I can totally understand the bewilderment when they discover you're not gay, it happened to me a few times to me when I was younger. Ironically, hanging around girls all the time comes across as gay. I used to be the same, all my best friends are girls blah blah, didn't for a minute suspect that they thought I was gay.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:18 AM
1

This is so naive and entitled. When I was dating I always had several women on the go. Overlaps are inevitable, why on earth should someone stop dating just because they're seeing someone else? That doesn't mean they don't take the date seriously. I've had serious intentions while maintaining a FWB thing, and just assumed that men and women both do this. But I don't know for sure, because I never asked, and if I was asked myself I'd lie, which is why I'd never bother asking myself. I just don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:15 AM
1

Obviously all of these points I agree with, plus a few more like equal pay for equal work, shared household chores, pensions that take account of women taking time out for childcare etc. But the red pill side of my purple pill is that in dating, heterosexual women don't want a man to discuss feminism with, they want a manly, male, masculine man. No vulnerability, no feminine interests, just weapons grade 100% man. After a while you can let that slip a bit and go back to being a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:15 AM
2

I'm from the UK, and I think the Americanism is the formal courtship rules, not the decadence. The way I see it from over here is that the quick sex part of modern dating culture is European, and the procedural, tick box selection and interviewing part is American. Modern dating combines US formal dating with European sex first 'dating' (which wasn't word we used much prior to OLD). When I first heard about 'hookup culture' I couldn't work out what was different to the way it's been in the UK fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:57 AM
1

35% of dates ending in physical intimacy seems like a perfectly normal percentage to me, maybe even a little on the high side. The percentage progression from that to sex also seems perfectly normal. All linear progressions are front loaded. More people watch episode 1 of a TV series than episode 10. Which isn't a very romantic way of looking at dating, but it's how it works because it progresses through steps. The reasons people give for bailing out are irrelevant, it could be anything or nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:53 AM
1

I think things are different for your generation. Education has become much more inclusive, schools take bullying more seriously and teenagers today are much more tolerant about a whole range of things, disability, neuro-divergence, sexuality, gender identity etc. A lot of the terms and ideas discussed here are stuck in the past, but ideas about dating and relationships move more slowly, because we're allowed to have preferences. We won't get a warning from HR for our dating decisions. The upsho…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 12:28 AM
2

Post-sex feedback is perfectly normal, it's a good thing, and if she says it was painful, then it was painful. This is how adults communicate after they've had sex. Nothing at all to do with an intuitive dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:16 AM
11

The term "big dick energy" for example is used colloquially by younger generations regardless of gender. Yes, it is, but that's how people defended the widespread use of 'gay' as an insult in the 90s and 00s. They didn't mean literally 'gay', they're weren't homophobic, it was an ironic insult, just joking around, poking fun at the men who cared about being called gay. Yeah, whatever, it was homophobic. Same with small/big dick energy, it's just ironic joking around, nothing to do with actual sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 12:38 AM
7

Nonsense. I remember a study a few years back that said very few escorts would offer unprotected sex even if they were paid more. So even with a financial incentive, these women mostly still use protection. The whole idea that women only go for the top guys is of course nonsense, but even if they did, why would they be more likely to have unprotected sex with the most attractive men, when escorts don't even do this for the extra money? Behind this comment is the assumption that 'real' sex is unp…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:21 AM
1

Asking them round to your place for dinner sounds more like a date than a FWB. This is just casual dating, seeing someone while keeping your options open, plate spinning. Setting up a date as they leave sounds very datey, not FWB. A lot depends on the context around first sleeping with them. If it was a ONS or you had sex after the first date, then you can drop all the plausible deniability stuff about making them dinner etc. You just say, that was fun, we should do it again. When you meet up ag…
/r/seduction10/11/24 11:00 PM
2

I'm from the UK (maybe you are too, the references to hooligans and pubs?). I wouldn't say violent confrontations are every six months, but it's happened a few times. Women are very safe in public spaces, there's a strong taboo against a man hitting a woman in public. But these same public spaces aren't so safe for men. A man who's grown up learning to avoid male on male violence can navigate it, but it does require picking up on and responding to contextual and social cues. Most of which women …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:03 AM
0

I'm a different generation (X), and you're over-thinking this. There wasn't some golden age of men approaching women, it was just a strategy advocated by PUA's in the 00s. And it was a strategy based on the idea that most men didn't actually just go up and ask women for dates, so if you did you'd actually get some success. Men not asking women out was the norm, and remains the norm. The basic idea is still correct, if you don't ask you don't get.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:44 AM
4

There was a period in my life when I hadn't had sex for several years, and I did start to have mental health problems. It wasn't depression for me but anxiety. I eventually realised that sex was the root cause of the anxiety (what you might call panic attacks, dizziness, palpitations). I used to excessively blush, become breathless and feel like I was going to pass out just triggered by words with sexual connotations. Human touch from eg a hairdresser was also a trigger. It was clearly a sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:48 PM
1

If a man says he's not happy, but doesn't explicitly say he's unhappy because of work or whatever, the woman is going to reasonably infer that it's because of her or the relationship. That's the reason he can't be explicit about it, because it concerns her. Maybe both genders are equally quick on the uptake, but respond in different ways, the man breathes a sigh of relief when they get 'I'm fine', because they don't have to have a serious relationship talk, whereas the woman might dig a bit more…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 12:07 AM
2

Americans are obsessed with 'cold approach'. Why this ridiculous, clinical term for men talking to women, maybe even chatting them up? How many women have started relationships with people they started chatting to? Well almost all relationships start that way. How many women have started relationships with men who 'cold approached' them? Ewww, hardly any.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 11:50 PM
2

Two things on this. One, men are just really dense about this stuff and need things explained explicitly. Two, men will probably think that the woman is in a bad mood because of them or the relationship, and won't really want to go there so will check out after a 'fine'. The second point might sound like a bizarre response, but for one reason or another women are generally explicit about problems unrelated to the relationship (eg work, family), but much less explicit about relationship issues. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 11:22 PM
1

But this just isn't the case. One of my first posts on here was about the friendzone, and I said that it was a shame relationships couldn't emerge from friendship and the response I got was well fuck each other then (implied fuck other men). I hadn't used language like that, I hadn't expressed hatred for women, it was just out of nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 01:45 AM
0

Your previous post was about women who have treated men horribly. There was no link made in the OP to being angry at women or hating them (the word you used was 'slighted'). Top comment was a guy who had been cheated on and being blamed for that. The post before that was about whether men are angry at not being laid. Top comment was a guy saying it was nothing to do with that, that most people want love and respect. You're inferring anger and hate from the previous posts that just doesn't exist …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 12:13 AM
2

Totally get where you're coming from, but as a man throwing out a few signals of attraction sometimes gets a few back that wouldn't have happened if you were just going about your daily routine. I'm talking glances and so on, not harassment. A woman friend of mine once described it as 'having your flags out', kind of micro body language that indicates you're consciously aware of people in your field of vision.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:25 PM
-1

A homophobic insult. I don't get why people think they should get a free pass on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:24 AM
9

I've seen 'date men' used here as generic put down. I think it's homophobic, and assumes that the worst insult a man can receive is that he's gay. It's classic bullying strategy. Say a man's gay, it's lose lose for the man, either he's I ain't no gay or there's nothing wrong with being gay, ha ha winning the point either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:53 AM
1

Her opinions were very controversial and contested at the time, she's wasn't part of mainstream feminism, very much an extremist voice on the margins. All men are rapists is a decent summary of her views. It's important that extreme opinions like her's get to be aired, makes people think, but even the people who defended her right to say this stuff drew the line at actually agreeing with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:28 AM
1

I'm backing off. If you don't get what I'm saying, there's no point in discussing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 01:00 AM
1

I'm not sure how you got to treating women like shit. Men want relationships with women, to get relationships with women they need to have sex with women, to get sex with women they need to conform to women's expectations about what is considered masculine and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:53 AM
0

Well kind of, yes. Men are fitting in with what women want and their latent attitudes about men being misogynist. It all goes back a long way, treat em mean keep em keen etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:13 AM
-1

In a sex first culture, which isn't a new thing, it's been that way in the UK for the last 40 years, sex happens before a relationship. The idea that men are only interested in sex creates this shadow image that men who aren't solely interested in sex aren't fully masculine, so they never get past the first hurdle. So, to get sex to get a relationship more men have learnt to mimic treating women as sex objects, which counterintuitively is much more effective than being friends, sharing interests…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:56 PM
2

My cohabiting partner left me for a guy from work. Having to leave your home because someone splits up with you is the worst. I'd never live with anyone now unless I had majority ownership of the property.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:12 AM
2

Can confirm. There was a just got out of prison vibe to the whole thing. What I will say, though, is that in the 10s online forums were full of men complaining they didn't get any matches, just like now. And men also complained about not getting with women before the internet even existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 12:24 AM
4

Men are dense about this kind of stuff. You have to be very, very clear. Much more forward than probably feels natural to you. Not asking him out is going to going to be a real barrier to success. The friendzone works both ways, the more you show interest without being explicit about what you want, the less likely he is to make the first move.
/r/seduction09/08/24 10:42 PM
2

Yeah, sorry, I thought you'd mistaken it for something off a manosphere podcast or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:29 PM
2

No, that's not the poem, just my gloss on it. The point is that poetry is mediated expression, not the thing itself. The colouring of the white radiance of eternity is artistic creation. Shelley says that John Keats has gone further than that, glimpsed the eternal, but Shelley has a foot in both camps. It's an irony that runs through the poem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:04 PM
2

It's a line from a poem. A poem about poetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:32 PM
1

As Shelley said, life, like a dome of many coloured glass, stains the white radiance of eternity. So, yeah, filtering things is less harsh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:14 PM
1

Agreed, which is why it's important to integrate the performance of masculinity into your own character, personality, values. I think I am using 'asshole' myself to describe sexual assertiveness, and, yes, that's not always what people mean, but it's what I used to think and RP as a dating strategy really opened my eyes to where I had been going wrong. The ideal situation is men embracing the attractive elements of masculinity (assertiveness, sexual and otherwise, stating their opinions, not try…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:57 PM
2

The idea that assholes are the men 'being themselves' is a pervasive attitude that's exploited by RP dating strategy. You can stumble across dates, sex, LTRs by being yourself, but you can't scale up and get more options without performing inherently conservative versions of masculinity. To be effective you have to integrate this performance into your own character and personality, and when it's done right you won't be able to tell the difference between the real asshole and the fake asshole. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:03 PM
3

I didn't realise that Americans kissed differently! I mean, french kissing varies a lot from tentative to full on, but in Europe it's pretty much the norm that tongues are involved in a kiss, to the extent that no tongues is soft-rejection! But well played discussing this with her, it sounds like it added to the moment.
/r/seduction06/08/24 11:11 PM
1

No sex before marriage can mean different things. Some no sex before marriage women do everything but PiV sex, and I've heard anecdotally that anal is quite common in religious cultures. My first girlfriend was from a religious culture with strict no sex before marriage rules, but we had sex all the time, we were just secret about it. Personally, I'd just move on if a woman was no sex before marriage, but I can see how someone from the same kind of background might have grown up with the expecta…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:32 PM
0

But sex can be like a pizza for women as well. That's what a lot of FWBs are like, dial up sex. Plenty of woman get off on that, do the business now fuck off. People talk about the libido gap, but women masturbate, I can't see what's wrong with having some guy over to do the deed instead. And why is it so bad for a man to do this for a less attractive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:17 PM
1

Agreed. And because you're being so reasonable, I'll concede your rhetorical point that men lower their standards for sex, which I don't think anyone would argue against.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 06:33 PM
3

If you were correct then no woman would ever be rejected or ghosted, but it happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:24 PM
0

Nope, completely the opposite. Women in their 30s and 40s don't 'withhold sex'. Sex on first or second date is the norm. If they're going to have sex with the man at all that is. If you're not having sex by the second date, it's never going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:55 PM
3

Yeah, I think that might work. Like Leosandlattes suggests, were they on time, or did they bail out at the last minute etc. The problem with subjective evaluations, like good conversation and being fun, is that it's very specific to the person they're with. I remember a date with someone I quickly decided I wasn't interested in, so shut down the good conversation and fun and kept trying to wind things up. At the end she gave me feedback, saying I'd do better is I was more open, friendly etc. Wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:21 PM
2

Maybe an unpopular take, but online dating made it much easier for average guys to get dates. It also created a casual dating culture with sex happening between virtual strangers on a scale that just wasn't the norm back in the day. And that's probably more to the advantage of men. Men complain now that it does't work for them (maybe they're right, I don't know), but it's pretty amazing that you can log into an app and get immediate access to single women. A big part of the problem before online…
/r/seduction29/07/24 11:46 PM
4

I really enjoyed reading your comments. You're very articulate, and probably have more emotional intelligence and social skills than you might think.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:25 AM
2

Blue pill, just going with the flow, for feminist men leads to the friendzone and lots of missed opportunities out of 'respect'. It all depends on your starting position. If blue pill means just being a normal guy doing guy stuff, then blue bill will work. But if blue pill means just being a (feminist) guy doing (feminist) guy stuff, then it won't work in the same way. Red pill gives feminist guys a push towards behaviour that women find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:03 AM
1

As a man, red pill gets you sex, and that's the foot in the door for a relationship. I don't like the misogyny of the red pill ideology, but being more 'masculine' just works in dating. I'm a feminist in real life, society is skewed against women, but in dating the traditional gender roles are more important. Heterosexual women find masculinity attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:38 PM
4

I meant moving together reciprocally, like you touch him, he touches you, responding to each other rather than in unison. But from what you're saying, you've got a green light to progress further. Either ask him out on a date (you can do that in a low risk way, like, hey, really enjoyed chatting to you last night, we should go on a date ha ha), or move in for a kiss when you've got him alone.
/r/seduction23/07/24 10:17 PM
6

Gotta keep the touch moving, not just pressing against him. A short tap of your leg against his is better. The idea is to become comfortable moving with each other 'like you're the same person', not getting stuck to each other. Prolonged touch sends a signal, but it's difficult for a shy guy to know how to respond. He's like a rabbit in the headlights, frozen to the spot. You need a bit of push-pull, lean towards him, then away again so that he comes after the physical connection again. Also, he…
/r/seduction23/07/24 08:51 PM
2

You've got laid without touching a girl? I'm inclined to the therapy route to be honest.
/r/seduction17/07/24 02:18 AM
1

Yeah, but if you're making eye contact the woman is expecting you to follow through on that with touch escalation, and if you don't they'll think you're a weirdo. Like you just like staring at girls. Just saying, I didn't invent the rules.
/r/seduction17/07/24 01:44 AM
2

You say the eye flirting backfired. Do you mean she got angry about the way you were looking at her? If so, then it's because you were eye flirting too long without an approach or physical escalation. That makes you look like a creep. Escalating touch just means casually brushing against her 'accidentally', a brief tap on the arm or knee etc. It needs to start small, because just like you have a barrier about touching someone, so they have a barrier about being touched.
/r/seduction16/07/24 11:24 PM
3

Nothing wrong with that, you haven't got unreasonably high standards. I've got 2 first degrees and a master's. Loads of single guys out there fitting the bill, but as I said in another reply, you're competing against the women of your same age looking for 'fun'. And 'fun' is something that educated guys with careers might not have had much of earlier in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:28 PM
0

I broadly agree with how frustrating it is, but a lot of men don't follow the sowing wild oats in their 20s, settle down in their 30s trajectory. When I was in my 20s, I had two back to back LTRs. My 'fun' period turned out to be my late 30s/early 40s. A lot of women are the same, they've been in marriages and LTRs and aren't looking to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:06 PM
6

For an insight into sex in the olden days I recommend the French 19th century novelist Emile Zola. The casualness of the sex is jaw-dropping and very unexpected if you’re used to eg Thomas Hardy or Charles Dickens. I know even realist novels bend the truth for their audience, but he seems very intent on showing how things really are in all other aspects, and the sex is very convincing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:27 PM
1

Sorry, I don't get your point. You're saying that male libido causes men to frame everything sexually? If so, I agree, that's probably right. But I'd take the view that this kind of all encompassing sexuality, including friendship, emotional connections, romance etc. isn't such a terrible thing in itself, and something is lost along the way when they adapt to the female libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:18 AM
1

I added a comment about this, but the separation between dick and friend is something men find confusing. The red pill advice to not be friends and be a dick instead is helpful to them, because being a dick is a better way to start a sexual relationship. But, it's kind of sad in a way that sexual relationships can't emerge from friendship in the way that a lot of men hope and expect they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:24 AM
2

I'm not sure men become friends as a strategy, lying to get into someone's pants. More likely, they become friends because they like someone, and the way men's minds work, liking someone becomes wanting to have a sexual relationship with them. Liking someone and sex are very closely related for men, whereas women seem to be able to draw clear boundaries keeping the two things distinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:13 AM
1

Coincidently, I solved this problem last week with my long-term GF. She doesn’t like giving blowjobs, and her technique is terrible. I know ‘talking about it’ is what people usually say, but instead I imagined how I’d go about getting what I wanted if she was a new sexual partner. So, over the course of a day I kept conversation light, was good company, flirting, stolen glances, eye contact, ‘accidental’ touching etc., just the kind of thing you’d do to get a stranger into bed. Once I’d got my G…
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:12 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter